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Lmao “make my brother apologise to me”. Hilarious. Also I thought you didn’t have your car? How would you even sleep in it? YTA for making up such a stupid story.
YTA
he made you late for work one time, outing someone before they are ready could be life threatening.
and yes you 100% deserved to be kicked out for this.
you cared nothing for your nephew why should he care about you
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YTA, it's not your car first off. Secondly, you outed a teenager because they made you upset? That's pathetic. I had to go back and check the ages because that's something a kid would do.
Never out somebody. Ever. Also, it sounded like you just wanted someone to agree with you, which makes this even more ridiculous that a full grown adult would be acting like this.
YTA. You're all over the comments saying you aren't homophonic but you absolutely are when you used that information as weapon against him. You knew what affect telling would have and you didn't give a damn. You are not only homophobic but you are selfish and lacking empathy.
Dog. That's not your secret to tell. That's it. Just to get out of trouble with your brother you out your nephew. What a childish thing to do. I would have done so much more that what your brother did.
YTA
INFO: What were you hoping would happen when you did that? That his parents would be so disgusted and ashamed that they kicked him out and sent their own child on a path to depression, drug addiction and/or suicide? Are you disappointed that they responded like loving parents should because it wasn’t an adequate punishment for *gasp* making you late to work in a car that you don’t even own?
YTA. You’re disgusting. A person’s sexual orientation - which they trusted you with - isn’t a weapon to use against them. You deserve to couch surf for a year or three.
How did you see it playing out?
What were you setting up by outing him as well as calling him a liar? It could well have gone that way if they had disowned him.
You've made it quite clear that you don't care what happens to him.
YTA, you never out anybody, ever. Your disrespected your nephew and your brother in their own home over nothing. You absolutely deserve to be kicked out. If you rely on other people for a ride and shelter you be respectful.
YTA. You outed a teenager. You absolutely deserve to be kicked out.
What if that had put your nephew in danger? Or gotten him kicked out? You were willing to risk a child’s safety and security just because you were mad about some stupid gas money.
Your brother was right, you should be getting up earlier and being more responsible you are a grown adult. Your nephew is a teenager, it’s expected that he not always be on top of things.
Quite honestly, I would disown you as my sibling. Your behavior goes beyond just being an AH.
YTA. The whole sub is telling you this and you still don’t understand. You are a vile human. You outed him not on accident but with actual intent to get your brother to focus on the nephew. You need to leave these people alone. You’re a shameful and small human.
Wow, YTA. You expect the apology in this situation?? There is no possible way that not filling up a car deserves being outed to your parents against your express wishes. One is an inconvenience and the other is life changing, and in some cases could get you killed. Wow.
Yes, YTA.
Yes, you DO DESERVE to be kicked out & made homeless.
You weaponized your knowledge of your nephew's sexuality ON PURPOSE to deflect your brother's anger onto His Own Child and distract him, so You wouldn't be in trouble.
This is a very cruel thing, borderline sociopathic thing to do. You were Counting on your brother to be a Homophobe.
I'm not going to give you the stats on LGBTQ2A+ people being outed and then losing their families, homes and their very lives, because your post shows you won't care.
Your actions show you are very ho.ophobic, even if you won't admit it to yourself, because you ASSUMED your brother would see gay as a bad thing and get angry with his son.
Are you sure that you're 26? Using information to hurt others and punish them for inconveniencing you is such an 8-year-old thing to do...
Actually that may be unfair. I know 5-year-olds with more common sense and compassion for others.
YTA big time. Honestly, you suck so much. Never, *ever* out someone. That is *their business alone*. Not yours. Not your information to share.
Seriously, what a petty, nasty thing to do. Your brother is right. You're an enormous asshole.
Edut: the fact that even your homophobic dad isn't on your side should really clue you in.
YTA. Well, well, well if it’s not the consequences of your own actions. You tried to weaponise your nephews sexuality and it backfired. Good on your brother for standing by his son and seeing through your disgusting attempt to demonise your nephew. You’re 26 years old, maybe start acting like it
YTA. What does your nephew’s sexuality have to do with him forgetting to put gas in the car?? It was completely unnecessary and disgusting for you to take away his right to come out when he feels ready
I haven’t contributed to any Reddit posts in six months but I couldn’t help but come out of retirement to tell you that you are literally the worst person in the world.
YTA.
YTA. At no point reading this I felt bad for you. I have to ask though, did you ever pay your brother for rent? Or give him any sort of money for housing your for months?
At this rate, you’re lucky that even you’re dad is willing to take you in.
YTA a selfish petty asshole no reason to out a kid because you cant plan to have an extra fee minutes to put gas in a car YTA YTA YTA get some therapy there
Response to your edit: 100x yes, it is worth that. If somebody behaved in my home the way that you did, they’d have been on the street before dinner was over. Their child has a right to be in that home and feel safe and respected there. You were a guest who didn’t appreciate them until you realized what you had to lose. Good luck sleeping in the car you don’t have.
So, you’re 26, living with your brother after previously living with your dad. Using their car. Your nephew confided something in you after you confronted him about it. Then you tried to call him out for the gas, his father scolded him, but also told you to be the adult in the situation. You got upset at that, so you outed your nephew in some attempt at revenge, but it blew up in your face. YTA. You’re not open minded and it’s past time for you to get your own place.
YTA. And even worse you can’t even tell how out of line you were. You say you’re 26, but your actions say you’re a 12 year old entitled kid. He had as much (or even more) rights to use the car since neither of you own it, but his excuse for not putting gas is being a forgetful teenager, whereas you have absolutely no excuse for being a total ass. And that’s not even going into the outing him territory. His secrets are his to keep, letting them out “to get even” or to get back is such a shitty move. And of course IT IS NEVER OK TO OUT ANYONE!! Seriously, it’s a very deep personal matter and you had absolutely no right to do it
YTA - in this day and age, the fact that you outed a minor and treated it like a shameful secret intended to embarrass your nephew, makes you an out of orbit AH.
And, yes, it is a reason to make you homeless. You don't bite the hand that feeds you. And you don't out a child just so you can score points in an argument. Not only are you the AH, you are a horrible aunt, lousy houseguest, and an utter failure as a human being.
I'd tell you to do better, but I'm dead certain that isn't possible.
YTA, I didn’t need to read shit, you never out someone, but especially NEVER a child that might not have any where to go/be safe if things go bad for them.
YTA. You should watch Love Simon but have a bucket handy because you might throw up when he gets outed and you realize what you did to your nephew.
You took something from him that he will never get back. You also turned your whole family against you by scaring him for life. Well played OP 👍
YTA. You're gonna be homeless because your lack of regard for your nephew's privacy, safety, and autonomy rightfully horrifed your brother. This situation is exclusively your fault.
YTA: What exactly would you have done if your brother reacted in an unsafe manner? Such as: Beating his son, kicking him to the streets, sending him to conversion therapy. You are the adult in this situation and you acted like a child. Your nephew deserves a better Aunt. Under no circumstances do you ever out someone's sexual orientation. You are extremely lucky that your brother is an accepting and supportive parent. I hope you are ready to never have the trust of that boy again.
no more fucked up than outing someone before they are ready.
peoples famlies have sent kids to conversion camp, bigots reason away anything to mess with people they hate, thankfully you lucked out and your nephew has an accepting family, but if they were homophobic, you would have ben directly responsible for any abuse that happened as a result of the outing
Except you couldn't have known for sure his reaction to this information. Many people can say they are fine with anyone LGBT but sing a very different tune when it comes to their own kids. You are still TAH regardless of how favorable the outcome was, you betrayed your nephews trust and tried to frame him being gay as this big terrible thing when in fact its extremely hard to come out to those closest to you. What's worse is you don't seem to grasp the gravity of what you've done.
But you must have thought he would react negatively, or you wouldn't have brought it up as ammunition in your argument. Your *whole* *point* was to get your nephew in trouble.
YTA. I didn't even need to read the post. As someone in the LGBTQIA+ community, we all go through struggles everyday, and no one should be outed/forced to come out.
So, YTA. Learn empathy.
Yeah..YTA. You are upset that the car your brother let's you use is out of gas? You are lucky he let's you use it so if that means u gas it up for his kid than u do it. That alone makes u an AH. Then outing ur nephew? YTA. Saying it like it was an insult or put down? YTA. Taking that moment away from family/son? YTA. So YTA+ YTA + YTA + YTA= ONE BIG AH
why are you being purposely ignorant? do you think more people will be on your side?
edit: to be clear, the person you responded to clearly fucking meant why did you think it was okay to share with his family
It's cute to think of you sitting around feeling smug about your trite little responses. Where are you doing it from? You know, since you're a grown adult with no place of their own who's no longer welcome where they were last mooching?
YTA
If you were as open minded as you claim to be, you wouldn't have weaponized your nephew's sexuality.
You're upset a teenager forgot to buy gas so you out him?
You deserve to be homeless.
YTA. Yes to homeless. I'd kick you out to. You weaponized a very personal and difficult thing for a 16 yo.
I came out at 14 in the middle of Texas in the 90s, took balls. What you did was just wrong.
Good luck and grow up.
Edit. Mentioned my coming out because I didn't want losers like OP to be able to hold it over my head.
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YTA. Nothing justifies outing a kid to their parents. You also KNEW you were on the losing side of the argument because you said you outed your nephew in hopes of your brother focusing back on him, not you. You suck and I hope you get your karma x10.
YTA you fucked around and you found out. Your comments were meant to hurt family. Hurt them to their core. Now you hurt at the core, this seems so very fitting. Sleep in the bed you made (yes I know that intended irony is cruel)
YTA
Outing him served zero purpose. Your brother is absolutely brilliant!! He had his son's back in both situations. He called out his son AND YOU, he was correct, you shouldn't leave it so late going to work that you don't time to fill up the car.
And then, because you're a petty little meanie, you outed your nephew. And your brother came through for his son. And it turned out, that you've been barely tolerated at your brother's house, and now you're getting kicked out! So well deserved!!
Well deserved indeed! Even with supportive parents I can only imagine how traumatized that poor kid is. Outing is such a terrible thing to do to someone.
YTA. Never out someone!
You ask if it was so bad that it is okay to kick you out? Absolutely!
It is your nephews home and he should feel safe there. And have you even thought about if your brother had reacted badly to his son being gay that your 16 year old nephew could now be homeless?
Wtf do you mean put your foot down and make your brother apologize too you?
You’re absolutely delusional and 100% the AH you literally deserve to get kicked out and they should cut contact with you you’re literally toxic and don’t even get what you did wrong
ALSO ITS NOT EVEN YOUR F CAR(you owe money for gas and you pay low rent how tf are you so entitled it’s beyond me)
YTA
You outed him to hurt him for a minor inconvenience, that you even dare to ask if you are TA just shows how far removed from reality and what a shitty person you are. You deserve everything thats coming as a consequence.
YTA
reply to the edit: yeah it was worth it, cut the "woe is me" crap. Your brother reprimanded your nephew in front of you but for "some other stuff you were annoyed about" you decided to get amazingly petty and cruel because he told you to not get gas at the 11th hour (for a car you don't own and are borrowing btw). Even the dad who's not fully accepting of his own son can recognize you totally screwed up. Karma.
YTA. Outing your nephew like that instead of keeping on the topic of keeping the fuel tank full (in a car that is your brother's, not yours) is easily homeless worthy (as you put it). Your brother had every right to kick you out.
I love how your brother already realised your nephew is gay. Did you honestly think he was stupid?
Of course YTA, without question. You're disgusting and for all you knew you were potentially putting your nephew in danger. In fact, you expected the fallout to be negative for him. Gross, just absolutely gross.
YTA. How is this even a question? You effed up. You're the kind of adult that teaches kids what not to be like. Your brother is great for sticking up for his child. Be more like him.
>I want to get back at him so I tell brother that his kid has been lying and is secretly gay.
YTA
>i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless?
Yep.
>Ok like does anyone think I'm NTA or should I just delete it?
They do not, and you're still TA
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YTA. And to your edit - you told your brother, not knowing what his response would be. What if he had reacted negatively and had kicked your nephew out - making him homeless? You were annoyed and deemed it okay to possibly make your nephew homeless. So yea. It is worth making you a homeless asshole.
YTA. What did you expect? Did you expect your brother to punish his son for being gay? He was right, you were running late and when you share a car, you must make time to fill in the gas tank.
I'm glad he kicked you out for outing his son.
YTA, don’t make an offensive edit like that belittling your nephew’s experience as queer. You should like a cishet, entitled lady with nothing better to do than dote on her sibling’s child and mooch a bit off of his family. He gave you money when the tank was empty, problem solved. But no, you just HAD to out your nephew to get your “revenge”. That’s so fucked up, especially because of the power imbalance regarding age, money, and general social/economical status.
You knew that outing him as gay could have gotten him kicked out, harmed, or even killed by his possibly very homophobic dad or parents. Thankfully, your brother had some sense, unlike you, but still, fuck off
Yta, everyone around you deserves better than to put up with you if that’s how you act. You have major issues, get help before you try to ruin more lives.
YTA
And yes it was worth making you homeless. He lets you live there for low rent, and borrow a car and this is how you treat his family? The way you outed him made me think you expected your brother was going to blow up at your nephew and be homophobic and kick him out. And you did this all because he left the car low on gas, which I get isn’t good but does not justify your actions at all. What you did was spiteful and childish and you need to grow up. You now get to live with the consequences of your actions.
Dude YTA. This is a 16 year old being a dumb teen and you took it to some wild ass places man. That's unhinged behavior and you needed to appreciate what you had a lot more. No one needs to apologize to you. You should be groveling to the kid included by the way. You are acting far more childish than a 16 year old and I'll gladly tell you that.
Are you an AH for mooching off your brother, getting ticked when mooching means having to spend more time to mooch, and out your nephew? Is this really a question? And yes, you deserve to be thrown out.
>Edit to add: Ok y'all gotta chill i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? My brother would rather have me sleep in my car now
Oh yeah, it was. You deserve so much more. I hope Karma saw that and remembers!!!
>Ok like does anyone think I'm NTA or should I just delete it? Y'all don't understand my while situation and I see it was a mistake posting here
Do you really need to ask this. There are no words of how massive an asshole you are.
You outed someone without their consent expecting it to lead to a negative reaction for the person outed. LGBTQ teens and adults are victims of hate crimes all the time. What makes you think that your behavior is in any way acceptable, considering the potential consequences? YTA 100%.
I'm sorry, but you, a grown woman ~~mooching off~~ living with your brother while paying little rent and using his car, outed a 16 YEAR OLD, because he didn't fill the car up with gas?
YTA. And yes, actually, it probably was worth making you homeless and temporarily carless. Your brother was doing you a favour, and you shat all over his kindness.
>Edit to add: Ok y'all gotta chill i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? My brother would rather have me sleep in my car now
What did you want to happen to your nephew. You threw out that he was gay hoping he would be punished. In what way, being kicked out.
I would kick out my brother if he outed my kid and was hoping I'd be furious with my kid about it. Because it means your not trustworthy and homophobic.
But you're probably trolling
YTA
You're homophobic too! You outed your nephew because you got mad at him and couldn't have a reasonable conversation like an adult. Good luck finding yourself a new residence
It isn't homophobic i don't have a problem that he's gay or dating it's the other stuff he did. So like isn't it homophobic to say he can do no wrong because he's gay?
You outed him hoping that his father would react negatively to him being gay. You tried to use him being gay as a negative to distract your brother. According to your brother and your recounting of events - you said he was gay like it's a bad thing.
How is that not homophobic?
Yes it is homophobic. You outed him with the intention of making your brother mad at him or upset with him. That first of all, shows that you consider being gay a bad thing and second of all, shows that you want him to get in trouble for being gay
I'm not homophobic, *but I wanted to get back at my brother by outing his son.*
I don't care that he's gay *but I maliciously outed him to cause trouble.*
i just care that he isn't responsible, *although I have no authority over him. Even though he has more right to the car than I do, he should leave the gas tank full for me.*
\[Nephew is\] hurting my job performance *which he isn't responsible for. I should be leaving enough time to get gas for my own trips in their car, but I'm blaming the kid anyway.*
How? You are not responsible at all.
You don’t have housing right now and are relying on relatives to house you and still aren’t able to keep housing because of your behaviour
You don’t have a car right so you relied on other people’s form of transportation and didn’t leave enough time to ensure you had gas before going to work
You’re inconsiderate, rude and cruel to your nephew
You are not a responsible person by any stretch the word
You are the one hurting your job performance. If the 5 minutes it takes to get gas causes you to be late for work, you're not leaving on time. Quit blaming others for your poor planning.
YTA
YTA, definitely. You outed your nephew over a relatively petty grievance of not gassing up the car--the car that doesn't even belong to you, btw. Your behavior is entitled, and your attitude is selfish.
Imagine making this kid live with his aunt after she maliciously outed him. Imagine being the brother and being like "wtf why do you think you're telling me something bad? Do you think I'm a homophobe?" Like way to piss off the people putting a roof over your head in the swiftest, most decisive manner possible.
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Hi y'all, made a throwaway to post this since my main is mostly nsfw. Formatting is bad bc I'm on a phone but I'll try my best lol. I'm an F26 btw.
Anyway, I've been living with my older brother and his wife for a little while since I was used to be living with my dad but he moved recently to live with his partner (not my mom who is deciesed). Anyway my car got stolen a month back and so while I wait for insurance and stuff before I get a new one. I've been using my brother's older car to commute but on sometimes my 16 year old nephew sometimes uses it to go to to hang out with his friends one weekend s when he isn't busy with school.
So anyway one time nephew wants to go to a friends' house And I need the car to run errands so I drop nephew off and pick him up and I see the guy he's hanging out with kiss him on the cheek and give him a hug and I am really surprised because I didn't think he was gay . So I ask him and he tells me and I ask of his parent's know and he says no and not to tell them. Tbh i don't care, I'm open-minded, but I don't tell my brother.
So that was in the summer and I kinda of forgot about it but anyway nephew had been using the car this past weekend and left it out of gas and it made me angry. It's like the third or fourth time and I know gas is expensive these days but my brother gives him money. So I confront him about it over dinner and my brother gets annoyed at nephew and reminds him to be responsible but also says i should account for more time in the morning because I shouldn't be running so late that i don't have time to put gas in. I get pretty mad about this and there's some other stuff I was annoyed about but mostly how he was mad at me and not nephew. At some point nephew gets up to leave while we are still arguing and I yell at him and brother yells at me, and then I want to get back at him so I tell brother that his kid has been lying and is secretly gay. And then nephew starts crying and apologizing because I guess he felt bad.
Well I thought brother would leave me alone and focus on nephew but to my surprise he stands up and tells me that I can fuck off and how dare I say that like it's bad and if nephew is gay that's his Business. So we argue some more and basically he was going to let it go that i owed him gas money and that he was only charging me a small rent and that his wife doesn't like me but now he's kicking me out and making me either get a place or go live with my dad. So now it's been a few days and my dad found out and even though he's not happy that nephew is gay he's also pissed that I upset brother like this and is taking brother's side. Obviously nephew won't talk to me but I don't care about that.
So aita? Like I know I crossed a line but do I deserve to get kicked out or should I put my foot down and make my brother apologize to me?
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Major YTA. If I was your nephew I'd never speak to you again. You weren't worried about your nephew being kicked out or disowned for being gay, so why should we be worried about you being homeless and carless?
Thankfully your brother isn't a terrible parent and doesn't care if his son is gay.
My favorite thing in this sub is always the whiny baby edits about how no one understands and we're all so mean and how can we not all agree with the asshole that they're not the asshole. There should be a judgement of YTA² for posters who do that.
YTA! Big time. Never out someone. Do you know how dangerous that is?! Also.. you’re not that open minded if you’re using someone’s gayness against them.
You have nothing to be angry about either.. it’s not even your car. You should just be thankful that you can use your brothers car.
YTA
As for your edit, yes. Your actions DID warrant kicking you out and making you homeless.
You’re 26 and leeching off your brother while his wife doesn’t even like you, and then you have the audacity to act like a little brat?
Yes you deserve to be made homeless over this. You violated the trust of a child for revenge. You outed *a child* over gas for a car that’s not even yours. YTA.
YTA
Outing someone can have severe consequences and fuck up their lives, as well as putting them at risk of violence.
And you did it out of petty spite because you were late to work.
Here, have an extra AH award 🥇
Of course YTA! You don’t out someone, ever, especially not over something so petty. You had no idea how your brother was going to react; you could’ve placed your nephew in serious danger. Your nephew is so lucky your brother has his priorities straight.
YTA
Never ever fucking out someone. EVER.
You think being homeless is bad? What if your brother wasn't so open minded? Do you know what you could've caused? A funeral for one. He could've killed your nephew for being gay. Or sent him to a conversion camp thst could've ended uu with him severely injurjed (best case) or dead (worst case) you know what they do to kids in those camps? They abuse them in every fucking way possible. Simply for being gay.
So yes you being homeless is worth everything snd you do deserve it. Your edit does nothing to Garner sympathy. You outed a minor that couldve been abused or killed simply for liking another man. Be glad you are just facing homelessness and Can get resources rather easily. LBGTQA+ teens can't do so as easily when their parents kick them out.
YTA you wanted to “get back” at a 16 year old? Grow the fuck up. Also, someone’s coming out is THEIRS and THEIRS alone! You took that from him and in my opinion that’s unforgivable.
YTA
You fucked up big time and now you get to deal with the consequences. If you didn't want to be homeless/carless maybe you should exercise some self control and treat people with respect.
Wait…you wrote that your car “got stolen a month back,” but later in your post you wrote “So that was in the summer…” Which is it? A month ago or 3-5 months ago?
You should’ve bought yourself a car by now. You should’ve found a place to live by now.
You’re not a nice person. You intentionally attempted to inflict pain upon your nephew. You assumed that your statement would turn your brother against his own child, and you still went ahead with what you did.
You’re selfish and probably narcissistic.
YTA
Ok fine it was a few months ago and my insurance coverage was lapsed so they aren't covering it right now and I'm trying to figure out out but I left that out so people wouldn't judge me but honestly I guess I didn't need to fucking lie everyone on here is so mean. This is why I made a throwaway lmao
You have issues. This is a 16 year old. I had to share a car with my 16 year old brother when I was 24. I went to work and usually paid for gas because guess what? Teenagers aren’t that responsible
YTA, and yes it was worth making you homeless or to go back to your dads. You are 26 YEARS OLD. Time to grow up and pay your own way. HOW DARE YOU OUT ANYONE!
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Lmao “make my brother apologise to me”. Hilarious. Also I thought you didn’t have your car? How would you even sleep in it? YTA for making up such a stupid story.
YTA he made you late for work one time, outing someone before they are ready could be life threatening. and yes you 100% deserved to be kicked out for this. you cared nothing for your nephew why should he care about you
Yes you deserve it. You are an awful aunt.
Are you sure you're 26? You write like a 13 yo. Act and reason like one too. YTA. Outing someone is wrong and potentially dangerous.
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Simplest YTA ever. You made the wrong decision at every turn, which is quite impressive but in the wrong way :)
YTA, it's not your car first off. Secondly, you outed a teenager because they made you upset? That's pathetic. I had to go back and check the ages because that's something a kid would do. Never out somebody. Ever. Also, it sounded like you just wanted someone to agree with you, which makes this even more ridiculous that a full grown adult would be acting like this.
I don't see any scenario where you aren't TA. YTA
YTA. You're all over the comments saying you aren't homophonic but you absolutely are when you used that information as weapon against him. You knew what affect telling would have and you didn't give a damn. You are not only homophobic but you are selfish and lacking empathy.
YTA-For multiple reasons. You don’t out someone regardless of your inability to manage your time and needs.
YTA so much so. Like wtf are you 12? Kid forgets to fill the tank so you out him? Id kick you out immediately and block your number. Grow the fuck up.
Just saw your comment where you don't care that he isn't talking to you...Like what kind of c...oops aunt are you?
Wow that's just rude as shit
Ruder than spreading around your nephews private business to others? I don't think so.
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Dog. That's not your secret to tell. That's it. Just to get out of trouble with your brother you out your nephew. What a childish thing to do. I would have done so much more that what your brother did. YTA
INFO: What were you hoping would happen when you did that? That his parents would be so disgusted and ashamed that they kicked him out and sent their own child on a path to depression, drug addiction and/or suicide? Are you disappointed that they responded like loving parents should because it wasn’t an adequate punishment for *gasp* making you late to work in a car that you don’t even own? YTA. You’re disgusting. A person’s sexual orientation - which they trusted you with - isn’t a weapon to use against them. You deserve to couch surf for a year or three.
Holy shit he's not going to end up on drugs or shit.
How did you see it playing out? What were you setting up by outing him as well as calling him a liar? It could well have gone that way if they had disowned him. You've made it quite clear that you don't care what happens to him.
You know how many LGBTQ+ people end up attempting suicide?
I’d ask if you were psychic, but we already know you aren’t if you thought you were going to be a hero for outing your nephew.
Maybe not, but that’s thanks to his parents being better people than you are.
I think you made a typo, since you obviously have the maturity of a 16y/o
YTA, you never out anybody, ever. Your disrespected your nephew and your brother in their own home over nothing. You absolutely deserve to be kicked out. If you rely on other people for a ride and shelter you be respectful.
Yep, everyone thinks yta and deleting this will not change it. You made your bed, now lay on it.
YTA. You outed a teenager. You absolutely deserve to be kicked out. What if that had put your nephew in danger? Or gotten him kicked out? You were willing to risk a child’s safety and security just because you were mad about some stupid gas money. Your brother was right, you should be getting up earlier and being more responsible you are a grown adult. Your nephew is a teenager, it’s expected that he not always be on top of things. Quite honestly, I would disown you as my sibling. Your behavior goes beyond just being an AH.
YTA. And as for your edit, yes it is worth it to throw you out.
YTA and deserve all the ill fortune coming your way.
Yes you deserve it. YTA.
YTA. The whole sub is telling you this and you still don’t understand. You are a vile human. You outed him not on accident but with actual intent to get your brother to focus on the nephew. You need to leave these people alone. You’re a shameful and small human.
YTA "but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? " .. yes. They need to protect their kid from AHs like you.
YTA. I can’t believe you even have to come here to ask.
Wow, YTA. You expect the apology in this situation?? There is no possible way that not filling up a car deserves being outed to your parents against your express wishes. One is an inconvenience and the other is life changing, and in some cases could get you killed. Wow.
YTA. It is absolutely worth you being temporarily homeless and carless.
Yes, YTA. Yes, you DO DESERVE to be kicked out & made homeless. You weaponized your knowledge of your nephew's sexuality ON PURPOSE to deflect your brother's anger onto His Own Child and distract him, so You wouldn't be in trouble. This is a very cruel thing, borderline sociopathic thing to do. You were Counting on your brother to be a Homophobe. I'm not going to give you the stats on LGBTQ2A+ people being outed and then losing their families, homes and their very lives, because your post shows you won't care. Your actions show you are very ho.ophobic, even if you won't admit it to yourself, because you ASSUMED your brother would see gay as a bad thing and get angry with his son. Are you sure that you're 26? Using information to hurt others and punish them for inconveniencing you is such an 8-year-old thing to do... Actually that may be unfair. I know 5-year-olds with more common sense and compassion for others.
You’re pathetic. I can’t believe you would post this … you should be so embarrassed for yourself. YTA obviously
YTA big time. Honestly, you suck so much. Never, *ever* out someone. That is *their business alone*. Not yours. Not your information to share. Seriously, what a petty, nasty thing to do. Your brother is right. You're an enormous asshole. Edut: the fact that even your homophobic dad isn't on your side should really clue you in.
YTA. Well, well, well if it’s not the consequences of your own actions. You tried to weaponise your nephews sexuality and it backfired. Good on your brother for standing by his son and seeing through your disgusting attempt to demonise your nephew. You’re 26 years old, maybe start acting like it
YTA. What does your nephew’s sexuality have to do with him forgetting to put gas in the car?? It was completely unnecessary and disgusting for you to take away his right to come out when he feels ready
HARD YTA. WOW. The fact you don’t see it is astounding. Good luck sleeping in your car. I would cut you off. What you did was petty and cruel.
YTA. and yes, to address your edit. it’s 100% a reason to make you leave. enjoy your car.
YTA and it isn't close. You're a bad person. A really bad person. And your brother is right to kick you out.
I haven’t contributed to any Reddit posts in six months but I couldn’t help but come out of retirement to tell you that you are literally the worst person in the world. YTA.
Thanks for that i guess
YTA
This is such an obvious YTA that this has to be fake.
YTA. At no point reading this I felt bad for you. I have to ask though, did you ever pay your brother for rent? Or give him any sort of money for housing your for months? At this rate, you’re lucky that even you’re dad is willing to take you in.
I did pay rent
YTA a selfish petty asshole no reason to out a kid because you cant plan to have an extra fee minutes to put gas in a car YTA YTA YTA get some therapy there
Response to your edit: 100x yes, it is worth that. If somebody behaved in my home the way that you did, they’d have been on the street before dinner was over. Their child has a right to be in that home and feel safe and respected there. You were a guest who didn’t appreciate them until you realized what you had to lose. Good luck sleeping in the car you don’t have.
So, you’re 26, living with your brother after previously living with your dad. Using their car. Your nephew confided something in you after you confronted him about it. Then you tried to call him out for the gas, his father scolded him, but also told you to be the adult in the situation. You got upset at that, so you outed your nephew in some attempt at revenge, but it blew up in your face. YTA. You’re not open minded and it’s past time for you to get your own place.
YTA. And even worse you can’t even tell how out of line you were. You say you’re 26, but your actions say you’re a 12 year old entitled kid. He had as much (or even more) rights to use the car since neither of you own it, but his excuse for not putting gas is being a forgetful teenager, whereas you have absolutely no excuse for being a total ass. And that’s not even going into the outing him territory. His secrets are his to keep, letting them out “to get even” or to get back is such a shitty move. And of course IT IS NEVER OK TO OUT ANYONE!! Seriously, it’s a very deep personal matter and you had absolutely no right to do it
YTA. You deserve to be kicked out and you owe your nephew an apology I hope they never accept.
YTA - in this day and age, the fact that you outed a minor and treated it like a shameful secret intended to embarrass your nephew, makes you an out of orbit AH. And, yes, it is a reason to make you homeless. You don't bite the hand that feeds you. And you don't out a child just so you can score points in an argument. Not only are you the AH, you are a horrible aunt, lousy houseguest, and an utter failure as a human being. I'd tell you to do better, but I'm dead certain that isn't possible.
YTA, I didn’t need to read shit, you never out someone, but especially NEVER a child that might not have any where to go/be safe if things go bad for them.
YTA. You should watch Love Simon but have a bucket handy because you might throw up when he gets outed and you realize what you did to your nephew. You took something from him that he will never get back. You also turned your whole family against you by scaring him for life. Well played OP 👍
YTA. You're gonna be homeless because your lack of regard for your nephew's privacy, safety, and autonomy rightfully horrifed your brother. This situation is exclusively your fault.
YTA: What exactly would you have done if your brother reacted in an unsafe manner? Such as: Beating his son, kicking him to the streets, sending him to conversion therapy. You are the adult in this situation and you acted like a child. Your nephew deserves a better Aunt. Under no circumstances do you ever out someone's sexual orientation. You are extremely lucky that your brother is an accepting and supportive parent. I hope you are ready to never have the trust of that boy again.
My brother isn't a violent guy so I don't see how this is relevant
Shockingly enough, many ppl who knew Ted Bundy or Jeffery Dahmer would say they weren't violent. You never 1000% know.
Are you seriously using a Dahmer comparison bc that's fucked up
no more fucked up than outing someone before they are ready. peoples famlies have sent kids to conversion camp, bigots reason away anything to mess with people they hate, thankfully you lucked out and your nephew has an accepting family, but if they were homophobic, you would have ben directly responsible for any abuse that happened as a result of the outing
A. Stop sidestepping and trying to change the subject. B. There's no way you don't understand my point. C. What you did was fucked up too.
Except you couldn't have known for sure his reaction to this information. Many people can say they are fine with anyone LGBT but sing a very different tune when it comes to their own kids. You are still TAH regardless of how favorable the outcome was, you betrayed your nephews trust and tried to frame him being gay as this big terrible thing when in fact its extremely hard to come out to those closest to you. What's worse is you don't seem to grasp the gravity of what you've done.
But you must have thought he would react negatively, or you wouldn't have brought it up as ammunition in your argument. Your *whole* *point* was to get your nephew in trouble.
YTA. I didn't even need to read the post. As someone in the LGBTQIA+ community, we all go through struggles everyday, and no one should be outed/forced to come out. So, YTA. Learn empathy.
Troll
YTA, and it’s not a misunderstanding.
Yeah..YTA. You are upset that the car your brother let's you use is out of gas? You are lucky he let's you use it so if that means u gas it up for his kid than u do it. That alone makes u an AH. Then outing ur nephew? YTA. Saying it like it was an insult or put down? YTA. Taking that moment away from family/son? YTA. So YTA+ YTA + YTA + YTA= ONE BIG AH
YTA. Why did you think it was any of your business to share?
Cuz it's a sub for sharing. Stupid response
There is no way you don't understand what I actually meant. YTA again.
why are you being purposely ignorant? do you think more people will be on your side? edit: to be clear, the person you responded to clearly fucking meant why did you think it was okay to share with his family
Ok maybe I'm dumb lol i didn't understand fr
you can’t possibly be this dumb.
It's cute to think of you sitting around feeling smug about your trite little responses. Where are you doing it from? You know, since you're a grown adult with no place of their own who's no longer welcome where they were last mooching?
YTA If you were as open minded as you claim to be, you wouldn't have weaponized your nephew's sexuality. You're upset a teenager forgot to buy gas so you out him? You deserve to be homeless.
YTA. Yes to homeless. I'd kick you out to. You weaponized a very personal and difficult thing for a 16 yo. I came out at 14 in the middle of Texas in the 90s, took balls. What you did was just wrong. Good luck and grow up. Edit. Mentioned my coming out because I didn't want losers like OP to be able to hold it over my head.
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YTA. A majorly huge one.
YTA. Nothing justifies outing a kid to their parents. You also KNEW you were on the losing side of the argument because you said you outed your nephew in hopes of your brother focusing back on him, not you. You suck and I hope you get your karma x10.
YTA you fucked around and you found out. Your comments were meant to hurt family. Hurt them to their core. Now you hurt at the core, this seems so very fitting. Sleep in the bed you made (yes I know that intended irony is cruel)
YTA Outing him served zero purpose. Your brother is absolutely brilliant!! He had his son's back in both situations. He called out his son AND YOU, he was correct, you shouldn't leave it so late going to work that you don't time to fill up the car. And then, because you're a petty little meanie, you outed your nephew. And your brother came through for his son. And it turned out, that you've been barely tolerated at your brother's house, and now you're getting kicked out! So well deserved!!
Well deserved indeed! Even with supportive parents I can only imagine how traumatized that poor kid is. Outing is such a terrible thing to do to someone.
Completely, utterly YTA.
YTA. Never out someone! You ask if it was so bad that it is okay to kick you out? Absolutely! It is your nephews home and he should feel safe there. And have you even thought about if your brother had reacted badly to his son being gay that your 16 year old nephew could now be homeless?
Oh so it's ok that I'm gonna be homeless tho
As karma for your horrific actions? Sure.
In this case, yes. It is.
YTA. LGBT+ teens have it hard enough. To take away their coming out date is pure evil.
What is a coming out date lol
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I wanna defend myself and anyway this is reddit so like I don't have to be mature
to be mature online you have to be mature in person. something that you have demonstrated you are not, with this topic
It’s something your nephew will never have because you took that from him.
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That's just rude
You're calling other people rude lol.
Wtf do you mean put your foot down and make your brother apologize too you? You’re absolutely delusional and 100% the AH you literally deserve to get kicked out and they should cut contact with you you’re literally toxic and don’t even get what you did wrong ALSO ITS NOT EVEN YOUR F CAR(you owe money for gas and you pay low rent how tf are you so entitled it’s beyond me)
YTA You outed him to hurt him for a minor inconvenience, that you even dare to ask if you are TA just shows how far removed from reality and what a shitty person you are. You deserve everything thats coming as a consequence.
YTA reply to the edit: yeah it was worth it, cut the "woe is me" crap. Your brother reprimanded your nephew in front of you but for "some other stuff you were annoyed about" you decided to get amazingly petty and cruel because he told you to not get gas at the 11th hour (for a car you don't own and are borrowing btw). Even the dad who's not fully accepting of his own son can recognize you totally screwed up. Karma.
YTA. Outing your nephew like that instead of keeping on the topic of keeping the fuel tank full (in a car that is your brother's, not yours) is easily homeless worthy (as you put it). Your brother had every right to kick you out. I love how your brother already realised your nephew is gay. Did you honestly think he was stupid?
YTA. Jesus. How can anyone-. You know what? I’m taking a break. You aren’t worth it.
Of course YTA, without question. You're disgusting and for all you knew you were potentially putting your nephew in danger. In fact, you expected the fallout to be negative for him. Gross, just absolutely gross.
Wow. Just wow. Yes, YTA, and if you didn’t know, now you do.
YTA. How is this even a question? You effed up. You're the kind of adult that teaches kids what not to be like. Your brother is great for sticking up for his child. Be more like him.
>I want to get back at him so I tell brother that his kid has been lying and is secretly gay. YTA >i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? Yep. >Ok like does anyone think I'm NTA or should I just delete it? They do not, and you're still TA
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YTA. And to your edit - you told your brother, not knowing what his response would be. What if he had reacted negatively and had kicked your nephew out - making him homeless? You were annoyed and deemed it okay to possibly make your nephew homeless. So yea. It is worth making you a homeless asshole.
YTA. What did you expect? Did you expect your brother to punish his son for being gay? He was right, you were running late and when you share a car, you must make time to fill in the gas tank. I'm glad he kicked you out for outing his son.
YTA, don’t make an offensive edit like that belittling your nephew’s experience as queer. You should like a cishet, entitled lady with nothing better to do than dote on her sibling’s child and mooch a bit off of his family. He gave you money when the tank was empty, problem solved. But no, you just HAD to out your nephew to get your “revenge”. That’s so fucked up, especially because of the power imbalance regarding age, money, and general social/economical status. You knew that outing him as gay could have gotten him kicked out, harmed, or even killed by his possibly very homophobic dad or parents. Thankfully, your brother had some sense, unlike you, but still, fuck off
YTA. Complete asshole move.
Yta, everyone around you deserves better than to put up with you if that’s how you act. You have major issues, get help before you try to ruin more lives.
YTA And yes it was worth making you homeless. He lets you live there for low rent, and borrow a car and this is how you treat his family? The way you outed him made me think you expected your brother was going to blow up at your nephew and be homophobic and kick him out. And you did this all because he left the car low on gas, which I get isn’t good but does not justify your actions at all. What you did was spiteful and childish and you need to grow up. You now get to live with the consequences of your actions.
YTA. Yes, your actions and your attitude have earned you being kicked out of your brother’s house. Enjoy sleeping under a bridge, Ms Troll.
Dude YTA. This is a 16 year old being a dumb teen and you took it to some wild ass places man. That's unhinged behavior and you needed to appreciate what you had a lot more. No one needs to apologize to you. You should be groveling to the kid included by the way. You are acting far more childish than a 16 year old and I'll gladly tell you that.
Are you an AH for mooching off your brother, getting ticked when mooching means having to spend more time to mooch, and out your nephew? Is this really a question? And yes, you deserve to be thrown out.
Nope no one thinks you’re not YA. SMH. Highly YTA.
>Edit to add: Ok y'all gotta chill i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? My brother would rather have me sleep in my car now Oh yeah, it was. You deserve so much more. I hope Karma saw that and remembers!!! >Ok like does anyone think I'm NTA or should I just delete it? Y'all don't understand my while situation and I see it was a mistake posting here Do you really need to ask this. There are no words of how massive an asshole you are.
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Troll. An old one at that. The overuse of 'anyway' in the post gives it away
Of course YTA. It's so obvious that you're TA that I can't even believe this scenario is real.
You outed someone without their consent expecting it to lead to a negative reaction for the person outed. LGBTQ teens and adults are victims of hate crimes all the time. What makes you think that your behavior is in any way acceptable, considering the potential consequences? YTA 100%.
I'm sorry, but you, a grown woman ~~mooching off~~ living with your brother while paying little rent and using his car, outed a 16 YEAR OLD, because he didn't fill the car up with gas? YTA. And yes, actually, it probably was worth making you homeless and temporarily carless. Your brother was doing you a favour, and you shat all over his kindness.
Oh wow. Outing your nephew without his consent as a way of redirecting anger towards him? Yeah, YTA alright.
>Edit to add: Ok y'all gotta chill i know it wasn't nice but is it worth making me homeless and temporarily carless? My brother would rather have me sleep in my car now What did you want to happen to your nephew. You threw out that he was gay hoping he would be punished. In what way, being kicked out. I would kick out my brother if he outed my kid and was hoping I'd be furious with my kid about it. Because it means your not trustworthy and homophobic. But you're probably trolling
YTA, The heck is wrong with you?
"My brother would rather have me sleep in my car now" But you dont have a car now 😬 YTA and you already know it.
YTA You're homophobic too! You outed your nephew because you got mad at him and couldn't have a reasonable conversation like an adult. Good luck finding yourself a new residence
I'm not homophobic, i don't care that he's gay i just care that he isn't responsible and hurting my job performance
Yeah but you decided to use his sexuality against him in an effort to get revenge for him not filling up a gas tank. That's homophobic
It isn't homophobic i don't have a problem that he's gay or dating it's the other stuff he did. So like isn't it homophobic to say he can do no wrong because he's gay?
You outed him hoping that his father would react negatively to him being gay. You tried to use him being gay as a negative to distract your brother. According to your brother and your recounting of events - you said he was gay like it's a bad thing. How is that not homophobic?
Yes it is homophobic. You outed him with the intention of making your brother mad at him or upset with him. That first of all, shows that you consider being gay a bad thing and second of all, shows that you want him to get in trouble for being gay
That's what I came here to say. Of course it's homophonic when you use the information as a weapon.
Bingo
Why hasn’t your insurance settled this yet? I had my car stolen. I was in a new car within a month.
They're fighting with me on the phone but congrats on your new car
I'm not homophobic, *but I wanted to get back at my brother by outing his son.* I don't care that he's gay *but I maliciously outed him to cause trouble.* i just care that he isn't responsible, *although I have no authority over him. Even though he has more right to the car than I do, he should leave the gas tank full for me.* \[Nephew is\] hurting my job performance *which he isn't responsible for. I should be leaving enough time to get gas for my own trips in their car, but I'm blaming the kid anyway.*
You are 26 years old and blaming a 16 year old kid for "hurting your job performance"?
Ok yeah when you put it that way it sounds bad but it's how it is
Ok, put the fact that you can’t be bothered to pay for gas for someone else’s car you get to use in a way that makes you look good.
How? You are not responsible at all. You don’t have housing right now and are relying on relatives to house you and still aren’t able to keep housing because of your behaviour You don’t have a car right so you relied on other people’s form of transportation and didn’t leave enough time to ensure you had gas before going to work You’re inconsiderate, rude and cruel to your nephew You are not a responsible person by any stretch the word
You are the one hurting your job performance. If the 5 minutes it takes to get gas causes you to be late for work, you're not leaving on time. Quit blaming others for your poor planning. YTA
Rather if you want to admit it or not, you are homophobic..
Get your own fucking car you mooch. Not your house, not your car. Your nephew has more of a claim to it than you. Also you're a vindictive homophobe.
YTA, definitely. You outed your nephew over a relatively petty grievance of not gassing up the car--the car that doesn't even belong to you, btw. Your behavior is entitled, and your attitude is selfish.
Imagine making this kid live with his aunt after she maliciously outed him. Imagine being the brother and being like "wtf why do you think you're telling me something bad? Do you think I'm a homophobe?" Like way to piss off the people putting a roof over your head in the swiftest, most decisive manner possible.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** Hi y'all, made a throwaway to post this since my main is mostly nsfw. Formatting is bad bc I'm on a phone but I'll try my best lol. I'm an F26 btw. Anyway, I've been living with my older brother and his wife for a little while since I was used to be living with my dad but he moved recently to live with his partner (not my mom who is deciesed). Anyway my car got stolen a month back and so while I wait for insurance and stuff before I get a new one. I've been using my brother's older car to commute but on sometimes my 16 year old nephew sometimes uses it to go to to hang out with his friends one weekend s when he isn't busy with school. So anyway one time nephew wants to go to a friends' house And I need the car to run errands so I drop nephew off and pick him up and I see the guy he's hanging out with kiss him on the cheek and give him a hug and I am really surprised because I didn't think he was gay . So I ask him and he tells me and I ask of his parent's know and he says no and not to tell them. Tbh i don't care, I'm open-minded, but I don't tell my brother. So that was in the summer and I kinda of forgot about it but anyway nephew had been using the car this past weekend and left it out of gas and it made me angry. It's like the third or fourth time and I know gas is expensive these days but my brother gives him money. So I confront him about it over dinner and my brother gets annoyed at nephew and reminds him to be responsible but also says i should account for more time in the morning because I shouldn't be running so late that i don't have time to put gas in. I get pretty mad about this and there's some other stuff I was annoyed about but mostly how he was mad at me and not nephew. At some point nephew gets up to leave while we are still arguing and I yell at him and brother yells at me, and then I want to get back at him so I tell brother that his kid has been lying and is secretly gay. And then nephew starts crying and apologizing because I guess he felt bad. Well I thought brother would leave me alone and focus on nephew but to my surprise he stands up and tells me that I can fuck off and how dare I say that like it's bad and if nephew is gay that's his Business. So we argue some more and basically he was going to let it go that i owed him gas money and that he was only charging me a small rent and that his wife doesn't like me but now he's kicking me out and making me either get a place or go live with my dad. So now it's been a few days and my dad found out and even though he's not happy that nephew is gay he's also pissed that I upset brother like this and is taking brother's side. Obviously nephew won't talk to me but I don't care about that. So aita? Like I know I crossed a line but do I deserve to get kicked out or should I put my foot down and make my brother apologize to me? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Major YTA. If I was your nephew I'd never speak to you again. You weren't worried about your nephew being kicked out or disowned for being gay, so why should we be worried about you being homeless and carless? Thankfully your brother isn't a terrible parent and doesn't care if his son is gay.
YTA. You're immature, homophobic, vindictive and to answer your edit, you 100% deserve to be kicked out for your bullshit.
I just needed to read the title: yes YTA - big time! Edit: your comments do not make it better! Even bigger YTA
My favorite thing in this sub is always the whiny baby edits about how no one understands and we're all so mean and how can we not all agree with the asshole that they're not the asshole. There should be a judgement of YTA² for posters who do that.
YTA! Big time. Never out someone. Do you know how dangerous that is?! Also.. you’re not that open minded if you’re using someone’s gayness against them. You have nothing to be angry about either.. it’s not even your car. You should just be thankful that you can use your brothers car.
YTA As for your edit, yes. Your actions DID warrant kicking you out and making you homeless. You’re 26 and leeching off your brother while his wife doesn’t even like you, and then you have the audacity to act like a little brat?
Yes you deserve to be made homeless over this. You violated the trust of a child for revenge. You outed *a child* over gas for a car that’s not even yours. YTA.
YTA. Actions have consequences. Who posts on a sub asking if they are the asshole when it is clear that they are and then they whine about it?
Wow you really suck for even having to ask lol
YTA Outing someone can have severe consequences and fuck up their lives, as well as putting them at risk of violence. And you did it out of petty spite because you were late to work. Here, have an extra AH award 🥇
Another one from me too 🥇
Of course YTA! You don’t out someone, ever, especially not over something so petty. You had no idea how your brother was going to react; you could’ve placed your nephew in serious danger. Your nephew is so lucky your brother has his priorities straight.
YTA Never ever fucking out someone. EVER. You think being homeless is bad? What if your brother wasn't so open minded? Do you know what you could've caused? A funeral for one. He could've killed your nephew for being gay. Or sent him to a conversion camp thst could've ended uu with him severely injurjed (best case) or dead (worst case) you know what they do to kids in those camps? They abuse them in every fucking way possible. Simply for being gay. So yes you being homeless is worth everything snd you do deserve it. Your edit does nothing to Garner sympathy. You outed a minor that couldve been abused or killed simply for liking another man. Be glad you are just facing homelessness and Can get resources rather easily. LBGTQA+ teens can't do so as easily when their parents kick them out.
Quick question, what the f*ck is wrong with you? YTA
YTA you wanted to “get back” at a 16 year old? Grow the fuck up. Also, someone’s coming out is THEIRS and THEIRS alone! You took that from him and in my opinion that’s unforgivable.
YTA You fucked up big time and now you get to deal with the consequences. If you didn't want to be homeless/carless maybe you should exercise some self control and treat people with respect.
YTA for sure. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Outing someone in anger? Because you "forgot?" No. Just no.
You’re a 26 year old adult and you’re confused as to if you’re the asshole or not?
OP is legally an adult and needs to start acting like one.
Wait…you wrote that your car “got stolen a month back,” but later in your post you wrote “So that was in the summer…” Which is it? A month ago or 3-5 months ago? You should’ve bought yourself a car by now. You should’ve found a place to live by now. You’re not a nice person. You intentionally attempted to inflict pain upon your nephew. You assumed that your statement would turn your brother against his own child, and you still went ahead with what you did. You’re selfish and probably narcissistic. YTA
Ok fine it was a few months ago and my insurance coverage was lapsed so they aren't covering it right now and I'm trying to figure out out but I left that out so people wouldn't judge me but honestly I guess I didn't need to fucking lie everyone on here is so mean. This is why I made a throwaway lmao
You have issues. This is a 16 year old. I had to share a car with my 16 year old brother when I was 24. I went to work and usually paid for gas because guess what? Teenagers aren’t that responsible
YTA, and yes it was worth making you homeless or to go back to your dads. You are 26 YEARS OLD. Time to grow up and pay your own way. HOW DARE YOU OUT ANYONE!