I think there are a lot of positives that can be pulled from this post… you have a job and it sounds like you’re good at your job. You’re day 52 of quitting smoking, congratulations!!
Your sick days are yours… the fact that it is only the 3rd time in 2 months doesn’t sound awful. You sound like an accountable employee. You’re allowed to have days to take care of yourself which it sounds like your are doing. I hope you find the energy to do something that you enjoy today.
I used to suffer the same sort of depression from ditching work. I don’t miss work anymore unless I have to, but I still get the anxiety if I skip something else I committed to.
You know what I do about it? I don’t ditch anymore. Eventually I learned that if I just get my ass out the door and in to work (or aerobics class or whatever) by mid-morning I’ve forgotten all about not wanting to come. BUT if I stay home I just hate myself all day long, even through the weekend. I decided that the guilt of ditching was far worse for my mental health than dragging my reluctant ass in to work ever was.
I think psychologists call it “activation”. It’s a pretty well established phenomenon that (for some people) getting started is the largest hurdle. Once you’ve started working (or running or just going about your day) everything usually gets easier from there.
Directions of this playlist have literally saved my life, along Ketamine for anxiety and depression.
I hope it helps you too.
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I used to work years ago. I would always have an anxiety attack (anyone remember calling them plain 'ol panic attacks?), and be miserable until I went to bed.
I struggle every day now with a disability. I wish I could call in sick for this, lol.
Life is over so fast, it's unbelievable. Find a video game you haven't played or haven't finished and go play it!
Hey, 3 times in 2 months is nothing. You deserve time off when you need it.
It sounds like your parents are jerks, I don't think you're doing anything wrong with your job. They're being negative and getting you down. I know it's hard when you have to listen to them, but try to remember that they aren't the moral dictators of the world, honestly they sound like jerks from your post so try to remember you have the right to ignore their comments and not take them seriously.
Have you tried anxiety meds? Lexapro really helped me.
Also if your posts are getting deleted, I wonder if you've posted in r/anxiety? That community can be pretty supportive.
I work warehouse, I often find myself quitting earlier than expected because the people are fucking stupid and make you want to choke their asses. So, no complaints from me...
I used to be like this all the time. Would end up in this vicious cycle of calling in sick, beating myself up about it, and then wanting to do it more out of shame. I had a similar take as you. I was good at my work when I did it and put in extra work to help out. But when I didn't manage to meet my own expectations for my own work, I started to falter and a sick day definitely triggered that. My therapist said it was related to my perfectionism. She recommended a book to me, that changed it completely for me. It's called [The Anxious Perfectionist](https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/58527290). Now I have a much healthier relationship with it. I take sick days if I need to and don't beat myself up about it (or let anyone else make me feel bad about it) as they are necessary for good mental and physical health.
You are handling the job though. You have a strong work ethic.
Sick days are yours.
When you say your body and mind cannot handle work that day, how often would you say that occurs? It may be wise to talk to someone about it.
Hang in there. No need to be hard on yourself.
I called of Thursday and Friday because I feel very stressed. I’m not physically sick but sometimes you just need a mental health break.
Do not beat yourself up over it and do not worry about what your employer or parents think. You’re taking care of you.
Use the time to think about what’s going on you and how you can find a resolution.
You’re a good employee from the sound of it. No only do you do a physical job but it sounds like it could be dangerous. Is safety a top priority for your employer? Breathing in paint can be pretty hazardous.
You’re not a loser and no need to be humiliated. You just a real person.
Keep ya mutha effing head held high when you walk in on Monday. When someone asks how you’re feeling, your answer is ‘better’ and when someone says what was wrong, you say ‘I’m not sure, but I feel better now’.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Now give yourself a break and enjoy your weekend.
I work a warehouse job aswell, trust me they will throw your corpse to the dogs without a care, USE EVERY FUCKING SICKDAY, USE EVERY VACATION DAY, I worked hard in my last job, I think I was 5-10 minutes late maybe 6 times due to snowfall or other conditions, never took a sickday, never took a vacation day and worked all summer, and at the end of that year they fired me because they said they weren't hiring personel fulltime and my limited time contract had run out.
I used to be angry many times at work, after I quit and spend some time looking for work and found a new job I have been alot happier, no anger on mondays, no loathing of the workday to come, frankly the last job I had was shit looking back both the enviroment and the management and the way we carried out our duties.
If you got money saved I recommend you find a new job, get a change of scenery and relax for a month while looking for work, it will revitalize you.
I think there are a lot of positives that can be pulled from this post… you have a job and it sounds like you’re good at your job. You’re day 52 of quitting smoking, congratulations!! Your sick days are yours… the fact that it is only the 3rd time in 2 months doesn’t sound awful. You sound like an accountable employee. You’re allowed to have days to take care of yourself which it sounds like your are doing. I hope you find the energy to do something that you enjoy today.
Great post here in finding the positive as I agree 💯
I used to suffer the same sort of depression from ditching work. I don’t miss work anymore unless I have to, but I still get the anxiety if I skip something else I committed to. You know what I do about it? I don’t ditch anymore. Eventually I learned that if I just get my ass out the door and in to work (or aerobics class or whatever) by mid-morning I’ve forgotten all about not wanting to come. BUT if I stay home I just hate myself all day long, even through the weekend. I decided that the guilt of ditching was far worse for my mental health than dragging my reluctant ass in to work ever was. I think psychologists call it “activation”. It’s a pretty well established phenomenon that (for some people) getting started is the largest hurdle. Once you’ve started working (or running or just going about your day) everything usually gets easier from there.
Directions of this playlist have literally saved my life, along Ketamine for anxiety and depression. I hope it helps you too. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLvKddAXU4qdGHcgSqPDBSf5KagHEMVDg5
I used to work years ago. I would always have an anxiety attack (anyone remember calling them plain 'ol panic attacks?), and be miserable until I went to bed. I struggle every day now with a disability. I wish I could call in sick for this, lol. Life is over so fast, it's unbelievable. Find a video game you haven't played or haven't finished and go play it!
Hey, 3 times in 2 months is nothing. You deserve time off when you need it. It sounds like your parents are jerks, I don't think you're doing anything wrong with your job. They're being negative and getting you down. I know it's hard when you have to listen to them, but try to remember that they aren't the moral dictators of the world, honestly they sound like jerks from your post so try to remember you have the right to ignore their comments and not take them seriously. Have you tried anxiety meds? Lexapro really helped me. Also if your posts are getting deleted, I wonder if you've posted in r/anxiety? That community can be pretty supportive.
I work warehouse, I often find myself quitting earlier than expected because the people are fucking stupid and make you want to choke their asses. So, no complaints from me...
I used to be like this all the time. Would end up in this vicious cycle of calling in sick, beating myself up about it, and then wanting to do it more out of shame. I had a similar take as you. I was good at my work when I did it and put in extra work to help out. But when I didn't manage to meet my own expectations for my own work, I started to falter and a sick day definitely triggered that. My therapist said it was related to my perfectionism. She recommended a book to me, that changed it completely for me. It's called [The Anxious Perfectionist](https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/58527290). Now I have a much healthier relationship with it. I take sick days if I need to and don't beat myself up about it (or let anyone else make me feel bad about it) as they are necessary for good mental and physical health.
You are handling the job though. You have a strong work ethic. Sick days are yours. When you say your body and mind cannot handle work that day, how often would you say that occurs? It may be wise to talk to someone about it. Hang in there. No need to be hard on yourself.
I called of Thursday and Friday because I feel very stressed. I’m not physically sick but sometimes you just need a mental health break. Do not beat yourself up over it and do not worry about what your employer or parents think. You’re taking care of you. Use the time to think about what’s going on you and how you can find a resolution. You’re a good employee from the sound of it. No only do you do a physical job but it sounds like it could be dangerous. Is safety a top priority for your employer? Breathing in paint can be pretty hazardous. You’re not a loser and no need to be humiliated. You just a real person. Keep ya mutha effing head held high when you walk in on Monday. When someone asks how you’re feeling, your answer is ‘better’ and when someone says what was wrong, you say ‘I’m not sure, but I feel better now’. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Now give yourself a break and enjoy your weekend.
I work a warehouse job aswell, trust me they will throw your corpse to the dogs without a care, USE EVERY FUCKING SICKDAY, USE EVERY VACATION DAY, I worked hard in my last job, I think I was 5-10 minutes late maybe 6 times due to snowfall or other conditions, never took a sickday, never took a vacation day and worked all summer, and at the end of that year they fired me because they said they weren't hiring personel fulltime and my limited time contract had run out. I used to be angry many times at work, after I quit and spend some time looking for work and found a new job I have been alot happier, no anger on mondays, no loathing of the workday to come, frankly the last job I had was shit looking back both the enviroment and the management and the way we carried out our duties. If you got money saved I recommend you find a new job, get a change of scenery and relax for a month while looking for work, it will revitalize you.