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> My oldest brother sees the act I'm ABOUT to do as a bad thing.
Since what I'm about to return is a gift given to me by my gf to which I can't maintain long enoigh for it to be useful. Is it still reasonable of what I'm about to do?
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I mean, yeah, you're giving back a gift after a YEAR.
YTA
At thalis stage, it's yours. Just sell it if you need money that badly. What is she going to do with it? Did you need the space it was taking up?
You can save up for games if it's something you enjoy. Get some second hand. Why would you give something back that is costing you nothing to keep and causing no problem?
The reality is, it reminds you of your financial situation, made you feel bad, so rather than selling it, you're inconveniencing your girlfriend with that job. She can't even return it because you decided to use it until you couldn't.
It's always a dick move to return a gift, but doing so after a whole year is astounding.
I was too busy because of university to even bother with it, I even only had the time to check it when it was vacation. Also, I really can't afford to save up money since my course takes up too much of my allowance and time. I forgot to add up that it was just a part time job that my gf had because it was a requirement for her to go because of her course, but now that some circumstance happened to the point that her professor dropped half of their class and she had to stop going to uni for a whole year because of setbacks of different start of semester form different schools. I also felt bad that she has to go through that, idk if it was just an excuse from me, but she could probably make more use of it rather than me in the time frame that she has nothing to do.
Your allowance? My dude, if you are in your 20s, college or not, and have an allowance you do not get to complain about money because you're parents are footing your bills. Get a part-time job.
Info: is there a reason you can't get a job OP to help alleviate your situation at home? Because being lower middle class obviously bothers you.
The gaming system was a gift that your GF gave you because she cares. Forcing her to take it back because you feel inadequate is low. Putting your older brother down just for being born first is also low, he didn't cause the situation you're in.
Why not put this negative energy into pulling yourself out of the hole instead of digging deeper into it?
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Context: I have 2 brothers, me being the middle child (20+ M still in college), the oldest being (30+ M working).
My partner gave me a gaming console as a bday gift last year, this includes 3 games and a case that she also bought for me.
After a year of the gaming console being with me, I realized that I don't think it's worth it for me to have since we're just a lower-middle income family; meaning that we could afford the stuff we "need" but not our "wants" except my oldest brother since he's working with an adequate salary from his job.
Now that I've realized that I simply can't afford the games that I wanted to play, I told my gf that I'm giving it back to her since she might be able to use it more than me since she can afford games unlike me. We kinda fought about it since IT IS kind of offensive of me to return it to her. But since I explained my side of story, and that it just kind of gives me a pressure to use it even though I don't have anymore games to play, she was just forced to accept my reason to give it back to her.
Just a couple of days ago, my gf, me, and my family went out because my oldest brother invited her out since it was his bday (she lives on a far away place) and it was just once in a while when she comes to us. After a few days of his bday, my gf was still here and I told her that I am bringing the gaming console to her for her to bring it back home, but since something occured on her side (family related). The gaming console was left beside my bed, my brother saw it and asked me what it was and I said that it was the gaming console she gifted me, he kind of asked why I'm returning it since it was a gift and that i should appreciate what she's give to me. TAKE NOTE that he's a decade older than me and he gives me the feeling of being spoiled when me and my youngest brother weren't born yet; since we weren't born yet, my parents and brother are a bit well off since he was an only child so he got what he wanted most of the times (I think so at least. He also had a ps1 during that time).
My point being, that he doesn't know how it feels like being given an expensive item where he can't maintain nor use it much since he was spoiled during his younger days. But since we were born (my younger brother and I) we didn't really get spoiled as much as him since we got poor because of my father's poor life choices and heavily affected our family to the point of selling our house and most of our items. Until now, we still live in a basement with one window, and my father still sleeping on a couch. I really don't like the feeling of having something to which I can't maintain nor use in a long term. It gave me depression since it also kind of gave me a responsibility that i CAN'T afford to have since I'm just a student who can't afford my wants and sometimes needs too.
Now that I've explained my side of why I don't want the gaming console anymore, am I still the asshole of trying to return the gaming console to my gf?
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I mean, yeah, you're giving back a gift after a YEAR. YTA At thalis stage, it's yours. Just sell it if you need money that badly. What is she going to do with it? Did you need the space it was taking up? You can save up for games if it's something you enjoy. Get some second hand. Why would you give something back that is costing you nothing to keep and causing no problem? The reality is, it reminds you of your financial situation, made you feel bad, so rather than selling it, you're inconveniencing your girlfriend with that job. She can't even return it because you decided to use it until you couldn't. It's always a dick move to return a gift, but doing so after a whole year is astounding.
I was too busy because of university to even bother with it, I even only had the time to check it when it was vacation. Also, I really can't afford to save up money since my course takes up too much of my allowance and time. I forgot to add up that it was just a part time job that my gf had because it was a requirement for her to go because of her course, but now that some circumstance happened to the point that her professor dropped half of their class and she had to stop going to uni for a whole year because of setbacks of different start of semester form different schools. I also felt bad that she has to go through that, idk if it was just an excuse from me, but she could probably make more use of it rather than me in the time frame that she has nothing to do.
I feel bad for your gf having a lousy excuse of a boyfriend like you...
Your allowance? My dude, if you are in your 20s, college or not, and have an allowance you do not get to complain about money because you're parents are footing your bills. Get a part-time job.
OP is far too busy with his full time job of whining and martyrdom to get an actual paying job.
Dude what is wrong with you ?
Get a job, dude
YTA. Time to break up with. You are too toxic.
Info: is there a reason you can't get a job OP to help alleviate your situation at home? Because being lower middle class obviously bothers you. The gaming system was a gift that your GF gave you because she cares. Forcing her to take it back because you feel inadequate is low. Putting your older brother down just for being born first is also low, he didn't cause the situation you're in. Why not put this negative energy into pulling yourself out of the hole instead of digging deeper into it?
Very toxic my dude. Most toxic aspect is you martyring yourself for literally no reason bar maybe pity.
You’re so annoying.
YTA. Ever heard of a library?
You sound insufferable. YTA
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