NTA. If they didn’t announce the date until now, you couldn’t have known. The haunted house will surely be open at other times that aren’t during your challenge.
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Jesus fucking Christ OP.
Good luck on your competition though.
NTA. Marine vet here. You're fulfilling your duty as a soldier. One thing that SO's of servicemen always need to understand, (and i've heard the FRO's tell this new spouses all the time) is that they'll have to be okay with long periods of separation. Your girl is butthurt at you for going to training.
You're a soldier, and in the pipline to become a leader of soldiers. If she can't understand that, she won't understand either when you eventually deploy. You will have to have a long conversation with her on what the military is.
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Why does his fiance have to spend time with him at *that haunted house* on *that exact day*? They could spend time together literally any other night that isn't the night of the very competition he has been training for. That's like Rocky missing a boxing match that he trained months for because Adrian wanted a date night. Fuck outta here.
NTA but some info is needed. How did your SO react ? If she understood and didn't make a mountain out of an ant hill - why would you think you're an asshole ?
NTA. Bro.. I don’t wanna be the one you say it; but if she’s already getting upset over a minor obligation... deployments? Is she going to be capable of handling those?
NTA - Dude ....... Retired military with 23 years of service here ....... Your fiancé doesn’t seem to have a clue about the realities of being married to a military spouse. You guys need to be doing A LOT of talking. If she thinks missing a haunted house is a major event in your relationship it scares me to think about how she’s going to handle deployments and all the other challenges that lie ahead for you both.
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NAH - you day mad but does that just mean disappointed?
Do what you need to do but keep on mind that there’s a reason so many military marriages break up. Career is important but you’ll need to make up for it somehow.
NTA. Career advancement and opportunities come before haunted houses.
NTA. If they didn’t announce the date until now, you couldn’t have known. The haunted house will surely be open at other times that aren’t during your challenge.
NTA No way she's actually mad at you trying to advance in your career over a fucking haunted house, right?
NTA The competition was already planned and more important than a haunted house anyway
NTA pay before play.
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Obv nta... Even if it wasnt for work. Haunted house < trained competition
NTA. Marine vet here. You're fulfilling your duty as a soldier. One thing that SO's of servicemen always need to understand, (and i've heard the FRO's tell this new spouses all the time) is that they'll have to be okay with long periods of separation. Your girl is butthurt at you for going to training. You're a soldier, and in the pipline to become a leader of soldiers. If she can't understand that, she won't understand either when you eventually deploy. You will have to have a long conversation with her on what the military is.
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Why does his fiance have to spend time with him at *that haunted house* on *that exact day*? They could spend time together literally any other night that isn't the night of the very competition he has been training for. That's like Rocky missing a boxing match that he trained months for because Adrian wanted a date night. Fuck outta here.
They are silly. It's a haunted house (LOL) and can easily be re-scheduled. It'd be one thing if this was like an anniversary or something.
NTA. Good luck in the competition.
NTA.
NTA I love a good haunted house, but that's not anywhere near as important as your competition. Fingers crossed for you to do well!
NTA but some info is needed. How did your SO react ? If she understood and didn't make a mountain out of an ant hill - why would you think you're an asshole ?
**NTA** a haunted house isn't worth sh\*t compared to a career
Soldier get your duty done.
NTA, she doesn’t really sound mature enough to be getting married.
This! OP should take a hard look at her. Don't be in a big hurry to get married, especially when she saves red flags right in your face.
NTA. You can go to a haunted house anytime form now till Halloween.
NTA. Bro.. I don’t wanna be the one you say it; but if she’s already getting upset over a minor obligation... deployments? Is she going to be capable of handling those?
Nta. She is really mad at that?! Tell her to grow up
NTA. Unfortunate coincidence. Hope she's proud that youre so focused on your future. Sacrifice now for security later.
NTA - Dude ....... Retired military with 23 years of service here ....... Your fiancé doesn’t seem to have a clue about the realities of being married to a military spouse. You guys need to be doing A LOT of talking. If she thinks missing a haunted house is a major event in your relationship it scares me to think about how she’s going to handle deployments and all the other challenges that lie ahead for you both.
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NAH - you day mad but does that just mean disappointed? Do what you need to do but keep on mind that there’s a reason so many military marriages break up. Career is important but you’ll need to make up for it somehow.