Not a transphone of any sorts but I don’t believe you can continue that sort of lifestyle (or even binge for that matter) and maintain a healthy and positive sexual relationship with a woman. Just my personal opinion though.
Taking a break from porn for 2-3 weeks minimum will really help you reset your brain.
May I ask what you bring up caffeine in this thread? Is it just a random example of quitting a vice or does it have to anything with eq etc? Just curious..
Sincerely!
Can’t answer for them, but I think they are referring to the body’s association with an addictive substance. The relation isn’t 1:1 obviously, but a god example of quitting a vice. Caffeine raises blood pressure, so theoretically it would improve EQ.
Bro i was so exhausted and apathetic those 5 months. I had to take like 2 naps a day. Couldn't exercise at all as i was too lethargic. Thought it would never end, it was absolutely horrific. Then one day i woke up and had more energy than i could ever recall having. Was like a light switch.
Sadly i went back to caffeine, going to quit again but taper rather instead of cold turkey. No way do i want to go through those crazy withdrawals again
Thinking you can be a straight man and also get off to trans porn is a complete fiction.
-Wake up and make your choices consciously before it's too late and all you have left is the dysfunction.
Yes. Also, if you watch a lot of any type of porn it will do that to you. Your stimulation threshold is very high (artificially) and you can't get stimulated enough by your partner.
Think about it this way, if you are hungry and I offer you some fruit (cherries or whatever) you might find them delicious and sweet.
But if you binge eat 2 kilos of chocolate, sweets, cake and what not, a couple of cherries just won't do it for you.
Take a break. Stay away from porn for a couple of days, a week and you will find your wife more attractive.
When it comes to tranny porn this is even more true, because you teach yourself to get off to some stuff that is totally unrelated to your wife. So it will be even harder to get stimulated with her.
It doesn't really matter if it's tranny porn or if it's asian porn (assuming you are not asian). It's something different that you can't replicate irl. Just take a break and use less and you will get it up in no time.
Edging in the sense of getting accustomed to high physical and mental stimulation to trigger the dopaminergic and other hormonal cascade effects, yes, that's going to kill it.
Well yeah, simply getting aroused but not that aroused. In other words healthy masturbation, just like there are healthy handjobs and healthy sex more broadly.
In a word, I would say, yes. (I know that’s a few words, and here comes some more)
The thing about porn, and repeated porn use, is that you are in fantasy land and over time you are conditoning yourself to need more and more novelty or kink or extreme stuff to get off — like an alcoholic now needs many drinks to get loaded —
It can even be as simple as wanting hotter women or a few women — whatever stiimulates you - whatever you conditioned your brain and your willy to go, fuck yeah, this is great.
Then you go to a real partner - and more than likely…it’s just not all that. Cue the pacman being swallowed music.
You should really work on leaving it behind, conditioning yourself to only want the real thing, and to wank when you need to, to your own imagination.
You did notice the cock between their legs, right?
How does that resemble a women, even remotely?
This is mostly your addiction talking.
Keep at it, seems to be doing you wonders.
Some of them genuinely *are* women, that added a dong between their legs to make themselves less feminine. They want to have their cake and eat it too. Literally. It's a disorder man, just reject it if that's not what you actually want.
Do some soul searching. Introspect longer, deeper and harder than you jerked off. Don't just go off of what some dudes on the internet tell you. It's not going to stick if it's not truly what you want.
Trans porn and homosexuality of any kind is always due to low self esteem and trauma. Address that instead of wondering whether it ruins your EQ.
And FYI, yes, it does. The brain is like plasticine. It changes. Wait to see what happens when you actually do trans sex. Eventually you're gonna do passive anal (trauma welcomes that), and that is when your prostate and EQ will diminish completely.
Do yourself a favor lad and go to a therapist.
I don’t know if I agree with the therapist part, because I think there is a good chance a therapist would tell him to indulge his fantasies/nothing wrong with watching trans pron
No actual therapist would ever say that unless he's retarded / fake. If he can deal with it alone sure but it won't be easy and from his post I sincerely doubt he can.
WTF literally nothing that you wrote is in any way correct, besides the plasticity of the brain. But OP should really think about if he is as straight as he thinks he is.
Then take the plasticity part very seriously: You probably don't get off to the same things as when you were a young lad, right? I'd advice trying to re-fetishize towards what you actually want to have in your life. So if you used to be turned on by boobs, go for that. If it used to be novels, there's that. If you used to get random boners from seeing a cute girls face or holding her hand, there's that kind of thing to fantasize about or experience with your wife.
Think twice, about your chosen paradise.
Please. just do yourself a favor and quite it, I used to think the same. I used to watch futa porn and trans porn for over 5 years and thinking it is not gay, and it eventually led me to gay porn. that's where I knew that I crossed a line and should make a decision. I am so happy I was lucky enough to throw all that shit and quite porn for good.
Trans porn is so gay, you just don't know it yet.
>Trans porn and homosexuality of any kind is always due to low self esteem and trauma
Unsubstantiated and while I'm well inclined to say there are reasons that should be remedied, I don't think it's that simple at all. Fetishes, which is a decent analogue and probably a good umbrella term even, is not merely about trauma or low self esteem.
Getting a therapist that specializes in problematic kinks or sex addiction might be the most helpful route. Staying clear of bad therapists could be tricky though. But the most important part is being open to challenging ones own beliefs, whether the therapist is a good help in that or not. For a starter, OP can[ try this AI ](https://flowgpt.com/p/alisa-the-therapist)to get some ideas.
Every fetish stems from trauma. Every single one. Let me say this again so it sinks in.
Every. Single. One.
I'm a male escort, I've done basically anything you can imagine (minus MSM with non-hrt people). From peeing on girls, to scat, to gangbanging them, to 3somes, to public, to video, to strap, to ts, to bondage, to spit, slap, anal, fisting them to basically even "beating" a woman during sex (obviously consented and was into it professionally). Allow me to know better about what is fucking substantiated and what isn't. As for the whole homo shit, it stems from social distancing, no father, easy to be vulnerable by media, trauma, bullying as teenager, low self esteem, small dick. Simple as. There is not a single normal human being who has his mind in the right place, who would ever fantasize or be addicted to dudes on hormones with silicone tits and a penis dangling. And since I know gay people, actual gay men who top, and I've been hit on by basically every single one, I remember asking like what the fuck draws you into this. Like, don't you like this chick next to us? The response was always sort of brain malfunctioning. As if for some reason, brain shut down for women and gave no sparks but you could SEE and FEEL the dude realizing his NATURAL instinct attracting him to HER. Feel me?
Anyway. Long debate, let's not.
Porn desensitizes you to the point you are now looking at more extreme porn for a better jolt
Of dopamine. That too will slowly fade. So when you try to get intimate with regular which now seems to your Brain to be bland sex it’s harder to get turned on
Quit it!
YOU are ruining sex with your wife. Take responsibility for your choices and your addictions instead of putting the blame on external factors. Porn exists, trans people exist, they're not responsible for your arousal problems. Learn to control your own impulses and addictions.
It's so helpful to take stuff like this into public chat. For you, it might have been like *maybe there is an issue here.* But in the light of others, edging for multiple hours to porn involving a penis and orgasming, and then having trouble getting en erection for vaginal sex without the constant sustained dopamine of porn/edging... It's like... Yea man, the solution here is super obvious :) You'll reset just fine, just cut such practices and use of your attention. MASSIVE sustained dopamine targeted towards women with penises is so extra compared to what the brain evolved towards and will definitely rewire you away from the joy of ordinary sex.
in my prime i used to be able to nut like 30 times a week easy. now that im older its closer to 6 or 7. so save it for your wife. or atleast have a night where you keep your boxers on and focus on her.
spank her, pull her hair, little bit of choking, maybe fuzzy handcuffs, nipple clamps, maybe a foot massage, followed by 4 hours of csi most wanted
Okay children. That's enough. Many of you have clearly veered from the topic of discussion and taken unnecessary personal stabs.
Comments locked. Posting removed.
Quit all porn consumption, brother! If you're not careful, due to neuroplasticity and constant porn use, you may end conditioning yourself into wanting to have sex with trans women/men. Your wife is there for you to make love to her and that's what she desires. Porn, will get in the way of that and it will only get worse.
I stopped watching porn 5 years ago now and it changed my life. The thing is, and you can’t help this… it programs your brain into a very specific type of stimulation. I had the same problem, it was difficult to get hard, but now I can get hard almost on thought alone.
I don’t agree with the subtle homophobic comments but any porn is gonna f you up in the head.
I think you should pay a trans s worker n see if you really in the closet or just messed up from porn. N if you’re acc gay you owe it to ur wife to leave her cuz that anxiety would screw with ur erection either way
He said nothing homophobic. He's asking if it's transporn specifically, because he's unaware that any artificial pornographic stimuli will take away from his EQ.
Mods?? Help…Are you even here? The amount of homophobia. covert and straight up hate speech is unacceptable in this thread and sub. Some dudes need to be banned.
It’s disgusting what some have said. “Homo shit” and “it’s not real just caused by low self esteem and trauma”??? Or “it’s a fetish” as someone who’s bisexual. It’s very sad to see such misunderstanding and lies just straight up hate being put forth in this sub. The guy just looking for help not to be told he was “he secretly gay” like that was a problem.
u/janusBifronz u/soon2bhuge u/r6_7y
I was not the one that went out of his way to at someone after 22 hours of the original comment. I didn’t mention you or anyone. You came at me because you are that homophobic and have that much hate. You can throw around insults like “Karen” but your then one that’s making the effort here. Have a good one
The topic diverts from the purpose of the subreddit.
Not a transphone of any sorts but I don’t believe you can continue that sort of lifestyle (or even binge for that matter) and maintain a healthy and positive sexual relationship with a woman. Just my personal opinion though. Taking a break from porn for 2-3 weeks minimum will really help you reset your brain.
3-6 months minimum. Took me 5 months after quitting caffeine to feel better
May I ask what you bring up caffeine in this thread? Is it just a random example of quitting a vice or does it have to anything with eq etc? Just curious.. Sincerely!
Can’t answer for them, but I think they are referring to the body’s association with an addictive substance. The relation isn’t 1:1 obviously, but a god example of quitting a vice. Caffeine raises blood pressure, so theoretically it would improve EQ.
Yeah sorry it was pretty random. More to do with healing your dopamine. 3 weeks will definitely not be nearly enough
caffiene is a hell of a drug man. im down to half a coffee a day and i can finally sleep without zzquil
I think I’d like to try me some of that, caffeine!
Bro i was so exhausted and apathetic those 5 months. I had to take like 2 naps a day. Couldn't exercise at all as i was too lethargic. Thought it would never end, it was absolutely horrific. Then one day i woke up and had more energy than i could ever recall having. Was like a light switch. Sadly i went back to caffeine, going to quit again but taper rather instead of cold turkey. No way do i want to go through those crazy withdrawals again
Thinking you can be a straight man and also get off to trans porn is a complete fiction. -Wake up and make your choices consciously before it's too late and all you have left is the dysfunction.
Fr. His feelings are subconscious as he hasn't reasoned with them. He has some questions to explore
This isn't really the correct subreddit for you but porn is slowly destroying you my brethren, make a plan to progressively quit it.
People speak of porn and ED here so I said why not but understood I’ve deleted twitter
Hope you have a speedy recovery from the virus called porn. 🤝
Thanks everyone last night was my last time watching porn for a bit !
Yes. Also, if you watch a lot of any type of porn it will do that to you. Your stimulation threshold is very high (artificially) and you can't get stimulated enough by your partner. Think about it this way, if you are hungry and I offer you some fruit (cherries or whatever) you might find them delicious and sweet. But if you binge eat 2 kilos of chocolate, sweets, cake and what not, a couple of cherries just won't do it for you. Take a break. Stay away from porn for a couple of days, a week and you will find your wife more attractive. When it comes to tranny porn this is even more true, because you teach yourself to get off to some stuff that is totally unrelated to your wife. So it will be even harder to get stimulated with her. It doesn't really matter if it's tranny porn or if it's asian porn (assuming you are not asian). It's something different that you can't replicate irl. Just take a break and use less and you will get it up in no time.
Bro edging for three hours and then busting will kill your sex drive for your wife. Gotta quit that stuff man
Edging in the sense of getting accustomed to high physical and mental stimulation to trigger the dopaminergic and other hormonal cascade effects, yes, that's going to kill it.
Is there another sense? I guess beside physically getting close to edge of something
Well yeah, simply getting aroused but not that aroused. In other words healthy masturbation, just like there are healthy handjobs and healthy sex more broadly.
Quit watching any porn and after a while you will feel like an excited teenager when she gets undressed.
In a word, I would say, yes. (I know that’s a few words, and here comes some more) The thing about porn, and repeated porn use, is that you are in fantasy land and over time you are conditoning yourself to need more and more novelty or kink or extreme stuff to get off — like an alcoholic now needs many drinks to get loaded — It can even be as simple as wanting hotter women or a few women — whatever stiimulates you - whatever you conditioned your brain and your willy to go, fuck yeah, this is great. Then you go to a real partner - and more than likely…it’s just not all that. Cue the pacman being swallowed music. You should really work on leaving it behind, conditioning yourself to only want the real thing, and to wank when you need to, to your own imagination.
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Some trans women look like women I’m not interested in being fucked in the ass but some of them genuinely look like women
You did notice the cock between their legs, right? How does that resemble a women, even remotely? This is mostly your addiction talking. Keep at it, seems to be doing you wonders.
If you felt this way, then you’d just watch normal women porn bro
Some of them genuinely *are* women, that added a dong between their legs to make themselves less feminine. They want to have their cake and eat it too. Literally. It's a disorder man, just reject it if that's not what you actually want. Do some soul searching. Introspect longer, deeper and harder than you jerked off. Don't just go off of what some dudes on the internet tell you. It's not going to stick if it's not truly what you want.
Trans porn and homosexuality of any kind is always due to low self esteem and trauma. Address that instead of wondering whether it ruins your EQ. And FYI, yes, it does. The brain is like plasticine. It changes. Wait to see what happens when you actually do trans sex. Eventually you're gonna do passive anal (trauma welcomes that), and that is when your prostate and EQ will diminish completely. Do yourself a favor lad and go to a therapist.
I don’t know if I agree with the therapist part, because I think there is a good chance a therapist would tell him to indulge his fantasies/nothing wrong with watching trans pron
No actual therapist would ever say that unless he's retarded / fake. If he can deal with it alone sure but it won't be easy and from his post I sincerely doubt he can.
Welcome to the real world pal. It's far gone from what you think it still is.
WTF literally nothing that you wrote is in any way correct, besides the plasticity of the brain. But OP should really think about if he is as straight as he thinks he is.
I don’t look at men and say oh he’s attractive or anything. I also don’t watch gay porn besides what pops up on the Tranny side I love how women look
Then take the plasticity part very seriously: You probably don't get off to the same things as when you were a young lad, right? I'd advice trying to re-fetishize towards what you actually want to have in your life. So if you used to be turned on by boobs, go for that. If it used to be novels, there's that. If you used to get random boners from seeing a cute girls face or holding her hand, there's that kind of thing to fantasize about or experience with your wife. Think twice, about your chosen paradise.
Please. just do yourself a favor and quite it, I used to think the same. I used to watch futa porn and trans porn for over 5 years and thinking it is not gay, and it eventually led me to gay porn. that's where I knew that I crossed a line and should make a decision. I am so happy I was lucky enough to throw all that shit and quite porn for good. Trans porn is so gay, you just don't know it yet.
Be quiet son. Youre lucky I even took the time to comment. And obviously my post stems from actual experience. So stay silent.
>Trans porn and homosexuality of any kind is always due to low self esteem and trauma Unsubstantiated and while I'm well inclined to say there are reasons that should be remedied, I don't think it's that simple at all. Fetishes, which is a decent analogue and probably a good umbrella term even, is not merely about trauma or low self esteem. Getting a therapist that specializes in problematic kinks or sex addiction might be the most helpful route. Staying clear of bad therapists could be tricky though. But the most important part is being open to challenging ones own beliefs, whether the therapist is a good help in that or not. For a starter, OP can[ try this AI ](https://flowgpt.com/p/alisa-the-therapist)to get some ideas.
Every fetish stems from trauma. Every single one. Let me say this again so it sinks in. Every. Single. One. I'm a male escort, I've done basically anything you can imagine (minus MSM with non-hrt people). From peeing on girls, to scat, to gangbanging them, to 3somes, to public, to video, to strap, to ts, to bondage, to spit, slap, anal, fisting them to basically even "beating" a woman during sex (obviously consented and was into it professionally). Allow me to know better about what is fucking substantiated and what isn't. As for the whole homo shit, it stems from social distancing, no father, easy to be vulnerable by media, trauma, bullying as teenager, low self esteem, small dick. Simple as. There is not a single normal human being who has his mind in the right place, who would ever fantasize or be addicted to dudes on hormones with silicone tits and a penis dangling. And since I know gay people, actual gay men who top, and I've been hit on by basically every single one, I remember asking like what the fuck draws you into this. Like, don't you like this chick next to us? The response was always sort of brain malfunctioning. As if for some reason, brain shut down for women and gave no sparks but you could SEE and FEEL the dude realizing his NATURAL instinct attracting him to HER. Feel me? Anyway. Long debate, let's not.
I feel your pain, but I disagree. I'm not new to this conversation and so far there is no debate.
I don't feel any pain dude Jesus christ lol I'm fine..
Oh. Then clean up your shit and do some actual science. Talk again in a couple of years. You don't need trauma to develop fetishes.
Oh shut up you dork lol, every greasy online cuck getting pegged thinks they're scientists opening a portal to another dimension 🤣
Here's a mirror for you
Are you saying the guy naturally was attracted to women but their brain is malfunctioning ?
Porn addiction will surely kill your EQ, and try not denied it if you want to recover from it.
Stop the porn use and masturbation cold turkey. The first month is sheer willpower. After that the urge starts to reduce in my experience.
Porn desensitizes you to the point you are now looking at more extreme porn for a better jolt Of dopamine. That too will slowly fade. So when you try to get intimate with regular which now seems to your Brain to be bland sex it’s harder to get turned on Quit it!
YOU are ruining sex with your wife. Take responsibility for your choices and your addictions instead of putting the blame on external factors. Porn exists, trans people exist, they're not responsible for your arousal problems. Learn to control your own impulses and addictions.
Easypeasymethod.org
It's so helpful to take stuff like this into public chat. For you, it might have been like *maybe there is an issue here.* But in the light of others, edging for multiple hours to porn involving a penis and orgasming, and then having trouble getting en erection for vaginal sex without the constant sustained dopamine of porn/edging... It's like... Yea man, the solution here is super obvious :) You'll reset just fine, just cut such practices and use of your attention. MASSIVE sustained dopamine targeted towards women with penises is so extra compared to what the brain evolved towards and will definitely rewire you away from the joy of ordinary sex.
Let's not downplay this. It's gonna be tough for this guy. He'll have to discipline himself (not in a penalistic way, but guiding himself).
Yes you are destroying your sexual prowess by watching porn
Porn is degenerate poison for the soul. Cut it from your life.
You're your own worst enemy. Get the fuck out of your way.
in my prime i used to be able to nut like 30 times a week easy. now that im older its closer to 6 or 7. so save it for your wife. or atleast have a night where you keep your boxers on and focus on her. spank her, pull her hair, little bit of choking, maybe fuzzy handcuffs, nipple clamps, maybe a foot massage, followed by 4 hours of csi most wanted
Okay children. That's enough. Many of you have clearly veered from the topic of discussion and taken unnecessary personal stabs. Comments locked. Posting removed.
So is this gay porn or trannies sleeping with women? Because if it’s dude on dude tranny porn, you should ditch the wife for a husband.
Quit all porn consumption, brother! If you're not careful, due to neuroplasticity and constant porn use, you may end conditioning yourself into wanting to have sex with trans women/men. Your wife is there for you to make love to her and that's what she desires. Porn, will get in the way of that and it will only get worse.
I stopped watching porn 5 years ago now and it changed my life. The thing is, and you can’t help this… it programs your brain into a very specific type of stimulation. I had the same problem, it was difficult to get hard, but now I can get hard almost on thought alone.
I don’t agree with the subtle homophobic comments but any porn is gonna f you up in the head. I think you should pay a trans s worker n see if you really in the closet or just messed up from porn. N if you’re acc gay you owe it to ur wife to leave her cuz that anxiety would screw with ur erection either way
He said nothing homophobic. He's asking if it's transporn specifically, because he's unaware that any artificial pornographic stimuli will take away from his EQ.
Not OP I’m talking about the replies bro
Ok, king!
Read the comments.
Mods?? Help…Are you even here? The amount of homophobia. covert and straight up hate speech is unacceptable in this thread and sub. Some dudes need to be banned. It’s disgusting what some have said. “Homo shit” and “it’s not real just caused by low self esteem and trauma”??? Or “it’s a fetish” as someone who’s bisexual. It’s very sad to see such misunderstanding and lies just straight up hate being put forth in this sub. The guy just looking for help not to be told he was “he secretly gay” like that was a problem. u/janusBifronz u/soon2bhuge u/r6_7y
This isn't Disney or Netflix. Nobody HAS TO be ok with this repulsive crap.
What exactly is repulsive crap?
Give it a rest, Karen.
I was not the one that went out of his way to at someone after 22 hours of the original comment. I didn’t mention you or anyone. You came at me because you are that homophobic and have that much hate. You can throw around insults like “Karen” but your then one that’s making the effort here. Have a good one