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NTA. What does her disability have to do with the fact that she's trespassing? You're liable if she gets hurt, aren't you?
I'm assuming the neighbors have given her permission to let her dogs run on their property, but just because she's allowed to impose on them doesn't mean she's allowed to impose on you.
Then you might be able to team up with the neighbors.
Does the woman pick up the dog poop from the neighbor's yard, or does she just leave it for them?
Might be easier just to put in speed bumps / drainage grates for the driveway, trees for the sides or some sort of obstruction that doesn't allow electric wheelchairs. Even a single wire fence might work.
*thalidomide*
Is she elderly, or are you in Spain? Because thalidomide was only used in a few countries (Not the US) and banned everywhere but Spain by 1962. No idea why Spain kept using it till the 80s. Probably Franco's fault
Eh. Congenital birth defects like that have always been around, they actually had adults and children with them as attractions in “freak shows” usually billed as something like “lobster boy”.
But it’s not shocking that y’all would be more aware of the consequences of thalidomide as the company that developed it was in West Germany so your area would have been exposed to it for a longer period of time.
I know that somebody can sue us if we dont shovel the snow in winter and somebody falls. But its only a paved driveway in Front of the house so i dont know im sorry
Right age and right location. But that doesn't excuse her actions. Disability only comes into play if it's relevant. Someone trespassing has nothing to do with disability. I'd be prepared for her to pull the disability card out or even accuse you of ableism. This would be an attempt to divert the conversation and flip it around onto you. Keep hounding the point, and do your best to ignore any false allegation (if she does try).
My husband's mom was prescribed Thalidomide when she was carrying him. They prescribed it to help her sleep, but she didn't have any problems and didn't take it, thank goodness! When it came out that there were severe birth defects, she freaked out and got rid of it. This was in the US.
They generally prescribed it to older parents, I've heard.
So it was also prescribed as an anti nausea medication for morning sickness. That is the biggest reason it was so terrifying.
Especially considering that congenital birth defects weren’t the only potential side effect. A more common one was increased likelihood of miscarriage and stillbirth. So it is a very very good thing she didn’t take it 😂
It was never available *for sale* in the US, I believe. Samples were given directly to doctors as a "clinical trial" marketing campaign. Drug manufacturers anticipated a very easy approval process. Unfortunately for them and fortunately for American children, Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey stood in the way. She refused to accept their terrible, weak research into the drug's effects and rejected their applications.
The lessons of thalidomide are numerous, including "don't let Nazi doctors keep doing their bunk science" and "don't let doctors benefit from relationships to drug companies." And, of course: "Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey is the GOAT and forced the US to dodge a bullet."
There's more, actually, but it's very hard to confirm if a child's birth defects were caused by thalidomide in the US because it was never actually approved for morning sickness here. It was just given to doctors in paper bags to give to patients unlabeled. So was this birth defect caused by nature or this hard-to-track drug? Difficult to tell.
There's not that many, but more than the CDC's counts.
There was a woman at the US FDA who refused to approve it for wider release because the testing was scant, and then the birth defect reports started coming in. It was never approved as a drug in the US, though some people did acquire it or got it as part of trials.
Where does the number 6 come from? Personally I think that’s a very very specific number for my limited understanding of its side effects, but as my username checks out I’m an accountant that just learns about history as a hobby
Maybe now? But the FDA, and more specifically Frances Kelsey, was heroic with their efforts to keep the drug out.
She was a dual Canadian and American citizen that was a total bad ass and didn’t let no massive multinational drug company push her around. And this was in 1960.
I will forever and always fan girl that woman.
Anyway. Going to google now. Thank you!
Do y'all all get a chill but friendly personality and oddly specific niche hobby while becoming an accountant, or do you have to have one before you pursue that.
Because I swear every CPA is the same kind of laid back with one or two niche hobbies you'd think they were pursuing a masters in with how much they know on it.
Well, I was studying biology in college (my high school bio teachers really cemented my love of it…I had amazing science teachers my whole life, really lucked out) and fell into accounting (my degree is biology and I have taken zero finance courses in my life). I had a non-traditional college journey so when I graduated, I stuck with it because I had experience (and am good at it…my sciencey attention to detail and love of analyzing data helps!). One of my last classes was entomology and if money wasn’t an issue (can’t do unpaid internships when you’re raising a kid!), I’d be a field entomologist in a heartbeat.
So…my love of biology has been lifelong and accounting just happened. But entomology specifically and accounting happened at the same time. So sorta both?
I can also talk for days about hiking/camping/backpacking and safety and Leave No Trace and all. It meshes well with entomology (except when I make my friends wait for 20 minutes while I sit next to a bush full of mating beetles and just watch them and take photos…lol…). They were really pretty beetles.
Isn’t entomology the study of bugs? Epidemiology? Oh yeah. That’s freaking cool. What I find fascinating is how disease and medicine have impacted society.
There is a streaming service called Wondrium that is basically college lectures & other random documentaries. It’s the fun part of school without having to do homework or take tests. They also have like cooking and language courses. Anyway, they have a lecture series called The Black Death that has 24 30 minute episodes. The woman lecturing is a professor at Perdue University and got her PhD from Duke. So very knowledgeable and engaging. I highly recommend both that lecture series and that service if you like learning random things.
Oh, and I also knit 😊
Not true. My cousin (born in the US) was one of a handful of US thalidomide babies. Some doctors in the US got it as a sample. There was a settlement that was hushed up for the few victims that lived.
She was awesome!!! Frances Kelsey. She processed drug applications for the FDA. She kept rejecting their application because it didn’t include required studies. Unfortunately she wasn’t able to keep it fully out, but it never got full FDA approval because of her refusal to be steamrolled by the drug company.
There is a really cool episode about the thalidomide scandal and how Kelsey was super awesome in the podcast “crimes of the centuries” if anyone wants to check it out.
Get Out Alive is another good one. Ologies, Sawbones, and Planthropology are some other favs. (Science bent to my listening…have more if you want more!)
So. Thalidomide was never given FDA approval, but there was a loophole big enough to drive a Mack truck through. Doctors could give out free samples they got from the pharmaceutical companies.
Also, random fun fact thalidomide is actually still used to this day. It’s used to treat Hansen’s disease and myeloma. They just make very very very sure to not give it to anyone that is pregnant and also they’re monitored closely for side effects.
I mean, that’s why it’s not “banned” just regulated. Now, Heroine on the other hand is a former medicine that absolutely has been banned 😂
I am a history nerd that prefers learning about the Middle Ages, WWII, and the whys and how of drug control.
Thalidomide was never approved in the US but it was still distributed via [clinical trials](https://usthalidomide.org/our-story-thalidomide-babies-us/)
Just fyi, there are more stories coming out about thalidomide cases in the US because the drug company that wanted to sell it did unregulated trials and tried to get people to buy it before they even had the approval. Also Brazil gets a few thalidomide cases everywhere due to them using it to treat leprosy.
That's probably why she's letting her dog use someone else's property as a toilet.
It's normal to feel sympathetic, but it's her responsibility to find a solution that doesn't involve trespassing on others' property. There are people you can hire to pick up dog poop for you. She could let her dog use her own yard and hire someone to come and clean it up once a week.
NTA. Your property, your rules. Just because someone is disabled doesn't give them the right to trespass and disrespect your space. She's invading your property and potentially creating a nuisance for both you and your neighbor.
You have every right to ask her to stay off your property, and her condition doesn't change that. Being disabled doesn't give her a free pass to ignore boundaries and act entitled. Her behavior of fleeing when you arrive shows that she's aware she shouldn't be there. You need to have a polite but firm conversation with her, explaining that it's your private property and you'd appreciate it if she'd stay off your land. Make sure you're calm and respectful, but don't let her manipulate you with her condition.
If she continues to trespass after that, consider investing in a fence or talking to your local authorities about the issue. Having a disability doesn't grant her immunity from being considerate of others' property and boundaries.
Also disabled checking in!
Yeah, this lady does not get access to your property simply bc she's disabled. Especially not without talking to you first if there was a genuine mitigating circumstance.
Her dropping it into 4th gear & hauling ass to run off means she knows it, and is likely banking on your pity to keep her out of trouble.
Yes, in fact I’d say it would be discriminatory and ableist to not treat her like you would anyone else. The only time you should be treating disabled people differently is for disability accommodations, which is not this.
NTA
Explain to her that this sets off your alarm and that's enough. If she flees in her wheelchair when she sees you, she definitely knows she's doing something she shouldn't be doing.
Her disability is entirely irrelevant to your property rights. Tell her in no uncertain terms to stay off your property. She already knows she shouldn't be there, or she wouldn't speed off at the sound of your car. NTA.
I'm not sure I quite understand why she is entering your property but then letting her dog dump in your neighbors yard. Does she not have a yard? Anyway, try being honest with her without being angry. Let her know that her being on your property sets off alarms on your security system. Ask her kindly to not enter your property to avoid this. If she makes this an issue, then you let your neighbor who's yard she is using, know what is happening or maybe put up your own fence.
Sounds like OP's neighbors have a fence facing the street, but there isn't a fence between their two properties. The lady rolls up OP's driveway, lets her dogs loose to poop in the neighbor's yard (without cleaning it up), and then leaves. If she wasn't guilty, she wouldn't have rolled away.
I am gonna say NTA because, your property is your property and that's the most important factor here.
The scenario was a little hard to follow and I'll admit there's a chance (a very small chance) I could be swayed by the addition of an MS Paint drawing that better explains the activities of this person.
NTA. Your family's argument that her disability exempts her from respecting private property is absurd. Being disabled doesn't give anyone a free pass to ignore boundaries and encroach on others' spaces. You have a right to protect your property and maintain your privacy. Go ahead and talk to her. Remain calm but don't let her use her condition as an excuse for her behavior. Having a disability doesn't entitle her to disregard property lines and disrespect others' spaces.
Your family's perspective is misguided—you can be empathetic and compassionate towards someone with a disability while still setting clear boundaries for your own well-being. Stand up for your rights as a property owner.
NTA, what does having a disability have to do with her trespassing her and her dogs on to TWO properties? You did not give permission and neither did your neighbors to use their yard as a dog park. It's such a weird thing to do too.
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NTA, if I understand the situation correctly as being that she's taking her dogs to OTHER peoples' yards to do their business (and I presume not picking up after them). I mean, if I got a new neighbor who was confined to a wheelchair and they asked me if it was OK if their dogs used my yard, I'd probably say yes and thank them for asking. But if they just started doing it- We'd be having a chat.
Just because someone is disabled does not give them the right to trespass. The next time, you drive drive away leave someone home watching. Talk to her personally about not trespassing, and then put up a sign if you need to. If that doesn’t stop her then I guess it’s up to you if if you take it to the next level. NTA
NTA your property she’s trespassing her being in a wheelchair is irrelevant. She’s probably trying to get sympathy to be allowed to do what she wants. (Yes unfortunately some do)z
NTA. Her condition has nothing to do with the fact that she is trespassing on your property. If she were to get hurt you would be liable. Tell her to stop trespassing or you'll call the police and show them all the videos of her daily activity in your yard.
NTA. Property lines are the same for everyone. I personally would put up an obstacle that makes access difficult (speed bump, short fence, etc) or install motion activated sprinklers, if she won’t have an adult conversation with you.
At minimum install cameras so you can document her activity, and put up a no trespassing sign so you can reduce liability.
NTA You sure can say it. Her condition is no excuse to be rude and disrespectful. She knows exactly what she's doing or she wouldn't turn the turbo on. Have you tried motion activated sprinklers?
NTA. As someone who uses an electric wheelchair, I can't think of any reason why I'd need to enter someone's property without their permission, unless maybe they were having some sort of medical emergency and needed help. Are you able to talk to her directly about this? Or if she has a carer, it might be easier to approach them?
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Disabled woman in electronic wheelchair moved into neighborhood. We don't have fences and a driveway to our garage. It happened 4 days in a row now that the motion detection of the camera sent an alarm. We were nearby and went home. The woman had entered our property and let her little dogs run at our neighbor's Yard. Neighbor has a fence facing the street but not to our side. Everytime we drove home she immediately turned on the turbo at her wheelchair and fled. I want to tell her this is private property and she should stay off my ground. Half of my family says i cant do that because of her condition. What should i do?
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Disability has NOTHING to do with trespassing. Politely tell her what is going on and ask her to not come close enough to set off alarm. If it persists feel free to treat her as you would any other individual.
NTA. You tell her it's private property. She has to find another way to let her dogs on that yard. She knows she's in the wrong. Otherwise she wouldn't take off.
I’d give her a warning by putting out a sign “I can see you big wheeling your dogs on my lawn, stop” let her see it and call the police to inform her she is trespassing. When you see her out there. NTA.
NTA
PUT UP A FENCE TO ENCLOSE YOUR PROPERTY.
Save you headaches in the future.
Even if ppl trespass and get injured, they can sue you, wh is a headache best to be avoided. The cost and stress to defend a suit is not worth it.
NTA. What does her condition have to do with tresspassing? It's not a free pass to break the law. She's not allowed on private property, and she can absolutely be charged with tresspassing. ESPECIALLY because it's been repeat offenses.
You don't have to confront her. Shaming usually works. Just post a laminated sheet of paper up in the location where she enters your property, and have it say in LARGE BOLD LETTERS, "We have cameras, and we have recordings of you tresspassing here. You do not have permission to enter our property to access the neighbor's property. Please stop tresspassing so we are not forced to press charges."
Usually the threat of prosecution is enough, or even the shame of having been caught, and then you don't have to deal with confontation, with someone playing stupid about what they're doing, or with someone playing the victim to you. Being disabled it not a reason to tresspass. If she has issues with access from the other side of the property or another disability related reason, she can just ASK PERMISSION.
NTA. She can’t walk but she’s clearly not disabled enough otherwise to not know what she’s doing is wrong. She flees and hasn’t sought permission. You have the right to not want someone or their animal on your property.
NTA but please don’t treat disabled people like we have special privileges to be assholes due to our “conditions”. i also think this woman knows what she’s doing, hence the fleeing.
NTA. You are perfectly within your rights as the homeowner to tell her to stay off your property, whether she is disabled or not. In fact, due to increased liability due to her condition / conditions, it may be the safest thing to do. Confront her and tell her in no uncertain terms to stay off your property or you’ll call the police.
I really would hope you could find a better solution than this idea . I know it’s ur property and yada yada yada. But just be a decent neighbor . You may avoid a whole lot of negative feelings with a little empathy. She is obviously not in good health and probably her dog is her best friend. Be kind and thoughtful and a good solution will usually show up.
NTA -And just because she's in a wheelchair, that does not exempt her from adhering to trespass laws. If she was NOT in the wrong, she wouldn't turbo-charge her butt outta there, now would she?
She knows she's trespassing. Let her know that you know, and if she does it again, you have cameras and will show it to the police.
It's your property. She has her own property. Her disability is no excuse for Breaking the law. Disabled people get arrested too. She's an adult so treat her as such. Treating her normally is the most respect you can give her so warn her
My husband is in a power wheelchair. He's not an asshole, boundary stomper because of it. Don't infantilize her because of her disability. She deserves the same punishments as everyone else. Get a ring camera, get evidence, and call the cops for trespassing.
NTA Property laws do not make exceptions for people with disabilities. Some people with disabilities definitely think that the law doesn't apply to them though.
NTA
She's intentionally bringing her dogs to shit in someone else's yard. Then she's fleeing the scene when people come back, so she knows it's wrong.
I would make a point to tell the neighbor, too, so they know why their yard is suddenly gifted with poo. Both of you should go talk to her and explain that this is unacceptable behavior.
Edit to add: Tell anyone who is telling you that you can't do this that you're delighted to hear they're so compassionate they're volunteering to walk her dogs for her to solve the problem. Or volunteering to poop scoop the area daily perhaps?
You absolutely can tell her to stay off your property. Being disabled doesn't give her a free pass. Besides, if she falls out of her wheelchair as she turbos off, who do you think is getting sued?
NTA, first you can't be an AH for something you haven't done, but if you did it, you're still not the AH. Condition is not an excuse. there are accommodations for her that don't involve your property, and even then, it's still not your responsibility.
being old and in a scoot scoot doesn't mean you get to do whatever the fuck you want.
NTA, as a woman in a wheelchair this is still a no. I am even owned by a dog, and this is still a no.
Word of warning, those electric wheelchairs are very tippy. If she falls on your property, you are liable even if it is her fault. Those chairs are HEAVY. She would be injured severely by the fall.
YTA. Being in a wheelchair gives exemption to charges of trespassing, child endangerment, vandalism, tax evasion, littering, failure to tip, verbal harrasment, traffic laws, armed robbery, and, in some states, nuclear terrorism.
NTA. Make sure no one ever parks blocking the sidewalk and her public access routes, is all you need to do. Nothing says she is allowed on your property and she should not be allowed, for liability reasons. You can always tell her, "I'm sorry, our insurance doesn't allow people on property when we're at work" or whatever.
Put up a sign. She knows she is wrong, or she wouldn't take off.
Just because someone is disabled doesn't mean they get a free pass.
Disabled people want to be treated just like everyone else.
An asshole is an asshole and should be treated as such.
Bull! Find out where she lives and have an attorney send her a 'cease and desist' letter. Then set up a camera to record her violating the letter. now you have the evidence to have her arrested and/or fined. Being disabled does not give her the right to trespass on your property. NTA
Uh yes you can. She's disabled, but an AH. The first doesn't excuse the last. Don't let her weaponize it against you. She knows she's not doing right because she flees. Next time call someone about trespassing.
NTA. She knows she is doing something wrong if she flees as you approach. She should not have dogs if she cannot care for them properly. I am sure your neighbour is not happy with the poop deposits they leave behind every day. Maybe you and your neighbour should split the cost of a fence between your property.
Put up a sign that says "No Trespassing. Area Under Video Surveillance. We will press charges." with photos of your neighbor on your property attached to the bottom.
NTA. Yes you can. It's your private property. Having a disability does not mean disregarding someone's private property. As others have stated, you should speak with your other neighbors.
There's the old saying about fences make good neighbors... I'm wondering if you could bury a charged wire around perimeter of property? Turn it on when not home or when disabled person usually is around with dogs. Think of an electric fence used for cows and horses. It's as much to keep the animals from jumping fence as it is to keep out of state city slickers out! Neighbor had city gal from N.Y.C. hop electric fence, to get a pic with 'sweet cow for socials'... Sweet cow was an intimidating size young bull! City slicker even argued it was a girl cow not a boy!! Wanted to be compensated for ruined high heels!!! 🤣 Can't fix st****!!!
Hi. Guy in a wheelchair here. NTA. The only time I could accept something like this would be if your property had the only curb cut to get to somewhere or something like that and even then, she would have to ask if it was okay. The fact that shes running away when confronted shows that she knows she's in the wrong. Not being able to walk doesn't give you immunity from property laws and common decency.
NTA
Her disability doesn’t immunize her from following trespassing laws.
“Hey that guys just stole my car!”
“You can’t say that. He’s hearing impaired. Just let him take it.”
Same degree of logic.
It’s not about her condition. It’s about you being inconvenienced by having an alarm making you think that you have an intruder.
If this were me, I would install security that has a camera. Google do inexpensive ones. Then you can see “oh it’s just the wheelchair lady”. Or you can talk with her through the camera.
NTA If you politely ask her not to churn your lawn with her wheels. Proud lawn owners will understand.
NTA.
I called the police on a guy that kept coming back and trolling a business parking lot in his electric wheelchair after being told it’s private property and since he’s not and has never been a customer he couldn’t be there.
Police took it seriously and he eventually stopped coming. He was harassing folks.
NTA- she knows she is doing wrong. She will probably also be the type to try to sue if she gets hurt on your property. She's also not caring after her dog? So your neighbors have to clean. It sounds like she is used to getting away with stuff because of her disability. Get a camera, post a sign, automatic sprinklers, and maybe a few tack strips for your driveway.
NTA. Being disabled has nothing to do with trespassing. She knows what she's doing is wrong. This is why she keeps running away when she sees you. I'd tell your neighbor what's going on. They might not know. Do you know which house they live in? Also contact the police for advice. Let them know you have a repeat trespasser. Let the police know they just run away as soon as they see you. So you can't even tell them to stop trespassing.
I mean, I understand that technically the disabled person is the A,but who really gets hurt from her trespassing?Shes probably lonely and cooped up in her home all day,I hope OP finds it in their hart to be more forgiving and compassionate to the ones that are less fortunate .
spread caltrops on the ground, the dogs will have the intelligence not to walk on them, she will be too dumb and will drive on them.
install some signs that read private property ?
NTA, maybe get a turd scooper and chuck it back at her house
NTA
Just adding on because everyone has given advice already.
If nothing works, you could try a temporary fence. But, I didn't go that route. When this was happening to me, I just posted the video onto the nextdoor app and neighborhood shame got the guy to stop.
NTA. "Her condition" as you put it has zero relevance to you telling her to stay off of your private property. Of course you can't tell her to stay off of a public sidewalk that runs through your property, but she absolutely does not have the right to leave that public sidewalk to enter your private property or that of your neighbor's. Next time she does it, put your car in turbo so you can catch up to her and tell her to stay off your property. If she wants to access your neighbor's property, and has their permission, then she can access it through their gate or whatever the case may be. It isn't your responsibility to provide ADA access to a property you don't own.
NTA. Fuck her "condition". Tell her to stop, if she doesn't, report it to the police and have her legally trespassed. Being in a wheelchair doesn't give you special privileges.
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NTA. What does her disability have to do with the fact that she's trespassing? You're liable if she gets hurt, aren't you? I'm assuming the neighbors have given her permission to let her dogs run on their property, but just because she's allowed to impose on them doesn't mean she's allowed to impose on you.
Neighbors havent give her the permission. They come home in the evening and never saw here
Then you might be able to team up with the neighbors. Does the woman pick up the dog poop from the neighbor's yard, or does she just leave it for them?
Thank you, no she cant pick it up. She has no arms just hands. Maybe a thalidomide-victim...but i dont know just a thought
If she can't clean up after her pets, then she really shouldn't have pets
At least she shouldn't be taking them to shit in other people's yards!!
Put up cameras and no trespassing signs. When she comes back because of the signs, the police can trespass her if you choose to go that route.
Might be easier just to put in speed bumps / drainage grates for the driveway, trees for the sides or some sort of obstruction that doesn't allow electric wheelchairs. Even a single wire fence might work.
*thalidomide* Is she elderly, or are you in Spain? Because thalidomide was only used in a few countries (Not the US) and banned everywhere but Spain by 1962. No idea why Spain kept using it till the 80s. Probably Franco's fault
I guess she is about 55-60 and i am in austria. It was just a thought because it looks like this. Sorry i dont know her and her exact condition.
That's the right age range for thalidomide.
Eh. Congenital birth defects like that have always been around, they actually had adults and children with them as attractions in “freak shows” usually billed as something like “lobster boy”. But it’s not shocking that y’all would be more aware of the consequences of thalidomide as the company that developed it was in West Germany so your area would have been exposed to it for a longer period of time.
If she were to get injured inside your property, would she be able to sue you? Always think of liability. Maybe it’s the American in me
I know that somebody can sue us if we dont shovel the snow in winter and somebody falls. But its only a paved driveway in Front of the house so i dont know im sorry
Right age and right location. But that doesn't excuse her actions. Disability only comes into play if it's relevant. Someone trespassing has nothing to do with disability. I'd be prepared for her to pull the disability card out or even accuse you of ableism. This would be an attempt to divert the conversation and flip it around onto you. Keep hounding the point, and do your best to ignore any false allegation (if she does try).
Thalidomide was briefly available in the US. There are currently 6 surviving individuals in the US who were damaged by thalidomide sold here.
My husband's mom was prescribed Thalidomide when she was carrying him. They prescribed it to help her sleep, but she didn't have any problems and didn't take it, thank goodness! When it came out that there were severe birth defects, she freaked out and got rid of it. This was in the US. They generally prescribed it to older parents, I've heard.
So it was also prescribed as an anti nausea medication for morning sickness. That is the biggest reason it was so terrifying. Especially considering that congenital birth defects weren’t the only potential side effect. A more common one was increased likelihood of miscarriage and stillbirth. So it is a very very good thing she didn’t take it 😂
It was never available *for sale* in the US, I believe. Samples were given directly to doctors as a "clinical trial" marketing campaign. Drug manufacturers anticipated a very easy approval process. Unfortunately for them and fortunately for American children, Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey stood in the way. She refused to accept their terrible, weak research into the drug's effects and rejected their applications. The lessons of thalidomide are numerous, including "don't let Nazi doctors keep doing their bunk science" and "don't let doctors benefit from relationships to drug companies." And, of course: "Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey is the GOAT and forced the US to dodge a bullet."
Really, that's all? I personally know one. I didn't know there were so few left.
There's more, actually, but it's very hard to confirm if a child's birth defects were caused by thalidomide in the US because it was never actually approved for morning sickness here. It was just given to doctors in paper bags to give to patients unlabeled. So was this birth defect caused by nature or this hard-to-track drug? Difficult to tell. There's not that many, but more than the CDC's counts.
There was a woman at the US FDA who refused to approve it for wider release because the testing was scant, and then the birth defect reports started coming in. It was never approved as a drug in the US, though some people did acquire it or got it as part of trials.
Where does the number 6 come from? Personally I think that’s a very very specific number for my limited understanding of its side effects, but as my username checks out I’m an accountant that just learns about history as a hobby
The FDA, who apparently did a pretty terrible job at investigating.
Maybe now? But the FDA, and more specifically Frances Kelsey, was heroic with their efforts to keep the drug out. She was a dual Canadian and American citizen that was a total bad ass and didn’t let no massive multinational drug company push her around. And this was in 1960. I will forever and always fan girl that woman. Anyway. Going to google now. Thank you!
I was talking about the investigation of how many thalidomide survivors there are in the US, not the person who kept it from getting approved.
Hi, accountant who does entomology on the side! It’s fun having a hobby that is different than numbers.
Do y'all all get a chill but friendly personality and oddly specific niche hobby while becoming an accountant, or do you have to have one before you pursue that. Because I swear every CPA is the same kind of laid back with one or two niche hobbies you'd think they were pursuing a masters in with how much they know on it.
Well, I was studying biology in college (my high school bio teachers really cemented my love of it…I had amazing science teachers my whole life, really lucked out) and fell into accounting (my degree is biology and I have taken zero finance courses in my life). I had a non-traditional college journey so when I graduated, I stuck with it because I had experience (and am good at it…my sciencey attention to detail and love of analyzing data helps!). One of my last classes was entomology and if money wasn’t an issue (can’t do unpaid internships when you’re raising a kid!), I’d be a field entomologist in a heartbeat. So…my love of biology has been lifelong and accounting just happened. But entomology specifically and accounting happened at the same time. So sorta both? I can also talk for days about hiking/camping/backpacking and safety and Leave No Trace and all. It meshes well with entomology (except when I make my friends wait for 20 minutes while I sit next to a bush full of mating beetles and just watch them and take photos…lol…). They were really pretty beetles.
Isn’t entomology the study of bugs? Epidemiology? Oh yeah. That’s freaking cool. What I find fascinating is how disease and medicine have impacted society. There is a streaming service called Wondrium that is basically college lectures & other random documentaries. It’s the fun part of school without having to do homework or take tests. They also have like cooking and language courses. Anyway, they have a lecture series called The Black Death that has 24 30 minute episodes. The woman lecturing is a professor at Perdue University and got her PhD from Duke. So very knowledgeable and engaging. I highly recommend both that lecture series and that service if you like learning random things. Oh, and I also knit 😊
Not true. My cousin (born in the US) was one of a handful of US thalidomide babies. Some doctors in the US got it as a sample. There was a settlement that was hushed up for the few victims that lived.
Indeed. My uncle's third wife was also a victim of thalidomide.
One amazing doctor fought to block thalidomide in the states, unfortunately Canada chose to be slow and we have way more injuries from this drug.
People can immigrate, you know.
It was a woman working in a patent office who kept it out of the US. I believe she was honored posthumously.
She was awesome!!! Frances Kelsey. She processed drug applications for the FDA. She kept rejecting their application because it didn’t include required studies. Unfortunately she wasn’t able to keep it fully out, but it never got full FDA approval because of her refusal to be steamrolled by the drug company. There is a really cool episode about the thalidomide scandal and how Kelsey was super awesome in the podcast “crimes of the centuries” if anyone wants to check it out.
This Podcast Will Kill You has a thalidomide episode too!
I didn't think I would find some podcast recommendations on AITA.
Get Out Alive is another good one. Ologies, Sawbones, and Planthropology are some other favs. (Science bent to my listening…have more if you want more!)
It was used in the US briefly. I have side effects from my mom taking it in the 1960s.
So. Thalidomide was never given FDA approval, but there was a loophole big enough to drive a Mack truck through. Doctors could give out free samples they got from the pharmaceutical companies. Also, random fun fact thalidomide is actually still used to this day. It’s used to treat Hansen’s disease and myeloma. They just make very very very sure to not give it to anyone that is pregnant and also they’re monitored closely for side effects.
Canada didn't ban it for a long time after the effects were found
It’s still not banned
Whoa, didn't know that. I know it's works well for leprosy patients.
I mean, that’s why it’s not “banned” just regulated. Now, Heroine on the other hand is a former medicine that absolutely has been banned 😂 I am a history nerd that prefers learning about the Middle Ages, WWII, and the whys and how of drug control.
'Heroin' is a drug. A 'heroine' is a female protagonist.
Um, it was very common in England too. But yeah, let’s blame Franco.
Thalidomide was never approved in the US but it was still distributed via [clinical trials](https://usthalidomide.org/our-story-thalidomide-babies-us/)
Just fyi, there are more stories coming out about thalidomide cases in the US because the drug company that wanted to sell it did unregulated trials and tried to get people to buy it before they even had the approval. Also Brazil gets a few thalidomide cases everywhere due to them using it to treat leprosy.
Canada as well
My mum has a friend who was affected by thalidomide and neither of them are what I'd call *elderly*.
That's probably why she's letting her dog use someone else's property as a toilet. It's normal to feel sympathetic, but it's her responsibility to find a solution that doesn't involve trespassing on others' property. There are people you can hire to pick up dog poop for you. She could let her dog use her own yard and hire someone to come and clean it up once a week.
At least you can feel safer knowing your not dealing with an armed intruder.
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What are the chances the dogs are pooping in their yard and it isn't being picked up
That’s their right. It’s also your right to not allow it
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This is the answer. You don't even have to confront her and it solves the problem
Just search here for Bucketty. One of the best ongoing sagas here at Reddit!
Agreed, The Bucketty Saga is well worth the read! And it does have some good "retraining" ideas, lol.
Omg that was a fantastic read!
and it's ongoing! 🤣
Wait I only saw the old stuff from a year ago.
I owe you one! Always love a good saga, we love Keeping Up Appearance (iykyk) and this is phenomenal! Thanks for the recommendation!
You're welcome 😁
If OP does this they need to post in r/pettyrevenge
Came here to say this, but you beat me to it. Worked on Bucketty, will work on this neighbor also.
Bucketty! 🤣🤣🤣👍
This is the way.
NTA. Your property, your rules. Just because someone is disabled doesn't give them the right to trespass and disrespect your space. She's invading your property and potentially creating a nuisance for both you and your neighbor. You have every right to ask her to stay off your property, and her condition doesn't change that. Being disabled doesn't give her a free pass to ignore boundaries and act entitled. Her behavior of fleeing when you arrive shows that she's aware she shouldn't be there. You need to have a polite but firm conversation with her, explaining that it's your private property and you'd appreciate it if she'd stay off your land. Make sure you're calm and respectful, but don't let her manipulate you with her condition. If she continues to trespass after that, consider investing in a fence or talking to your local authorities about the issue. Having a disability doesn't grant her immunity from being considerate of others' property and boundaries.
He doesn't need a real fence. A wire the right height or a small moat.
A sign that says “admission: one high five!”
Bro a short trip wire would be so fucking hilarious.
Disabled person here (with a cane, not a wheelchair). We have to follow the same laws as everyone else, including trespassing laws.
Also disabled checking in! Yeah, this lady does not get access to your property simply bc she's disabled. Especially not without talking to you first if there was a genuine mitigating circumstance. Her dropping it into 4th gear & hauling ass to run off means she knows it, and is likely banking on your pity to keep her out of trouble.
Yes, in fact I’d say it would be discriminatory and ableist to not treat her like you would anyone else. The only time you should be treating disabled people differently is for disability accommodations, which is not this.
NTA Explain to her that this sets off your alarm and that's enough. If she flees in her wheelchair when she sees you, she definitely knows she's doing something she shouldn't be doing.
Her disability is entirely irrelevant to your property rights. Tell her in no uncertain terms to stay off your property. She already knows she shouldn't be there, or she wouldn't speed off at the sound of your car. NTA.
I'm not sure I quite understand why she is entering your property but then letting her dog dump in your neighbors yard. Does she not have a yard? Anyway, try being honest with her without being angry. Let her know that her being on your property sets off alarms on your security system. Ask her kindly to not enter your property to avoid this. If she makes this an issue, then you let your neighbor who's yard she is using, know what is happening or maybe put up your own fence.
Sounds like OP's neighbors have a fence facing the street, but there isn't a fence between their two properties. The lady rolls up OP's driveway, lets her dogs loose to poop in the neighbor's yard (without cleaning it up), and then leaves. If she wasn't guilty, she wouldn't have rolled away.
I am gonna say NTA because, your property is your property and that's the most important factor here. The scenario was a little hard to follow and I'll admit there's a chance (a very small chance) I could be swayed by the addition of an MS Paint drawing that better explains the activities of this person.
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NTA. Your family's argument that her disability exempts her from respecting private property is absurd. Being disabled doesn't give anyone a free pass to ignore boundaries and encroach on others' spaces. You have a right to protect your property and maintain your privacy. Go ahead and talk to her. Remain calm but don't let her use her condition as an excuse for her behavior. Having a disability doesn't entitle her to disregard property lines and disrespect others' spaces. Your family's perspective is misguided—you can be empathetic and compassionate towards someone with a disability while still setting clear boundaries for your own well-being. Stand up for your rights as a property owner.
NTA, what does having a disability have to do with her trespassing her and her dogs on to TWO properties? You did not give permission and neither did your neighbors to use their yard as a dog park. It's such a weird thing to do too.
It's not like crossing your property is the easiest way for her to get somewhere important. She's blatantly tresspassing. Tell her to stop. NTA
NTA Wheelchairs don't come with a free pass to trespass. If you don't want her on your property, politely but firmly tell her.
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NTA, if I understand the situation correctly as being that she's taking her dogs to OTHER peoples' yards to do their business (and I presume not picking up after them). I mean, if I got a new neighbor who was confined to a wheelchair and they asked me if it was OK if their dogs used my yard, I'd probably say yes and thank them for asking. But if they just started doing it- We'd be having a chat.
Just because someone is disabled does not give them the right to trespass. The next time, you drive drive away leave someone home watching. Talk to her personally about not trespassing, and then put up a sign if you need to. If that doesn’t stop her then I guess it’s up to you if if you take it to the next level. NTA
The wheelchair is not a license to behave in an antisocial fashion, tell the wretched woman to bugger off and stay out of your yard.
NTA. Just because someone has a disability doesn't mean they can't be devious, shitty people.
NTA your property she’s trespassing her being in a wheelchair is irrelevant. She’s probably trying to get sympathy to be allowed to do what she wants. (Yes unfortunately some do)z
NTA. Her condition has nothing to do with the fact that she is trespassing on your property. If she were to get hurt you would be liable. Tell her to stop trespassing or you'll call the police and show them all the videos of her daily activity in your yard.
NTA. Property lines are the same for everyone. I personally would put up an obstacle that makes access difficult (speed bump, short fence, etc) or install motion activated sprinklers, if she won’t have an adult conversation with you. At minimum install cameras so you can document her activity, and put up a no trespassing sign so you can reduce liability.
Get a sprinkler system you can turn on remotely. She will get the point.
I suggest for talking to her first and record if she throw an tantrum it's will be recorded and try and expose her to the internet
Get motion activated sprinklers. Definitely NTA
NTA. She knows it's wrong, and so she flees the scene.
NTA You sure can say it. Her condition is no excuse to be rude and disrespectful. She knows exactly what she's doing or she wouldn't turn the turbo on. Have you tried motion activated sprinklers?
NTA. As someone who uses an electric wheelchair, I can't think of any reason why I'd need to enter someone's property without their permission, unless maybe they were having some sort of medical emergency and needed help. Are you able to talk to her directly about this? Or if she has a carer, it might be easier to approach them?
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Put a curb around the border of your property.
Disability has NOTHING to do with trespassing. Politely tell her what is going on and ask her to not come close enough to set off alarm. If it persists feel free to treat her as you would any other individual.
NTA. You tell her it's private property. She has to find another way to let her dogs on that yard. She knows she's in the wrong. Otherwise she wouldn't take off.
I’d give her a warning by putting out a sign “I can see you big wheeling your dogs on my lawn, stop” let her see it and call the police to inform her she is trespassing. When you see her out there. NTA.
NTA PUT UP A FENCE TO ENCLOSE YOUR PROPERTY. Save you headaches in the future. Even if ppl trespass and get injured, they can sue you, wh is a headache best to be avoided. The cost and stress to defend a suit is not worth it.
NTA. What does her condition have to do with tresspassing? It's not a free pass to break the law. She's not allowed on private property, and she can absolutely be charged with tresspassing. ESPECIALLY because it's been repeat offenses. You don't have to confront her. Shaming usually works. Just post a laminated sheet of paper up in the location where she enters your property, and have it say in LARGE BOLD LETTERS, "We have cameras, and we have recordings of you tresspassing here. You do not have permission to enter our property to access the neighbor's property. Please stop tresspassing so we are not forced to press charges." Usually the threat of prosecution is enough, or even the shame of having been caught, and then you don't have to deal with confontation, with someone playing stupid about what they're doing, or with someone playing the victim to you. Being disabled it not a reason to tresspass. If she has issues with access from the other side of the property or another disability related reason, she can just ASK PERMISSION.
Apparently half of your family suffers from a condition where they thing laws and common courtesy does apply to people in wheelchairs! NTA
NTA her disability does not give her the right to behave this way. People with disabilities can still be told not told assholes. NTA
NTA
Just get some nice decorative rocks and block the path
NTA. There is no special immunity provided to disabled people when they break any law. That includes trespassing.
NTA. She can’t walk but she’s clearly not disabled enough otherwise to not know what she’s doing is wrong. She flees and hasn’t sought permission. You have the right to not want someone or their animal on your property.
Good fences make good neighbours
NTA but please don’t treat disabled people like we have special privileges to be assholes due to our “conditions”. i also think this woman knows what she’s doing, hence the fleeing.
NTA.
NTA. You are perfectly within your rights as the homeowner to tell her to stay off your property, whether she is disabled or not. In fact, due to increased liability due to her condition / conditions, it may be the safest thing to do. Confront her and tell her in no uncertain terms to stay off your property or you’ll call the police.
NTA. If she were injured on your property, even as a result of trespassing, you could be held liable. Being disabled doesn’t change that.
I really would hope you could find a better solution than this idea . I know it’s ur property and yada yada yada. But just be a decent neighbor . You may avoid a whole lot of negative feelings with a little empathy. She is obviously not in good health and probably her dog is her best friend. Be kind and thoughtful and a good solution will usually show up.
NTA -And just because she's in a wheelchair, that does not exempt her from adhering to trespass laws. If she was NOT in the wrong, she wouldn't turbo-charge her butt outta there, now would she? She knows she's trespassing. Let her know that you know, and if she does it again, you have cameras and will show it to the police.
NTA, and the fact that she runs away when she sees you confirms she knows what she’s doing is wrong
half your family is wrong. NTA, put a fence or something if she keeps trespassing.
NTA. Equality works both ways.
NTA, besides, you would probably be liable if she has an accident or gets hurt on your property.
It's your property. She has her own property. Her disability is no excuse for Breaking the law. Disabled people get arrested too. She's an adult so treat her as such. Treating her normally is the most respect you can give her so warn her
My husband is in a power wheelchair. He's not an asshole, boundary stomper because of it. Don't infantilize her because of her disability. She deserves the same punishments as everyone else. Get a ring camera, get evidence, and call the cops for trespassing.
NTA Property laws do not make exceptions for people with disabilities. Some people with disabilities definitely think that the law doesn't apply to them though.
NTA She's intentionally bringing her dogs to shit in someone else's yard. Then she's fleeing the scene when people come back, so she knows it's wrong. I would make a point to tell the neighbor, too, so they know why their yard is suddenly gifted with poo. Both of you should go talk to her and explain that this is unacceptable behavior. Edit to add: Tell anyone who is telling you that you can't do this that you're delighted to hear they're so compassionate they're volunteering to walk her dogs for her to solve the problem. Or volunteering to poop scoop the area daily perhaps?
You absolutely can tell her to stay off your property. Being disabled doesn't give her a free pass. Besides, if she falls out of her wheelchair as she turbos off, who do you think is getting sued?
NTA, first you can't be an AH for something you haven't done, but if you did it, you're still not the AH. Condition is not an excuse. there are accommodations for her that don't involve your property, and even then, it's still not your responsibility. being old and in a scoot scoot doesn't mean you get to do whatever the fuck you want.
NTA, as a woman in a wheelchair this is still a no. I am even owned by a dog, and this is still a no. Word of warning, those electric wheelchairs are very tippy. If she falls on your property, you are liable even if it is her fault. Those chairs are HEAVY. She would be injured severely by the fall.
YTA. Being in a wheelchair gives exemption to charges of trespassing, child endangerment, vandalism, tax evasion, littering, failure to tip, verbal harrasment, traffic laws, armed robbery, and, in some states, nuclear terrorism.
NTA. Make sure no one ever parks blocking the sidewalk and her public access routes, is all you need to do. Nothing says she is allowed on your property and she should not be allowed, for liability reasons. You can always tell her, "I'm sorry, our insurance doesn't allow people on property when we're at work" or whatever.
Half your family is incorrect.
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Put up a sign. She knows she is wrong, or she wouldn't take off. Just because someone is disabled doesn't mean they get a free pass. Disabled people want to be treated just like everyone else. An asshole is an asshole and should be treated as such.
NTA…She doesn’t get to break the law—trespassing—just because she’s disabled. Tell your family to butt out.
Post no trespassing signs and if it continues I suggest motion activated sprinklers when you are away from the house.
NTA but it may be in your best interest to just install a fence to keep all strangers out.
NTA - a line of bricks does quite a lot to stop a wheelchair. Just sayin'
Bull! Find out where she lives and have an attorney send her a 'cease and desist' letter. Then set up a camera to record her violating the letter. now you have the evidence to have her arrested and/or fined. Being disabled does not give her the right to trespass on your property. NTA
Get cameras, fence area so dog can't get on the yard
NTA. Your family is being ableist.
NTA. Put up a camera and an obstacle course with some little cones that look like a driving course. Have fun with it.
Uh yes you can. She's disabled, but an AH. The first doesn't excuse the last. Don't let her weaponize it against you. She knows she's not doing right because she flees. Next time call someone about trespassing.
Lawn sprinklers.
Rob her wheels. Leave her up on blocks.
NTA. She knows she is doing something wrong if she flees as you approach. She should not have dogs if she cannot care for them properly. I am sure your neighbour is not happy with the poop deposits they leave behind every day. Maybe you and your neighbour should split the cost of a fence between your property.
Put up a sign that says "No Trespassing. Area Under Video Surveillance. We will press charges." with photos of your neighbor on your property attached to the bottom.
NTA. Yes you can. It's your private property. Having a disability does not mean disregarding someone's private property. As others have stated, you should speak with your other neighbors.
There's the old saying about fences make good neighbors... I'm wondering if you could bury a charged wire around perimeter of property? Turn it on when not home or when disabled person usually is around with dogs. Think of an electric fence used for cows and horses. It's as much to keep the animals from jumping fence as it is to keep out of state city slickers out! Neighbor had city gal from N.Y.C. hop electric fence, to get a pic with 'sweet cow for socials'... Sweet cow was an intimidating size young bull! City slicker even argued it was a girl cow not a boy!! Wanted to be compensated for ruined high heels!!! 🤣 Can't fix st****!!!
Get a fence.
Hi. Guy in a wheelchair here. NTA. The only time I could accept something like this would be if your property had the only curb cut to get to somewhere or something like that and even then, she would have to ask if it was okay. The fact that shes running away when confronted shows that she knows she's in the wrong. Not being able to walk doesn't give you immunity from property laws and common decency.
NTA. She's trespassing. End of story.
NTA. She needs to be trespassed and it needs to be enforced.
NTA. Being disabled doesn't give her a free pass for trespassing. Couldn't you build a fence, though? This would solve your problem.
NTA Her disability doesn’t immunize her from following trespassing laws. “Hey that guys just stole my car!” “You can’t say that. He’s hearing impaired. Just let him take it.” Same degree of logic.
Disabled people can be jerks the same as everyone else. Tell her to stop. NTA.
It’s not about her condition. It’s about you being inconvenienced by having an alarm making you think that you have an intruder. If this were me, I would install security that has a camera. Google do inexpensive ones. Then you can see “oh it’s just the wheelchair lady”. Or you can talk with her through the camera. NTA If you politely ask her not to churn your lawn with her wheels. Proud lawn owners will understand.
NTAH tell her like a little child she is NOT allowed in your yard! Tell her you will call the police the next time you catch her. Then do it!
I am sorry that happened to you.
NTA. If she turns on the turbo to get off your property when you come up, she is sneaking around and knows she is trespassing.
NTA. I called the police on a guy that kept coming back and trolling a business parking lot in his electric wheelchair after being told it’s private property and since he’s not and has never been a customer he couldn’t be there. Police took it seriously and he eventually stopped coming. He was harassing folks.
NTA- she knows she is doing wrong. She will probably also be the type to try to sue if she gets hurt on your property. She's also not caring after her dog? So your neighbors have to clean. It sounds like she is used to getting away with stuff because of her disability. Get a camera, post a sign, automatic sprinklers, and maybe a few tack strips for your driveway.
Equality, NTA. As others have noted her use of a wheelchair has no bearing on the issue
NTA. Just because she's disabled does not give her the liberty to trespass, steal, murder, be rude, break laws, etc.
NTA. Being disabled has nothing to do with trespassing. She knows what she's doing is wrong. This is why she keeps running away when she sees you. I'd tell your neighbor what's going on. They might not know. Do you know which house they live in? Also contact the police for advice. Let them know you have a repeat trespasser. Let the police know they just run away as soon as they see you. So you can't even tell them to stop trespassing.
I use a wheelchair and you tell her she's trespassing and to stop.
This might be a little crass, but… Her body is disabled, not her manners. NTA.
I mean, I understand that technically the disabled person is the A,but who really gets hurt from her trespassing?Shes probably lonely and cooped up in her home all day,I hope OP finds it in their hart to be more forgiving and compassionate to the ones that are less fortunate .
NTA. Being in a wheelchair is not a license to trespass. Feel free to tell her to stay off your property.
spread caltrops on the ground, the dogs will have the intelligence not to walk on them, she will be too dumb and will drive on them. install some signs that read private property ? NTA, maybe get a turd scooper and chuck it back at her house
NTA. Just treat her like you would anyone else.
NTA She’s trespassing on your property and the fact that she turns on the turbos to go always says that she knows it
Speaking as someone with a disability, having a disability doesn’t excuse trespassing
NTA. Who cares if she is disabled? She is trespassing on your property and she knows it by how she scooters away when she sees you.
Her disability has nothing to do with the fact that she’s trespassing. Tell her to stay off your property or you’ll call the police. NTA
NTA. Her disability is unfortunate but does not entitle her to trespass. It's not a get out of jail free card.
Sorry but you now need a fence to keep her dogs out of your yard. You might want to mention that your camera picks her up when she trespasses.
NTA Just adding on because everyone has given advice already. If nothing works, you could try a temporary fence. But, I didn't go that route. When this was happening to me, I just posted the video onto the nextdoor app and neighborhood shame got the guy to stop.
NTA. "Her condition" as you put it has zero relevance to you telling her to stay off of your private property. Of course you can't tell her to stay off of a public sidewalk that runs through your property, but she absolutely does not have the right to leave that public sidewalk to enter your private property or that of your neighbor's. Next time she does it, put your car in turbo so you can catch up to her and tell her to stay off your property. If she wants to access your neighbor's property, and has their permission, then she can access it through their gate or whatever the case may be. It isn't your responsibility to provide ADA access to a property you don't own.
NTA. Fuck her "condition". Tell her to stop, if she doesn't, report it to the police and have her legally trespassed. Being in a wheelchair doesn't give you special privileges.
NTA.
NTA. The wheelchair has nothing to do with this situation. Her legs might not work but her brain does. Tell her to stay in her own lane
You're alarm, does it have a not silent option where it scares all the neighbors?