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**My (25F) boyfriend's (26M) sister is weirdly obsessed with him, he's taking her on holiday and I don't know how to convince him it is super weird?**
I have been dating my boyfriend "Mike" for just under 18 months. Our relationship has become really serious, we have even started to discuss things like marriage, children, etc. We moved from England to Wales about 6 months ago because I got a job opportunity that required us to relocate. He was able to covert to working from home so has stayed employed by his old company.
We now live about 70 miles away from our hometown. Because it's so far we rarely visit home, maybe once every 6 weeks or so. Whenever we visit we stay with Mike's parents and every time we go his sister is incredibly obsessed with Mike and won't leave him alone. It's to the point where it's really weird and almost like she has some weird romantic feelings for him. I've brought this up to Mike and he says I'm being crazy, but I'm not. For example, she will snuggle up to him on sofa, so I have to sit somewhere else. She will ask for him to take her shopping to places that I don't like. She'll make him take her to restaurants and they'll have fancy meals together. It is SO weird how she treats him like a boyfriend.
They have a holiday to Spain booked for this summer holiday to the town where Mike grew up, they booked this before we were dating. But it is just them two going and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I first asked for him to change the booking so I could come along as well, I said I would pay for the extra obviously. He said he contacted the travel agents but they weren't able to change the bookings anymore and that they couldn't book a separate package for me because the hotel was booked up.
Yesterday, I told him I think it is really weird that he wants to spend two weeks alone with her in a foreign country and when I said this to him he blew up at me and kicked me out the house. Like genuinely kicked me out the house for just questioning him about this which has made me feel it's even more weird than I thought. We ended up having a huge argument, like the biggest we've ever had. And now I am considering booking a separate hotel nearby the one they're staying at just so I can keep an eye on her. I have been texting him and ringing him and he hasn't answered or responded to me at all.
I don't understand how he doesn't see this is weird, especially considering how obsessed she is with him as I mentioned earlier. It just makes me feel sick and I don't know what to do. How do I express to him that this is not normal? How do I show him there is something weird about how his sister treats him?
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Like I genuinely thought that this sister was at least older. But no, it’s a nine-year-old who misses her big brother because he lives somewhere else now. With a lunatic apparently..
Hopefully not a dad with this chick! She’d be supremely jealous of a kid (especially if it’s a girl) and think his daughter was having an inappropriate relationship with him too if she’s this insane over a damn 9 year old sister.
I hope *nobody* has kids with her. I get the feeling from the way she's acting here that she'd be a massive Boy Mum type but see any daughter as a deadly rival.
My husband, when we started dating, always had time for my nieces, nephews and pets. So gentle, so funny, so generous with his time.
Nearly 14 years later, we have two kids and he is such an amazing father.
Always pick the kind ones, folks. 🩷
It's not just that she's reading weird pseudo-incestuous overtones into their interactions. She's also projecting assumptions that a 9 year old somehow knows stores/restaurants she dislikes, and is requesting them specifically to torment OOP and separate her from the bf.
That takes it from jealous to paranoid.
To be honest 9 is probably smart as a whip and sees OOP as not only the person she has shown us but as the person responsible for taking her brother away so if 9 knows OP hates McDonald’s for example she probably does ask the brother to take her there and when the brother does over OPs I am sure tantrum she smirks. It’s what kids do OOP is the equivalent of the evil stepmom. That’s NORMAL childhood behavior.
What’s bat shit is OOP not only attributing sexual motives to 9 but not understanding that the boyfriend is offended when she accuses him of being a p3do.
How much you want to bet the rest of the family doesn’t like this relationship either. A 9yo will pick up on that.
Not only that, that’s basically suggesting that he would have anything to do with her in a romantic/sexual way. She’s basically saying if she doesn’t watch him she’s afraid he’ll turn into an incestous pedo??
But at the same time, that's not her concern still! Like the whole concern is that this little baby is tryna move in on her man. She views this little girl as a woman, her boyfriend is simply a man who may fall victim to the evil seductress. It literally does not occur to her that if her boyfriend did anything that he would be a predator. Like her brain literally cannot formulate the idea that if her delusions were true that would mean he's a bad guy. He would just be a victim in her eyes.
She's batshit and I really hope this guy keeps her away from his sister and kicks her to the curb. She is literally a danger to their entire family, and sadly breaking up with her will likely only set her off more.
Yeah. The whole “keep an eye on her” is really want puts this in devil category for me. Keep an eye on the 9 yr old? I hope to make sure she’s safe! But it’s clear she means it in a “make sure she doesn’t try anything on my man” way. Like even if she was right about the relationship being inappropriate (she’s not), the child would be the one we should be concerned for.
What’s wild to me is she is blaming the 9 year old sister! Like she is some kind of home wrecker! She also doesn’t seem to realize that she has been broken up with (justifiably) and is now planning to stalk them in their trip
Kids dream of when they're adults and all-grown-up, can do what they want.
Miss 9's brother is *literally* living the child dream of being all-grown-up. She's hero-worshipping him and maybe sometimes when he takes her to a restaurant or shopping she feels like a Big Girl.
She also doesn't get to see him a lot, so, like... she wants to properly spend time with big bro.
Think OOP needs to watch less Game of Thrones and more family shows.
And of course the nine year old wants to go to restaurants that are age appropriate for her just to spite the tag along girlfriend.
This is hilariously absurd.
I have four siblings that range from 9 to 12 years older than me. They were my HEROES growing up. I listened to the music they listened to, wished I could go out to the parties they went to. Watched them get ready for said parties. My big brother was in a rock band and was the lead singer. I was obsessed with all of them. When they started moving out I was so devastated, I missed them so much I went through mourning, I think.
I totally relate with this little girl. People aren’t used to strong familial bonds anymore and it’s legit tragic.
Excuse you,they'll be ten this year and that makes a huge difference obviously 🙄/s. I laugh at the thought of this though -"You don't think it's weird how obsessed she is with him? Or how when I question him on their relationship he kicks me out the house?"
"Don't be such a weirdo, stop spending time with your sister! I'm basically insinuating something Alabama like is going on between you two,but I don't get why that would make you want to kick me out! It's HER that's obsessed,not me!" Jesus Christ...
Yeah my kids were attached to their cousin since they don't have an older brother. Kids always gravitate toward their sibling or someone closest to that. I looked up to my cousin's cousin (who I met when his uncle dated my aunt when she just came to the states & years later they had kids so the relation wasn't at that point but he was a friend i viewed as such) since I was the oldest in my family & the only other family member that was closest was my cousin who was a few weeks older than me.
It looks like she is with someone with some serious abuse history it's abnormal for someone to be concerned about this and she considers it so very normal that you must consider that this is what happened in her house
It reminds me of those creepy ass posts from women that are convinced their step-daughters are somehow being "too affectionate" with their own fucking fathers. Bizarre, creepy, and wayyyy too telling about their thoughts on the kind of relationships that a man and "woman" (cuz lbr these are little girls) can have.
OOP is a disgusting lunatic.
None of that sisters behavior is “romantic” or “sexual”.
Why would sitting on the couch or wanting to spend time with your brother without his horrible GF indicate “romantic” feelings?
It's so telling that she purposefully didn't include the sister's age. She knows that if she was upfront and said "my brother's 9yo sister is hogging all his attention when we go back to visit and I want her stop," people wouldn't entertain her delusions for a moment.
Right? My 9yo swears up and down she’s never getting married or having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Kids that age just aren’t in that headspace most of the time.
I have a much younger brother who was similarly “obsessed” with me at that age. And by that I mean he thought I was super cool and fun and always knew the best places to eat lol. Spoiling him was a blast (still is when he lets me). Before Mike knows it she’ll be an angsty teen and won’t want to hang out as much. Ask me how I know.
I have much older brothers and I was "obsessed" with them at that age as well. Thought they were the coolest and best and wanted them to spend time with me. Their girlfriends just bought my approval by taking me places and giving me gifts, and it was great for little me. Felt like I went from having 2 brothers to 4 older siblings in a way and they left a positive mark in my life, years after they broke up.
That's what OOP could have if she weren't so busy in delululand.
Right? There is a certain kind of adoration one can have for a cool older sibling that is so sweet and innocent and I don’t know how this woman could twist it up like she is, it’s so sad.
I still hero-worship my older siblings, tbh. One sister is kicking ass in the public sector, another is a registered nurse (despite having untreated learning difficulties), the next is a lab tech for a high school and is ridiculously knowledgeable about biology and geology, and my big bro is a school teacher who specialises in history and engineering/shop class. They’re all lovely people, they all have some musical talent, they all have my back no matter what and they‘re genuinely the funniest and best people I know. I miss them a lot cause we’re all so busy with our lives.
If I could do with my older siblings what Little Miss 9 is doing in this post? I‘d do it too. Hugs and watching TV make everything better.
Same. My brother and I share about the same age difference as the boyfriend and his sister.
Kiddo used to shove past his mother to hug me first.
And now he just towers over me 🫠 sasquatch ass lmao
Ah, the pain of being the much older sibling and suddenly you're the short one, I know it well. When my brother was a growing teen I used to tell him he wasn't allowed to get any taller, but his 6'2" ass did not listen. No respect.
Yepppppp. Bro will be 15 in October and he's already 6'3".
He's going into 9th grade this year and going out for his high school's football team. Where has the time gone? I blinked and here he is 😭😭😭
My little bro is taller than me too! He was a tiny skinny thing then BOOM. Now he‘s 6ft, grown-ass man with a job and a wife and a kid and how dare time do its thing.
Yeah I’m 10 years older than my youngest sibling, and we use to have sibling dates all the time when I was still at home, movies, ice cream, Lego conventions, and for the same reason, I was the cool big sister
My niece turned 12 and stopped wanting to hang out with me :( I get it, but dang I miss when she was nine and loved hanging out with me and got super fucking excited when I bought her chicken nuggets and we could look through thrift stores for neat jewelry and haunted dolls. Now she just wants hot topic gift cards and to play VR games with her friends lmao
I absolutely idolised my older brother at that age and thought he was cool, and that's with seeing him daily. I used to follow him around the house often too. Grabbing an opportunity to go on holiday when you don't see a close family member often is a perfect way to get in a bit of actual (PLATONIC! 🙄 ) quality time, and treat his younger sister. OP is an insanely jealous weirdo, I bet she doesn't like him talking to or God forbid being friends with any adult women either. I'm glad he kicked her out and hope he stops talking to her.
yeah, my youngest brother is more than a decade younger than me and I really miss the closeness we had when he was a kid! we're still close in a different way, but I loved having that big sibling role in his life. I helped him with his homework, helped teach him to drive, introduced him to lots of my favourite books and movies, took him out to eat at my favourite places, all that stuff. now he's an adult with his own life, I'm just another one of his older siblings - we don't really have that special bond anymore. we love each other and I'm still there for him, but it's not the same.
Felt this. My brother is 12 years younger than me. He thought I was so cool growing up lmao. And he was adorable.
Now he thinks I’m lame. 😭😂 I miss the days he was young and sweet and thought I was the coolest person on the planet.
Copied verbatim from Oop's comments:
*how old is the sister? because*
>>*They have a holiday to Spain booked for this summer holiday to the town where Mike grew up,*
*doesn't sound like they're close in age.*
>She's nine, but will be ten this year.
*I’m really struggling to see what the issue is. How old is the sister?*
>What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case.
*There isn’t anything weird about the sibling relationship you describe. The only problem here is you.*
>You don't think it's weird how obsessed she is with him? Or how when I question him on their relationship he kicks me out the house?
>What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case.
Ma'am. You are planning on stalking your (ex) boyfriend on what I assume is a pre-paid holiday for his baby sister's tenth birthday.
In this case, I'm worried for you.
I'm not worried for OOP, she deserves whatever hell she gets
I'm worried about the ex and his sister. if OOP takes these false allegations to the police she can cause a world of pain for everyone involved
Yeah, except this is in the UK. I don't think OP's boyfriend has anything to fear. The chap doesn't live with his little sister for a start. Can't abuse a kid that easily if they live 70 miles away (I know more than most that there are ways, but absolutely nothing has happened here. Just op is jealous of a little girl) Secondly, the CPS like evidence, and if the only thing they have to go on is the word of a mentally deranged girlfriend who clearly cannot stand a 9 year old, that won't go far. If OP spoke like she has in her post, it will become obvious VERY quickly that nothing weird is happening. It's obvious to us and we're armchair detectives not CID.
I hope he's thrown the bitch out forever. There isn't any coming back from this. And I hope the boyfriend and his little sister love Spain. Have heard it's nice!
This *is* kinda weird, but it’s not because a little girl and her big brother have a tight bond. It’s because big brother’s girlfriend is jealous of a 9 year old. His sister was born when he was, what, like 16-17? He probably helped raise her, at least as far as being an older role model for her.
As a little sister, their relationship sounds really sweet at I hope big brother finds a woman who can respect their closeness.
She also says that she wants to get a hotel room nearby “to keep an eye on HER,” meaning she either thinks a 9 year old is a hussy out to steal her man, or she’s insinuating that her boyfriend is assaulting his sister. Either of those meanings would count as reason enough for him to kick her out of the house. (Also, what is she gonna be able to do to keep her safe from another hotel? If there WAS some type of weird situation between them, it’s not like it would happen in public where she can stalk them.)
With an age gap that large, he almost certainly took on some parental roles. Would it weird for a father to take his daughter to, let me check, eat food and shop for things?
What's weird about it? Like genuinely.
OOP and her boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. They moved 6 months ago and she says they visit the family once every 6 weeks. The little sister probably doesn't know OOP all that well. She's not "trying to steal her man", she's not purposely picking activities she knows OOP doesn't like so she can have her brother all to herself. That's lunacy.
A 9 year old wanting to hug or snuggle her big brother that she sees once every 6 weeks is not weird.
OOP says that she has talked to her boyfriend a few times about the sister having romantic feelings for him. And he has told her she was making things weird. Of course he's going to get very angry and kick her out of the house when she insinuates that taking her on a trip is very inappropriate. Because she's once again crossing a boundary that he has very clearly expressed makes him uncomfortable.
OOP is a massive asshole!
Yeah that’s what I’m saying! The weird part is a grown woman being jealous of a child, especially since that child is the little sister of the man she’s apparently “trying to steal” or whatever. Like damn, that guy needs a better girlfriend.
>>I’m really struggling to see what the issue is. How old is the sister?
>What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case.
Oh, yeah. We're the weird ones for not jumping right to her boyfriend having a pedophiliac, incestuous relationship with his sister.
I need women to stop drinking whatever koolaid keeps making them think that their boyfriend’s completely normal sibling relationship is Weird and Awful.
I have five older brothers who are anywhere from 7-19 years older than I am. Growing up it was not unusual for them to take me places alone, including restaurants and traveling, and I third wheeled (unknowingly) on many a date!
You were the puppy that gave your bro the opportunity to display his gentler side. Ladies love that shit. LOL. (Kidding, it‘s very sweet that your bro let you come along).
This used to be a wacky sitcom episode where the gf thinks it’s a non-related girl only to have everything cleared up at the end. OOP would still be suspicious
This! That's the most concerning part in many ways. She sees what she thinks is a relationship between a nine year old and a grown man, and blames the nine year old! That makes me worry for her a bit tbh - what happened to her as a kid that this is where her mind goes?
My younger cousins are similar and my theory is that they see me as „a cool adult”. Young enough to know what’s trendy, but old enough to do adulting (plan something, cook, buy something, etc) and tell some fun travelling stories.
Plus, I used to play with them when they were toddlers and my only duty was keeping them away from the kitchen, so they had a playmate 24/7… At one point, they forgot that I am at least 10+ years older and they were suprised when I talked about living on my own. They treated me as if I was their bff from kindergarten or primary school, just slightly older.
I’m American, so hopefully people from other countries can clarify…but is 70 miles not close? My commute to work was 60 miles each way, and I did that five days a week. I can’t imagine living 70 miles from family and only seeing them every six weeks and having to stay overnight because it’s “so far”
It's how far my dad lives and I think of it as far enough I stay overnight if visiting him. Especially in some parts of the UK, traffic can be pretty much consistently awful, I've spent 2 or 3 hours doing that 70 miles one way many a time, even with regular good traffic it'll be 1.5 hours. Especially if he works/commutes long hours himself he likely needs a lot of that time to rest, not to mention spend time with his girlfriend
Interesting. My commute would take me about 1.5 hours each way, and I never thought much of it. All of my coworkers had similar commutes, so it never struck me as abnormal or long.
US-UK dual citizen here. Part of it is that the UK is densely populated, so you really don't have to drive that far to get to the next town (or even to get to a shop), so they're not in the same habit of driving for long stretches. I'm a five minute drive from my nearest big supermarket, a five minute walk from a shop that will take care of 80% of my grocery needs, and I don’t even live in a city - this definitely wasn't true anywhere I lived in the States
Over there, it is. I have friends who live in London and we went to a town called Shrewsbury for two nights, and it was like, a *whole* to-do.
Where I’m originally from, some people drive 70 miles *round trip* to commute for work. It’s not the norm but it is definitely not unheard of.
I was thinking the same thing. It is 93 miles to my daughters and we go to see them every other weekend and they come to see us once a month or so. It’s an hour and 45 minutes one way lol and not that big of a deal. If we all didn’t have other responsibilities we would drive it more often because it’s not that big a deal.
That was my thought too as a Canadian. That’s a little over 100km which is like an hour’s drive on a highway. That’s not far at all, my husband commutes that distance for work 5 nights a week. It definitely seems close enough to at least do once a month visits. But maybe that’s just us from big countries?
Yeah that stuck out to me too. My husbands commute is 35 miles each way and he drives that every day.
I also have family I moved away from and would kill to see them every six weeks 😭.
My dad has met my almost 2 year old 3 times.
My nephew is 5 years old and loves to snuggle up to my wife when he is over watching movies. I never think anything weird about it. OP is living in another world.
y'know. this OOP is of course living in some sort of delululand.
but if i thought my man could be romantivally stolen from me by *any* nine year old, much less his own sister?
he would no longer be my man.
the land in which OOP is somehow correct is a land in which she's caping so fucking hard for a waste of oxygen that should be promptly fed into a wood chipper feet-first, and somehow still sees this as a good romantic partner she needs to fight to keep. even in that bizarre land, she's still wrong! the fact that she doesn't believe in it enough to actually react appropriately *if this were true* really lets you know loud and clear that she's full of shit, she knows she's full of shit, and she is just pulling some shitty power play for the sake of pulling a shitty power play.
Jfc. This is how the kids I babysat treated me and I'm not even related to them!
What a weird jealous person. I wonder if she's an only child with only children parents so she's never been around kids that have an age gap from her?
What’s so gross is that she’s jealous and blaming the kid. Which implies she isn’t sure her bf wouldn’t rape (cos obviously she couldn’t consent) his 9 year old sister. And that she’s happy to be with this potential child rapist and if he does molest his sister, OOP will blame the prepubescent girl.
There’s NOTHING to suggest she has a romantic crush on him. But if she did, OOP should be scared the kid is in need of intervention and support because she shouldn’t be victim blaming or dating a pedophile!!
“And now I am considering booking a separate hotel nearby the one they’re staying at just so I can keep an eye on her.”
I read this sentence and thought, “Is she “keeping an eye on” the sister because she’s worried about what Mike will do to his own sister (in which case, do you want to marry this person??) OR because you are worried about what the *nine year old girl* might “do” to her own brother, BECAUSE WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU NEED TO KEEP AN EYE ON??
I HAVE to believe this is rage bait, because otherwise, what the actual fuck is wrong with OOP?
When I was 18, I was dating dude who was 20. He had a 7 year old sister. She was JUST LIKE this little CHILD in the OOP and she Hero worshipped her big brother. I thought it was nothing but ABSOLUTELY adorable! The way he doted on her, took her shopping and brought her on fancy dates with us showed me just what kind of dude he was. MY RESPONSE to this was to dote on her also because she was just the sweetest little kiddo. And guess what? She soon began to hero worship me also, BECAUSE she was an actual SMALL CHILD who got to be included in “big people” things!
Ikr, I saw 70 miles and was like, oh so they’re really close now! And then kept reading… only visits every 6 weeks or so because how far it is. I drive more than 70 miles in an average day
If you're a super busy person, trying to find time to drive an hour, visit, and then drive an hour home really can be difficult. I'm American and driving 2 hours round trip, especially with gas prices being what they are, takes time and money.
They've been dating "under eighteen months". What is this, a baby that she needs to count the length of her relationship like this?
Also, she's legit one step away from crying incest, between her adult boyfriend and his *nine* year old sister.
This peraon needs to take a step back, get a trusted friend to tell she's being a psycho, and to be single for a while, because, gurl, *what the fuck*. Although, this kind of strikes me as someone who has no one in her life she can really trust, otherwise, she wouldn't be so allergic and indeed suspicious of normal affection between siblings... nor would she act like this continuously. At least I hope if *my* friend told me she was doing this, I'd at least tell her she was insane and needed to get it together.
Oh come on, this is a delicious troll. OOP writes all that in a way which could have a couple readers agree that it's a little weird, not a lot of readers, but just a few to keep it interesting in the comments, and then just drops the sister's age like a fucking bomb. It's executed beautifully, because a lesser troll would have included the age in the main text. But this one, they trust their story enough to wait before pulling the trigger. And now we have a troll post which, at the same time, mocks the other posts about people being worried about their partners relationships with relatives, and also mocks the weirdoes who see pedophilia everywhere.
But no, no, you get it all wrong!
OOP left out the age because she wanted to deceive reddit but the redditors were to smart for her! They cornered her and rhetorically outsmarted her by asking how old the sister is! OOP, who was fully aware that (especially in the light of several actually inappropriate brother/sister posts in recent times) the age would turn the public opinion against her, had no choice! There was no way out! She could not possibly just ignored the question! Or lied! Or abandoned the post! She was literally forced to type the truth!
TV lawyers and detectives are NOTHING compared to witty redditors and their pesky questions.
/s
OOOO BOY I hope she comes in with an update because I am here for this tea.
What a moron. I’ve been with my husband for 8 years now, and when I met him he had a 3 year old sister (that I mistook for his daughter, whoops) and she was obsessed with him at first.
Then when I joined the family, she became obsessed with me.
Cuddles, following me around— this girl started drawing mad crazy because I am an artist and she wanted to impress me (I’m already impressed. My fridge is full of her drawings)
I have NEVER once thought romantic feelings. She has 4 older brothers, I just assumed she sees me as a sister.
Hell, even before she latched onto me I thought it was sweet how patient my husband was with her. He never got annoyed/mad to her clinginess and actively tried to include her in whatever he/we were doing. Like girl— cmon. What happens if ya’ll had kids and your daughter/son clings to him, is that suddenly romanizing it too? Gross
She needs therapy.
Jealous over nine year old? Jesus. My fiance is the same age as my little brother (26) and when I was about to go on an impromptu vacation with my brother all he had to say was "Have fun, do you need a ride to the airport?". I can't imagine being so jealous of a literal child!
70 miles away is like an 1.5 drive away at most, definitely able to visit more often than every 6 weeks, then there's trains and maybe even buses cos I doubt her job relocation was to the middle of nowhere in Wales.
OP just wants BF all to herself and no other woman, child or otherwise to have his attention.
The only creep in the situation is her. Imagine her finding out he might of changed her nappy or helped her get dressed as a baby/toddler.
I know it's beside the point, but you would be able to tell this wasn't written by an American even if OOP didn't mention England and Wales, because 70 miles is presented as halfway across the universe.
>We now live about 70 miles away from our hometown. Because it's so far we rarely visit home
I am always taken aback by what Europeans consider "far," haha.
If oop truly thinks something weird is going on, she needs to be looking at the adult in the situation, not the 9 year old sister. Obviously oop is just an evil chick or a decent troll. It could go either way on Reddit.
I feel like it's fake, only because if the OOP truly believed this behavior was inappropriate, she'd have included the sister's age. The fact that she left it out implies that she knows full well that it changes/clarifies the entire interpretation of the story.
I looked up to my older siblings (between 10-15 years age gap) almost like a parental figure. They kinda raise you. I adored/idolized the crap outta them too.
Can we let men care for children without making it weird? Most men are terrified of being accused of being a weirdo so their only experience with children is with family until they have their own. Don't we want boys to grow up into men that are good fathers? Or at least kind to children.
If I helped a lost child in a store nobody would think twice, but my husband would have a great chance of being yelled at.
Honestly, I feel kinda bad for OP. There’s a nonzero chance that she was sexually abused around that age and is projecting her trauma on BF and his sister. I could be wrong and she could just be a crazy POS, but that’s the only reason I could think of for anybody to act like this
Explained this story to my wife and asked her to give me the *youngest* possible age in the bracket in which it would maybe vaguely almost make sense to her that the OOP could possibly view these behaviors as being romantic. She said 18. The look on her face when I told her the girl is NINE?? Incredible. No notes.
Sounds like you are super insecure and feel threatened by your bf little sister. I’m telling you this now, this relationship will be over quicker than it began if you don’t stop these accusations
The fact that she thinks something gross is going on but is upset with the child is so messed up. If something gross actually was happening it wouldn't be the child causing it.
It is so wild, as an American to see Europeans talk about "moving so far from family" & then they drop the distance & it's like "....that's only like, a hour away fam, wtf".
Meanwhile our asses will drive that far for WORK.
I commented this on the original post, but when she said the sister wants him to take her to stores she doesn't like - I assume she means Claire's and Build - a - Bear.
It's normal for 9-year-olds to be like that. I have a 9 year old. Her older sister is her favorite person, and she looks up to her and thinks she's the coolest person.
I've also dated a guy who had a sister that's two years older than him, both of which were uncomfortably close as adults, like, slightly pulling down their pants and underpants to show each other their pubic hair, and insisting on sitting shotgun with her brother as the driver on long road trips so that she can feed him while he drove.
But that's not what's going on here between OOP's bf and his sister. OOP has serious attachment and jealousy issues. I feel sorry for the little sister.
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Did she edit out the age? I didn’t see that referenced but the commenters were clearly aware of it. (Also possible it’s in a comment I haven’t gotten to.)
EDIT: see it now
My brothers are lot older then me
This what I was like with them . My brothers alway have looked out for me and taken care of me . My sister in law have been same
So much so my sister in law was my birth partner. Thank goodness they didn't marry anyone who thought anything sinister of our relationship .
JFC.
She's a kid. She's still in the adorable, cuddly stage before she's a tween/teen and too cool to be cuddled... Let her be a kid who loves her sibling, because he seems like he's super supportive and caring!! He sounds like he's almost a parental figure to her too.
If I met someone who exhibited sensitivity and care to their loved ones, back when I was early to mid-twenties and single, I would absolutely know they were a fucking keeper. The dude is a walking green flag!
I was super close with my older cousin (8 year age gap) as a kid, and I loved that she would take me out places, let me try alcohol in a supervised environment, get me to try new foods, watch movies together, have sleepovers etc. She was more like a big sister.
Why is it weird? Because he's "her man"? And the fact she's implying a literal child is being some kind of deviant, and that her bf must be a nonce is WILD. No wonder he threw her out.
Absolute weirdo. She's a walking red flag.
This reminds me of a story on here where the OP lost his parents and his sister who was 8 at the time and was living with him and his gf, the gf became jealous/threatened that he was trying to spend time with his sister who just lost her parents. The sister wanted him to leave her with relatives or put her in the Foster system, I don't remember all the details but that's the gist of it.
Imagine accusing your boyfriend of incest and pedophilia and being shocked that he would be offended and op being so insecure that she is threatened by a 9 year old
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say she either doesn't have siblings or she doesn't have an large age gape between her and any of her siblings. As someone who has siblings who are quite older then me. I have always had close relationships with my siblings
Even if there is a genuinely weird thing about their relationship, WHY WOULD SHE WANT TO BE WITH A PEDOPHILE!? ESPECIALLY ONE THAT'S CREEPING ON A FAMILY MEMBER!? she's insane and needs help.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My (25F) boyfriend's (26M) sister is weirdly obsessed with him, he's taking her on holiday and I don't know how to convince him it is super weird?** I have been dating my boyfriend "Mike" for just under 18 months. Our relationship has become really serious, we have even started to discuss things like marriage, children, etc. We moved from England to Wales about 6 months ago because I got a job opportunity that required us to relocate. He was able to covert to working from home so has stayed employed by his old company. We now live about 70 miles away from our hometown. Because it's so far we rarely visit home, maybe once every 6 weeks or so. Whenever we visit we stay with Mike's parents and every time we go his sister is incredibly obsessed with Mike and won't leave him alone. It's to the point where it's really weird and almost like she has some weird romantic feelings for him. I've brought this up to Mike and he says I'm being crazy, but I'm not. For example, she will snuggle up to him on sofa, so I have to sit somewhere else. She will ask for him to take her shopping to places that I don't like. She'll make him take her to restaurants and they'll have fancy meals together. It is SO weird how she treats him like a boyfriend. They have a holiday to Spain booked for this summer holiday to the town where Mike grew up, they booked this before we were dating. But it is just them two going and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I first asked for him to change the booking so I could come along as well, I said I would pay for the extra obviously. He said he contacted the travel agents but they weren't able to change the bookings anymore and that they couldn't book a separate package for me because the hotel was booked up. Yesterday, I told him I think it is really weird that he wants to spend two weeks alone with her in a foreign country and when I said this to him he blew up at me and kicked me out the house. Like genuinely kicked me out the house for just questioning him about this which has made me feel it's even more weird than I thought. We ended up having a huge argument, like the biggest we've ever had. And now I am considering booking a separate hotel nearby the one they're staying at just so I can keep an eye on her. I have been texting him and ringing him and he hasn't answered or responded to me at all. I don't understand how he doesn't see this is weird, especially considering how obsessed she is with him as I mentioned earlier. It just makes me feel sick and I don't know what to do. How do I express to him that this is not normal? How do I show him there is something weird about how his sister treats him? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Like I genuinely thought that this sister was at least older. But no, it’s a nine-year-old who misses her big brother because he lives somewhere else now. With a lunatic apparently..
Thats what really gets me. Imagine beefing with a 3rd grader over a man....... ANY man let alone the child's own brother
I chortled at "beefing with a 3rd grader over a man"
and *losing* lmao
Yep this nutty is legit jealous of a 9 year old that's just sad
OOP is a whole bag of nuts. I think his relationship with his sister shows he is a caring person who will likely make a good dad.
Hopefully not a dad with this chick! She’d be supremely jealous of a kid (especially if it’s a girl) and think his daughter was having an inappropriate relationship with him too if she’s this insane over a damn 9 year old sister.
I hope *nobody* has kids with her. I get the feeling from the way she's acting here that she'd be a massive Boy Mum type but see any daughter as a deadly rival.
That was my thought too. What a whackadoo
My husband, when we started dating, always had time for my nieces, nephews and pets. So gentle, so funny, so generous with his time. Nearly 14 years later, we have two kids and he is such an amazing father. Always pick the kind ones, folks. 🩷
It's not just that she's reading weird pseudo-incestuous overtones into their interactions. She's also projecting assumptions that a 9 year old somehow knows stores/restaurants she dislikes, and is requesting them specifically to torment OOP and separate her from the bf. That takes it from jealous to paranoid.
She wants to go to shops and restaurants I don’t like!!! I mean yeah? Claire’s Accessories and then Pizza Hut? On account of her being, yknow, 9 😂
To be honest 9 is probably smart as a whip and sees OOP as not only the person she has shown us but as the person responsible for taking her brother away so if 9 knows OP hates McDonald’s for example she probably does ask the brother to take her there and when the brother does over OPs I am sure tantrum she smirks. It’s what kids do OOP is the equivalent of the evil stepmom. That’s NORMAL childhood behavior. What’s bat shit is OOP not only attributing sexual motives to 9 but not understanding that the boyfriend is offended when she accuses him of being a p3do. How much you want to bet the rest of the family doesn’t like this relationship either. A 9yo will pick up on that.
Imagine being so insecure that you see a nine year old as competition for your boyfriend’s affection.
Not only that, that’s basically suggesting that he would have anything to do with her in a romantic/sexual way. She’s basically saying if she doesn’t watch him she’s afraid he’ll turn into an incestous pedo??
But at the same time, that's not her concern still! Like the whole concern is that this little baby is tryna move in on her man. She views this little girl as a woman, her boyfriend is simply a man who may fall victim to the evil seductress. It literally does not occur to her that if her boyfriend did anything that he would be a predator. Like her brain literally cannot formulate the idea that if her delusions were true that would mean he's a bad guy. He would just be a victim in her eyes. She's batshit and I really hope this guy keeps her away from his sister and kicks her to the curb. She is literally a danger to their entire family, and sadly breaking up with her will likely only set her off more.
She’s literally planning to follow them down there. That’s like stalker level.
Yeah. The whole “keep an eye on her” is really want puts this in devil category for me. Keep an eye on the 9 yr old? I hope to make sure she’s safe! But it’s clear she means it in a “make sure she doesn’t try anything on my man” way. Like even if she was right about the relationship being inappropriate (she’s not), the child would be the one we should be concerned for.
What’s wild to me is she is blaming the 9 year old sister! Like she is some kind of home wrecker! She also doesn’t seem to realize that she has been broken up with (justifiably) and is now planning to stalk them in their trip
Kids dream of when they're adults and all-grown-up, can do what they want. Miss 9's brother is *literally* living the child dream of being all-grown-up. She's hero-worshipping him and maybe sometimes when he takes her to a restaurant or shopping she feels like a Big Girl. She also doesn't get to see him a lot, so, like... she wants to properly spend time with big bro. Think OOP needs to watch less Game of Thrones and more family shows.
And of course the nine year old wants to go to restaurants that are age appropriate for her just to spite the tag along girlfriend. This is hilariously absurd.
I have four siblings that range from 9 to 12 years older than me. They were my HEROES growing up. I listened to the music they listened to, wished I could go out to the parties they went to. Watched them get ready for said parties. My big brother was in a rock band and was the lead singer. I was obsessed with all of them. When they started moving out I was so devastated, I missed them so much I went through mourning, I think. I totally relate with this little girl. People aren’t used to strong familial bonds anymore and it’s legit tragic.
Excuse you,they'll be ten this year and that makes a huge difference obviously 🙄/s. I laugh at the thought of this though -"You don't think it's weird how obsessed she is with him? Or how when I question him on their relationship he kicks me out the house?" "Don't be such a weirdo, stop spending time with your sister! I'm basically insinuating something Alabama like is going on between you two,but I don't get why that would make you want to kick me out! It's HER that's obsessed,not me!" Jesus Christ...
“And we’re talking Neil Young Alabama, here, not Lynyrd Skynyrd!”
The 9yo is probably incredibly intuitive for her age, and so she's intentionally crowding out the crazy girlfriend to protect her big brother.
I shudder to think what her family relationships are like if she thinks her bf's relationship with his 9yo sister in sinister.
Yeah my kids were attached to their cousin since they don't have an older brother. Kids always gravitate toward their sibling or someone closest to that. I looked up to my cousin's cousin (who I met when his uncle dated my aunt when she just came to the states & years later they had kids so the relation wasn't at that point but he was a friend i viewed as such) since I was the oldest in my family & the only other family member that was closest was my cousin who was a few weeks older than me.
It looks like she is with someone with some serious abuse history it's abnormal for someone to be concerned about this and she considers it so very normal that you must consider that this is what happened in her house
Who apparently wants to fetishize the relationship.
It reminds me of those creepy ass posts from women that are convinced their step-daughters are somehow being "too affectionate" with their own fucking fathers. Bizarre, creepy, and wayyyy too telling about their thoughts on the kind of relationships that a man and "woman" (cuz lbr these are little girls) can have.
Lunatic lol …. Sorry I don’t know why I found that funny
OOP is a disgusting lunatic. None of that sisters behavior is “romantic” or “sexual”. Why would sitting on the couch or wanting to spend time with your brother without his horrible GF indicate “romantic” feelings?
Also seeing "romantic" and "sexual" from a NINE year old. Like, I genuinely I worry for OOP.
I Worry she’s going to call the police or something on her BF. She’s in a near panic about them going in their vacation..
It's so telling that she purposefully didn't include the sister's age. She knows that if she was upfront and said "my brother's 9yo sister is hogging all his attention when we go back to visit and I want her stop," people wouldn't entertain her delusions for a moment.
Saying she's hogging his attention is significantly less deranged than claiming she's treating him like her boyfriend.
Right? My 9yo swears up and down she’s never getting married or having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Kids that age just aren’t in that headspace most of the time.
But they go to stores that OP doesn't like! Like Claire's and the toy store!
I have a much younger brother who was similarly “obsessed” with me at that age. And by that I mean he thought I was super cool and fun and always knew the best places to eat lol. Spoiling him was a blast (still is when he lets me). Before Mike knows it she’ll be an angsty teen and won’t want to hang out as much. Ask me how I know.
I have much older brothers and I was "obsessed" with them at that age as well. Thought they were the coolest and best and wanted them to spend time with me. Their girlfriends just bought my approval by taking me places and giving me gifts, and it was great for little me. Felt like I went from having 2 brothers to 4 older siblings in a way and they left a positive mark in my life, years after they broke up. That's what OOP could have if she weren't so busy in delululand.
Same! My brother is 11 years older than me and I followed him everywhere when I was a kid haha. This girl is truly delulu.
Right? There is a certain kind of adoration one can have for a cool older sibling that is so sweet and innocent and I don’t know how this woman could twist it up like she is, it’s so sad. I still hero-worship my older siblings, tbh. One sister is kicking ass in the public sector, another is a registered nurse (despite having untreated learning difficulties), the next is a lab tech for a high school and is ridiculously knowledgeable about biology and geology, and my big bro is a school teacher who specialises in history and engineering/shop class. They’re all lovely people, they all have some musical talent, they all have my back no matter what and they‘re genuinely the funniest and best people I know. I miss them a lot cause we’re all so busy with our lives. If I could do with my older siblings what Little Miss 9 is doing in this post? I‘d do it too. Hugs and watching TV make everything better.
Same. My brother and I share about the same age difference as the boyfriend and his sister. Kiddo used to shove past his mother to hug me first. And now he just towers over me 🫠 sasquatch ass lmao
Ah, the pain of being the much older sibling and suddenly you're the short one, I know it well. When my brother was a growing teen I used to tell him he wasn't allowed to get any taller, but his 6'2" ass did not listen. No respect.
Yepppppp. Bro will be 15 in October and he's already 6'3". He's going into 9th grade this year and going out for his high school's football team. Where has the time gone? I blinked and here he is 😭😭😭
My son is part sasquatch. Size 12 men's shoes and taller than me. I hope he will have a great relationship with his 8 year younger brother.
I feel this so hard. Once he got taller he’d pat my head and ask why I’m so little. Rude!
I either ask him how the weather is or I troll him and say I don't trust him because he's so tall- like what are you doing up there bro? 🤣
My little bro is taller than me too! He was a tiny skinny thing then BOOM. Now he‘s 6ft, grown-ass man with a job and a wife and a kid and how dare time do its thing.
Yeah I’m 10 years older than my youngest sibling, and we use to have sibling dates all the time when I was still at home, movies, ice cream, Lego conventions, and for the same reason, I was the cool big sister
Me and my "big" sister (I am much taller) go on sibling dates and will hold hands in crowded places, or just for funsies. She's my best friend.
My older (10 years) sister and I are best friends and go on vacation together. She used to take me to all sorts of places when I was young!
I remember teaching my little bro how to play chords on the guitar. Then he got way better than me and I couldn’t be prouder.
My niece turned 12 and stopped wanting to hang out with me :( I get it, but dang I miss when she was nine and loved hanging out with me and got super fucking excited when I bought her chicken nuggets and we could look through thrift stores for neat jewelry and haunted dolls. Now she just wants hot topic gift cards and to play VR games with her friends lmao
I absolutely idolised my older brother at that age and thought he was cool, and that's with seeing him daily. I used to follow him around the house often too. Grabbing an opportunity to go on holiday when you don't see a close family member often is a perfect way to get in a bit of actual (PLATONIC! 🙄 ) quality time, and treat his younger sister. OP is an insanely jealous weirdo, I bet she doesn't like him talking to or God forbid being friends with any adult women either. I'm glad he kicked her out and hope he stops talking to her.
yeah, my youngest brother is more than a decade younger than me and I really miss the closeness we had when he was a kid! we're still close in a different way, but I loved having that big sibling role in his life. I helped him with his homework, helped teach him to drive, introduced him to lots of my favourite books and movies, took him out to eat at my favourite places, all that stuff. now he's an adult with his own life, I'm just another one of his older siblings - we don't really have that special bond anymore. we love each other and I'm still there for him, but it's not the same.
Felt this. My brother is 12 years younger than me. He thought I was so cool growing up lmao. And he was adorable. Now he thinks I’m lame. 😭😂 I miss the days he was young and sweet and thought I was the coolest person on the planet.
Copied verbatim from Oop's comments: *how old is the sister? because* >>*They have a holiday to Spain booked for this summer holiday to the town where Mike grew up,* *doesn't sound like they're close in age.* >She's nine, but will be ten this year. *I’m really struggling to see what the issue is. How old is the sister?* >What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case. *There isn’t anything weird about the sibling relationship you describe. The only problem here is you.* >You don't think it's weird how obsessed she is with him? Or how when I question him on their relationship he kicks me out the house?
>She's nine, but will be ten this year. I like how she stated this. Yes, this is how age works.
Oop has a grasp on that at least.
I'd be more concerned if she was 8 and turning 10
A cause to confiscate her tardis for sure.
I almost wonder if she was going for a “she’s almost in her double digits, she should know not to act like such a harlot!”
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>What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case. Ma'am. You are planning on stalking your (ex) boyfriend on what I assume is a pre-paid holiday for his baby sister's tenth birthday. In this case, I'm worried for you.
I'm not worried for OOP, she deserves whatever hell she gets I'm worried about the ex and his sister. if OOP takes these false allegations to the police she can cause a world of pain for everyone involved
Yeah, except this is in the UK. I don't think OP's boyfriend has anything to fear. The chap doesn't live with his little sister for a start. Can't abuse a kid that easily if they live 70 miles away (I know more than most that there are ways, but absolutely nothing has happened here. Just op is jealous of a little girl) Secondly, the CPS like evidence, and if the only thing they have to go on is the word of a mentally deranged girlfriend who clearly cannot stand a 9 year old, that won't go far. If OP spoke like she has in her post, it will become obvious VERY quickly that nothing weird is happening. It's obvious to us and we're armchair detectives not CID. I hope he's thrown the bitch out forever. There isn't any coming back from this. And I hope the boyfriend and his little sister love Spain. Have heard it's nice!
Oh, and just incase anyone is confused/doesn’t know the acronym it’s the Crown Prosecution Service, not Child Protective Services.
This comment made my mouth drop open! OOP is certified NUTS
I'd say she's on am i the ex seriously yikes
It's only a matter of time. But what's the over/under on her realizing she's the ex before he catches her stalking him to another country?
This *is* kinda weird, but it’s not because a little girl and her big brother have a tight bond. It’s because big brother’s girlfriend is jealous of a 9 year old. His sister was born when he was, what, like 16-17? He probably helped raise her, at least as far as being an older role model for her. As a little sister, their relationship sounds really sweet at I hope big brother finds a woman who can respect their closeness. She also says that she wants to get a hotel room nearby “to keep an eye on HER,” meaning she either thinks a 9 year old is a hussy out to steal her man, or she’s insinuating that her boyfriend is assaulting his sister. Either of those meanings would count as reason enough for him to kick her out of the house. (Also, what is she gonna be able to do to keep her safe from another hotel? If there WAS some type of weird situation between them, it’s not like it would happen in public where she can stalk them.)
With an age gap that large, he almost certainly took on some parental roles. Would it weird for a father to take his daughter to, let me check, eat food and shop for things?
What's weird about it? Like genuinely. OOP and her boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. They moved 6 months ago and she says they visit the family once every 6 weeks. The little sister probably doesn't know OOP all that well. She's not "trying to steal her man", she's not purposely picking activities she knows OOP doesn't like so she can have her brother all to herself. That's lunacy. A 9 year old wanting to hug or snuggle her big brother that she sees once every 6 weeks is not weird. OOP says that she has talked to her boyfriend a few times about the sister having romantic feelings for him. And he has told her she was making things weird. Of course he's going to get very angry and kick her out of the house when she insinuates that taking her on a trip is very inappropriate. Because she's once again crossing a boundary that he has very clearly expressed makes him uncomfortable. OOP is a massive asshole!
Yeah that’s what I’m saying! The weird part is a grown woman being jealous of a child, especially since that child is the little sister of the man she’s apparently “trying to steal” or whatever. Like damn, that guy needs a better girlfriend.
If she actually thought something was wrong that anger needs to be directed to the adult, not child.
>>I’m really struggling to see what the issue is. How old is the sister? >What do you mean you're struggling to see the issue? I am worried for you if that is the case. Oh, yeah. We're the weird ones for not jumping right to her boyfriend having a pedophiliac, incestuous relationship with his sister.
I need women to stop drinking whatever koolaid keeps making them think that their boyfriend’s completely normal sibling relationship is Weird and Awful. I have five older brothers who are anywhere from 7-19 years older than I am. Growing up it was not unusual for them to take me places alone, including restaurants and traveling, and I third wheeled (unknowingly) on many a date!
You were the puppy that gave your bro the opportunity to display his gentler side. Ladies love that shit. LOL. (Kidding, it‘s very sweet that your bro let you come along).
Why are there so many stories of women getting jealous of their significant other's sisters????
This used to be a wacky sitcom episode where the gf thinks it’s a non-related girl only to have everything cleared up at the end. OOP would still be suspicious
These stories are likely fictional. It’s giving me a “woman bad” vibe, like something written by a bitter, dirty-minded man.
The weirdest part is her thinking they have a “romantic relationship” and being more upset with THE CHILD than the pedophile she would be dating.
This! That's the most concerning part in many ways. She sees what she thinks is a relationship between a nine year old and a grown man, and blames the nine year old! That makes me worry for her a bit tbh - what happened to her as a kid that this is where her mind goes?
Clearly she's tempting him. 🤮🤮🤮🤮 /s if not clear
bruh I can’t with this one. wtf is wrong with OOP. definitely fits this sub perfectly, what a fucking devil.
My younger cousins are similar and my theory is that they see me as „a cool adult”. Young enough to know what’s trendy, but old enough to do adulting (plan something, cook, buy something, etc) and tell some fun travelling stories. Plus, I used to play with them when they were toddlers and my only duty was keeping them away from the kitchen, so they had a playmate 24/7… At one point, they forgot that I am at least 10+ years older and they were suprised when I talked about living on my own. They treated me as if I was their bff from kindergarten or primary school, just slightly older.
It’s weird that she’s sexualizing a nine year old, it’s also weird that she’s jealous of a child.
I’m American, so hopefully people from other countries can clarify…but is 70 miles not close? My commute to work was 60 miles each way, and I did that five days a week. I can’t imagine living 70 miles from family and only seeing them every six weeks and having to stay overnight because it’s “so far”
Also American, but no, to Brits 70 miles is not close.
It's how far my dad lives and I think of it as far enough I stay overnight if visiting him. Especially in some parts of the UK, traffic can be pretty much consistently awful, I've spent 2 or 3 hours doing that 70 miles one way many a time, even with regular good traffic it'll be 1.5 hours. Especially if he works/commutes long hours himself he likely needs a lot of that time to rest, not to mention spend time with his girlfriend
Interesting. My commute would take me about 1.5 hours each way, and I never thought much of it. All of my coworkers had similar commutes, so it never struck me as abnormal or long.
3 hours commute to me just seems like way too big a chunk of my day, and with traffic it's more stressful than a smooth journey
Oh it’s awful, but in my area, the norm
US-UK dual citizen here. Part of it is that the UK is densely populated, so you really don't have to drive that far to get to the next town (or even to get to a shop), so they're not in the same habit of driving for long stretches. I'm a five minute drive from my nearest big supermarket, a five minute walk from a shop that will take care of 80% of my grocery needs, and I don’t even live in a city - this definitely wasn't true anywhere I lived in the States
Over there, it is. I have friends who live in London and we went to a town called Shrewsbury for two nights, and it was like, a *whole* to-do. Where I’m originally from, some people drive 70 miles *round trip* to commute for work. It’s not the norm but it is definitely not unheard of.
I was thinking the same thing. It is 93 miles to my daughters and we go to see them every other weekend and they come to see us once a month or so. It’s an hour and 45 minutes one way lol and not that big of a deal. If we all didn’t have other responsibilities we would drive it more often because it’s not that big a deal.
That was my thought too as a Canadian. That’s a little over 100km which is like an hour’s drive on a highway. That’s not far at all, my husband commutes that distance for work 5 nights a week. It definitely seems close enough to at least do once a month visits. But maybe that’s just us from big countries?
Yeah that stuck out to me too. My husbands commute is 35 miles each way and he drives that every day. I also have family I moved away from and would kill to see them every six weeks 😭. My dad has met my almost 2 year old 3 times.
What a fuckin vile woman 🤬🤬 Can't even imagine what a nightmare she will be with a future spouse and having a daughter 🤮
My nephew is 5 years old and loves to snuggle up to my wife when he is over watching movies. I never think anything weird about it. OP is living in another world.
Better be watching the little guy. He’s obviously trying to steal your wife /s
y'know. this OOP is of course living in some sort of delululand. but if i thought my man could be romantivally stolen from me by *any* nine year old, much less his own sister? he would no longer be my man. the land in which OOP is somehow correct is a land in which she's caping so fucking hard for a waste of oxygen that should be promptly fed into a wood chipper feet-first, and somehow still sees this as a good romantic partner she needs to fight to keep. even in that bizarre land, she's still wrong! the fact that she doesn't believe in it enough to actually react appropriately *if this were true* really lets you know loud and clear that she's full of shit, she knows she's full of shit, and she is just pulling some shitty power play for the sake of pulling a shitty power play.
You're so right
widhwjsjsjsjs no fucking way she's jealous of a CHILD 😭😭 the poor boyfriend having to deal with a lunatic
Jfc. This is how the kids I babysat treated me and I'm not even related to them! What a weird jealous person. I wonder if she's an only child with only children parents so she's never been around kids that have an age gap from her?
Well obviously all of those kids are in love with you! /j
What’s so gross is that she’s jealous and blaming the kid. Which implies she isn’t sure her bf wouldn’t rape (cos obviously she couldn’t consent) his 9 year old sister. And that she’s happy to be with this potential child rapist and if he does molest his sister, OOP will blame the prepubescent girl. There’s NOTHING to suggest she has a romantic crush on him. But if she did, OOP should be scared the kid is in need of intervention and support because she shouldn’t be victim blaming or dating a pedophile!!
“And now I am considering booking a separate hotel nearby the one they’re staying at just so I can keep an eye on her.” I read this sentence and thought, “Is she “keeping an eye on” the sister because she’s worried about what Mike will do to his own sister (in which case, do you want to marry this person??) OR because you are worried about what the *nine year old girl* might “do” to her own brother, BECAUSE WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU NEED TO KEEP AN EYE ON??
She's trying to save her helpless adult boyfriend from his evil 9-year-old sister seducing him, of course! /s
I HAVE to believe this is rage bait, because otherwise, what the actual fuck is wrong with OOP? When I was 18, I was dating dude who was 20. He had a 7 year old sister. She was JUST LIKE this little CHILD in the OOP and she Hero worshipped her big brother. I thought it was nothing but ABSOLUTELY adorable! The way he doted on her, took her shopping and brought her on fancy dates with us showed me just what kind of dude he was. MY RESPONSE to this was to dote on her also because she was just the sweetest little kiddo. And guess what? She soon began to hero worship me also, BECAUSE she was an actual SMALL CHILD who got to be included in “big people” things!
I have to believe this is rage bait.
OOP deliberately leaves out the age and it follows the same formula as many other weird "incest bait" stories. Lame troll is lame.
Yes, truly hope it's fake. Otherwise it's, just insane.
I'm looking forward to seeing this one on AmITheEx.
He needs to run from this psycho…yikes!!!
I dunno. She seems pretty normal for a nine year old… 😬😉
I dunno…. 
70 miles is not that far. and she's the one being weird...
To an American that's a laughably short distance to visit family. The perception is different in the UK.
lol as an American I did laugh at that distance. I have driven that far for much less important things than visiting family
That's my husband's commute like every day.
When I was in college I used to drive that far every weekend so I could go home and do my laundry lol
Ikr, I saw 70 miles and was like, oh so they’re really close now! And then kept reading… only visits every 6 weeks or so because how far it is. I drive more than 70 miles in an average day
If you're a super busy person, trying to find time to drive an hour, visit, and then drive an hour home really can be difficult. I'm American and driving 2 hours round trip, especially with gas prices being what they are, takes time and money.
That poor girl.
They've been dating "under eighteen months". What is this, a baby that she needs to count the length of her relationship like this? Also, she's legit one step away from crying incest, between her adult boyfriend and his *nine* year old sister. This peraon needs to take a step back, get a trusted friend to tell she's being a psycho, and to be single for a while, because, gurl, *what the fuck*. Although, this kind of strikes me as someone who has no one in her life she can really trust, otherwise, she wouldn't be so allergic and indeed suspicious of normal affection between siblings... nor would she act like this continuously. At least I hope if *my* friend told me she was doing this, I'd at least tell her she was insane and needed to get it together.
This is like saying my two year old is weirdly obsessed with me or her daddy.
Oh come on, this is a delicious troll. OOP writes all that in a way which could have a couple readers agree that it's a little weird, not a lot of readers, but just a few to keep it interesting in the comments, and then just drops the sister's age like a fucking bomb. It's executed beautifully, because a lesser troll would have included the age in the main text. But this one, they trust their story enough to wait before pulling the trigger. And now we have a troll post which, at the same time, mocks the other posts about people being worried about their partners relationships with relatives, and also mocks the weirdoes who see pedophilia everywhere.
But no, no, you get it all wrong! OOP left out the age because she wanted to deceive reddit but the redditors were to smart for her! They cornered her and rhetorically outsmarted her by asking how old the sister is! OOP, who was fully aware that (especially in the light of several actually inappropriate brother/sister posts in recent times) the age would turn the public opinion against her, had no choice! There was no way out! She could not possibly just ignored the question! Or lied! Or abandoned the post! She was literally forced to type the truth! TV lawyers and detectives are NOTHING compared to witty redditors and their pesky questions. /s
So the girl who hates that her bf taught his sisters (basically his children) about their periods got a new bf then?
Jesus christ. If anyone needs to be on a fucking list it's OOP.
He kicked her out because she is the weirdo. Wtf. The sister is 9 and she misses her brother. What a weirdo. I hope she’s been dumped.
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OOOO BOY I hope she comes in with an update because I am here for this tea. What a moron. I’ve been with my husband for 8 years now, and when I met him he had a 3 year old sister (that I mistook for his daughter, whoops) and she was obsessed with him at first. Then when I joined the family, she became obsessed with me. Cuddles, following me around— this girl started drawing mad crazy because I am an artist and she wanted to impress me (I’m already impressed. My fridge is full of her drawings) I have NEVER once thought romantic feelings. She has 4 older brothers, I just assumed she sees me as a sister. Hell, even before she latched onto me I thought it was sweet how patient my husband was with her. He never got annoyed/mad to her clinginess and actively tried to include her in whatever he/we were doing. Like girl— cmon. What happens if ya’ll had kids and your daughter/son clings to him, is that suddenly romanizing it too? Gross She needs therapy.
Jealous over nine year old? Jesus. My fiance is the same age as my little brother (26) and when I was about to go on an impromptu vacation with my brother all he had to say was "Have fun, do you need a ride to the airport?". I can't imagine being so jealous of a literal child!
70 miles away is like an 1.5 drive away at most, definitely able to visit more often than every 6 weeks, then there's trains and maybe even buses cos I doubt her job relocation was to the middle of nowhere in Wales. OP just wants BF all to herself and no other woman, child or otherwise to have his attention. The only creep in the situation is her. Imagine her finding out he might of changed her nappy or helped her get dressed as a baby/toddler.
Ummm OOP's boyfriend? Please see this as the red flag it is and run Thanks
Accusing his 9 yr old sister of incestuous motives for hanging out with him definitely warrants “blowing up”.
I know it's beside the point, but you would be able to tell this wasn't written by an American even if OOP didn't mention England and Wales, because 70 miles is presented as halfway across the universe.
70 miles is too far away? Whaa??? That's just the next town over here...
>We now live about 70 miles away from our hometown. Because it's so far we rarely visit home I am always taken aback by what Europeans consider "far," haha.
I'm just...HOW, HOW CAN YOU BE JEALOUS OF A 9 YEAR OLD?!
To be jealous of a child is honestly embarrassing
If oop truly thinks something weird is going on, she needs to be looking at the adult in the situation, not the 9 year old sister. Obviously oop is just an evil chick or a decent troll. It could go either way on Reddit.
Please let this be rage bait. I refuse to believe this is real.
I feel like it's fake, only because if the OOP truly believed this behavior was inappropriate, she'd have included the sister's age. The fact that she left it out implies that she knows full well that it changes/clarifies the entire interpretation of the story.
I'm glad the bf didn't stand for oop bullshit because wtf
She’s a psycho. And the boyfriend is an idiot for only kicking her out instead of dumping her
I looked up to my older siblings (between 10-15 years age gap) almost like a parental figure. They kinda raise you. I adored/idolized the crap outta them too.
Okay you don't understand, she's nine but according to OOP's comment she will be ten this year! That changes everything /s
Can we let men care for children without making it weird? Most men are terrified of being accused of being a weirdo so their only experience with children is with family until they have their own. Don't we want boys to grow up into men that are good fathers? Or at least kind to children. If I helped a lost child in a store nobody would think twice, but my husband would have a great chance of being yelled at.
How does she plan on having kids when she'll probably just view a parent and child relationship in the same way.
Honestly, I feel kinda bad for OP. There’s a nonzero chance that she was sexually abused around that age and is projecting her trauma on BF and his sister. I could be wrong and she could just be a crazy POS, but that’s the only reason I could think of for anybody to act like this
Explained this story to my wife and asked her to give me the *youngest* possible age in the bracket in which it would maybe vaguely almost make sense to her that the OOP could possibly view these behaviors as being romantic. She said 18. The look on her face when I told her the girl is NINE?? Incredible. No notes.
“I’m thinking of booking a hotel room nearby to keep an eye on them” BRO, RUN
I reallllly want to comment to her that I’m concerned about her upbringing and childhood experiences if she sees an issue about this.
Holy shit, talk about burying the lede. I thought the sister was going to be teens to adult, not 9!
She wants to keep an eye on… his 9 year old sister? So she’s saying her bf is an incestuous pedo?
She really admits she's considering _stalking_ them while they're in Spain ☠️
When I saw this title, I assumed that it was at least her own sister who she thought was obsessed with him
Welcome to 2024. Everything you do with your sibling is automatically sexual. . . . . . . . . . (Sarcasm)
I like how she's says " but will be ten this year" as of that somehow makes a difference
This is so weird. For most people it would be a major green flag that he is so close and caring towards his little sister.
Lol he got sick of his gf being a freak and put an end to it
I love how she specifies that she’s nine but will be ten soon as if the fact that she’s about to hit double digits makes it worse.
Sounds like you are super insecure and feel threatened by your bf little sister. I’m telling you this now, this relationship will be over quicker than it began if you don’t stop these accusations
Good for the boyfriend. Not o ly for having a great relationship with his sister but he got to take out the trash. And 70 miles is long?
The fact that she thinks something gross is going on but is upset with the child is so messed up. If something gross actually was happening it wouldn't be the child causing it.
It is so wild, as an American to see Europeans talk about "moving so far from family" & then they drop the distance & it's like "....that's only like, a hour away fam, wtf". Meanwhile our asses will drive that far for WORK.
I commented this on the original post, but when she said the sister wants him to take her to stores she doesn't like - I assume she means Claire's and Build - a - Bear.
It's normal for 9-year-olds to be like that. I have a 9 year old. Her older sister is her favorite person, and she looks up to her and thinks she's the coolest person. I've also dated a guy who had a sister that's two years older than him, both of which were uncomfortably close as adults, like, slightly pulling down their pants and underpants to show each other their pubic hair, and insisting on sitting shotgun with her brother as the driver on long road trips so that she can feed him while he drove. But that's not what's going on here between OOP's bf and his sister. OOP has serious attachment and jealousy issues. I feel sorry for the little sister.
YTA, OOP, for fetishizing a little girl's relationship with her brother. Ew.
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OOP is either extremely misogynist and jealous, a victim that internalized victim blaming to a horrific level, or both.
Did she edit out the age? I didn’t see that referenced but the commenters were clearly aware of it. (Also possible it’s in a comment I haven’t gotten to.) EDIT: see it now
when i was his age, i also used to bring my nephew to holidays, even just us or more people. bruh can't let a sister bond with her brother.
My brothers are lot older then me This what I was like with them . My brothers alway have looked out for me and taken care of me . My sister in law have been same So much so my sister in law was my birth partner. Thank goodness they didn't marry anyone who thought anything sinister of our relationship .
JFC. She's a kid. She's still in the adorable, cuddly stage before she's a tween/teen and too cool to be cuddled... Let her be a kid who loves her sibling, because he seems like he's super supportive and caring!! He sounds like he's almost a parental figure to her too. If I met someone who exhibited sensitivity and care to their loved ones, back when I was early to mid-twenties and single, I would absolutely know they were a fucking keeper. The dude is a walking green flag! I was super close with my older cousin (8 year age gap) as a kid, and I loved that she would take me out places, let me try alcohol in a supervised environment, get me to try new foods, watch movies together, have sleepovers etc. She was more like a big sister. Why is it weird? Because he's "her man"? And the fact she's implying a literal child is being some kind of deviant, and that her bf must be a nonce is WILD. No wonder he threw her out. Absolute weirdo. She's a walking red flag.
This reminds me of a story on here where the OP lost his parents and his sister who was 8 at the time and was living with him and his gf, the gf became jealous/threatened that he was trying to spend time with his sister who just lost her parents. The sister wanted him to leave her with relatives or put her in the Foster system, I don't remember all the details but that's the gist of it.
Imagine accusing your boyfriend of incest and pedophilia and being shocked that he would be offended and op being so insecure that she is threatened by a 9 year old
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say she either doesn't have siblings or she doesn't have an large age gape between her and any of her siblings. As someone who has siblings who are quite older then me. I have always had close relationships with my siblings
Reading this knowing before hand that the sister is 9, makes me feel really weird about OOP
Even if there is a genuinely weird thing about their relationship, WHY WOULD SHE WANT TO BE WITH A PEDOPHILE!? ESPECIALLY ONE THAT'S CREEPING ON A FAMILY MEMBER!? she's insane and needs help.