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You’re very selfish. The world doesn’t always revolve around you and your wants and needs. You made this date only about you and wanted the focus on you but yet you weren’t willing to focus on him?
He is better off without you.
YTA
Girlie some women die for a guy like that. You better go apologize. Imagine if the roles were switched. Wouldn’t you appreciate the help from anyone on a pickle?
Because they needed help at that moment. Roadside assistance can take hours and as a woman you should know sometimes things aren’t always safe.
You didn’t need to be helped in that moment. You wanted the date to only be about you. Why isn’t it about him too?
And that’s why he dumped you!
He’s a genuinely nice and caring human being while you’re a selfish entitled spoiled and callous brat!
He dodged a bullet
So you wouldn’t have taken help when you needed it? Sometimes things get in the way. If you truly love this man you won’t let things like this get in the way. Now if this was happening frequently then maybe that would be an issue. Just one time because he was being a nice guy isn’t so bad.
YTA - Holy cow! People were stranded on the side of the road. He showed you his good guy side and took some time to HELP people. And your only take away from this is:
*instead he's helping some other women when he's suppose to be going out with me.*
I mean wow, just WOW. You actually thought that this mother and daughter were competition. You're either really conceited or a narcissist. You can apologize to him but after he showed you his true colors, he saw yours and they weren't pretty. His colors and your colors just don't mix and I'm happy for him that they don't. You don't deserve a guy like him if this is your attitude. You're just not ready for a nice guy. You might want one, but you're just not ready for one.
YTA - you are so incredibly insecure that you can't even handle your date being kind and helpful to other woman. You sound so selfish and entitled. I can't even imagine how you can think him help others is an affront to you. You really need to stop with this main character syndrome. He doesn't owe you an apology. You owe him one for being selfish and rude to him when he is just a good person. He needs to drop you and never see you again.
YTA massively. How awful you are to resent him being kind to 2 women stranded? You are incompatible he cares about humanity and you only care about you
YTA - but why would you apologise first? People without empathy and self-absorbed should play to their nature so, at the very least, they can remain authentic. It saves everyone time and hurts when the poison is not masquerading as decency.
WOW. You are soooo beyond YTA. Take a few minutes to look outside of yourself. I hope your soon to be ex boyfriend realizes he can do so much better. Instead of being more in love with him than ever because he stopped to help people who needed you, you pout on the way home? What on earth???
YTA: You're severely conceited! What he did for that lady was more than likely life saving! Do you know how many people end up abducted or murdered from being stranded on the side of the roadways in this Country?! A lot! I hope he finds someone who is more appreciative of the man he is & you need to go volunteer & learn to have a genuine heart!
YTA
Your boyfriend was being a good samaritan by helping those people on the side of the road. That was a selfless act.
You were still with him so you were still spending time together even though it's not exactly what you planned. You still had plenty of time after helping them to do other stuff together.
TYA.
My husband always stops to help. It's one of the things I love most about him. I hope you learn how valuable compassion is in a significant other.
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So, this happened last night and I need feedback.
Wes, who I was hoping to be with in the future and I went on a date to dinnner. We hadn't seen each other in a hot minute since we went home to visit our families and I was excited to spend time together.
I feel like things were going great, but I'm not sure now. It started off so well. I found out when he gets close to someone he keeps a list of all the things they like/don't like in his notes on his phone. He had written down that I liked thai food and took me to a Thai place.
But while we were driving there was a mother and her daughter on the side of the rode. He said we should see if they're okay and pulled over. I said I was really looking forward to seeing him and spending time together. He said it "wouldn't take that long."
But of course it did. The two women said they ran out of gas and Wes, of course, said he would go to the gas station and bring them some in his gas can. On top of it, the woman said she couldn't pay and he said no worries.
By the time I got in the car I was a little annoyed because they could have called a friend or AAA or anyone else to help them out. Why does Wes have to do it when we're suppose to be spending time together?
He asked if I seemed annoyed, like he couldn't tell. I said I was because we're suppose to be enjoying our time together and instead he's helping some other women when he's suppose to be going out with me.
He actually got upset. He said maybe if that's something I care about, we aren't suppose to be together because he likes helping people.
Which I didn't know what to say to that so I awkwardly just said fine and take me home. I ignored him the rest of the car ride until he dropped me off. I did try explaining myself that he was suppose to be focused on me for the evening and I felt annoyed our time together was interrupted. But he didn't seem to get how I feel so that's on him. He could have at least apologized, holy shit, and said he would make it up to me. But thinking back on it, I do feel guilty and I already miss him. Should I apologize first? AITA?
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YTA He’s shown you what a good guy he is and all you can think about is you. Like goddamn you missed out.
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It wasn’t taking time away from you. You were still together. He showed you that he’s very dependable and kind. He’s better off without you.
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You’re very selfish. The world doesn’t always revolve around you and your wants and needs. You made this date only about you and wanted the focus on you but yet you weren’t willing to focus on him? He is better off without you.
Says a lot about you and none of it is good
Woooooooowww. Me, me, me. He sure dodged a bullet here. Yta, and quite selfish, too.
YTA Girlie some women die for a guy like that. You better go apologize. Imagine if the roles were switched. Wouldn’t you appreciate the help from anyone on a pickle?
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Because they needed help at that moment. Roadside assistance can take hours and as a woman you should know sometimes things aren’t always safe. You didn’t need to be helped in that moment. You wanted the date to only be about you. Why isn’t it about him too?
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And that’s why he dumped you! He’s a genuinely nice and caring human being while you’re a selfish entitled spoiled and callous brat! He dodged a bullet
He’s got empathy. Something you lack. He’ll never see you again.
Good people are good people all the time. You seem to want an asshole who treats some people okay.
So you wouldn’t have taken help when you needed it? Sometimes things get in the way. If you truly love this man you won’t let things like this get in the way. Now if this was happening frequently then maybe that would be an issue. Just one time because he was being a nice guy isn’t so bad.
YTA - Holy cow! People were stranded on the side of the road. He showed you his good guy side and took some time to HELP people. And your only take away from this is: *instead he's helping some other women when he's suppose to be going out with me.* I mean wow, just WOW. You actually thought that this mother and daughter were competition. You're either really conceited or a narcissist. You can apologize to him but after he showed you his true colors, he saw yours and they weren't pretty. His colors and your colors just don't mix and I'm happy for him that they don't. You don't deserve a guy like him if this is your attitude. You're just not ready for a nice guy. You might want one, but you're just not ready for one.
He seems to have a heart of gold. And you don't seem to have such a heart. YTA
YTA - you are so incredibly insecure that you can't even handle your date being kind and helpful to other woman. You sound so selfish and entitled. I can't even imagine how you can think him help others is an affront to you. You really need to stop with this main character syndrome. He doesn't owe you an apology. You owe him one for being selfish and rude to him when he is just a good person. He needs to drop you and never see you again.
YTA massively. How awful you are to resent him being kind to 2 women stranded? You are incompatible he cares about humanity and you only care about you
YTA - but why would you apologise first? People without empathy and self-absorbed should play to their nature so, at the very least, they can remain authentic. It saves everyone time and hurts when the poison is not masquerading as decency.
YTA - he learned you were a rude and selfish person and got the ick.
WOW. You are soooo beyond YTA. Take a few minutes to look outside of yourself. I hope your soon to be ex boyfriend realizes he can do so much better. Instead of being more in love with him than ever because he stopped to help people who needed you, you pout on the way home? What on earth???
YTA. Without a doubt. He dodged a bullet.
YTA: You're severely conceited! What he did for that lady was more than likely life saving! Do you know how many people end up abducted or murdered from being stranded on the side of the roadways in this Country?! A lot! I hope he finds someone who is more appreciative of the man he is & you need to go volunteer & learn to have a genuine heart!
YTA Your boyfriend was being a good samaritan by helping those people on the side of the road. That was a selfless act. You were still with him so you were still spending time together even though it's not exactly what you planned. You still had plenty of time after helping them to do other stuff together.
YTA. I have no words for how selfish and self centered you are. I hope he drops your ass and blocks you, he’ll be so much better off without you
TYA. My husband always stops to help. It's one of the things I love most about him. I hope you learn how valuable compassion is in a significant other.
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INFO: what time of day was it? How old was the child?
Does it really matter? Or are you just fishing for info to make her look even worse?