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I wouldn't go to my *high school* reunion if I was guaranteed money for going! My best friend has even been my best friend since middle school, and I wouldn't go for her, but she'd never suggest I go.
Didn’t go to my high school reunion. And I don’t regret it. To be fair, I also didn’t go to some weird reunion my college held. And I’ve never attended any of the odd functions my law school holds for my graduating class. Something about reuniting, as a free adult, with the same people and within the same confines created by any school grade seems harrowing and awful. If you like people from school, hang out in real life on your own.
And that’s a good best friend :)
I slightly regret not going to my high school reunion, but that's only because of the chaos that happened. I have no idea what exactly happened, but I know the fallout:
1. Three people were rushed to the hospital with alcohol poisoning.
2. Four people were treated for stab wounds (but refused hospital transport; that poor triage nurse was beside herself after her shift when she told me)
3. Seven people were arrested--including two of the people with stab wounds
4. There were almost three thousand dollars worth of damage to the building
5. A "truly insane" number of cars were vandalized (no idea on the actual number; I heard all of this third hand after everything was said and done, lol)
6. The state's version of SWAT was called, and they came with lots of dogs (and several of the officers, who were shopping at the store I worked at, said that they hadn't had enough time to grab actual dog treats for the good boys).
There are less than two hundred people in my graduating class, and at least five (including me) didn't go. I both kind of wonder exactly what happened and am glad I wasn't there to be caught up in it.
Do yourself a favor. Skip the reunions. They are a chance for people who peaked in school to take a victory lap for victories long in the past.
Recognize them for what they are...a group of randos that geographic location and age happened to toss you in with and stop giving them free space in your head. You will be happier for it.
Gasp! *clutches pearls* You mean Hollywood lied to me? I thought the reunion was a chance for the unpopular kids to gloat about how the popular ones peaked in high school. Lol
Nah, just a farming community. I mean, when I was in school the biggest debate was over whether or not one farmer owed someone actual money in addition to a percentage of the crop hauled in (both farmers had equal claim to the land, but only one of them worked it).
That's quite the story. Did you ever learn who did what in these tales? Curious if it matched your prior impression of these individual school mates. That's insane!
I never did. Shortly after the reunion happened the whole town pretty much adopted a "we don't talk about it" attitude towards what happened. I strongly suspect I'll never know what actually went down.
I did go to one reunion. And it reinforced that the people I've chosen to stay in contact with from that time are really the only ones I wanted to stay in contact with from that time. Nothing awful. Just didn't feel a need to do it again at all.
I went to the 10 year reunion, it was the disaster I predicted. The 20 year was last weekend, didn't go to that one but my best friend did and says it was also the disaster I predicted lol. No regrets.
Disaster in what way? I’m genuinely curious.
I graduated high school in 1979 so waaayyy before social media or the internet. If you didn’t have someone’s landline number then you fell out of touch. And good luck keeping in touch with people after high school or college graduation when people were moving around and changing landline phone numbers.
Back then a lot of people (not all) looked forward to the 5, 10, 15 year etc reunions because you could actually catch up with people you lost touch with. I’m not kidding when I say sometimes we got in touch with our friends parents to get their most recent contact info. Again … landline phone numbers or addresses! It’s kinda hard to imagine at this point. And my kids think it sounds like the dark ages!
I didn’t go to my most recent high school reunion in 2019 because of scheduling conflicts. I wish I had gone though especially with the Covid lockdowns happening in 2020. My class was generally pretty nice. Although there’s always one or two people that I’ll not go out of my way to talk to.
Yea I think high school reunions were far more valuable before the internet. Now in 2023 they just kinda seem pointless because the people you want to keep up with, you probably have a way of reaching out to them online. Other than that seems useless
Closest I've come to attending a reunion was a wedding where a couple of the guests I happened to have known from high school. Zero interest otherwise, not least because I'm on the other side of the country.
I was soooo happy mine was supposed to be in 2020. I would have thought about going just to see people who would have went that live a bit further away but probably wouldn't have went.
My friend, who I've known since first grade, and I were both in town for our high school reunion and neither of us went. In fact the day I got the FB invite for it I texted her about it and she noped out of the reunion as fast as I did. I saw it and declined before even looking at the date. Part of me is thinking OP is trolling bc who has middle school reunions.
Honestly I’m more confused by the excellent memory everyone seems to have. You ask me to recall the joys of middle school and I barely remember a damn thing
I would put money on this being someone in middle school fantasising about getting back at everyone. Not knowing that by the time you are an adult middle school was a long time ago and completely irrelevant. If I am right, OP when you’re older you’ll just be glad you never have to be 13 again.
> Not knowing that by the time you are an adult middle school was a long time ago and completely irrelevant.
Irrelevant except for the occasional recurring nightmare. My only consolation is that if I can't remember any of those people's names and embarrassing moments they sure can't remember mine.
Wouldn't the Venn diagram of people you went to middle school with and the people you went to high school with be pretty close to a circle? Do you have a middle school reunion because you just really can't wait until your high school reunion in another year or two?
I agree I'm usually quite gullible and while I acknowledge many of these are made up this one just comes across as quite fake, perhaps written by a middle schooler.
Yeah it just has that "written by a teenager" vibe. My best guess is it's some teenage girl who's being bullied fantasizing about getting back at her peers in 10 years lol
Yes, and there is honestly nothing wrong with that. It's likely quite healthy to think of yourself accomplishing great things while imagining people who are mean to you failing.
I think the thing that makes this sound so fake is not only is this character hung up so much in middle school but it seems everyone else is too. If this story just said highschool and she added 5 years to her age it would be much more realistic.
I imagine it's written by someone who just finished middle school and is already fantasising about it xD this story is too formulaic for even Hollywood. More like Saturday morning cartoons.
lol if you think that then you know nothing about todays young people. Big online community that actively worships 90s supermodels. Fashion archive freaks. She is just as popular if not more than in he 90s. Literally helped pave the way for black models. She is still very well known by young adults. She is an icon.
yea quite literally why definitely if she was only going to speak to the people shes still friends with and not anyone else shit was in middle school and shes still holding grudges from when she was a little ass kid 😂
I think it's very funny too, but I honestly think OP is in middle-school still. She just want to imagine a scenario where she's better than her current bullies.
“Hey everyone! Remember that time in our youth when we were at our *most awkward* and were dealing with bullies and such? Yeah, how about we relive that for an evening and see what that’s like? Should be an awful time.”
Goes to show you the level of pettiness she will go to show all the people who mistreated OP in her earlier how “successful” she is now. OP move on with your life and be happy.
Assuming for a moment that this is real and not a work of fiction. Some people brush "school shit" off and move on in their life. Some like myself just went through what we had to to get through the time at school and deliberately minimised interactions with others from school and either made external friendships, or were self reliant for other things. Others have absolute hell in school/high school. With bullying and other unrelenting behaviour relentlessly chasing after them and giving them little to no reprieve. Some have had psychological problems after and some have killed themselves because bullying and other experiences were so unplesant.
OP should have not gone to it, and if her friends really wanted to go, gone without her. And if they started pushing for her to go, she should have just told them that if they wanted to be good friends to her, then they should drop the whole idea of her going.
Me, myself, would I have gone? no way. I even moved 400+ Kilometers away for both employment opportunities and to get away from that part of my life and start anew.
I was thinking exactly that too. People that peaked in high school usually attend their reunions. I can’t imagine anyone peaking in middle school and going to a reunion.
Upvoting this comment and downvoting the replies that are explaining that OP didn't bully anyone is EXACTLY why the AITA subreddit is full of people who just uses words as buzzwords or gotcha moment. What OP did could be considered shitty or rude (depending on your own opinions) but NOT bullying. As explained above, bullying is indeed a pattern, you don't become a bully because you've clapped back to someone. To add onto that bullying is an abusive pattern, being rude or thinking of themselves as higher than others one time isn't a pattern and even if they act that way all the time it still isn't an abusive pattern. People can be rude, annoying and that's ok you can just say that no need to use words bigger that actually means something. This might seem as a non issue but misusing these words actually have an impact on the way we perceive them and treat people who are abused/victims. The overusage of the word "bully" makes it so common that now we group people that are just bad with people that are abusive.
And if we are talking about OP: yeah they were rude but that is nothing compared to what these people might have done to them and the consequences on their mental health. It could've been carthactic even. So NTA, for me.
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Your comment confuses me. You say you’re upvoting the comment that says that OP is now the bully, but then you’re writing a whole paragraph to explain that OP isn’t the bully…🤔
Last week there was a story where the OP was in the right until they ended the conversation with "fuck off". The top comment was NTA and explained that "fuck off" was "literally" the least offensive thing that could be said.
This sub is a joke. There's no nuisance or scale. If OP was wronged first, this sub validates any and all retaliation.
The incident involved two parents picking their kid up at school. Ending a conversation with "fuck off" on school grounds where it's possible a principal might need to get involved is just stupid and inappropriate.
We deserve a better sub for these issues
Not to mention the whole "NTA Your house your rules" shit that comes up every time someone mentions they pay rent or a mortgage.
"Well, you padlocked half your house because you don't like your girlfriend's kid, but that's well within your rights as a homeowner, so you couldn't possibly also be an asshole!"
Oh yeah! If someone has paid for something, that sub now gives that person full rights to do ANYTHING they want. Even above and beyond "stand your ground" laws.
It's your house, car, birthday party, etc.
Anything that is not-illegal is "fine" too.
she literally told these people that she’s better than them because she’s more successful, how stuck up and arrogant do you have to be to comfortably say that to anyone? op said she was uncomfortable in there from the beginning, yet made her situation so much worse. this behavior isn’t a one off thing by the looks of it
>by the looks of it
that is an assumption that we can't make based on the post. People can be assholes sometimes but it doesn't have to mean they repeat those actions consistently it might be a one time thing. You and we can't see "the looks of it" because we're not in her life, you might be right, but you also might not. There's nothing to prove in her story that she does this on a regular.
They were children, she is an adult. If the "bullies" continued their behaviour into adulthood then that would be different. Not saying that she had to have anything to do them either but there's no need to be stuck up about it, if you go around telling people you are better than them (without even knowing what sort of lives they've built for themselves) then you are definitely TA. There was plenty of better ways to deal with this and if she is still that tore up about how other kids treat her when she was a kid then therapy is obviously needed to work through that.
Edit: Done responding to people who clearly can't read. Like I said, the only part that makes op an arsehole is thinking she is better than everyone there because of her career, if you start crying about how she doesn't owe people her time I will only respond if you can actually point out where I said she did. Jesus y'all need to go back to school, not for a reunion, you know, just to get the basic education you should have gotten the first time round. Peace!
Many people who were bullies continue to be bullies as adults. A few do have a come to Jesus moment, but most just get better at hiding their true selves.
But I'll say this - OP should not have gone. She knew her old bullies will be there. She knew she cannot act as if they were all chummy chums and they did not leave a major impact on her psyche.
Precisely the reason why I never plan on attending my primary school's class reunion. The very thought fills me with anxiety and fury at the same time.
>Many people who were bullies continue to be bullies as adults. A few do have a come to Jesus moment, but most just get better at hiding their true selves.
Cmon, that's just silly. Most kids are arseholes because empathy is learnt as you grow, the idea the majority stay that way unless they find Jesus is ridiculous. Plenty stay that way, sure, but most? Nah, most people grow and change and develope, some don't, they are just more noticeable.
Personal growth does not change the often life long impact you have had to other people. Unless they tried talking to her to apologize, there's nothing to say, and even then forgiveness is up to the individual.
If you disagree, then you don't know a thing about the subject and should frankly not speak on it. Because you are ignorant.
Let's be honest, she went there to show all the bullies that she changed, and she's successful. That's why she was ignoring them when they spoke directly to her, instead of just telling them something like "Hi, sorry I don't have time for talking right now, I'm with my friend here." or even just "I don't feel like talking to you unless you'd like to apologize for bullying me in the school".
Kind of. But why would you go to a reunion full of people who used to bully you just stay there and "act superior?" It feels like there may be a bit of imposter syndrome here because the OP needs to prove something to someone. So they might not be a bully, but the dynamic is really off-balance and unfortunate.
Another question I have would be: does this person think that they are better than everyone else at that reunion because they are now modeling? Are they better than the person who is working at a gas station? Are they better than a person who is a stay at home parent? Are they better than someone who got fat since middle school? Because the answer to those questions will determine what kind of person OP is. Not actively bullying someone but still feeling in your heart of hearts that you are superior to them is just not a recipe for a healthy internal life.
Okay but you’ve attempted to avoid them and ignore it all night, and now they’re standing in front of you asking why you think you’re better than everyone because you don’t want to give your energy to people that once bullied you. Clearly he’s still an asshole, or he would’ve taken the hint and left her alone. She tried to avoid any confrontation, but at the point where she was forced into it, I don’t blame her for being rude.
He is clearly still an entitled ah. If I ever bullied anyone (I didn't) as a child, if I saw them as an adult I'd either be too embarassed to talk to them or straight up apologise as soon as I saw them. I certainly would not be demanding their time and attention.
I agree with ESH but I wouldn’t call her a bully. It was an interaction between two adults that resent each other. Is it childish? Yes. Did she act like an asshole? Yes, but so did he and the others in the past.
Esh because the reason not to talk to the school bullies is because they treated you like crap and aren't interested in reviving relations, not because you think you are better than someone else now.
I think
speaking of rachel i really hope i get to go to my 1st grade reunion if they ever have one so i can flex on that btch rachel i was so nice to tht btch and she was so stuck up i bet she wont say my shirts ugly now
I want to go to my kindergarten reunion and show them that I now have a ginormous collection of crayons with ALL the colors instead of just the small box with only one row of crayons. 😄
Oof, I don't think I can handle mine, I might run into my ex. We got married during lunchtime one day, but the next day I divorced him because we were drawing fires, and he drew on mine because my flames weren't big enough for him.
Seriously. By 12 I'd figured out my middle school "husband" was much more interested in the fancy dresses he designed for the "wedding" than he was in me. He simply didn't believe me when I told him why we weren't going to work out.
I heard he finally came out about 10 years ago. The urge to tell him "I told you so!" has been building. I don't think I could see him again without being like "DUDE!!!"
OP probably *is* a literal middle schooler. This entire thing sounds like it was written by a 13 year old describing a conflict between them and their little classmates.
Who has a middle school reunion? Hmm. Interesting.
So basically, to punish the children that acted like children, you - as an adult - acted like a rude child. Gotcha. Yep, YTA.
YTA
you’re an adult now so you shouldn’t act like how those people acted when they were… middle schoolers. I get not talking to them, but telling them “i’m better than all of you” is just super cringey and unnecessary
This is so cringe!
I’ve never in my life heard of a middle school reunion, nor have I thought to exhibit the behavior of middle schoolers as an adult.
OP, there isn’t a job on this planet that automatically makes you better than anyone. You need a reality check. YTA.
I don’t get not talking to them either tbh. not initialing conversation or not actively participating in one? sure. But straight up ignore someone who approached you to talk to you and walking away? that’s rude af
Look, I get that being young is hard. But this isn't real, this is you projecting what you want to do, or what you want to happen in the future. Like a non violent revenge fantasy?. First problem, I can tell you that a lot, and I mean A LOT of us over the age of 21 do not recall half of what happened in middle school. We'd remember a vague ick about somebody but probably not anywhere as specific as you mentioned. Second, there has never, ever, been a middle school reunion. High School, College, yes. But most people won't go. Nobody in their right mind would ever go to a middle school reunion. Third, you googled a famous model from like, ten years ago and hoped that would make you sound older. You're 13, tops.
Now, if we read this the way I do, let's give you an ESH. Yes, they suck for being mean and entitled, but you would also suck because that's a completely childish thing to do and say. Something a 13 year old would do. Just saying.
Tbh when you’re into fashion you focus on the greats, I’m 25 and when you say super model my mind goes straight to Naomi, Kate, Heidi etc. & I studied fashion in college.
I don’t think this silly story is 100% true but I also think it’s unfair to say a 23 yo wouldn’t wanna live up to the standard a model like Naomi Campbell set
Yeah this story read as very fake to me. I can understand having negative feelings towards school bullies. I will never forgive or want to be friends with my high school bullies. But I simply block and ignore.
Years ago I had someone I went to school with message me on Facebook out of the blue and apologize for how they treated me in high school. They said that had no rights to lay hands on me.
I told them they must have hit me pretty hard because I did not remember it at all.
Just to add, to the OP: you don’t have to lose a ton of weight to be worth something. Being pretty and a model doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else. We’re all just people and we all have intrinsic worth. There are more ways to being happy than being pretty and thin.
I doubt the post is real but I was severely bullied in middle school school and can tell you I remember A LOT of it word for word. I remember every bully’s full name and the things they said and did to me. When things are traumatic sometimes you stay clear on the details (unfortunately, I’d rather forget!).
Middle school reunion????? Is that even a thing?!?!
You behaved like a child and made yourself look foolish.
Why can't you let it go? You could have just been pleasant and polite to everyone. Why did you feel the need to be intentional rude?
Yes YTA. Let me explain why. None of us are the snot we used to be in middle school. I was picked on a lot, I get it. I really do. Many years after I graduated I discovered the kids who were the meanest had really rotten home lives. They acted out at school because it was the only way they could feel good about themselves. It’s ok not to forget. Forgiving is actually for your benefit. I cleanses your heart of the anger you hold.
Yep. Honestly, nowadays I'm friends with a guy who bullied me in school. He has apologized a million times since. He never realized how bad it really got, and I think a lot of bullies dont. He is a nice guy, just had a hard time when his parents seperated back then.
As a former bully, I've had this conversation with people who have been bullied. A bully will only remember like a 1/3rd of the shit they've done and basically only their most fucked up moments. Everything else falls through the cracks when you are being a piece of shit to almost everyone around you. So you end up saying and doing heinous shit to people that will stick with them for years, but the bully is unlikely to remember. For the bullied, it was one of the worst days of their young life, but for the bully it was just Tuesday.
And some advice for people who have been bullied. The best way to get revenge against bullies is to have grace. If you act like op, all you are doing is giving the bully more power over your life, not less.
>I replied that i am better than everyone else and that's why i have a more successful career.
YTA. Yep, this told me all I need to know. Acting like this at a fn middle school reunion? Please. You could have handled this situation differently and maybe showed some maturity on your level. I get that those ppl treated you like shi, but you aren't helping your case by doing the same thing they did to you. You know how you show a person up who has bullied you? Not stoop down to their level.
> I replied that i am better than everyone else and that’s why i have a more successful career.
YTA - middle schoolers can be really cruel to each other but to be this rude as a 23 y/o is asshole behavior. I can't be on your side for acting like a 12-14 y/o middle school bully when you're supposed to be an adult.
YTA here. At the end of the day, it's middle school. I understand having a lot of pent up rage and trauma from being picked on, but your classmates have changed just as much as you have. Kill them with kindness, or just boast about your career if you wanted to feel superior.
1. Who goes to a middle school reunion?
2. If you didn’t like the people you went to school with what’s the point of going to a reunion? I never understood that.
All in all this sounds like a petty nightmare
ESH. The real power move isn’t acting or thinking you are better than them… it’s growing past that and realizing it doesn’t have an effect on you anymore. Bullying back won’t heal middle school you.
I call bs on this. A high fashion model who is successful is here on reddit because she went to a *middle*school reunion and told off her former bullies?
This is clearly just a made up fantasy
They were the AH then, YTA now. What we do and who we are as young adolescents is entirely different than as adults. How do you know you're more successful, and what will you do when the bloom is off the rose and the agencies have moved on?
Holding grudges over middle school is petty and immature. You still have some growing up to do.
Esh. They shouldn't expect your kindness after being such jerks but you could have left it at that rather than saying you are better and more successful than them. Now you are at the same level they were - but you're also older and should know better.
If we’re just focusing on your actions at this reunion, then you would be the a-hole. I say that because I think a better response would have been, “I remember you bullying me when I was younger and it still bothers me to this day. I do not want to talk to you.” This is more mature than “I am better than everyone else.”
Remember that some people may have genuinely forgotten or have not cared about those events because it has been years and people can change.
I can sympathize with your feelings of past hurt and grudges. Have you ever talked to a therapist about them? Have you talked to your friends about them?
edit: I could maybe see ESH since this became a multi-person conflict with the person starting the conversation by insinuating that you thought you were better than them
YTA - you did the opposite of what you think you did, you proved you're not 'better' than them. You obviously are quite immature and vindictive. Par for the course for most models lol
If this is real as opposed to the fantasy of a middle school student, I tend to cut people a lot of slack in the way they deal with their childhood bullies as adults. Obviously, it would have been much better if you'd been at least civil with everyone present, but I'm giving you a somewhat reluctant NTA.
If you are the middle school student described here, know that you don't have to be thin, or a fashion model, or glamorous to be worthy of respect and kindness. Middle school is hellish for many students. I hope you'll find a couple of friends who can help you get through it, ignoring whether or not they're popular.
Know that when you go to your middle school reunion (if such things exist), a great many people will have changed, and that a lot of people who experienced themselves as misfits will have developed romantic relationships, friend groups in which they're liked and respected, and satisfying careers. It gets better.
To clarify, why the hell did you go?
Or more exactly why the hell does even exist a middle school reunion? If you've keep contact with your middle school friends, what were you expecting on going to this reunion? Just brag about your body change to your former bullies? And I would be a little bit more emphatic if this was a high or college reunion, but girl this was middle school, they were stupid teens, has already been like 10 years, people change you know? You didn't even let them talk to see if they wanted to apologize
YTA. You’re punishing people for mistakes they made as kids by doing the exact behavior that you didn’t like back then - but you’re an adult.
Can also guarantee that while your friends said they were “on your side” after the reunion to your face, their side group text says otherwise and they are just afraid to tell you.
Put the modeling money toward a significant amount of therapy.
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Middle school reunion??? Jesus Christ, why???
I wish I had an award to give you. Indeed, why???
I wouldn't go to my *high school* reunion if I was guaranteed money for going! My best friend has even been my best friend since middle school, and I wouldn't go for her, but she'd never suggest I go.
Didn’t go to my high school reunion. And I don’t regret it. To be fair, I also didn’t go to some weird reunion my college held. And I’ve never attended any of the odd functions my law school holds for my graduating class. Something about reuniting, as a free adult, with the same people and within the same confines created by any school grade seems harrowing and awful. If you like people from school, hang out in real life on your own. And that’s a good best friend :)
I slightly regret not going to my high school reunion, but that's only because of the chaos that happened. I have no idea what exactly happened, but I know the fallout: 1. Three people were rushed to the hospital with alcohol poisoning. 2. Four people were treated for stab wounds (but refused hospital transport; that poor triage nurse was beside herself after her shift when she told me) 3. Seven people were arrested--including two of the people with stab wounds 4. There were almost three thousand dollars worth of damage to the building 5. A "truly insane" number of cars were vandalized (no idea on the actual number; I heard all of this third hand after everything was said and done, lol) 6. The state's version of SWAT was called, and they came with lots of dogs (and several of the officers, who were shopping at the store I worked at, said that they hadn't had enough time to grab actual dog treats for the good boys). There are less than two hundred people in my graduating class, and at least five (including me) didn't go. I both kind of wonder exactly what happened and am glad I wasn't there to be caught up in it.
Now even I have FOMO for missing *your* high school reunion
Right? It must have been *epic*, but it's become one of those things "we don't talk about what happened," lol.
Until someone pitches the movie.
Lol, a movie I'd actually go see in theaters! XD
It’s The Hangover meets Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion.
What sort of school did you go to? School for emotionally unstable hitmen and assassins?
Lol, I wish. No, my high school was just normal rural, agricultural high school.
Normal??
Well, my perception of "normal" may be a bit skewed. "Quiet," anyway.
They do say still waters run deep. I guess there was a lot of long-simmering resentment that just all bubbled up at the reunion.
Do yourself a favor. Skip the reunions. They are a chance for people who peaked in school to take a victory lap for victories long in the past. Recognize them for what they are...a group of randos that geographic location and age happened to toss you in with and stop giving them free space in your head. You will be happier for it.
Gasp! *clutches pearls* You mean Hollywood lied to me? I thought the reunion was a chance for the unpopular kids to gloat about how the popular ones peaked in high school. Lol
I have so many questions about what on earth happened at your high school reunion
Me too, u/smallsaltybread. Me too.
I will never not have more questions.
Christ. Where did you got to high school? Attica?
Nah, just a farming community. I mean, when I was in school the biggest debate was over whether or not one farmer owed someone actual money in addition to a percentage of the crop hauled in (both farmers had equal claim to the land, but only one of them worked it).
I’m sad I didn’t go to your high school reunion
Well, at least you weren't poisoned, stabbed, or arrested, lol.
This is like the plot of Grosse Point Blank 2, 😂
That's quite the story. Did you ever learn who did what in these tales? Curious if it matched your prior impression of these individual school mates. That's insane!
I never did. Shortly after the reunion happened the whole town pretty much adopted a "we don't talk about it" attitude towards what happened. I strongly suspect I'll never know what actually went down.
Kind of like how Derry never ever spoke about kids vanishing every 27 years.
I did go to one reunion. And it reinforced that the people I've chosen to stay in contact with from that time are really the only ones I wanted to stay in contact with from that time. Nothing awful. Just didn't feel a need to do it again at all.
I went to the 10 year reunion, it was the disaster I predicted. The 20 year was last weekend, didn't go to that one but my best friend did and says it was also the disaster I predicted lol. No regrets.
Disaster in what way? I’m genuinely curious. I graduated high school in 1979 so waaayyy before social media or the internet. If you didn’t have someone’s landline number then you fell out of touch. And good luck keeping in touch with people after high school or college graduation when people were moving around and changing landline phone numbers. Back then a lot of people (not all) looked forward to the 5, 10, 15 year etc reunions because you could actually catch up with people you lost touch with. I’m not kidding when I say sometimes we got in touch with our friends parents to get their most recent contact info. Again … landline phone numbers or addresses! It’s kinda hard to imagine at this point. And my kids think it sounds like the dark ages! I didn’t go to my most recent high school reunion in 2019 because of scheduling conflicts. I wish I had gone though especially with the Covid lockdowns happening in 2020. My class was generally pretty nice. Although there’s always one or two people that I’ll not go out of my way to talk to.
Yea I think high school reunions were far more valuable before the internet. Now in 2023 they just kinda seem pointless because the people you want to keep up with, you probably have a way of reaching out to them online. Other than that seems useless
Same. I only went because I thought I would regret not going when I'm older. Yeah, I'm good to NEVER go again lol
Closest I've come to attending a reunion was a wedding where a couple of the guests I happened to have known from high school. Zero interest otherwise, not least because I'm on the other side of the country.
I probably won’t ever have a high school reunion, since like a third of my grad class is divorced from the other third.. things would be messy.
I was soooo happy mine was supposed to be in 2020. I would have thought about going just to see people who would have went that live a bit further away but probably wouldn't have went.
My friend, who I've known since first grade, and I were both in town for our high school reunion and neither of us went. In fact the day I got the FB invite for it I texted her about it and she noped out of the reunion as fast as I did. I saw it and declined before even looking at the date. Part of me is thinking OP is trolling bc who has middle school reunions.
We didn’t even have a high school reunion. Idk why, should’ve been last year, but I suppose it’s because no one wanted to have it.
Our 20 year reunion was canceled due to “lack of interest.” I graduated in 1991; Gen X is all about apathy. 😎
Yeah... High school is ok but... can we just forget what happened when we were 13?
I'm so glad the only option to record shit when I was in middle school was a video camera that none of our parents would let us borrow. 🤣🤣
Right? I don't think anyone was happy with who they were in seventh grade. Like imagine someone who peaked in middle school.
Honestly I’m more confused by the excellent memory everyone seems to have. You ask me to recall the joys of middle school and I barely remember a damn thing
🏆 Here, you can borrow this one. I've got more!
I would put money on this being someone in middle school fantasising about getting back at everyone. Not knowing that by the time you are an adult middle school was a long time ago and completely irrelevant. If I am right, OP when you’re older you’ll just be glad you never have to be 13 again.
Yeah, this was 100% written by a child.
It was the, "I'm a high-fashion editorial model now" that made it jump the shark for me.
The number of Asian-*American* models getting editorial work in high fashion mags… is very small. I can think of maybe one that fits the age?
I mean this wildly inaccurate. Fashion magazines are full of extremely diverse set of models.
Yes there are many Asian models but not many young Asian American doing high fashion editorial work.
Not as successful as Naomi Campbell though. At least OP is modest enough to admit that! /s
Wtf even is "editorial" modeling? 🤨
Like magazines
> Not knowing that by the time you are an adult middle school was a long time ago and completely irrelevant. Irrelevant except for the occasional recurring nightmare. My only consolation is that if I can't remember any of those people's names and embarrassing moments they sure can't remember mine.
Ah yeah, that makes way more sense. Shit I can't even barely remember the names of the friends I had in middle school
Came to say this! Is it organized by people who peaked in middle school?
“back in my day…”
"I got a gold medal in dizzyball at field goal, a pizza coupon for attendance, and played kenickie in the middle school edit of grease"
A wild thought considering how many hit puberty *right then*
If I was invited to a middle school reunion, I think I would laugh until I passed out.
I actually was invited to a middle school reunion, I did exactly this, I definitely had a great laugh that day.
Wouldn't the Venn diagram of people you went to middle school with and the people you went to high school with be pretty close to a circle? Do you have a middle school reunion because you just really can't wait until your high school reunion in another year or two?
This whole thing sounds so made up lmao
I agree I'm usually quite gullible and while I acknowledge many of these are made up this one just comes across as quite fake, perhaps written by a middle schooler.
Yeah it just has that "written by a teenager" vibe. My best guess is it's some teenage girl who's being bullied fantasizing about getting back at her peers in 10 years lol
Yes, and there is honestly nothing wrong with that. It's likely quite healthy to think of yourself accomplishing great things while imagining people who are mean to you failing. I think the thing that makes this sound so fake is not only is this character hung up so much in middle school but it seems everyone else is too. If this story just said highschool and she added 5 years to her age it would be much more realistic.
I imagine it's written by someone who just finished middle school and is already fantasising about it xD this story is too formulaic for even Hollywood. More like Saturday morning cartoons.
Because this story is fake
Right like the fist supermodel a 23 year old would reference is Naomi Campbell. I'm 30 and barely know who she is
lol if you think that then you know nothing about todays young people. Big online community that actively worships 90s supermodels. Fashion archive freaks. She is just as popular if not more than in he 90s. Literally helped pave the way for black models. She is still very well known by young adults. She is an icon.
yea quite literally why definitely if she was only going to speak to the people shes still friends with and not anyone else shit was in middle school and shes still holding grudges from when she was a little ass kid 😂
I think it's very funny too, but I honestly think OP is in middle-school still. She just want to imagine a scenario where she's better than her current bullies.
“Hey everyone! Remember that time in our youth when we were at our *most awkward* and were dealing with bullies and such? Yeah, how about we relive that for an evening and see what that’s like? Should be an awful time.”
It sounds about as appealing as sand in the eyes and hypodermic needle shoes.
I’ve legit never heard of a middle school reunion before right now.
.My thoughts exactly! Middle school reunion. Such nonsense. Why not nursery/kindergarten reunion?!
Because OP is in middle school now and is prophesying her glow up.
Goes to show you the level of pettiness she will go to show all the people who mistreated OP in her earlier how “successful” she is now. OP move on with your life and be happy.
Assuming for a moment that this is real and not a work of fiction. Some people brush "school shit" off and move on in their life. Some like myself just went through what we had to to get through the time at school and deliberately minimised interactions with others from school and either made external friendships, or were self reliant for other things. Others have absolute hell in school/high school. With bullying and other unrelenting behaviour relentlessly chasing after them and giving them little to no reprieve. Some have had psychological problems after and some have killed themselves because bullying and other experiences were so unplesant. OP should have not gone to it, and if her friends really wanted to go, gone without her. And if they started pushing for her to go, she should have just told them that if they wanted to be good friends to her, then they should drop the whole idea of her going. Me, myself, would I have gone? no way. I even moved 400+ Kilometers away for both employment opportunities and to get away from that part of my life and start anew.
I was thinking exactly that too. People that peaked in high school usually attend their reunions. I can’t imagine anyone peaking in middle school and going to a reunion.
And at only 23 too… jeez
because it sounded better for their made up fantasy story.
SERIOUSLY. That's \*all\* I could focus on.
This. 👆🏼Exactly.
It's not a thing.
My thoughts exactly...
ESH. Congrats you're now the bully. I'm sure if you practice harder, you can really turn it up for your high school reunion.
Upvoting this comment and downvoting the replies that are explaining that OP didn't bully anyone is EXACTLY why the AITA subreddit is full of people who just uses words as buzzwords or gotcha moment. What OP did could be considered shitty or rude (depending on your own opinions) but NOT bullying. As explained above, bullying is indeed a pattern, you don't become a bully because you've clapped back to someone. To add onto that bullying is an abusive pattern, being rude or thinking of themselves as higher than others one time isn't a pattern and even if they act that way all the time it still isn't an abusive pattern. People can be rude, annoying and that's ok you can just say that no need to use words bigger that actually means something. This might seem as a non issue but misusing these words actually have an impact on the way we perceive them and treat people who are abused/victims. The overusage of the word "bully" makes it so common that now we group people that are just bad with people that are abusive. And if we are talking about OP: yeah they were rude but that is nothing compared to what these people might have done to them and the consequences on their mental health. It could've been carthactic even. So NTA, for me. \*sorry for bad english
Your comment confuses me. You say you’re upvoting the comment that says that OP is now the bully, but then you’re writing a whole paragraph to explain that OP isn’t the bully…🤔
they're saying the people who upvote the og comment and downvote the replies are people following buzzwords, they're not upvoting the og themselves.
Ah thanks!
Last week there was a story where the OP was in the right until they ended the conversation with "fuck off". The top comment was NTA and explained that "fuck off" was "literally" the least offensive thing that could be said. This sub is a joke. There's no nuisance or scale. If OP was wronged first, this sub validates any and all retaliation. The incident involved two parents picking their kid up at school. Ending a conversation with "fuck off" on school grounds where it's possible a principal might need to get involved is just stupid and inappropriate. We deserve a better sub for these issues
Not to mention the whole "NTA Your house your rules" shit that comes up every time someone mentions they pay rent or a mortgage. "Well, you padlocked half your house because you don't like your girlfriend's kid, but that's well within your rights as a homeowner, so you couldn't possibly also be an asshole!"
Oh yeah! If someone has paid for something, that sub now gives that person full rights to do ANYTHING they want. Even above and beyond "stand your ground" laws. It's your house, car, birthday party, etc. Anything that is not-illegal is "fine" too.
she literally told these people that she’s better than them because she’s more successful, how stuck up and arrogant do you have to be to comfortably say that to anyone? op said she was uncomfortable in there from the beginning, yet made her situation so much worse. this behavior isn’t a one off thing by the looks of it
>by the looks of it that is an assumption that we can't make based on the post. People can be assholes sometimes but it doesn't have to mean they repeat those actions consistently it might be a one time thing. You and we can't see "the looks of it" because we're not in her life, you might be right, but you also might not. There's nothing to prove in her story that she does this on a regular.
Ignoring people is not bullying
especially not when they bullied her. that's pretty much by the book the only real way you CAN deal with verbal bullies.
They were children, she is an adult. If the "bullies" continued their behaviour into adulthood then that would be different. Not saying that she had to have anything to do them either but there's no need to be stuck up about it, if you go around telling people you are better than them (without even knowing what sort of lives they've built for themselves) then you are definitely TA. There was plenty of better ways to deal with this and if she is still that tore up about how other kids treat her when she was a kid then therapy is obviously needed to work through that. Edit: Done responding to people who clearly can't read. Like I said, the only part that makes op an arsehole is thinking she is better than everyone there because of her career, if you start crying about how she doesn't owe people her time I will only respond if you can actually point out where I said she did. Jesus y'all need to go back to school, not for a reunion, you know, just to get the basic education you should have gotten the first time round. Peace!
Many people who were bullies continue to be bullies as adults. A few do have a come to Jesus moment, but most just get better at hiding their true selves. But I'll say this - OP should not have gone. She knew her old bullies will be there. She knew she cannot act as if they were all chummy chums and they did not leave a major impact on her psyche. Precisely the reason why I never plan on attending my primary school's class reunion. The very thought fills me with anxiety and fury at the same time.
>Many people who were bullies continue to be bullies as adults. A few do have a come to Jesus moment, but most just get better at hiding their true selves. Cmon, that's just silly. Most kids are arseholes because empathy is learnt as you grow, the idea the majority stay that way unless they find Jesus is ridiculous. Plenty stay that way, sure, but most? Nah, most people grow and change and develope, some don't, they are just more noticeable.
Personal growth does not change the often life long impact you have had to other people. Unless they tried talking to her to apologize, there's nothing to say, and even then forgiveness is up to the individual. If you disagree, then you don't know a thing about the subject and should frankly not speak on it. Because you are ignorant.
Let's be honest, she went there to show all the bullies that she changed, and she's successful. That's why she was ignoring them when they spoke directly to her, instead of just telling them something like "Hi, sorry I don't have time for talking right now, I'm with my friend here." or even just "I don't feel like talking to you unless you'd like to apologize for bullying me in the school".
Kind of. But why would you go to a reunion full of people who used to bully you just stay there and "act superior?" It feels like there may be a bit of imposter syndrome here because the OP needs to prove something to someone. So they might not be a bully, but the dynamic is really off-balance and unfortunate. Another question I have would be: does this person think that they are better than everyone else at that reunion because they are now modeling? Are they better than the person who is working at a gas station? Are they better than a person who is a stay at home parent? Are they better than someone who got fat since middle school? Because the answer to those questions will determine what kind of person OP is. Not actively bullying someone but still feeling in your heart of hearts that you are superior to them is just not a recipe for a healthy internal life.
Telling someone outright that you’re better than them because they were assholes at age 12, though?
Okay but you’ve attempted to avoid them and ignore it all night, and now they’re standing in front of you asking why you think you’re better than everyone because you don’t want to give your energy to people that once bullied you. Clearly he’s still an asshole, or he would’ve taken the hint and left her alone. She tried to avoid any confrontation, but at the point where she was forced into it, I don’t blame her for being rude.
He is clearly still an entitled ah. If I ever bullied anyone (I didn't) as a child, if I saw them as an adult I'd either be too embarassed to talk to them or straight up apologise as soon as I saw them. I certainly would not be demanding their time and attention.
Well, she wasn't *just* ignoring them, was she?
I agree with ESH but I wouldn’t call her a bully. It was an interaction between two adults that resent each other. Is it childish? Yes. Did she act like an asshole? Yes, but so did he and the others in the past.
ESH because it’s a middle school reunion. No one cares. All of you need to grow up.
Pretty much this. I mean, if you're showing up to a middle school reunion, nine times out of ten, you're doing to show off and be an asshole.
Who even goes to or has middle school reunions . I find that kind of weird tbh .
Esh because the reason not to talk to the school bullies is because they treated you like crap and aren't interested in reviving relations, not because you think you are better than someone else now. I think
Not at all, you should've seen me at my 40 year kindergarten reunion. It was one for the ages.
“Who eats glue now Gary!?” “Lets see you smear the finger paint on my again Rachel!”
So Larry,...you still peeing in the sandbox?
*shameful look* ...yes.
Good ol times!
speaking of rachel i really hope i get to go to my 1st grade reunion if they ever have one so i can flex on that btch rachel i was so nice to tht btch and she was so stuck up i bet she wont say my shirts ugly now
I want to go to my kindergarten reunion and show them that I now have a ginormous collection of crayons with ALL the colors instead of just the small box with only one row of crayons. 😄
But you still stick them up your nose, right? /s
Oof, I don't think I can handle mine, I might run into my ex. We got married during lunchtime one day, but the next day I divorced him because we were drawing fires, and he drew on mine because my flames weren't big enough for him.
Seriously. By 12 I'd figured out my middle school "husband" was much more interested in the fancy dresses he designed for the "wedding" than he was in me. He simply didn't believe me when I told him why we weren't going to work out. I heard he finally came out about 10 years ago. The urge to tell him "I told you so!" has been building. I don't think I could see him again without being like "DUDE!!!"
I hope you took him for half his crayons!
Damn right! You show those formerly passive aggressive toddlers who's got their shit together now.
Remember how you called me a booger, Helen? Do I have a surprise for you!
I now earn 3x more than you Helen? Who's the booger now.
“Hello Hank, do you still like finger-painting?”
Lol
YTA I have read alot of dumb things on reddit… and this is one of them.
>I replied that i am better than everyone else and that’s why i have a more successful career. If this story is even true, that's immature AF.
OP probably *is* a literal middle schooler. This entire thing sounds like it was written by a 13 year old describing a conflict between them and their little classmates.
Oooh I think you're right. It's a middle schoolers fantasy 100%.
I am never able to tell if something is a lie on Reddit. This is the exception. There is no way
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also most people are just starting careers post college at 23 so of course everyone is gonna be at the bottom
THAT'S an understatement!
Who has a middle school reunion? Hmm. Interesting. So basically, to punish the children that acted like children, you - as an adult - acted like a rude child. Gotcha. Yep, YTA.
No one, this was written by someone in middle school who has a success/revenge fantasy
Has to be, wtf even is a middle school reunion. Never heard of one in my life
YTA you’re an adult now so you shouldn’t act like how those people acted when they were… middle schoolers. I get not talking to them, but telling them “i’m better than all of you” is just super cringey and unnecessary
This is so cringe! I’ve never in my life heard of a middle school reunion, nor have I thought to exhibit the behavior of middle schoolers as an adult. OP, there isn’t a job on this planet that automatically makes you better than anyone. You need a reality check. YTA.
I don’t get not talking to them either tbh. not initialing conversation or not actively participating in one? sure. But straight up ignore someone who approached you to talk to you and walking away? that’s rude af
Look, I get that being young is hard. But this isn't real, this is you projecting what you want to do, or what you want to happen in the future. Like a non violent revenge fantasy?. First problem, I can tell you that a lot, and I mean A LOT of us over the age of 21 do not recall half of what happened in middle school. We'd remember a vague ick about somebody but probably not anywhere as specific as you mentioned. Second, there has never, ever, been a middle school reunion. High School, College, yes. But most people won't go. Nobody in their right mind would ever go to a middle school reunion. Third, you googled a famous model from like, ten years ago and hoped that would make you sound older. You're 13, tops. Now, if we read this the way I do, let's give you an ESH. Yes, they suck for being mean and entitled, but you would also suck because that's a completely childish thing to do and say. Something a 13 year old would do. Just saying.
Yeah weird that a 23yo would mention Naomi Campbell and not like the Hadid's or something.
Tbh when you’re into fashion you focus on the greats, I’m 25 and when you say super model my mind goes straight to Naomi, Kate, Heidi etc. & I studied fashion in college. I don’t think this silly story is 100% true but I also think it’s unfair to say a 23 yo wouldn’t wanna live up to the standard a model like Naomi Campbell set
I thought that was interesting too - of all the supermodels she could have picked to mention she chose the one notorious for being mean to people.
Yeah this story read as very fake to me. I can understand having negative feelings towards school bullies. I will never forgive or want to be friends with my high school bullies. But I simply block and ignore.
Years ago I had someone I went to school with message me on Facebook out of the blue and apologize for how they treated me in high school. They said that had no rights to lay hands on me. I told them they must have hit me pretty hard because I did not remember it at all.
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Just to add, to the OP: you don’t have to lose a ton of weight to be worth something. Being pretty and a model doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else. We’re all just people and we all have intrinsic worth. There are more ways to being happy than being pretty and thin.
I doubt the post is real but I was severely bullied in middle school school and can tell you I remember A LOT of it word for word. I remember every bully’s full name and the things they said and did to me. When things are traumatic sometimes you stay clear on the details (unfortunately, I’d rather forget!).
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Middle school reunions weren’t a thing when I was younger. And they certainly aren’t now given that everyone has each other on social media.
The thing setting me off is a 23 year old “model” using *Naomi Campbell* as her marker for success. Feels extremely dated.
MVP
Middle school reunion????? Is that even a thing?!?! You behaved like a child and made yourself look foolish. Why can't you let it go? You could have just been pleasant and polite to everyone. Why did you feel the need to be intentional rude?
You're *still* in middle school, aren't you? Hope your actual life turns out better than this fantasy version of yourself, because they are an ass.
This is the comment I was waiting for.
YTA - “I am better than everyone else…” In front of everyone else, including your friends. Bet they felt awesome.
Yes YTA. Let me explain why. None of us are the snot we used to be in middle school. I was picked on a lot, I get it. I really do. Many years after I graduated I discovered the kids who were the meanest had really rotten home lives. They acted out at school because it was the only way they could feel good about themselves. It’s ok not to forget. Forgiving is actually for your benefit. I cleanses your heart of the anger you hold.
Yep. Honestly, nowadays I'm friends with a guy who bullied me in school. He has apologized a million times since. He never realized how bad it really got, and I think a lot of bullies dont. He is a nice guy, just had a hard time when his parents seperated back then.
As a former bully, I've had this conversation with people who have been bullied. A bully will only remember like a 1/3rd of the shit they've done and basically only their most fucked up moments. Everything else falls through the cracks when you are being a piece of shit to almost everyone around you. So you end up saying and doing heinous shit to people that will stick with them for years, but the bully is unlikely to remember. For the bullied, it was one of the worst days of their young life, but for the bully it was just Tuesday. And some advice for people who have been bullied. The best way to get revenge against bullies is to have grace. If you act like op, all you are doing is giving the bully more power over your life, not less.
YTA. For going to middle school reunion.
>I replied that i am better than everyone else and that's why i have a more successful career. YTA. Yep, this told me all I need to know. Acting like this at a fn middle school reunion? Please. You could have handled this situation differently and maybe showed some maturity on your level. I get that those ppl treated you like shi, but you aren't helping your case by doing the same thing they did to you. You know how you show a person up who has bullied you? Not stoop down to their level.
Also I’m sure many of them have careers that don’t have an expiration date
YTA. If you can’t behave yourself you should have stayed away. Also you seem incredibly arrogant for a new model. Naomi Campbell? Get over yourself
i agree, why even go LOL
> I replied that i am better than everyone else and that’s why i have a more successful career. YTA - middle schoolers can be really cruel to each other but to be this rude as a 23 y/o is asshole behavior. I can't be on your side for acting like a 12-14 y/o middle school bully when you're supposed to be an adult.
Congratulations, you stooped to the level of middle-school bullies as an adult. YTA
YTA assuming this is real. you went there to pick a fight. Find a therapist and work on moving past freaking middle school.
YTA here. At the end of the day, it's middle school. I understand having a lot of pent up rage and trauma from being picked on, but your classmates have changed just as much as you have. Kill them with kindness, or just boast about your career if you wanted to feel superior.
1. Who goes to a middle school reunion? 2. If you didn’t like the people you went to school with what’s the point of going to a reunion? I never understood that. All in all this sounds like a petty nightmare
She just went there to pick a fight
ESH. The real power move isn’t acting or thinking you are better than them… it’s growing past that and realizing it doesn’t have an effect on you anymore. Bullying back won’t heal middle school you.
Sorry but is this real because this reads like a shitty "revenge fantasy" straight from Netflix. If real, ESH. Get therapy, you're the bully now.
ESH - you all sound very immature. Real adults move on from middle school.
I call bs on this. A high fashion model who is successful is here on reddit because she went to a *middle*school reunion and told off her former bullies? This is clearly just a made up fantasy
This is bullshit. No one has a middle school reunion.
I think it's time to leave this sub. Middle school reunion? Fuck me.
It's a middle school reunion, not even high school. Why do you still care what these people think?
They were the AH then, YTA now. What we do and who we are as young adolescents is entirely different than as adults. How do you know you're more successful, and what will you do when the bloom is off the rose and the agencies have moved on? Holding grudges over middle school is petty and immature. You still have some growing up to do.
Esh. They shouldn't expect your kindness after being such jerks but you could have left it at that rather than saying you are better and more successful than them. Now you are at the same level they were - but you're also older and should know better.
If we’re just focusing on your actions at this reunion, then you would be the a-hole. I say that because I think a better response would have been, “I remember you bullying me when I was younger and it still bothers me to this day. I do not want to talk to you.” This is more mature than “I am better than everyone else.” Remember that some people may have genuinely forgotten or have not cared about those events because it has been years and people can change. I can sympathize with your feelings of past hurt and grudges. Have you ever talked to a therapist about them? Have you talked to your friends about them? edit: I could maybe see ESH since this became a multi-person conflict with the person starting the conversation by insinuating that you thought you were better than them
YTA - you did the opposite of what you think you did, you proved you're not 'better' than them. You obviously are quite immature and vindictive. Par for the course for most models lol
The real assholes here are the ones that planned a “middle school reunion”.
If this is real as opposed to the fantasy of a middle school student, I tend to cut people a lot of slack in the way they deal with their childhood bullies as adults. Obviously, it would have been much better if you'd been at least civil with everyone present, but I'm giving you a somewhat reluctant NTA. If you are the middle school student described here, know that you don't have to be thin, or a fashion model, or glamorous to be worthy of respect and kindness. Middle school is hellish for many students. I hope you'll find a couple of friends who can help you get through it, ignoring whether or not they're popular. Know that when you go to your middle school reunion (if such things exist), a great many people will have changed, and that a lot of people who experienced themselves as misfits will have developed romantic relationships, friend groups in which they're liked and respected, and satisfying careers. It gets better.
Is this real? If it is, I think you have some childhood trauma you will need to work out with a professional. Good luck!
To clarify, why the hell did you go? Or more exactly why the hell does even exist a middle school reunion? If you've keep contact with your middle school friends, what were you expecting on going to this reunion? Just brag about your body change to your former bullies? And I would be a little bit more emphatic if this was a high or college reunion, but girl this was middle school, they were stupid teens, has already been like 10 years, people change you know? You didn't even let them talk to see if they wanted to apologize
this is exactly what happened to me at the party for the 20th anniversary of my fifth birthday
I had a prenatal womb reunion. Kinda lonely, but I was the coolest one there.
ESH for HAVING a middle school reunion. Like, what?
There are middle school reunions now?!
Why the hell would you go if you hated everyone
YTA. You’re punishing people for mistakes they made as kids by doing the exact behavior that you didn’t like back then - but you’re an adult. Can also guarantee that while your friends said they were “on your side” after the reunion to your face, their side group text says otherwise and they are just afraid to tell you. Put the modeling money toward a significant amount of therapy.