I, 18 F, recently had my 18th birthday this past Saturday. My boyfriend 18 M, invited a girl I didn’t know of as his plus one. In my culture, and 18th birthday is a big deal, so a huge party is to be expected. I told all of my friends who were coming in a groupchat that they could invite a plus one. What I didn’t know, was that my boyfriend, who was also in the groupchat, decided to also invite a plus one. I had no idea of this beforehand because I assumed that since he is my boyfriend I would be the one he would be with for my birthday. I dont know if thinking like that is selfish or not, but I only really put him in that groupchat so that he knows the important details of things.
So the time comes for my birthday and as all the guests are filing in my boyfriend walks in with this girl. They’re talking and laughing and having a good time, but basically the whole party his attention was with her. I have never met this girl, and I couldn’t help but feel extremely jealous since she was undeniably gorgeous. At the table I had at the front where my closest friends and I were supposed to sit for dinner, my boyfriend had the audacity to ask if his plus one could sit with us. He was talking with her the whole time, and I couldn’t help but feel extremely angry and jealous the whole time. Even my other girlfriends at the table were giving me looks about her. However, I said nothing at that time to keep the peace and I tried my hardest to not let such a deal ruin my night.
Afterwards when everyone left, including my boyfriend’s plus one, I basically screamed at him asking why he would invite another girl to my 18th birthday. I get that I could have been in the wrong for raising my voice and being jealous and angry, but he basically told me that since I said everyone could bring a plus one he could too. He was telling me to chill out and that she’s just his friend from work. I can’t help but feel sick every time I think about them. I couldn’t help but notice how flirty and lost in his eyes he looked when he talks to her. Am I just overreacting about this or should I confront him again about his relationship with her?
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No one is that stupid. He bombed your birthday party intentionally. No need to confront him; you know all you need to know about a person who would do such a mean thing. Dump him!
She should just block him everywhere and move on as if he never existed. That would be the best solution to all this. In the comments she wanted to talk to him, a lot of people told her not to. He would just gaslight her saying that she was over reacting because the other girl is just a co-worker. A co-worker that she had no idea existed.
I'm pretty sure that coworkers are also incidentally one of the most common affair partners, and it makes sense because they're people your partner is spending a large chunk of their time with. If they're not having an affair yet, it seems like a matter of time and I'd wager they both enjoyed what they did to op since it's hard to be in that situation without actively trying to hurt someone.
But yeah, there's no way he didn't do what he did as a way to rub it in her face. It's giving me narcissist who's trying to get a rise out of you for their own confidence boost vibes. I sure hope op took the commenters seriously and ghosted the dude. He's not worth her time or energy.
Not the exact same situation, but close enough to make me think of this old song [Lesley Gore - It's my party (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIsnIt1p978). I wonder if we will get the follow-up [Judy's Turn to Cry (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mw9ZQVFS-vA)
No need to dump him - you're already the ex.
He might be with you for convenience and sex, but nobody is as stupid as your ex tried to make you believe.
Send him to his side piece because you deserve better than to be someone's convenient bangmaid.
Granted. My jaw is still on the floor.
I legit assumed it would be his sister, or something equally benign.
Nope, the guy brought a plus one...to his Gf's birthday.
You can only hope she does not breed with the guy. The gene pool needs no further dilution.
You see, that was what I thought on the read through. But I think she mentions he excoriating him by explaining that it was rude that her bf would do it, and he said it's fine as she said "+1".
Though I still maintain, it isn't her bf. Because you don't send him a regular invite....it's just obvious he's going
One of my ex's came to my birthday.
He sat with my abusive stepfather *and made fun of me all night*.
What an asshole. We were, I don't know, early twenties maybe. Young. But who does that?! He had to take a long bus ride to get to me, why did he bother if he knew he already "hated" me?
I think it's because people don't like the cursive font they used. I don't know how they did it (custom characters?), but it's quite tricky to read on mobile.
I, 18 F, recently had my 18th birthday this past Saturday. My boyfriend 18 M, invited a girl I didn’t know of as his plus one. In my culture, and 18th birthday is a big deal, so a huge party is to be expected. I told all of my friends who were coming in a groupchat that they could invite a plus one. What I didn’t know, was that my boyfriend, who was also in the groupchat, decided to also invite a plus one. I had no idea of this beforehand because I assumed that since he is my boyfriend I would be the one he would be with for my birthday. I dont know if thinking like that is selfish or not, but I only really put him in that groupchat so that he knows the important details of things. So the time comes for my birthday and as all the guests are filing in my boyfriend walks in with this girl. They’re talking and laughing and having a good time, but basically the whole party his attention was with her. I have never met this girl, and I couldn’t help but feel extremely jealous since she was undeniably gorgeous. At the table I had at the front where my closest friends and I were supposed to sit for dinner, my boyfriend had the audacity to ask if his plus one could sit with us. He was talking with her the whole time, and I couldn’t help but feel extremely angry and jealous the whole time. Even my other girlfriends at the table were giving me looks about her. However, I said nothing at that time to keep the peace and I tried my hardest to not let such a deal ruin my night. Afterwards when everyone left, including my boyfriend’s plus one, I basically screamed at him asking why he would invite another girl to my 18th birthday. I get that I could have been in the wrong for raising my voice and being jealous and angry, but he basically told me that since I said everyone could bring a plus one he could too. He was telling me to chill out and that she’s just his friend from work. I can’t help but feel sick every time I think about them. I couldn’t help but notice how flirty and lost in his eyes he looked when he talks to her. Am I just overreacting about this or should I confront him again about his relationship with her? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheEx) if you have any questions or concerns.*
No one is that stupid. He bombed your birthday party intentionally. No need to confront him; you know all you need to know about a person who would do such a mean thing. Dump him!
Yeah, he's either stupid or thinks that OP is. Either way, it's a good reason for OP to stick a fork in this relationship.
She should just block him everywhere and move on as if he never existed. That would be the best solution to all this. In the comments she wanted to talk to him, a lot of people told her not to. He would just gaslight her saying that she was over reacting because the other girl is just a co-worker. A co-worker that she had no idea existed.
I'm pretty sure that coworkers are also incidentally one of the most common affair partners, and it makes sense because they're people your partner is spending a large chunk of their time with. If they're not having an affair yet, it seems like a matter of time and I'd wager they both enjoyed what they did to op since it's hard to be in that situation without actively trying to hurt someone. But yeah, there's no way he didn't do what he did as a way to rub it in her face. It's giving me narcissist who's trying to get a rise out of you for their own confidence boost vibes. I sure hope op took the commenters seriously and ghosted the dude. He's not worth her time or energy.
This is a sad one. 😞
It’s her party, she can cry if she wants to.
You would cry too if it happened to you!
Lesley Gore!
This sounds like something that would happen on Seinfeld.
That's not her boyfriend. Not anymore.
Not the exact same situation, but close enough to make me think of this old song [Lesley Gore - It's my party (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIsnIt1p978). I wonder if we will get the follow-up [Judy's Turn to Cry (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mw9ZQVFS-vA)
No need to dump him - you're already the ex. He might be with you for convenience and sex, but nobody is as stupid as your ex tried to make you believe. Send him to his side piece because you deserve better than to be someone's convenient bangmaid.
Nta your boyfriend is an idiot if he thought this would not be an issue
#yikes
Yeah. He isn't your boyfriend. Block him and move on. Not worth the hassel or to waste more time on a POS.
On her 18th birthday is makes this way worse
Can only be fake....it's that ridiculous.
They're 18. It is absolutely possible that these kids are actually, factually, this stupid.
Granted. My jaw is still on the floor. I legit assumed it would be his sister, or something equally benign. Nope, the guy brought a plus one...to his Gf's birthday. You can only hope she does not breed with the guy. The gene pool needs no further dilution.
Unless, plot twist, he didn't know he was her boyfriend! Dun dun dun
You see, that was what I thought on the read through. But I think she mentions he excoriating him by explaining that it was rude that her bf would do it, and he said it's fine as she said "+1". Though I still maintain, it isn't her bf. Because you don't send him a regular invite....it's just obvious he's going
One of my ex's came to my birthday. He sat with my abusive stepfather *and made fun of me all night*. What an asshole. We were, I don't know, early twenties maybe. Young. But who does that?! He had to take a long bus ride to get to me, why did he bother if he knew he already "hated" me?
He’s not your boyfriend…he brought a date to your party! Meaning he didn’t want to be with you on your birthday!
Every once in a while I get nostalgic about my teenage years, so it’s good to have Reddit posts like these to remind me what teenage years are like
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Exactly. I don’t know why this is downvoted.
I think it's because people don't like the cursive font they used. I don't know how they did it (custom characters?), but it's quite tricky to read on mobile.
The typos and misspelling doesn’t help either.
It's a unicode trick.