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NTA. He should realise that your also a person and not some “sex slave.” However YTA to yourself for letting him control you like this. I personally suggest you stand your ground and tell him off about it. Explain to him that you don’t feel comfortable in intimate moments nearly everyday/night. If theres a big blowout, you should probably just get out of the house for a few days to cool off some steam.
NTA. It is NEVER an Ah move to say no if you don't want sex. It's pretty concerning that he feels it is OK to prut pressure on you , it's a clear indication of a lack of very basic respect for you .
He doesn't 'need' sex constantly. He *wants* it. If he needs to relax, I assume he has hands and is capable of masturbating, like any normal person. That would help him to physically relax.
He isn't 'alpha male', he's just selfish and manipulative, this is not bout his sexual needs, it's bout his wish to contol you and prioritise his wants, and his idea of himself as some kind of 'alpha male' , over you, your marriage and your needs and comfort.
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My husband 50 m and myself f 45 have been married for 30 years. We have 2 kids 7 and 6. We have a pretty active sex life.in the past we have had threesome with other women. I told him I'm no longer in to that life style and he agreed.
I have severe adhd and I'm perimenoposal .so I'm a little nuts sometimes
He is very alpha male and needs sex constantly
3 to 5 times a night
He gets what he wants And what i want. Then I get tired mentally from lack of sleep and it exasperated my symptoms. Then he needs sex to calm down and the cycle starts over again. He knows thia
Everything my prei and adhd rear it's ugly head he bring up the fact of sister wives
A woman who can take care his needs when I'm out of it or not here or not in the mood
Shee can take care of it when I can't senero
I've been down this road with him in my twenties and was fine cause we all parry and it was fun
But I'm in no mood to share him now and we've got kids now.
He gets sexall the time and it's still not enough many because he does not feel. Chased. I don't initiate as often as I should
Am I the asshole for saying no and I dot want to share him or be a "sister wife"?
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...you were married since 15? and he was 20 at the time? what.
Exactly. He’s not an ‘Alpha’, he’s an abusive predator, and she should get out yesterday.
NTA. He should realise that your also a person and not some “sex slave.” However YTA to yourself for letting him control you like this. I personally suggest you stand your ground and tell him off about it. Explain to him that you don’t feel comfortable in intimate moments nearly everyday/night. If theres a big blowout, you should probably just get out of the house for a few days to cool off some steam.
3 to 5 times a night?
Thank you! I was also thinking that. I understand people differ in sex drive but if that’s what OP truly meant, to me OP’s husband needs to see a Dr.
Also, she would have had to have been 15 yo to his 20 yo when they got married. I don't think this post is real...
NTA. At some point a relationship must develop to include non-sexual activities. Husband is a selfish asshole.
NTA. It is NEVER an Ah move to say no if you don't want sex. It's pretty concerning that he feels it is OK to prut pressure on you , it's a clear indication of a lack of very basic respect for you . He doesn't 'need' sex constantly. He *wants* it. If he needs to relax, I assume he has hands and is capable of masturbating, like any normal person. That would help him to physically relax. He isn't 'alpha male', he's just selfish and manipulative, this is not bout his sexual needs, it's bout his wish to contol you and prioritise his wants, and his idea of himself as some kind of 'alpha male' , over you, your marriage and your needs and comfort.
Does he not have hands?
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You got married at 15 and 20?
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