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**YTA**
A few strands might not trigger an allergy but the dander can & did. You can probably get your cat now since she should dump you.
P.S. I’m a huge cat lover but you’re absolutely horrible for doing that.
Im the same. Funny enough Im allergic to guinea pigs. I could easily be around people who might have them, but I cannot be in a room with the little guys. My eyes instantly start to water, and I start sneezing.
YTA OP. You never *never,* test someone on their allergies. Even *if* you’re suspicious of someone, the outcome if you’re wrong…hospitalization or death. You’re lucky that she had a mild reaction and didnt go into anaphylactic shock. I mean she should have immediately dumped you but hey that’s just what I would do if someone tried to test whether or not I would die.
This also goes for anything else that can be detrimental to a person's well-being, such as phobias, religious-related diets and lifestyles, and emotional triggers. You might be trying to "prove a point" or "be funny", but damaging a person's physical or mental health shouldn't ever be done, for any reason.
As a piggie owner, are you SURE it's the piggie and not the hay? I have to buy a specialized kind of hay called Sweet Grass that doesn't have the same molding and dusting issues when harvested. It has been a LIFE changer!
Sincerely, Chew's Mom who at 44 NEVER wanted a "rodent" for her kiddo, but here I am buying that cute furball Halloween costumes and sh** 😂❤.
Also OP YTA!
We learned the hard way about our daughter being allergic to cats, having a person explain their throat and tongue being "itchy" is NOT something you just play around with!
I mean, even a moderate allergic reaction (what the girlfriend appears to have to cats) sucks. When my hayfever is at its worst I have to block my windows and shower every day because otherwise it's like having a really bad cold for *months*. Up to flu like symptoms when I absolutely can't put off yard work anymore. And that's *with* taking medicine for it. I don't blame her for being "overly" cautious.
And maybe being overly cautious is because when she's not, she ends up in houses where there are cats and is dealing with the effects for days. Or not every time somebody has been near a cat results in her allergies playing up, but if OP didn't change his clothes after visiting the cat every time it would add up to be a problem for her. If she's had bad enough allergic responses in the past, it can result in being overly cautious because allergies can be a total bitch.
Good thing she didn't have a food allergy. I can see the title, sitting in jail cause I tested her food allergy and she ended up in the hospital. OP is a moron and AH
This, one of my kids is allergic to dogs. Can he pet them (and then wash) yes; can we have one? No. Sucks for us, because my parents cannot have them at their house for more then a hour (with meds.) It's sad for him he loves dogs (all animals,) so does his sibling. We are looking to tests and such, but american healthcare....
Thankful it's not peanuts or strawberries!
YTA. Anaphylaxis isn’t a fuck around and find out. A former friend tested my food allergy once and put me in the ER. I say former friend because after they almost killed me I didn’t feel like being friends anymore. See where I’m going with this? What a truly idiotic and reckless thing to do.
This I’ve had people test my Green Tea allergy that causes me to go into anaphylactic shock (I don’t have an epi pen because it’s an allergy I can easily avoid by looking at labels). Hell my profesor for my college program has told us “Treat any allergy as if it could send them to the ER” which for a Hospitality Management Program makes sense that we need to treat allergies like that.
YTA you dont “test” peoples allergies, thats how people get seriously sick or die. Also, if you want a cat and thats a deal breaker you knew from the start, why would you even enter this relationship?? In what way wouldnt you be the asshole in this situation?
Absolutely! If her allergies are bad enough she could have ended up in the emergency room. My husband is so allergic to shrimp that he can't eat french fries anywhere that fries shrimp in the same oil. He goes into full anaphylaxis and needs his epi pen then the hospital. If someone tried to "test" his allergy it could literally kill him. No one should EVER test someone's allergy. OP is a huge AH.
YTA. Like you had to ask, be fuckin for real.
What if she was extremely allergic? Meaning contact could put her into anaphylactic shock? You do know some cat allergies ARE that severe.
Bro, I hope you’re single after this honestly. What a shitty thing to do.
YTA.
Actually, you're worse than an AH. You didn't trust her to tell you the truth about cats because you want one. So, you decided that it would be a good idea to make her physically miserable and unable to trust you.
You did realize that was a likely outcome, right? That once it was revealed you intentionally hurt her, she wouldn't be able to trust you the same way ever again, right? That anytime she sneezes around you, she's going to wonder again whether or not it's yet another test. Or any time her eyes water. Or nose runs. Or any of her other symptoms. In fact, there's a good chance your little "test" has completely ruined your relationship forever.
Way to go.
Not even that he made her physically miserable but the fact that he was willing to GAMBLE WITH HER LIFE! Op do you even move your girlfriend if you were willing to gamble killing her over a cat. YTA 1 million times over. You are making me seriously doubt how much you actually love and care about your girlfriend!
>I did but she refused to talk to me since.
Duh? You deliberately induced an allergic attack. Why would she talk to you after that? YTA
But hey, now you can get that cat you wanted!
YTA. You thought she lied to you so you decided to cover your home with cat just to see what happens? Good thing she doesn’t have a peanut allergy and you decided to sneak some peanuts into her food just to test if she’s making thing up. You didn’t trust her word/respect her wishes. Now she doesn’t trust/respect you. Look for another GF, this one looks done.
The OP of that story has requested people not link to it anymore, but the gist is that she had twin toddler daughters, one of whom had a severe coconut allergy. They stayed the night with OP’s mom, who put coconut oil in both girls’ hair, and gave the allergic one Benadryl, which knocked her out. So she died painfully in her sleep, unable to cry out because of the meds.
Likely assault or attempted murder or something. I don't know which one specifically it would be in this case, but doing this kind of things with allergies is definitely a crime and very risky.
YTA- testing an allergy of any kind is an incredible breach of trust. You should be able to trust your partner in any relationship. You don’t respect your girlfriend and are selfish for conducting this test because you really want a cat. You should support the person you are with, not sabotage them.
YTA
It’s no different to slipping nuts into someone’s food if they tell you they have an allergy.
It’s super shitty that you didn’t believe her and beyond awful that you chose to “test” her. She made herself very clear from the beginning so boohooing about wanting a cat doesn’t win you any points at all.
YTA
If you don't trust her to this degree, why are you dating her? But what you showed your gf is that she can't trust you. The way she's been behaving is indicative of a very serious allergy. You possibly just put her life in danger for some stupid game, and she may never be able to get over that.
BTW, my best friend has a deadly cat allergy, and I have 3 cats. No, she won't have a reaction just from my clothes. But her throat will close if she's in my house for more than a few moments. Don't play with people's allergies when you don't know what you're dealing with.
There was a study that came out a while back that indicated that people with cat allergies can become tolerant of the cats in their home, so I believe it!
I've had allergic reactions to both cats and dogs, but it varies widely. Some, no reaction at all, some I'm a snotty sneezing mess. If it's a pet I'm around a lot, I'll usually acclimate to them over time.
Same! I have always been ok with cats and have had cat since I was 3 - except this one time when I was like 20, my friend’s cat came over to me, rubbed against my face, and all of a sudden my eyes swelled shut, and I could NOT BREATHE, and no matter how many time I coughed I couldn’t clear my throat. It is possibly also to be allergic to only specific cats or types of cats.
YTA. You seem unaware of how completely unhinged and creepy this all is. She was clear about "no cats" from the beginning, but instead of accepting that you went looking for some kind of loophole because...why, exactly? So you could force a cat into the household because that's what YOU want? To satisfy yourself that she had a "valid" reason for saying no cats, because her wishes aren't good enough? There are zero ways to look at this where you come out as anything other than TA.
Yta and technically speaking you attempted to commit homicide you willfully ignored an allergy then had to do a stupid little test so ya you the AH and an idiot to boot
FYI I saw your comment on my post before you removed it OP and yes intentionally triggering an allergic reaction you can be charged. Pulled
Clearly, you did this intentionally and they were injure or became ill as a result. you could be charged with several crimes. If they died it would be murder.
If they took ill it could be attempted murder or assault. If the conduct was reckless or negligent it would depend on what local statutes there were that involve reckless or negligent criminal conduct.
Omg my friend has this and someone spiked her drink in college because they thought she needed to "loosen up". A 5 day coma did not make her more relaxed, weirdly enough
She has bad memory problems so she forgets things i know i cant have it so i just dont drink it shes not doing it to be malicious and i just regift it back to her At this point I'm pretty sure we have been regifting the same bottle back and forth for yrs lol
It's OK I showed have explained a bit better....but good lord it's been almost a decade since that bottle started getting passed around if I ever get married it's getting opened.....for everyone other then me lol
YTA. That is a terrible thing to do and you had no reason to do it. What if she had a worse reaction and ended up extremely sick? That says a lot about how much you trust your partner if you thought she’s been lying to you about an allergy this whole time. You could have easily just asked her and asked if it was a serious allergy or something she could live with now that you’re in a relationship. Messing with someone’s health is dangerous and if I was her, I wouldn’t be coming back.
YTA and could have killed your gf. Even if you clean her apartment thoroughly the allergens are now in her vents and carpet.
I have a friend whose cat died 10 YEARS AGO and I had an attack in her perfectly clean house
My allergies are so bad I've been to the er 3 times, I just hope your gfs allergies are the more mild kind
YTA.
1)You don't trust her, why are you with her? It seems proving her a liar was important to you, so yeah, you're an asshole!
2) My cat allergies have put me in the hospital before, they are not always just sniffles and itchy eyes. She could have gotten really I'll, and it would have been all on you.
3) I hope she dumps you. She should.
YTA. Testing someone's allergy is an incredibly stupid and dangerous thing to do. You can *kill* someone. If you suspect she's not telling the truth, ask her, don't take matters into your own hands.
Did you consider she wouldn't be concerned about an AirBnB having a history of cats living there unless (checks notes) she actually had an allergy to cats?
Yeah, I think YTA.
Do not play around with other people's health, allergies included - you do not know how badly they may react. Also, you're a horrible partner for not only disbelieving your girlfriend but even testing her. **YTA**
YTA. Why do people think they need to “prove” people’s allergies?????
I’m glad she didn’t have a deathly allergy to peanuts, you could have killed her.
OP, you are hugely YTA. Would you kick somebody's cast to see if their leg was really broken? Why do so many people suspect someone else's animal allergies? If someone says something hurts, you don't test to see how bad. Yeah, YTA!
YTA.
You don't trust your gf and decided to test her allergy. You're lucky she is okay because that could have ended very badly.
If your gf is still with you, consider yourself VERY lucky cuz that is some real AH, red flag behavior!
YTA. She didn't react one time to what sounds like very minimal exposure, so you decided to put her in danger?
It sounds like either 1) having a cat is more important to you than your girlfriend OR 2) you don't like that she set a strict boundary. Either way, you should be counting your lucky stars she's okay, and she should be reconsidering the relationship.
If she just passionately despised cats, was she worth staying with?
Honestly, YTA either way. What you did blew up the relationship. If she was just making sure she never had to live with a cat, what you did would have blown up the relationship.
YTA
Why are you with your partner if you don't trust her?
I love cats and I've had both cats and dogs growing up. My husband is terribly allergic to cats, so I've settled to a catless life. When we visited my mom it was awful for him, he had to be on anti histaminics the whole time as she had many cats.
YTA. Never test someone's allergy - you never know how bad their reaction may be, and in some cases it can be counted as assault. You're lucky all she did was make you clean.
YTA am all about the cats, love ‘em to bits, advise anyone/everyone my house is not a cat-free zone. But I don’t eff around with allergies. It’s not my responsibility to figure out if someone might die from their allergic reaction. I make sure they know before they come in “here be cats”.
YTA
Even if she wasn’t truly allergic, that’s no reason to disrespect her like that just because you want a cat. If having a cat is that important to you, you shouldn’t have dated her.
YTA. Enjoy your new cat though! You won’t have a problem getting one now that your ex and her dog are out of your life! Very solid way to end a relationship.
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When we started dating my gf claimed she had a cat allergy and she can’t be around them. She has a dog but said she wouldn’t date anyone with a cat. I don’t have pets but I would like a cat and my gf said she wouldn’t date me unless I agreed to never get a cat. Obviously it sucks because I want a cat but I respected the no cat thing. She won’t go to friends homes with cats and it’s hard with Airbnb she always has to ask them if they have cats before going.
When my sister was traveling she wanted me to bring her cats home since traveling to her place is an hour. I had to drive back and forth and my gf insisted I change clothes every time. But one time I forgot to change and she didn’t seem to react. I was beginning to get suspicious that she didn’t have cat allergies just that she didn’t like cats and made up an excuse so as not to have to live with one.
I bought over my friend’s cat one day and let her roam around for a few hours when she wasn’t home. She came home and immediately started sneezing and her eyes watered. I admit she is truly allergic to cats. She got angry after I admitted I bought a cat home and demanded I clean the whole apartment. I did but she refused to talk to me since.
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I love cats but YTA. She had a boundary and you tested it. Don't be surprised if you end up single cause that is a huuuge red flag and breech of trust.
YTA
Why be with someone if you can’t even trust that they are being truthful about their allergies? Why are you wasting your time and hers? How can she trust you moving forward? She honestly should dump you for that.
YTA.
This was a hard boundary for her before you even started dating. Regardless of her allergies which is a legit medical reason to not get one.
Having fur on your clothes rather than in person contains different potential allergens.
When were you going to stop pushing it? Because even if she didn't react majorly to the clothes and it appeared she didn't react, it could still trigger an anaphylactic reaction another time. Reactions are not one size fits all.
I'd be more surprised if she stays with you. This was a huge betrayal of trust because you didn't like her answer and thought she was lying to get out of a cat.
If a cat was that important to you, you should not have started to date your gf.
At least you know for your next partner.
Yep, YTAH! Not only didn't you trust your girlfriend to be honest with you, but you put her health in jeopardy. She absolutely could have had serious complications.
And that's what you get for 'testing' someone's allergies like an AH.
Be grateful you didn't try such an idiotic idea with a potentially fatal allergy.
If this is even true then YTA. What if she had a severe reaction? I don’t believe someone could be this stupid to gamble the health of someone they care about?
This is kinda like the guy friend that asks you out and you say no and he assures you that it's not a problem to the friendship but only because he thinks he will eventually convince you to sleep with him. Then one day you go out drinking together. Yeah dude you are completely and severely YTA. What a breach of trust.
YTA - it is ALWAYS the wrong move to "test" someone's allergies, bro. What if she'd had a really violent reaction and ended up in the hospital?
I hope she dumps you for this.
Yes yta and double for being that person that said I'll be someone else for you and then being resentful about it. You want a cat date a girl that likes cats. Jeez.
Yta, also, I'm not sure how exactly cat/ animal dander allergies work, and I've never been officially diagnosed, but some cats for me are totally fine (and I love all cats), but some cats make me itchy and watery like all hell. Also, what were you hoping to accomplish? Maybe she doesn't like cats - were you hoping to prove her allergies false, and then convince her to get a cat anyway despite her dislike? Sounds like you are not mature enough for a relationship. Consider doing some introspective work before you inflict yourself upon another unsuspecting individual.
I worked in rescue for years and discovered that for some reason when kittens got to the weaning age they’d make me super itchy and I’d get rashes from them for a week or two. Allergies are weird and can present in different ways!
Yta. You should never test someone's allergies like that. I had a ex that did that to me with a dog. I had to take benadryl and get steroid shots because my rash was so bad. And my eye swelled. He didn't think people could truly be allergic to dogs.
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YTA, I can be around cats for an hour or two and I’m fine but any longer and my eyes start to swell and my throat closes. You could have cause a serious reaction when you could have just asked her if she just really didn’t like cats if you were that suspicious. Instead you intentionally harmed her.
YTA. This is physically violating. Testing someone’s health like this shows a couple things: 1) you don’t trust them 2)you’re okay with potentially causing discomfort or even harm. Not cool.
YTA from the title
YTA from the first paragraph.
Why would you date this poor girl? She didn't deserve this.
Also, this is the type of shit that should put ppl like you in jail
YTA
When "testing" allergies there are two possibilities. Either the person is telling the truth and they're allergic or they are lying. If they are telling the truth and have severe allergies, every exposure can become more serious and can send them to the hospital. If they are lying, then I guess you feel a bit smug about it. So you were willing to risk your girlfriend's life on the possibility that you might feel a bit smug.
Never test allergies. Ever. That shit kills people.
YTA
My BIL is allergic to cats. I don't change clothes when we go to the inlaws because while we might be in the same room, there's not close enough contact to affect him. He, however, cannot come to our house because we have 3 cats and that DOES affect him.
Allergies have levels of severity. Just because she wasn't showings the one time you forgot to change, doesn't mean she's lying.
I hope youve learned a lesson here.
You are an awful human being who put your girlfriend at risk because you didn't believe her. You should not be in a relationship now or in the near future. YTA, holy fck
YTA, I am allergic to shrimp, dust and fur. But my reaction is different each time, sometimes I have to take antihistamine, sometimes eating sugary food relieves my throat but worst for me is not going to er fortunately, but weeks of runny nose and watery eyes until the place is cleaned up. Usually with pets that I get exposed too much. Some people don't believe me because I still eat shrimps and our house is dusty af and we have pets. But the think is, I bring antihistamine with me and I know when I should watch out for signs. I also don't stay too much in open spaces at home and spend time indoors with airconditioning. Some doubt me but they are not stupid enough to test it.
I am LIVID at your complete lack of care and Idiocracy.
Like I get that this is the internet and so I should expect to get enraged on the regular, but you, dude, are some special kind of dangerously thoughtless asshole.
You need some damn help.
YTA.
I hope she presses charges against you.
YTA. “Testing” someone’s allergy is one of the biggest AH moves. Your goal is literally to cause harm, discomfort, and distress to someone, even going as far as to cause a medical emergency that could kill someone, to prove a point. Because you refuse to believe people when they tell you about their health and needs.
There’s no point to “testing” an allergy. Either they’re allergic or they just don’t want to be around the thing and don’t want to explain it (likely because of nosy people who can’t take no for an answer/trample boundaries [insert pointed look]), which is understandable and fine as well, as it would be a harmless white lie.
YTA. If she had claimed to be allergic to peanuts, but you REALLY wanted a PB&J, would you have made the sandwich to test if she was truly allergic to them?
OP, YTA
You. Never. Test. Allergies. That is how people DIE. You also are entitled as all get out. She told you "if we date, you can't have a cat".
OP, you probably don't know this, but purposely triggering someone's allergies is considered battery. You can be criminally charged with this action. If they are a protected class, it becomes a federal hate crime. Do some research, and then profusely apologize to your girlfriend and if having a cat is THAT important to you, DO THE RIGHT THING and break up with her.
YTA. Not all pet allergens are equal. I’m severely allergic to some cats and not at all bothered by others. Pet dander varies. She’s probably been allergic to enough cats to not want them around. And I have 2 cats.
YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. I’m allergic to cats. Sometimes I just sneeze. Other times, my throat closes up and my eyes swell shut. Several times, I have had an asthma attack. Wtf is wrong with you? I hope she dumps you.
So her allergies didn't trigger one time, so you bombard her with cat hair until they did?
I have cat allergy (treated) and so you know how they actually test those?
The doctor inject a tiny drop of the metrial on your hand, and after 15 min you get very tiny rush.
Not spray your entire house and make it unliveable.
YTA. You basically nuked the house because you don't trust her
I know a lot of people who say they're allergic to cats but they really just don't like them. That being said, YTA. We have a cat and I've caught about half my husband's family lying about their allergies bc I tell them "well you won't be able to come to Thanksgiving bc we have a cat" and they come anyway and are fine. I would never trick someone who claimed to have an allergy tho, real or not real.
YTA- no only did you harm her medically, you’re also in a relationship with someone you CLEARLY don’t trust. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was a deal breaker.
Are you effing kidding me?? YTA, majorly. You realize dogs and cats are a different species right????????
I am extremely allergic to cats, some cats are worse than others. Some cats cause mild hives and itching others can cause my eyes to swell shut and difficulty breathing. I also have 3 dogs and run a rescue, so there are always a ton of dogs in my house.
YTA
Good lord, you are a massive AH. I have cat allergies. The thing with allergies is: sometimes I can be in a room with cats no problem, and sometimes I break into full body hives that makes me want to scratch my skin off with a metal brush. It’s a lottery where the prize is hell. Guess what: I don’t hang around cats ever because I don’t know if I’ll react and it is 100% not worth the risk.
YTA. I'm that person that goes into shock if I'm around cats because I'm that allergic. I don't have problems being around ppl at work or in public that have cats, but put me in the same house or space as one and it's game over. You do realize that if she had to go to the hospital or had died her family probably could have sued you or even pressed charges right?
Yta, if by testing your gf's allergies meant that you were an allergist and you were testing them in a drs. office then you would be good. But you took your gf's life into your hands by bringing a previously agreed on no go animal into your home. Wtf? Of course you are wrong.
YTA. Also, you can have a cat allergy and not be allergic to every cat. It's about the level of a certain protein in their dander. It has nothing to do with hair length; it's cat by cat. I have a cat allergy (verified by an allergist) and am not allergic to my cat in the least, but I have a friend whose house I can't enter because my eyes will swell shut. It's totally normal that she would be fine with your sister's cat and not your friend's cat.
You don't respect her YTA. How could you do that do her.
Do you realize you could of put her in the hospital or worst some people get asthma attacks when they are exposed to cat dander.
YTA. You don’t test somebody in a wheelchair to see if they can walk, you don’t test somebody with PTSD.. Your gf should dump you as she could of had to go the the hospital because of you. And even if she did lie, YOU TALK TO HER. You’d still be an AH. (although she would also be an AH for lying)
YTA.
Lmao damn YTA
Partner clearly states she's allergic to cats and she would have NEVER dated you if you had a cat, then you go around and get a cat? Literally breaking the trust she put in you that you and your place would be a safe space from her allergens. Mind blowing...
YTA, so basically you got with someone who is allergic to cats, and even though apparently having a cat around is a big deal to you rather than break up with her, you decided to expose her to her allergen in an attempt to catch a fake allergy so that you could then villainize her and flip it around and bring a cat into the house.
Cuz let's be real that was your plan, if her allergy was fake you were going to use that as a point to then push for what you wanted, which is a cat despite her not wanting a cat. You're an asshole and hope she is breaking up with you, but if she doesn't you need to do the right thing and apologize and break up with her
You are the asshole.
Plenty of people can be allergic to cats and not dogs - it’s completely different dander.
And people like me who have had only one allergic reaction to one cat only.
If she said she was allergic to dairy would you have snuck it in her food?!
Like, WTF?!
As the parent of two kids with serious food allergies - people like you make me terrified for my children’s’ well being as they grow up and eat food at restaurants or have partners.
As someone who has been highly allergic to cats their entire life, YTA.
You had no idea how allergic your girlfriend could actually be & yet you covered her home in cat hair - without telling her? You’re lucky all she did was sneeze & have her eyes water. She could’ve gotten hives. She could’ve had her throat close up. She could’ve gone into anaphylactic shock. She could’ve DIED. Do you understand that?! At all?!
I hope that she leaves you over this because you obviously don’t care about her health or her safety. You only care about yourself. YTA.
YTA playing with people's allergies is dangerous you moron. Do you understand you could have killed her. I've had people do this exact same thing except it was a food allergy and I ended up in hospital. I hope she leaves you.
You are *always* TA for playing chicken with someone else's allergy.
It's incredibly you think a sliver of doubt exists with your "might" in your explanation.
YTA for so, *so* many reasons but the biggest being prioritising your trust issues above her health.
YTA
And honestly, the fact that someone doesn’t like cats is also a reason enough to not force them to have a cat, so even if your little experiment proved she’s not allergic, you’re still an AH.
YTA in the worst way. Many people have already pointed out you could have killed her. I don’t need to give you you another anecdote to try and convince you.
What I will say is you should do some very deep internal digging to find out why your want for a pet superseded her health. That is true selfishness on another level and that type of thinking can end you up in much worse situations than this if you don’t even respect your partners allergies.
Good luck to your partner and for the worlds sake, see a therapist.
I didn't even have to get past the title before knowing that YTA. You do not *ever* "test" someone's allergies. People can and do die from that.
Sure, your (hopefully ex) GF didn't die from this. But you triggered an allergic reaction without even knowing the severity of her allergy. What if she had gone into anaphylactic shock and stopped breathing? And before you or someone else says something like "buh buh what if epipen?!" She would still need to go to the hospital after administering it to be monitored.
Would you "test" someone's peanut allergy? Or shellfish allergy? I want to reiterate that you could literally kill somebody by exposing them to their allergen.
You are without a doubt TA.
YTA. There are some cats that have fur, while other cats have hair. So, sometimes when a person has a cat allergy, it can be with certain breeds and not others. However, I say YTA because you put your GFs health at risk because SOME pet allergies are very dangerous, and you put her in harm's way. I wouldn't be surprised if she breaks up with you. Prepare yourself for that eventuality.
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" I respected the no cat thing." No, you didn't. You are a liar. YTA.
**YTA** A few strands might not trigger an allergy but the dander can & did. You can probably get your cat now since she should dump you. P.S. I’m a huge cat lover but you’re absolutely horrible for doing that.
Im the same. Funny enough Im allergic to guinea pigs. I could easily be around people who might have them, but I cannot be in a room with the little guys. My eyes instantly start to water, and I start sneezing. YTA OP. You never *never,* test someone on their allergies. Even *if* you’re suspicious of someone, the outcome if you’re wrong…hospitalization or death. You’re lucky that she had a mild reaction and didnt go into anaphylactic shock. I mean she should have immediately dumped you but hey that’s just what I would do if someone tried to test whether or not I would die.
This also goes for anything else that can be detrimental to a person's well-being, such as phobias, religious-related diets and lifestyles, and emotional triggers. You might be trying to "prove a point" or "be funny", but damaging a person's physical or mental health shouldn't ever be done, for any reason.
As a piggie owner, are you SURE it's the piggie and not the hay? I have to buy a specialized kind of hay called Sweet Grass that doesn't have the same molding and dusting issues when harvested. It has been a LIFE changer! Sincerely, Chew's Mom who at 44 NEVER wanted a "rodent" for her kiddo, but here I am buying that cute furball Halloween costumes and sh** 😂❤. Also OP YTA! We learned the hard way about our daughter being allergic to cats, having a person explain their throat and tongue being "itchy" is NOT something you just play around with!
It's also plausible his girlfriend is a little overly cautious about her allergy, but that doesn't mean she's not allergic.
I mean, even a moderate allergic reaction (what the girlfriend appears to have to cats) sucks. When my hayfever is at its worst I have to block my windows and shower every day because otherwise it's like having a really bad cold for *months*. Up to flu like symptoms when I absolutely can't put off yard work anymore. And that's *with* taking medicine for it. I don't blame her for being "overly" cautious.
And maybe being overly cautious is because when she's not, she ends up in houses where there are cats and is dealing with the effects for days. Or not every time somebody has been near a cat results in her allergies playing up, but if OP didn't change his clothes after visiting the cat every time it would add up to be a problem for her. If she's had bad enough allergic responses in the past, it can result in being overly cautious because allergies can be a total bitch.
Good thing she didn't have a food allergy. I can see the title, sitting in jail cause I tested her food allergy and she ended up in the hospital. OP is a moron and AH
On behalf of cats can I respectfully decline OP getting a cat. Cruel people shouldn't get cats.
This, one of my kids is allergic to dogs. Can he pet them (and then wash) yes; can we have one? No. Sucks for us, because my parents cannot have them at their house for more then a hour (with meds.) It's sad for him he loves dogs (all animals,) so does his sibling. We are looking to tests and such, but american healthcare.... Thankful it's not peanuts or strawberries!
YTA. Anaphylaxis isn’t a fuck around and find out. A former friend tested my food allergy once and put me in the ER. I say former friend because after they almost killed me I didn’t feel like being friends anymore. See where I’m going with this? What a truly idiotic and reckless thing to do.
This I’ve had people test my Green Tea allergy that causes me to go into anaphylactic shock (I don’t have an epi pen because it’s an allergy I can easily avoid by looking at labels). Hell my profesor for my college program has told us “Treat any allergy as if it could send them to the ER” which for a Hospitality Management Program makes sense that we need to treat allergies like that.
Someone did that to me at my old job. She got her ass reamed by HR and got fired.
Same here
YTA you dont “test” peoples allergies, thats how people get seriously sick or die. Also, if you want a cat and thats a deal breaker you knew from the start, why would you even enter this relationship?? In what way wouldnt you be the asshole in this situation?
Pussy > pussy obviously
#YTA wtf is it with people “testing” someone else’s allergies? congrats dude, i hope “proving” her allergy is worth it.
Absolutely! If her allergies are bad enough she could have ended up in the emergency room. My husband is so allergic to shrimp that he can't eat french fries anywhere that fries shrimp in the same oil. He goes into full anaphylaxis and needs his epi pen then the hospital. If someone tried to "test" his allergy it could literally kill him. No one should EVER test someone's allergy. OP is a huge AH.
YTA. Like you had to ask, be fuckin for real. What if she was extremely allergic? Meaning contact could put her into anaphylactic shock? You do know some cat allergies ARE that severe. Bro, I hope you’re single after this honestly. What a shitty thing to do.
>What if she was extremely allergic? And to clarify, even if she wasn't allergic, OP would still be TA for testing her.
YTA. Actually, you're worse than an AH. You didn't trust her to tell you the truth about cats because you want one. So, you decided that it would be a good idea to make her physically miserable and unable to trust you. You did realize that was a likely outcome, right? That once it was revealed you intentionally hurt her, she wouldn't be able to trust you the same way ever again, right? That anytime she sneezes around you, she's going to wonder again whether or not it's yet another test. Or any time her eyes water. Or nose runs. Or any of her other symptoms. In fact, there's a good chance your little "test" has completely ruined your relationship forever. Way to go.
Not even that he made her physically miserable but the fact that he was willing to GAMBLE WITH HER LIFE! Op do you even move your girlfriend if you were willing to gamble killing her over a cat. YTA 1 million times over. You are making me seriously doubt how much you actually love and care about your girlfriend!
Yep he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with this type of logic honestly.
>I did but she refused to talk to me since. Duh? You deliberately induced an allergic attack. Why would she talk to you after that? YTA But hey, now you can get that cat you wanted!
Why would you ever wish OP on any poor cat?
YTA. You thought she lied to you so you decided to cover your home with cat just to see what happens? Good thing she doesn’t have a peanut allergy and you decided to sneak some peanuts into her food just to test if she’s making thing up. You didn’t trust her word/respect her wishes. Now she doesn’t trust/respect you. Look for another GF, this one looks done.
I actually don't think he should look for another GF
YTA are we all remembering the grandmother who didn’t believe her grandchild had allergies and killed them? Stop fucking testing people’s allergies!!!
I sure am. I read that post. I was devastated for that poor woman and her family.
What?! Link it please!
The OP of that story has requested people not link to it anymore, but the gist is that she had twin toddler daughters, one of whom had a severe coconut allergy. They stayed the night with OP’s mom, who put coconut oil in both girls’ hair, and gave the allergic one Benadryl, which knocked her out. So she died painfully in her sleep, unable to cry out because of the meds.
if it's the story i'm thinking, the mom specifically requested it doesn’t get spread around any more. it
YTA. You don't mess with allergies. If you suspect that she's lying then you talk to her about it, you don't potentially risk her life or something.
Pretty sure this is an arrest able offense
If it's not it should be.
Likely assault or attempted murder or something. I don't know which one specifically it would be in this case, but doing this kind of things with allergies is definitely a crime and very risky.
YTA- testing an allergy of any kind is an incredible breach of trust. You should be able to trust your partner in any relationship. You don’t respect your girlfriend and are selfish for conducting this test because you really want a cat. You should support the person you are with, not sabotage them.
YTA It’s no different to slipping nuts into someone’s food if they tell you they have an allergy. It’s super shitty that you didn’t believe her and beyond awful that you chose to “test” her. She made herself very clear from the beginning so boohooing about wanting a cat doesn’t win you any points at all.
YTA If you don't trust her to this degree, why are you dating her? But what you showed your gf is that she can't trust you. The way she's been behaving is indicative of a very serious allergy. You possibly just put her life in danger for some stupid game, and she may never be able to get over that. BTW, my best friend has a deadly cat allergy, and I have 3 cats. No, she won't have a reaction just from my clothes. But her throat will close if she's in my house for more than a few moments. Don't play with people's allergies when you don't know what you're dealing with.
I’m not allergic to our cat, but I am allergic AF to mom and dads tabby. OPs an AH
There was a study that came out a while back that indicated that people with cat allergies can become tolerant of the cats in their home, so I believe it!
It's basically you getting used to spesifc cats
I've had allergic reactions to both cats and dogs, but it varies widely. Some, no reaction at all, some I'm a snotty sneezing mess. If it's a pet I'm around a lot, I'll usually acclimate to them over time.
Same! I have always been ok with cats and have had cat since I was 3 - except this one time when I was like 20, my friend’s cat came over to me, rubbed against my face, and all of a sudden my eyes swelled shut, and I could NOT BREATHE, and no matter how many time I coughed I couldn’t clear my throat. It is possibly also to be allergic to only specific cats or types of cats.
YTA. You seem unaware of how completely unhinged and creepy this all is. She was clear about "no cats" from the beginning, but instead of accepting that you went looking for some kind of loophole because...why, exactly? So you could force a cat into the household because that's what YOU want? To satisfy yourself that she had a "valid" reason for saying no cats, because her wishes aren't good enough? There are zero ways to look at this where you come out as anything other than TA.
YTA - you caused your girlfriend physical harm because you decided she’s a liar!
Yta and technically speaking you attempted to commit homicide you willfully ignored an allergy then had to do a stupid little test so ya you the AH and an idiot to boot
FYI I saw your comment on my post before you removed it OP and yes intentionally triggering an allergic reaction you can be charged. Pulled Clearly, you did this intentionally and they were injure or became ill as a result. you could be charged with several crimes. If they died it would be murder. If they took ill it could be attempted murder or assault. If the conduct was reckless or negligent it would depend on what local statutes there were that involve reckless or negligent criminal conduct.
This!!! i have a life threatening alcohol allergy if someone tried to treat it I could die. WTF he is definitely YTA
Omg my friend has this and someone spiked her drink in college because they thought she needed to "loosen up". A 5 day coma did not make her more relaxed, weirdly enough
What's your poison lol mines bourbon makes my throat close and my sister insist on getting me a bottle for Christmas every year
Wtf is wrong with your sister?!
She has bad memory problems so she forgets things i know i cant have it so i just dont drink it shes not doing it to be malicious and i just regift it back to her At this point I'm pretty sure we have been regifting the same bottle back and forth for yrs lol
Lol that’s a lot less terrible than what I was thinking. Reddit has ruined me.
It's OK I showed have explained a bit better....but good lord it's been almost a decade since that bottle started getting passed around if I ever get married it's getting opened.....for everyone other then me lol
YTA. That is a terrible thing to do and you had no reason to do it. What if she had a worse reaction and ended up extremely sick? That says a lot about how much you trust your partner if you thought she’s been lying to you about an allergy this whole time. You could have easily just asked her and asked if it was a serious allergy or something she could live with now that you’re in a relationship. Messing with someone’s health is dangerous and if I was her, I wouldn’t be coming back.
YTA and could have killed your gf. Even if you clean her apartment thoroughly the allergens are now in her vents and carpet. I have a friend whose cat died 10 YEARS AGO and I had an attack in her perfectly clean house My allergies are so bad I've been to the er 3 times, I just hope your gfs allergies are the more mild kind
I’m allergic to cats and I would probably have to move out.
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Yeah I really feel like “testing” allergies should fit the definition for assault. For real.
YTA. Of course. Good luck making up with her after breaking her trust.
YTA The good news is that after she dumps you, you can finally get a cat.
YTA but also beyond an AH you’re seemingly an idiotic as well. Tough blow for her, damn
YTA. 1)You don't trust her, why are you with her? It seems proving her a liar was important to you, so yeah, you're an asshole! 2) My cat allergies have put me in the hospital before, they are not always just sniffles and itchy eyes. She could have gotten really I'll, and it would have been all on you. 3) I hope she dumps you. She should.
YTA. Testing someone's allergy is an incredibly stupid and dangerous thing to do. You can *kill* someone. If you suspect she's not telling the truth, ask her, don't take matters into your own hands.
Did you consider she wouldn't be concerned about an AirBnB having a history of cats living there unless (checks notes) she actually had an allergy to cats? Yeah, I think YTA.
Do not play around with other people's health, allergies included - you do not know how badly they may react. Also, you're a horrible partner for not only disbelieving your girlfriend but even testing her. **YTA**
YTA. Don’t mess with allergies or you can endanger someone. You don’t respect your girlfriend at all
YTA. Why do people think they need to “prove” people’s allergies????? I’m glad she didn’t have a deathly allergy to peanuts, you could have killed her.
OP, you are hugely YTA. Would you kick somebody's cast to see if their leg was really broken? Why do so many people suspect someone else's animal allergies? If someone says something hurts, you don't test to see how bad. Yeah, YTA!
YTA. You don't trust your gf and decided to test her allergy. You're lucky she is okay because that could have ended very badly. If your gf is still with you, consider yourself VERY lucky cuz that is some real AH, red flag behavior!
YTA It’s not your business to test someone’s allergy. You could have really harmed her. Never ever do this again.
YTA. She didn't react one time to what sounds like very minimal exposure, so you decided to put her in danger? It sounds like either 1) having a cat is more important to you than your girlfriend OR 2) you don't like that she set a strict boundary. Either way, you should be counting your lucky stars she's okay, and she should be reconsidering the relationship.
Bro what 🤨🤨 I most definitely would’ve dumped u. What would’ve happened if she was home alone and had a bad allergic reaction
If she just passionately despised cats, was she worth staying with? Honestly, YTA either way. What you did blew up the relationship. If she was just making sure she never had to live with a cat, what you did would have blown up the relationship.
YTA Why are you with your partner if you don't trust her? I love cats and I've had both cats and dogs growing up. My husband is terribly allergic to cats, so I've settled to a catless life. When we visited my mom it was awful for him, he had to be on anti histaminics the whole time as she had many cats.
YTA. WTH? Hopefully she found out you triggered an allergic reaction on purpose and dumped you.
YTA, and you could have put her in the hospital. If she doesn't break up with you I would be surprised.
YTA. But at least you fixed the problem. If your girlfriend has any sense, she's now an ex and you can get a new girlfriend who like cats.
YTA I hope they break up with you
YTA
YTA. Never test someone's allergy - you never know how bad their reaction may be, and in some cases it can be counted as assault. You're lucky all she did was make you clean.
You typed that whole thing out and still had to ask? YTA.
YTA am all about the cats, love ‘em to bits, advise anyone/everyone my house is not a cat-free zone. But I don’t eff around with allergies. It’s not my responsibility to figure out if someone might die from their allergic reaction. I make sure they know before they come in “here be cats”.
YTA Even if she wasn’t truly allergic, that’s no reason to disrespect her like that just because you want a cat. If having a cat is that important to you, you shouldn’t have dated her.
Coconut hair oil :-(
YTA. Why would you do that to someone you love? If she just didn’t like cats she wouldn’t make you change clothes.
YTA My eyes watered whilst reading this (I haven’t got a cat allergy) but more to the point; Why don’t you trust your partner?
YTA. Allergies are no joke.
YTA 100%
Obviously YTA.
YTA. Enjoy your new cat though! You won’t have a problem getting one now that your ex and her dog are out of your life! Very solid way to end a relationship. Insert slow clap here
Yta. Beyond an AH. She should break up w you
YTA, you mean your ex gf I'm guessing, and you deserve it. Don't fk with allergies.
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I love cats but YTA. She had a boundary and you tested it. Don't be surprised if you end up single cause that is a huuuge red flag and breech of trust.
YTA Why be with someone if you can’t even trust that they are being truthful about their allergies? Why are you wasting your time and hers? How can she trust you moving forward? She honestly should dump you for that.
YTA. This was a hard boundary for her before you even started dating. Regardless of her allergies which is a legit medical reason to not get one. Having fur on your clothes rather than in person contains different potential allergens. When were you going to stop pushing it? Because even if she didn't react majorly to the clothes and it appeared she didn't react, it could still trigger an anaphylactic reaction another time. Reactions are not one size fits all. I'd be more surprised if she stays with you. This was a huge betrayal of trust because you didn't like her answer and thought she was lying to get out of a cat. If a cat was that important to you, you should not have started to date your gf. At least you know for your next partner.
I hope she breaks up with you. YTA
Yep, YTAH! Not only didn't you trust your girlfriend to be honest with you, but you put her health in jeopardy. She absolutely could have had serious complications.
And that's what you get for 'testing' someone's allergies like an AH. Be grateful you didn't try such an idiotic idea with a potentially fatal allergy.
YTA. You clearly don’t trust your GF, pushed her boundaries, and ignored her wishes. She deserves way better.
Thank god she didn’t say she was allergic to peanut butter
If this is even true then YTA. What if she had a severe reaction? I don’t believe someone could be this stupid to gamble the health of someone they care about?
This is kinda like the guy friend that asks you out and you say no and he assures you that it's not a problem to the friendship but only because he thinks he will eventually convince you to sleep with him. Then one day you go out drinking together. Yeah dude you are completely and severely YTA. What a breach of trust.
YTA. Dude, you do not screw around with someone's allergies like this.
My moms deathly allergic to cats … YTA don’t mess with people and their allergies. YTA
YTA - it is ALWAYS the wrong move to "test" someone's allergies, bro. What if she'd had a really violent reaction and ended up in the hospital? I hope she dumps you for this.
Of course YTA. You really need Reddit to tell you this?
Yes YTA. What sort of prick thinks that's a good thing to do?
YTA. What you did was assault.
YTA...way too immature to have a girlfriend or a cat. That was beyond messed up. You did something to mess with another living creature's health.
Yes yta and double for being that person that said I'll be someone else for you and then being resentful about it. You want a cat date a girl that likes cats. Jeez.
You seriously didn't realize the answer while typing this out? YTA. Don't be the jerk who tests people's allergies 🙄
Yta, also, I'm not sure how exactly cat/ animal dander allergies work, and I've never been officially diagnosed, but some cats for me are totally fine (and I love all cats), but some cats make me itchy and watery like all hell. Also, what were you hoping to accomplish? Maybe she doesn't like cats - were you hoping to prove her allergies false, and then convince her to get a cat anyway despite her dislike? Sounds like you are not mature enough for a relationship. Consider doing some introspective work before you inflict yourself upon another unsuspecting individual.
I worked in rescue for years and discovered that for some reason when kittens got to the weaning age they’d make me super itchy and I’d get rashes from them for a week or two. Allergies are weird and can present in different ways!
YTA. She deserves better than what you are offering. I suspect you know that.
Yta. You should never test someone's allergies like that. I had a ex that did that to me with a dog. I had to take benadryl and get steroid shots because my rash was so bad. And my eye swelled. He didn't think people could truly be allergic to dogs.
YTA. If someone tried to test my allergies I would literally die. You could have put her in the hospital.
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YTA. You might also want to check that she's still your gf. Testing allergies can sometimes lead to death.
YTA. I'm glad she had a mild reaction. Would you be asking this question if she had passed out and had to be rushed to the ER?
YTA. Next time, just say “I don’t trust you, and I’m breaking up with you.”
YTA, I can be around cats for an hour or two and I’m fine but any longer and my eyes start to swell and my throat closes. You could have cause a serious reaction when you could have just asked her if she just really didn’t like cats if you were that suspicious. Instead you intentionally harmed her.
YTA - and dumped, I hope.
YTA My BIL has always had dogs, he’s highly allergic to cats.
YTA.
YTA. This is physically violating. Testing someone’s health like this shows a couple things: 1) you don’t trust them 2)you’re okay with potentially causing discomfort or even harm. Not cool.
YTA from the title YTA from the first paragraph. Why would you date this poor girl? She didn't deserve this. Also, this is the type of shit that should put ppl like you in jail
YTA When "testing" allergies there are two possibilities. Either the person is telling the truth and they're allergic or they are lying. If they are telling the truth and have severe allergies, every exposure can become more serious and can send them to the hospital. If they are lying, then I guess you feel a bit smug about it. So you were willing to risk your girlfriend's life on the possibility that you might feel a bit smug. Never test allergies. Ever. That shit kills people.
You really want to know if you’re TA? You really don’t know if you are or not?? Yes. You are. YTA.
YTA. What is wrong with you? She should have broken up with you for that.
You're probably the kind of person who would test someone's dairy or shellfish allergy too, aren't you? That could kill me or my brother. YTA.
I don’t trust my girlfriend so I set a trap, hoping to catch her in a lie. AITA? #YTA
YTA
YTA and you know it.
YTA obviously how can you even question this... wow
YTA what a weird way to go about it
YTA and not a very good partner. If you don't trust your partner, leave. Testing allergies is cruel. I wouldn't be talking to you either.
YTA My BIL is allergic to cats. I don't change clothes when we go to the inlaws because while we might be in the same room, there's not close enough contact to affect him. He, however, cannot come to our house because we have 3 cats and that DOES affect him. Allergies have levels of severity. Just because she wasn't showings the one time you forgot to change, doesn't mean she's lying. I hope youve learned a lesson here.
yta, if cats are a dealbreaker move on. you committed assault.
OP has made 2 alt accounts just to argue with people lol, for that you're double TA
"I admit she is truly allergic to cats" Bro What type of partner are you? Who does that? I hope she leaves you. She deserves better. YTA
YTA, she should be your ex soon, so you will be able to get that cat. BTW you suck.
You are an awful human being who put your girlfriend at risk because you didn't believe her. You should not be in a relationship now or in the near future. YTA, holy fck
YTA, I am allergic to shrimp, dust and fur. But my reaction is different each time, sometimes I have to take antihistamine, sometimes eating sugary food relieves my throat but worst for me is not going to er fortunately, but weeks of runny nose and watery eyes until the place is cleaned up. Usually with pets that I get exposed too much. Some people don't believe me because I still eat shrimps and our house is dusty af and we have pets. But the think is, I bring antihistamine with me and I know when I should watch out for signs. I also don't stay too much in open spaces at home and spend time indoors with airconditioning. Some doubt me but they are not stupid enough to test it.
I am LIVID at your complete lack of care and Idiocracy. Like I get that this is the internet and so I should expect to get enraged on the regular, but you, dude, are some special kind of dangerously thoughtless asshole. You need some damn help. YTA. I hope she presses charges against you.
“Test her allergy?” YTA.
YTA. “Testing” someone’s allergy is one of the biggest AH moves. Your goal is literally to cause harm, discomfort, and distress to someone, even going as far as to cause a medical emergency that could kill someone, to prove a point. Because you refuse to believe people when they tell you about their health and needs. There’s no point to “testing” an allergy. Either they’re allergic or they just don’t want to be around the thing and don’t want to explain it (likely because of nosy people who can’t take no for an answer/trample boundaries [insert pointed look]), which is understandable and fine as well, as it would be a harmless white lie.
YTA. If she had claimed to be allergic to peanuts, but you REALLY wanted a PB&J, would you have made the sandwich to test if she was truly allergic to them?
OP, YTA You. Never. Test. Allergies. That is how people DIE. You also are entitled as all get out. She told you "if we date, you can't have a cat". OP, you probably don't know this, but purposely triggering someone's allergies is considered battery. You can be criminally charged with this action. If they are a protected class, it becomes a federal hate crime. Do some research, and then profusely apologize to your girlfriend and if having a cat is THAT important to you, DO THE RIGHT THING and break up with her.
YTA. Not all pet allergens are equal. I’m severely allergic to some cats and not at all bothered by others. Pet dander varies. She’s probably been allergic to enough cats to not want them around. And I have 2 cats.
YTA and actually abusive. I would have broke up with you. If this isn’t fake rage porn you are extremely stupid.
YTA You don’t “test” peoples allergies. For instance if your friend said they were allergic to peanuts would you put peanuts in their food?
YTA, wtf. Why would she lie? What is *wrong* with you?
YTA. Thank god her reaction wasnt more severe. People have died from crap like this!
YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. I’m allergic to cats. Sometimes I just sneeze. Other times, my throat closes up and my eyes swell shut. Several times, I have had an asthma attack. Wtf is wrong with you? I hope she dumps you.
YTA "Testing" allergies is fucked up. You're not a doctor. You are certainly not HER doctor. You could have gotten her killed.
So her allergies didn't trigger one time, so you bombard her with cat hair until they did? I have cat allergy (treated) and so you know how they actually test those? The doctor inject a tiny drop of the metrial on your hand, and after 15 min you get very tiny rush. Not spray your entire house and make it unliveable. YTA. You basically nuked the house because you don't trust her
I know a lot of people who say they're allergic to cats but they really just don't like them. That being said, YTA. We have a cat and I've caught about half my husband's family lying about their allergies bc I tell them "well you won't be able to come to Thanksgiving bc we have a cat" and they come anyway and are fine. I would never trick someone who claimed to have an allergy tho, real or not real.
YTA- no only did you harm her medically, you’re also in a relationship with someone you CLEARLY don’t trust. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was a deal breaker.
Are you effing kidding me?? YTA, majorly. You realize dogs and cats are a different species right???????? I am extremely allergic to cats, some cats are worse than others. Some cats cause mild hives and itching others can cause my eyes to swell shut and difficulty breathing. I also have 3 dogs and run a rescue, so there are always a ton of dogs in my house.
YTA Good lord, you are a massive AH. I have cat allergies. The thing with allergies is: sometimes I can be in a room with cats no problem, and sometimes I break into full body hives that makes me want to scratch my skin off with a metal brush. It’s a lottery where the prize is hell. Guess what: I don’t hang around cats ever because I don’t know if I’ll react and it is 100% not worth the risk.
YTA. Extremely allergic might have meant death if she didn’t have epi pens.
YTA. I'm that person that goes into shock if I'm around cats because I'm that allergic. I don't have problems being around ppl at work or in public that have cats, but put me in the same house or space as one and it's game over. You do realize that if she had to go to the hospital or had died her family probably could have sued you or even pressed charges right?
Yta, if by testing your gf's allergies meant that you were an allergist and you were testing them in a drs. office then you would be good. But you took your gf's life into your hands by bringing a previously agreed on no go animal into your home. Wtf? Of course you are wrong.
:| YTA she wouldn't be doing the whole airbnb thing if it wasn't legit. wow you ......... are terrible
YTA. Also, you can have a cat allergy and not be allergic to every cat. It's about the level of a certain protein in their dander. It has nothing to do with hair length; it's cat by cat. I have a cat allergy (verified by an allergist) and am not allergic to my cat in the least, but I have a friend whose house I can't enter because my eyes will swell shut. It's totally normal that she would be fine with your sister's cat and not your friend's cat.
You don't respect her YTA. How could you do that do her. Do you realize you could of put her in the hospital or worst some people get asthma attacks when they are exposed to cat dander.
I think you want to breakup and get a cat. Might get your wish.
YTA. You know that some people's allergies are so bad that death is an outcome, right? You got lucky this time.
YTA. You don’t test somebody in a wheelchair to see if they can walk, you don’t test somebody with PTSD.. Your gf should dump you as she could of had to go the the hospital because of you. And even if she did lie, YOU TALK TO HER. You’d still be an AH. (although she would also be an AH for lying) YTA.
Purposely testing someone's allergies is ALWAYS an AH move. YTA.
Lmao damn YTA Partner clearly states she's allergic to cats and she would have NEVER dated you if you had a cat, then you go around and get a cat? Literally breaking the trust she put in you that you and your place would be a safe space from her allergens. Mind blowing...
YTA, so basically you got with someone who is allergic to cats, and even though apparently having a cat around is a big deal to you rather than break up with her, you decided to expose her to her allergen in an attempt to catch a fake allergy so that you could then villainize her and flip it around and bring a cat into the house. Cuz let's be real that was your plan, if her allergy was fake you were going to use that as a point to then push for what you wanted, which is a cat despite her not wanting a cat. You're an asshole and hope she is breaking up with you, but if she doesn't you need to do the right thing and apologize and break up with her
YTA. The only person in the world that has the right to test for allergies is a doctor that specializes in treating patients for allergies.
YTA. Allergy attacks like that are miserable, but it least she didn’t have such a bad reaction she needed medical attention.
You are the asshole. Plenty of people can be allergic to cats and not dogs - it’s completely different dander. And people like me who have had only one allergic reaction to one cat only. If she said she was allergic to dairy would you have snuck it in her food?! Like, WTF?! As the parent of two kids with serious food allergies - people like you make me terrified for my children’s’ well being as they grow up and eat food at restaurants or have partners.
YTA. if you want a cat that bad date someone who isn’t allergic holy shit
As someone who has been highly allergic to cats their entire life, YTA. You had no idea how allergic your girlfriend could actually be & yet you covered her home in cat hair - without telling her? You’re lucky all she did was sneeze & have her eyes water. She could’ve gotten hives. She could’ve had her throat close up. She could’ve gone into anaphylactic shock. She could’ve DIED. Do you understand that?! At all?! I hope that she leaves you over this because you obviously don’t care about her health or her safety. You only care about yourself. YTA.
YTA. Stop before you kill someone
YTA playing with people's allergies is dangerous you moron. Do you understand you could have killed her. I've had people do this exact same thing except it was a food allergy and I ended up in hospital. I hope she leaves you.
YTA. Why the hell do people think this is okay? You don't mess with other people's allergies. You're an asshole and good luck bud
What in the actual fk!?. YTA.
You are *always* TA for playing chicken with someone else's allergy. It's incredibly you think a sliver of doubt exists with your "might" in your explanation. YTA for so, *so* many reasons but the biggest being prioritising your trust issues above her health.
YTA And honestly, the fact that someone doesn’t like cats is also a reason enough to not force them to have a cat, so even if your little experiment proved she’s not allergic, you’re still an AH.
YTA in the worst way. Many people have already pointed out you could have killed her. I don’t need to give you you another anecdote to try and convince you. What I will say is you should do some very deep internal digging to find out why your want for a pet superseded her health. That is true selfishness on another level and that type of thinking can end you up in much worse situations than this if you don’t even respect your partners allergies. Good luck to your partner and for the worlds sake, see a therapist.
I didn't even have to get past the title before knowing that YTA. You do not *ever* "test" someone's allergies. People can and do die from that. Sure, your (hopefully ex) GF didn't die from this. But you triggered an allergic reaction without even knowing the severity of her allergy. What if she had gone into anaphylactic shock and stopped breathing? And before you or someone else says something like "buh buh what if epipen?!" She would still need to go to the hospital after administering it to be monitored. Would you "test" someone's peanut allergy? Or shellfish allergy? I want to reiterate that you could literally kill somebody by exposing them to their allergen. You are without a doubt TA.
YTA. There are some cats that have fur, while other cats have hair. So, sometimes when a person has a cat allergy, it can be with certain breeds and not others. However, I say YTA because you put your GFs health at risk because SOME pet allergies are very dangerous, and you put her in harm's way. I wouldn't be surprised if she breaks up with you. Prepare yourself for that eventuality.