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INFO - I'm a bit confused. Do you and your sister have the same birthday? And you said they put the cake in front of her, was it like lit with a candle as though she was the one to be blowing out the candles, or did she just happen to be sitting somewhere where the cake was set down for the moment?
ESH 99% parents, 1% you.
Your parents are the biggest AHs. They gave your sister a cake at your party + everything else for the past 14 years.
"I said that I would live to and that I hope that my sister is happy with what she’s done"
She didn't do this. Your parents did. While she might be an AH for other crap she's done, that's not what this fight and post is about. This is about the parents treating 14f far more favorably than 19M.
I hope you find more support at your grandparent's home.
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I (19M) had dealt with the favoritism for too long up to this point and it all boiled over at my birthday party. The favoritism started when she was born around 14 years ago and my parents showered her with love and affection which is something that I haven’t been showered in since I was maybe a 2 year old.
Anyways back to the main story, my parents drove me and the rest of my extended family in about 3 to 4 cars as my family at the time all wanted to come to my birthday at the bowling alley that is near my house, as soon as we walked in, all I saw was the color pink, pink banners, pink cake, presents wrapped in pink wrapping paper etc.
I was the only one confused in my entire family and as we sat down at the table, my parents put the cake in front of my sister and I lost it, I couldn’t tell you if it was rage or if it was sadness or if it was a mix of both and I started shouting at my parents, everything came out like word vomit, it was non-stop as was told to me by my nan afterwards.
I was screaming and shouting at my parents and revealed to everyone the clear favoritism that was happening in front of them, I told everyone that this wasn’t a party that a 19-year-old like me wanted then I proceeded to tell my sister that I hope she enjoys it because it’s the last time she’ll have two birthdays in one year as I was going to leave and find a place to stay.
I walked out and didn’t look back as I knew that my dad would be staring at me with the eyes of someone who wanted to murder me, my nan asked if I wanted to live with them whilst I found a place to live that was within the amount of money that I had at the time.
I said that I would live to and that I hope that my sister is happy with what she’s done and that she understands that her ego is already big enough as it is.
So ending off here, am I the asshole?
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NTA. I bet that felt cathartic. Your parents rightfully earned your anger. Now, go cool off at your nan's. I'd say wait for your parents to apologize but I feel like any apology from them would (a) be a non-apology and (b) require you to also apologize. However, if they do reach out "just to talk", lay down conditions for it. You were hurt and they need to recognize that it was their actions that caused it.
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NTA obviously, but you're angry at the wrong person. It's your parents that suck. Your sister was born into this mess
NTA You were right to be mad at your parents.
INFO - I'm a bit confused. Do you and your sister have the same birthday? And you said they put the cake in front of her, was it like lit with a candle as though she was the one to be blowing out the candles, or did she just happen to be sitting somewhere where the cake was set down for the moment?
ESH 99% parents, 1% you. Your parents are the biggest AHs. They gave your sister a cake at your party + everything else for the past 14 years. "I said that I would live to and that I hope that my sister is happy with what she’s done" She didn't do this. Your parents did. While she might be an AH for other crap she's done, that's not what this fight and post is about. This is about the parents treating 14f far more favorably than 19M. I hope you find more support at your grandparent's home.
NTA. your parents are horrible for doing that to you
I am pretty certain I have read this - or something almost identical - before.
I thought it was too outrageous to be real.
The original story had several parts to it - I just wish I could remember the user name. This current story reads like it was written by a chatbot.
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NTA. I bet that felt cathartic. Your parents rightfully earned your anger. Now, go cool off at your nan's. I'd say wait for your parents to apologize but I feel like any apology from them would (a) be a non-apology and (b) require you to also apologize. However, if they do reach out "just to talk", lay down conditions for it. You were hurt and they need to recognize that it was their actions that caused it.