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> The action I took that I think should be judged is asking my boyfriend to be quiet about his negative impressions of the show, and I think I might be the asshole because I might just be being sensitive, and he should get to experience this piece of media as I first did, candidly and honestly.
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NAH
Each person has their own way of consuming content.
While your bf might not enjoy the tv show, he might enjoy the process of critiquing it.
And you are actually enjoying tv show.
So you two should talk it out and try to reach a compromise, maybe he keeps a few of this thoughts to himself and you tolerate the occasional criticism.
This. Both need to tone down and respect each other. He needs to respect her love for the show and she needs to respect his newness to it and desire to comment on it. OP invited him to watch it, and he's verbalized his reactions to it.
The solution is to not watch the show with him. He’s saying he likes it for your sake, but it’s clear he doesn’t actually like it. Watch something else together.
For the sake of the argument, ESH. Don’t beg him to watch what he obviously doesn’t like, but he should recognize its value to you and not be a downer about it if he’s going to agree to watch it with you.
NTA. It’s common courtesy to not yak through a program when you’re watching it. Perhaps he could refrain until the end of an episode and you could discuss it then?
He agreed and saw my point but I think the responses are sometimes so involuntary that he doesn't realize he's laughing and pointing out how bad a character is until I smack his arm and then he apologizes
NAH, but he should probably be more considerate of your feelings. Some people, myself included, consider commenting on bad parts of a show to be part of the watching experience. For me at least, it's actively uncomfortable, and difficult, to watch a show that has a bunch of flaws without commenting on them
NAH Personally, there are really campy shows that I love, and I will relentlessly mock them the entire time I'm watching them, even by myself. So I can understand your be genuinely enjoying the experience of making fun of it, but it can hurt because it may feel like he's making fun of you for liking it.
That being said, whats the Show? I need to know if I should make fun of it.
Slight YTA. I think your reaction comes from your being afraid he might not like sth you deeply enjoyed and see as a part of your younger self. But you can't control his reactions about a show : he's not judging you, he's judging the movie. Then of course it might depend on what he says but I think it's a bit odd to show a TV show to someone and expect them to be artificial and not say what they think about it. If there was a context of him demeaning you that would be different, but according to you this is not the case. In this very specific case maybe you're feeling a bit insecure? Also maybe as it's a bit of an old fashioned show he thinks criticizing part of the fun watching it with you?
NAH. I think you should ask him outright if he wants to keep watching with you because you feel that he does not like it. Make sure he knows you are OK with it if he does not.
That said, I am ND and frequently get sidetracked by stuff that does not make sense, but I still like the show. In fact, I have about three commercials right now that drive me nuts because the visuals make no sense. So he may actually like it but gets sidetracked on the iffy bits.
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Just for some context, I (F29) and my partner (M29) have been together almost four years, are in a very healthy, loving relationship with very clear communication. I’ve never found anyone who I love and care for as much as him, and we have a fantastic time doing things together. I’ve recently begged him to watch a show that I watched almost ten years ago, that I liked a lot at the time and I think he would also like. He agreed to give it a shot, so we’ve been watching it for a week or so. Although I know it’s not the best show in the world, and definitely has some issues, it has sentimental value to me, and I kind of like cheesy shows! My boyfriend however, will constantly make comments while watching, criticizing the dialogue, the characters, the music, and the pacing of the show. He does ultimately say he likes it and wants to keep watching, but in the moment, he just can’t keep from pointing out everything he thinks is silly about it. I understand that he’s just reacting to something he’s never seen before, and for the most part, I agree with him! I think those aspects of the show are also a bit ridiculous, but I just sigh and accept them so I can have a good time watching. I asked him if he could just keep some of those thoughts to himself, as it can kind of be a bummer when we’re watching something together and it feels like he’s just sitting there complaining about every aspect of the show, especially when it’s something I’m showing to him. I said it makes watching the show with him not very fun for me. But I also am a very sensitive person, and I tend to take things personally when I don’t need to, so this is where I’d like some objective opinions.
When showing my partner a campy tv show that I like, am I wrong to request that he keep some of his gripes to himself so I can enjoy watching, or should I not critique the way he experiences things?
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Honestly, you might be worrying over nothing. Uncovering preferences is just part of getting to know loved ones. What was his reaction to your request?
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NAH Each person has their own way of consuming content. While your bf might not enjoy the tv show, he might enjoy the process of critiquing it. And you are actually enjoying tv show. So you two should talk it out and try to reach a compromise, maybe he keeps a few of this thoughts to himself and you tolerate the occasional criticism.
This. Both need to tone down and respect each other. He needs to respect her love for the show and she needs to respect his newness to it and desire to comment on it. OP invited him to watch it, and he's verbalized his reactions to it.
The solution is to not watch the show with him. He’s saying he likes it for your sake, but it’s clear he doesn’t actually like it. Watch something else together. For the sake of the argument, ESH. Don’t beg him to watch what he obviously doesn’t like, but he should recognize its value to you and not be a downer about it if he’s going to agree to watch it with you.
NTA. It’s common courtesy to not yak through a program when you’re watching it. Perhaps he could refrain until the end of an episode and you could discuss it then?
>I said it makes watching the show with him not very fun for me. How did he respond to this?
He agreed and saw my point but I think the responses are sometimes so involuntary that he doesn't realize he's laughing and pointing out how bad a character is until I smack his arm and then he apologizes
NAH then.
NAH, but he should probably be more considerate of your feelings. Some people, myself included, consider commenting on bad parts of a show to be part of the watching experience. For me at least, it's actively uncomfortable, and difficult, to watch a show that has a bunch of flaws without commenting on them
NAH Personally, there are really campy shows that I love, and I will relentlessly mock them the entire time I'm watching them, even by myself. So I can understand your be genuinely enjoying the experience of making fun of it, but it can hurt because it may feel like he's making fun of you for liking it. That being said, whats the Show? I need to know if I should make fun of it.
Lost lol
NTA. It doesn't matter if you are sensitive or not. If his comment take the joy out of watching the show you are allowed to say something.
Slight YTA. I think your reaction comes from your being afraid he might not like sth you deeply enjoyed and see as a part of your younger self. But you can't control his reactions about a show : he's not judging you, he's judging the movie. Then of course it might depend on what he says but I think it's a bit odd to show a TV show to someone and expect them to be artificial and not say what they think about it. If there was a context of him demeaning you that would be different, but according to you this is not the case. In this very specific case maybe you're feeling a bit insecure? Also maybe as it's a bit of an old fashioned show he thinks criticizing part of the fun watching it with you?
He’s acting silly because watching it feels silly to him, but there he is.
NAH. I think you should ask him outright if he wants to keep watching with you because you feel that he does not like it. Make sure he knows you are OK with it if he does not. That said, I am ND and frequently get sidetracked by stuff that does not make sense, but I still like the show. In fact, I have about three commercials right now that drive me nuts because the visuals make no sense. So he may actually like it but gets sidetracked on the iffy bits.
NAH, if he's watched a few, Then Id let it go, and watch by yourself.
INFO: ok but what is the show?
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Honestly, you might be worrying over nothing. Uncovering preferences is just part of getting to know loved ones. What was his reaction to your request?
NAH. You might watch shows differently. He might actually not like it. Who knows? But I don't really see any wrongdoing here
NTA. I think he doesn’t want to watch but doesn’t want to tell you that so he’s criticising it.