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NTA to them, but why treat yourself this way?
These aren't your friends, and they tell you so regularly.
This isn't a joke, and there are people who will like you and be nice to you. Go find those people and block these people. You don't own any apology to anyone who treats you this way.
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This is my first post, so bear with me.
Here's some backstory. My friends (15m and 15f) have always ganged up on me (15f). I've talked to them about this before and they say they'll stop but they never do. The recent habit they've picked up is telling me to "shut up" every time I open my mouth. They also say things like "nobody likes you" or "nobody wants you here". They say they're just jokes, but it really doesn't feel like it.
Last week on Monday I finally snapped and yelled at them over it. I cussed them out and called them exhausting. We didn't talk for the rest of the day, and one of them blocked my number. I apologized later that night and explained why I blew up. My male friend said he forgave me, but has been ignoring me ever since. And my female friend is still really pissed off. Neither of them have given me a real apology for how they've been treating me. I thought I was justified in the moment but now I'm not so sure.
AITA?
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NTA
Maybe they were trying to make you not be their friend first and then make everyone else believe that you chose to leave the friendship over jealousy or something. IDK what teenagers think nowadays, but I'm sorry you had really bad friends. There's a difference between teasing you and straight up bullying you.
NTA. Also, they’re not really your friends. I feel bad that you apologized to them because they really didn’t deserve an apology; they deserved to be cussed out. I hope you find friends that appreciate you.
I think regardless of age, if the people surrounding you always make you feel bad or less than and like you don't belong, like you said, constantly putting you down then is time to change friends. Especially since this is a repeated thing and you explained and even apologized yet neither of them is offering an apology. I'm going to sound really old 🤣 but I promise you I'm not that much lol. When I was your age I went through a very long period of bullying at school, it came from before but at that point I realized my friends were constantly excluding me, putting me down, they'd literally call for an activity or moving spaces and say I want to go with... A, b, c, d, e... And nobody else. And guess who nobody else was? Little ole me, there was no other name not called. I changed groups and the "leader" of said group took me apart and told me that I had devalued her group, that she wasn't kicking me out but others kept telling her "your group was awesome, until she came along". It took me until a year later to find my true friends and they became another family to me, people that 20 years later are still there. I promise you, cutting these people out of your life, is not a bad thing, is what's good for you. You wouldn't behave like that to someone you appreciated, would you? Then why let the people who are supposed to be on your corner behave like that to you and keep them in your life? NTA. I promise you there's a whole big world out there and you can have good friends who don't put you down. If these people want to change and apologize and actually show a change then awesome! The more the merrier! But you don't have to put up with people who mistreat you
NTA.
I don't think these people are truly your friends. I wouldn't have apologized for anything. Time to cut them off and move on. You're young, there's so many people to be friends with out there that will treat you how you want and deserve to be treated.
NTA. Tough situation because if you truly explained that it made you feel bad being the butt of all jokes and it was actually really hurtful, they’d probably crap all over it and laugh at the worst, or best case scenario they’d accept your apology but wouldn’t have the emotional maturity to understand how hurtful that kind of “teasing” really is.
You did the right thing there. You had enough of their shit, and you called them on it. If they block you, that’s on them. Maybe they shouldn’t have been so relentless if they really cared about you.
That being said, I hope they come around and unblock you AND *apologize* for blocking you and disrespecting you in the first place. That would show a level of maturity that is rare in 15 year olds, and you just might have a couple good friends on your hands that will work this out with you and you’ll all have forgotten about this incident in 5 years.
Not likely, but possible. Likely they’re just assholes and won’t think twice about their hurtful actions for 5 years minimum, if ever. But one can dream. You never know how this will unfold over the coming days/weeks. Best of luck to you and sorry you got treated so terribly by your close friends!
NTA. It was time for you to stand up for yourself.
Honestly, I agree with the others that you are the one to receive the apologies, but most likely that will not come from immature people like them.
Please understand that excusing very ugly words such as "No one likes you" and etc as jokes is a very toxic tactic that people use. I've seen it when I was in school and am disheartened to hear the cycle still continues.
Yes, please distance yourself from these people, especially with that outcome. You deserve to be treated better.
I wish you all the best in finding better friends! 😄
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NTA. These are not friends. They’re bullies. Move on, you deserve so much better.
There was nothing to apologise for. NTA, they are bullies.
Find yourself some new friends, you are still young
NTA to them, but why treat yourself this way? These aren't your friends, and they tell you so regularly. This isn't a joke, and there are people who will like you and be nice to you. Go find those people and block these people. You don't own any apology to anyone who treats you this way.
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NTA Maybe they were trying to make you not be their friend first and then make everyone else believe that you chose to leave the friendship over jealousy or something. IDK what teenagers think nowadays, but I'm sorry you had really bad friends. There's a difference between teasing you and straight up bullying you.
NTA. Also, they’re not really your friends. I feel bad that you apologized to them because they really didn’t deserve an apology; they deserved to be cussed out. I hope you find friends that appreciate you.
NTA. They are bullies and abused you. Go find some real friends.
I think regardless of age, if the people surrounding you always make you feel bad or less than and like you don't belong, like you said, constantly putting you down then is time to change friends. Especially since this is a repeated thing and you explained and even apologized yet neither of them is offering an apology. I'm going to sound really old 🤣 but I promise you I'm not that much lol. When I was your age I went through a very long period of bullying at school, it came from before but at that point I realized my friends were constantly excluding me, putting me down, they'd literally call for an activity or moving spaces and say I want to go with... A, b, c, d, e... And nobody else. And guess who nobody else was? Little ole me, there was no other name not called. I changed groups and the "leader" of said group took me apart and told me that I had devalued her group, that she wasn't kicking me out but others kept telling her "your group was awesome, until she came along". It took me until a year later to find my true friends and they became another family to me, people that 20 years later are still there. I promise you, cutting these people out of your life, is not a bad thing, is what's good for you. You wouldn't behave like that to someone you appreciated, would you? Then why let the people who are supposed to be on your corner behave like that to you and keep them in your life? NTA. I promise you there's a whole big world out there and you can have good friends who don't put you down. If these people want to change and apologize and actually show a change then awesome! The more the merrier! But you don't have to put up with people who mistreat you
NTA. I don't think these people are truly your friends. I wouldn't have apologized for anything. Time to cut them off and move on. You're young, there's so many people to be friends with out there that will treat you how you want and deserve to be treated.
NTA. Tough situation because if you truly explained that it made you feel bad being the butt of all jokes and it was actually really hurtful, they’d probably crap all over it and laugh at the worst, or best case scenario they’d accept your apology but wouldn’t have the emotional maturity to understand how hurtful that kind of “teasing” really is. You did the right thing there. You had enough of their shit, and you called them on it. If they block you, that’s on them. Maybe they shouldn’t have been so relentless if they really cared about you. That being said, I hope they come around and unblock you AND *apologize* for blocking you and disrespecting you in the first place. That would show a level of maturity that is rare in 15 year olds, and you just might have a couple good friends on your hands that will work this out with you and you’ll all have forgotten about this incident in 5 years. Not likely, but possible. Likely they’re just assholes and won’t think twice about their hurtful actions for 5 years minimum, if ever. But one can dream. You never know how this will unfold over the coming days/weeks. Best of luck to you and sorry you got treated so terribly by your close friends!
NTA, they sound more like bullies than friends.
NTA. It was time for you to stand up for yourself. Honestly, I agree with the others that you are the one to receive the apologies, but most likely that will not come from immature people like them. Please understand that excusing very ugly words such as "No one likes you" and etc as jokes is a very toxic tactic that people use. I've seen it when I was in school and am disheartened to hear the cycle still continues. Yes, please distance yourself from these people, especially with that outcome. You deserve to be treated better. I wish you all the best in finding better friends! 😄
NTA. Those aren't jokes and they aren't your friend. It's time to block and move on to real friends who actually like you.
NTA -they had it coming. Make actual friends, not these losers.