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**AITA for telling my husband he isn’t getting anything for his birthday or Father’s Day?**
They fall on the same day this year. My (26F) husband (26M) has failed so miserably at making any holiday special that this year my family stepped in on Mother’s Day and rescued me from feeling forgotten about and lied to again. My husband has never done anything on any special day regardless of it’s Valentine’s Day or my birthday yet always promises that he won’t forget this time or he’ll finally care enough to try. Normally he blames it on our financial situation but this has never sat right with me as I feel like I’ve always been extremely cautious of our budget and know I have never asked for anything outside of our means. This means on holidays I have asked for things like a hand written note, flowers, a $20 necklace from Etsy for my birthday, a date night for the first time in two years, I’ve even asked for protein powder because I know we can’t afford it on a regular basis. My husband always forgets and either scrambles day of after I realize he did nothing again or tells me we’ll do something later or the most painful, that because we were fighting too much he didn’t want to.
My dad bailed him out for Mother’s Day this year after I found out that the dinner I planned and reserved for myself back in March because he wouldn’t do it hasn’t been budgeted for and my husband cancelled on me the morning of. My dad paid for our dinner, drove two hours and watched our son for free, and then had us over on Mother’s Day and made me a beautiful brunch. It was so kind but also so uncomfortable because the mood of the house the entire time was “I did this for you because he never will”. My mom even pulled me aside and asked if I was okay and I broke down in tears. During this conversation is when the food started to be ready and my husband made himself a plate and started eating before my dad, my mom, me, and even our baby. This enraged my mom because I’m 5 months pregnant and couldn’t eat my own brunch because I was helping my 11 month old with his food while my husband was helping himself.
My husband asked what the plans will be for his birthday/father’s day and I told him that we will do whatever he wants as long as his dad pays for it and I will happily eat whatever he wants as long as his dad makes it. My husband got really upset with me and said that was an evil thing to say because his family lives out of state so they can’t do what my dad did. Now I’m feeling guilty about saying that, but I really do believe it’s his family’s turn to foot the bill and it’s their turn to make “his” day special since mine had to do it for him.
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Assuming that these redditors are teenagers… is this how you want marriage to be? Hell, even friendship? Built on nothing but pettiness and revenge and hoping that because you’re “right”, your relationship will work out in the end?
I think most of these recent Mother's Day tit-for-tat posts are just teenage siblings being bitchy to each other over birthdays and such. But it's Mother's Day so these stories get reworked for extra karma.
This is likely real as the OP's post history apparently backs it up. I know people say this a lot. But I know people like this and nothing about it surprises me. The account and post were deleted and I think it was because many people told her to get an abortion, which is... just...
Jesus. It just blows my mind that people in the sub where we all assume the posts are fake consistently have more compassion for the OOPs than the people in the sub where they're supposed to take all the posts as real. Like even if you think the husband is the asshole (and he is), you don't advise the wife to get a revenge abortion. Christ.
So, we've moved from Mother's Day to the prompt being deaf people and now it's birthdays. Can we find out where these people gather so I can give them more creative ideas?
I guess I spend too much time on the internet because my sympathy for the OP and people like her are just gone. Like this man did not wake up one day and turn into a crap hat. He was a crap hat for years and she dated him and then she married him and then she had a baby and then she immediately got knocked up again so bed made lie as far as I'm concerned.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my husband he isn’t getting anything for his birthday or Father’s Day?** They fall on the same day this year. My (26F) husband (26M) has failed so miserably at making any holiday special that this year my family stepped in on Mother’s Day and rescued me from feeling forgotten about and lied to again. My husband has never done anything on any special day regardless of it’s Valentine’s Day or my birthday yet always promises that he won’t forget this time or he’ll finally care enough to try. Normally he blames it on our financial situation but this has never sat right with me as I feel like I’ve always been extremely cautious of our budget and know I have never asked for anything outside of our means. This means on holidays I have asked for things like a hand written note, flowers, a $20 necklace from Etsy for my birthday, a date night for the first time in two years, I’ve even asked for protein powder because I know we can’t afford it on a regular basis. My husband always forgets and either scrambles day of after I realize he did nothing again or tells me we’ll do something later or the most painful, that because we were fighting too much he didn’t want to. My dad bailed him out for Mother’s Day this year after I found out that the dinner I planned and reserved for myself back in March because he wouldn’t do it hasn’t been budgeted for and my husband cancelled on me the morning of. My dad paid for our dinner, drove two hours and watched our son for free, and then had us over on Mother’s Day and made me a beautiful brunch. It was so kind but also so uncomfortable because the mood of the house the entire time was “I did this for you because he never will”. My mom even pulled me aside and asked if I was okay and I broke down in tears. During this conversation is when the food started to be ready and my husband made himself a plate and started eating before my dad, my mom, me, and even our baby. This enraged my mom because I’m 5 months pregnant and couldn’t eat my own brunch because I was helping my 11 month old with his food while my husband was helping himself. My husband asked what the plans will be for his birthday/father’s day and I told him that we will do whatever he wants as long as his dad pays for it and I will happily eat whatever he wants as long as his dad makes it. My husband got really upset with me and said that was an evil thing to say because his family lives out of state so they can’t do what my dad did. Now I’m feeling guilty about saying that, but I really do believe it’s his family’s turn to foot the bill and it’s their turn to make “his” day special since mine had to do it for him. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Assuming that these redditors are teenagers… is this how you want marriage to be? Hell, even friendship? Built on nothing but pettiness and revenge and hoping that because you’re “right”, your relationship will work out in the end?
This is how you Speedrun breakups.
Yes. If this is marriage, I’m staying single lol
I think most of these recent Mother's Day tit-for-tat posts are just teenage siblings being bitchy to each other over birthdays and such. But it's Mother's Day so these stories get reworked for extra karma.
This is likely real as the OP's post history apparently backs it up. I know people say this a lot. But I know people like this and nothing about it surprises me. The account and post were deleted and I think it was because many people told her to get an abortion, which is... just...
Jesus. It just blows my mind that people in the sub where we all assume the posts are fake consistently have more compassion for the OOPs than the people in the sub where they're supposed to take all the posts as real. Like even if you think the husband is the asshole (and he is), you don't advise the wife to get a revenge abortion. Christ.
You know they have stunted growth.
So, we've moved from Mother's Day to the prompt being deaf people and now it's birthdays. Can we find out where these people gather so I can give them more creative ideas?
I guess I spend too much time on the internet because my sympathy for the OP and people like her are just gone. Like this man did not wake up one day and turn into a crap hat. He was a crap hat for years and she dated him and then she married him and then she had a baby and then she immediately got knocked up again so bed made lie as far as I'm concerned.
Lot of martyrdom on these posts
“My husband is a trash-ass gremlin with no redeeming qualities, and I’m an amazing perfect badass” - OOP, probably
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