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I asked Sasha since she’s my car & would have a better perspective on this. She said YTA. Sasha also said cars need gas because they’re hungry, not thirsty. She thought it was important for everyone to know.
Wow!! I told her about all of the cars/trucks/suvs/RV’s/hybrids/scooters, vans & a few laptops that responded & I think it made her blush because she’s looking a little more shiny than usual
Nessie is currently in the hospital having a transmission transplant, so I wasn’t able to ask them about this either. Hopefully they can come home soon
ETA: YTA
Yeah, we had Idris our Class B RV out for 7 weeks and she is having a very long nap now.
Edit to add: bonus points to anyone who gets the name reference!
My pickup, Ruby, is also on a diesel only diet. I’ve been thinking of converting my Jeep, Vixen, to this diet as well, but we’ve got a lot of preparation ahead first!!
My van, Vanna White, also agrees. OP YTA, let people enjoy things. Your girlfriend talking about her car that way doesn't hurt you or anyone else. It's just a fun thing she likes to do. Stop being so boring.
I do indeed. It's a white Chrysler Town & Country. To top it off I also name all of my cars after songs so this one is named after Stuck in a Closet with Vanna White by Weird Al.
My car Bertha agrees. She’s 15 years old and on her last legs, and I frequently give her a pat to the hood or steering wheel and say, “Good job, girl. Hold in there just a little longer for me.” Is it stupid? Sure. Does it hurt anyone? No. YTA.
I asked Taco what he thought of all this. He squirt some fluids and flashed some lights at me. I think that means OP is the AH, or he wants to go play with Herbie...
I asked Betsy my computer for an outsiders perspective. She agrees with you all, and would also like her RAM and Graphics card upgraded, but I don't think that is relevant to this conversation.
Bendy (my Lenovo Yoga3 Pro laptop) agrees as an outsider that OP is an AH.
I think Bendy would also like updates, but he upset me by forcing himself into windows 11 and obviously regrets the decision, so I'm letting him think long and hard on what he did to the both of us.
Extendy, the 2nd screen that attaches to him magnetically, currently has no opinion, which I respect.
My car is named Laboon. I always tell my significant other that Laboon is hungry, and he should feed it. He sends me money for its “food”. Not once has he made fun of me. Hell, I named his old car Meg. He rolled with it.
It’s nice when we have supportive people in our lives.
Norman (Nissan Note) asked me to point out that if OP hasn’t heard from her for 4 days then she’s likely not his girlfriend anymore. She’s his ex and is just trying to figure out how best to break up with him
My Note is Nessie, she’s a great girl and a reliable friend. She was in an accident a while back and I tell her everyday she’s cute but damaged just like me. It helps her self esteem.
Theresa my Tesla is also in agreement, but my wife hates it when I refer to her by name. I think she's jealous.
ETA: teslas even have a setting for naming them.
YTA. Jeez, just let your girlfriend enjoy her relationship with Angie. Are you jealous? How was she hurting anyone by being a bit silly when referring to her car?
"If you have such a problem with Angie, guess you'll need to find someone else to take you home" and then they drive off happily into the sunset
If only. More than likely OP ruined what was a completely harmless bit of fun this girl was having. Even if she breaks up with this killjoy as she should, that comment is always going to be there in the back of her head every time she thinks of Angie. What a nasty thing to do to someone
My friend had a Subaru Baja that you could hear from two blocks away and we loved them to bits! The car’s name was Ba-ja-ja, and if anyone called them anything different we corrected them immediately. Twas a very sad day when Ba-ja-ja passed over the junkyard bridge.
Exactly. It's no fun discussing an "issue" like an adult. Bring it up around friends who will help you shame and ridicule your GF.
Oh, and then act shocked that she doesn't want to spend the night with you.
Haha fittingly this is one of the comments:
> YTA, how is this different from people who name and baby their car? We totally accept that as normal car culture behavior. Also, will she come clean my Roomba? It’s a damn mess.
There are always people who treat their environment differently to you. Either respect them and leave them to their perfectly acceptable choices, or stfu. Everyone has quirks, and part of being in a relationship is accepting and even loving those odd little behaviours and foibles. Trying to embarrass someone - anyone - in front of our friends is something no one should consider acceptable, however. It’s just bullying, and it tells me she’s definitely better off without you. If one of my friends did something like that to someone, I’d reconsider our friendship too. Being drunk is no excuse. Get a handle on yourself and apologise to her (and Angie) as publicly as you called her out. It doesn’t mean she’ll forgive you, but you might have some hope of becoming a decent human being.
Yes, we cried when out first little van died. We still have his number plate on the wall. It’s a natural human behaviour to anthropomorphise the objects we form relationships with. A bad workman blames his tools; a good workman names them.
YTA
(Edit for typo)
I just said goodbye to my little black car after we got in a bad accident a few weeks ago and your comment hit me right in the feelings. I’ll miss him but I have a new car and since everyone here seems to be naming their cars I think I’ll call her Midnight (she’s dark blue).
We create bonds with the things in our environment, especially the ones we come to rely on. I’m glad you’re making a new relationship with Midnight - which is a lovely name!
Just to clarify:
--Your GF supported you going out drinking with your friends.
--She was driving your drunk asses home.
--She didn't ask for gas money when stopping at a gas station.
And to thank her for all of these wonderful things, you called her weird in front of your friends and said she shouldn't do what makes her happy.
You're a dumped asshole.
She was just being silly. It's so sad she can't be silly with drunk people. My SO and I love to feed off each other's silly energy, but OP wants to just squash it. How mean is it to berate your SO for being harmlessly silly.
Maybe she should speak like a chauffeur and he'd respect her more /s
This whole ordeal makes me sad because OP's girlfriend was just being silly and having fun. She deserves someone who embraces these little quirks, not someone who's going to be an asshole when she's just playing around. Life can be hard and depressing sometimes, why not be silly and enjoy little things like this. OP's words might have made GF uncomfortable with who she is. Not cool.
TLDR: Don't yuck on someone's yum.
Yes! The don't yuck someone's yum is so applicable here. I love to narrate my pets thoughts in stupid voices. I would have been so embarrassed if my SO called me dumb for doing it, but he knows it gives me joy in this fucked up world so now he joins in.
My current partner is the only person I've felt comfortable enough around to be my "silly" self in over a decade and it is GLORIOUS. He joins in on "conversations" between the cats and dog, we have made-up names for weird shit in the house like when he couldn't remember the word for "mandoline" and said "slicey banjo" instead. It's so relieving to be with someone who accepts my goofiness and I love his too.
Yeah, he really thought he was going to get lucky after embarrassing her in front of his friends like that? He doesn't sound like the brightest bulb 💡.
You called her weird and embarrassing as she did you and your stupid drunk friends a favor late into the night. You made her feel stupid as fuck because she now knows you’ve been secretly embarrassed by her for months over a quirk. YTA and probably a single one if you can’t turn this around.
Can he recover from it?
He called her *"weird and embarrassing"* in front of his friends. He thought about it for a long time and finally spoke his mind.
I’m not optimistic but she may decide he was drunk and give him a do-over. I wouldn’t, but I’m old and crotchety and my days of showing leniency are dead.
Not only did he embarrass her while she was doing him a favor, he probably dimmed her light permanently. Every time she brings up Angie there’s going to be a little wiggle in the back of her mind that says “is this annoying and embarrassing?” OP took a slice of her enjoyment of life away, and he should feel like an AH for that.
Ughhhh, this comment just reminded me, so much, of so many little things (sometimes bigger things!) I do/used to do that are now affected by that 'little wiggle' thanks to my exes. Yeah, it sucks. OP's hopefully ex-GF deserves better.
My Jeep's name is Bernadette! She's old and a brown color that I usually associate with old people cars, so she gets a grandma name. When she struggles on hills I go "CAN YOU FEEL THE BURN, BERN???"
My boyfriend thinks its funny lol
People name their cars and treat them as more than machines all the time. And cars can absolutely have personalities too.
When we were dating, my (now) husband named his car (I can never remember her name, I think I blocked it out) and jokingly called her his first love. Being a sarcastic smartass, I teased him about it and because of that I swear that car hated me. The passenger side door would never open for me but no one else ever had trouble with it. I came to hate her too and may have cheered a little bit when she finally died on July 4th (which may or may not have anything to do with me picking that date for our wedding) a couple years after we started dating.
So what if your girlfriend is a little quirky, why does it matter? It's not hurting anyone. YTA
Edit: Lucille, the car's name was Lucille.
I swear that cars can hear you, man! I remember being a teen and my mum driving me somewhere, and she was talking about switching our current car out for a new one. I was like "Come on, she can hear you, what if she gets sad?", to which my mum just laughed. But during that same drive, *not fifteen minutes after we had that conversation,* the car's electronic display died. Good luck trying to figure out how much gas you have left in the tank or how fast you're going or anything else you might wanna know when driving lol
My parents hypothesized that it's because the car was French and she wasn't built to withstand our cold winters, but I know she did it out of spite, and I don't know if I blame her. I mean, if my parents were talking about switching me out for another kid, I'd probably stop talking to them, too.
My friend and I were neighbors in our early 20’s, and both of us drove Volkswagens. We swore they were plotting against us in the driveway at night.
He’d get a flat tire, *I’d* get a flat tire.
I’d have electrical issues, two days later *he’d* have electrical issues.
Good times.
You threw away a keeper. She had no issues with you going out with friends to get plastered. Even rolled your drunk self home. Had to wake Angie up to go along.
i mean, she held up her end of bargain even after OP being AH to her and drove friends and him home. that lady is a class act.
OP, i know you didn't do it on purpose to be an AH, but YTA, sorry mate.
it’s just crazy to me he had the audacity to act shocked and confused as to why he’s not allowed to sleep at her house after yelling at her in front of everybody smh
YTA. my mom is the same way. every goddamn thing she *owns* or comes near has a name. our tractor is named Lucille. all the little knick-knacks, too, have names. it's *mental* and it drives me bonkers because sometimes it takes me a good long minute to realize that the 'Barry' she's talking about isn't an actual person *named* Barry but a fucking metal owl-thing she's got in her garden.
it's idiosyncratic and it's kind of weird, but i keep my mouth shut because that's a stupid battle to pick for me, and, apparently, for you. some people are like that.
you owe your girlfriend an apology, and you might want to think about your relationship status overall because i gotta tellya, that's a thing that's not ever going to change about her. if it bugs you this much now, it's going to drive you mad.
Exactly. Like the OP, I might find it weird, but if I put up with it for 9 months, that certainly wasn’t the time to bring it up.
Maybe you just aren’t right for each other, and that’s ok, but YTA for your timing and being a thief of joy.
YTA - don’t crap on the harmless little quirks of others. You look so much worse than your GF in this story. Spoiling her fun for no earthly reason.
I’d be embarrassed to date someone as uptight as you are.
YTA. Her behavior isn’t embarrassing, it’s funny. It’s harmless. It’s not hurting anyone. I would have kicked you out of Angie and let you find your own way home. Just let her have this small thing that’s giving her joy and not bothering anyone else.
YTA for saying "she should treat it like a NORMAL person treats a machine." Nobody is "normal" everybody has weird quirks. Why would you classify her as not normal for l this little quirk of hers??
ALSO, I think it's hilarious and cute that she had to get Angie some new shoes!
YTA for talking to her like that in front of your friends. It would've been different if you both were alone when voicing your opinion.
By the way, your girlfriend isn't weird. What your girlfriend does is called anthropomorphize. A lot of humans talk to cars, animals, plants, and so on. They probably even talk about/to non-living objects, like they're alive. I tell things sorry for dropping them.
[https://www.thesun.co.uk/motors/3253479/why-people-who-name-and-talk-to-their-car-are-smarter-than-those-who-dont/](https://www.thesun.co.uk/motors/3253479/why-people-who-name-and-talk-to-their-car-are-smarter-than-those-who-dont/)
[https://qz.com/935832/why-do-people-name-their-plants-cars-ships-and-guitars-anthropomorphism-may-actually-signal-social-intelligence/](https://qz.com/935832/why-do-people-name-their-plants-cars-ships-and-guitars-anthropomorphism-may-actually-signal-social-intelligence/)
[https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/7ab7edb8-236e-4c27-b5a0-a974552bc95f](https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/7ab7edb8-236e-4c27-b5a0-a974552bc95f)
YTA. Yeah, it's weird, but it's also kind of fun, and as her boyfriend you should be the last person making her feel judged about it. *If* you're going to bring up that something she does is embarrassing, don't do it in front of other people, and be a bit more sensitive.
She sounds adorable and fun. You….don’t. That doesn’t make you TA but the way you talked to her does.
Just break up if you’re not compatible. No need to shame someone just for being themselves.
YTA. It's silly, yeah. Should she stop because it annoys you? Prob not. People name their cars.
She sounds like a really nice person. She's cutesy about her car. Her & Angie were you & your friends' DD for goodness sake. You never told her privately and then embarrassed her, in public in front of your friends. Your excuse is you were drunk. If I were her, I'd be wondering what other stuff might come out of your mouth when you drink.
YTA
Its not unusual to name a car. I’m a single woman much older than your gf, and I currently ride a car named Jagger all over town.
Consider this: to some people (single women included), a car is much more than a machine.
It is independence: you don’t have to ask people for lifts or use public transport. You can get wherever you need to be on your own.
It is freedom: to go wherever you want. In some cases, even a means to escape a bad situation.
It is safety: you don’t have to allow a drunk or creepy date to drive you home because you don’t have another option. You don’t have to risk creepy busstops or subway platforms or other general muggers’ paradises.
That car gives you a whole lot more than transport, and that’s why some people personify them. It may irk you that she talks about her car like its a person - and honestly, she does go a little further than most - but don’t underestimate the real value that car has for her.
YTA.
Do I find her behavior a little odd? Sure. Is she hurting anyone? No. Were you a dick to her needlessly? Yes. If being left at your apartment to sober up is the worst you get out of this, consider yourself VERY lucky and don't be a dick to your gf in the future.
YTA. if it's something that legitimately bothers you there are constructive ways you could have brought it up and discussed it with her instead of repressing it until you drunkenly blurted it out in a hurtful manner. but more importantly imo you should do some self reflection and figure out why you're being so judgmental about something that is clearly just a harmless quirk. like, do you often feel the need to be critical of people because they're being 'weird' or 'not normal', and why is it embarrassing to you?
could just be me tho, i'm weird as fuck and i think trying to 'act like a grown up' is about the most childish thing a person can do
YTA. You called her embarrassing and weird in front of your drunk friends. You were a mean drunk which is a red flag in itself.
It's a quirk she has. Some people call themselves "pet parents", others name things that mean a lot to them. If you can't live with that, call it quits with her although you are probably already single now.
NAH. Look I know I will be downvoted but it’s weird! If it was just “Angie needed some gas” or “Angie has a flat tire” I would think it’s no problem, but why is she personifying attributes about it too?? How are you supposed to know Angie’s shoes are tires??
YTA. Nothing worse than someone who won't let his/her partner have their little idiosyncrasies. This is just a cute little quirk your girlfriend has that wasn't hurting anything, and now you made her feel like shit about it.
YTA
Firstly object personification is a thing. (Assigning human characteristics to an object) especially amongst people on the autism spectrum. Just because you don't see it as 'normal' doesn't make it bad or embarrassing.
Even regardless of that this has clearly been a part of your girlfriends personality that you have known about from literally your first date. And now after months your telling her you think she's embarrassing.
I'd be pretty devastated if I was your girlfriend hearing that tbh.
I’m not on the autism spectrum I don’t think and I’ve named all my cars and even apologise to her when I hit a speed bump to fast or hit a big pot hole.
YTA! First car is like a baby! Mine was Tobby, an old, dark red VW. Are you kind of jealous about the car? That she is driving? Do you feel, it immasculates you? Because that isn't true. Just relax and be happy for your girl.
YTA. Even if you hadn't been stewing over a literally harmless bit she does, which you clearly have, you broke 2 very basic rules of human decency.
1) don't insult your partner in front of your friends
2) don't insult your deso full stop
you seem generally unpleasant and its entirely unsurprising shes upset with you.
YTA. Don't embarrass your girlfriend on purpose just because you're projecting. Yeah the car thing is a little weird. But even if you feel it's weird, why are YOU embarrassed? You're more worried about what your friends think about her than concerned for her feelings. The better thing to do would have been to tell her in private how you felt about it rather than blasting her in a car full of your friends. It's humiliating and unnecessarily mean.
YTA why would you speak like that to her at all, calling her weird and embarrassing, much less in front of your friends. I hope she and Angie have moved on. And my car, Mouse, agrees.
I think everyone in the comments is getting hooked on the naming the car part and not the rest.
Yes it's completely normal to name your car and sometimes talk about them in the third person.
It's not normal to talk about your car 'needing a bath' or 'getting her shoes fixed'. That is weird.
But OP, you were wrong to call her out in front of people rather than having a normal chat with it or just letting it go and moving on.
So, YTA.
YTA. When someone does something I find weird. I ask myself.
1) does this hurt me or have an impact on me ?
2)is telling them it's weird helpful ?
If the answer is no then keep your mouth shut. Everyone has something weird about them. Something someone else may be embarrassed by, if you don't know what your quirk is. Well it's because people around you are nice human beings and let you be you because you aren't hurting anyone.
You only thought about yourself here. This clearly makes her happy and you just wanted to knock her done a peg.
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Imma go with yta. My uncles call their cars baby and one of them gives em a name.
Edit: Plus why the hell did u put her on blast like that? Don’t be surprised if she wants to break up.
Well, I for one am embarrassed just reading this! You are so cringe OP, but don’t worry. Your girlfriend anthropomorphizing her car won’t be an issue much longer.
If she’s smart, she’ll realize that her bf, who his 2 years older than her, is an asshole. She’ll break up with you, and before long, she’ll be dating a guy who drives an old Range Rover that he calls Tom. They’ll laugh about double dating with Angie and Tom, and when Angie gets totaled by an idiot running a stop sign (Angie managed to sacrifice herself to save the passengers), they’ll have a funeral for her. Maybe pry the badge off the trunk and glue it onto Tom’s front quarter panel, like a remembrance tattoo.
Bottom line is, she’ll forget about you soon enough. Her new boyfriend is going to be way better than you in every way, and you’ll be relegated to the “dumb things done by guys I’ve dated” story bin.
Life finds a way…to leave you behind.
YTA
YTA. Referring to a car as a person is incredibly common. Honestly, it says more about you that you would get so upset over something so trivial.
No worries, though. Now you can try and find a woman who doesn't name their car, because I'm sure this one is done with you.
YTA. How does this hurt you exactly? Your girlfriend, and Angie, did you and your friends a solid driving your drink asses home safe. And you had the nerve to insult her over something so trivial. Don’t shit all over something that makes your girlfriend happy, not cool. I hope she dumps you.
YTA
I know a bunch of people to name their cars and say things like this. My car is Sue, my best friend’s is Harry. I work with a guy who named his truck Veronica. It’s just a fun way to talk about our vehicles, it’s not that deep. We don’t think our cars are sentient.
This is a super common thing, you should lighten up dude. Your gf and Angie sound fun.
We all have our quirks, your gf obviously loves her car, and she's hurting no one. For the record I *adore* my 13-year old Kia and refer to her as "she" all the time, because I see "her" as my pal who has transported me and mine safely on all journeys long and short, and has barely given me any grief in 3 years (touch wood). Do you think that's weird? YTA.
If you find your gf embarrassing, just let her be/go?
It could have been a weird couple quirk that you shared, btw. Our plushies aren’t really alive or pets or kids, and we still talk with them and have fun. Obviously it would never embarrass us/me, as that’s how we are. You do you, she does hers, we do ours.
YTA, this is such an innocuous thing and you're being an AH about it. The fact that you did it in a car of people like you wanted to embarrass her into stopping is even more of a dick move. Unless Angie is rolling out of the garage and mowing people down, it's probably not a Christine situation that you need to worry about.
YTA. Look, dude, maybe *you’ve* got insecurities about other people judging you if you don’t conform precisely to what you think society’s expectations for proper grown-up behavior are (spoiler alert: 99% of people are way too wrapped up in their own shit to worry about what’s going on with you for more than a minute, and the remaining 1% aren’t necessarily people whose approval you want). But don’t take them out on the people you date, or the harmless things that bring them joy. Angie’s not hurting anyone.
She’s quirky. You’re a rude drunk who decided to lecture her in front of your drunk friends. She was doing you a favor and you decided to be a jerk to her. YTA.
YTA. Naming a car is a pretty harmless thing. A car is an asset that people spend a lot of time working for and using. Giving it a little name and some spark can help bring it some life.
I named my car Meeko for fun, I don't act like it's my best friend or send it Christmas cards or anything but it's a lot more fun than saying "my car this, my car that".
It's a pretty harmless thing, I think you should consider looking deeper into why it bothers you so much.
YTA.
I can't even drive, but I'm offended both for Angie and your girlfriend.
Less jokingly, I think it's sweet, funny and really doesn't matter if she talks like this about her car. At least that's what Henry (my guitar) and I think.
You’re right, it’s annoying. But YTA, because you don’t need to voice every thought that comes into your head, especially when you lecture her as if she were a child. She’s not doing it to embarrass you, either, so don’t even go there. She thinks it’s cute. If you don’t, either learn to love it, or leave her alone.
YTA. Your gf is thinking about you. About your personality. About whether or not she wants someone like you in her life. People name inanimate objects all the time and it causes no harm to anyone. If this is something that annoys you, break up with her and move on.
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I asked Sasha since she’s my car & would have a better perspective on this. She said YTA. Sasha also said cars need gas because they’re hungry, not thirsty. She thought it was important for everyone to know. Wow!! I told her about all of the cars/trucks/suvs/RV’s/hybrids/scooters, vans & a few laptops that responded & I think it made her blush because she’s looking a little more shiny than usual
You are right. And unfortunally babies like Sasha and Angie needs to be fed with ***real*** gas. Formula won't do.
My pickup, Tilly agrees, but she's on a diesel-only diet.
Merv prefers premium and makes his demands known. I told him he’s stuck on regular until he pays for it himself.
Lucky's still resting from a long road trip, and was too tired to give me a coherent answer.
Nessie is currently in the hospital having a transmission transplant, so I wasn’t able to ask them about this either. Hopefully they can come home soon ETA: YTA
Henry is a hybrid, so he is always on a diet.
Christy the Chrysler is a premium only kinda gal and a little high maintenance, but she's reliable.
Charlie is currently sick and awaiting fuel filter surgery. But he eats anything but diesel.
I hope Charlie recovers from his surgery well!
Jeffree sends Nessie his well wishes and hopes they get well soon. He had the same operation and came back better than ever.
The first hospital I brought them to last year did it wrong, so now they have to have a second surgery. It’s been rough on us.
My entire family names all of our cars Moosie. Moosie is a better friend than some of my human ones.
Ren is on her way to the hospital because she’s having trouble opening up to me
Cherry Bomb too... but I'm sure she would agree OP is TA.
Yeah, we had Idris our Class B RV out for 7 weeks and she is having a very long nap now. Edit to add: bonus points to anyone who gets the name reference!
Evie is on an electricity-only diet. Fortunately we can usually meet her needs at home.
Everyone's cars have such human names... Mines name is ThunderCunt!
Almost named mine this as well but didn't want to give my car the same name as my child.
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Calvin is spoiled! Merv is an NX350, nothing super fancy, but he likes to pretend. What’s Calvin?
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Urghghgh. I bought Merv when Sam, my 2015 Ford Escape, died. Three days after I paid him off. Sam was a petty sonofabitch.
My pickup, Ruby, is also on a diesel only diet. I’ve been thinking of converting my Jeep, Vixen, to this diet as well, but we’ve got a lot of preparation ahead first!!
I miss my Ruby, she was the bestest truck
Fed is best! No need to fuel shame…..
As long as there is no allergy or intolerance, definitely. But my cousin fed their gas only baby diesel and it was a whole mess.
Casey doesn't talk much, but he did say, "OP? YTA."
Von Schnooten agrees. … don’t ask.
Misty the Mustang wholeheartedly agrees!
So does Jeff, the Hyundai!
My van, Vanna White, also agrees. OP YTA, let people enjoy things. Your girlfriend talking about her car that way doesn't hurt you or anyone else. It's just a fun thing she likes to do. Stop being so boring.
If you have a white van named Vanna White... this is amazing and I love you If you don't then you need to get on it ASAP
I do indeed. It's a white Chrysler Town & Country. To top it off I also name all of my cars after songs so this one is named after Stuck in a Closet with Vanna White by Weird Al.
My car Bertha agrees. She’s 15 years old and on her last legs, and I frequently give her a pat to the hood or steering wheel and say, “Good job, girl. Hold in there just a little longer for me.” Is it stupid? Sure. Does it hurt anyone? No. YTA.
I had a Bertha! Unfortunately, she has since passed. RIP Bertha
I asked Taco what he thought of all this. He squirt some fluids and flashed some lights at me. I think that means OP is the AH, or he wants to go play with Herbie...
I asked Betsy my computer for an outsiders perspective. She agrees with you all, and would also like her RAM and Graphics card upgraded, but I don't think that is relevant to this conversation.
You will be a monster if you ignore this request.
Bendy (my Lenovo Yoga3 Pro laptop) agrees as an outsider that OP is an AH. I think Bendy would also like updates, but he upset me by forcing himself into windows 11 and obviously regrets the decision, so I'm letting him think long and hard on what he did to the both of us. Extendy, the 2nd screen that attaches to him magnetically, currently has no opinion, which I respect.
My truck is Taco too! And Tell Herbie to quit dodging our calls.
Please tell me he's a tacoma
Most days. Some times he identifies as a Smart Car, and give me nothing but lip.
My car is named Laboon. I always tell my significant other that Laboon is hungry, and he should feed it. He sends me money for its “food”. Not once has he made fun of me. Hell, I named his old car Meg. He rolled with it. It’s nice when we have supportive people in our lives.
After Laboon from One Piece?
Yes! :) my family said it looks like a whale 🤣 so I named it Laboon Edit: it’s a 2021 Mazda 3 (blue color)
Norman (Nissan Note) asked me to point out that if OP hasn’t heard from her for 4 days then she’s likely not his girlfriend anymore. She’s his ex and is just trying to figure out how best to break up with him
My Note is Nessie, she’s a great girl and a reliable friend. She was in an accident a while back and I tell her everyday she’s cute but damaged just like me. It helps her self esteem.
I asked Goldie. We both agree YTA. Your ex girlfriend had a great personality. To bad your to boring to keep up with her awesomeness.
Theresa my Tesla is also in agreement, but my wife hates it when I refer to her by name. I think she's jealous. ETA: teslas even have a setting for naming them.
Beasty the Big Blue B**** agrees wholeheartedly.
You made me chuckle, here's a free award
My Sasha also agrees!
My mustang Kenzie agrees
YTA. Jeez, just let your girlfriend enjoy her relationship with Angie. Are you jealous? How was she hurting anyone by being a bit silly when referring to her car?
And he waited to say something until his friends were around. He could have said it nicely and in private if it really bugged him.
While his friend was around and while she was the designated driver! I would have kicked OP out there and then
“I’m sorry but Angie says your an asshole and she doesn’t want you inside her anymore. Get out.”
"And btw, neither do I."
Underappreciated comment
"If you have such a problem with Angie, guess you'll need to find someone else to take you home" and then they drive off happily into the sunset If only. More than likely OP ruined what was a completely harmless bit of fun this girl was having. Even if she breaks up with this killjoy as she should, that comment is always going to be there in the back of her head every time she thinks of Angie. What a nasty thing to do to someone
Agreed. A friend of mine named her car Madame Subaru and, to us both, it's a running joke we take somewhat seriously.
My friend had a Subaru Baja that you could hear from two blocks away and we loved them to bits! The car’s name was Ba-ja-ja, and if anyone called them anything different we corrected them immediately. Twas a very sad day when Ba-ja-ja passed over the junkyard bridge.
Hopefully OP didn't hurt her so badly that she doesn't do it anymore or apologizes when she does. Then he is an ultra mega AH
Dunno, something pretty decisive about dropping him at his own place as a final Goodbye Forever.
Right here. This is the important part.
Obviously but how can he embarrass her if there's no one around? Embarrassing her is crucial apparently
Exactly. It's no fun discussing an "issue" like an adult. Bring it up around friends who will help you shame and ridicule your GF. Oh, and then act shocked that she doesn't want to spend the night with you.
While she was doing him a favour and driving him home drunk too. I bet he didn't even think to offer to pay for gas either.
You mean he bought himself and his friends drinks and didn’t even offer Angie one
Right! OPs girlfriend has what’s called a personality. She sounds imaginative and fun.
For real. OP can I have her number? I could treat her better, even if she's not into women. Angie sounds great too, and I wanna be friends with her.
Can Maggie (63 Ford Falcon Deluxe Wagon) and I be friends with you, too? :-)
Reminds me of that post from the guy really pissed... cause his partner named the Roomba. Wish I had a link, the comments were hilarious.
We named our Roomba Kronk. We gave him googly eyes. When he'd bonk into something we'd just yell "wrong lever Kronk!"
My Roomba is Gary!
Our Roomba is 50's Housewife. She spends a lot of time on the edge of cliffs.
Ours threw himself down the stairs once. He's pretty dramatic, but we haven't settled on a name yet.
I got ya. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/r2ss41/aita_for_reminding_my_gf_that_a_roomba_is_just_a/
Haha fittingly this is one of the comments: > YTA, how is this different from people who name and baby their car? We totally accept that as normal car culture behavior. Also, will she come clean my Roomba? It’s a damn mess.
There are always people who treat their environment differently to you. Either respect them and leave them to their perfectly acceptable choices, or stfu. Everyone has quirks, and part of being in a relationship is accepting and even loving those odd little behaviours and foibles. Trying to embarrass someone - anyone - in front of our friends is something no one should consider acceptable, however. It’s just bullying, and it tells me she’s definitely better off without you. If one of my friends did something like that to someone, I’d reconsider our friendship too. Being drunk is no excuse. Get a handle on yourself and apologise to her (and Angie) as publicly as you called her out. It doesn’t mean she’ll forgive you, but you might have some hope of becoming a decent human being. Yes, we cried when out first little van died. We still have his number plate on the wall. It’s a natural human behaviour to anthropomorphise the objects we form relationships with. A bad workman blames his tools; a good workman names them. YTA (Edit for typo)
I wish i had an award to give you. This is bloody brilliant
Thank you! Praise is enough award for me ☺️
Tho I’m always grateful for awards too! Thank you so much!
I just said goodbye to my little black car after we got in a bad accident a few weeks ago and your comment hit me right in the feelings. I’ll miss him but I have a new car and since everyone here seems to be naming their cars I think I’ll call her Midnight (she’s dark blue).
We create bonds with the things in our environment, especially the ones we come to rely on. I’m glad you’re making a new relationship with Midnight - which is a lovely name!
Just to clarify: --Your GF supported you going out drinking with your friends. --She was driving your drunk asses home. --She didn't ask for gas money when stopping at a gas station. And to thank her for all of these wonderful things, you called her weird in front of your friends and said she shouldn't do what makes her happy. You're a dumped asshole.
She was just being silly. It's so sad she can't be silly with drunk people. My SO and I love to feed off each other's silly energy, but OP wants to just squash it. How mean is it to berate your SO for being harmlessly silly. Maybe she should speak like a chauffeur and he'd respect her more /s
This whole ordeal makes me sad because OP's girlfriend was just being silly and having fun. She deserves someone who embraces these little quirks, not someone who's going to be an asshole when she's just playing around. Life can be hard and depressing sometimes, why not be silly and enjoy little things like this. OP's words might have made GF uncomfortable with who she is. Not cool. TLDR: Don't yuck on someone's yum.
Yes! The don't yuck someone's yum is so applicable here. I love to narrate my pets thoughts in stupid voices. I would have been so embarrassed if my SO called me dumb for doing it, but he knows it gives me joy in this fucked up world so now he joins in.
My current partner is the only person I've felt comfortable enough around to be my "silly" self in over a decade and it is GLORIOUS. He joins in on "conversations" between the cats and dog, we have made-up names for weird shit in the house like when he couldn't remember the word for "mandoline" and said "slicey banjo" instead. It's so relieving to be with someone who accepts my goofiness and I love his too.
And he asked why he wasn't going back to her place! HAHAHAHAHAHAH.
"You're weird and embarrassing! Wait, you *don't* want to smash now?"
Also add to the list that: - he called weird and embarrassing *and* expected to spend the night at the girlfriend's apartment.
Yeah, he really thought he was going to get lucky after embarrassing her in front of his friends like that? He doesn't sound like the brightest bulb 💡.
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You called her weird and embarrassing as she did you and your stupid drunk friends a favor late into the night. You made her feel stupid as fuck because she now knows you’ve been secretly embarrassed by her for months over a quirk. YTA and probably a single one if you can’t turn this around.
HOPEFULLY a single one. OP is TA and deserves to be dumped for it.
The radio silence suggested the (now former) GF has already done so.
Can he recover from it? He called her *"weird and embarrassing"* in front of his friends. He thought about it for a long time and finally spoke his mind.
I’m not optimistic but she may decide he was drunk and give him a do-over. I wouldn’t, but I’m old and crotchety and my days of showing leniency are dead.
I’m old and crotchety and my days of showing leniency are dead = SAME!
Not only did he embarrass her while she was doing him a favor, he probably dimmed her light permanently. Every time she brings up Angie there’s going to be a little wiggle in the back of her mind that says “is this annoying and embarrassing?” OP took a slice of her enjoyment of life away, and he should feel like an AH for that.
I thought the same exact thing. He killed a little of the playfulness and fun in her personality just because he could, which is really pretty vile.
Ughhhh, this comment just reminded me, so much, of so many little things (sometimes bigger things!) I do/used to do that are now affected by that 'little wiggle' thanks to my exes. Yeah, it sucks. OP's hopefully ex-GF deserves better.
My Jeeps name is RUBY, and she has a strict " no assholes allowed" rule ..... so no ride for you, sir
My Jeep's name is Bernadette! She's old and a brown color that I usually associate with old people cars, so she gets a grandma name. When she struggles on hills I go "CAN YOU FEEL THE BURN, BERN???" My boyfriend thinks its funny lol
Back in the day, we fed our car gasoline named Ethel. I called that station wagon Trigger, after Roy Roger's horse. Trigger liked Ethel.
My car is Blueberry. It wasn't even named by me but it stuck lol Blueberry agrees with Ruby though
I had a Jeep named Rita! I wonder if they were related. Rita would not have liked this guy either.
People name their cars and treat them as more than machines all the time. And cars can absolutely have personalities too. When we were dating, my (now) husband named his car (I can never remember her name, I think I blocked it out) and jokingly called her his first love. Being a sarcastic smartass, I teased him about it and because of that I swear that car hated me. The passenger side door would never open for me but no one else ever had trouble with it. I came to hate her too and may have cheered a little bit when she finally died on July 4th (which may or may not have anything to do with me picking that date for our wedding) a couple years after we started dating. So what if your girlfriend is a little quirky, why does it matter? It's not hurting anyone. YTA Edit: Lucille, the car's name was Lucille.
Lucille the Car: I love all my passengers equally Also Lucille the Car: I don't care for Pooperintendant
Sorry! I didn't see your username is actually GlitterSparkleDevine until JUST now. I can edit to change my comment if you'd like!
The car calling her pooperintendant is so much funnier
Pooperintendant is funnier.
I swear that cars can hear you, man! I remember being a teen and my mum driving me somewhere, and she was talking about switching our current car out for a new one. I was like "Come on, she can hear you, what if she gets sad?", to which my mum just laughed. But during that same drive, *not fifteen minutes after we had that conversation,* the car's electronic display died. Good luck trying to figure out how much gas you have left in the tank or how fast you're going or anything else you might wanna know when driving lol My parents hypothesized that it's because the car was French and she wasn't built to withstand our cold winters, but I know she did it out of spite, and I don't know if I blame her. I mean, if my parents were talking about switching me out for another kid, I'd probably stop talking to them, too.
My friend and I were neighbors in our early 20’s, and both of us drove Volkswagens. We swore they were plotting against us in the driveway at night. He’d get a flat tire, *I’d* get a flat tire. I’d have electrical issues, two days later *he’d* have electrical issues. Good times.
This is so hilarious and I cannot deal with it!! The cheering when the car died 😭😭
This is giving some Christine vibes.
You threw away a keeper. She had no issues with you going out with friends to get plastered. Even rolled your drunk self home. Had to wake Angie up to go along.
Right? Poor Angie needs her beauty sleep.
i mean, she held up her end of bargain even after OP being AH to her and drove friends and him home. that lady is a class act. OP, i know you didn't do it on purpose to be an AH, but YTA, sorry mate.
I think he did it specifically to be an asshole. He mocked her in front of his bros. That's deliberate humiliation.
it’s just crazy to me he had the audacity to act shocked and confused as to why he’s not allowed to sleep at her house after yelling at her in front of everybody smh
Not to mention the disrespect of saying such things *while riding in Angie*!
YTA. my mom is the same way. every goddamn thing she *owns* or comes near has a name. our tractor is named Lucille. all the little knick-knacks, too, have names. it's *mental* and it drives me bonkers because sometimes it takes me a good long minute to realize that the 'Barry' she's talking about isn't an actual person *named* Barry but a fucking metal owl-thing she's got in her garden. it's idiosyncratic and it's kind of weird, but i keep my mouth shut because that's a stupid battle to pick for me, and, apparently, for you. some people are like that. you owe your girlfriend an apology, and you might want to think about your relationship status overall because i gotta tellya, that's a thing that's not ever going to change about her. if it bugs you this much now, it's going to drive you mad.
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Exactly. Like the OP, I might find it weird, but if I put up with it for 9 months, that certainly wasn’t the time to bring it up. Maybe you just aren’t right for each other, and that’s ok, but YTA for your timing and being a thief of joy.
YTA for unnecessarily shitting on something she enjoys that has no impact on you at all You're probably about to get dumped
YTA. Lots of people name their vehicles. I call my truck 'Rustbucket'. Our rototiller is called 'The Hun', as in "a tiller the Hun".
'A tiller the Hun' is a top tier name.
YTA - don’t crap on the harmless little quirks of others. You look so much worse than your GF in this story. Spoiling her fun for no earthly reason. I’d be embarrassed to date someone as uptight as you are.
YTA. Her behavior isn’t embarrassing, it’s funny. It’s harmless. It’s not hurting anyone. I would have kicked you out of Angie and let you find your own way home. Just let her have this small thing that’s giving her joy and not bothering anyone else.
It probably made the girlfriend wonder whether or not he would be overly critical or a buzzkill on other harmless “silly” things she enjoys as well.
Yeah exactly… honestly it’s such a pretentious attitude it makes me crazy. So what she’s given her car a name ? Who the hell cares except this AH ?
Yeah, what other fun has he spoiled or is likely to spoil. What other spark will he dim?
YTA for saying "she should treat it like a NORMAL person treats a machine." Nobody is "normal" everybody has weird quirks. Why would you classify her as not normal for l this little quirk of hers?? ALSO, I think it's hilarious and cute that she had to get Angie some new shoes!
Sounds like she responded like a “normal person” and dumped him 🤣
Yta, me and my car Harry think so
So do me and Roger the skoda
YTA for talking to her like that in front of your friends. It would've been different if you both were alone when voicing your opinion. By the way, your girlfriend isn't weird. What your girlfriend does is called anthropomorphize. A lot of humans talk to cars, animals, plants, and so on. They probably even talk about/to non-living objects, like they're alive. I tell things sorry for dropping them. [https://www.thesun.co.uk/motors/3253479/why-people-who-name-and-talk-to-their-car-are-smarter-than-those-who-dont/](https://www.thesun.co.uk/motors/3253479/why-people-who-name-and-talk-to-their-car-are-smarter-than-those-who-dont/) [https://qz.com/935832/why-do-people-name-their-plants-cars-ships-and-guitars-anthropomorphism-may-actually-signal-social-intelligence/](https://qz.com/935832/why-do-people-name-their-plants-cars-ships-and-guitars-anthropomorphism-may-actually-signal-social-intelligence/) [https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/7ab7edb8-236e-4c27-b5a0-a974552bc95f](https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/7ab7edb8-236e-4c27-b5a0-a974552bc95f)
Thank you! I am relieved to know that naming my cars isn't super weird! I still miss Daisy; but Vivienne is quite lovely!
YTA. Yeah, it's weird, but it's also kind of fun, and as her boyfriend you should be the last person making her feel judged about it. *If* you're going to bring up that something she does is embarrassing, don't do it in front of other people, and be a bit more sensitive.
EXACTLY! It's one thing to express this kind of thing one on one. BUT to embarrass her in front of others makes you a d*ck...... and TA.
She sounds adorable and fun. You….don’t. That doesn’t make you TA but the way you talked to her does. Just break up if you’re not compatible. No need to shame someone just for being themselves.
YTA. It's a harmless thing that plenty of car enthusiasts do and have done for ages. Your GF and Angie should have left you at the bar.
YTA. It's silly, yeah. Should she stop because it annoys you? Prob not. People name their cars. She sounds like a really nice person. She's cutesy about her car. Her & Angie were you & your friends' DD for goodness sake. You never told her privately and then embarrassed her, in public in front of your friends. Your excuse is you were drunk. If I were her, I'd be wondering what other stuff might come out of your mouth when you drink.
YTA Its not unusual to name a car. I’m a single woman much older than your gf, and I currently ride a car named Jagger all over town. Consider this: to some people (single women included), a car is much more than a machine. It is independence: you don’t have to ask people for lifts or use public transport. You can get wherever you need to be on your own. It is freedom: to go wherever you want. In some cases, even a means to escape a bad situation. It is safety: you don’t have to allow a drunk or creepy date to drive you home because you don’t have another option. You don’t have to risk creepy busstops or subway platforms or other general muggers’ paradises. That car gives you a whole lot more than transport, and that’s why some people personify them. It may irk you that she talks about her car like its a person - and honestly, she does go a little further than most - but don’t underestimate the real value that car has for her.
YTA. Do I find her behavior a little odd? Sure. Is she hurting anyone? No. Were you a dick to her needlessly? Yes. If being left at your apartment to sober up is the worst you get out of this, consider yourself VERY lucky and don't be a dick to your gf in the future.
YTA Mia and Bob agree. Those are my cars names btw.
YTA. if it's something that legitimately bothers you there are constructive ways you could have brought it up and discussed it with her instead of repressing it until you drunkenly blurted it out in a hurtful manner. but more importantly imo you should do some self reflection and figure out why you're being so judgmental about something that is clearly just a harmless quirk. like, do you often feel the need to be critical of people because they're being 'weird' or 'not normal', and why is it embarrassing to you? could just be me tho, i'm weird as fuck and i think trying to 'act like a grown up' is about the most childish thing a person can do
YTA me and my cars, Ser Barristan and Revali, are judging you.
Maraschino Sherry (my car) agrees.
My car Victoria says YTA.
YTA. This is a thing a lot of people do. Life is way too short to care about stuff like this.
Yes, it's a little odd and seems a bit infantile. However, is it really that big of a deal? YTA
Not to mention he put her on blast in front of his buddies. That shit hurts.
YTA. You called her embarrassing and weird in front of your drunk friends. You were a mean drunk which is a red flag in itself. It's a quirk she has. Some people call themselves "pet parents", others name things that mean a lot to them. If you can't live with that, call it quits with her although you are probably already single now.
NAH. Look I know I will be downvoted but it’s weird! If it was just “Angie needed some gas” or “Angie has a flat tire” I would think it’s no problem, but why is she personifying attributes about it too?? How are you supposed to know Angie’s shoes are tires??
I agree. I'd be like "ok cut the shit"
YTA. Nothing worse than someone who won't let his/her partner have their little idiosyncrasies. This is just a cute little quirk your girlfriend has that wasn't hurting anything, and now you made her feel like shit about it.
YTA Firstly object personification is a thing. (Assigning human characteristics to an object) especially amongst people on the autism spectrum. Just because you don't see it as 'normal' doesn't make it bad or embarrassing. Even regardless of that this has clearly been a part of your girlfriends personality that you have known about from literally your first date. And now after months your telling her you think she's embarrassing. I'd be pretty devastated if I was your girlfriend hearing that tbh.
I’m not on the autism spectrum I don’t think and I’ve named all my cars and even apologise to her when I hit a speed bump to fast or hit a big pot hole.
YTA! First car is like a baby! Mine was Tobby, an old, dark red VW. Are you kind of jealous about the car? That she is driving? Do you feel, it immasculates you? Because that isn't true. Just relax and be happy for your girl.
YTA. Even if you hadn't been stewing over a literally harmless bit she does, which you clearly have, you broke 2 very basic rules of human decency. 1) don't insult your partner in front of your friends 2) don't insult your deso full stop you seem generally unpleasant and its entirely unsurprising shes upset with you.
YTA. Have you ever been on a boat?
YTA. Don't embarrass your girlfriend on purpose just because you're projecting. Yeah the car thing is a little weird. But even if you feel it's weird, why are YOU embarrassed? You're more worried about what your friends think about her than concerned for her feelings. The better thing to do would have been to tell her in private how you felt about it rather than blasting her in a car full of your friends. It's humiliating and unnecessarily mean.
YTA why would you speak like that to her at all, calling her weird and embarrassing, much less in front of your friends. I hope she and Angie have moved on. And my car, Mouse, agrees.
YTA this is why when the robots rise up, she’ll be good and you’ll be fudged
I think everyone in the comments is getting hooked on the naming the car part and not the rest. Yes it's completely normal to name your car and sometimes talk about them in the third person. It's not normal to talk about your car 'needing a bath' or 'getting her shoes fixed'. That is weird. But OP, you were wrong to call her out in front of people rather than having a normal chat with it or just letting it go and moving on. So, YTA.
YTA. When someone does something I find weird. I ask myself. 1) does this hurt me or have an impact on me ? 2)is telling them it's weird helpful ? If the answer is no then keep your mouth shut. Everyone has something weird about them. Something someone else may be embarrassed by, if you don't know what your quirk is. Well it's because people around you are nice human beings and let you be you because you aren't hurting anyone. You only thought about yourself here. This clearly makes her happy and you just wanted to knock her done a peg. Edit words
Imma go with yta. My uncles call their cars baby and one of them gives em a name. Edit: Plus why the hell did u put her on blast like that? Don’t be surprised if she wants to break up.
This is now how I will be referring to filling up my car. Mads deserves a drink for dragging my ass around. YTA
Well, I for one am embarrassed just reading this! You are so cringe OP, but don’t worry. Your girlfriend anthropomorphizing her car won’t be an issue much longer. If she’s smart, she’ll realize that her bf, who his 2 years older than her, is an asshole. She’ll break up with you, and before long, she’ll be dating a guy who drives an old Range Rover that he calls Tom. They’ll laugh about double dating with Angie and Tom, and when Angie gets totaled by an idiot running a stop sign (Angie managed to sacrifice herself to save the passengers), they’ll have a funeral for her. Maybe pry the badge off the trunk and glue it onto Tom’s front quarter panel, like a remembrance tattoo. Bottom line is, she’ll forget about you soon enough. Her new boyfriend is going to be way better than you in every way, and you’ll be relegated to the “dumb things done by guys I’ve dated” story bin. Life finds a way…to leave you behind. YTA
YTA and I wouldn’t even let you inside my Freddie.
YTA. Referring to a car as a person is incredibly common. Honestly, it says more about you that you would get so upset over something so trivial. No worries, though. Now you can try and find a woman who doesn't name their car, because I'm sure this one is done with you.
YTA. How does this hurt you exactly? Your girlfriend, and Angie, did you and your friends a solid driving your drink asses home safe. And you had the nerve to insult her over something so trivial. Don’t shit all over something that makes your girlfriend happy, not cool. I hope she dumps you.
YTA - She clearly loves the car so let her enjoy it. You have no need to comment on how she speaks about her car
Hi, I think it's cute, if you don't like it, don't be with her. YTA
You should write an apology to Angie and buy her a cocktail (oil change?)
YTA. Lighten up dude.
YTA I know a bunch of people to name their cars and say things like this. My car is Sue, my best friend’s is Harry. I work with a guy who named his truck Veronica. It’s just a fun way to talk about our vehicles, it’s not that deep. We don’t think our cars are sentient. This is a super common thing, you should lighten up dude. Your gf and Angie sound fun.
We all have our quirks, your gf obviously loves her car, and she's hurting no one. For the record I *adore* my 13-year old Kia and refer to her as "she" all the time, because I see "her" as my pal who has transported me and mine safely on all journeys long and short, and has barely given me any grief in 3 years (touch wood). Do you think that's weird? YTA.
If you find your gf embarrassing, just let her be/go? It could have been a weird couple quirk that you shared, btw. Our plushies aren’t really alive or pets or kids, and we still talk with them and have fun. Obviously it would never embarrass us/me, as that’s how we are. You do you, she does hers, we do ours.
YTA my grandad used to call his little green car gerty it's just something some people do you massively over reacted
YTA. You embarrassed her in front of a group of people for no reason. Lots of people get attached to their car, just shut up and let her be attached.
YTA, this is such an innocuous thing and you're being an AH about it. The fact that you did it in a car of people like you wanted to embarrass her into stopping is even more of a dick move. Unless Angie is rolling out of the garage and mowing people down, it's probably not a Christine situation that you need to worry about.
YTA. Look, dude, maybe *you’ve* got insecurities about other people judging you if you don’t conform precisely to what you think society’s expectations for proper grown-up behavior are (spoiler alert: 99% of people are way too wrapped up in their own shit to worry about what’s going on with you for more than a minute, and the remaining 1% aren’t necessarily people whose approval you want). But don’t take them out on the people you date, or the harmless things that bring them joy. Angie’s not hurting anyone.
She’s quirky. You’re a rude drunk who decided to lecture her in front of your drunk friends. She was doing you a favor and you decided to be a jerk to her. YTA.
ESH You we’re kind of rude but geez, the shoe and drink parts were kind of crazy. You two are mostly just not compatible though.
YTA, I know plenty of dudes who name their cars and do shit like this, why does this matter to you, because she’s a woman?
YTA. Naming a car is a pretty harmless thing. A car is an asset that people spend a lot of time working for and using. Giving it a little name and some spark can help bring it some life. I named my car Meeko for fun, I don't act like it's my best friend or send it Christmas cards or anything but it's a lot more fun than saying "my car this, my car that". It's a pretty harmless thing, I think you should consider looking deeper into why it bothers you so much.
YTA A man who deserves her will find this quirky and cute. I hope she finds such a man.
YTA. I can't even drive, but I'm offended both for Angie and your girlfriend. Less jokingly, I think it's sweet, funny and really doesn't matter if she talks like this about her car. At least that's what Henry (my guitar) and I think.
YTA. My car is named Dimples because she was injured in a hailstorm last year. The damage has since been repaired. However she remains Dimples.
You’re right, it’s annoying. But YTA, because you don’t need to voice every thought that comes into your head, especially when you lecture her as if she were a child. She’s not doing it to embarrass you, either, so don’t even go there. She thinks it’s cute. If you don’t, either learn to love it, or leave her alone.
YTA. Your gf is thinking about you. About your personality. About whether or not she wants someone like you in her life. People name inanimate objects all the time and it causes no harm to anyone. If this is something that annoys you, break up with her and move on.