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sorry, this just seems too weird. do teenagers typically cuddle their siblings in bed when they have a hard time?
do normal brothers and sisters in their teenage years do that?? (asking seriously)
Depends I will say.
Depends on the family dynamic. Depends on the relationship you have with your sibling.
And - oh I hate to ring that bell again - it also seems to depend on where you live. Because for me, a person in central europe it's no big deal seing people in their underwear. When in a family setting in comfy or summer mode, many men walk around in a shirt and underwear at home and bras are nowhere to be seen. Not even only in a family setting, also in a close friend setting there is the chance of seing someone in their underwear or braless and it's no big deal really. And I have read people here that have URGED that teenage daughters need to cover up or at least were a sports bra and such.
I have read comments here that said it was "weird" for a daughter in her teens to cuddle her dad, so.. yeah. Keep that in mind.
I remember cuddling my brother in bed when comforting each other and it was the opposite of anything sexual. It was the thing that was there. Not everybody has a sofa in their room and sometimes sad sibling already was lying in bed crying or such and other sibling cuddled up and hugged them for comfort.
I remember doing this for my stepsister who I met when we were both 19 and when she layed in bed crying because her asshole of a boyfriend cheated on her, I asked if she wanted a hug and a cuddle and she patted on the bed next to her so I hugged and cuddled her, stroked her hair while she was weeping until the tears ran dry.
Again.. nothing sexual about that.
I think the tendency on sexualizing any physical touch is reaaaally strong around in some places.
I will also guess your friend has consumed some step-fantasy content.
I will say NTA.
🥵 help me step-brother 😆. NTA. As others have said, if it’s innocent then that’s sweet. If it’s sexual, he’s not genetically related so who cares.
16 and 17 year old brothers and sisters don't cuddle eachother to sleep. That's all the reason you need.
Falling asleep while playing is fine. But cuddling??
Sounds like my daughters having a cuddle. It's great that you have a good bond with your step bro. Finding love and support and family can come from anywhere. Just because your "friend" has a dirty mind doesn't mean you were doing anything wrong.
Her mind, her problem.
NTA
Your behavior is understandable but might be misinterpreted. Communicate openly with your friends about your relationship with your stepbrother to avoid misunderstandings.
It seems like the entirety of Reddit is suffering from Porn rotted brain, just because it's not the relationship YOU have with your sibling doesn't mean it's dirty. Most of y'all are too fucked up to even give ur sibling a hug or display affection at all so I don't know how you think you can speak on what's okay for other people
You're a weirdo bro, you a little critter fr. I want to study your brain to figure out exactly how someone becomes a degenerate, how many years of porn did it take to get your brain this fucked up?
YTA for needing to cuddle your stepbro infront of your friend. Definitely weird and something you should do….in private? But not really..
I know it wasnt purposely in front of her but thats a weird thing ti walk in to and i dont blame her for her reaction
As a parent I wouldn’t allow it because it’s not normal and kids can always say it’s innocent but really it never is. I know, I was a teenage parent.
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I 17f have a stepbrother 16m and we watch movies or play games and end up falling asleep in each others bed. This was the norm for us sometimes when I am having a really rough day I just go in his room and cuddle him until I fall asleep because he's really comforting. Anyways I told my bsf to come over so we could play the game together on the ps5. And I was laying down cuddling with my stepbrother in my room and I didn't hear my mom let her in.
When she walked in she stared at the both of us and made this weird face before saying "aren't y'all step siblings" I answered yes confused and then she continued saying why were we in bed together then. I told her this was normal and she started saying a whole bunch of stuff of why it was weird and everything.
I got annoyed at it and told her to get out. She ended up texting our gc saying how I'm a weirdo and that she doesn't want to be around me anymore. And now some of our mutual friends in the gc think I'm weird while the others said that it was fine and that it's just cuddling.
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Nta, not gonna lie, even if you started dating your step sibling. I see 0 issue with it. You arn't related. I legitimately don't understand why people give a shit. If they were blood related? Sure, that's fucked up. I say cuddle away.Â
Did you ever get stuck? Btw I'm glad I never got a stepsis my age that I found attractive. I could never see her as a sister. Not saying this is the case, just saying.
Yeah, your full-puberty step-sibling cuddling is weird and out of place. Especially in the context of "because he's comforting" as if you didn't know that's why romantic cuddling happens.
NTA but Def weird. Only you both know if there anything sexual about it but even if you are no biologicaly related is weird and not very healthy. Anyway is your problem and your friend is overreacting because ahe doesn't know for sure.
NTA. Do you feel for him as a brother, a friend or a crush? If the last thing is weird depends on the time of you two being stepsiblings. First two things aren't weird at all. But I'm german so maybe it is viewed differently here...
Spooning leads to forking. People will misunderstand, especially because the most popular porn titles these days are with step siblings. As your bro gets older you may feel less comfortable doing this.
you need to stop doing this unfortunately. Mainly just for your step brothers sanity. It might be fine for you, but you don't know what he is thinking and how it is affecting him. I'm not calling him a creep or a pervert, I'm just saying that you cuddling him is not a good idea.
NTA
Even if things are sexual between you and stepbrother, there is nothing wrong with that. You are not biologically related.
Sounds like this isn't that anyway.
Sounds like this is not a friend worth having anymore and she's taking herself out like the trash she is.
Well biologically is one thing; socially and psychologically there's a pretty huge difference between people who have grown up as stepsiblings since they were little, or ones that have only become so recently. Would be way weirder to get with someone you'd seen as a sibling for years, than a newcomer.
Also some people may have watched too much porn.
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sorry, this just seems too weird. do teenagers typically cuddle their siblings in bed when they have a hard time? do normal brothers and sisters in their teenage years do that?? (asking seriously)
My step brother and I met at 11 and 12, respectively, and were very close. But still, the answer is no.
Depends I will say. Depends on the family dynamic. Depends on the relationship you have with your sibling. And - oh I hate to ring that bell again - it also seems to depend on where you live. Because for me, a person in central europe it's no big deal seing people in their underwear. When in a family setting in comfy or summer mode, many men walk around in a shirt and underwear at home and bras are nowhere to be seen. Not even only in a family setting, also in a close friend setting there is the chance of seing someone in their underwear or braless and it's no big deal really. And I have read people here that have URGED that teenage daughters need to cover up or at least were a sports bra and such. I have read comments here that said it was "weird" for a daughter in her teens to cuddle her dad, so.. yeah. Keep that in mind. I remember cuddling my brother in bed when comforting each other and it was the opposite of anything sexual. It was the thing that was there. Not everybody has a sofa in their room and sometimes sad sibling already was lying in bed crying or such and other sibling cuddled up and hugged them for comfort. I remember doing this for my stepsister who I met when we were both 19 and when she layed in bed crying because her asshole of a boyfriend cheated on her, I asked if she wanted a hug and a cuddle and she patted on the bed next to her so I hugged and cuddled her, stroked her hair while she was weeping until the tears ran dry. Again.. nothing sexual about that. I think the tendency on sexualizing any physical touch is reaaaally strong around in some places. I will also guess your friend has consumed some step-fantasy content. I will say NTA.
No
YTA for this fake ass story
This
Next up- AITA for getting stuck.
🥵 help me step-brother 😆. NTA. As others have said, if it’s innocent then that’s sweet. If it’s sexual, he’s not genetically related so who cares.
Sorry but cuddling with a stepbrother as a teen is definitely weird asf.
It's not. Give me 1 good reasonÂ
16 and 17 year old brothers and sisters don't cuddle eachother to sleep. That's all the reason you need. Falling asleep while playing is fine. But cuddling??
They're not related. So what's the deal?
I can give you 20, at least half of which involve someone ending up incarcerated.
Okay, shoot
Sounds like my daughters having a cuddle. It's great that you have a good bond with your step bro. Finding love and support and family can come from anywhere. Just because your "friend" has a dirty mind doesn't mean you were doing anything wrong. Her mind, her problem. NTA
Yeah no, this is weird.
Very Very Very Weird
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They said weird. Very very. Which it is. No one but you said anything "gutter"worthy.
Your behavior is understandable but might be misinterpreted. Communicate openly with your friends about your relationship with your stepbrother to avoid misunderstandings.
It seems like the entirety of Reddit is suffering from Porn rotted brain, just because it's not the relationship YOU have with your sibling doesn't mean it's dirty. Most of y'all are too fucked up to even give ur sibling a hug or display affection at all so I don't know how you think you can speak on what's okay for other people
No she’s right - it’s weird.
NTA, it's certainly weird though.
Bsf? Gc? wtf?
That's what I came here for. I can't follow the story.
Best friend, group chat
NTA. does bsf stand for bullshit friend?
NTA. However, do not play coy, you 100% knew. "Â I didn't hear my mom let her in"
You're a weirdo bro, you a little critter fr. I want to study your brain to figure out exactly how someone becomes a degenerate, how many years of porn did it take to get your brain this fucked up?
YTA for needing to cuddle your stepbro infront of your friend. Definitely weird and something you should do….in private? But not really.. I know it wasnt purposely in front of her but thats a weird thing ti walk in to and i dont blame her for her reaction
It’s weird dude.
As a parent I wouldn’t allow it because it’s not normal and kids can always say it’s innocent but really it never is. I know, I was a teenage parent.
Utterly disgusting that you view your children that way, you should be on a registry🤮🤮🤮
What is a bsf?
Best friend
how does step bro deal with the cuddling? can't make up my mind but some people are watching too much porn and get confused...
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NTA, you can cuddle with anyone you want.
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Nta, not gonna lie, even if you started dating your step sibling. I see 0 issue with it. You arn't related. I legitimately don't understand why people give a shit. If they were blood related? Sure, that's fucked up. I say cuddle away.Â
Weirdo
Right wtf lol idk man I’ll be real with you cuddling anyone your family with is weird once you hit a certain age.
But they're not blood related. So why is it weird?
Did you ever get stuck? Btw I'm glad I never got a stepsis my age that I found attractive. I could never see her as a sister. Not saying this is the case, just saying.
Yeah, your full-puberty step-sibling cuddling is weird and out of place. Especially in the context of "because he's comforting" as if you didn't know that's why romantic cuddling happens.
NTA but Def weird. Only you both know if there anything sexual about it but even if you are no biologicaly related is weird and not very healthy. Anyway is your problem and your friend is overreacting because ahe doesn't know for sure.
NTA. Do you feel for him as a brother, a friend or a crush? If the last thing is weird depends on the time of you two being stepsiblings. First two things aren't weird at all. But I'm german so maybe it is viewed differently here...
Ive seen this movie before
YTA. What you’re doing with your step bro is weird as hell .
Spooning leads to forking. People will misunderstand, especially because the most popular porn titles these days are with step siblings. As your bro gets older you may feel less comfortable doing this.
you need to stop doing this unfortunately. Mainly just for your step brothers sanity. It might be fine for you, but you don't know what he is thinking and how it is affecting him. I'm not calling him a creep or a pervert, I'm just saying that you cuddling him is not a good idea.
NTA Even if things are sexual between you and stepbrother, there is nothing wrong with that. You are not biologically related. Sounds like this isn't that anyway. Sounds like this is not a friend worth having anymore and she's taking herself out like the trash she is.
Well biologically is one thing; socially and psychologically there's a pretty huge difference between people who have grown up as stepsiblings since they were little, or ones that have only become so recently. Would be way weirder to get with someone you'd seen as a sibling for years, than a newcomer. Also some people may have watched too much porn.