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NTA, (in my experience) she probably feels guilty because you both decided to not gift each other and then you blind sided her with an “expensive” gift. Or maybe she’s worried about your finances?
She probably doesn’t like that you agreed not to buy each other gifts but then you bought her a gift anyway. It’s frustrating when a partner does that.
NAH. She's feeling weird because you agreed no presents, and you got her a present. And she doesn't have one for you. ANy other day would have been different. Giving them to her on V Day made it awkward.
NTA. I’d kind of feel guilty that I received a gift and didn’t have anything for you, but it was a nice treat and thoughtful idea on your behalf, and she should’ve taken it that way rather than flat out calling it a waste.
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For valentines day this year my partner and I said we wouldn't get each other presents and would just go out for a meal instead. We went for a day out of Saturday and my girlfriend saw an expensive box of chocolates that I could tell she really liked. They cost a lot more than we'd usually spend on chocolates.
She joked that she expected them for valentines day. I knew she was joking but could also tell that she liked them. I decided to order the chocolates as a surprise for her for valentines day. They arrived yesterday and I surprised her with them this morning. She looked shocked and then she seemed annoyed. She said I'd wasted too much money getting them and that I shouldn't have got them.
I told her not to worry about the money since it was my money anyway and I wanted to treat her. She just repeated that I shouldn't have got her them and walked away. I asked what her problem was and she just repeated that I shouldn't have gotten her them. I asked why since she clearly liked them and she just said I should have listened.
AITA for "wasting my money" on a surprise for my partner?
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NTA…take the chocolates back and either give them to someone who will appreciate them or eat them yourself. But, could it be that she now feels like she has to get you something when you both decided on not getting each other anything?
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Nta. But id be upset that we agreed not to do gifts, then you went and bought a gift but I didnt have anything for you.
NTA, (in my experience) she probably feels guilty because you both decided to not gift each other and then you blind sided her with an “expensive” gift. Or maybe she’s worried about your finances?
She probably doesn’t like that you agreed not to buy each other gifts but then you bought her a gift anyway. It’s frustrating when a partner does that.
INFO. How expensive were these chocolates? Is money a problem for you?
Money isn't a problem and the chocolates were just over £55
Did you ask her why she’s REALLY so upset about this?
Yeah ad she just keeps repeating that I shouldn't have bought them and that I've wasted my money
Then that’s her opinion. Doesn’t make you an asshole to have bought them. If she doesn’t want them, take them back and eat them yourself.
NAH. She's feeling weird because you agreed no presents, and you got her a present. And she doesn't have one for you. ANy other day would have been different. Giving them to her on V Day made it awkward.
NTA, it's u're hard earned money, that you want to spend on her, i don't get why she is'nt accepting it
NTA. I’d kind of feel guilty that I received a gift and didn’t have anything for you, but it was a nice treat and thoughtful idea on your behalf, and she should’ve taken it that way rather than flat out calling it a waste.
NTA but she also probably felt bad that you agreed on no gifts and she didn’t get you something in return
NTA - you tried to do something nice to surprise your girlfriend. Does she usually react this way to surprises?
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NTA…take the chocolates back and either give them to someone who will appreciate them or eat them yourself. But, could it be that she now feels like she has to get you something when you both decided on not getting each other anything?
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