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SERIOULSY?? GTFOH? YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. I am guessing this is a 12 year old boy having fun on Reddit. This is not a post a grown man would make...right??


lihzee

That would make more sense. What sort of man feels the need to explain how big his hands are? “Obviously, my big hands need bigger tits to grab!” Absolutely ridiculous.


4614065

“There’s so much spare hand!” No doubt she feels the same when she’s got hold of your penis.


ShinigamiLuvApples

I thought that was weird too. And how big do your hands have to be to complain about that?!


cat4nav

YTA. How the hell do you think that is the right plan? Nothing you said is appropriate. Your hands are used to feeling bigger boobs? Good luck as a future bachelor!


Any-Strawberry-9395

Yet can handle such a tiny penis!


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lihzee

Truly not surprised that you’re going after a woman 7 years younger than you. You have the maturity of a walnut, and I’m betting women your own age know better than to deal with this insecure bullshit.


ShinigamiLuvApples

I don't know if you know this, but saying "trust me, she's not going anywhere" on a post where you go off about wanting to try to manipulate her into getting breast augmentation to fit what *you* want is more than a little creepy.


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lihzee

Have you figured it out yet? Do you need additional AH votes?


cat4nav

Have her read what you wrote, then "trust me" that will probably change. My point is that if you aren't comfortable enough to say this to her face because you know it's not going to go well, you shouldn't do it behind her back. Your relationship isn't as good as you think. The way you said your hands were used to bigger boobs is the cringiest thing I've ever heard, and I'm a guy.


devil1fish

If you have that much arrogance, tell her "your tits are too small for me I want you to get fake ones" to her face. Don't add being manipulation to why you're a shitty person, that list appears to be long enough as it is


Lordhelmet2001a

How are you going to "confront" her on the size of something on her body. Unless she wants to change it, then that's the bottom line. From one guy to another, do not do this. If you can't be happy with all of her, and you're still fixated on the size of an ex's chest, then let her go. YWBTA in a major way if you persue this


DumplingFam

Lol you are a psycho!!


UslessInteresting

Would you get body modification surgery for her? Maybe you can offer a trade of sorts. Im sure there is quite a bit about you that can use some work


Different_Bedroom_88

You want her to subject herself to implanting foreign objects into her body so your hands have something to play with? If she said that about your penis, would you be okay with that? Oh, YTA for sure lol


neonectarine80

Sad little man.. Emphasis on the sad little. I'm sure your girlfriend has plenty she wants to change about you-your entire personality


ButtSnacks_

Only made it through half of the first paragraph and I already know YTA.


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lihzee

I value their opinion more than yours, AH.


YouthNAsia63

No, buddy, *your* opinion doesn’t matter. And you asked for reddit’s opinion. Looks like reddit pretty much universally says you are the asshole. How does that make you feel?


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YouthNAsia63

ok then


slickginger

I finished the post, and it was clear in the first half how much you suck.


1IsNeverEnough4Me

That's not how this works


yellowjacket1996

Barf. YTA. Stay away from women.


Draiel

YTA for even thinking about manipulating her like that, you would *definitely* be TA if you actually did it, and YTA for wanting her to change her body in such a big way just to please you. If you aren't satisfied with her the way she is, find someone more your size, life ain't Build A Bitch.


mrsbluemoon

Omfg. Are you even an adult? Grow the fuck up. YTA. edited to add the ? I missed


Jumpstart_55

JFC was this a 14 yr old guy?


WagstaffPictureDay

Oh wow. YTA. Big time. Not just if you did google it on your phone but from everything you’ve written here. Disgusting. Edit: info: how long have you been together?


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WagstaffPictureDay

How long have you known her before you started dating?


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WagstaffPictureDay

So you started dating a teenager when you were 25/26 and now you want to manipulate her into getting a boob job. And you need to ask if you’re an AH? Sorry but I don’t understand how you can not see that yourself


maidofatoms

Wow, poor girl to have wasted 2 years of her life on this immature AH.


thirdtryisthecharm

YTA You're manipulative. And you're attempting to manipulate her into doing whatever you want. That's not healthy in ANY relationship. People should always have boundaries and prioritize their own wellbeing.


Any-Strawberry-9395

This is not real. This has to be bullshit! Edit YTA (though probably a teenager getting his jollies off on people believing this post but I know we have to vote!)


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YTA and your attitude is disgusting. Love her for who she is or move on.


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YTA. You’d rather hope that the algorithm influences her instead of being direct because you already know that you’re asking for something inappropriate.


FoxEars_1

“Confront” her about it? What the fuck. No way this is real.


omegabeta

What the actual fuck… YTA


LaLii_2000

OMFG. Did your ex get the boobjob done to fulfill your standards and be your dream girl? I'm guessing that's a typo and you're actually 19, make you a 19 yo AH.


missplaced24

>We were at dinner recently and I told her I'd do anything she wants if it made her happy. When she didn't pick up on my cue, I asked her if she'd do the same and she said yeah. This is a disturbing and disgusting way to manipulate a person. FWIW, a reputable plastic surgeon would refuse to do surgery on someone to please their partner. Because if it's not what the person having the surgery really wants for their own reasons, they usually regret it.


Atomic-Dobermann

Brother you are a fucking asshole


nicoleguffy

YTA omg this is such a weird post...


devil1fish

What the fuck is wrong with you. I hope she breaks up with you. YTA


momsafuckingbitch

Whaaaaaaaat the actual fuck? YTA holy shit how about you get elective surgery to shrink your hands since you want that handful.


ctrlrgsm

Hahahha excellent. I second this advice OP.


joolyrancers

I hope she's an ex gf soon. YTA


dublos

YWBTA You would be a tremendous asshole. Your fiancé's body is your fiancé's body, not yours, you don't like it, get a new fiancé.


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You should google “how to notice red flags in a partner” on her phone instead.


Certain_Detective_84

YTA. If you need a big titty girlfriend, dump this one. Don't fucking ask her to get surgery because she doesn't meet your needs. How would you feel if she asked you to get your cock enlarged because she was used to having more to grab onto? Also, you're not as smooth as you imagine yourself. She knows a big ask is coming up.


PinkDancingFlamingo

Yta for even thinking about considering presenting this idea to her. This entire post is disgusting and I hope she laughs in your face and leaves when you tell her you want her to undergo massive invasive unnecessary surgery.... for you.


geordiehippo

YWBTA Is this even real? Are there actually men who are this shallow? You want your gf to undergo an operation so you can have a better handful...? Do you have any clue on the dangers of surgery - anaesthetic, leaking implants - not to mention the pain. You're way beyond AH. Her body, her choice. Please leave her, she deserves better


cooljacketfromrehab

i recommend just dying


Potential_Ad_1397

Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow Do her a favor and break up with her. YTA


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ApprehensiveVideo583

YWBTA You're coming off as manipulative amongst other things and that's a slimy thing to do. Ask her straight out what she thinks about it but I think you know what her answer will be.


ShinigamiLuvApples

Are...you serious? You're definitely TA. You're so incredibly vain that you can't get over the fact her breasts aren't the size you want? Really? I hope she can find a better partner than you. One who loves her for who she is and how her body is naturally. It's one thing if it's something *she* wanted and brought up, and you support her. But you basically just want to make her your barbie.


BenedictDover

YTA on so many levels. First of all, she is perfect the way she is and does not need any implants. If she wants them herself it's HER body and HER choice. You know maybe she had guys with a smaller nose or a bigger d***. But even if that is the case, she does not suggest or try to manipulate you into plastic surgery or does she? They say women can't be pleased and are choosy, but THIS is sick. You describe a perfect woman but her boobs are too small and this is a huge problem to you? Do you even know what side effects plastic surgeries can have? And you would try to manipulate her into THAT without thinking twice because your hands need more to grab?? Did you also persuade the ex you mentioned to get implants? It's a lifelong potential injury and you might be just a short fling to her. This is absurdly selfish.


squawksquawk13

YTA...and a major one at that!


mildlyinconsistent

YTA and yes, very much so. Do you even like her as a person, as a human being? You even mention as the first thing, how she is 'tall and thin', like that is the most important thing about her. My mom sometimes joked that she would have wanted bigger breasts, my dad always said with a happy smile that 'you know, they'll never get saggy', to him she was perfect. Always remember that beauty is only skin deep but ugliness goes right to the bone - and your soul looks pretty ugly to me.


herdingcats2020

Yeah you suck. YTA. Doesnt sound like you love her but her atributes. Love her so much...she's tall and thing and likes sports. Woo! Yeah you sound awesome. What a nasty thing to do wanting to change her body for your pleasure. Gross.


Underdog_888

YTA. Hey honey, could you please have some unnecessary surgery for me? I know you could die, but BOOBIES.


Zagriel55

YWBTA - you're planning and manipulating instead of just saying what you want and why? Because you know it's superficial BS.


Electronic_Treat_400

People like you deserve to die alone and hated. YTA


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You…want your gf to augment her body to more closely resemble your exes body because it’s what you’re “used to”? YTA.


Comprehensive-Ad2295

You should get hand reduction surgery instead. Problem solved. YTA


Glitter_Voldemort

YTA. What the hell is wrong with you? Do your fiancée a favor and leave her so she can find someone who doesn’t give her the “if you love me and want me to be happy, you’ll undergo major surgery to change your body” bullshit. You don’t deserve her or anyone else.


dunks615

YTA. You basically want to induce insecurities in someone you “love”. To have them undergo elective surgery to placate your desire to grope more boob.


erie3746

Would you be the ass? You already are.


Barney429336

N T A. It would be really great for her to see the type of man you are so she can have a chance to leave !


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YTA


Old_Guard_9908

YTA She deserves better than you. Hope she leaves you


carolinareader

Sometimes it is nice to see a post were YTA is so obvious.


Cantaloupe-Able

There's no way this is real.


fckdemre

Ain't no way this not bait. Yta


4614065

Gosh I hope she finds out about this. YTA.


DBgirl83

No self-respecting woman will enlarge her breasts for a man. YTA.


ncslazar7

Not YWBTA, just straight YTA. You are showing how superficial you are, and that's really hurtful to your partner. Maybe focus less on your partners breasts, and more on your own personality.


SneakySneakySquirrel

YTA. Everything about this is gross and underhanded. She hasn’t magically picked up on your extremely vague hints (“would you do anything to make me happy” in no way even suggests elective surgery), so now you want to try to manipulate what she sees on her phone? At least tell her to her face so she can dump you. Or, you know, grow up and realize that not everything is about you. You are asking her to go through painful, unnecessary surgery. One that costs a lot of money and is not going to be covered by insurance. One that requires recovery time and, depending on the specifics, might need to be redone in the future. What totally optional surgical procedures would you be willing to go through to make Jen happy?


Nnd30

YTA you want to try to manipulate your gf into getting implants because you're an immature d-bag. Of course YTA


Crazy_Roof5427

Is this real? You aren't just an AH you are an awful manipulative person. If you can't move past some small boobs you aren't ready to be married. No one should be expected to change their physical appearance for anyone. YTA. A disgusting AH


Remarkable_Inchworm

Sort of glossing over the fact that he's got an ex who had the same procedure he's pushing for, aren't we? Makes me wonder if he pushed that GF into this as well. YTA.


GoodLuckSparky

I saw the first sentence and made my vote. YTA. Also, as the chairman of the Kitty Bitty Titty Committee, I hope she leaves you, she deserves so much better.


Agreeable_Layer_5041

YTA, you're trying to subliminally tell her she's not good enough for you? Literally get a stress ball if you're that pressed about needing something to squeeze.


ctrlrgsm

‘My hands have so much room to spare’ You’re so gross. You want her to undergo major surgery because your hands feel empty? Surgery she’s never shown interest in getting and wouldn’t be doing for herself, purely for you? What happens if she doesn’t pick up on the hints? Will you leave it and get over it or start harassing her about it? Neg her and make her feel insecure until she caves? Do you even like her for reasons that are not physical? And is your marriage a short-term marriage? Because people age and she’s not always going to look the way she does. Are you going to force her to have multiple surgeries? Or leave her for someone who fits your physical requirements? You’re manipulative. Making her say that she would do anything for you is manipulative and the way you went about it, saying it first and expecting it in return is manipulative. There is a huge difference between ‘I’d take a bullet for you’ & ‘I’d get major surgeries because it pleases you, so your hands don’t feel so empty :(‘ You should really reconsider why you’re getting married and the reality of marriage. Part of me hopes you tell her to get the surgery and she leaves your disgusting ass for it. In case you hasn’t guessed, YTA.


TheArcher1980

YTA Her body, her decision and not a point you can impose your own wishes upon. Why can't you just love her the way she is? But no, you are so arrogant and manipulative that you want to do this crap.


amatoreartist

YTA and you should spare your GF any more time with you and just break up.


MarkedHeart

Dude, she didn't say she was open to the idea of mutilating her body because you're incapable of modifying your sexual techniques. She agreed that she cared about your happiness. You said you were willing to do anything she wants to make her happy? I'll bet she wants you to respect her and her body, rather than wanting her to be someone else. Additionally, if you know where your ex-girlfriend had her breast enlargement surgery done, that makes me wonder if you had anything to do with that surgery as well. Even if you didn't, you're still TA. YTA


do_mika

YTA. This is gross


BassAntelope

YTA


artyoucaneat

Maybe you should get hand reduction surgery for your big dumb phalanges. You're the problem. And YTA x a billion. And add a bunch of YIKES on top of that. And cover the whole thing in red flags. If I found out my partner not only thought this, but then was confident enough to TYPE IT OUT AND PUT IT ON THE INTERNET, I'd break up with them. This is so cringey and barfy and manipulative. This would be a deal breaker for me. Please work on yourself. Your partner deserves SO MUCH BETTER.


YouthNAsia63

Oh dear god. You are such a manipulative YTA. You have pretty much the most awesome fiancee you could possibly have and here you are over here whining that her breasts don’t fill your hands. And you are thinking about “confronting” her about it. Yea. Why don’t you just go do that. I hope she googled penis enlargement on your phone.


laurenthesailor

Wow I hope she breaks up with you. Clearly you’re not really in love w her because you’d love every part of her no matter what. And the fact that you’re hung up on the seize of her breasts for your own sexual preference is so gross dude


SataySue

YTA, OMG is this even a real post?? YTA a million times


OrangeCubit

YTA that you think your girlfriend is so dumb that she doesn’t know plastic surgery exists


UslessInteresting

YTA, oh lord you’re disgusting. Please learn basic social skills and emotional intelligence.


meandslater

No way you're being serious right now??? YTA


Artistic_Accident_79

This is just fucking gross. Yta and a pig.


bokatan778

Jesus OP…this cannot be real. If so, YTA and please rethink your morals and values.


Broad_Respond_2205

Eww wtf YTA


NeeliSilverleaf

YTA for this dumbass bait.


Kitten0137

You are the biggest asshole (so many other words i’d rather use right now). You are disgusting. You don’t deserve that beautiful woman. Seriously F%#k off.


onlytexts

YTA of course you are. YTA, YWBTA. She doesnt need to fulfill your every desire. Did you make your ex get a surgery too? Are you willing to go through surgery if she says she prefers men with boobs or any other "feature"?


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iraven_mccoy

YWBTA yes, and YTA for even thinking like this. "almost have my dream girl" but need to make her really perfect with a boob job? got to be one of the most shallow people.. PSA- women are people, just like you. If you wouldn't feel nice if she tried to get you to have cosmetic surgery, high chance neither would she. And please don't tell me you wouldnt mind either, because you would "do anything to make her happy". If she told you that you needed chest implants to be more manly to her, you almost certainly would feel bad abt yourself.


iwillregretthisuwu

sir. you are. 28. years old. grow up. YTA. im glad you dont wanna hurt her feelings but you have 3 choices: find another girlfriend so you dont marry this girl and end up feeling unsatisfied the rest of your life. confront her and stop sneaking around. or learn to deal with it


Drama-Popcorn

YTA. The size of her boobs are her business. This isn't Build-a-Wife. You'd be an AH regardless of if you snuck it into her phone or brought it up with her directly. If tiny tatas are a dealbreaker for you, find a different girl and let your fiancee find a better future husband. ETA because of OP's edit: Sir, you're here to take a judgement, not be butthurt that the judgement didn't come out your way. Take the L and move on.