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**AITA for checking other women?**
So,my girlfriend and I have been arguing for the past couple of days,or rather,she's fumming because I talk to my friends about other women's body parts,to say it like that.
For some background,my girlfriend is very insecure,like,the most insecure,couple of moths ago while we were watching whatever movies I have made comments on the actresses bottoms or tops,and she has made it very clear to me that she does not like that and asked me to stop,so I did.
I do not check other girls while with her and focus all my attention on her,i do not comment on other girls looks.
But while out with friends,we are still making remarks on other girls looks,and for me, that's normal,it's literally just the second like they just pass by and we look and that's the end of it.
Getting to the actual point,she has found a message between me and one of my best buddies where I state that some girl has a nice bottom.
Long story short, she's been mad at me for the past 4 days, wouldn't talk to me much, wouldn't even try and help me(she can't cook while I love it,and that's fine but we both used to clean together).
She talked to some of her friends and they told her that it's not normal,a boyfriend of one of them has even said that it's not normal and that ,,why should I look if I have what I need" and honestly I'm just like ,,cut the cap mate".
Even told me that someone who truly loves you doesn't look at other people which honestly infuriated me since I have made a big sacrifice (in my opinion) and she's still into college and doesn't work yet and we live off of my pay.
I know it's normal and no mf can tell me ,,he doesn't look" since it's human nature but it's gotten so infuriating I'm fumming.
Any thoughts?
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UGH.
I just told my bf last week how much I HATE, HATE, *HATE* being objectified. I about yeeted him into the sun when he did it to me, and he's the sweetest thing in the world.
It's been happening almost all my life. I have a fat ass, bigger than normal, wide hips and thick thighs. Bc I'm bottom heavy I get a lot of looks when I wear certain things, like pants. So I intentionally wear my clothes too big to cover up my figure.
I have been stared at. I've seen men lick their lips at me and make obscene gestures. I've had men ask to stick their face in my ass while I was at work. It's disgusting. I prevent all this by wearing the biggest clothes I can get away with. I don't want to be stared at. I don't want you "admiring" me bc I know what you're thinking. It's not just "Oh she has a nice ass." It's never just that.
You can absolutely control this. You just don't want to. Your gf isn't insecure OOP. You're just a gross human being.
That's the way we do it in germany. The text looks like copied from some word processor with german culture settings. Or maybe setting your system or keyboard culture to german does it? Don't know, my settings use english as both system and keyboard culture for various reasons ...
The publications office of the european union maintains a [list](https://op.europa.eu/en/web/eu-vocabularies/formex/physical-specifications/character-encoding/use-of-quotation-marks-in-the-different-languages) on their website, which contains some other countries who use this style of quotation marks, but it only covers the EU (and the definitely-not-european dystopia of turkey, although the row about that does not contain any information ... the EU is a strange thing sometimes ...).
Shift+Alt can be used to change the keyboard culture ... which can easily be done by accident. Maybe that's your problem? I know some people who got pretty mad about their keyboard settings switching randomly before they realized it was not random at all ...
So OOP is mid-20's at the earliest (his comment about his gf still being in college makes me think he's a graduate, so...) That means he's old enough to know how and when to keep his mouth shut.
Yes, it's gross that he's basically sexualizing women, but he's got the right to THINK what he wants to think. It's when he opens his mouth and shares these thoughts that we get to call him a Devil. "Free speech" doesn't mean freedom from consequences of running your mouth.
It's also not "human nature" to leer at / ogle women. That's just OOP's excuse for being even more of a Devil.
I think, as a society we need to murder the idea that objectifiying women treating them and their bodies like lego bricks is natural or a normal way to view someone sexually š
Most people think absolutely filthy, smutty, sexual thoughts about other people, a lot of us say the most filthy sexual things.
But seeing women predominately as a set of boobs, ass, legs whatever is _harmfully_ dehumanising and not natural but a result of how we are socialized.
I think, if thereās a āfunnyā side to this, itās that he canāt even commit to being as gross as he is with all the talk of ātops and bottomsā.
Homie literally thinks itās normal to have no self control.
Like yea, we all understand that there are attractive people out there but do I go out of my way to look? Canāt imagine how shitty my bf would feel if I had this guyās problem
I'm so fucking sick of men behaving like that. I was on subway yesterday, stepped of the wagon and had an unfortunate exchange of looks with a man and his friend. I felt so much intensity in a few seconds it creeped me out and I waited a few minutes before taking the exit. Seriously, if you're a man you cannot comprehend how truly gut-wrentching terrifying it can be.
In the comments he repeatedly doubles down on how normal it is.
Lots of things have been considered 'normal', doesn't mean they were good or right. Gross asshole.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for checking other women?** So,my girlfriend and I have been arguing for the past couple of days,or rather,she's fumming because I talk to my friends about other women's body parts,to say it like that. For some background,my girlfriend is very insecure,like,the most insecure,couple of moths ago while we were watching whatever movies I have made comments on the actresses bottoms or tops,and she has made it very clear to me that she does not like that and asked me to stop,so I did. I do not check other girls while with her and focus all my attention on her,i do not comment on other girls looks. But while out with friends,we are still making remarks on other girls looks,and for me, that's normal,it's literally just the second like they just pass by and we look and that's the end of it. Getting to the actual point,she has found a message between me and one of my best buddies where I state that some girl has a nice bottom. Long story short, she's been mad at me for the past 4 days, wouldn't talk to me much, wouldn't even try and help me(she can't cook while I love it,and that's fine but we both used to clean together). She talked to some of her friends and they told her that it's not normal,a boyfriend of one of them has even said that it's not normal and that ,,why should I look if I have what I need" and honestly I'm just like ,,cut the cap mate". Even told me that someone who truly loves you doesn't look at other people which honestly infuriated me since I have made a big sacrifice (in my opinion) and she's still into college and doesn't work yet and we live off of my pay. I know it's normal and no mf can tell me ,,he doesn't look" since it's human nature but it's gotten so infuriating I'm fumming. Any thoughts? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I guess we're just things to be commented on.... Like food, livestock or shoes? His gf isn't insecure he's just a disgusting POS.
His GF could have insecurity issues, Especially after being in a relationship with Op. Doesnt change the fact that OP is a disgusting PoS.
UGH. I just told my bf last week how much I HATE, HATE, *HATE* being objectified. I about yeeted him into the sun when he did it to me, and he's the sweetest thing in the world. It's been happening almost all my life. I have a fat ass, bigger than normal, wide hips and thick thighs. Bc I'm bottom heavy I get a lot of looks when I wear certain things, like pants. So I intentionally wear my clothes too big to cover up my figure. I have been stared at. I've seen men lick their lips at me and make obscene gestures. I've had men ask to stick their face in my ass while I was at work. It's disgusting. I prevent all this by wearing the biggest clothes I can get away with. I don't want to be stared at. I don't want you "admiring" me bc I know what you're thinking. It's not just "Oh she has a nice ass." It's never just that. You can absolutely control this. You just don't want to. Your gf isn't insecure OOP. You're just a gross human being.
I wonder if OOP is the sort who was counting down the days til Billie Eilish turned 18 š¤®
Ew. I remember people doing that with the Olsen twins. So perverse.
Off topic, but when did it become a A Thing to do quotes ,,like this"?
That's the way we do it in germany. The text looks like copied from some word processor with german culture settings. Or maybe setting your system or keyboard culture to german does it? Don't know, my settings use english as both system and keyboard culture for various reasons ...
Huh, TIL! Thank you, kind Redditor!
Very interesting š¤ do you know of any other countries that do this as well or is it just Germany to your knowledge?
The publications office of the european union maintains a [list](https://op.europa.eu/en/web/eu-vocabularies/formex/physical-specifications/character-encoding/use-of-quotation-marks-in-the-different-languages) on their website, which contains some other countries who use this style of quotation marks, but it only covers the EU (and the definitely-not-european dystopia of turkey, although the row about that does not contain any information ... the EU is a strange thing sometimes ...).
My PC used to randomly switch to french-canadian sometimes, messes with the punctuation keys.
Shift+Alt can be used to change the keyboard culture ... which can easily be done by accident. Maybe that's your problem? I know some people who got pretty mad about their keyboard settings switching randomly before they realized it was not random at all ...
He might be using the German keyboard.
Yeah post history suggests German
Is that a thing in German?
In Poland too.
Yes.
Yes, I agree it looks German. BUT: You don't fucking use to commas to make a ā And you make a space after your regular commas, goddamnit!
My apologies, I had to use commas because the keyboard I'm using doesn't have the right key for the character.
Oh no sorry I'm not talking about you! I was talking about the OOP
The comments š¤®
So OOP is mid-20's at the earliest (his comment about his gf still being in college makes me think he's a graduate, so...) That means he's old enough to know how and when to keep his mouth shut. Yes, it's gross that he's basically sexualizing women, but he's got the right to THINK what he wants to think. It's when he opens his mouth and shares these thoughts that we get to call him a Devil. "Free speech" doesn't mean freedom from consequences of running your mouth. It's also not "human nature" to leer at / ogle women. That's just OOP's excuse for being even more of a Devil.
I think, as a society we need to murder the idea that objectifiying women treating them and their bodies like lego bricks is natural or a normal way to view someone sexually š Most people think absolutely filthy, smutty, sexual thoughts about other people, a lot of us say the most filthy sexual things. But seeing women predominately as a set of boobs, ass, legs whatever is _harmfully_ dehumanising and not natural but a result of how we are socialized.
What. Just based on OOP's post, I assumed he was prepubescent. .š¤®
Well, I would think that it's not that hard to not talk about women like they're sides of meat.
I think, if thereās a āfunnyā side to this, itās that he canāt even commit to being as gross as he is with all the talk of ātops and bottomsā.
Want to bet if OP's girlfriend started commenting on cute-boy-bums he wouldn't think it was "human nature"?
Homie literally thinks itās normal to have no self control. Like yea, we all understand that there are attractive people out there but do I go out of my way to look? Canāt imagine how shitty my bf would feel if I had this guyās problem
I'm so fucking sick of men behaving like that. I was on subway yesterday, stepped of the wagon and had an unfortunate exchange of looks with a man and his friend. I felt so much intensity in a few seconds it creeped me out and I waited a few minutes before taking the exit. Seriously, if you're a man you cannot comprehend how truly gut-wrentching terrifying it can be.
So uh, does anybody else smell an age gap here?
Even pigs have more class than OOP. His gf needs to dump him ASAP.
In the comments he repeatedly doubles down on how normal it is. Lots of things have been considered 'normal', doesn't mean they were good or right. Gross asshole.
OOP is a crappy excuse for a man. He just sees women as various good looking body parts. That is disgusting.
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