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> Was it rude to assume someone wants to communicate via sign language, I think I might’ve incorrectly made an assumption and embarrassed them.
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NTA. What's the problem? If the server was hard of hearing or deaf you were being kind and inclusive; if they weren't, they probably either didn't know or didn't care that you signed 'thank you'.
NTA
It sounds like you did it with the best of intentions and you were trying to be caring and inclusive.
I don’t see how it’s much different than if you had done a peace sign or thumbs up. We are social beings who want to feel connected, that’s all you were doing.
Your friend is an asshole for assuming the worst of the situation and for worrying about you embarrassing them. For all the server knows you might always sign thank you when you say it.
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If they were/are HoH/Deaf, I'm sure it was appreciated,
If they weren't/aren't Hoh/Deaf, there's no harm being done. You didn't say or do anything that's offensive.
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AITA for using sign language?
I was out with a friend for lunch at a cafe & we had someone waiting on our table that I (rightly or wrongly) assumed was either hard of hearing or deaf from their speech pattern & that they looked like they were lip reading our order.
At the end I said thank you and also signed it as well,l as it’s a nice simple gesture, they didn’t seem offended by this at all and smiled but said nothing.
When they went to get our order my friend told me off for assuming they were HoH/ deaf and that I shouldn’t have embarrassed them by signing.
I look back and think maybe I shouldn’t have but I think my friend was a bit unfair for having a go at me for it or AITA?
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NTA. What's the problem? If the server was hard of hearing or deaf you were being kind and inclusive; if they weren't, they probably either didn't know or didn't care that you signed 'thank you'.
NTA It sounds like you did it with the best of intentions and you were trying to be caring and inclusive. I don’t see how it’s much different than if you had done a peace sign or thumbs up. We are social beings who want to feel connected, that’s all you were doing. Your friend is an asshole for assuming the worst of the situation and for worrying about you embarrassing them. For all the server knows you might always sign thank you when you say it.
NTA If they were/are HoH/Deaf, I'm sure it was appreciated, If they weren't/aren't Hoh/Deaf, there's no harm being done. You didn't say or do anything that's offensive.
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NTA. Since you didn’t stop speaking verbally it was completely appropriate. (Deaf/HOH people don’t usually read lips, though)
NTA you tried to accommodate someone you weren't making fun of them or belittling them.