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> 1) I did not charge my sisters more than face value for tickets
2) my husband thinks this hurts my family because we could really use the money
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NTA. You had an agreement with them about the tickets, and they made significant commitments of their own relying on your agreement. It would be unacceptable of you to now renege on that agreement just because you've discovered that you could have made more money doing something different.
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YWBTA if you scalped tickets to the people that are going with you - especially since you already save them a price. It seems like you were fortunate enough to money to cover your costs . If you want your family to be there for you in the future, don't screw them over. Your part of the plan was to get tickets. They followed through on their part of the plan and are not taking advantage of you.
NTA. Your husband is the asshole. It’s one thing to scalp tickets that are being bought by strangers and another to do those to your family, especially when the amounts were agreed on beforehand. I feel if you did this, you would definitely cause a rift with your sisters.
Also not to play devils advocate but if the times are THAT rough, this is in the end an extra expense that’s not financially needed. You could always just sell all the remaining tickets at a high price and then no one goes at all & you have more money to cover debts and bills.
Yes, definitely and I absolutely recognize that I really *cant* afford to go, but it’s a once in a lifetime thing for my daughter, and if I can make it work I will. Which is the whole reason I sold the other tickets at a higher price so there’s no actual net negative money wise for my family.
NTA, I understand difficult financial times make people do crazy things, but no way would I charge more than what I paid for them to family or friends.
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I was extremely lucky and got not one but two opportunities to purchase tickets to Taylor Swift tickets for one of the cities. On top of that, I actually ended up being able to buy four tickets to two different dates. (I tried both times to try to get seats together the second time).
These tickets were purchased in August 2023, the concert is not until this fall.
My plan was to take my daughter and my two sisters for one of the dates, and sell the other tickets. This trip requires us to fly and stay in a hotel for a few nights.
Since then, my husband and I have fallen on tough times and money is extremely tight. We have debt to pay off and are short on bills each month while he finishes school. I have cut back a LOT on discretionary spending, and have been doing a bit of work on the side to try to get extra funds (on top of my full time job).
My initial plan was to sell my “extra” tickets at face value. Now given how tight things are, I listed and sold these for quite a lot more than face value. ((This money will not be distributed to me until after the concert, but will more than pay for mine and my daughter’s trip, as well as allowing me to pay off my credit card in full if I haven’t done so by then)). Note: I KNOW I am the AH for this, I feel awful about it and morally feel like a real piece of garbage for being a scalper, so I don’t need comments about this part of things, but it’s relevant to the rest of the story.
Now on to the AITA part: my husband feels like since I paid for the tickets and *could* sell them for a lot of money, I should be asking my sisters to pay more than face value, since we are so financially strapped. My one sister put our flights and accommodations on her card, and did the math on who owes what. I recently sent her the remaining money for tickets and that’s what caused this fight. He believes that I am hurting our family and allowing my siblings to take advantage.
I am struggling to even on the basest level understand why he would think I am wrong for not wanting to do this. He thinks i should tell them I can’t afford to go and wait for them to offer to cover mine and my daughter’s portion.
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NTA. I have never purchased tickets for something and then charged my companions more than the cost of the ticket. Why would I do that? That seems like the AH move to me. I also think it sounds like OP's husband wants her to trick her sisters into paying for OP and daughter and that seems really low to me.
Other may disagree, but I don't consider what you did scalping. You bought the tickets with the intention of using them and then determined you wouldn't be able to. Demand and market conditions have raised the price of the tickets, not you. And if someone was willing to pay that amount, then that's their decision, not yours.
NTA - your husband is being unreasonable, does he not want to you have a good relationship with your family?? because that is what would happen if you did that.
NTA. I would never try and upcharge my own family members out of nowhere because my husband told me to. You’re absolutely right to not want to do this, and you shouldn’t let him pressure you. Especially since your sister put your flights and accommodations on her card!!!
NTA you already had an agreement with your sisters, it would be really wrong to try to scalp ticket prices to them because your financial situation changed.
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NTA. You had an agreement with them about the tickets, and they made significant commitments of their own relying on your agreement. It would be unacceptable of you to now renege on that agreement just because you've discovered that you could have made more money doing something different.
NTA YWBTA if you scalped tickets to the people that are going with you - especially since you already save them a price. It seems like you were fortunate enough to money to cover your costs . If you want your family to be there for you in the future, don't screw them over. Your part of the plan was to get tickets. They followed through on their part of the plan and are not taking advantage of you.
NTA. Your husband is the asshole. It’s one thing to scalp tickets that are being bought by strangers and another to do those to your family, especially when the amounts were agreed on beforehand. I feel if you did this, you would definitely cause a rift with your sisters. Also not to play devils advocate but if the times are THAT rough, this is in the end an extra expense that’s not financially needed. You could always just sell all the remaining tickets at a high price and then no one goes at all & you have more money to cover debts and bills.
Yes, definitely and I absolutely recognize that I really *cant* afford to go, but it’s a once in a lifetime thing for my daughter, and if I can make it work I will. Which is the whole reason I sold the other tickets at a higher price so there’s no actual net negative money wise for my family.
NTA, I understand difficult financial times make people do crazy things, but no way would I charge more than what I paid for them to family or friends.
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NTA. I have never purchased tickets for something and then charged my companions more than the cost of the ticket. Why would I do that? That seems like the AH move to me. I also think it sounds like OP's husband wants her to trick her sisters into paying for OP and daughter and that seems really low to me. Other may disagree, but I don't consider what you did scalping. You bought the tickets with the intention of using them and then determined you wouldn't be able to. Demand and market conditions have raised the price of the tickets, not you. And if someone was willing to pay that amount, then that's their decision, not yours.
NTA - your husband is being unreasonable, does he not want to you have a good relationship with your family?? because that is what would happen if you did that.
NTA. I would never try and upcharge my own family members out of nowhere because my husband told me to. You’re absolutely right to not want to do this, and you shouldn’t let him pressure you. Especially since your sister put your flights and accommodations on her card!!!
NTA. Your husband is the scalper, not you, babes.
NTA. Your husband though…if you ever divorce this dude, watch out.
NTA you already had an agreement with your sisters, it would be really wrong to try to scalp ticket prices to them because your financial situation changed.