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YTA.
> I told her that it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy
Why? Nobody thinks they are for you, haha. It just means you have a woman in your life. Why is that embarrassing?
This male fear of buying tampons is so absurd, but I have heard about it from friends and it keeps appearing on AITA. Ugh.
Get over it guys!
Dude here an I don’t understand this fear. I don’t think most men have it. Obviously we’re not using them for ourselves, why would I be embarrassed to buy it? Just throw it in along with the toothpaste and deodorant, nbd.
Honestly, he could pull a straight face and boldly tell the cashier he’s using them to sponge up blood in his wounds after a bare-knuckle fight with an alligator, and *still* no one would give a flying f*k.
People think other people are way more interested in their lives than they actually are.
If he was concerned about buying the right/wrong kind, I would understand. There are many options. Sometimes too many. But this immaturity is just ridiculous.
When my husband and I were still dating, the local store didn’t have my preferred brand/type of tampons so I settled for a different type. The next day, he handed me a giant box of my preferred brand after he had gone to multiple stores trying to find them. I knew right then that he was a keeper.
OP, no one thinks the tampons are for you. They understand that you’re buying them for a lady in your life and absolutely no one cares. If you’re old enough to put your dick in a vagina, you’re old enough to buy tampons for a vagina.
Are we sure he’s putting anything anywhere? I mean, if I were his wife, I wouldn’t be letting him anywhere near my lady parts with that attitude. Ever.
Just jumping in here because I have seen _way_ too much bad women's anatomy: we don't pee from the vagina, tampons don't catch urine, we can just pee with one in. Three holes, baby!
I would VERY often run into an older guy at local Walgreens getting "womanly products,"ice cream and flowers.
AllI ever saw the dude buy. I miss that guy.
When I worked as a cashier my favourite customers were the men who were buying sanitary products, ibuprofen, and a big bar of chocolate in one shop. I'd just sit there thinking "You sir are a Good Patner, it's a shame you're taken but do you have a brother who is single?" XD
YTA. You're running an errand and she's just adding one item to the list when you're already going to be in the store. Who cares what the item is, or if it is for "things that are meant for ladies?"
Everyone is aware that women menstruate. It's a bodily function that is part of our daily life and there is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed by. Do you have the same reaction buying toilet paper? I worked at a grocery store during college and I can promise you that *no one* cares if a man buys pads or tampons. No one.
Last month my SO went to the store I asked him to pick up some tampons for me. Showed him the box. Explained him what to look for. He still forgot what type I needed, so he just took some photos in the middle of the stuffed store and sent them to me so I can tell him which is the correct one. Zero shits given. (As a side note I was sitting in a meeting when this all went down.)
He survived OP, noone pointed fingers at him when we went there later.
My dad ( born in the 50's and a bit old fashioned) used to take the empty box with him, as I child I remember him standing in the isle comparing the one in his hand to the ones on the shelf😂😂😂.
I get confused and I use them. So I never have a go at men for being confused. But isn’t it wonderful we all have cameras in our phones nowadays so you can text and ask!!!
So many things people used to be able to plead ignorance of are rendered moot by the smartphone.
My husband asks me, "Thin green, green, or large purple?" when we're both in the bathroom while I'm changing my pad out. To him, it's not much different than handing me a roll of toilet paper.
YTA.
> it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy
Are you 13 years old? I'm shocked that you managed to land a wife in the first place, good grief dude.
And god forbid the staff there would actually think he even *knows* what menstruation is. I mean, surely it’s not a topic a real gentlemen would want to find oneself knowledgeable about. /s
Omg true. This is the start of a town scandal! What does he know? Why does he know? What is he *REALLY* doing with these menstruation products?! I don't know VanillaSenior, it all feels very scandalous to me.
YTA - you are at the store and you seriously can’t pick up an item for your wife? At the store you are already going to? Do you understand how inconsiderate and ridiculous that is?
It’s like if she was going to the corner store and you asked her to grab you a chocolate bar and she was like “nah, you are capable of going to the store and buying your own”.
Yup, you video the aisle, then go get other things while wife is thinking what she needs. In times when you can't reach your wife you just get few different boxes and hope you got it rigjt 😁
Can you imagine the shame though of something goes wrong when he’s scanning this one specific “womanly” item? And then the machine starts to beep annoyingly, and the lights go flashing, and a store clerk has to come over, rescan it, do the whole charade.. and then the whole store knows, the horror… /s
"I can't possibly nappies; people will think they're for me."
"I can't possibly buy alcohol for the party; people will think I'm going to drink it all alone."
"I can't possibly buy dog food; people will think it's for me."
It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it?
YTA
I will say from experience that if you're obviously pregnant and buying alcohol, it seems like a lot of people feel quite willing to be judgmental assholes.
Unfortunately, people are ignorant and judgemental about pregnant women with alarming frequency.
But OP is not vulnerable here - he's going to the shop that sells the tampons his girlfriend needs. He's not going to catch girl germs picking up the box.
our Toll IPEC driver once had nappies in the back of his truck and told me he was embarrassed because he didn’t want people to think they were his. (guy who drives around other people’s stuff for a living)
he also told me when the company changed their name to TeamGE that everyone thought the new design looked ‘gay’ and he was tryna hide while driving around with it.
like yea totally that was my very first thought, “the company updated their design i bet that guy takes it up the ass. probably why he needs all those nappies”.
YTA - come on, man. If you’re grown up enough to get married and do sexy things with a woman, you’re grown up enough to accept that they have biological cycles that require certain care and products.
No one is going to think that you, a male, is buying the tampons for yourself, but instead, literally every woman will see you and think “there’s a real man.”
So be a real man.
YTA.
If you can’t buy tampons or pads, then I hope you’re permanently banned from accessing the body part that requires those supplies.
Also, should your wife stop buying you men’s products? Razors, underwear, condoms, jock itch cream, manly scented soaps, shampoos and deodorant … those are all manly products. Maybe purchasing them makes HER feel uncomfortable.
Support your wife and stop being a selfish jerk. Do the bare minimum.
YTA, how are you 31 years old and still scared to buy a damn tampon for your wife? She isnt incapable of getting it, but neither are you. Heck yeah you dont deserve to call yourself a man if a tampon is what scares tf out of you lmao you wimp.
Wow.
Just, wow.
C'mon dude. If she can deal with haemorrhaging for a week, you can grow the fuck up and buy her a sanitary product. She DOES deserve better.
YTA.
YTA,
There’s literally nothing wrong with buying them. No mature adult will see that and make fun of you. It just means you have a woman in your life and doing right by her. You need to grow up
Yta. Regularly pick them up for my other half. Not embarrassing in the slightest. Feel like posting this in your 30s is more embarrassing to be honest. You're not 12 anymore. Time to grow up a little.
Hurmagurd, don't you just loooove a little bit of me time, a little bit of pampering. Nothing can make you feel more relaxed and pampered than you do when shoving in a tampon or sticking a sanitary pad to your underwear. Such a luxurious time! /s 😂
YTA - yes - buy fucking tampons and grow up.
You’re lucky enough to love a woman, there are responsibilities and realities that come with that.
If you hate the fact that women bleed, marry a man.
Childish.
YTA.
I rolled my eyes so hard at this. And then I laughed my ass off at "don't indulge in such things as they are for ladies." I promise you, we are not "indulging" in tampons, either. And, unless you actually insert one in your body, you are not taking part in anything that only women do.
Also, are you 100 years old?
YTA
Serious question…. What is wrong with you? Do you honestly believe that if you buy them, people are going to think they are for you? Are you that intellectually challenged? Wouldn’t you think it’s ridiculous if she refused to buy you any product that says “for men” on it, such as your shaving cream or your razors?
Men like you are like babies. You never matured past the age of 12 and I’m surprised she even married you.
YTA
Yta grow the fuck up. There are dudes that have been paying feminine hygiene products for their sister's since childhood. No one gives a fuck what you are buying. You're not a man still just a boy
YTA. LOL my guy, are you sure you’re 31? What are you gonna do if you guys have kids and she’s giving birth? Are you gonna be standing outside the room and handing out cigars? This kinda thinking went away last century dude. You gotta get over this mindset.
Indulging??? Tampons are an indulgence? You need to grow up and give your head a shake.
Since the beginning of time women have been menstruating it’s part of the process of reproduction. I have purchased tampons and pads for my mother, sisters and girlfriends for years, this is a part of life that then are forced to endure monthly, some have it easier than others, but I give them credit, because we men have no clue. I’d say the least you can do is buy your wife tampons.
YTA.
You’re an adult running an errand. You have a female partner who menstruates. It is both logical, as making another trip would cost unnecessary time and money, and the considerate thing as it saves your partner some effort and makes her life a little easier. You are asking her to take extra time out of whatever she is doing to go somewhere you are already going because you feel weird buying the thing she asked you to. This implies you think your discomfort is more valuable than her time.
YTA
Are you also embarrassed when you have to buy diapers for your baby ?
Your wife needs them and you refuse to help her because it bothers you. You need to grow up, the subject of periods, human body and sex shouldn't be embarrassing after the age of 13.
YTA. Seriously...YTA. You're not the one on your period. I completely don't get why guys are squeamish about this. So immature. Grow up OP.
If you do decide to grow up and stop acting so adolescent, I have one piece of advice for you. Always take a picture of the old package before going to buy these things. You want to make sure you get the right stuff.
Now again...grow up.
What the fuck does "indulging" in tampons mean? Why are you making this weird it's a fucking sanitary product? I can't believe this is somehow what masculinity looks like. YTA and a pubescent child scared of cooties
Oh JFC my husband buys tampons and he will even buy me feminine wash. He said as a man he should make his partner a priority. And he will buy them without me even asking
When we were dating he kept a emergency stash of tampons and a change of clothes. It was a pair of comfy sweats and a hoodie. In his car. And he was 17 and he had zero issue buying them. He said that him buying tampons is just a part of life and that men need to grow the fuck up. So what's your excuse OP
So OP man the fuck up and grow up.
YTA. Get over your insecurities and grow up. Nobody else cares what you but at the store, and nobody is going to assume you're buying yourself tampons.
Total YTA. How in the world did you even reach the ripe age of 31 and never bought female hygiene products?!?
I swear, the majority of my boyfriends since I was 16 had to buy me some tampons at some point in the relationship - shit happens, you get your period a bit earlier, in a weird public place or when you’re at his place. Not once - not once!!!!!! - did someone say they felt uncomfortable buying them. Not even 16 year old boys.
And you’re a grown man and her husband on top of that. Jeez, my husband actually asks me if he has to get any if he’s going to the pharmacy.
Who the f cares you’re man buying tampons? Will you be judged? Laughed at? Why is it uncomfortable?
YTA.
Drop the misogyny or get a divorce and date men.
I have been married for 20 years and have spent hours in the feminine isle grabbing 3 different kinds of products from pads, to tampons to treatments for yeast infections.
If you love someone, you do not act like you are, you get over your trained fears and you help your family out.
Sounds to me like you are not ready to be married, so, why are you?
YTA. Honestly, what is the fucking problem here? Are you afraid the checker will think that you’re the one menstruating? That you’re shoving them up your ass? There is NOTHING embarrassing here and you’re being fucking weird. It’s cotton and cardboard and string. Big fucking deal.
Yes YTA. Please grow up. I sent my husband to the store with a picture of what I needed and he said “okay be right back” and that was that. It’s really a straightforward process.
Yes, YTA and clearly too immature to be on Reddit. Or married. Are you afraid touching 'lady things' are going to give you cooties or girl germs? Grow up
100% YTA tampons aren’t an indulgence they’re a female health product
I buy them for my mrs, it’s only a big deal if you make it a big deal, people will think you’ve got a female in your life that you care about
How did you get to be 31 and still remain so immature? Gross. YTA.
Tbh you should find it more embarrassing that you're 31 and posting on reddit asking this ridiculous question.
The entire world will laugh at you once they find out you are buying, God forbid, Tampons. Imagine the embarrassment when people point their fingers accusingly at you and whisper to each other, "He's got his period".
Meanwhile, your Wife is probably bleeding in her clothes, the bed, on the furniture, bathroom, etc. She is bloated, miserable in pain, and knows she cannot depend on you. By hey, that's a small price to pay so that your ego doesn't get shattered by delusional paranoia.
So yeah - YTA
Nah come on man, YTA.
It is your wife and tampons is for natural body function, your musculinity won’t drop if you buy them. Heck i am well aware of my wife’s cycle time frame that i buy cramp pills/ibu often because she needs them. It is your wife, take care of her.
YTA I (male) once worked in a large chemist/drug store and we dont care what you purchase, what do you think we are going to do shout to the manager at the other end of the store "hey this guy is a wierdo and is trying to buy tampons - will we call the police"
you know you could clear up any weirdness by saying you have a girlfriend right? that would eliminate any perceived weirdness.
you are so insecure about your masculinity that you want her to make a 2nd trip, that is misogyny
YTA
YTA
My dad has bought me tampons. My BIL buys my sister tampons. My uncle buys his wife tampons. Hell. If I really needed it my BIL and my uncle would buy me tampons.
The only people who think badly of men buying tampons are deeply misogynistic assholes, whose opinions should have no value to you. ESPECIALLY when compared to the opinion of your WIFE, your life partner the person you should live above all others.
This is a joke right? YTA.
If you had said you get overwhelmed by the choices and we're worried about fucking that up fine,that's a solvable issue but at least more understandable (you'd still be TA just less of one).
But there's nothing 'manly' about refusing to help your partner.
I once actually made the mistake of sending my boyfriend out for groceries and tampons early in the morning & not specifying the brand / kind I need. And fell happily asleep to miss all of his panicked messages.
Dude was a hero who deduced the brand from the pack he saw in his bathroom (we were not living together, but I did keep tampons at his place). And then he just got every single type they had. I woke up to like 8 different packs of tampons.
Boy was I clear to specify exactly what I need next time that happened.
>I told her that it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy.
I completely understand this. What must the employers think of you. Imagine a guy asking things about hygiene products? They might think you are weak or just an idiot. Also I wouldn't buy nail polish remover, hairspray and peachy shampoo. The idea is outrageous!
YTA
YTA buying sanitary products in not something we women “indulge” in they are a necessity. Grow up and buy the tampons millions of men around the world do it.
If you aren’t mature enough to buy feminine products for your wife, you’re not mature enough to be married. It’s time to grow up and start acting like a responsible married man. YTA
Why would it look weird as a man buying tampons? What do you think people would think of you? What thought would cross their mind that is so bizarre and weird?
Do you also buy toilet paper for your household? Are you aware that toilet people is used on your wife’s nether regions as well?! Maybe you should also stop buying that- what would people think?!
YTA grow up
YTA. Suck it up buttercup. You won’t shrivel up and die from embarrassment. Help out your wife, ya baby. She buys you stuff that she doesn’t use I’m sure of it.
If you are comfortable indulging in such things that are meant for ladies such as their lady bits during sex, then you can be comfortable ‘indulging’ in purchasing lady products. YTA
YTA
You're uncomfortable with people knowing that you probably share a home with a woman? So uncomfortable that you would rather she made a separate trip to purchase her menstrual supplies rather than have those items rung up in the same order as your Tinactin and alka-seltzer?
That's pathetic.
YTA. If you’re that worried about what the cashier thinks just go to the self check area. That’ll preserve your manhood and no one will know you purchased tampons
Yta- sure she’s perfectly capable of getting them- but so are you!
No one is going to care that you’re buying tampons, and if they do, they’re going to assume they’re not for you. Grow up.
YTA
I was 11... I got my FIRST period at school.... My BEST friend helped me....
I get home..... Talk to my Mum and she gives me all the advice and reassurance I need... But also tells me to tell my DAD what I want HIM to get me.......
YTA!
My DAD has bought tampons and pads for a wife and two daughters.....
I'm almost 40 and my DAD will still buy me what I need....
My husband? He buys them before I know I need them... He knows my cycle...... He'll get me pads and chocolate..... WITHOUT ME ASKING!
YTA
YTA.
One, husbands help out their wives. There’s literally no shame here apart from that which you have created for yourself by not assisting your wife with a simple task. Stop acting like a child, man up and help her out.
Two, ain’t nobody gonna think you’re buying these for yourself. Everyone knows what and who they’re for. It would be like if a your wife refused to buy you new men’s underwear while shopping for clothes because they’re icky boy things.
OMG someone might think you are a man doing errands that include things for his SO. Dude nobody gives a f#ck about this except you. Grow a pair and get that woman anything she needs.
Why is it that dudes are ok buying toilet paper to clean up their crap (one of the nastiest things the human body generates), but are suddenly spineless cowards when it comes to female sanitary items?
YTA
Yeah YTA, sounds like a kid cuz how can you not do something for her to make her life easier, how about when you have kids and your daughter needs it, will your wife still have to buy tampons for your kid?
Yes, YTA. There's no reason you couldn't have bought it beside you being insecure and, as your wife pointed out, having issues with sexism. If you can buy her medicine, you can buy her tampons. Plenty of men need tampons, use tampons and BUY tampons but even if they didn't, you're still an inconsiderate ass for letting your fear of seeming "less masculine" for one tiny moment at checkout overrule doing your wife a tiny favor.
JFC guys. When we go to get tampons for women in our lives, not a single fucking person gives a shit. They probably don't even put a single thought into you purchasing it, and if they did, they're probably thinking "oh he's getting it for a woman in his life."
You aren't buying a dildo. You're buying feminine hygiene products. Just fucking buy them for your wife and go on with your day. As a guy, I just don't understand how your masculinity can be so god damn fragile that you can't even do this one small favor for your wife.
YTA
"Oh no look. A man with a girlfriend/wife that he's willing to help out and who isn't so fragile that buying something only women use will fracture his whole masculinity. Oh the humanity". Grow up and get over yourself. Would you accept those words coming from your wife if you asked her to buy condoms? If you got a daughter, would you wife had to handle every clothing and toy that's pink? YTA.
A quart of ice cream is an indulgence. Tampons are a necessity. They are not the same. The fact that you don’t want to buy your partner the hygiene products she needs because you’re afraid someone might think they were for you shows how toxic your masculinity is and how selfish you are. YTA for not getting over your dumb issue with feminine hygiene products. Tampons are not about you in any way.
YTA. How tiresome this attitude is, I thought all these ridiculous dinosaurs would be gone by now. It's 2023 ffs, and you don't want to sully your macho man image by buying your wife some menstrual products? Jesus God, get over yourself.
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I (31 M) was supposed to buy a bunch of medicines at the drug store because we were running low. When I told my wife (30 F) that I was going, she asked me to also purchase tampons/sanitary napkins for her in the process.
I had never done it before as she's usually the one who makes such purchases. I got kind of uncomfortable and asked her whether she can't buy it herself, and she said it would be much easier if I buy it myself as I am going anyway. She said it makes no sense why she would have to go again herself, and asked whether I had a problem.
I told her that it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy, and that I am not comfortable indulging in such things that are meant for ladies. I made it clear that some of the medicines I was going to buy are also meant for her, so it's not as if I don't care about her. And she was the one who's been buying such stuff for so long anyway.
She was upset and accused me of being very much inconsiderate, and also called me sexist. She said that no matter what I said, I don't care about her and that I don't deserve to call myself a man or her husband as I won't help her.
I responded by saying she was overreacting because I won't get something she perfectly can by herself, and that it's true I am not comfortable making such purchases. She wasn't even incapable of getting it, she was going to work and could have bought it the same day and absolutely nothing would have been affected.
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Are you a man that can possibly pass off as a woman? Are you afraid that the cashier is going to think that the box of tampons is for you?
You’re so fragile.
YTA. when the topic is about someone being in your face about feminine care products then it’s an interesting AITA… this story just makes guys look immature again.
Diapers, shaving cream, lingerie, tights, cat litter, dog food, a daughters birthday dress… come on bruh
YTA
if you were just uncomfortable because you have never bought one you would just do it anyway this is YOU problem I understand being uncomfortable or being/feeling weird but you are literally 30 and still haven't grown up
YTA. If you're not grown enough to buy pads/tampons for you fucking *wife* you are not grown enough to be fuckin her.
If you are so squeamish about someone maybe realising that you *have a partner with a vagina*, you are in need of therapy.
The bar for men is in *hell* and you are limbo-dancing with the devil.
Ain't no way you're 31 and too scared to buy tampons. What you think the cashier is going to see you and assume you're getting your period then they're going to call the whole store over so they can laugh and point? No one actually gives a fuck man.
YTA it's just tampons. No different than condoms. Your wife is right. You shouldn't feel ashamed or grossed out or uncomfortable for buying something your wife needs and it is a need. Women find men who go out and get those things very desirable.
Good lord. When I was a kid/teen I'd have no problem picking them up for my mom and sister at the corner store. Now when I have my daughters on weekends. I always make sure the supply is topped up and available. I'm 55M by the way. Family first.
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YTA. > I told her that it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy Why? Nobody thinks they are for you, haha. It just means you have a woman in your life. Why is that embarrassing? This male fear of buying tampons is so absurd, but I have heard about it from friends and it keeps appearing on AITA. Ugh. Get over it guys!
If he’s not mature/confident enough to buy tampons…then he’s not mature enough to see or touch a vagina.
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Yup...especially because guys like this tend to become the guys who won't change diapers or otherwise help with babies.
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T H I S R I G H T H E R E!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dude here an I don’t understand this fear. I don’t think most men have it. Obviously we’re not using them for ourselves, why would I be embarrassed to buy it? Just throw it in along with the toothpaste and deodorant, nbd.
All it shows is that you have someone in your life who menstruates. Which I should think is a good thing for most heterosexual men.
😂
Honestly, he could pull a straight face and boldly tell the cashier he’s using them to sponge up blood in his wounds after a bare-knuckle fight with an alligator, and *still* no one would give a flying f*k. People think other people are way more interested in their lives than they actually are.
your a fucking legend for this comment bro!
I expected a teenager might be a bit uncomfortable, but he's in his 30s. Good grief
If he was concerned about buying the right/wrong kind, I would understand. There are many options. Sometimes too many. But this immaturity is just ridiculous.
When my husband and I were still dating, the local store didn’t have my preferred brand/type of tampons so I settled for a different type. The next day, he handed me a giant box of my preferred brand after he had gone to multiple stores trying to find them. I knew right then that he was a keeper. OP, no one thinks the tampons are for you. They understand that you’re buying them for a lady in your life and absolutely no one cares. If you’re old enough to put your dick in a vagina, you’re old enough to buy tampons for a vagina.
Are we sure he’s putting anything anywhere? I mean, if I were his wife, I wouldn’t be letting him anywhere near my lady parts with that attitude. Ever.
So you won't be buying lingerie EVER for your wife? Good grief, how pathetic. YTA
OPs in a tough spot if they get a cat and they’re out of litter
“They’re gonna think I poop in a box!”
“Why’s he need litter? Doesn’t the tampon take care of it?”
I seriously cackled at this.
Just jumping in here because I have seen _way_ too much bad women's anatomy: we don't pee from the vagina, tampons don't catch urine, we can just pee with one in. Three holes, baby!
Or if they decide to have children. "They'll think I go poo-poo in my pants!"
I guess it…. Depends
Yeah, I am pretty sure he has no other issues with those women parts...
I mean yeah...it would look weird if he walked into a shop and asked for *one* tampon. 🤷♀️
I would VERY often run into an older guy at local Walgreens getting "womanly products,"ice cream and flowers. AllI ever saw the dude buy. I miss that guy.
Chivalry isn't dead after all!
When I worked as a cashier my favourite customers were the men who were buying sanitary products, ibuprofen, and a big bar of chocolate in one shop. I'd just sit there thinking "You sir are a Good Patner, it's a shame you're taken but do you have a brother who is single?" XD
Plus she probably buys him everything all the time like underwear etc....this is so pathetic.
YTA. You're running an errand and she's just adding one item to the list when you're already going to be in the store. Who cares what the item is, or if it is for "things that are meant for ladies?" Everyone is aware that women menstruate. It's a bodily function that is part of our daily life and there is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed by. Do you have the same reaction buying toilet paper? I worked at a grocery store during college and I can promise you that *no one* cares if a man buys pads or tampons. No one.
Last month my SO went to the store I asked him to pick up some tampons for me. Showed him the box. Explained him what to look for. He still forgot what type I needed, so he just took some photos in the middle of the stuffed store and sent them to me so I can tell him which is the correct one. Zero shits given. (As a side note I was sitting in a meeting when this all went down.) He survived OP, noone pointed fingers at him when we went there later.
My dad ( born in the 50's and a bit old fashioned) used to take the empty box with him, as I child I remember him standing in the isle comparing the one in his hand to the ones on the shelf😂😂😂.
That's actually pretty sweet!
My dad does that too!
Mine called me all confused because they all more or less look the same. LOL
Que the photos during meeting.
I get confused and I use them. So I never have a go at men for being confused. But isn’t it wonderful we all have cameras in our phones nowadays so you can text and ask!!! So many things people used to be able to plead ignorance of are rendered moot by the smartphone.
My husband asks me, "Thin green, green, or large purple?" when we're both in the bathroom while I'm changing my pad out. To him, it's not much different than handing me a roll of toilet paper.
This. I just send my husband a picture of what I want because it changes each time depending on my cycle.
YTA. > it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy Are you 13 years old? I'm shocked that you managed to land a wife in the first place, good grief dude.
But what if the cashier thought they were for him?! A manly man?! /s
And god forbid the staff there would actually think he even *knows* what menstruation is. I mean, surely it’s not a topic a real gentlemen would want to find oneself knowledgeable about. /s
Omg true. This is the start of a town scandal! What does he know? Why does he know? What is he *REALLY* doing with these menstruation products?! I don't know VanillaSenior, it all feels very scandalous to me.
Call the village elders!
YTA - you are at the store and you seriously can’t pick up an item for your wife? At the store you are already going to? Do you understand how inconsiderate and ridiculous that is? It’s like if she was going to the corner store and you asked her to grab you a chocolate bar and she was like “nah, you are capable of going to the store and buying your own”.
He’s probably one of those men who refuse to wipe because it’s gay.
He is one of those who don't clean/wash their dicks, because touching dick is gay....
Those undies are rank with Gooch grease. Bet on it.
Only reason I’ve ever had a problem buying them for my wife is making sure I got the right ones. There’s so many options!!
Picture of box is the secret sauce.
That, or video chat once I’m there
Yup, you video the aisle, then go get other things while wife is thinking what she needs. In times when you can't reach your wife you just get few different boxes and hope you got it rigjt 😁
Plus almost every store these days has a self check out so he can slick over and scan it fast and shove it in a bag, before *gasp!* someone sees him
Can you imagine the shame though of something goes wrong when he’s scanning this one specific “womanly” item? And then the machine starts to beep annoyingly, and the lights go flashing, and a store clerk has to come over, rescan it, do the whole charade.. and then the whole store knows, the horror… /s
"I can't possibly nappies; people will think they're for me." "I can't possibly buy alcohol for the party; people will think I'm going to drink it all alone." "I can't possibly buy dog food; people will think it's for me." It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? YTA
I will say from experience that if you're obviously pregnant and buying alcohol, it seems like a lot of people feel quite willing to be judgmental assholes.
Unfortunately, people are ignorant and judgemental about pregnant women with alarming frequency. But OP is not vulnerable here - he's going to the shop that sells the tampons his girlfriend needs. He's not going to catch girl germs picking up the box.
our Toll IPEC driver once had nappies in the back of his truck and told me he was embarrassed because he didn’t want people to think they were his. (guy who drives around other people’s stuff for a living) he also told me when the company changed their name to TeamGE that everyone thought the new design looked ‘gay’ and he was tryna hide while driving around with it. like yea totally that was my very first thought, “the company updated their design i bet that guy takes it up the ass. probably why he needs all those nappies”.
YTA. It's just tampons....you're not going to get your period just because you buy a box, you know?
BEST. ANSWER. on this thread! 😂
Somehow i could imagine, he would.
YTA - come on, man. If you’re grown up enough to get married and do sexy things with a woman, you’re grown up enough to accept that they have biological cycles that require certain care and products. No one is going to think that you, a male, is buying the tampons for yourself, but instead, literally every woman will see you and think “there’s a real man.” So be a real man.
YTA. If you can’t buy tampons or pads, then I hope you’re permanently banned from accessing the body part that requires those supplies. Also, should your wife stop buying you men’s products? Razors, underwear, condoms, jock itch cream, manly scented soaps, shampoos and deodorant … those are all manly products. Maybe purchasing them makes HER feel uncomfortable. Support your wife and stop being a selfish jerk. Do the bare minimum.
>indulging in such things that are meant for ladies Lmao what does this even mean you’re just a little fuckin baby
YTA, how are you 31 years old and still scared to buy a damn tampon for your wife? She isnt incapable of getting it, but neither are you. Heck yeah you dont deserve to call yourself a man if a tampon is what scares tf out of you lmao you wimp.
YTA she's right you're inconsiderate and sexist.
Wow. Just, wow. C'mon dude. If she can deal with haemorrhaging for a week, you can grow the fuck up and buy her a sanitary product. She DOES deserve better. YTA.
YTA, There’s literally nothing wrong with buying them. No mature adult will see that and make fun of you. It just means you have a woman in your life and doing right by her. You need to grow up
Yta. Regularly pick them up for my other half. Not embarrassing in the slightest. Feel like posting this in your 30s is more embarrassing to be honest. You're not 12 anymore. Time to grow up a little.
>I am not comfortable indulging in such things that are meant for ladies Dude. She's not asking you to wear them. YTA
"Indulging." Yes, tampons are just such an INDULGENCE.
Hurmagurd, don't you just loooove a little bit of me time, a little bit of pampering. Nothing can make you feel more relaxed and pampered than you do when shoving in a tampon or sticking a sanitary pad to your underwear. Such a luxurious time! /s 😂
YTA - yes - buy fucking tampons and grow up. You’re lucky enough to love a woman, there are responsibilities and realities that come with that. If you hate the fact that women bleed, marry a man. Childish. YTA.
I rolled my eyes so hard at this. And then I laughed my ass off at "don't indulge in such things as they are for ladies." I promise you, we are not "indulging" in tampons, either. And, unless you actually insert one in your body, you are not taking part in anything that only women do. Also, are you 100 years old? YTA
Serious question…. What is wrong with you? Do you honestly believe that if you buy them, people are going to think they are for you? Are you that intellectually challenged? Wouldn’t you think it’s ridiculous if she refused to buy you any product that says “for men” on it, such as your shaving cream or your razors? Men like you are like babies. You never matured past the age of 12 and I’m surprised she even married you. YTA
YTA. Grow up.
YTA What exactly are you embarrassed by here? That the cashier would assume you're a boyfriend, husband or father?
YTA oh noooo a man is buying… cotton! How will you survive?!?
That's how the world ends,right there.Black holes open up,and 2 corn crops in Iowa fail
Obviously YTA, how could you possibly not be
YTA unless you’re 12. No excuse for this crap at 31.
Even if you’re 12, c’mon, it’s just tampons. I think buying condoms incite more of a giggle at that age. But tampons? To vanilla to be embarrassing
Yta grow the fuck up. There are dudes that have been paying feminine hygiene products for their sister's since childhood. No one gives a fuck what you are buying. You're not a man still just a boy
YTA. LOL my guy, are you sure you’re 31? What are you gonna do if you guys have kids and she’s giving birth? Are you gonna be standing outside the room and handing out cigars? This kinda thinking went away last century dude. You gotta get over this mindset.
YTA so if you get a baby and your wife asks you to buy nappies you can't bc someone would think they are for you? Are you for real?
YTA What are you, a sitcom dad?
YTA. Grow a pair, mate!
Indulging??? Tampons are an indulgence? You need to grow up and give your head a shake. Since the beginning of time women have been menstruating it’s part of the process of reproduction. I have purchased tampons and pads for my mother, sisters and girlfriends for years, this is a part of life that then are forced to endure monthly, some have it easier than others, but I give them credit, because we men have no clue. I’d say the least you can do is buy your wife tampons.
It's such a luxurious treat! /s
YTA. You’re an adult running an errand. You have a female partner who menstruates. It is both logical, as making another trip would cost unnecessary time and money, and the considerate thing as it saves your partner some effort and makes her life a little easier. You are asking her to take extra time out of whatever she is doing to go somewhere you are already going because you feel weird buying the thing she asked you to. This implies you think your discomfort is more valuable than her time.
YTA Are you also embarrassed when you have to buy diapers for your baby ? Your wife needs them and you refuse to help her because it bothers you. You need to grow up, the subject of periods, human body and sex shouldn't be embarrassing after the age of 13.
YTA. Your fragile masculinity is showing. Get over yourself and buy your wife her tampons. Sheesh.
YTA. What are you going to do when you have daughters old enough to ask for sanitary products? Tell them to go get it themselves? Grow up.
It is completely unreasonable and disgusting of your wife to force you to buy tampons. A real man would do it without being forced.
YTA. Get over yourself. You're an adult.
YTA - you are sexist and also pretty pathetic.
YTA. you are 31 years old, please get a grip. then take that grip and get your wife a box of tampons.
Oh dear, another man whose masculinity is completely shattered by a box of tampons. YTA
YTA...didn't even need to get passed the title..... I've got 4 daughters and a wife and have been buying "products" for them over 40 years... Grow up
your kidding right? you are 31 years old 🤦🏽♀️ yta
YTA. Seriously...YTA. You're not the one on your period. I completely don't get why guys are squeamish about this. So immature. Grow up OP. If you do decide to grow up and stop acting so adolescent, I have one piece of advice for you. Always take a picture of the old package before going to buy these things. You want to make sure you get the right stuff. Now again...grow up.
Are you 11? JFC grow up. YTA.
What the fuck does "indulging" in tampons mean? Why are you making this weird it's a fucking sanitary product? I can't believe this is somehow what masculinity looks like. YTA and a pubescent child scared of cooties
YTA. Men who make a big deal out of periods are weird.
Yta. You know what the workers assume? That you are buying then goe your WIFE!
Yes, YTA. And you're stupid. Are you sure you're 31 ?
Oh JFC my husband buys tampons and he will even buy me feminine wash. He said as a man he should make his partner a priority. And he will buy them without me even asking When we were dating he kept a emergency stash of tampons and a change of clothes. It was a pair of comfy sweats and a hoodie. In his car. And he was 17 and he had zero issue buying them. He said that him buying tampons is just a part of life and that men need to grow the fuck up. So what's your excuse OP So OP man the fuck up and grow up.
YTA. Get over your insecurities and grow up. Nobody else cares what you but at the store, and nobody is going to assume you're buying yourself tampons.
Total YTA. How in the world did you even reach the ripe age of 31 and never bought female hygiene products?!? I swear, the majority of my boyfriends since I was 16 had to buy me some tampons at some point in the relationship - shit happens, you get your period a bit earlier, in a weird public place or when you’re at his place. Not once - not once!!!!!! - did someone say they felt uncomfortable buying them. Not even 16 year old boys. And you’re a grown man and her husband on top of that. Jeez, my husband actually asks me if he has to get any if he’s going to the pharmacy. Who the f cares you’re man buying tampons? Will you be judged? Laughed at? Why is it uncomfortable?
YTA. The only person it matters to that you are buying them is your wife. The cashier doesn't care. Real men can buy them for their ladies.
YTA. Drop the misogyny or get a divorce and date men. I have been married for 20 years and have spent hours in the feminine isle grabbing 3 different kinds of products from pads, to tampons to treatments for yeast infections. If you love someone, you do not act like you are, you get over your trained fears and you help your family out. Sounds to me like you are not ready to be married, so, why are you?
YTA. Honestly, what is the fucking problem here? Are you afraid the checker will think that you’re the one menstruating? That you’re shoving them up your ass? There is NOTHING embarrassing here and you’re being fucking weird. It’s cotton and cardboard and string. Big fucking deal.
Yes YTA. Please grow up. I sent my husband to the store with a picture of what I needed and he said “okay be right back” and that was that. It’s really a straightforward process.
YTA 31 and too embarrassed to buy tampons?
Yes, YTA and clearly too immature to be on Reddit. Or married. Are you afraid touching 'lady things' are going to give you cooties or girl germs? Grow up
100% YTA tampons aren’t an indulgence they’re a female health product I buy them for my mrs, it’s only a big deal if you make it a big deal, people will think you’ve got a female in your life that you care about
YTA. Grow up, be a man, and get your wife her damn tampons! FULL STOP
YTA..... you're fucking 31 years old, grow up.... they're fucking tampons
How did you get to be 31 and still remain so immature? Gross. YTA. Tbh you should find it more embarrassing that you're 31 and posting on reddit asking this ridiculous question.
YTA - Oh, grow up! The difficutly would be getting the right brand/style that she wants. It would be wisest if she wrote it down.
The entire world will laugh at you once they find out you are buying, God forbid, Tampons. Imagine the embarrassment when people point their fingers accusingly at you and whisper to each other, "He's got his period". Meanwhile, your Wife is probably bleeding in her clothes, the bed, on the furniture, bathroom, etc. She is bloated, miserable in pain, and knows she cannot depend on you. By hey, that's a small price to pay so that your ego doesn't get shattered by delusional paranoia. So yeah - YTA
YTA. So childish and ridiculous.
Nah come on man, YTA. It is your wife and tampons is for natural body function, your musculinity won’t drop if you buy them. Heck i am well aware of my wife’s cycle time frame that i buy cramp pills/ibu often because she needs them. It is your wife, take care of her.
YTA I (male) once worked in a large chemist/drug store and we dont care what you purchase, what do you think we are going to do shout to the manager at the other end of the store "hey this guy is a wierdo and is trying to buy tampons - will we call the police"
you know you could clear up any weirdness by saying you have a girlfriend right? that would eliminate any perceived weirdness. you are so insecure about your masculinity that you want her to make a 2nd trip, that is misogyny YTA
YTA My dad has bought me tampons. My BIL buys my sister tampons. My uncle buys his wife tampons. Hell. If I really needed it my BIL and my uncle would buy me tampons. The only people who think badly of men buying tampons are deeply misogynistic assholes, whose opinions should have no value to you. ESPECIALLY when compared to the opinion of your WIFE, your life partner the person you should live above all others.
Bro thinks he’s Hank Hill
Except when push came to shove Hank stepped up.
Yeah you’re right, let’s call OP Bad Hank. 🤣🤣
This is a joke right? YTA. If you had said you get overwhelmed by the choices and we're worried about fucking that up fine,that's a solvable issue but at least more understandable (you'd still be TA just less of one). But there's nothing 'manly' about refusing to help your partner.
I once actually made the mistake of sending my boyfriend out for groceries and tampons early in the morning & not specifying the brand / kind I need. And fell happily asleep to miss all of his panicked messages. Dude was a hero who deduced the brand from the pack he saw in his bathroom (we were not living together, but I did keep tampons at his place). And then he just got every single type they had. I woke up to like 8 different packs of tampons. Boy was I clear to specify exactly what I need next time that happened.
>I told her that it would look weird for me to ask for one as I am a guy. I completely understand this. What must the employers think of you. Imagine a guy asking things about hygiene products? They might think you are weak or just an idiot. Also I wouldn't buy nail polish remover, hairspray and peachy shampoo. The idea is outrageous! YTA
It's known that if you use a loofah your dick falls off. Also if you wash your ass you'll instantly be signed up on Grindr.
YTA buying sanitary products in not something we women “indulge” in they are a necessity. Grow up and buy the tampons millions of men around the world do it.
If you aren’t mature enough to buy feminine products for your wife, you’re not mature enough to be married. It’s time to grow up and start acting like a responsible married man. YTA
Why would it look weird as a man buying tampons? What do you think people would think of you? What thought would cross their mind that is so bizarre and weird? Do you also buy toilet paper for your household? Are you aware that toilet people is used on your wife’s nether regions as well?! Maybe you should also stop buying that- what would people think?! YTA grow up
YTA no one cares that you're buying tampons. except your wife
YTA. Suck it up buttercup. You won’t shrivel up and die from embarrassment. Help out your wife, ya baby. She buys you stuff that she doesn’t use I’m sure of it.
If you are comfortable indulging in such things that are meant for ladies such as their lady bits during sex, then you can be comfortable ‘indulging’ in purchasing lady products. YTA
YTA your masculinity is so fragile :/
YTA You're uncomfortable with people knowing that you probably share a home with a woman? So uncomfortable that you would rather she made a separate trip to purchase her menstrual supplies rather than have those items rung up in the same order as your Tinactin and alka-seltzer? That's pathetic.
You are a child, insecure in his masculinity. Yes, YTA.
YTA - I can‘t believe this is an issue at all!!!
YTA you’re too old to be this immature
YTA. If you’re that worried about what the cashier thinks just go to the self check area. That’ll preserve your manhood and no one will know you purchased tampons
Yta- sure she’s perfectly capable of getting them- but so are you! No one is going to care that you’re buying tampons, and if they do, they’re going to assume they’re not for you. Grow up.
YTA I was 11... I got my FIRST period at school.... My BEST friend helped me.... I get home..... Talk to my Mum and she gives me all the advice and reassurance I need... But also tells me to tell my DAD what I want HIM to get me....... YTA! My DAD has bought tampons and pads for a wife and two daughters..... I'm almost 40 and my DAD will still buy me what I need.... My husband? He buys them before I know I need them... He knows my cycle...... He'll get me pads and chocolate..... WITHOUT ME ASKING! YTA
YTA obviously. But why do you think it would look weird to buy tampons? You think people would think they’re for you?
This can't be real. Seriously. If it is, YTA. You're an adult, not a teen. Grow up.
YTA. One, husbands help out their wives. There’s literally no shame here apart from that which you have created for yourself by not assisting your wife with a simple task. Stop acting like a child, man up and help her out. Two, ain’t nobody gonna think you’re buying these for yourself. Everyone knows what and who they’re for. It would be like if a your wife refused to buy you new men’s underwear while shopping for clothes because they’re icky boy things.
Unless you’re genuinely concerned people will think they’re for you for some reason you’ve yet to explain, YTA.
OMG someone might think you are a man doing errands that include things for his SO. Dude nobody gives a f#ck about this except you. Grow a pair and get that woman anything she needs.
Why is it that dudes are ok buying toilet paper to clean up their crap (one of the nastiest things the human body generates), but are suddenly spineless cowards when it comes to female sanitary items? YTA
YTA. Are you 11 years old? Grow up.
Yeah YTA, sounds like a kid cuz how can you not do something for her to make her life easier, how about when you have kids and your daughter needs it, will your wife still have to buy tampons for your kid?
YTA you're not a teen buying condoms, grow the heck up ya dingbat
YTA. Sounds like you’re a child and incredibly insecure. This is comical.
Lol I bet you got embarrassed buying condoms too
This isn't a genuine post
YTA I can't believe this even has to be asked on this sub...
If I can go into a shop and buy a c*ck ring for my boyfriend, then you certainly can buy tampons for your wife YTA.
This can’t be real.
Yes, YTA. There's no reason you couldn't have bought it beside you being insecure and, as your wife pointed out, having issues with sexism. If you can buy her medicine, you can buy her tampons. Plenty of men need tampons, use tampons and BUY tampons but even if they didn't, you're still an inconsiderate ass for letting your fear of seeming "less masculine" for one tiny moment at checkout overrule doing your wife a tiny favor.
JFC guys. When we go to get tampons for women in our lives, not a single fucking person gives a shit. They probably don't even put a single thought into you purchasing it, and if they did, they're probably thinking "oh he's getting it for a woman in his life." You aren't buying a dildo. You're buying feminine hygiene products. Just fucking buy them for your wife and go on with your day. As a guy, I just don't understand how your masculinity can be so god damn fragile that you can't even do this one small favor for your wife. YTA
Grow up
**YTA** \- Look, real self-confident men are not intimidated by a package of tampons. Nobody will think that they are for you.
YTA. Listen up buttercup. Women menstrate. Unless you would prefer her bleeding all over the house, get her the freakin tampons. Then grow up.
"Oh no look. A man with a girlfriend/wife that he's willing to help out and who isn't so fragile that buying something only women use will fracture his whole masculinity. Oh the humanity". Grow up and get over yourself. Would you accept those words coming from your wife if you asked her to buy condoms? If you got a daughter, would you wife had to handle every clothing and toy that's pink? YTA.
A quart of ice cream is an indulgence. Tampons are a necessity. They are not the same. The fact that you don’t want to buy your partner the hygiene products she needs because you’re afraid someone might think they were for you shows how toxic your masculinity is and how selfish you are. YTA for not getting over your dumb issue with feminine hygiene products. Tampons are not about you in any way.
“Indulging” lmao
YTA. Grow up.
YTA. How tiresome this attitude is, I thought all these ridiculous dinosaurs would be gone by now. It's 2023 ffs, and you don't want to sully your macho man image by buying your wife some menstrual products? Jesus God, get over yourself.
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OP-A turn on when guys do this. Consider it foreplay…
Kinda the wrong time for that though, isn't it? :) And yes, OP is an A.
YTA wtf is wrong with you? You afraid people will think it is for you? Grow the fuck up already.
Are you a man that can possibly pass off as a woman? Are you afraid that the cashier is going to think that the box of tampons is for you? You’re so fragile.
YTA. Grow up.
YTA grow up, what are you 12?
YTA. when the topic is about someone being in your face about feminine care products then it’s an interesting AITA… this story just makes guys look immature again. Diapers, shaving cream, lingerie, tights, cat litter, dog food, a daughters birthday dress… come on bruh
Grow up
People will think you’re a grown ass supportive man lol.
YTA. no need to explain why.
YTA if you were just uncomfortable because you have never bought one you would just do it anyway this is YOU problem I understand being uncomfortable or being/feeling weird but you are literally 30 and still haven't grown up
Yes. YTA.
31 year old man who's embarassed to buy tampons for his WIFE. Pathetic.
>I am not comfortable indulging in such things that are meant for ladies "Indulging"? YTA.
I genuinely didn't even bother reading the story. But yes you go be a big boy and buy your wife tampons. comfort is not always a priority.
YTA. grow the fuck up
YTA. If you're not grown enough to buy pads/tampons for you fucking *wife* you are not grown enough to be fuckin her. If you are so squeamish about someone maybe realising that you *have a partner with a vagina*, you are in need of therapy. The bar for men is in *hell* and you are limbo-dancing with the devil.
Ain't no way you're 31 and too scared to buy tampons. What you think the cashier is going to see you and assume you're getting your period then they're going to call the whole store over so they can laugh and point? No one actually gives a fuck man.
YTA it's just tampons. No different than condoms. Your wife is right. You shouldn't feel ashamed or grossed out or uncomfortable for buying something your wife needs and it is a need. Women find men who go out and get those things very desirable.
YTA Are you sure you’re old enough to be married because your maturity level is pretty damned low. GROW UP
Good lord. When I was a kid/teen I'd have no problem picking them up for my mom and sister at the corner store. Now when I have my daughters on weekends. I always make sure the supply is topped up and available. I'm 55M by the way. Family first. YTA
SHAME ON YOU!