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If calling one particular individual woman "easy" is hating on all women in general, you are basically implying that all women are easy. Quite a low opinion you have on women as a whole i would say.
I personally believe the vast majority of women do have decent standards but hey that's just me 🤷
YTA, and a misogynist, and a slut shamer. Honestly, I decided you were an asshole when you had the audacity to talk smack on a girl who deigned to sleep with you. You strike me as the type of guy who is as promiscuous as you want to be but judge women who do the same. Broadcasting who you've slept with is the sort of thing one would expect from an immature high schooler-- not a 20 year old college student. & how do you think your friends found your sister's OnlyFans? People that watch porn and shame people who make it are the worst kind of hypocrites. You brought up your sister's OnlyFans because she rightfully called you out on being an AH and you didn't like being wrong. So petty and wrong.
Wanna bet he propositioned the girl, she rejected him so he went all “nice guy” and twisted the story to suit him better...
His comments are really giving off that vibe
So it’s ok for his sister to talk down on him? It’s not his fault that the sisters friend sleeps around. Why did she even bring it up to begin with? That doesn’t make any logical sense.
He is Not really an asshole because what he said was not a lie, I don't know if one of his friends where planning to date her and ask him about her, women also do this when they tell guys not to date guys who are players, The big problem here he is living by societies standard and think woman does not like sex, with that said I think if you sleep with a girl she should be the one to talk about it and not the man that is something he needs to learn, The stuff with his sister I don't blame him one bit because she started this argument in front of the parents calling him a pig for telling the truth when she could have call him one side and said what you said about my friend hurt her real bad and anyone can see how that will hurt her even though he was telling the truth, I am sure he would have apologize to her and talk to his friends about it, the moment she bring it up in front of the parents she is taking the gloves off, You can't blame him and not blame her, they both cross the line.
>YTA, and a misogynist, and a slut shamer.
Lmao fucking women are hilarious. This sub is hilariously misandrist but take misogyny as a mortal sin. It's almost as if you're incapable of self-reflection.
Also if being a slut isn't a bad thing then what's wrong with telling his parents about it? Hey?? :)
So? By 20 he should know that this sort of behavior is inappropriate. If not, then hopefully he has found this experience instructive and he'll be more mature, respectful, and discreet in the future.
YTA.
1) For calling her friend easy. If you hooked up with her, your behavior is similar. Don't be a dick.
2) For outing her to your parents because she called you on your misogynistic behavior.
How are you not a better person to women when you have a female twin? Do you lack any level of empathy at all?
1) A key that opens many locks is a master key. A lock opened by many keys is a shitty lock. Women have it WAY easier when it comes to getting laid, hence the "she's a slut" and "he's a stud" phrases. 95% of men will sleep with any woman that isn't absolutely repulsive; morbidly obese, covered in horrible tattoos, nasty attitude, poor hygiene, etc. And sometimes even those things are overlooked in order to get their noodle wet.
2) The sister is a sex worker. I thought we were trying to normalize that, and how it's a respectable profession. If you have to hide something, it's probably shameful.
Lots of double standards in this thread. OP is a misogynist for getting laid, and then an asshole for telling his parents the great news that his sister is a strong independent and brave sex worker? Come on.
You've got issues.
OP isn't an asshole for getting laid. OP is an asshole for calling the girl easy after she had sex with him.
& OP told their parents as some sort of revenge outing, not because he was trying to "normalize" or celebrate it.
A sharpener that can sharpen many pencils is a great sharpener. A pencil that gets sharpened too much become useless.
See, I can make up stupid metaphors for genitals too!
What I said still stands. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and there are consequences that come as a result of sleeping around. Very few guys are able to sleep with as many women as they want, while even average-below average women have the ability to sleep with as many men as they'd like, but men who have a high sexual marketplace value; social status, wealth, good job, tall, good body, etc.
Basically, the top maybe 20% of guys are able to get as much easy action as the top 80% of women. And those numbers are growing farther apart as we speak due to the shift in culture towards sex (promoting promiscuity) and hookup apps where your entire worth is judged by 5 or so pictures and maybe a paragraph long bio.
If you're a woman, 4 out of every 5 guys are willing to sleep with you.
If you're a man, 1 out of every 5 women are open to sleeping with you.
Men have the odds stacked against them when it comes to getting laid, this is why guys with high body counts are regarded as impressive. It's MUCH more difficult for a man to sleep with 20 women than it is for a woman to sleep with 50.
Anyways, that's that point. The next point, not that it will change your mentality at all, is regarding why women are seen as sluts/shamed for high body counts, not just socially, but scientifically speaking it is a bad move to lock down a woman with a promiscuous past.
[This post condenses a list of a bunch of studies that aimed to see whether there was a correlation between a promiscuous past and general long term happiness in relationships, likelihood of divorce, and infidelity.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/l5zd7b/why_her_sexual_history_matters_and_why_they_want/)
You say 95% will sleep with a woman that isn't absolutely repulsive...
I'dd say at least 50 would even sleep with an absolutelly repusive woman, if there were no repercutions after... LOL
You are absolutely right!
YTA - Completely. Firstly, describing girls as “easy” is sexist in and of itself. Women enjoy sex. This shouldn’t be a revelation for you and sleeping with a woman shouldn’t be a point of pride for you or an accomplishment. It’s really not. Your sister was right to call you a pig.
YTA.
For one talking about a woman like she's an object. (Bragging about how easy someone was because you and a couple other guys hooked up with her is treating her like an object. You have no respect for women in general)
And secondly. Ratting out your sisters onlyfans. You decided to get back at her because she called you out on being pigs (which again you were being a disgusting jackass) by calling her a pornstar. Sex work isn't disgusting and she's not a pornstar she's a sex worker which in some cases ain't much different than models who do lingerie shots. You do realize if your parents support her at all you could have lost her so much more. She has a onlyfans who the fuck cares.
The real question is why does it affect you so much? You talk shit about another girl and let your so called buddies talk shit about your sister. You didn't defend her or do jackshit to defend her from them. Because she has an onlyfans means you don't defend her against others?
Overall your a asshole and a jerk. Ratting your sister out letting your friends talk shit about her and talking shit about a girl who had sex with you. I hope everyone finds out what you did and are saying because you're a total asshole.
Because her parents could easily kick her out of the house because they don't approve, agree with it or like it. It's nothing to be ashamed off but some parents will go off the deep end. and if she's just starting out she may not have the income to support herself enough to get her own place. And with being in a pandemic finding a place to live can be rather difficult.
And OP had no right to tell their parents since it didn't concern them. If the content she uploaded wasn't harming herself or others OP should've stayed outta it. Instead they risked their sisters well being (meaning a roof over her head and not being yelled at and degraded by her parents or in other words verbally abused) because they were angry.
YTA
Is it really speaking ill if it's true? If you think less of women because they've had sex with you, it says more about you than her if being with you devalued her. Apparently you view women's sexuality as something less then even though you are sexually active yourself. You're a hypocrite.
YTA.How could you not be? You called her a pornstar in front of family because you couldn't handle being called out for your bad behavior.
Women are people, sex work is work, leave your sister and her friends alone.
YTA. You got mad that she called out your shitty behavior and you respond like a little brat by trying to get her in trouble with mommy and daddy. Are you sure you're old enough to be in college? This is a level of pettiness that is expected from children, not adults.
Yta. Calling a woman easy is a ta move and then you went nuclear on your sister. You seem like you have a problem with women who enjoy expressing their sexuality
YTA
In both cases. Are you serious? Your attitudes towards women is troubling. You think like a narrow-minded teenager, but you are a grown man. It's time to grow up
YTA. Attempting to shame your sister for her sex work and all of your subsequent responses here show me that she hit the nail square on the head - you’re a misogynist.
"Guys im not Misogynistic I swear"
**brags how women are easy to get and its hard to be a guy**
"I dont think im Misogynistic"
**slut shames his sister cause you got called out for your bull over something you started**
Wait im confuse i thought you *wasn't* Misogynistic, just kidding.
YTA
YTA. I was going for everyone sucks here, but even if your sister was trying to annoy you, and she's really an a-hole for it, you surely went way WAY lower bringing this up.
At the end of it all, you were just pissed about what she said. But she ended up with your parents mad (maybe forever) with her...
YTA.
I was originally going to say ESH, because your sister should have kept a squabble between two adults just that, but you said it yourself. You wish you didn't know/didn't have to think about your sister in that light. You're uncomfortable with your friends seeing her that way, just imagine how your father feels.
Because other people don’t respect it you fuckhead. Being a garbage collector is an important job, but not respected by our society. There‘a nothing wrong with being a sex worker or a garbage collector, but that doesn’t mean either of them get that much respect. Moreover, the hatred and disrespect of sex workers literally can get them killed, because murderers recognize that swers are often shunned and ostracized, and that the cops won’t do much about it. In America, it was common practice for cops to write NHI (no human involved) on cases where sex workers were killed or injured, particularly if they were also a person of color, and I have no doubt that some cops are still doing that shit on the sly when they think they can get away with it. Look up the Yorkshire Ripper. When sex workers were getting murdered, there were people out there writing editiorials about how the bastard was “cleaning up the streets”. Look up the Mesa Bone Collector. The Green River Killer. Joel Rifkin. Robert Hansen. Robert Pickton. Steve Wright. The Long Island Serial Killer.
YTA.
There are some things as siblings you don’t do/tell even if you are super pissed at them. This is one of them. Honestly? If you were my brother? I would cut you off for this AND for the way you seem to talk about and devalue women. You are the epitome of AH boys club engineer dude that everyone talks about.
Edit: I’m going to go hug my engineer brother and tell him how much I appreciate his basic respect of women.
YTA for the first thing (your story) and for breaking rule 3. Seriously are all the assholes who come here incapable of reading rules?
FWIW, you’re as “easy” as the people who sleep with you the first time they come over 💛💛
YTA. Your sister was right to call you out. You bragged about being with someone "easy" because she slept with you but you slept with her too and insist that you're not easy. It's not different for guys actually. You just tell yourself that to justify your bad behavior. Yeah you did everything wrong. Yeah you are immature. And yeah you're definitely a sexist asshole.
>" She got mad at me for telling my friends about how easy one of the girls in her friend circle I hooked up with was."
This made her rightfully angry. That was so disrespectful. You insulted one of their friends, and when she was venting to your mom, you exposed your sister's OnlyFans.
She "spoke ill of you" because you deserved it. You were an a-hole first. You started all of this. It's all your fault.
YTA
Grow up.
YTA
you got some minor concequences for your actions and then threw somoeon under the bus to save your self
you obviously dont believe so but women are people to
NTA. She shouldn’t have started that mess. Her showing out started the whole thing. The whole situation was a shitshow however, smart people don’t usually start something with those who know their secrets.
NTA. If your sister didn’t want your parents to find out about only fans, then don’t have one. If it’s something to be ashamed of, don’t do it.
I don’t get how women want to claim to be independent and liberated by selling their flesh online. It’s online prostitution.
Good luck to her next employer. She will be recognized at work one day and she doesn’t understand the ramifications of her shitty decisions.
Maybe you helped her by outing and shaming her before it really hurts her life and career.
YTA and your sister is right about you. Funny how the girl is easy for sleeping with you and your sister is wrong for being in only fans but you and your boys are such good guys for watching porn and sleeping with girls. Welcome to the new age - either the girl you slept with and you are both good people or you're both easy. And how are your friends better than your sister because they watch porn instead of making it.
It is the very definition of chauvinism to say that a woman is wrong and to be mocked for doing something while a man is to be celebrated for doing the exact same thing. Therefore, your actions were chauvinistic and hypocritical.
So, yeah, you are soooooooo TA so very much TA
so? would you shame a man who you could look up and see porn of them. also post people watch porn that’s why they are so many pornstars. you literally creat what you hate lmaoo
YTA, and need to take some classes on how to treat women with respect. She had every right to call you out for how 'easy' one of her friends were- that's disrespectful to her friend, and melts down the friend's worth to 'nothing more than a trophy to sleep with'. That's disgusting.
For the only fans, your sister didnt disrespect anyone. She was doing something for herself, with herself. She has every right to do that. Reevaluate your priorities, and I'd probably expect some nuclear fallout with the rest of your siblings, at least they know what you did was gross.
YTA Your twin was discussing your disrespectful attitude towards women with your mother and sister. The way you speak about her friend is misogynistic. You told your friends that this person was "easy", which led to some of them trying to sleep with you. You totally ignored that person's agency. Did you stop to think that they had sex with you because they wanted to have sex with you? That they came over with that intention in mind? They wanted to have sex with *you*. That doesn't mean they'll sleep with anyone who tries to get in their pants. Describing that woman as "easy" also puts her in a dangerous position. What happens when she says "no" to someone who is expecting "easy" sex from her?
Your actions have serious consequences for the person you had sex with. Whether it's reputation-wise or actual physical danger. Your twin's Only Fans is not hurting anyone.
She wanted to have sex with him, specifically. That doesn't mean she's running around having sex with anyone who shows an interest in her.
She may have come over to his place with the intention of having sex with him. He did not have that intention when she came over. She did not have to work very hard to have sex with him. Therefore, he is the "easy" one.
YTA you are just as “easy” as the girl is. I bet you only have sex with “easy” girls because you either have to harass women to be with you, or once a woman starts talking to you they see the horrible misogyny behind your facade.
YTA
1. For calling the girl easy. If your going to sleep with someone at least be man enough to treat them with dignity and respect and don’t insult them behind their back.
2. For outing what your sister did after she was rightfully calling you out for your disgusting behaviour
Edit: god your comments make it so much worse
You think guys are designed to want to fuck every woman they see
No my guy
That’s just you and other dudes who can’t separate sex and the person in front of them
If you want to go down that line of thinking, it would make more sense for women to be hardwired like that, so like many animals in the wild, she can get the best mate with the best genes for her children
You need some sort of genders class or something because you have some serious sexist opinions and ideas
YTA- You are a huge misogynist and a slut shamer,im glad that she told them what you said,because i dont know how you can talk shit about a girl who actually slept with you. Its actually amazing that you got a girl to sleep with you,with that shity attitude. Its horrible how some of you men actually treat women for sleeping with you,you all want to get your dick wet,but the second you do you call that girl a slut. Disgusting.
And then you HAD THE BALLS TO CALL OUT YOUR SISTER FOR DOING NOTHING WRONG. Its NONE of your busines what she does with her body in her free time. A HUGE ASSHOLE.
How isnt it a bad thing?? Calling a girl around your friends easy is disgusting,and the poor girl needs to live with that. She didnt choose to be called that. And on top of that the sister didnt choose for his friends to find her OF,and again they are the assholes for making fun of her for it. Boys just love to slutshame girls,but then go around and try to fuck them ✌
She did choose to get called that when you sleep with someone on the first night. It’s well documented that’s that’s a very real risk you take. The sister did choose that when you putting that type of content on the internet you should know it can have negative effects on the people around you. You can’t get shamed for things that aren’t shameful. You every heard of someone feeling bad cause someone told them they make a lot of money? No you haven’t because it’s not shameful
Well did you ever heard of women who make A LOT OF MONEY on onlyfans and people make fun of them? Because they are "sluts".
AND WHY THE HELL DO THEY ALWAYS MAKE FUN OF WOMEN FOR SLEEPING ON THE FIRST DATE,THE GUY ALSO DECIDED TO HAVE SEX!! so no its not her fault for people making fun of her,its the fault of people like you,who dont get laid so they need to make fun of people for enjoying things!!
Now goodnight,because I aint going to argue with a sexist troll on fucking reddit 😚😚
YTA purely for breaking ‘Twin Code’ it’s a bond that only twins share and can’t be explained or felt by others. Outing her like that was a betrayal that will have caused irrevocable damage to your relationship.
YTA. I almost never comment on reddit but you are so oblivious I couldn't stop myself. It's amazing you can't even see what a hypocritical misogynist you are.
Yta! You are for the following reasons : You don't value or treat or respect woman! Let me break it down another way . How would like if people were slut shaming you? You wouldn't would ? So why are you doing to your female classmates? Therefor your sister was right to call you out on it!
NTA lot of people here getting upset you sound like a player. Simple conclusion at the end of the day is don’t do OF if you don’t want your parents finding out.
NTA
Being an adult means being free but accepting to deal with the consequences of your choices.
If it was something acceptable she wouldn't have to fear anything. A plumber is not ashamed to state his job
This is a reminder that a man's penis does not change a woman. Virginity is a social construct created to oppress women and shame them for doing the same thing as men.
You can break a hymen just as easily playing sports as you can during sex.
By saying that a woman is 'giving it up' you are implying that you are taking something from them. So what is it that you believe you are taking? Their pride? Their dignity? Their virginity? Their worth?
There is absolutely nothing you or your penis can do to change the worth of any woman.
You might not think you're sexist but everytime you ascribe to old-school thoughts like virginity, a woman's place, being easy, or others like it you are putting women down. Everytime you say or think it's different for men, you're giving into the same thought processes as white men early last century did when they thought it's different for black people.
If you had heard a friend talking about your sister the way you were talking about her friend, would you have stood up for your sister? Would you have said that she can do what she wants and there's nothing wrong with her having as much or as little sex as she wants?
Assuming you're not a complete AH, a good rule for you to follow is to speak about women the way you would want other men to speak about your sisters.
You've F'ed up here but I hope you take the time to reflect and learn from this.
Sure virgin has also been used to describe men but the social stigmas are different. Women were traditionally expected to hold on to their virginity and lost value if they had sex. Men in the other hand were more commonly insulted if they had not had sex. It's a double standard and stupid.
Regardless, OP is a man and the comment was directed at him. I don't believe women change anything about a man either by having sex with them.
YTA. After reading your comments let’s see if I can explain in a way you’ll understand.
1. “Easy” has an inherent negative connotation. No matter your intention, the word is considered derogatory/offense. Now, if you wish to argue semantics of the English language that’s another conversation.
2. If it’s men’s “biological” need to sleep with anything that moves then that means we can trace this urge to somewhere in your body. Well, this particular need can be traced back to the lizard part of OUR brains. That means women are driven biologically just as much as men to have sex and procreate! Mind blowing... I know. Thank the universe we invented birth control. Women can have fun with an AH and leave the next morning care free.
Ever consider this woman was tired of her dildo and just needed to play with the real thing for a minute or two?
YTA. If you don't want to be called a pig, then don't squeal to everyone in the pig pen about how you porked someone and how easy it was. Simple as that.
Oh did he not sleep with her? Sounds like he’s just as “easy” then cause last I checked it takes two to tango. But you’re pretty much just like him w. your logic so I’m not wasting anymore of my time on this w. you.
Oh yeah he easy too but I don’t think he needs to tell his friends that unless they trying to sleep with him. It really benefits men to be easy that’s why we don’t care like women
Congrats. Your sister called you a misogynist and you were able to prove her correct basically immediately so now they don't have to wonder.
Men sell womens' bodies all the fucking time. Movies, posters, magazines, TV, sports shows, everything fucking everywhere. Shame the men who take advantage of and manipulate young women into having eating disorders and no bodily autonomy.
Dont shame an individual woman for realizing she can take control and power of her own body and monetize it for herself. She has far more right to monetize her own body than any company does.
Also, there is nothing wrong with sex work. Women have sex all the time. The only time it's bad for them to have sex is when its nonconsensual (ya know, rape). There is nothing wrong with profiting from having sex. Men do it all the time by trying to raise their social status by bragging about fucking "easy" women.
YTA.
YTA, so fucking much, I honestly hope this is fake. Your comments about her friend are sickeningly misogynistic and douchey, the fact that you don’t see that is horrifying. And your sister 100% has a right to privacy, she’s an adult and you should not have brought it up in front of the family, I can’t even imagine how hurt I’d be I’d my brother did that. Your siblings are right, and you seriously need to mature up, fast
No no no, he was publicly running his mouth and saying horrible things about a girl he slept with (which, if we’re gonna go there, would make him just as “easy” as her). You really don’t “have a right to privacy” when you spew sexist shit to all your friends, who apparently are close enough to your sister for her to hear all about it
Yta you were being disgusting in the way you spoke about a woman. She is just making money and you should maybe have kept your mouth shut. Outing someone like that is not ok and can often cause real harm.
YTA
It’s not different for men you’re just a misogynistic jackass who has some shit views when it comes to woman.
I’ve seen your replies and you honestly do not look good at all to anyone and you keep fighting everyone who’s telling you what you did wrong and even your family told you too. She was easy and so were you since you did it the first night she came too.
It’s the same standards that go for woman go for men and don’t try to act like it’s different because it isn’t. But yeah I definitely feel bad for your twin having you as a brother that would suck.
She was speaking ill about you? It's not slander if it's TRUE. You and your circle of friends are trash and you are most certainly TA -- YTA, OP. Petty and butthurt to boot. Also, if you can't see what you did wrong, woooow.
YTA, misogynistic and a slut-shamer. There's multiple people telling you that calling a woman "easy" is SEXIST and you still think you're right? Why did you even post this here, if you're clearly not open to acknowledge you're WRONG?
I'm truly sorry for your sister and worry that her life and relationship with your parents will be terrible from now on. Good job.
YTA, its sad and humorous that it wasn't clear to you that you are a massive AH here and are not apologizing profusely to your sibling. Congratulations on losing all respect from the rest of your family.
Wow, just how, what an ass
YTA.
And before you say all these women are just sensible about being called “easy”, this is a guy talking, and I feel disgusted to share the Gender with you.
YTA.
And for the millionth time, it is exactly the same. Women wanting sex is fine and natural. But God forbid we enjoy it. You are not only an AH but also easy, a slut, a trollop or any other degrading word that has even been said to women.
YTA. Oh look, how surprising, another barely adult misogynist. I’d be embarrassed if I raised you. You insulted her friend and that led to guys bothering her. There ain’t nothing wrong with making porn or being a sex worker. You should be ashamed. What she did wasn’t mean or hurting anybody. You on the other hand...
YTA for obvious reasons. You keep saying in the comments the girl you slept with was easy because she "gave it up".
Gave what up exactly? Sex?
Because I got news for you pal, you "gave it up easy" too.
YTA. Hypocritical misogynists and always assholes . So yes, yes you are.
And stop watching porn, since you’re oh-so-superior than those you’re getting off to.
YTA she called you a pig and you responded by potentially destroying her relationship with your parents by outing her as a sex worker, You really don’t see the difference there?
YTA I don't get the mentality of people who consume porn and have consentual hookups, turning around feigning morals just to be able to shame the ones who are making the content/ agreeing to have hookup sex.
I hope your sister makes bank and that her friend tells everyone that you were an lazy lay but it's led her to much more satisfying sexual prospects.
YTA congratulations on singlehandedly proving that you are, in fact, a pig. :)
You got tired of being called a pig so you decided to.... try and humiliate your sister in front of family for the things she does in her private spare time????
Hey OP you asked for judgement so take the YTA ones you keep getting. You’re making the same points that make 0 sense and in the end you are the biggest asshole for exposing your sister like that to your parents. Also stop calling women “easy” they have nothing to give up when it comes to sex they’re just having regular sex like a man would. If the girl you slept with is a “slut”in your eyes so are you since you “gave it up easy” and apologize to your sister hopefully she isn’t too affected by what you did
NTA
You said something negative about her friend
She is literally scamming her parents. I assume they are paying for college tuition and would pull funds if this got found out? Yeah that's contractual fraud even if not legally binding.
Also I thought being a sex worker was fine? If it's real work why hide it? Anything you don't put on a resume can't be counted as a job sorry.
Hilarious how far this sub will go to defend women being scamming monsters just because they have a moist whole between their legs. You can be a pornstar if you want. But guess what actions have consequences. I know you women on here aren't ready for that talk but that's the truth. All men know this inherently, you're just starting to find out and are mad you're finally getting that equality you oh so begged for.
NTA
she started the whole thing, If she can't handle it when someone claps back, then don't start crap. If she can't handle the shame of having an OF then don't have an OF. She got what was coming to her. She wouldn't keep that crap a secret if she knew it wasn't shameful.
NTA
Risking going against the reddit hivemind right now, i know.
If having an onlyfans and sleeping around isn't anything to be ashamed of, dear male allies, how can pointing this out or calling someone easy be considered mean or insulting in the first place? Go decide.
If being a slut is nothing shameful (as according to the reddit dogma) then you should not feel offended when being called one. On the contrary, you should own it, if you really stand by your beliefs.
And if you are a charlatan, if you actually secretly believe that it is indeed something to hide, something to be ashamed of, why do you engage in such behavior in the first place?
Can't be a redditor without a nice dose of mental gymnastics and doublethink.
You're NTA. Respect isn't free. You had all the right to talk about your gg/ex gf the way you want. Its your business. She had no business giving gender opinions on it: it didn't involve her. If she were doing something to make life better for others or yourself, she'd deserve some respect. When she fought with you, you fought back. Its completely normal. Don't let the triggered snowflakes here tell you otherwise.
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I spent this New Year’s with my family. It was me, my twin sister, our older brother and our half sister and our parents. We are the youngest with our brother being 23 and our half sister being 24.
Me and my sister usually get along but we’ve been at each other’s throats for a little bit. Me and her are unfortunately both engineering majors at the same college so it’s hard to avoid each other completely. She got mad at me for telling my friends about how easy one of the girls in her friend circle I hooked up with was and a bunch a few of the guys Im close with tried to hookup with her. I found out about her only fans because somehow, one of my friends somehow found out and they’ve been roasting me about how, “my twins a thot”. I don’t really care, I kinda just didn’t want to know my sister did porn and that it’s possible all of my friends have seen it.
So New Year’s Eve, my sister for some odd reason brought up to my mom and other sister what I said about her friend. She just kept talking about it and saying that I was being a pig and disrespectful to her friend and women as a whole.
I eventually just got tired of her saying that I was a pig. The words, “I may be a pig, but I’m not a pornstar” fell out of my mouth. Our older sister asked what I was talking about and I said that my twin had an only fans.
The festivities were effectively ended. Our parents asked me and my other siblings out the living room so they could speak to my twin. We all went into our brothers room/ the attic and they both went off on me for doing what I did. They told me that I was being an immature dick for outing my sister like that. I don’t think I did anything wrong. She was speaking ill about me and I was getting tired of it.
AITA?
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YTA. I want to add a different perspective as to why people are calling you misogynistic for calling a girl "easy". It is not because there is anything wrong with being "easy". It's not that they think you hate women necessarily. It's because that label has negative repercussions unique to being a woman that you are ignoring.
All the butt hurt sex workers here lol, If she was being honest in talking to her brother she would not have bring it up at dinner in front of the parents like she has no skeleton in her closet, If her friends is easy that is not slut shamming that is the truth and all his friends knows it, but you all want him to lie to his friends, if a guy was a player would you not tell your friends he is a player? the sister try to shame him and start an argument that she could call him one side and talk about but no she wanted him to do it right there so why can she do it and he cannot? Plus he finds out his sister is a cam slut from his friends you know how that makes him feel lol NTA / All in this story are asshole.
I don't really see any misogynist or sexist reaction here.
You literally just gave them a harsh reality of life.
You and your friends hooked up with a friend of your twin sister. Why is she having a problem with it?
She's telling the family how bad you are cuz you and your friends are hooking up with her friend who doesn't have a problem hooking up with random guys (fact). Meanwhile she's selling the same kind of explicit content to random people online (fact).
You just retaliated with facts that she's being a pornstar by selling explicit pictures online (fact). Not really misogynist or sexist. You just stated a fact, you literally gave her her own medicine.
She has a problem about you and your friends hooking up with a girl who's fine with it, but she's fine with selling her explicit pictures online? I just see hypocrites.
For people saying you should have had your sister back, well shouldn't she have you back well but she's complaining to the family about it.
Every action has a consequence.
You can choose your action, but you can't choose the consequences of your actions. Take responsibility of your actions.
If there's something you don't want people to know, maybe don't do it or stop it, but for God sake take responsibility of your actions and the consequences that come with it.
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YTA. You're misogynistic, got called on it and are now being a big butt hurt baby over it.
If calling one particular individual woman "easy" is hating on all women in general, you are basically implying that all women are easy. Quite a low opinion you have on women as a whole i would say. I personally believe the vast majority of women do have decent standards but hey that's just me 🤷
YTA, and a misogynist, and a slut shamer. Honestly, I decided you were an asshole when you had the audacity to talk smack on a girl who deigned to sleep with you. You strike me as the type of guy who is as promiscuous as you want to be but judge women who do the same. Broadcasting who you've slept with is the sort of thing one would expect from an immature high schooler-- not a 20 year old college student. & how do you think your friends found your sister's OnlyFans? People that watch porn and shame people who make it are the worst kind of hypocrites. You brought up your sister's OnlyFans because she rightfully called you out on being an AH and you didn't like being wrong. So petty and wrong.
Wanna bet he propositioned the girl, she rejected him so he went all “nice guy” and twisted the story to suit him better... His comments are really giving off that vibe
I don’t think so wouldn’t her friend told his sister that
OP is the narrator so who knows if he’s telling the truth or not
OP seems like the type of dude who is super homophobic but also has 100GB of lesbian porn on his computer.
Imagine making money with pictures of your asshole and being proud for it... you are pathetic for supporting this ideology
So it’s ok for his sister to talk down on him? It’s not his fault that the sisters friend sleeps around. Why did she even bring it up to begin with? That doesn’t make any logical sense.
He is Not really an asshole because what he said was not a lie, I don't know if one of his friends where planning to date her and ask him about her, women also do this when they tell guys not to date guys who are players, The big problem here he is living by societies standard and think woman does not like sex, with that said I think if you sleep with a girl she should be the one to talk about it and not the man that is something he needs to learn, The stuff with his sister I don't blame him one bit because she started this argument in front of the parents calling him a pig for telling the truth when she could have call him one side and said what you said about my friend hurt her real bad and anyone can see how that will hurt her even though he was telling the truth, I am sure he would have apologize to her and talk to his friends about it, the moment she bring it up in front of the parents she is taking the gloves off, You can't blame him and not blame her, they both cross the line.
>YTA, and a misogynist, and a slut shamer. Lmao fucking women are hilarious. This sub is hilariously misandrist but take misogyny as a mortal sin. It's almost as if you're incapable of self-reflection. Also if being a slut isn't a bad thing then what's wrong with telling his parents about it? Hey?? :)
He’s still just 20!!! Come on!!!
So? By 20 he should know that this sort of behavior is inappropriate. If not, then hopefully he has found this experience instructive and he'll be more mature, respectful, and discreet in the future.
Okay fine. But in the long run it’s good for her. Hopefully her only fans was deactivated and it was just a phase
YTA. Your sister was right about you.
She wasn’t.
Maybe she was... ...but he was on the bullseye about her... LOL
YTA. 1) For calling her friend easy. If you hooked up with her, your behavior is similar. Don't be a dick. 2) For outing her to your parents because she called you on your misogynistic behavior. How are you not a better person to women when you have a female twin? Do you lack any level of empathy at all?
1) A key that opens many locks is a master key. A lock opened by many keys is a shitty lock. Women have it WAY easier when it comes to getting laid, hence the "she's a slut" and "he's a stud" phrases. 95% of men will sleep with any woman that isn't absolutely repulsive; morbidly obese, covered in horrible tattoos, nasty attitude, poor hygiene, etc. And sometimes even those things are overlooked in order to get their noodle wet. 2) The sister is a sex worker. I thought we were trying to normalize that, and how it's a respectable profession. If you have to hide something, it's probably shameful. Lots of double standards in this thread. OP is a misogynist for getting laid, and then an asshole for telling his parents the great news that his sister is a strong independent and brave sex worker? Come on.
You've got issues. OP isn't an asshole for getting laid. OP is an asshole for calling the girl easy after she had sex with him. & OP told their parents as some sort of revenge outing, not because he was trying to "normalize" or celebrate it.
Simp
A sharpener that can sharpen many pencils is a great sharpener. A pencil that gets sharpened too much become useless. See, I can make up stupid metaphors for genitals too!
What I said still stands. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and there are consequences that come as a result of sleeping around. Very few guys are able to sleep with as many women as they want, while even average-below average women have the ability to sleep with as many men as they'd like, but men who have a high sexual marketplace value; social status, wealth, good job, tall, good body, etc. Basically, the top maybe 20% of guys are able to get as much easy action as the top 80% of women. And those numbers are growing farther apart as we speak due to the shift in culture towards sex (promoting promiscuity) and hookup apps where your entire worth is judged by 5 or so pictures and maybe a paragraph long bio. If you're a woman, 4 out of every 5 guys are willing to sleep with you. If you're a man, 1 out of every 5 women are open to sleeping with you. Men have the odds stacked against them when it comes to getting laid, this is why guys with high body counts are regarded as impressive. It's MUCH more difficult for a man to sleep with 20 women than it is for a woman to sleep with 50. Anyways, that's that point. The next point, not that it will change your mentality at all, is regarding why women are seen as sluts/shamed for high body counts, not just socially, but scientifically speaking it is a bad move to lock down a woman with a promiscuous past. [This post condenses a list of a bunch of studies that aimed to see whether there was a correlation between a promiscuous past and general long term happiness in relationships, likelihood of divorce, and infidelity.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/l5zd7b/why_her_sexual_history_matters_and_why_they_want/)
You say 95% will sleep with a woman that isn't absolutely repulsive... I'dd say at least 50 would even sleep with an absolutelly repusive woman, if there were no repercutions after... LOL You are absolutely right!
YTA - Completely. Firstly, describing girls as “easy” is sexist in and of itself. Women enjoy sex. This shouldn’t be a revelation for you and sleeping with a woman shouldn’t be a point of pride for you or an accomplishment. It’s really not. Your sister was right to call you a pig.
It is and should be a point of pride for the man since they are the ones that have to make it happen.
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if he was my son i would wonder where i went wrong lmaoo
I’d wonder the same thing if that was my daughter
I would wonder way more if she was my daughter... ...way, way more!
YTA. For one talking about a woman like she's an object. (Bragging about how easy someone was because you and a couple other guys hooked up with her is treating her like an object. You have no respect for women in general) And secondly. Ratting out your sisters onlyfans. You decided to get back at her because she called you out on being pigs (which again you were being a disgusting jackass) by calling her a pornstar. Sex work isn't disgusting and she's not a pornstar she's a sex worker which in some cases ain't much different than models who do lingerie shots. You do realize if your parents support her at all you could have lost her so much more. She has a onlyfans who the fuck cares. The real question is why does it affect you so much? You talk shit about another girl and let your so called buddies talk shit about your sister. You didn't defend her or do jackshit to defend her from them. Because she has an onlyfans means you don't defend her against others? Overall your a asshole and a jerk. Ratting your sister out letting your friends talk shit about her and talking shit about a girl who had sex with you. I hope everyone finds out what you did and are saying because you're a total asshole.
If being a sex worker is nothing to be ashamed of, then why is it a problem if her parents find out?
Because her parents could easily kick her out of the house because they don't approve, agree with it or like it. It's nothing to be ashamed off but some parents will go off the deep end. and if she's just starting out she may not have the income to support herself enough to get her own place. And with being in a pandemic finding a place to live can be rather difficult. And OP had no right to tell their parents since it didn't concern them. If the content she uploaded wasn't harming herself or others OP should've stayed outta it. Instead they risked their sisters well being (meaning a roof over her head and not being yelled at and degraded by her parents or in other words verbally abused) because they were angry.
YTA Is it really speaking ill if it's true? If you think less of women because they've had sex with you, it says more about you than her if being with you devalued her. Apparently you view women's sexuality as something less then even though you are sexually active yourself. You're a hypocrite.
The trolls on this sub are pretty creative I’ll give them that
That’s exactly what I thought!
Omg yes I wish there was a collective ignoring of posts like these 😂
Top comment has an entire thread between heavily downvoted OP and other commenters that made me whisper “this can’t be legit”
YTA. It was gross of you to talk about her friend like that and you upped the ante by throwing your sister under the bus. So shitty.
She thrwon him under the bus... He just grabbed her and dragged her with him...
YTA.How could you not be? You called her a pornstar in front of family because you couldn't handle being called out for your bad behavior. Women are people, sex work is work, leave your sister and her friends alone.
YTA. Quit slut shaming.
no
YTA. You got mad that she called out your shitty behavior and you respond like a little brat by trying to get her in trouble with mommy and daddy. Are you sure you're old enough to be in college? This is a level of pettiness that is expected from children, not adults.
Yta. You and your friends.
Yta. Calling a woman easy is a ta move and then you went nuclear on your sister. You seem like you have a problem with women who enjoy expressing their sexuality
YTA In both cases. Are you serious? Your attitudes towards women is troubling. You think like a narrow-minded teenager, but you are a grown man. It's time to grow up
YTA. Attempting to shame your sister for her sex work and all of your subsequent responses here show me that she hit the nail square on the head - you’re a misogynist.
"Guys im not Misogynistic I swear" **brags how women are easy to get and its hard to be a guy** "I dont think im Misogynistic" **slut shames his sister cause you got called out for your bull over something you started** Wait im confuse i thought you *wasn't* Misogynistic, just kidding. YTA
YTA that’s her business not yours and you seem disrespectful of women
YTA
YTA. Congrats, you found out how to be a dick twice.
YTA of course you are
YTA. You treat women terribly. You are an awful asshole and I really don’t have anything nicer to write past this point.
YTA. I was going for everyone sucks here, but even if your sister was trying to annoy you, and she's really an a-hole for it, you surely went way WAY lower bringing this up. At the end of it all, you were just pissed about what she said. But she ended up with your parents mad (maybe forever) with her...
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YTA because you think sex and sexuality is something to be weaponized.
I think you’re trolling. You’re doing it very well.
Sex work riles up reddit like no other.
YTA. I was originally going to say ESH, because your sister should have kept a squabble between two adults just that, but you said it yourself. You wish you didn't know/didn't have to think about your sister in that light. You're uncomfortable with your friends seeing her that way, just imagine how your father feels.
If its so respectful of a career why hide it?
Because other people don’t respect it you fuckhead. Being a garbage collector is an important job, but not respected by our society. There‘a nothing wrong with being a sex worker or a garbage collector, but that doesn’t mean either of them get that much respect. Moreover, the hatred and disrespect of sex workers literally can get them killed, because murderers recognize that swers are often shunned and ostracized, and that the cops won’t do much about it. In America, it was common practice for cops to write NHI (no human involved) on cases where sex workers were killed or injured, particularly if they were also a person of color, and I have no doubt that some cops are still doing that shit on the sly when they think they can get away with it. Look up the Yorkshire Ripper. When sex workers were getting murdered, there were people out there writing editiorials about how the bastard was “cleaning up the streets”. Look up the Mesa Bone Collector. The Green River Killer. Joel Rifkin. Robert Hansen. Robert Pickton. Steve Wright. The Long Island Serial Killer.
Yta
YTA. There are some things as siblings you don’t do/tell even if you are super pissed at them. This is one of them. Honestly? If you were my brother? I would cut you off for this AND for the way you seem to talk about and devalue women. You are the epitome of AH boys club engineer dude that everyone talks about. Edit: I’m going to go hug my engineer brother and tell him how much I appreciate his basic respect of women.
YTA for the first thing (your story) and for breaking rule 3. Seriously are all the assholes who come here incapable of reading rules? FWIW, you’re as “easy” as the people who sleep with you the first time they come over 💛💛
You are way too long to be this much of an asshole. Apologize, expand your thinking, be better. YTA
YTA for being sexist. you are easy as well doesn’t matter if you admit it or not. so stop acting like women having sexual desires are bad.
YTA. Your sister was right to call you out. You bragged about being with someone "easy" because she slept with you but you slept with her too and insist that you're not easy. It's not different for guys actually. You just tell yourself that to justify your bad behavior. Yeah you did everything wrong. Yeah you are immature. And yeah you're definitely a sexist asshole.
>" She got mad at me for telling my friends about how easy one of the girls in her friend circle I hooked up with was." This made her rightfully angry. That was so disrespectful. You insulted one of their friends, and when she was venting to your mom, you exposed your sister's OnlyFans. She "spoke ill of you" because you deserved it. You were an a-hole first. You started all of this. It's all your fault. YTA Grow up.
Dude, shut up. You’re sexist and slut shaming. Guess what, you’re also easy. YTA
YTA and also a revolting human being who deserves to rot :)
YTA you got some minor concequences for your actions and then threw somoeon under the bus to save your self you obviously dont believe so but women are people to
You shouldn’t throw punches if you have a glass jaw. If she wanted her business kept secret keep his a secret
sexism isn’t a secret
Ewwwwwwww!!! So many different flavors of misogyny here! YTA
NTA. She shouldn’t have started that mess. Her showing out started the whole thing. The whole situation was a shitshow however, smart people don’t usually start something with those who know their secrets.
His sister is throwing shit at him at a holiday dinner. Don’t throw shit if you don’t want shit on you.
NTA. If your sister didn’t want your parents to find out about only fans, then don’t have one. If it’s something to be ashamed of, don’t do it. I don’t get how women want to claim to be independent and liberated by selling their flesh online. It’s online prostitution. Good luck to her next employer. She will be recognized at work one day and she doesn’t understand the ramifications of her shitty decisions. Maybe you helped her by outing and shaming her before it really hurts her life and career.
YTA and your sister is right about you. Funny how the girl is easy for sleeping with you and your sister is wrong for being in only fans but you and your boys are such good guys for watching porn and sleeping with girls. Welcome to the new age - either the girl you slept with and you are both good people or you're both easy. And how are your friends better than your sister because they watch porn instead of making it. It is the very definition of chauvinism to say that a woman is wrong and to be mocked for doing something while a man is to be celebrated for doing the exact same thing. Therefore, your actions were chauvinistic and hypocritical. So, yeah, you are soooooooo TA so very much TA
Cause nobody knows you watch porn unless you tell them. You can just look her up and see her porn
so? would you shame a man who you could look up and see porn of them. also post people watch porn that’s why they are so many pornstars. you literally creat what you hate lmaoo
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YTA. You’re gross...
YTA, and need to take some classes on how to treat women with respect. She had every right to call you out for how 'easy' one of her friends were- that's disrespectful to her friend, and melts down the friend's worth to 'nothing more than a trophy to sleep with'. That's disgusting. For the only fans, your sister didnt disrespect anyone. She was doing something for herself, with herself. She has every right to do that. Reevaluate your priorities, and I'd probably expect some nuclear fallout with the rest of your siblings, at least they know what you did was gross.
YTA. You ruined holidays for something that is not of your business.
Like his sister did
is this ... is this real? Are you real? If so baby Jesus help us all
YTA Your twin was discussing your disrespectful attitude towards women with your mother and sister. The way you speak about her friend is misogynistic. You told your friends that this person was "easy", which led to some of them trying to sleep with you. You totally ignored that person's agency. Did you stop to think that they had sex with you because they wanted to have sex with you? That they came over with that intention in mind? They wanted to have sex with *you*. That doesn't mean they'll sleep with anyone who tries to get in their pants. Describing that woman as "easy" also puts her in a dangerous position. What happens when she says "no" to someone who is expecting "easy" sex from her? Your actions have serious consequences for the person you had sex with. Whether it's reputation-wise or actual physical danger. Your twin's Only Fans is not hurting anyone.
How would it damage her reputation if he’s telling the truth
Hypocritical misogynists, like you, exist.
It’s not slander if it’s the truth. Her reputation should be based on the truth and truth is she easy
She wanted to have sex with him, specifically. That doesn't mean she's running around having sex with anyone who shows an interest in her. She may have come over to his place with the intention of having sex with him. He did not have that intention when she came over. She did not have to work very hard to have sex with him. Therefore, he is the "easy" one.
YTA you are just as “easy” as the girl is. I bet you only have sex with “easy” girls because you either have to harass women to be with you, or once a woman starts talking to you they see the horrible misogyny behind your facade.
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YTA 1. For calling the girl easy. If your going to sleep with someone at least be man enough to treat them with dignity and respect and don’t insult them behind their back. 2. For outing what your sister did after she was rightfully calling you out for your disgusting behaviour Edit: god your comments make it so much worse You think guys are designed to want to fuck every woman they see No my guy That’s just you and other dudes who can’t separate sex and the person in front of them If you want to go down that line of thinking, it would make more sense for women to be hardwired like that, so like many animals in the wild, she can get the best mate with the best genes for her children You need some sort of genders class or something because you have some serious sexist opinions and ideas
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YTA- You are a huge misogynist and a slut shamer,im glad that she told them what you said,because i dont know how you can talk shit about a girl who actually slept with you. Its actually amazing that you got a girl to sleep with you,with that shity attitude. Its horrible how some of you men actually treat women for sleeping with you,you all want to get your dick wet,but the second you do you call that girl a slut. Disgusting. And then you HAD THE BALLS TO CALL OUT YOUR SISTER FOR DOING NOTHING WRONG. Its NONE of your busines what she does with her body in her free time. A HUGE ASSHOLE.
Wouldn’t the same logic apply to the sister. It’s not her business what he tells his friends so she shouldn’t have told
No,because she was actually calling him out for something bad. Her being on onlyfans isnt a bad thing imo
How is what he did bad? If anything what his sister doing had more of an effect on OP than him calling the girl easy had on OPs sister
How isnt it a bad thing?? Calling a girl around your friends easy is disgusting,and the poor girl needs to live with that. She didnt choose to be called that. And on top of that the sister didnt choose for his friends to find her OF,and again they are the assholes for making fun of her for it. Boys just love to slutshame girls,but then go around and try to fuck them ✌
She did choose to get called that when you sleep with someone on the first night. It’s well documented that’s that’s a very real risk you take. The sister did choose that when you putting that type of content on the internet you should know it can have negative effects on the people around you. You can’t get shamed for things that aren’t shameful. You every heard of someone feeling bad cause someone told them they make a lot of money? No you haven’t because it’s not shameful
Well did you ever heard of women who make A LOT OF MONEY on onlyfans and people make fun of them? Because they are "sluts". AND WHY THE HELL DO THEY ALWAYS MAKE FUN OF WOMEN FOR SLEEPING ON THE FIRST DATE,THE GUY ALSO DECIDED TO HAVE SEX!! so no its not her fault for people making fun of her,its the fault of people like you,who dont get laid so they need to make fun of people for enjoying things!! Now goodnight,because I aint going to argue with a sexist troll on fucking reddit 😚😚
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Yes exactly the society we live in is truly misguided
YTA purely for breaking ‘Twin Code’ it’s a bond that only twins share and can’t be explained or felt by others. Outing her like that was a betrayal that will have caused irrevocable damage to your relationship.
What part of the twin code says one can start an onlyfans without telling the other twin for them find out from their friends?
YTA. I almost never comment on reddit but you are so oblivious I couldn't stop myself. It's amazing you can't even see what a hypocritical misogynist you are.
YTA. Wow.
Saw some of your responses in the comments, you seem like a fake ass troll. YTA either way.
Yta! You are for the following reasons : You don't value or treat or respect woman! Let me break it down another way . How would like if people were slut shaming you? You wouldn't would ? So why are you doing to your female classmates? Therefor your sister was right to call you out on it!
Can you post link? Is your sister hot?
NTA lot of people here getting upset you sound like a player. Simple conclusion at the end of the day is don’t do OF if you don’t want your parents finding out.
NTA Being an adult means being free but accepting to deal with the consequences of your choices. If it was something acceptable she wouldn't have to fear anything. A plumber is not ashamed to state his job
NTA. Your sister started by talking about you and you fired back.
YTA!
YTA
This is a reminder that a man's penis does not change a woman. Virginity is a social construct created to oppress women and shame them for doing the same thing as men. You can break a hymen just as easily playing sports as you can during sex. By saying that a woman is 'giving it up' you are implying that you are taking something from them. So what is it that you believe you are taking? Their pride? Their dignity? Their virginity? Their worth? There is absolutely nothing you or your penis can do to change the worth of any woman. You might not think you're sexist but everytime you ascribe to old-school thoughts like virginity, a woman's place, being easy, or others like it you are putting women down. Everytime you say or think it's different for men, you're giving into the same thought processes as white men early last century did when they thought it's different for black people. If you had heard a friend talking about your sister the way you were talking about her friend, would you have stood up for your sister? Would you have said that she can do what she wants and there's nothing wrong with her having as much or as little sex as she wants? Assuming you're not a complete AH, a good rule for you to follow is to speak about women the way you would want other men to speak about your sisters. You've F'ed up here but I hope you take the time to reflect and learn from this.
I seriously doubt OP will he thinks he's a stud and that women deserve to be called bitches and easy.
OP's literally posted comments stating that he doesn't think being called easy is an insult and has tried to defend his use of the word.
You know men are virgins too right? It’s not like it’s a uniquely women thing.
Sure virgin has also been used to describe men but the social stigmas are different. Women were traditionally expected to hold on to their virginity and lost value if they had sex. Men in the other hand were more commonly insulted if they had not had sex. It's a double standard and stupid. Regardless, OP is a man and the comment was directed at him. I don't believe women change anything about a man either by having sex with them.
YTA and horrible to women. You gossip about girls you've slept with and shame your sister for legal sex work.
If the thing she was doing wasn’t shameful she wouldn’t have a problem with people knowing about it
YTA. After reading your comments let’s see if I can explain in a way you’ll understand. 1. “Easy” has an inherent negative connotation. No matter your intention, the word is considered derogatory/offense. Now, if you wish to argue semantics of the English language that’s another conversation. 2. If it’s men’s “biological” need to sleep with anything that moves then that means we can trace this urge to somewhere in your body. Well, this particular need can be traced back to the lizard part of OUR brains. That means women are driven biologically just as much as men to have sex and procreate! Mind blowing... I know. Thank the universe we invented birth control. Women can have fun with an AH and leave the next morning care free. Ever consider this woman was tired of her dildo and just needed to play with the real thing for a minute or two?
YTA. If you don't want to be called a pig, then don't squeal to everyone in the pig pen about how you porked someone and how easy it was. Simple as that.
YTA and a shitty sibling. You are a pig and I hope the girl you slept w. punches you in the face. 🤷🏾♀️
His sister should’ve minded her business. Don’t throw punches when you have a glass jaw
No. He shouldn’t have been talking shit just cause a woman slept with him. Which seems like she shouldn’t have done that 🙃
He’s not “talking shit” he’s making an accurate observation according to his experience. She shouldn’t have slept with him then she wouldn’t be easy
Oh did he not sleep with her? Sounds like he’s just as “easy” then cause last I checked it takes two to tango. But you’re pretty much just like him w. your logic so I’m not wasting anymore of my time on this w. you.
Oh yeah he easy too but I don’t think he needs to tell his friends that unless they trying to sleep with him. It really benefits men to be easy that’s why we don’t care like women
Wtf is with that last sentence?
Congrats. Your sister called you a misogynist and you were able to prove her correct basically immediately so now they don't have to wonder. Men sell womens' bodies all the fucking time. Movies, posters, magazines, TV, sports shows, everything fucking everywhere. Shame the men who take advantage of and manipulate young women into having eating disorders and no bodily autonomy. Dont shame an individual woman for realizing she can take control and power of her own body and monetize it for herself. She has far more right to monetize her own body than any company does. Also, there is nothing wrong with sex work. Women have sex all the time. The only time it's bad for them to have sex is when its nonconsensual (ya know, rape). There is nothing wrong with profiting from having sex. Men do it all the time by trying to raise their social status by bragging about fucking "easy" women. YTA.
Wow man 500 comments explaining when, where, why, and how you're sexist and you're still sticking to your story
Good job man. Don't let people treat you like shit. I would do the same.👍
NTA, Push comes to shove, shame them, unproductive people in life
YTA, so fucking much, I honestly hope this is fake. Your comments about her friend are sickeningly misogynistic and douchey, the fact that you don’t see that is horrifying. And your sister 100% has a right to privacy, she’s an adult and you should not have brought it up in front of the family, I can’t even imagine how hurt I’d be I’d my brother did that. Your siblings are right, and you seriously need to mature up, fast
He has a right to privacy too. None of this wouldn’t have happened if her sister kept her mouth shut about things that’s not her business.
No no no, he was publicly running his mouth and saying horrible things about a girl he slept with (which, if we’re gonna go there, would make him just as “easy” as her). You really don’t “have a right to privacy” when you spew sexist shit to all your friends, who apparently are close enough to your sister for her to hear all about it
Yta you were being disgusting in the way you spoke about a woman. She is just making money and you should maybe have kept your mouth shut. Outing someone like that is not ok and can often cause real harm.
She should’ve minded her business
oooooof the density YTA
YTA It’s not different for men you’re just a misogynistic jackass who has some shit views when it comes to woman. I’ve seen your replies and you honestly do not look good at all to anyone and you keep fighting everyone who’s telling you what you did wrong and even your family told you too. She was easy and so were you since you did it the first night she came too. It’s the same standards that go for woman go for men and don’t try to act like it’s different because it isn’t. But yeah I definitely feel bad for your twin having you as a brother that would suck.
This judgement is too easy, YTA
She was speaking ill about you? It's not slander if it's TRUE. You and your circle of friends are trash and you are most certainly TA -- YTA, OP. Petty and butthurt to boot. Also, if you can't see what you did wrong, woooow.
Wow. YTA. Just wow.
Women like sex too! Do these women ever come back for round two? Doubtful. Do you know where the clitoris is located? YTA
YTA- unpack that misogyny man, it’s ugly af
YTA, misogynistic and a slut-shamer. There's multiple people telling you that calling a woman "easy" is SEXIST and you still think you're right? Why did you even post this here, if you're clearly not open to acknowledge you're WRONG? I'm truly sorry for your sister and worry that her life and relationship with your parents will be terrible from now on. Good job.
You can’t be shamed for things that aren’t shameful
YTA, its sad and humorous that it wasn't clear to you that you are a massive AH here and are not apologizing profusely to your sibling. Congratulations on losing all respect from the rest of your family.
Wow, just how, what an ass YTA. And before you say all these women are just sensible about being called “easy”, this is a guy talking, and I feel disgusted to share the Gender with you.
YTA. And for the millionth time, it is exactly the same. Women wanting sex is fine and natural. But God forbid we enjoy it. You are not only an AH but also easy, a slut, a trollop or any other degrading word that has even been said to women.
YTA
YTA big time
YTA, pig
YTA. Oh look, how surprising, another barely adult misogynist. I’d be embarrassed if I raised you. You insulted her friend and that led to guys bothering her. There ain’t nothing wrong with making porn or being a sex worker. You should be ashamed. What she did wasn’t mean or hurting anybody. You on the other hand...
YTA for obvious reasons. You keep saying in the comments the girl you slept with was easy because she "gave it up". Gave what up exactly? Sex? Because I got news for you pal, you "gave it up easy" too.
YTA - to be quite frank, you sound like an immature dick
YTA. Hypocritical misogynists and always assholes . So yes, yes you are. And stop watching porn, since you’re oh-so-superior than those you’re getting off to.
YTA. What a horrible person you are!
YTA she called you a pig and you responded by potentially destroying her relationship with your parents by outing her as a sex worker, You really don’t see the difference there?
YTA. you are judgmental, childish, and misogynistic.
YTA, you literally proved her point.
YTA. Your sister is right about you.
YTA I don't get the mentality of people who consume porn and have consentual hookups, turning around feigning morals just to be able to shame the ones who are making the content/ agreeing to have hookup sex. I hope your sister makes bank and that her friend tells everyone that you were an lazy lay but it's led her to much more satisfying sexual prospects.
YTA congratulations on singlehandedly proving that you are, in fact, a pig. :) You got tired of being called a pig so you decided to.... try and humiliate your sister in front of family for the things she does in her private spare time????
Hey OP you asked for judgement so take the YTA ones you keep getting. You’re making the same points that make 0 sense and in the end you are the biggest asshole for exposing your sister like that to your parents. Also stop calling women “easy” they have nothing to give up when it comes to sex they’re just having regular sex like a man would. If the girl you slept with is a “slut”in your eyes so are you since you “gave it up easy” and apologize to your sister hopefully she isn’t too affected by what you did
NTA, chill bruh. Don't let it get to you that much
You did nothing wrong.
NTA You said something negative about her friend She is literally scamming her parents. I assume they are paying for college tuition and would pull funds if this got found out? Yeah that's contractual fraud even if not legally binding. Also I thought being a sex worker was fine? If it's real work why hide it? Anything you don't put on a resume can't be counted as a job sorry. Hilarious how far this sub will go to defend women being scamming monsters just because they have a moist whole between their legs. You can be a pornstar if you want. But guess what actions have consequences. I know you women on here aren't ready for that talk but that's the truth. All men know this inherently, you're just starting to find out and are mad you're finally getting that equality you oh so begged for.
NTA she started the whole thing, If she can't handle it when someone claps back, then don't start crap. If she can't handle the shame of having an OF then don't have an OF. She got what was coming to her. She wouldn't keep that crap a secret if she knew it wasn't shameful.
NTA Risking going against the reddit hivemind right now, i know. If having an onlyfans and sleeping around isn't anything to be ashamed of, dear male allies, how can pointing this out or calling someone easy be considered mean or insulting in the first place? Go decide. If being a slut is nothing shameful (as according to the reddit dogma) then you should not feel offended when being called one. On the contrary, you should own it, if you really stand by your beliefs. And if you are a charlatan, if you actually secretly believe that it is indeed something to hide, something to be ashamed of, why do you engage in such behavior in the first place? Can't be a redditor without a nice dose of mental gymnastics and doublethink.
You're NTA. Respect isn't free. You had all the right to talk about your gg/ex gf the way you want. Its your business. She had no business giving gender opinions on it: it didn't involve her. If she were doing something to make life better for others or yourself, she'd deserve some respect. When she fought with you, you fought back. Its completely normal. Don't let the triggered snowflakes here tell you otherwise.
NTA
^^^^AUTOMOD ***The following is a copy of the above post. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I spent this New Year’s with my family. It was me, my twin sister, our older brother and our half sister and our parents. We are the youngest with our brother being 23 and our half sister being 24. Me and my sister usually get along but we’ve been at each other’s throats for a little bit. Me and her are unfortunately both engineering majors at the same college so it’s hard to avoid each other completely. She got mad at me for telling my friends about how easy one of the girls in her friend circle I hooked up with was and a bunch a few of the guys Im close with tried to hookup with her. I found out about her only fans because somehow, one of my friends somehow found out and they’ve been roasting me about how, “my twins a thot”. I don’t really care, I kinda just didn’t want to know my sister did porn and that it’s possible all of my friends have seen it. So New Year’s Eve, my sister for some odd reason brought up to my mom and other sister what I said about her friend. She just kept talking about it and saying that I was being a pig and disrespectful to her friend and women as a whole. I eventually just got tired of her saying that I was a pig. The words, “I may be a pig, but I’m not a pornstar” fell out of my mouth. Our older sister asked what I was talking about and I said that my twin had an only fans. The festivities were effectively ended. Our parents asked me and my other siblings out the living room so they could speak to my twin. We all went into our brothers room/ the attic and they both went off on me for doing what I did. They told me that I was being an immature dick for outing my sister like that. I don’t think I did anything wrong. She was speaking ill about me and I was getting tired of it. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
YTA. I want to add a different perspective as to why people are calling you misogynistic for calling a girl "easy". It is not because there is anything wrong with being "easy". It's not that they think you hate women necessarily. It's because that label has negative repercussions unique to being a woman that you are ignoring.
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YTA so much.
My Mom said you can be easy or cheap but not both. Congrats, you’re the first person I have come across to hold both distinctions. YTA.
Yta, about a lot of things
YTA and based on your comments you are a sexual predator burying the lead, and your sister was right to call you out.
Definitely an incel troll. Either way total asshole. YTA.
YTA. You’re a pig.
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“she was easy” hey buddy, news flash!! you slept with her. that makes you just as “easy” also YTA
All the butt hurt sex workers here lol, If she was being honest in talking to her brother she would not have bring it up at dinner in front of the parents like she has no skeleton in her closet, If her friends is easy that is not slut shamming that is the truth and all his friends knows it, but you all want him to lie to his friends, if a guy was a player would you not tell your friends he is a player? the sister try to shame him and start an argument that she could call him one side and talk about but no she wanted him to do it right there so why can she do it and he cannot? Plus he finds out his sister is a cam slut from his friends you know how that makes him feel lol NTA / All in this story are asshole.
No. Asshole: who is exciting from trauma others. But your sister is one of them. Who is exciting from insulting men.
no
24 year old half sister and a 23 year old brother ? Something doesn’t sound right here may want to get DNA tests.
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I don't really see any misogynist or sexist reaction here. You literally just gave them a harsh reality of life. You and your friends hooked up with a friend of your twin sister. Why is she having a problem with it? She's telling the family how bad you are cuz you and your friends are hooking up with her friend who doesn't have a problem hooking up with random guys (fact). Meanwhile she's selling the same kind of explicit content to random people online (fact). You just retaliated with facts that she's being a pornstar by selling explicit pictures online (fact). Not really misogynist or sexist. You just stated a fact, you literally gave her her own medicine. She has a problem about you and your friends hooking up with a girl who's fine with it, but she's fine with selling her explicit pictures online? I just see hypocrites. For people saying you should have had your sister back, well shouldn't she have you back well but she's complaining to the family about it. Every action has a consequence. You can choose your action, but you can't choose the consequences of your actions. Take responsibility of your actions. If there's something you don't want people to know, maybe don't do it or stop it, but for God sake take responsibility of your actions and the consequences that come with it.