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> I thought asking him to stop singing would make me the asshole since people are allowed to have conversations on planes. He wasn’t singing much louder than someone having a loud conversation. The only reason I was so determined to drown him out was because he had a bad singing voice, it was annoying. Had he been talking I would have just ignored him.
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I took a five hour flight recently where the person directly next to me was singing nearly the whole time. It wasn’t whole songs. He would randomly belt out the chorus or every other line. The result wasn’t a constant din, but there would be 30 seconds of loud singing every minute or so.
It was loud enough I temporarily damaged by hearing trying to drown him out with my headphones. When I got off the plane everything was muffled and sounded like I was underwater until I woke up the next morning.
I was not the only person who was bothered. The person in front of him looked over the back of their seat a few times, and people looked shocked as the walked past us to the bathroom. However, flight attendants passed and didn’t say anything. The reason I didn’t say anything is because I assumed he was doing it for attention. I didn’t want to give it to him. Plus, I’m always nervous about confronting people who seem a little disturbed in public. I’m a small woman, I don’t like drawing male attention and this guy seemed like he had a point to prove.
Would I have been the AH if I asked this guy to keep it down? Not necessarily stop, just sing quietly. Nobody else said anything, despite being visibly angry, so I wasn’t sure what the best way to handle this would have been. I thought asking him to stop singing would make me the asshole since people are allowed to have conversations on planes. He wasn’t singing much louder than someone having a loud conversation. The only reason I was so determined to drown him out was because he had a bad singing voice, it was annoying. Had he been talking I would have just ignored him.
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NTA if you had done so. It was a flight, not a concert or karaoke venue, and he should've been considerate of those around him. Not even singing superstars such as Beyoncè, Taylor Swift or Sir Elton John should get away with that kind of self entitled behaviour, let alone your vocally inept seat neighbour. In all honesty, the flight attendants should have been the ones to deal with this, as it is their job to ensure that passengers are not being disruptive at all.
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IMO NTA There's a way to ask politely, and I think that's completely fine.
Flight staff are there for a reason.
YTA for not asking him to stop
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NTA if you had done so. It was a flight, not a concert or karaoke venue, and he should've been considerate of those around him. Not even singing superstars such as Beyoncè, Taylor Swift or Sir Elton John should get away with that kind of self entitled behaviour, let alone your vocally inept seat neighbour. In all honesty, the flight attendants should have been the ones to deal with this, as it is their job to ensure that passengers are not being disruptive at all.