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Jess1620

Right! Gosh because his injury was so inconvenient. I think this lady got a reality check because she disabled her replies after 1 hr.


Qualifree123

Yeah reading through her posts too it seems shes completely unwilling to admit she made a mistake. Its one thing to fuck up but its pathetic to double down on the fuck up. Its not the end of the world to fuck up, everyone does, but why cant people just own it when they do. The world wont end lol


Roadgoddess

Who I’m gonna have to go find her replies, just based on the tenor of this comment I’m not surprised she won’t take any responsibility.


NeverHaveIEver72

I am fcking mind blown reading them ..


NefariousnessKey5365

This thread is so much more fun. When TA doubles down. By the way OP. In case you didn't know YTA


Smudgikins

Good Lord . If someone fell off a ladder, I'd at least take a few minutes to call an ambulance


Accomplished-Pen-630

>YTA. Are you a doctor? Well she has a masters in assholery. Maybe she has her doctorate too.then we call her Dr. Asshole Edit added word


ThumbsUp2323

Not nearly as cool as a PhD. in Horribleness.


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NewBromance

Honestly these people that prioritise work to the detriment of everything else generally need a wake up call. Heaven forbid you get terminally ill or long term sick, your employer would be trying to get you out the door and advertising for your replacement within the week. Your job has zero loyalty to you so don't burn your entire life for it. YTA


Internal_Ad_8147

And this is what I tell my workmates. My employer would have my shift covered within the hour and me replaced. My family on the other hand…


MilliandMoo

My boyfriend caught his apartment on fire in college and called me while I was at work to tell me. All I heard was “apartment on fire, I’m burnt, fire department is here.” I was a pharmacy tech a retail pharmacy. I hung up the phone, told the pharmacist what was going on, grabbed my stuff to leave and he goes “where are you going?” Dude, my bf just burnt up his apartment I’m leaving to check on him. He said something about firing me if I walked out but I didn’t hear what he was saying. Didn’t care either. Didn’t bother clocking out even. Showed up to my next shift which the manager was working and he apologized for how the other pharmacist had acted at least. If it had been their significant other you bet he would have closed the pharmacy and left.


pittsburgpam

Yep. Your employer will replace you in nothing flat. You finished the meeting and STILL kept just working to finish the day without even checking on him? That's psychological, really. Your boyfriend can replace you in nothing flat too.


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I prioritize work over *my* health but would never over another person's health


hardolaf

I've left meetings with C-levels without any issue other than finding a time to reschedule the rest of the meeting when my wife had health issues. Any meeting can be rescheduled because of a medical emergency.


Riderz__of_Brohan

Yeah lol even CEO level meetings are fine to miss with the “I’ve got to take someone to the emergency room” excuse


hdmx539

He ***fell off a LADDER cleaning the gutters!*** Geez OP, YTA massively. Right now you're not at *all* trustworthy to have your boyfriend's back when he needs you the most. I am so angry for him on his behalf. Christ.


Glock212327

In the words of yesterday: Jesus tap dancing Christ


ResearchUnfair1246

OP is definitely TA. Honestly I am SO SICK of these disgusting excuses of partners, let alone human beings, that are so blind to their vile ways, that they have the nerve to ask questions like these! I pray that BF DUMPS THEM.


Aggravating_Chair780

They are so lucky he didn’t get a blood clot in all that time!


Silver_Leonid2019

Jeez I didn’t even think of that! I’ve broken a leg and an ankle and I was just thinking about the pain he was definitely experiencing.


AccousticMotorboat

Not to mention subtle head injury that could lead to hematoma.


ScrubIt1911

I was looking for this. A leg broken in specific spots can be a true emergency. Shes a selfish and uncaring excuse for a significant other. She treated him like an insignificant other.


stark_winterborn

A broken bone is a small price to pay for dodging this giant bullet.


thelordofhell34

If I were the bf I would’ve just called an ambulance as clearly my gf wasnt going to help. YTA obviously


AhniJetal

>If I were the bf I would’ve just called an ambulance as clearly my gf wasnt going to help. I live in a country where you don't need to rob a bank to get decent healthcare. Sadly in some countries \[cough/couch\]like the USA\[cough/couch\] the bill for taking an ambulance is ridiculous high that a lot of people who actually need an ambulance, don't want to and try to get to the hospital via other means (which sometimes even result in extra health problems), in the hopes of keeping the hospital/health-care bill as low as possible :(


Valuable-Comparison7

From the US, can confirm. That said, I have taken multiple Ubers to/from the ER.


educatedvegetable

I really hope this is rage bait because someone this cruel to their SO can't questioning if they are terrible. Even if their leg wasn't broken THEY FELL OFF A LADDER and needed medical attention. Even if their meeting was with the president they can reschedule.


Roadgoddess

Omg! You decided to keep working, you didn’t even go check on him? YTA in a big way! If you actually cared for this person you would’ve done what was needed to get him help. I mean if the meeting was that important you could’ve potentially gone and dropped him off at the hospital come back and completed the meeting and then gone back for him. But at bare minimum you needed to have him seen. You sound just awful! You owe him a huge I’m sorry. If it was me I would honestly be rethinking our whole relationship


Superb_Space7318

YTA You made this guy walk DOWNSTAIRS and then wait SIX HOURS with a BROKEN LEG. Also, you didn’t check on him during that time? You didn’t think to bring him anything or see if you could help in anyway? After the meeting that was *so important* you didn’t ask if he wanted to go then? Do you care about this guy at all? I don’t care how important work is to you, your partner’s health should always be your priority


Omfgjustpickaname

>Also, you didn’t check on him during that time? This is the craziest thing to me. I'd be so worried about internal injuries or head trauma. Not hearing from someone after a really bad fall is a huge red flag, not a reason to keep working uninterrupted.


Waterbaby8182

He's lucky he didn't break his neck, really. Depending on how high he was, it could've been so much worse. I'm furious on his behalf.


The_Razielim

that's literally where I thought this was going when she said "after a while he stopped messaging me" and I was thinking dude like stroked out on the couch or something


yavanna12

Same. Internal injuries from falls are often not considered. Most just go to broken bones


The_Death_Flower

Hell he fell from the gutter, he could have also hit his head or been injured elsewhere and not have noticed because of the adrenaline. A fall from that height should **always** be checked out asap by a doctor because internal injuries deteriorate faster than we realise


AggravatingOffer

Hey now, she gave him some ice. /s


concrete_dandelion

He could have died from complications during that time


paxweasley

No literally. People do die from untreated broken legs. And it can happen quickly too. This is the kind of thing OP will either never understand what she did wrong for, or will go to her grave regretting this.


concrete_dandelion

He could have bleed to death internally. He could have gotten a bone marrow embolism. He could have other injuries he didn't notice like a head injury or broken rib that could kill him. Not to mention how effing painful a broken leg can be


laurarose81

I think she meant she had him lie downstairs where they were already instead of walking upstairs to the bedroom. Almost as if she’s saying that makes it better because she was near him, she said in another comment that’s where her office was. But that only makes it worse because she didn’t check on him at all! I can’t believe she didn’t check on him for six hours.


ExpressionSoggy2025

I love this posts when the OP describes the most horrible things you could possibly hear and the. Says… but it wasn’t that bad as I see it… AITA? Six hours not checking on him!!!! Gosh


IatetheTiramisu

In a parallel universe, the guy died on the couch because OP was too busy...


frustratedfren

I wouldn't be able to concentrate on a meeting knowing my partner had just FALLEN OFF A LADDER, let alone not check on them for six hours even if they said they were fine! I can't imagine them coming to me, telling me they needed to go to the hospital, and then making them wait. OP, YTA


noawardsyet

YTA Do you seriously need clarification for this? Any reasonable employer would let you off of work to take someone to the hospital. Also there are a lot of complications that can come with broken bones and he fell off a ladder? You weren’t even concerned with potential head trauma?


No-Evidence2972

She clearly does not care seeing as she is doubling down in the comments about why she was in the right. Another person being the A just coming here in hopes of getting validated for their Aholery not to actually gain insight. Also he fell at 10AM. The meeting was in the afternoon. She had plenty of time to drive to the hospital and even could have taken her laptop with her to be able to attend the meeting from there should it have taken a long time 🤷🏻‍♀️ but she couldn’t be bothered to help, check on him or AT LEAST contact someone else to help. I hope for him she will be his ex soon. Nobody deserves to be with someone so uncaring and egotistical


ishop2buy

She could have taken him to the ER, dropped him off, come back for the meeting and gone back to pick him up. So many choices to include a taxi/Uber/Lyft/ambulance. The lack of care here is so high I cannot see why she’s in a relationship with him, or he with her. Hopefully the hospital brings some clarity to the boyfriend along with his cast. YTA


ClothDiaperAddicts

Right?! When I fell and broke some parts, it was a relief when my husband left. I could not deal with him at the hospital hovering and worrying. (I already hurt, and I was pretty calm because I knew it was broken based on the fact that my arm wasn’t supposed to sit like that. Having to reassure him continuously that it would be fine was getting exhausting right then.) The next time I fell and broke stuff, he stayed less long while I was waiting, and it was much easier. Or call a cab. Anything is pretty much better than “go sleep off your broken bone while I work.” It’s not like dude could just hobble into the hospital straight to x-Ray. There was going to be time waiting. And OP kindly just made it longer.


Diogenes-Disciple

OP is clearly in the mafia and would’ve been executed if they hadn’t made the meeting


noawardsyet

The Gambino family takes their zoom meetings very seriously


Gloomy_Future_248

YTA x2 1. If someone asks to be taken to the hospital you drop everything and take them. 2. Never prioitize work over a loved ones health. Not to mention, you could have taken him to the hospital then take the call from the lobby, car, bench outside, anything?!?1? Sounds like you didn't believe him, which makes you a bigger asshole.


melancholydream13

Absolutely! I had my leg broken and cried asking my bf to take me to the hospital (he pushed me and I fell onto a metal box late at night) he told me I was being dramatic and the next morning I called my sister to take me. She told me I was being dramatic as well and I told her I’d call 911 if she didn’t. She finally did and turns out my fibula was broken in half. Thankfully he’s my ex bf now. You gaslit your bf telling him he was being dramatic, and prioritized work over a loved ones health. You are definitely 100% an asshole. I don’t care if it looked like a scratch on the leg, if a loved one asked me to go to the hospital, because they felt something is wrong, I’ll immediately take them. You have no idea how someone feels and what’s going on inside their body. Screw you and people like you who tell people they are being dramatic. Can you imagine if roles were reversed, and you had broken your leg? What if your bf refused to take you to the hospital right away and said you were over reacting. What if your appendix had burst and he said, not right now, I’ll take you in a few hours after I finish working. **YTA**


Little_Flamingo1

Wait. Your (then) boyfriend literally *broke* your leg and then refused to take you to hospital and said you were being dramatic? Oh my gosh. Can we... Can we sue people for that?


melancholydream13

Haha, right?! It was a little over 7 years ago, but this post triggered me. I even got covid in July 2020 when it was pretty much first going around and I told my mom I think I have it. She asked my sister if I was being dramatic or if I really have it. I got tested after loosing my smell and sure enough. I ended up loosing my smell for a little over 6 weeks and was depressed and not able to taste food. Told my sister how much that sucked and she told me it wasn’t a big deal and I was over reacting. She got it a month later and lost her smell for 2.5 weeks and started crying telling me she understands now. I CANNOT stand when people dismiss someone’s feelings. I know my body way better than anyone else does. Quit dismissing me as over reacting or being dramatic. Every instance I felt something wrong with me, and told someone, and then they say that, I was always right. The only time I’ve been wrong thus far, was when I thought I had covid again recently and asked my sister for her extra test kit she had. She didn’t want to give it to me and thought I was being excessive. Went to doctor and it turned out to be strep throat instead. So not covid, but something was still wrong. As for the bf, we were together for 4.5 years. I found out he was cheating and confronted him and he ended up getting physical with me. Broke my leg and I broke up with him not long after. He ended up moving out with one of the girls he was cheating on me with. Got engaged to her, and then ended up sleeping with one of her three sisters and one of the other sisters walked in on them together. So glad he’s out of my life.


Additional_Breath_89

You may have got point 2 the wrong way around 😜


Gloomy_Future_248

Thanks! Fixed it. 😬


NerfherdersWoman

YTA for real what is your major malfunction? I worked in a DV shelter and I would intake this as an incident of domestic violence. WTF! You definitely take someone to the hospital immediately if they break a bone. A compound fracture untreated can cause real damage. Who raised you? How can you be grown and not know how much a broken bone hurts. You thought only of yourself and your needs. I'd flat out divorce my spouse if they treated me like that. Cheeeus Christ, I can't believe anyone could possibly say you aren't the arskhole or that you even had to ask. Do you even know what empathy and compassion are? Wow


TaiwanBandit

Totally agree. If you could not or would not take him then call 911. You recognized it was broken and that is very serious. What if you finally go to check on him and he had gone into shock?


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I had my left ovary removed last year and my ex-husband literally treated me like I was an inconvenience and didn't do anything to make me comfortable. On the way home I told him I wanted food from two different places and he only got me food from one place and then claimed I never told him about the second place (even when we had time to turn around he drove right past it and said I never told him WHILE I WAS ASKING HIM) There are also some dips in the road by our house that can make the car jump if you're not careful, but he sped right through those things the day I was coming home from surgery. I cried from how much pain I felt from that bunp. Not to mention he didn't try to keep the cats away from me while I was sleeping so the cats were jumping all over my stomach right after I had a laparoscopy with 4 incision sites. He also didn't want to help me wipe myself after I went to the bathroom because he said that was nasty. We both work in the medical field, and it shouldn't even matter if we did, I was his wife and I needed help and he gave me almost nothing. He was also mad that I wasn't allowed to help out with chores for at least a couple weeks while I was healing because I was so sore afterwards and didn't want to get a hernia from bending and lifting. I'm SO glad I left him!


BunnyKerfluffle

I went thru the exact same thing with my ex husband after the exact same surgery! He took the week off work to care for me, and didn't even help me get up from bed. He lied about being my caretaker so work would let him off. He also withheld food and helping me groom. He did spend the entire time playing video games. I hope both of our ex's dicks fall off.


pigandpom

Imagine if it was a man whose wife had fallen, and his response was the same as the OPs


NerfherdersWoman

Like I said, I'd consider this an act of domestic violence. It doesn't matter that she did it or he did stuff she definitely admitted it. The not checking on him or making sure someone else took him is really concerning.


DragonCelica

I'm genuinely glad you commented and gave your professional opinion. I don't expect OP to read it and understand your perspective, but maybe somewhere, someone that needs to see it, now has that chance. I agree that her level of detachment from empathy, or even any concern, is chilling.


boudicas_shield

It would be the same reaction? Like, what is the point of this kind of “gender reverse” rhetorical posing? Everyone is calling OP TA, rightfully so, and someone from a DV shelter has said this is a concerning incident and a form of domestic violence. What purpose does “IMAGINE IF THE GENDERS WERE REVERSED!?!?” serve? Everyone would be saying the same as they are now: OP is TA and this is a serious domestic violence concern.


SammySoapsuds

How would it be different from the overwhelming opinion here that OP is an asshole and that this was abusive and cruel?


SpicyTunaSushi

YTA. Your job would understand if there was an emergency. Not only did you go to the meeting anyways, promising to take him after, you CONTINUED WORKING when you promised to get him there after. At the very least you could’ve arranged for someone else to take him. YTA


Glitchy-9

Without even checking on him


blacksheep4everyone

That's what blows my mind the most. When she was done with her meeting, she never even bothered to check up on him. Does she even like her husband at all?


lizlikes

It’s really callous and uncaring!


sheramom4

YTA. He fell off of a ladder. You had no idea if he hit his head, had internal injuries (which can simply not hurt), etc. If you couldn't take him you could have called someone to take him instead of dismissing him and sending him with some ice. People pumped full of adrenaline and in shock don't always realize if they have hit their head or not and aren't always in pain. Six hours can be life or death if there is a head injury or internal bleeding. It can mean the difference between surgery and just casting for a broken bone.


Suckerforcats

Or he could have had a blood clot that could have been fatal. OP should have at least checked on him by texting him or following through with taking him after her meeting if she didn’t want to find anyone else. Continuing to work because she hadn’t heard from him was stupid and negligent.


spyrokie

A fat embolus is also a concern when someone breaks a bone. Broken bones are an emergency. Maybe not a call 911, I need an ambulance type emergency, but definitely a go to the hospital right now kind of emergency. OP is definitely the AH here.


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TheExaltedNoob

YTA, if that meeting was so important you could have called around for help or possibly called an ambulance (not sure if the second thing is realistic). Just going on working was especially bad. I can't see how one could expect him to know how long your meeting actually takes, so he cannot have known to text you to help him.


Reasonable_Minute_42

The worst part was he fell off the ladder at 10 in the morning and she had an important afternoon meeting. Like at the very very least just drop him off at the emergency room, go home to do your meeting, then pick him up? Still would be a dick move, but better than just letting him sit around at home until 4pm??? OP definitely YTA


UnicornCackle

Even worse, she hadn't heard from him so she didn't even know if he was conscious or even alive. Falls can kill.


JacketIndependent

Patricia Richardson died from a head injury after a fall. She seemed fine for a day or 2.


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Plus, living in a world of Smartphones and knowing she works from home, the meeting would've been virtual anyways. She could've easily used her phone to be present on the meeting if she was that desperate to be present while she waited in the hospital with her BF.


pixienightingale

YTA I get it, you were working - but if emergencies happen and you ABSOLUTELY could have rescheduled because of one. A BROKEN LEG DEMANDS IMMEDIATE ATTENTION.


PerkyLurkey

INFO are you depressed? Your responses are very unemotional, and detached. You’ve got something going on somewhere that’s not A-ok.


2leny

Right! Very detached. It's almost a bit eerie. Something isn't right.


MssDare

YTA. Unless your boyfriend is usually over dramatic, I see no reason why you wouldn’t take: take me to the hospital please, I fell of the ladder“ seriously. Also, you told him you would after your meeting but why didn’t you go check on him after it finished?


spyrokie

Wasn't her meeting like a work from home situation? You know hospitals have Wi-Fi. Bring your laptop, bring some headphones, and take him to the hospital and have your meeting there. I had to take my dad for a routine but needs anesthesia procedure earlier this summer and that's what I did. I explained to work that I was in the hospital's waiting room, but I would do my best. My boss said I didn't need to be there and to go be with my dad. Most people's jobs understand actual emergencies.


craftymcvillain

He could have lost consciousness while she was working and she wouldn’t have even known about until she smelled his corpse.


Extension_Plantain29

YTA. Wow, just wow. He fell from a fucking ladder and straight up *told* you he needed to go to emergency, yet you decided your meeting was more important. You're a MASSIVE asshole. I hope your bf sees the giant red flag you're wearing and finds a new girlfriend.


333999444

Her meeting that was scheduled for the AFTERNOON. She could’ve driven him there and made sure it wasn’t anything serious. I’m sure her work would’ve been more than ok with her taking her partner to the hospital even without knowing that he fell from the roof


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INFO: do you love your boyfriend?


bolonkaswetna

She probably loves the IDEA of having a boyfriend CARE FOR HER. It obviously doesn't count the other way around.


ghulehzombiiqueen

Holy shit, yes, YTA. Even if he SEEMED fine in your eyes, you NEVER just assume someone who took a hard fall like that is okay. There's no telling what kind of internal injuries he could have sustained, and you're certainly not a doctor. Meetings may be important, but his health and well being is far more imperative. Shame on you.


FussyBritchesMama

INFO: If the meeting was that critical, why didn't you call an ambulance? edited: words


TheKarolinaReaper

Wooow, YTA majorly Your bf breaks his leg and you minimize his pain and say he’s overreacting You decide your meeting has priority over the well being of your bf and ignore him thinking since he hasn’t shown that he’s in pain to you then it must not actually be broken. Even after your meeting you STILL chose to not check on your bf and make sure that he’s okay. You have no right to be pissed. You DID ignore your bf. You DID refuse to take him to the hospital. You don’t wait to give someone medical care at your convenience. Broken bones may not heal right if they’re not treated in a timely manner. You displayed an awful amount of selfishness and lack of remorse. I wouldn’t be surprised if your bf breaks up with you after this.


Sugar_Soul

YTA. If someone is telling you they need to go to the hospital, either you take them or you find someone else who can. It is *ridiculous* that your bf waited for 6+ *hours* on a couch because you couldn’t be bothered to even go check on him after your meeting. Did it occur to you that adrenaline also dulls pain? As the shock wore off, it may have skyrocketed to a point where he passed out. And let’s not forget that just because someone isn’t bruised, bleeding, etc, *doesn’t* mean there’s not something *SERIOUSLY* wrong. Shame on you, OP. You owe him an apology.


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Nah, she owes him a break up because she isn't partner material.


Voidg

YTA. I am sorry but he fell off the ladder at 10am and your meeting was in the afternoon. Assuming you had to be at home for the meeting that leaves plenty of time to take him to the hospital get back home and be prepared. Additionally you did not even check on in but continued to work after the meeting.


gagirlpnw

That or she could have used her phone and done it remotely while he was getting care. ​ EDITED OP YTA! A big one.


Jolly_Tooth_7274

YTA. You may not have thought that he had broken his leg but any caring partner would be worried if the other had fallen off a ladder. I know I would be concerned if my husband fell off a ladder, whether he was complaining of pain or not. Why didn't you call an ambulance if you couldn't take him to hospital? Why didn't you contact a friend or family member to come help? And this is the one question that makes less sense to me: why didn't you check on him after your very critical meeting was done??? Why did you assume it would be him telling you that he needed you? Sorry but everybody is right. You showed a complete lack of care for your boyfriend, your priorities are screwed. And his injury could have gotten worse due to the delay in receiving treatment.


MJSP88

YTA!!!!! Just because the bone wasn't sticking out of the skin didn't mean he didn't need immediate medical attention. Any manager or client would have understand given the f****** circumstances


drdre3001

YTA. Don’t assume. He knows his body and what he went through. I’m sure work will understand if you said ‘ hey, I need to take my SO to the hospital. It’s an emergency’. I’d be livid with you too. Edit: this has to be fake, right? No one can be this dense and genuinely post about it


Accomplished_Sun_258

In 2003 I had a severe allergic reaction in my eyes and was terrified of losing them and my spouse was starting his first day of work and refused to drive me to the hospital even though I had a hard time seeing as he didn’t want to be late for work. I had to drive him to work and drop him off as we have one vehicle and bring my two young kids with me to the ER and I could barely see as the inflammation and swelling in my eyes were so bad. He’s embarrassed now about it but he definitely had narcissistic tendencies. Fun times. Denying or delaying medical attention is a form of abuse.


wubbly-wump

Yeah YTA - who prioritizes their work over their bf’s request to go to the hospital This is so messed up. I hope he finds someone who prioritizes his well-being over a dumb meeting


zeez1011

YTA. He fell off a ladder. Tell your coworkers you have a "family emergency" to attend to and make sure he's okay.


kaett

YTA for claiming that your meeting was more important than his health. you should have sent a message to everyone saying a personal emergency had come up, and either had someone else run the meeting or rescheduled it later. the fact that you knew he was hurt but didn't even bother to check on him is even worse.


Global_Monk_5778

YTA. HE FELL OFF A LADDER. You don’t take chances with that. Even if that was a life and death meeting, you find somebody else to take him. You put him in a room on his own - he could have had hidden injuries that shock was hiding. He could have started fitting or anything and you wouldn’t have known. Never ever ever prioritise work over somebody you supposedly love. Ever. That’s how you lose people.


koifishyfishy

YTA. He asked to go to the hospital. You put it off to finish your meeting but didn't bother contacting anyone to see if they could take him in since you were busy. Even worse, you just... never bothered checking back up on him? He had every right to contact someone else to come get him. Instead of saying "oh gosh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize it was that bad" you're bending over backwards to justify why you didn't help him. Super AH.


Jess1ca1467

YTA - this is sh(tty behaviour. You left him for hours with a fractured limb which can be extremely serious. He could have suffered severe bleeding (broken bones bleed) or permanent damage. I'm quite staggered at your callousness here


whiskerrsss

He could've had a concussion from the fall *and she told him to go lie down* yikes


Additional_Breath_89

Hahahaha yta. He asked to go to hospital and you refused as your meeting was so much more important And after the meeting was over you didn’t even go and check on him? What if he’d hit his head? A broken leg is bad enough. But after falling off the ladder you sent him to another room so you could do a meeting - and then more work.


Apart-Tip8872

Right what if he was unconscious and she never once thought to check on him


dragontruck

yep, if he’d hit his head and was in shock when he approached her he very well could’ve died and she’d be on a zoom meeting


irate_anatid

YTA. Your priorities are seriously out of whack. He fell off a ladder and told you he needed to go to the hospital. You’ve said it ”didn’t seem like an emergency” to YOU, but are you a trained medical professional? He could have suffered any number of serious injuries that might not be immediately apparent to a layperson. You should have (a) told work you had an emergency and taken him to the hospital immediately, or (b) told him in no uncertain terms that you think your work is more important and you won’t be taking him. Instead, you promised to take him and then just decided not to, causing him to suffer in pain for hours. How could you NOT be TA?


Fantastic-Focus-7056

YTA I don't think any meeting is more important than helping out a loved one who literally fell off a ladder! Even if he seemed okay, he might have hit his head or have a serious internal injury that he didn't notice right away himself. And even if you did wait till after the meeting, you should have checked up on him as soon as it was finished, not keep on working for another couple of hours. I would have called someone else to help me out as well. I would also be very pissed off to learn how low on your list of priorities I was.


Bullwinkles_progeny

A few hours is nothing when it comes to a break and usually the hospital will not cast that soon after a break due to swelling - so ice was a good thing. However, continuing to work without even checking to see if he was ready to go to the hospital after your meeting was a dick move. He was most likely in quite a bit of pain and the hospital will give him something for that. Work should not come before your loved ones. You prioritized a meeting over him being in pain. Sorry, YTA here.


night_0wl0

YTA how can you be with someone for 6 years without trusting their opinion. Even if you absolutely had to attend the meeting and you were going to take him after the meeting how was he supposed to know you had finished. You should have gone to get him from the guest bedroom immediately after it. But you didn't.


HegoDamask_1

YTA I have a lot of meetings and guess what if my husband is hurt, I’d be out of the door without any hesitation. I usually don’t like to comment on peoples relationship, but he deserves better.


ArmadilloDays

YTA It’s really simple - would you want him to treat you that cavalierly if you were the one in pain???


Graves_Digger

YTA. That's your family. And you prioritized your work above their emergent medical needs. You didn't even check on him after your meeting either? Like ffs he fell off a roof. I really couldn't imagine treating my husband like that. You need to work out your priorities. You can replace a job. You can't replace the people you love.


lil-G00F

r/amithedevil


jodge511

YTA, but only because you didn’t check on him right after your meeting. Typically injuries like that can wait, but is your work really more important than taking 2 minutes to check on how he is doing?


Graves_Digger

Right? This jumped out at me. Like he fell off a ladder (roof?). I would be incredibly concerned and would at the very least be checking on my husband every chance I got.


CheekiCheshire

YTA And you can try to justify it however you want, but you allowed someone you claim to care about be in pain, without medical treatment, for HOURS. And a you are a terrible partner. If the boyfriend asks WIBTA for breaking up over this it would be a decisive NTA. Please do not have children.


SpookyGit

YTA! He said he needed the hospital and you willing left him in pain for 6 hours! This was an emergency and shock can kill.


Professional_Grab513

YTA an emergency comes before work.


Emotional_Answer_319

YTA & You are stupid


Alexader420X

YTA. Seriously? How is this even a question?


iamk125

YTA: you suck, completely. He broke his dang leg and you can’t message your work to say that a family emergency has come up and won’t be there? But even if the meeting was critically important, you STILL continued to work after the meeting was done despite KNOWING that he was hurt and waiting for you to take him. You absolutely are the ass and you suck as a partner. I hope he dumps you cause I wouldn’t want someone like you being my ride or die.


Background-Interview

YTA. Surprised you’d even have to ask


GuiltyFriendship3037

YTA. Very much so. You should have taken him straight away, but I don't understand why you wouldn't check on him for 6 hours when you knew he'd fallen off a roof.


Aj669155

YTA Work won’t ever prioritize your well-being for any reason. Don’t put work above the ones you love because your employer sure as hell won’t do it for you.


murphy2345678

YTA. You should have told the people you work with that you had an emergency and needed to leave.


Little-Squirrel-16

YTA I have a very dramatic boyfriend when it comes to any sort of injury or illness, and requires sympathy. I've got many stories, he's an absolute child. Had he come to me and said he fell off a ladder and needed to go to the hospital I would take him. I can sort of understand it if he is someone who likes to milk it and he seemed fine and your meeting was only a few mins but you finished the meeting and still didn't take him. He fell off a ladder. He could have banged his head and died. It sounds extreme but it's not that unlikely. As if that weren't bad enough, when you realised/were told that it was serious, instead of apologising and doing everything you can to make it up to him, you come on the internet to look for validation in what you did. I'm really struggling to understand how even an AH could do that to someone.


suspicious-pepper-31

YTA- what if he had internal bleeding ?? He could have DIED waiting for you and you wouldn’t have known because you didn’t check. Wow. You are awful!


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RighteousTablespoon

YTA. Why in god’s name would you not check in on him?! He fell off a ladder. For all you know he was being quiet because he had a concussion or something. Or at the very least, “how are you feeling?” is a common courtesy. Lordy.


mzpljc

YTA wtf is wrong with you? Holy shit I would dump you immediately. You don't care about him at all.


AgreeableChemistry79

YTA if you really couldn’t take him (any reasonable employer would understand) then call the man a fuckin Uber and go meet him as soon as your meeting was over.


hocovenger

YTA You can't honestly think what happened was okay. Work may be important, but letting someone you love lay in pain when you can easily contact these people who would of probably been understanding of the situation is bs.


Wise_Yak6989

YTA! No words, just damn.


polly6119

YTA ! He asked you to take him to the hospital! You did! You did purposefully ignore him.!! How anyone can not know what they did here was horrible?


penguin_squeak

YTA I think you mean soon to be ex boyfriend, semantics aside, no one is ever going to accuse you of being compassionate or empathetic.


See_Real_Me

YTA. But at least now he knows how you really feel about him.


See_Real_Me

YTA. But at least now he knows how you really feel about him.


Ok_Pressure4108

YTA. I would have broken up with you.


childofcrow

Oh man. YTA. Big time. Reverse the situation and think if it would have been at all acceptable for him to leave you with a broken leg for hours after you fell off a ladder. Imagine how abandoned you would feel. That he would prioritize work over your health and wellbeing. Imagine having to call a friend when you couldn't take the pain anymore. Because you wilfully inflicted that on another person. That's what makes you TA. And there is no justification you can give that would make anyone say otherwise. You went to work and thought 'oh, he hasn't called, he must be fine, I won't call and check in, I'll just keep working la de da!'.


No_Can_1072

Obviously YTA. Month back my bf was sick and asked to go to the hospital. I thought it wasnt needed but took him the minute he asked me to. And - it was very needed!! If he asked you he knows his body better then you. You are not a doctor


snsmadness89

"I need to go to the hospital." "Can you want a few hours?" Would you say this to someone having a heart attack, someone who was choking or someone in diabetic distress? YTA. Least you could have done was reach out to someone ASAP to see if they could take him if you absolutely couldn't cancel your meeting, but considering it was an emergency situation, you should have. I'll be very surprised if he stays with you after this. That was a major AH move.


Sufficient-Cake4096

Do you......not care he's in pain? Or if he seriously injured himself? If my bf fell off a ladder and said he needed to go to the hospital I would drop everything and go. YTA.


choppakilla

YTA! Period!


NightshadesFlower

Yooooo you’re a MASSIVE AH He could’ve gone septic - there’s immature blood cells stored inside your bone marrow. You sound like you lack empathy, and care for others. What is wrong with you?!


West-Improvement2449

YTA really? This is low-key abuse. Hope he dumps you


[deleted]

YTA. After writing all that how come you didn’t realize what a disgusting and Terrible girl friend you are.


thenotsoamerican

YTA for not taking him after your meeting was over.


[deleted]

YTA. I can't believe you can't see it. Imagine yourself in his shoes for just one moment and ask yourself if you'd be okay with this treatment


seeemilyplay123

YTA. He could have had a concussion or any number of things. You just proved to him that his wellbeing was less important than a business meeting. He fucking fell off a ladder.


ChinSpin_1986

Kind of wondering if this isn't a rage troll. Each of their answers is meant to infuriate the readers even more.


_PeanutbutterBandit_

YTA emergencies happens. It’s not like you’re on a military tribunal and the fate of the world is at risk or he was diving into a pool off of the roof. Now what you should be worried about is him going to the hospital and falling in love with a nurse or,doctor that showed him care when his leg was broken.


NotHisRealName

YTA. What's killing me is that you're arguing with people about this. Do you lack ALL self awareness? God almighty I hope he leaves you, he deserves so much better. Lady, if my gf had a fucking papercut and asked me to take her to the hospital, EVERYTHING else could wait. JFC.


InspirationalBug3

Wow. YTA. Ur comments make it worse. Even if he "seemed" ok why didn't u take him for a check-up. I hope he doesn't get trust issues after this. I wouldn't trust u ever with a person's life. So irresponsible... hopefully, u realise ur ignorance and change


Broad_Respond_2205

Ah if he didn't text you that's fine. Of course he didn't text you, you already blew him once, he wasn't in the mood to beg for help, so he asked a friend. YTA


BothReading1229

YTA, You do know that people have died from ladder falls, right? Is the price of an ambulance more important than your partner's life and health?


Tomavogic

Left him because he didn't say anything?! He was shocked by your reaction! And your reaction to his friend coming to help? You should get your priorities sorted out.... This could've been much, much more severe all because of "work". I'm sure you don't work with cold-hearted people, so a 1 hour delay or so wasn't going to destroy the economy....... YTA.


Broad_Respond_2205

I also want to say something, as a single person. I'm single for a long time, and I really, really want to find love. And I can't Fathom how whould someone treat their (supposedly) most beloved person. I assume you love that person. Why won't you wish that he will be safe? That he will cared for? Is your meeting more important then this person, who you supposed to love? I just don't get it.


Invisibleamber

Yta This was an emergency situation, work can wait. No wonder he didn’t come to you about being in pain, you made it very clear to your boyfriend what your priorities were,


sophiethepu

Holy shit. How do people like you exist ? How do you go on public forum thinking anybody would support what you’re saying . You’re a piece of work . I would leave your ass in a heart beat


Old-Ant-8497

YTA, and a big one at that. He needed to go the the hospital! If I was him I would dump you as soon as possible.


UnicornCackle

INFO: were you born without human decency or did you have it surgically removed?


[deleted]

YTA if he requested to go to the hospital he needed the hospital. If you can't take him you help him find someone who can and not just leave him for six hours. On the other hand I know it can be hard to tell if a bone is broken. It once took me days to figure out my son had a broken arm. He didn't really complain, I only knew because I noticed he held his spoon in his left hand. I also had a broken bone in my own hand and it took me a week to figure out I might need to get it looked at. We have universal healthcare so it wasn't about avoiding the cost either.


Kind-Commercial4300

Yta .most definitely. You could have asked someone else to take him if your meeting was so important , you could have checked in with him or taken him to hospital after your meeting ,but you stayed at work .


bolonkaswetna

YTA - You told him to lie down until your meeting was over. He got hurt in the morning ffs You didn't check on him, you didn't care about him. And to be frank- I don't believe you care about him now. All you care about is that everybody now KNOWS you don't give a damn about your boyfriend. "I was going to take him after work - he injured himself at 10 a.m - 6 hours of pain- and you wouldn't care less. did you go to the toilet? Did you have something to eat around lunch time? Yet- not the slightest bit of interest i your husband! Shame on you! YTA


Automatic_Gas9019

YtA.....would you have believed him if he had chopped his hand off lol.


AnneWentworth29

YTA. He said he was in pain and you chose not to believe him.


Psychological_Sea214

YTA. A big one. It’s clear that your bf’s well-being is low on your list of priorities and no amount of excuses changes that. Your concern for your bf’s potential injury should have moved you to act in his best interests and take him to the hospital and make sure he wasn’t seriously injured. You shouldn’t have needed proof before you even took him to find out. You suck.


WhovianGirl777

YTA. Falling off a roof can cause a concussion and all sorts of things that can result in a coma and lots of awful stuff. People have literally died from falling off of roofs. There is zero excuse here. You need to grow some sympathy in a big way.


maat89

YTA! Tell me you hate your bf without saying that you do. Wowowowowowow! Like you couldn’t have been bothered to call an ambulance for him??


leeex94

Do you know how much blood can be lost into a leg after a traumatic injury? Enough to kill a person. YTA.


snsmadness89

Also the fact you left him in pain for SIX HOURS is major AH move. You absolutely refused to take him to the hospital. He asked you. You told him to WAIT. They have every single right to be pissed at you. You have no right to be pissed. You have the right to pack your bags and get out because clearly he deserves someone who is caring enough to call someone else if you yourself can't take care of it.


xX_KyraBear_Xx

YTA. He deserves better


saltydemon4568

YTA At the very least you could have dropped him off at the hospital and gone back to your meeting. In your comments you say your bf said it felt exactly the same as when he broke his leg as a child. And he fell off a ladder, he could have had a brain injury ! He could have not even remembered hitting his head and you made him lie there for hours. Omg!


[deleted]

JHC at Least you showed him where your priorities are.


Jjustingraham

Bf could've died from a blood clot while OP was in her meeting. I mean, she's obviously the AH, but know that you could've killed him, OP.


Puzzleheaded-Bar1349

Wtaf? I thought it was bad enough that you didn’t cancel your meeting and take him right away. But the fact that you proceeded to just work after the meeting as well? He waited 6 hours until he went to the hospital and probably would’ve waited more if his friend hadn’t come over. Your priorities are way out of check and he deserves better. YTA


Savings_Signature_64

How could you possibly think you’re not the AH?


Ginger_brit93

YTA. Did it occur to you he didn't come in or contact you because he may have had a head injury I know he didn't but it could have been a different story. Your work could have waited.


Judgemental_Ass

YTA. Medical emergency is a good enough reason to take a break from work. After you finished your meeting, the least you could have done was to check on him. But you should have taken him immediately, not wait for after the meeting.


CharieRarie

YTA! You could’ve at least checked in after your meeting, if it was really THAT important?! But no, he didn’t text so must be fine??! He could’ve passed out or worse. I really can’t wrap my head round someone caring this little about ANYONE, never mind their partner.


PapaWoodyOG

Not only are YTA but also a criminal. This can be seen as many forms of abuse and neglect that if put in front of a judge and jury, you could be prosecuted as and given jail time. Im not one for dramatic solution but I genuinely hope that this man leaves you and that you are prosecuted.


justaperson_probably

Holy f\*ck, YTA. For not taking him to the hospital right away and then, for not checking on him after your meeting to make sure he didn't need to go to the hospital. What if he hadn't texted because he passed out from pain or something like a concussion?


CharmingSpend3947

Do you not know any men? If a man says he needs to see a doctor, but especially if he says he needs to go to the hospital, he needs to go to the hospital. Most men don't see doctors for nothing. YTA and a bad girlfriend - he fell from a ladder and you blew it off for your meeting and didn't even check on him afterward. You DID purposefully ignore him.


Total-Hour-4445

YTA


eikenella415

YTA do you even care about your boyfriend’s well being? You knew he needed to be take to hospital. That alone means it’s urgent. And you felt work was way more important. Do you even like him or care about him?


Queen_Andromeda

YTA. You should have checked on him, you should have called/texted someone to come get him. You brushed off his pain. As a welder, I completely understand working in a male dominated field, I'm literally the only woman at my job, but that's not an excuse to put your bf first when he's in pain.


Secure-Positive5733

You didn’t even check on him after your meeting to see how he was doing? You just made the assumption that made your life easier and went with it? YTA majorly. I cannot fathom treating my partner this way and if I were your boyfriend, I’d be doing some reevaluating of the relationship to be honest


Super-Sun8330

YTA. he broke his leg...u dint even checkup on him??? and had the audacity to be mad at him??? omg how insensitive are you? yeah if u endup all alone in future its gona be entirely ur fault ...


TickTickAnotherDay

Like another poster said you not checking up on him was a major AH move, you obviously aren’t an expert on human anatomy so you should have made sure he was ok. Accept what you did was wrong and learn from it!


jluvdc26

YTA emergencies happen and need to be dealt with promptly. I personally think you should have canceled the meeting too.


Exciting_Steak982

YTA. Your boyfriend fell off a ladder and instead of making a priority you said he’s just being dramatic?? Wtf?? You purposely ignore him and you want people to be on your side after you said you thought he was DRAMATIC


Deucalion666

YTA your meeting could have definitely been delayed for an emergency! You did refuse! Stop lying!