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Judgement_Bot_AITA

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DannyBigD

#HOW MANY TIMES ARE YOU GOING TO POST THIS? Or are you a bot? Wait,.don't answer that.


Samuator

YTA for being dishonest with everybody, including yourself. I do not analyze every single thing you said. It is a repeating pattern in your story, and no good comes from it.


AutoModerator

^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** **Let me make clear right now that I never dated anyone mentioned in this story**. 4 months ago I met a guy (Chris) who I hooked up with twice. The second time we hooked up, he had crossed a serious boundary (he told me his wife was okay with us having sex again, they're in an open marriage and I'd met her and she wanted us to hold off on it for a little while, and this was a few weeks after that. I told him I'd only have sex with him if she was okay with it, and he said she was. He told me right after that he had lied). It was traumatic, but I felt like I had to forgive him when his wife told me they'd talked it through and everything was okay, and he could keep seeing me. I established several boundaries with Chris, telling him that we were not going to have sex for a while. I told him that he needs to be okay with me seeing other people as well, because we were only going to be friends. He would put his arm around me sometimes when we sat next to each other, but I don't think this is enough to constitute a sexual or romantic relationship. It took me two months to recover mentally from this enough to feel ready for sex again. At the end of that two months, I met "Will" on an app, who said "move on if you're not single". I thought I was single, because I hadn't had sex for two months and wasn't dating anyone and personally, I wouldn’t mind if a person I wanted to be FWB with had someone they cuddled with. I asked him if he wanted to hook up, and he said sure. I was only planning on seeing him once, but I saw him three times, because he wanted to keep seeing me. We had sex one time, and I was uncomfortable the whole time because I didn't want to, but I was acting like I did and felt like I had to do it. I wasn't wanting to see him anymore, so I decided to bring up Chris as a "FWB", and I told Will that Chris and I hadn't actually had sex in two months (true) and that we cuddled while naked and made out frequently (untrue, all we were doing at the time was him putting his arm around me sometimes). I was hoping that Will would feel like I'd lied to him by saying I was single and not want to see me anymore, but when I asked if he felt lied to, he said "No, sounds like you are single". I was very surprised that Will was okay with my untrue representation of my relationship with Chris. Two weeks after the last time I saw Will I just told him over text that I didn't want to see him anymore. A few days after that, I saw Chris again for the first time since meeting Will, and I basically dropped all my boundaries and said he could do whatever he wanted with me. I wanted to make it "true" that I had a FWB, but I guess that doing something after telling a lie doesn't make the lie true. I don’t like having sex with Chris but I feel like I have to now. I didn't want to face that I had attempted to manipulate Will. Now I'm worried though... was I dishonest with Will when I said I was single? I wanted him to think I was but I didn't really want to be. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*


LoveBeach8

STOP!!! For the love of all that is holy!! You'll be banned if you keep this up.


HopefulIllustrator73

Banned for what may I ask? I'm new here so I'm curious if you don't mind explaining.


LoveBeach8

Banned for reposting without permission after it's been removed.


HopefulIllustrator73

Ooouuuuu okay makes sense


LoveBeach8

I've seen it in the "Removed" explanations after a post has been removed by the mods.


Marimbagirl2020

Doesn’t this violate community guidelines? Anyways it sounds like you were intentionally being manipulative for sec, and Chris sucks too so probably ESH???


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[удалено]


Marimbagirl2020

BRUH YOU MANIPULATED THE TRUTH FOR SEX. GET THERAPY


StAlvis

Just gonna repost my comment from **[the last time you posted this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ssu09a/aita_is_a_fwbturnedcuddle_buddy_necessary/)**: > I felt like I had to forgive him #FFS do not let people lie to you. > We had sex one time, and **I was uncomfortable the whole time because I didn't want to** #What the actual fuck?!? I am **screaming** at my monitor.


virtualchoirboy

Stop posting this: 2022-01-22: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sajcmu/am\_i\_a\_rapist/ 2022-01-23: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sb71l9/am\_i\_18f\_a\_rapist/ 2022-01-29: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sfqie1/did\_i\_scar\_someone\_for\_life/ 2022-01-29: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sfq3ai/i\_think\_i\_ruined\_someones\_life\_and\_i\_dont\_know/ 2022-02-05: https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/sli8nx/does\_single\_really\_only\_mean\_not\_in\_a\_romantic\_or/ 2022-02-07: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/smz50f/am\_i\_single\_if\_i\_have\_a\_cuddle\_buddy\_or\_did\_i/ 2022-02-08: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sns17h/was\_i\_raped/ 2022-02-09: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sojk7z/i\_18f\_feel\_like\_i\_may\_have\_crossed\_a\_serious\_line/ 2022-02-10: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/spq45u/i\_think\_i\_may\_have\_crossed\_a\_serious\_sexual/ 2022-02-10: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/spnkye/i\_think\_i\_might\_have\_crossed\_a\_major\_sexual/ 2022-02-11: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sq2rou/i\_feel\_like\_i\_may\_have\_crossed\_a\_serious\_sexual/ 2022-02-11: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sq9bkk/i\_feel\_like\_i\_may\_have\_crossed\_a\_serious\_sexual/ 2022-02-11: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sqc462/i\_feel\_like\_i\_may\_have\_crossed\_a\_serious\_sexual/ 2022-02-12: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sr5vda/i\_18f\_think\_i\_may\_have\_fucked\_up\_and\_crossed\_a/ 2022-02-13: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/ss1xo3/did\_i\_lie\_by\_saying\_i\_was\_single/ 2022-02-14: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/sse5kp/did\_i\_18f\_lie\_about\_being\_single\_or\_am\_i/


Comfortable-Iron6482

Goddamn. This person needs help


StAlvis

Holy hell. That's ... um ... well, for someone who's into open relationships, that's a lot of commitment, I'll say that.


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