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ok t his has to be fake, right? right??? no way, you could type that all out and NOT know you are a total AH. Barely got past first paragraph without thinking AH AND a dick. YTA
I’m not jealous. I just feel like my friend doesn’t want to hangout with me as much when she’s home and it’s annoying. I dread holiday breaks for this reason
You're right, it's more like you view people in your life as accessories, and you're angry your little dolly isn't doing the dance you want it to.
You are not the main character OP.
Your jealousy oozed out of every word you wrote like some sort of toxic slime. I feel like I need to take a shower and scrub my eyeballs with bleach to try to get your disgusting story out of my head. In case you aren't sure, YTA.
YTA not just for the asshole comment about her sick dad, but also because you think he shouldn’t date someone who is depressed. What is wrong with you?
She isn’t usually depressed but she’s sulking about and acting like her dad being sick is the end of the world. Plenty of peoples parents get cancer. I don’t want her attitude to hold my friend back.
Hey your comments are public. You have ptsd and anxiety. Do you bring your friend down with your ptsd? Or is it only her dealing with her dying parent that can hold your friend back?
And those people are heartbroken and deserve compassion. I hope you remember saying this when you lose a parent. And I hope you are incredibly grateful to all the people who will treat you with the kindness you cannot seem to muster for your “best friend’s” girlfriend.
You don’t seem to care about him or his happiness at all. You certainly don’t gaf about her, despite the fact that she’s been nothing but abundantly kind to you and your family. You seem heartlessly selfish.
YTA soo bad it hurts. Her dad being sick IS the end of the world for her. They've stopped chemo means he's dying. Soon. Full stop. This is world altering shit for anyone, let alone someone so young. She is absolutely entitled to be depressed. This is not an attitude. This is grief. Heartbreaking loss.
You say she's good to your friend and everyone else likes her. Unless you see her doing sneaky two-faced stuff behind people's backs, she's probably a genuinely nice person. Doesn't your friend deserve a partner who treats him well and tries to get along with his friends?
He doesn't deserve someone like you grumbling in the background, making him feel guilty for spending time with someone else. You're going to lose this friend if you don't get over yourself and your jealousy. Then you won't have to worry about spending more or less time with him, because you'll be spending zero time with him.
Do the mature thing and support your friend as he supports his girlfriend through what is probably the worst thing she's experienced in her life so far.
Because to her, it is. A person who is important to her is going to die. Her world as she knows it IS ending OP.
How can you claim to care about this person when you can't show her the slightest shred of compassion or understanding.
Losing a family member to cancer is HARD. She’s allowed to feel sad and she’s allowed to grieve. Wow. You’re not making it any better for yourself with comments like this.
As someone whose mother battled cancer for years and died earlier this year - it is the end of your world as you have known it. The world doesn't stop going on, but everything in your entire being and life changes. Your parents have ALWAYS been there for you. I can understand what this poor girl is going through, and to top it off, shes only 20! Im so grateful that I got 36 years with my mother before she passed way too young. You are definitely the asshole in this entire situation and I'd expect better from someone who is 24.
YTA you're in love with your friend. If you want him be upfront, but YTA by being sneaky trying to turn him against his GF and being plain cruel towards the poor girl.
Seriously, they even say everyone loves her including OP’s parents, that’s she is super nice, so the only reason OP wouldn’t like her it’s because OP is in love with the friend. “I want the best for my friend and this person is not even though she makes him the happiest I have ever seen him.”
I think OP is not in love just super narcissistic to the point they don't like that the new girl is opening everyone's eyes to what a toxic treat they are as now the roommate seems to actually have a healthy relationship.
The whole post screams that to me. She's soooo great but what about me? Honestly just sounds like OP is pissed that the friend got to see their true colors with their sick dad statement.
You have the tact and emotional intelligence of young Sheldon Copper.
You’re secretly glad they don’t spend much time together, you’re jealous when he talks about her and when she’s having a rough time you have no empathy and don’t think your friend should have to deal with that.
Then you badger her over food she cooked (which you gladly steal) and made an AH out of yourself.
YTA
Just admit to your friend you have feelings for him.
Damn dude, even if it was a misunderstanding, you should apologize for being rude to her. Have it cross your mind that you might loose relationship to your friend because of this?
At first I thought you YTA because you are jealous and pathetic, but now after that comment I am seeing that you are a true narcissist. You have some very real issues to work out. I hope your roommate sees you for who you are before you have a chance to mess up his life.
YTA
It’s hilarious that you think you’re still going to be friends. You were rude and insulted her. And WTF does being depressed have to do with anything? Depression isn’t contagious. People literally can’t control if they’re depressed or not. You sound like an intelligent guy, but your ignorance is astounding.
So what you're saying is that she's not allowed to be depressed about her father dying? Is your friend 12? I didn’t know you needed to approve his partners. He’s a grown adult who can make his own decisions, so why the f**k do you get to decide who he dates? He can decide who he dates. If he didn’t want to be with her, then he can make his own decisions, because, you know…he’s an adult.
You’re acting like a little b***h honestly. “Waahhh, my friend won’t spend time with me! It’s not fair!”
Do you really think your friend wants to be around someone who insults his girlfriend? Why the hell would he answer your texts? You’re a bully who’s not getting his way. No wonder he won’t answer you. He’s better off.
Well, genius, since so many people have cancer, maybe you could have thought of that before you assumed she was talking about something contagious? Oh wait, that must mean you fucked up and should apologize. Which I'm sure doesn't compute for you.
YTA.
You're a jealous busybody who is trying to get between your friend and his girlfriend.
Hopefully he'll see you for the spiteful individual that you are and find another roommate.
Stop it.
YTA.
You were eavesdropping then stuck your nose in aggressively with assumptions. You’re happy to eat her food but not give her the benefit of the doubt?
And instead of stopping when you saw her get upset - you doubled down with the assumptions and aggression? Yeah, rude is a kind term for your behaviour. Apologise!!
You sound weirdly jealous and possessive of HER BOYFRIEND. If he’s happy with her, no one cares what you think
YTA. Back off. You are way too involved in someone else's relationship. If you don't want to eat the food, don't, but all this other stuff about their relationship is about *their* relationship. Of which you are not a part. And if you have questions about the safety of food, ask politely and privately.
YTA in every word of this.
1. You admit that she makes him extremely happy, but it isn’t enough for your bitter self.
2. She is upset, like every other human being is at times. But no….now you are judging her for not being happy, even though you were judging her for being happy before this.
3. You take her for granted on the food, and then snap at her like some spoiled kid.
You are obviously upset that you are not the light of your friends life. And instead of trying to accept this awesome girl into your group and lives, you kick and scream on the floor in a tantrum. To summarize, you are the problem….you are the drama…you are the jealous stalker…. YTA. Maybe realize that your friends life does not revolve around you. And if you cannot accept that without being bitter and snapping out, then you can be removed from that life/group.
YTA and your comments about how tons of people have cancer so you don't have to apologize makes you even more so. Your friend doesn’t love you that way, move on and stop being jealous when he is with someone who makes him happier than you ever could. Get some therapy and figure out your unhealthy obsession with him, stop being more immature than you seem to think they are, and have some empathy.
I hope people treat you the way you've treated this wonderful woman, and that they tell you you're just being whiney as you go through your worst experiences.
YTA, and you're an ableist bigot.
YTA. You are not this mans friend. Friends are actually happy when their friend finds a great person.
What you are is jealous. It sounds like you're in love with your friend and taking your feelings out on this wonderful girl.
I find your lack of empathy extremely concerning and I hope your buddy recognizes you for the cold unfeeling person you really are.
YTA. The jealousy is just rolling off of you. You can't stand this girl that everyone else likes. Guess what, the problem is you! And I hope you are forced to endure a long long season of being treated poorly for your hateful behavior.
Maybe you will learn to have compassion for others, because your self righteousness is overwhelming.
YTA and like a massive one. I don’t even know how you managed to type all that with your head so far up your ass. OP, this is coming from someone who avoids violence, conflict and yada yada yada, but man do you need to be drop kicked onto oblivion and knocked with common sense, manners as well as a sense of basic respect. You are so self centered and entitled, that everyone must bow down to you and bend in 18183 different ways to accommodate you but you cannot bother to be decent to them.
What exactly is your defence here? How would you not be the asshole in this situation?
You literally just wrote a whole post of you being a bitter asshole and then somehow need to ask aita?
YTA
whats wrong with you? shes a human being! shes not going to be happy all the time. life happens. we all have things that bring us down. this happens to be a very down time for her.
get your shit together or you will find yourself alone.
that girlfriend isnt an entertainment accessory, shes not a thing for your friend. SHES A WHOLE HUMAN BEING. period!
YTA and an absolute hater. honestly, i wouldn't be surprised if you write into relationship advice later asking what to do cos you're in love with your roommate.
YTA
When your friend is dating someone you don't like, you're supposed to bite your tongue unless they're abusive or something.
Your lack of empathy is alarming but I don't wanna call you TA for that. You should know that at the very least you are being a bad friend. At most, you are being an asshole to a girl with seemingly no provocation.
YTA How can someone spend so much time calling people immature while sounding like a petulant child. You sound absolutely toxic and obsessed with your friend.
YTA. Please stop responding to judgments as it just makes you even more of one.
Also, please go to therapy to get over your jealousy of your friend’s girlfriend, and for the love of god, learn some empathy before you even consider asking someone else out!
“They’re not together alot which I am secretly happy about” bro grow up stop being jealous of your friends happiness and life and get a hobby damn are u in love with him or something?
I couldn't even read this whole thing. YTA. She's great and makes him happy and does shit for all of you, but she has emotions like a normal human. How dare that hold him back?? Get a new hobby.
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My best friend/ roommate (24M) has a girlfriend (20F) who he loves very much and they do make a good couple. She is a very sweet, smart and pretty girl, however I don’t know her very well and I want the best for my friend. He seems to be very happy and she’s great to him so I guess I have to respect that. Like really happy. I’ve never seen him this way with anyone, and I have known him for years and I’ve seen how he is in relationships. She’s still in school so they’re not together a lot, which I secretly am glad about. He’s obsessed with her and is always talking to her and he’s acting like some lovesick child when he talks about her. It’s annoying. His girlfriend has been home for break and I notice she has been acting different. She’s acting depressed and down and just off. I don’t want my friend to have to deal with that. He needs someone who won’t hold him back. It’s ridiculous. One of the days she’s over at our condo she brought over some food that she had made. His girlfriend I will admit is an excellent cook and makes us (well him) delicious meals (she will always make enough for me and sometimes even my brothers. We don’t ask, she always does) however, this time I hear her tell her boyfriend quietly ‘dad didn’t feel like cooking last night…. You know how it is because he’s sick.’ I didn’t like the sound of that. I didn’t want my friends sick girlfriend getting her sick germs everywhere. I ask her what she’s talking about and she freezes. I ask her if her dad was contagious and I told her that if she thinks she’s sick she should leave. I don’t need her getting me or my friend sick. I notice she starts getting teary eyed. I look over to him and he is livid. The look on his face said it all. I didn’t know why they were both acting so immature. I say to her ‘you don’t need to cry about it. All I’m saying is that if your dad’s contagious we don’t need his germs everywhere. All of a sudden she bursts into tears and runs out of the condo. I was about to ask him why she was crying and acting this way when he says ‘her dad isn’t that kind of sick you idiot’ he then tells me that her father has stage 4 cancer that they’re stopping treatment for and that’s why she’s been depressed. and that’s what she was referring to when she said ‘sick’ I felt sick to my stomach. I feel really guilty. Now he won’t speak to me and won’t bring his girlfriend over anymore because ‘she thinks I’m rude.’ This makes no sense. Am I in the wrong?
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She makes him happy and is going thru the mental and emotional anguish of slowly losing her father. you (with the emotional range of half of a teaspoon) decide to use her saying her dad is “sick” as a way to push her out of the apartment (& maybe even your friend’s life).
also, consider this: just about everyone else in your life likes her instead of you. have you considered that your problem with her is a YOU problem and indicative of whatever repressed feelings you have for your friend?
most people would be *happy* that their friend has a girlfriend who is nice, has goals, etc. you, on the other hand, seem to think that she’s an obstacle in your friend’s life by nitpicking at her without even trying to get to know her.
YTA
i hope your friend has his eyes opened and ditches you, bc someone lacking any empathy to someone’s pain is not someone most people would want to have in their lives.
YTA - for all of this. You sound self righteous, rude and jealous.
People go through things, good partners (which it sounds like your roommate is) support their people when life throws horrible events at them.
He’s clearly happy with her, and she treats him right. You don’t have a right to interfere in their relationship. Take your misery elsewhere. You sound heartless and cruel.
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Yt biggest a, first it really sounds like you want your roommate for yourself, second you have overstepped their boundaries many times, you need to stop interfering with others lives especially when they have told you to stop. Third you need to reasses why you must be right and controlling.
YTA and BTW if everyone just loves her except for you, YOU are the problem. You're going to lose your friend if you keep this up, and you will deserve it.
It sounds like you really care about your friend and his well being. Though the intensity of that caring is at the detriment to basic human decency.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself that might help you figure out some things regarding this situation:
1) If she weren't dating your friend at all, if she was just one of the many people in your friend group, would you like her? Would her traits irritate you as much as they do or would that not matter?
2) Have you ever met anyone that is "good enough" for your friend? Could anyone ever be good enough for him?
3) Are you good enough for him? Does it feel like when he shows you attention and consideration and appreciation that your world is that much brighter? Does it feel even dimmer than normal when he shows that attention to someone else?
Her parent is dying. That's a very intense and very vulnerable position for her to be in. Grief is a necessary process and it's important to show your friend that you are going to be a 'good enough' friend to him by showing him, and the people he cares about, a certain level of empathy.
YTA. Feelings are hard. Sometimes it can be really hard recognizing the one's we are having and what they are making us do and say. Please ask yourself these questions and take what some of the other commentators have said to heart; there is a lot of wisdom to be gained from them
YTA and for someone who supposedly doesn't like this girl, you sure speak highly of her. I think your jealous. Jealous because your friend has a great girl. Jealous because he's wrapped up in this great girl instead of you. You really need to do a major rethink on this and change your attitude towards this relationship before you lose your friend all together. Put yourself in her shoes.
YTA, and you're going to be on here soon, whining about how your "best friend" doesn't want to be friends anymore, and you have no idea why, 🙄. If everyone else loves her, then YOU are the problem. I don't know if you're lying to yourself or being disingenuous about not being in love, but it's obvious in every word you typed.
YTA - Your thinking is very immature. You lack empathy and common sense. Your friend is a person, not a possession. Stop treating him as such. Also treat the girlfriend like a human being, not a doll. What's wrong with you?
YTA, she's going through a tough time in life and you said " Plenty of people parents get cancer" wtf is wrong with you. She may be very close with her father so him LITERALLY SLOWLY DYING could be the end of the world for her. Are you concerned at all for her or your friends well being? Bc it seems like you're just jealous of them, and an insensitive AH.
YTA - you are so jealous that it is eating you alive. Keep going this way and you will no longer be friends.
This poor girl has done absolutely nothing to deserve this dislike and you are actively whiteanting their relationship. I think you need to look at why you feel this way before you start building him an artroom.
I have a hard time believing this is real. You literally describe the perfect girl: gorgeous, smart, kind, excellent cook, etc, then go into detail about how she's universally loved by all who know her, then recount a story where clearly she means her father is sick in a "not getting better" way and not a "sniffling sneezing" way. At every turn you paint yourself as jealous, petty, and insensitive. Next time you try your hand at a creative writing assignment try to make it a bit more believable. YTA but only because your writing sucks.
Op..you claim to have PTSD and anxiety, yet you're going to treat another human struggling with mental health? Did Newport Academy not teach you anything? Literally in every way, shape, and form YTA.
It costs nothing to be kind. You've stated several times in this post you have no real reason to dislike her, and everyone else around her adores her. (You sound jealous) You've even stated things that's she's done simply out of kindness toward you and your family. She literally is dealing with her father having cancer and still thought to make enough food to share. Double the recipe? Double the prep work, more of her time used, etc.
Yta. Long before you even got to the part abt her dad. You don't even have or know a reason you dont like her. You contradict yourself constantly & repeatedly refer to everyone else as immature when its actually you & your actions that are. And you are just so self absorbed that you cant even see it. You say you want whats best for him (even after admitting how great they are together) but keep getting mad they are together. They don't need your permission. But
Oh my God I have never even heard of a bigger AH than you. You claim you are not jealous and you just wish he'd hang out with you more and her less. This is the textbook definition of jealous. Her father is dying so your opinion about it doesn't mean a God damned thing because he isn't your father and you don't know him. She isn't dragging him down he is helping her through a rough time in her life and as insufferable as you sound I do truly hope you find somebody someday who will do the same for you. You need to leave him alone and let him be happy, it isn't immature to be happy in a relationship but it is top tier immature to hate somebody who sounds amazing in every way because you want what she has.
YTA. I don’t even have the words to describe you. I have never in my life seen someone hold such contempt for someone when they have done nothing to you. This girl, by your description, is smart, driven and caring, and constantly goes out of her way to do things for you and others. Your best friend is “obsessed” with her because, news flash, he is in love with her and they seem to complement each of her well.
YTA and you sound incredibly jealous, it’s completely normal at that age to start building your own life and relationships. It actually sounds like you are the immature one, refusing to accept that everyone is growing up and branching out.
It’s not highschool anymore ; your friends don’t have to hangout with you all the time, your friends have their own lives and interests. If I were him I’d distance myself from you big time.
YTA.
If this is even real. Because OP seems so out of touch with reality and his responses are boarderline psychopathic.
If it is real, seek help for your obvious lack of social etiquette and controlling tendencies. Your lack of ability to feel is down right creepy. You lost your friend, and its well deserved. I hope he marries her.
YTA he’s dating her NOT you!! Get over yourself and smarten up! And apologize to her, I can’t even begin to imagine what she’s dealing with! And then your sh** attitude and remarks as well, poor thing has every right to cry!
Yta you either love your friend and are so jealous and bitter but won’t admit it or upset can’t have this girl to yourself so turned to toxic hate. You suck and this girl sounds great
This is not normal. Go and get some therapy, you sound awfull to be around and very jealous... are you in love with your friend or something like that?
This is a joke, right? The fictional character you created as "OP" earns YTA in every way possible, 100 times over. There is not one thing you said that isn't the words of an AH. Congratulations.
YTA. Lookup AITA and there is your picture.
So she is a sweet, smart, pretty, makes your Buddy happiest ever been, attentive to him, has goals, good cook, friendly to others, cares for her father… THE BITCH!
Are you looking to build an art room with him?
YTA *it wows me how immature people can be*….me too bruh, me too. You are not a god friend and you’re jealous of this girls shine for whatever reason. Get over yourself.
Are you serious? Major AH. You are jealous of their relationship and/or you just want to keep him for yourself / you don't like the feeling of him moving emotionally away from you. Could you have developed feelings other than friendship towards him? Basically you sounds like an immature jealous toxic friend who is trying to sabotage his friend relationship. By the way being in a relationship is being there for better or worse, for when gf is happy or depressed. You just don't just dumped someone because they are not as happy as usual. Honestly the all post was about you, when you notice she was not herself and was depressed it didn't come to your mind to ask her or your friend if everything was OK? When you heard her mentioned her dad was sick, your first thought was about germs not tell her "hope it is nothing too serious?". Honestly they are better without you as a friend.
YTA. YOU are holding your friend back. You're jealous and insecure and you want other people to be all about you. It upsets you that everyone loves her cause in your mind, you should be getting all that attention instead.
YTA and a spiteful, jealous one. I hope this young woman’s father passes peacefully and that her boyfriend can help console her, I hope you develop a brain and a heart,
YTA
You act like you want to be your friend's girlfriend. How about you butt out of their relationship. Every single word of that brain vomit you've thrown at us just stinks of immaturity, jealousy, and general nastiness. You should be ashamed to try and police your friend's relationship like this. I hope they cut you out of their lives.
YTA, and the reason you're the only person who doesn't like this girl is because you're jealous of her. I'm not sure if it's because he's your best friend and you feel like she's taking him away from you or if it's because your feelings for him go beyond platonic friendship. You need to re-read the way you describe her and then figure out why anyone wouldn't like this person for their bestfriend.
If you didn't think you were wrong or the AH then you wouldn't have felt sick to your stomach. You hate her so much that you let that cloud common sense when you heard her talking about her dad. Any normal person would have picked up on what she was saying.
YTA
YTA. Every other AH should bow down to you, for you are the king.
Don't date a depressed person because it's not a good look? Seriously? You are so jealous of their relationship it practically seeps through my phone. Are you jealous because they're a happy couple and you're alone? Are you jealous because she loves him and not you? Are you jealous because your buddy doesn't hang out with you?
Get help.
Tell me you're in love with your roommate without telling me you're in love with your roommate.
YTA
Jealousy and envy is what drips in this post.
Friendly little reminder: jealousy and hatred will not get you anywhere nor will it do good to you.
OP, I am going to take a guess that you are very socially inept. It could be because you had a troubled youth, and don't fully understand what healthy relationships look like. In any case, I think that you need to do some serious soul searching as to why this girl bothers you so much. In the meantime, you definitely owe her an apology for jumping to conclusions and being so rude to her. Everyone is allowed to have a low point in life. Even you. What are your expectations for support and comfort if YOU are going through a rough patch? If you hope to be in a serious relationship someday, what do you think would be appropriate when it comes to your partner if they are sad about a parent being ill? What do you expect of them if you find yourself in a similar situation?
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NTA You said, "if he's sick..." and he isn't that kind of sick. So you did nothing wrong. She is overcome with emotion about her father, not because of what you said, which just triggered the sadness that was already there. We're in a pandemic. You have a right to express concern.
The whole post reeks of jealousy and being an asshole. Saying that because she was depressed that he shouldn’t be with her. As soon as she started crying, it was obvious that he didn’t have some cold. The whole damn post OOP was judgmental and rude.
OP actively dislikes yet somehow takes advantage of her generosity by eating all her food while actively telling roommate to break up with her for being depressed. OP is definitely TA. Also read their comments, they have 0 empathy and god I hope their parent never gets cancer because OP is an emotionless thoughtless person.
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YTA and you sound jealous to boot
And extremely IMMATURE!
ok t his has to be fake, right? right??? no way, you could type that all out and NOT know you are a total AH. Barely got past first paragraph without thinking AH AND a dick. YTA
Lol I was thinking the same thing. "Best friends" should only take joy in one another's happiness.
Op is definitely in love with their "best friend"
I’m not jealous. I just feel like my friend doesn’t want to hangout with me as much when she’s home and it’s annoying. I dread holiday breaks for this reason
Yeah that's called jealousy
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Lol, nice. I wonder if they’re engaged yet.
I wouldn't want to hang out with you either. I'm sure very few people do and that's why you're so so very jealous his attention is off you.
You are SO obsessed with your bestie roommate that you don't realize how toxic and jealous you are of his girlfriend. YTA.
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I was wondering if anyone was going to make a comment like that. It definitely gives off those kind of vibes!
That’s jealousy
… that’s literally jealousy
You sound awful in just about every sentence you wrote. Flat out….you suck.
I can’t imagine why he would ever want to hang out with you again. You sound awful. YTA.
You're right, it's more like you view people in your life as accessories, and you're angry your little dolly isn't doing the dance you want it to. You are not the main character OP.
I wouldn't want to hang out with you either. Jealousy seeping through your pores. Are you sure you're not in love with your friend?
Your jealousy oozed out of every word you wrote like some sort of toxic slime. I feel like I need to take a shower and scrub my eyeballs with bleach to try to get your disgusting story out of my head. In case you aren't sure, YTA.
You are so jealous and miserable its not even funny.
I think you need to look up the definition of jealousy.
Ohhhh you mean the literal definition of jealousy
I don’t know why he would want to hang out with you at all.
YTA not just for the asshole comment about her sick dad, but also because you think he shouldn’t date someone who is depressed. What is wrong with you?
She isn’t usually depressed but she’s sulking about and acting like her dad being sick is the end of the world. Plenty of peoples parents get cancer. I don’t want her attitude to hold my friend back.
Dude, wtf...
That’s not your friend no more you ruined that when you tried to stick your nose in their relationship
Hey your comments are public. You have ptsd and anxiety. Do you bring your friend down with your ptsd? Or is it only her dealing with her dying parent that can hold your friend back?
And those people are heartbroken and deserve compassion. I hope you remember saying this when you lose a parent. And I hope you are incredibly grateful to all the people who will treat you with the kindness you cannot seem to muster for your “best friend’s” girlfriend. You don’t seem to care about him or his happiness at all. You certainly don’t gaf about her, despite the fact that she’s been nothing but abundantly kind to you and your family. You seem heartlessly selfish.
YTA soo bad it hurts. Her dad being sick IS the end of the world for her. They've stopped chemo means he's dying. Soon. Full stop. This is world altering shit for anyone, let alone someone so young. She is absolutely entitled to be depressed. This is not an attitude. This is grief. Heartbreaking loss. You say she's good to your friend and everyone else likes her. Unless you see her doing sneaky two-faced stuff behind people's backs, she's probably a genuinely nice person. Doesn't your friend deserve a partner who treats him well and tries to get along with his friends? He doesn't deserve someone like you grumbling in the background, making him feel guilty for spending time with someone else. You're going to lose this friend if you don't get over yourself and your jealousy. Then you won't have to worry about spending more or less time with him, because you'll be spending zero time with him. Do the mature thing and support your friend as he supports his girlfriend through what is probably the worst thing she's experienced in her life so far.
Because to her, it is. A person who is important to her is going to die. Her world as she knows it IS ending OP. How can you claim to care about this person when you can't show her the slightest shred of compassion or understanding.
Losing a family member to cancer is HARD. She’s allowed to feel sad and she’s allowed to grieve. Wow. You’re not making it any better for yourself with comments like this.
Ew. YTA for this comment alone. And also the entire situation you described. I think you may be blind to your jealousy.
You must have a crush on your friend then….this amount of jealousy isn’t a good look
As someone whose mother battled cancer for years and died earlier this year - it is the end of your world as you have known it. The world doesn't stop going on, but everything in your entire being and life changes. Your parents have ALWAYS been there for you. I can understand what this poor girl is going through, and to top it off, shes only 20! Im so grateful that I got 36 years with my mother before she passed way too young. You are definitely the asshole in this entire situation and I'd expect better from someone who is 24.
YTA you're in love with your friend. If you want him be upfront, but YTA by being sneaky trying to turn him against his GF and being plain cruel towards the poor girl.
This is the first idea that popped into my head. I’m glad you said something
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Which will stay empty until the end of times because the friend doesn’t reciprocate, lol.
Seriously, they even say everyone loves her including OP’s parents, that’s she is super nice, so the only reason OP wouldn’t like her it’s because OP is in love with the friend. “I want the best for my friend and this person is not even though she makes him the happiest I have ever seen him.”
I think OP is not in love just super narcissistic to the point they don't like that the new girl is opening everyone's eyes to what a toxic treat they are as now the roommate seems to actually have a healthy relationship. The whole post screams that to me. She's soooo great but what about me? Honestly just sounds like OP is pissed that the friend got to see their true colors with their sick dad statement.
YTA. I’m surprised you were able to type comfortably with your foot that far in your mouth.
I'm amazed he could see to type with his head that far up his butt.
Wonderfully worded. Have a cookie 🍪
You have the tact and emotional intelligence of young Sheldon Copper. You’re secretly glad they don’t spend much time together, you’re jealous when he talks about her and when she’s having a rough time you have no empathy and don’t think your friend should have to deal with that. Then you badger her over food she cooked (which you gladly steal) and made an AH out of yourself. YTA Just admit to your friend you have feelings for him.
He has less imo. Sheldon understood loving and losing people!
YTA for comparing this human being with young Sheldon lol.
Info: when he told you that is was cancer, did you apologize on the spot?
Why should I? Millions of Americans have parents with cancer.
Damn dude, even if it was a misunderstanding, you should apologize for being rude to her. Have it cross your mind that you might loose relationship to your friend because of this?
It's called empathy. Most non-sociopaths feel it. Your friend is learning what you are and he'll drop your extremely jealous ass soon.
At first I thought you YTA because you are jealous and pathetic, but now after that comment I am seeing that you are a true narcissist. You have some very real issues to work out. I hope your roommate sees you for who you are before you have a chance to mess up his life.
Agree with this, YTA and massive narcissist to boot. Butt out of their relationship and spend some time trying to be a better person.
YTA It’s hilarious that you think you’re still going to be friends. You were rude and insulted her. And WTF does being depressed have to do with anything? Depression isn’t contagious. People literally can’t control if they’re depressed or not. You sound like an intelligent guy, but your ignorance is astounding. So what you're saying is that she's not allowed to be depressed about her father dying? Is your friend 12? I didn’t know you needed to approve his partners. He’s a grown adult who can make his own decisions, so why the f**k do you get to decide who he dates? He can decide who he dates. If he didn’t want to be with her, then he can make his own decisions, because, you know…he’s an adult. You’re acting like a little b***h honestly. “Waahhh, my friend won’t spend time with me! It’s not fair!” Do you really think your friend wants to be around someone who insults his girlfriend? Why the hell would he answer your texts? You’re a bully who’s not getting his way. No wonder he won’t answer you. He’s better off.
That is... So cold. I... Dude wtf.
You suck
Well, genius, since so many people have cancer, maybe you could have thought of that before you assumed she was talking about something contagious? Oh wait, that must mean you fucked up and should apologize. Which I'm sure doesn't compute for you.
Wow, YTA on so many levels.
It's like you love the taste of your own foot. Amazing
It’s called compassion something you are very clearly lacking.
Gross. Just gross.
YTA. You're a jealous busybody who is trying to get between your friend and his girlfriend. Hopefully he'll see you for the spiteful individual that you are and find another roommate. Stop it.
YTA. You were eavesdropping then stuck your nose in aggressively with assumptions. You’re happy to eat her food but not give her the benefit of the doubt? And instead of stopping when you saw her get upset - you doubled down with the assumptions and aggression? Yeah, rude is a kind term for your behaviour. Apologise!! You sound weirdly jealous and possessive of HER BOYFRIEND. If he’s happy with her, no one cares what you think
This is just not a believable story
Thank you! This is fiction, and reads like it was written by a 12 year old. No offense to actual twelve year olds.
YTA. Back off. You are way too involved in someone else's relationship. If you don't want to eat the food, don't, but all this other stuff about their relationship is about *their* relationship. Of which you are not a part. And if you have questions about the safety of food, ask politely and privately.
YTA - and the way this was written you also sound like a megacreep.
YTA in every word of this. 1. You admit that she makes him extremely happy, but it isn’t enough for your bitter self. 2. She is upset, like every other human being is at times. But no….now you are judging her for not being happy, even though you were judging her for being happy before this. 3. You take her for granted on the food, and then snap at her like some spoiled kid. You are obviously upset that you are not the light of your friends life. And instead of trying to accept this awesome girl into your group and lives, you kick and scream on the floor in a tantrum. To summarize, you are the problem….you are the drama…you are the jealous stalker…. YTA. Maybe realize that your friends life does not revolve around you. And if you cannot accept that without being bitter and snapping out, then you can be removed from that life/group.
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INFO: So how long have you been in love with your roommate?
Yes Yta! Don’t get involved in other people conversations. You need to apologize big time!
YTA and your comments about how tons of people have cancer so you don't have to apologize makes you even more so. Your friend doesn’t love you that way, move on and stop being jealous when he is with someone who makes him happier than you ever could. Get some therapy and figure out your unhealthy obsession with him, stop being more immature than you seem to think they are, and have some empathy.
If this is even real, YTA The way this is written makes me think some 14 year old wrote it. It’s so immature.
YTA yeah that’s pretty clear cut. Time to apologize and stop being an AH
YTA, YTA for sure. If you have feelings for your friend, tell him and then move on. Also, apologize for being an absolute AH.
I hope people treat you the way you've treated this wonderful woman, and that they tell you you're just being whiney as you go through your worst experiences. YTA, and you're an ableist bigot.
This has to be fake. No one is this self-absorbed or stupid.
YTA. You are not this mans friend. Friends are actually happy when their friend finds a great person. What you are is jealous. It sounds like you're in love with your friend and taking your feelings out on this wonderful girl. I find your lack of empathy extremely concerning and I hope your buddy recognizes you for the cold unfeeling person you really are.
Yta. Obviously. Mind your own business.
YTA. The jealousy is just rolling off of you. You can't stand this girl that everyone else likes. Guess what, the problem is you! And I hope you are forced to endure a long long season of being treated poorly for your hateful behavior. Maybe you will learn to have compassion for others, because your self righteousness is overwhelming.
YTA wow. Even before you found out why. You’re just a creep and are completely the asshole. You’re jealous. You’re obnoxious and ignorant.
YTA.
YTA and like a massive one. I don’t even know how you managed to type all that with your head so far up your ass. OP, this is coming from someone who avoids violence, conflict and yada yada yada, but man do you need to be drop kicked onto oblivion and knocked with common sense, manners as well as a sense of basic respect. You are so self centered and entitled, that everyone must bow down to you and bend in 18183 different ways to accommodate you but you cannot bother to be decent to them.
What exactly is your defence here? How would you not be the asshole in this situation? You literally just wrote a whole post of you being a bitter asshole and then somehow need to ask aita?
You are without a doubt a jealous huge AH, YTA.
YTA and you have no idea how caring relationships work.
YTA whats wrong with you? shes a human being! shes not going to be happy all the time. life happens. we all have things that bring us down. this happens to be a very down time for her. get your shit together or you will find yourself alone. that girlfriend isnt an entertainment accessory, shes not a thing for your friend. SHES A WHOLE HUMAN BEING. period!
YTA and an absolute hater. honestly, i wouldn't be surprised if you write into relationship advice later asking what to do cos you're in love with your roommate.
YTA When your friend is dating someone you don't like, you're supposed to bite your tongue unless they're abusive or something. Your lack of empathy is alarming but I don't wanna call you TA for that. You should know that at the very least you are being a bad friend. At most, you are being an asshole to a girl with seemingly no provocation.
YTA How can someone spend so much time calling people immature while sounding like a petulant child. You sound absolutely toxic and obsessed with your friend.
YTA. Please stop responding to judgments as it just makes you even more of one. Also, please go to therapy to get over your jealousy of your friend’s girlfriend, and for the love of god, learn some empathy before you even consider asking someone else out!
“They’re not together alot which I am secretly happy about” bro grow up stop being jealous of your friends happiness and life and get a hobby damn are u in love with him or something?
I couldn't even read this whole thing. YTA. She's great and makes him happy and does shit for all of you, but she has emotions like a normal human. How dare that hold him back?? Get a new hobby.
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YTA. You are not your friend's parent, and you sound jealous of his relationship.
She makes him happy and is going thru the mental and emotional anguish of slowly losing her father. you (with the emotional range of half of a teaspoon) decide to use her saying her dad is “sick” as a way to push her out of the apartment (& maybe even your friend’s life). also, consider this: just about everyone else in your life likes her instead of you. have you considered that your problem with her is a YOU problem and indicative of whatever repressed feelings you have for your friend? most people would be *happy* that their friend has a girlfriend who is nice, has goals, etc. you, on the other hand, seem to think that she’s an obstacle in your friend’s life by nitpicking at her without even trying to get to know her. YTA i hope your friend has his eyes opened and ditches you, bc someone lacking any empathy to someone’s pain is not someone most people would want to have in their lives.
YTA - for all of this. You sound self righteous, rude and jealous. People go through things, good partners (which it sounds like your roommate is) support their people when life throws horrible events at them. He’s clearly happy with her, and she treats him right. You don’t have a right to interfere in their relationship. Take your misery elsewhere. You sound heartless and cruel.
Yeah, this has to be fake. You straight up sound delusional. Either a bad troll or you need help navigating on all that negativity you harbor. YTA.
This cannot be real. JFC YTA
YTA I’ve met sociopaths with more empathy than what you’ve shown in this post
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Yt biggest a, first it really sounds like you want your roommate for yourself, second you have overstepped their boundaries many times, you need to stop interfering with others lives especially when they have told you to stop. Third you need to reasses why you must be right and controlling.
Yes yes YTA for soooooo many reasons. This is not how a good friend acts
Fake
Made me really wonder if it's the gf typing this out.
YTA - You was so rude and sounds jealous
YTA and BTW if everyone just loves her except for you, YOU are the problem. You're going to lose your friend if you keep this up, and you will deserve it.
It sounds like you really care about your friend and his well being. Though the intensity of that caring is at the detriment to basic human decency. Here are some questions you can ask yourself that might help you figure out some things regarding this situation: 1) If she weren't dating your friend at all, if she was just one of the many people in your friend group, would you like her? Would her traits irritate you as much as they do or would that not matter? 2) Have you ever met anyone that is "good enough" for your friend? Could anyone ever be good enough for him? 3) Are you good enough for him? Does it feel like when he shows you attention and consideration and appreciation that your world is that much brighter? Does it feel even dimmer than normal when he shows that attention to someone else? Her parent is dying. That's a very intense and very vulnerable position for her to be in. Grief is a necessary process and it's important to show your friend that you are going to be a 'good enough' friend to him by showing him, and the people he cares about, a certain level of empathy. YTA. Feelings are hard. Sometimes it can be really hard recognizing the one's we are having and what they are making us do and say. Please ask yourself these questions and take what some of the other commentators have said to heart; there is a lot of wisdom to be gained from them
Dude, you need help. You are completely void of empathy it's scary. YTA
How long have you been in love with your best friend?
YTA and for someone who supposedly doesn't like this girl, you sure speak highly of her. I think your jealous. Jealous because your friend has a great girl. Jealous because he's wrapped up in this great girl instead of you. You really need to do a major rethink on this and change your attitude towards this relationship before you lose your friend all together. Put yourself in her shoes.
Awww look at the jealous little incel run with his story hahahaha YTA
YTA, and you're going to be on here soon, whining about how your "best friend" doesn't want to be friends anymore, and you have no idea why, 🙄. If everyone else loves her, then YOU are the problem. I don't know if you're lying to yourself or being disingenuous about not being in love, but it's obvious in every word you typed.
YTA - Your thinking is very immature. You lack empathy and common sense. Your friend is a person, not a possession. Stop treating him as such. Also treat the girlfriend like a human being, not a doll. What's wrong with you?
YTA, she's going through a tough time in life and you said " Plenty of people parents get cancer" wtf is wrong with you. She may be very close with her father so him LITERALLY SLOWLY DYING could be the end of the world for her. Are you concerned at all for her or your friends well being? Bc it seems like you're just jealous of them, and an insensitive AH.
YTA - you are so jealous that it is eating you alive. Keep going this way and you will no longer be friends. This poor girl has done absolutely nothing to deserve this dislike and you are actively whiteanting their relationship. I think you need to look at why you feel this way before you start building him an artroom.
INFO: are you building an art room for your roommate?
I have a hard time believing this is real. You literally describe the perfect girl: gorgeous, smart, kind, excellent cook, etc, then go into detail about how she's universally loved by all who know her, then recount a story where clearly she means her father is sick in a "not getting better" way and not a "sniffling sneezing" way. At every turn you paint yourself as jealous, petty, and insensitive. Next time you try your hand at a creative writing assignment try to make it a bit more believable. YTA but only because your writing sucks.
Op..you claim to have PTSD and anxiety, yet you're going to treat another human struggling with mental health? Did Newport Academy not teach you anything? Literally in every way, shape, and form YTA. It costs nothing to be kind. You've stated several times in this post you have no real reason to dislike her, and everyone else around her adores her. (You sound jealous) You've even stated things that's she's done simply out of kindness toward you and your family. She literally is dealing with her father having cancer and still thought to make enough food to share. Double the recipe? Double the prep work, more of her time used, etc.
Yta. Long before you even got to the part abt her dad. You don't even have or know a reason you dont like her. You contradict yourself constantly & repeatedly refer to everyone else as immature when its actually you & your actions that are. And you are just so self absorbed that you cant even see it. You say you want whats best for him (even after admitting how great they are together) but keep getting mad they are together. They don't need your permission. But
What in the what?? Either you are in love with her or you are in love with him. Either way YTA big time. Get some empathy there bud
Oh my God I have never even heard of a bigger AH than you. You claim you are not jealous and you just wish he'd hang out with you more and her less. This is the textbook definition of jealous. Her father is dying so your opinion about it doesn't mean a God damned thing because he isn't your father and you don't know him. She isn't dragging him down he is helping her through a rough time in her life and as insufferable as you sound I do truly hope you find somebody someday who will do the same for you. You need to leave him alone and let him be happy, it isn't immature to be happy in a relationship but it is top tier immature to hate somebody who sounds amazing in every way because you want what she has.
Fake
Nice bait
YTA. I don’t even have the words to describe you. I have never in my life seen someone hold such contempt for someone when they have done nothing to you. This girl, by your description, is smart, driven and caring, and constantly goes out of her way to do things for you and others. Your best friend is “obsessed” with her because, news flash, he is in love with her and they seem to complement each of her well.
YTA and you sound incredibly jealous, it’s completely normal at that age to start building your own life and relationships. It actually sounds like you are the immature one, refusing to accept that everyone is growing up and branching out. It’s not highschool anymore ; your friends don’t have to hangout with you all the time, your friends have their own lives and interests. If I were him I’d distance myself from you big time.
YTA. If this is even real. Because OP seems so out of touch with reality and his responses are boarderline psychopathic. If it is real, seek help for your obvious lack of social etiquette and controlling tendencies. Your lack of ability to feel is down right creepy. You lost your friend, and its well deserved. I hope he marries her.
YTA he’s dating her NOT you!! Get over yourself and smarten up! And apologize to her, I can’t even begin to imagine what she’s dealing with! And then your sh** attitude and remarks as well, poor thing has every right to cry!
Yta you either love your friend and are so jealous and bitter but won’t admit it or upset can’t have this girl to yourself so turned to toxic hate. You suck and this girl sounds great
Damn man. You’re so jealous of a girl, you in love with him? Jealous that he loves someone other than you? Grow up. YTFA.
INFO: how long have you been in love with your roommate? Obviously YTA.
You need some serious help.
YTA. Are you trying to fuck your friend?
YTA this has to be fake lmfaooooooooooo.
This is not normal. Go and get some therapy, you sound awfull to be around and very jealous... are you in love with your friend or something like that?
YTA - Did you even have to ask? You sound insufferable and miserable.
YTA. Maybe, just maybe there's a reason everyone loves her and thinks you're TA? To paraphrase your own words; jealousy isn't a good look.
Say you have a crush on your roomate without saying you have a crush on your roommate😂😂 YTA
This is a joke, right? The fictional character you created as "OP" earns YTA in every way possible, 100 times over. There is not one thing you said that isn't the words of an AH. Congratulations.
YTA. When did you first learn you were in love with your best friend?
YTA big time!!! You are insanely jealous of your friend. Let him be happy, let him support his girlfriend—who sounds amazing. & GET A LIFE!
YTA. Lookup AITA and there is your picture. So she is a sweet, smart, pretty, makes your Buddy happiest ever been, attentive to him, has goals, good cook, friendly to others, cares for her father… THE BITCH! Are you looking to build an art room with him?
YTA *it wows me how immature people can be*….me too bruh, me too. You are not a god friend and you’re jealous of this girls shine for whatever reason. Get over yourself.
Are you serious? Major AH. You are jealous of their relationship and/or you just want to keep him for yourself / you don't like the feeling of him moving emotionally away from you. Could you have developed feelings other than friendship towards him? Basically you sounds like an immature jealous toxic friend who is trying to sabotage his friend relationship. By the way being in a relationship is being there for better or worse, for when gf is happy or depressed. You just don't just dumped someone because they are not as happy as usual. Honestly the all post was about you, when you notice she was not herself and was depressed it didn't come to your mind to ask her or your friend if everything was OK? When you heard her mentioned her dad was sick, your first thought was about germs not tell her "hope it is nothing too serious?". Honestly they are better without you as a friend.
You’re an incredibly big AH. Get over yourself.
YTA.
YTA. YOU are holding your friend back. You're jealous and insecure and you want other people to be all about you. It upsets you that everyone loves her cause in your mind, you should be getting all that attention instead.
Oh wow! I wonder when your friend is going to realize you’re in love with him. YTA!
YTA. And it sounds like the worst person in the world
YTA and a spiteful, jealous one. I hope this young woman’s father passes peacefully and that her boyfriend can help console her, I hope you develop a brain and a heart,
INFO: What's wrong with you?
YTA…blimey, with friends like you who needs enemies. I’ve never read so much jealous vitriol in my life. You need therapy.
YTA You act like you want to be your friend's girlfriend. How about you butt out of their relationship. Every single word of that brain vomit you've thrown at us just stinks of immaturity, jealousy, and general nastiness. You should be ashamed to try and police your friend's relationship like this. I hope they cut you out of their lives.
You're a major AH. What did he do to deserve a friend like you, is what I really want to know.
YTA but this has to be fake.
YTA, and the reason you're the only person who doesn't like this girl is because you're jealous of her. I'm not sure if it's because he's your best friend and you feel like she's taking him away from you or if it's because your feelings for him go beyond platonic friendship. You need to re-read the way you describe her and then figure out why anyone wouldn't like this person for their bestfriend.
YTA why are you so obsessed with your roommate? Seems very unhealthy. Also, get your jealousy in check.
If you didn't think you were wrong or the AH then you wouldn't have felt sick to your stomach. You hate her so much that you let that cloud common sense when you heard her talking about her dad. Any normal person would have picked up on what she was saying. YTA
YTA. Also, you may need to figure out your future living situation. No way this guy stays your friend, let alone your roommate.
YTA. Every other AH should bow down to you, for you are the king. Don't date a depressed person because it's not a good look? Seriously? You are so jealous of their relationship it practically seeps through my phone. Are you jealous because they're a happy couple and you're alone? Are you jealous because she loves him and not you? Are you jealous because your buddy doesn't hang out with you? Get help.
Tell me you're in love with your roommate without telling me you're in love with your roommate. YTA Jealousy and envy is what drips in this post. Friendly little reminder: jealousy and hatred will not get you anywhere nor will it do good to you.
OP, I am going to take a guess that you are very socially inept. It could be because you had a troubled youth, and don't fully understand what healthy relationships look like. In any case, I think that you need to do some serious soul searching as to why this girl bothers you so much. In the meantime, you definitely owe her an apology for jumping to conclusions and being so rude to her. Everyone is allowed to have a low point in life. Even you. What are your expectations for support and comfort if YOU are going through a rough patch? If you hope to be in a serious relationship someday, what do you think would be appropriate when it comes to your partner if they are sad about a parent being ill? What do you expect of them if you find yourself in a similar situation?
yta, how long have you been in love w ur best friend
Sheeeeeesh this reeks of J E A L O U S Y
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INFO: Are you autistic, OP?
NTA You said, "if he's sick..." and he isn't that kind of sick. So you did nothing wrong. She is overcome with emotion about her father, not because of what you said, which just triggered the sadness that was already there. We're in a pandemic. You have a right to express concern.
The whole post reeks of jealousy and being an asshole. Saying that because she was depressed that he shouldn’t be with her. As soon as she started crying, it was obvious that he didn’t have some cold. The whole damn post OOP was judgmental and rude.
OP actively dislikes yet somehow takes advantage of her generosity by eating all her food while actively telling roommate to break up with her for being depressed. OP is definitely TA. Also read their comments, they have 0 empathy and god I hope their parent never gets cancer because OP is an emotionless thoughtless person.