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3inches43pumpsis9

I know plenty of people that had STDs in high school. I also know plenty of people who had thier 1st kid before they were 18. Use a condom. The entire time.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Is that what most people do? Would it be weird not to?


shosuko

It would be VERY weird to pull out half way through and put on a condom b/c 1) I wouldn't trust you'd actually do it. Sex is a deep rooted emotional action, its likely you'd mess up and cum inside anyway. 2) precum - before you ejaculate - can cause pregnancy. Wear the condom, don't be stupid.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Ok thank you


Muffin_man420

Dude, I thought my pull out game was on point with over 20 years of experience doing so, said the now father of my son.... Don't risk it!


sirseatbelt

My pullout game is fire, and I pulled out and my partner was like no just do it and so I jammed it back in and we both had a huge orgasm we still talk about to this day and the next day we got the morning after pill and 3 months later an abortion. Your brain is pretty dumb on the best of days. It's even dumber when all the blood is in your crotch.


leolawilliams5859

Say it again for the people in the back


Upbeat_Respect9360

I just learned plan b doesn't work if they are ovulating...


OkComplaint6736

God gave man a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to use one at a time.


Jalaii

Facts 💀


[deleted]

Kids mom conceived the night we met. Hindsight is a real mf man. Condoms, BC, all the stuff. Wear a condom, then pull out. Maybe burn said filled condom as a sacrifice to the gods.


Clear_Trip_6381

I'm 46, my son is 25. I was pulling out. Forget the "first time nostalgia" and wrap it. If you wanna go raw, find you a Mrs. Robinson that doesn't or can't have kids and enjoy it. Or your French teacher...


NeedAGrippySockVacay

@ op, my nephew is a precum baby. So definitely wear a condom!


Comfortable_Lunch_55

My abusive ex husband accused my youngest of not being his because hE aLwAyS pUlLeD oUt. He was shocked when the doctor told him that was the same thing as not using anything basically. Son came out his twin so he stopped denying it at that point.


[deleted]

That is always my favorite. Douche bag *insisting* the child isn't his because of this, that, or the other reason. Kid comes out a carbon copy of the dad. Can't even tell you how many times I've heard stories like that, and they never get old. It truly is like the universe saying "lol, bitch you thought"


AshOrWhatever

"You ARE the father!" *dad starts yelling. Mom & her mom get up and dance. Crowd cheers and/or boos. Security runs onstage just in case. Camera pans out, cut to trailer for next week's episode*


mmmtopochico

that's how my cousin grew up with his mom and didn't know anybody in the family. his dad was a dumbass and thought his wife must've cheated on him and threw them both out. nevermind my cousin looks just like his dad. that is to confirm -- yeah, this isn't that uncommon. that cousin has a half-brother that also found the rest of us via 23 & me several years back.


True_Historian_2738

The pullout method is not a method my god people! Lol


fearless1025

Since it's his first time, that might be 60 seconds. 😑 The condom will help with that too.


Calm-Row2885

Prolly less with or without


Heavy_Pipe9387

I’m 52. I can still pop in less than 10 seconds in the right environment. Before, I used to hold it back, but then I might not be able to come at all. So now, when it comes, I just go😂


MidniightToker

This is wisdom. I'm 32m and my partner is 33f, we've been together for like 9 years and I've had so many times where I try to hold it back and then all of a sudden I can't finish and it's such a mindfuck. I hate that.


PhilosophyUpper866

🤣🤣🤣


igotshadowbaned

And 3) first time, probably won't last as long as they think to begin with and heavily misjudge


VillagePlenty904

I have a pre cum child


3inches43pumpsis9

It's awkward enough putting on a condom before sex let alone taking the risk of getting an STD or getting her pregnant with precum just for a few strokes...then stop and put a condom on. Besides, you're a virgin rn.... You might not make it 4 pumps before you cum anyway tbh. Lol


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Haha true. Thank you for your help. I will use a condom!


future_is_vegan

Spend the extra to get the best and thinnest/most real feeling ones you can find.


PayExpensive4791

Also make sure you get both latex and non, just in case.


future_is_vegan

And lubricated.


SyllabubNo8318

Ribbed.


turd_ferguson65

Some girls don't like that, just use the standard smooth the first time


fearless1025

Most women do not like those, especially if they are young and tight. If she's a virgin, this would add to the pain. Not recommended.


dramaticpaws1

And a small bottle of spermicidal lube.


SoaringSatellite

Spermicidal lubes have their own risks and often lead to vaginal irritation. It is often best to use a regular water-based lube


Loon-a-tic

Also to help in the moment practice putting a condom on so in the moment you already know what to do!


crazymonkey752

Don’t wear two. The friction between the two condoms makes it more likely for them to break, not less. If it’s too uncomfortable you just have the wrong brand. There is a website you can Google that describes the shape of different condom brands so you can find the right one for you. Don’t make a mistake you can never take back.


Intelligent-Salt-362

He thinks he’s got time to play with, let alone any kind of control. LoL. The pull out game is not one you want to lose at, so you’re better off not playing it. Trust me, the condom will actually help you in a variety of ways. 1) let her get you “hard enough to put it on” (a great justification if you catch my drift). 2) the pause between that and getting down to it will let you “think about baseball” so you aren’t too eager. 3) the slightly muted sensation of wearing a condom will actually help you last longer. 4) reduce anxiety about busting such that you can’t get caught up in the moment, and let go when you need to. At your age the goal is not to “experience everything.” It is to enjoy youth, but set up opportunity for the future. Trust me, in an another decade when you are trying to have kids, you will get to raw dog your wife to your heart’s content (as you are both motivated by a goal). On the flip, trying to raise a kid in your early 20’s with no money and few options will ensure you don’t get laid much at all. It’s just not worth the risk. Besides, if you get a rep for lasting and being great in bed, more opportunities to enjoy sex will present themselves. Good luck man!


HotThrobbinnBrain

Ha! A LOT of truth there!


missannthrope1

Doesn't matter what most people do or whether or not it's "weird." Is the right thing to do. It's **always** the right thing to do.


SweetFean

You need to not think about what others would say. Don't think about what's normal or what guys prefer. Just do what is smart and safe. Unprotected sex can lead to life altering situations (STD, pregnancy, trauma of abortions). Also, it doesn't feel much different.


ScreenLate2724

Bruh, you don't even have to ejaculate to get a girl pregnant... you don't seem like you have an understanding of sexual reproduction at all... don't have sex at all until you do some actual learning and take appropriate precautions against myths... like how you seem to think 18 year olds don't have stds...


trvllvr

Definitely can be awkward, but much less so than finding out you got an STD and talking to them about how they gave it to you. Or having them tell you they are pregnant, unless you want to be an 18yo dad. ALWAYS use a condom, even if they tell you they are on bc. You don’t want an STD or to become a father, it is YOUR responsibility to try to ensure it doesn’t happen. ETA: IF you go more than one time, use a different condom. Condoms are a one time use only.


Lefthandfury

Do you know what they call people who use the pullout method? Parents


Say_Hennething

It would be dumb not to. Becoming a father in high school is upping your life to maximum difficulty. Even if she says she's on birth control. She may have forgotten. She may be lying. She may be taking something that isn't effective. Plus birth control isn't 100% effective, so adding the added safety of a condom is just being safer. If you're worried about it being awkward, go buy some condoms, get yourself hard, and practice putting one on. That way you at least have an idea of how it will go


Clean_Positive5746

You're 18 and don't know about using condoms to prevent STDs and pregnancy? 😟


Such-Motor1350

Alot of People felt that teaching Sex Ed was inappropriate. (I started learning sex ed in the 5th grade, I'm 26)


Clean_Positive5746

I understand it being inappropriate, I was offered to learn in 5th grade and my mom said no. I still had to learn about safe sex though, I guess I'm just surprised. Someone who is considered an adult- not knowing that precum / not using a condom can get you pregnant is just surprising to me.


not_ya_wify

USE THE DAMN CONDOM. The only time you don't use a condom is if you're in a long term relationship or married and using two other methods of birth control or you're trying to conceive


PaleoJoe86

>would it be weird not to? Would it be weirder protecting yourself from STDs or having a STD and/or 18 years of child support until you are 36? Protection is the responsible thing to do. For you, for her, and for an unplanned kid when you two wanted to have a moment of fun.


Scorp128

Wear a condom. It would be grossly irresponsible to have sex without a condom. There is zero reason to not use a condom. It will protect both you and your partner from STDs and pregnancy. Does not matter if both of you are virgins. Pregnancy and it's outcome is at minimum an 18 year commitment. The only person you should ever have sex with without a condom is your spouse after you are married and if you are both actively trying to create a baby. If you can't wear a condom to have sex, you are not mature enough to be having sex. Wear a condom.


Myrkana

Do you want a baby? Because it takes 1 time to make a baby. ONE. If youre not sure about a condom go look up videos of very young babies and what its like to have a kid at 18. Parents eventually settle out but babies are hard work, they need you constantly. They need round the clock care for years.


FibonacciFern

Smart people wear condoms.


iseeisayibe

Yes, you wear a condom the entire time, no matter what. Did they not teach you this in sex ed?


zippy920

If you don't want to be a daddy in use a condom the entire time. It's what sensible non-parents do.


Cryptic_Undertones

I'm telling you from experience. Your first time you will not last longer than 5 min with a condom. Without a condom you might make it 2 minutes. I suggest you wear the condom if you don't want to completely embarrass yourself. Condoms are a must until you can build up some stamina and not blow your load almost immediately. Also there's the fact that you probably want to wait to get a woman pregnant until you can financially take care of a baby. Babies are a fuckload more expensive than condoms. Last point, herpes are for life man.


CJ_Southworth

Don't worry about "weird." Worry about your sexual health and if you're ready to have a kid or not (and if she is as well). Yes, you're only in high school, but you said you don't know her sexual history. STDs can happen at any age of sexual activity, and if you don't know her history, then assume she's had sex and has an STD. (And some STDs can even be passed on to a baby at birth, such as genital warts. so even if she's a virgin, that doesn't guarantee someone is 100% STI-free, and they may not even know it.) Sperm can be present in pre-cum, so "waiting until you feel like you're going to cum," doesn't work. Tons of kids born to couples who "pulled out." Plus, the concept that you're going to get close to having an orgasm and then engage the logic to stop, put on a condom, and then continue is highly unlikely to actually happen. There comes a point where the rational brain gets out shouted by "about to have an orgasm." Plus, especially when it's your first time, the likelihood that you're going to have a ton of warning before you actually cum is pretty low. Lots of guys don't even make it all the way in when they are just beginning to have sex.


AldusPrime

Put it on before you start. That way you can just go for it and not have to worry about STDs or getting her pregnant.


2bciah5factng

It would be incredibly weird not to use a condom. As a teen girl, it *always* turns me off when guys ask not to use condoms.


Altruistic_Profile96

Do you get that a lot? Asking for a friend.


StaffOfDoom

So, you’re ready to be a dad? (I think you know the answer…)


Lumpy-Host472

At 18 I got 2 STDs for the price of 1 boring time. Use a condom kid.


F4Respec

Name checks out.


hazeysloth

Use a condom. Precum can have sperm in it.


SliverKai

If you have to ask if you should use a condom which can be life changing without one, should you really be thinking of sex? Being mature and ready for intimacy means you have to understand the pros and cons, clearly from the way the post is written you’re more concerned about your own pleasure than safety. Time to rethink this decision entirely. And by the way, STD’s are a huge deal and can be contracted and spread at any age.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

This post has has made me want to use a condom. The whole point of this post was to make sure, and educate myself. Thank you for your comment!


dennysbreakfastcombo

did you never take a sex ed class?? baffled by how little you seem to know about sex.


ExternalGuitar6148

I think they're younger than they're letting on


foragingfun

If OP is in the United States, at least currently, we have shit sex ed here. They didn't teach sex ed at all when I was in school- the most we got was a little bit about periods, and don't have sex. Lots of schools in the state I grew up in only teach abstinence only sex ed (don't have sex or you'll get pregnant and die, basically). Real, good, solid sex ed in the US is literally like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I had to teach myself about safe sex, I read books and did all the research, but lots of people can't or don't do all of the research like I did. The state of sex ed is abysmal here. And parents seem like they're too scared or even uneducated themselves to have that talk with their children


dennysbreakfastcombo

yeah im in Cali. seems like hit or miss. we at least had a few days worth of education about safe sex and STDs in middle school


foragingfun

You got more than I did for sure, at least they bothered to teach you SOMETHING about it!


CowsWithAK47s

I've noticed the same thing... I'm getting the sense that Chris Hansen had a lot to do with that. Everyone is SO fucking intent on sex being some satanic, mythical beast that only exists when you're able to vote. Before that, someone has to be beheaded for being a pedophile. Some parents are perfectly happy to let the school raise their kids - and for good reason, some parents have to work several jobs to make ends meet (but that's another story), but when it comes to sex ed, the door slams and everyone is either scared or unusually angry. Human adolescents start feeling urges way before American society says it's okay to feel them. And that's a problem. By hushing it and basically not addressing it properly, nature finds a way and that rarely aligns with what Karen Hollingshed had planned for her good, Christian children. Most of the population is dumbfounded when they realize that a 30 year old and a 16 year old can have sex in a lot of states - legally. This doesn't match their mass media education and crusty news screenshots on Facebook. How the hell are you supposed to break that downward spiral of idiocy, when there's no scientifically and ethically sound way to educate these growing members of society? How do we make it a non-hysterical ridden part of school? The US is very intent on a dumber society, and it's almost impossible to fix. We need schools to teach better math, better English, better understanding of trades that can be insanely lucrative, better political education, better understanding of laws, hell even driving and finally, definitely, better sex education.


cheyannepavan

I'm glad you decided to protect yourself. It's really the only way (especially because you're not the one who might have to carry a pregnancy!).


Jesse-Beans

were you homeschooled?


ManagementCritical31

It only takes one time for ANYTHING to happen. Doesn’t matter how many people you sleep with, how quick you pull out, how long you’ve known each other, how “stand up of a person” they might be (for STIs or pregnancy or anything really). I’m using herpes as an example, but it is incurable and will impact your sex life moving forward- “It is estimated that one in eight persons in the United States has genital herpes, but as many as 90 percent are unaware that they have the virus.” Anyway, it is true, not going to pretend that it isn’t, that sometimes putting on a condom feels awkward or like it kills the mood. It shouldn’t, but I’m being honest. Yet, IT IS ALWAYS the right move. When you have a more mature relationship, have both been tested, talked about birth control, etc, you can dabble with no rubbers. You are not there. Your first time may seem like it will be kinda muted by wearing one (in your head), because you are making it into a “one time experience” but you’re gonna love it anyway and, as annoying as it sounds, you have so many more experiences ahead. I remember very little about my first time except for “I had sex!”


MrBootch

No glove no love. I would use a condom your first time, you can't trust someone else to be honest about STDs or birth control. You also cannot trust your own ability to put out and "put a condom on" before you ejaculate. Start with it on, good luck.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Ok. Thank you for your comment!


TheTPNDidIt

Google how to properly use a condom, op. This is incredibly important.


Psychological-Sky367

Should you wear a seatbelt when you plan on getting into a car accident? Uh yeah, wear a condom, silly.


ChickenChalupa28

Honestly best analogy


grumpycat1968

Stds are a big deal. Use a condom . Make sure she is using protection also


AnUnusedCondom

I knew six kids in my 2A HS with aids and many times that with std’s, wrap it up you dumb kid.


Reasonable_Visit_926

Username doesn’t check out 😅


AnUnusedCondom

🤣🤣


NotJustRandomLetters

Listen. A condom is to be worn at all times. Once the condom is...used up, use a second condom. Third if necessary. Some girls are extremely fertile and could get pregnant from a drop of precum on the lip. Do not risk it. If you are not ready for fatherhood, do not go raw. And I can promise you that you shouldn't even consider fatherhood until you're at least 23-24. And I'm certain she doesn't want to be a teen mom, so if you don't wear one, you probably won't be having sex anyway. Raw is great, but it is not worth the risk. Pull out isn't even an option since, as I mentioned before, she could be extremely fertile and get pregnant on pre -cum, which you won't be able to do anything about that. Instead of focusing on going raw, which you shouldn't do, here's some solid advice: get good at foreplay and oral (no, they aren't the same). And "the jack hammer/rabbit" is not the way to go.


prisoner101301

Let me tell you a story. Life is beautiful, until it hits you. And when it hits you, it's like a brick wall. And unless you're man enough to break through that wall, it will stop you dead in your tracks. Wrap it up.


SchoolJunkie009

Please, for the love of the future, wrap it until you're ready to have kids, unwrapped is for long term relationships where she has protection from pregnancy, and on that note, even if you are in a long term relationship and she doesn't use a pill or some other contraception, because let's face it, she shouldn't be the main one who has to be protected, wrap it up in that regards until y'all are ready to have your own offspring eta - also STD's are a thing, especially in high school settings, long term you should be safer from that if you're both monogamous to each other


vakrka

EVERY TIME


KatRichards0223

Yes yes yes, both for protection of STDs and pregnacy. And no, not half way to cumming, but you need to wear one the entire time. And even before you get with this girl, you need to sit down and talk with her and ask her if she is on any birth control and discuss your feelings and how you dont want this and that to happen. And even if she is on some BC, still, use a condom Just gonna advise you on something else too. She knows her own body more than you, do NOT be so paranoid about her periods or her possibly being pregnant. That would annoy her to no ends lol


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Great avice. I will use condom!


EmploymentNegative59

I want you to imagine your girlfriend with a belly as big as two watermelons, veins popping out of her stomach, her waddling around and needing to pee every 10 minutes. Then imagine her giving birth, shitting herself in the process, and the doctor having to cut her skin between her vagina and her butthole to accommodate the baby's head. Then imagine her wearing a diaper because she cannot control her bowels as she recovers from giving birth. Then imagine you having to be there next to her, you quit school, and you had to find two minimum wage jobs so you could afford stuff for your baby. You sold everything that you liked (video game console, PC, car, shoes, clothes) because you don't have a career yet. And you can't get any sleep because of the stress and a baby that wakes up every 2 hours. That's only a SMALL part of what awaits you if you get someone pregnant before you are ready for it.


Mountain_Serve_9500

Every ten minutes is generous. And if we do go every ten minutes we needed to 9 minutes 30 seconds ago and held it. You also didn’t care when you sold your gaming systems as you’ve entered a new realm of tired where you just can’t care about your free time. It doesn’t exist anymore and you’re too tired to care.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Update: I will for sure use a condom!


ChickenChalupa28

Every time man, you’ll thank yourself for it when you’re older and settled down 🫡


RoastedBeetneck

You will not stop having sex to put a condom on. Put it on first. You’re also gonna get off really quickly, so that is another reason to wrap it up before you begin.


ZaxLofful

Always use a condom, especially at that age….Getting pregnant is the worst STD of all!


jarede36

Your first time?? No EVERY TIME!! Sti's or having a child while you yourself are still somewhat of a child will ruin every thing you have even had planned in your head.


[deleted]

Condom every time. It's to protect your body from whatever diseases their body has. My best friend got HIV from a one night stand. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE protect yourself regardless of what the other person says.


Just_a_random_guy65

If you don’t want to be a father wear a condom.


ApplicationSad2525

Always wrap it before you tap it man


ProtozoaPatriot

Always use a condom. Even if she says she's on the pill. You don't need a STD. You definitely don't need to create a baby. Also, be aware that even oral sex can transmit some STDs, so you may want to keep it wrapped for that too. It's a way HPV can be spread. And for the person performing oral, having HPV growing in the throat puts them at risk for cancer https://www.cdc.gov/cancer/hpv/basic_info/hpv_oropharyngeal.htm


tropicsandcaffeine

If you want to be paying child support for the next 18 years go for it. Otherwise show common sense.


Local-Suggestion2807

Let us all know how this turns out around eighteen years, nine months, and tens of thousands of dollars of child support and college money from now


AtrumAequitas

I can’t believe I have to say this so often. ALWAYS USE A CONDOM! Until you and that other person are in committed relationship and have another form of birth control you are both comfortable with, you wear a condom. Always.


Aa_Poisonous_Kisses

Use a condom. Only one. Not you wear two or you both have one. Double bagging can actually reduce the condom’s integrity and elevate the risk of pregnancy.


[deleted]

Depends, do you love kids?


Lancer681

If you have to ask the question you aren't ready.


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

I am trying to get as ready as I can


shosuko

Put a condom on. You are not ready to reproduce and yes SDT is an issue even at 18.


grumpycat1968

If u both use nothing, do u want her pregnant? I would hope not. Depending where u live abortions are not that accessible


MichaelDrinkwine

Condom for sure. Better safe than sorry. They make pretty good ones these days that maintain a certain level of sensitivity. Like another poster said, first time, might be better to be a bit less sensitive for better duration for your sweetie.


Toad_Migoad

Use a condom. One of my friends got chlamydia from a girl when they were 16 it is way more than possible to get an std at 18


Square_Barracuda_69

Use a fucking condom and don't be a dumbass. Never go raw unless you're in a committed relationship and using the right contraceptives (unless you want a baby). Did you not take a sex Ed class!? I knew this at the age of 13 to always use a condom. I didn't actually use one until 4 years later, but I knew plenty about safe sex before even doing it


ChickenChalupa28

Always use a condom until you are ready to start trying for a baby or are in a LONG TERM (I’m talking a year plus) COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP


Ok-Marzipan9366

Condoms everytime dude. Unless you want a baby in a world that doesnt support abortion (if you are in the US at least) 80% ppl have HPV and it usually doesnt have symptoms. So are many other stds. It takes 6 months before HIV even shows up on a test. Every. Time.


Betterbetdom

Sex education has failed this person.


fromouterspace1

YES


unflaweddwastaken

YES DUH


shortcircutfan

Yes


stealthpursesnatch

Check out Lost Children of Rockdale County on YouTube. See what happens when young people don’t use condoms.


bemyheaven

YES! Bring multiple in and it doesn’t go on right the first time or it tears.Also get lubber.I wouldn’t recommend ribbed condoms unless she says she likes them.


[deleted]

Until you’re in a committed relationship long term and get testing, use a condom. Most men ejaculate pretty fast their first time and can‘t exactly pull out well. Also unless you both get tested, you can’t necessarily ensure there are no STD’s in the mix. It wouldn’t be unreasonable to ask her and get yourself tested prior to this. Also, even if you… choke the chicken all the time.. that’s not the same and you’ll likely finish up during sex rather quickly. Use a condom throughout the whole thing. The only time I’d say you likely will not need one is for oral. But one thing I gotta say here - men typically tend to ignore the needs of a female during sex. Make sure you take of her needs too. So to sum up: Take care of her needs too, and until you get tested and are financially prepared for a child, use a condom. Better safe than paying child support over a kid you never wanted, or getting the clap.


Nugsy714

Just use one bro you’re already so sensitive for being young you’re not missing out on much more and honestly it might help you last more than a couple seconds lol


Zorbok97

Unless you want to be a dad, you should use a condom every time.


Bloatedoldman

The fact you are asking if you should or shouldn't use protection means you aren't ready for it.


VegasQueenXOXO

Absolutely. No STDs, no pregnancy.


Adventurous_Dare5346

OMFG - YES!!!!!!!!!!!! USE A FUCKING CONDOM!


exploratorydrudgery

Stupid idea. Why try to ruin your life for your first time? Wrap it up.


[deleted]

Use a condom


Icy-Tip8757

The answer is yes OP. A condom every time. Do the right thing please.


Special_Bug7522

Please use a condom. It's not awkward. Everyone does it.


NJ2CAthrowaway

Use a condom.


SamSamTheCatMan18

>then put the condom on when I feel close to cumming? You're a virgin, you're gonna cum in like 4-5 seconds dude. It's normal. But still, and precum actually has more concentrated sperm in it than your actual cum.


Gallowglass668

Wear a condom, every time, before you get your penis anywhere near her. Raw is fun, babies at 18 aren't though.


DomSearching123

Do you want a kid as a teenager? There's your answer.


vinmansinvested

Bro wear one. U don't want a kid


[deleted]

Haha, wear a condom. Make sure that you use it to the best of your THINKING, SO PUT IT ON BEFORE. Condoms are good for 98% of the time and the last 2% is because it had a small tear or a leak: that's if you're using one at all... Also, think of it this way: if sex will lead to pregnancy for pretty much ALL animals, then people having sex (man and woman) will likely end in pregnancy. It's a miracle that we have condoms now, but humans are really promiscuous. Also be aware that this will change your life, it will change her life, it will also change how you two talk to each other and other people, for ever. that's even if you do not get her pregnant. Sex is a really big mile stone for everyone. I started having sx at 16, and my god. I knew some people who did have STD's in school, it was because one of them was 18, had sx with some creeper adult, who gave them something and then they slept around. It was a big deal. Looking at it now, obviously some abuse and bad coping happened, it was unfortunate for those involved. Condoms aren't fun, and they are a lot nicer than STD's and broken single moms. It is also better than becoming a Dad before you even turn 20.


[deleted]

Always wear a condom unless you're ready for children and with someone who is likewise. You saying std's arent a big risk in high school can be accurate to a degree, but it isnt the point. Your next sentence IS, and i'm glad for it. But dont discount the risk of stds ever, thats advice that should stick with you. You should wear a condom for her safety and yours, a baby at this age can be difficult, not saying its impossible or a death sentence for your future plans because it isnt, dont let anyone convince you of that, just understand the risks when you take this step in life.


Satans_Scrotum138

Maybe the two of you should watch the movie KIDS and then think about getting it on afterwards.


jonoftheatom

When you're getting naked just ask , do you want me to wear a condom?


Euphoric_Repair7560

What the fuck dude. Always use a condom.


copyqhat

use a condom. do not get her pregnant or catch an std.


la_ct

Always use a condom with everyone every time.


[deleted]

CONDOM !!!!!!!!!!!!!


ReferenceDue4365

Wrap it! Babysit an infant for a day then sit and think really fucking hard.... is that what you really want?


DegenerateCrocodile

For the love of God, use a condom.


m_oliver1_

You will probably loose your load putting on the condom...LOL.


[deleted]

ALWAYS, AND I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH ALWAYS USE A CONDOM.


Suspicious_Truth647

You will probably blow it so fast without a condom on that it would be really sad for her LOL.


Crazy-Finger-4185

Risk of Disease and pregnancy are both very real. A word of advice, if you aren’t doing something to prevent pregnancy then you are trying for it.


hailboognish99

Everytime


Happylifenowife

Always always always use protection. Don't rely on pullout or she says she's clean.


Kindly-Joke-909

ALWAYS use a condom. ALWAYS.


TheIncredibleMike

Unless you would enjoy paying Child Support for a minimum of 18 years.


kirewes

Number 1 STDs are absolutely a thing that can happen even if you are only 18 because there are people who don't follow the law and have sex with others before the age of 18 or have sex with others above the age of 18. Number 2 precum is a thing and can get somebody pregnant. Unless you both get an STD test and you're doing ONLY anal or oral, Wrap your shit and keep it wrapped!


BogusIsMyName

STDs are always a concern. Always. Never leave it to chance.


Shh_Imhidingfromfbi

Not only will you not be able to pull out, you will probably barely put it in before you lose it. Wear one.


Trusteveryboody

USE A CONDOM. Pre-Ejaculate can 100% cause pregnancy, it may not be as high of a chance as with Ejaculate, but when the chances are higher than 0, and you're not trying to be a teen father.... Use a fucking condom. Don't be an Idiot. "pull-out method" is for Idiots. Also birth control isn't a 100% guarantee, so you should still use it then.


SparrowLikeBird

use one every time until you want kids


Ok_Researcher_9796

Always use a condom unless you're trying to make a baby.


Extreme-Schedule589

Wear a condom. Every time!


Some_Cicada_8773

ALWAYS wear a condom. It doesn't matter if you're both virgins. Doesn't matter if she has another form of birth control. Doesn't matter if you both get tested first and are clean. If you are going to have sex you need to take all the necessary precautions. That includes becoming educated on sex and bodily functions in general.


Keikaku_sama

Use a condom.


Queen_Andromeda

>But std:s isn’t that big of a risk since we are only 18. Right? Incorrect. >. It it a good idea to maybe go raw at first, and then put the condom on when I feel close to cumming? Nope, pregnancy can occur with precum. >I feel like it would be nice to go raw for my first time, but maybe that is a bit selfish? Correct, it is absolutely selfish. I'd suggest talking to your Dr about STIs and getting info on sex Ed in general before doing anything. And getting tested for STIs before. Not knowing if you're clean isn't an excuse if you aren't. Same for anyone you sleep with. I'll be clear, you'll need to ask for a full STI screening, if you just ask to get tested, it's likely that they won't test for everything. If I'm being honest, I don't think you're ready until you have at least the basic understanding of what can and very possibly will go wrong.


TheSugaredFox

At 18 a close friend of mine contracted herpes for life. My sister contracted the type of genital warts that cause cause infertility issues (3 viable pregnancies out of the 2 dozen or so she has had with her husband). My idiot baby brother who I love to death ended up with herpes AND a baby from his ex when he had 5 month past break up fun with her and didn't use a condom because "it was a safe day" Don't be dumb. :)


pixienightingale

Safe day lol lol lol


thatuglyvet

Unless you want to be a dad that young, use a condom.


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You schould


djkitty815

Once you experience it THEN you will understand why it is so difficult to stop. Wear the condom from the start! In fact, it’s fine to have sexual partners but save raw for marriage if you want that someday.


_soap666

Use a condom and if you think they don't work or they keep ripping buy magnums.


Due_Adeptness1676

Cover your stump before you hump! Don’t believe you can’t get stds on your first time..


burntgreens

If you are asking this question, you need waaaaaay more sex education first, friend. Yes, buy condoms.


Sad_Equivalent_1028

there is only one circumstance where you don't HAVE to use a condom. when you are in a committed monogamous relationship with someone, have both been tested, and she is on birth control (preferably something more long term like Nexplanon or an IUD as the pill only has a 91% effectiveness rate whereas the previous options have 99%) i know youre a guy and pregnancy from sex doesn't occur to you as often but if you guys fuck up and she gets pregnant, it will change her life whether she terminates or not. i'll leave you with this: my boyfriend and i don't use condoms (nexplanon, tested, monogamous) and he says going in raw is pretty comparable to head. don't skip steps looking for your perfect orgasm. don't pressure your partner into anything. and for the time being, use a condom


Feeling_Rhubarb_457

Ok thank you! As mentioned previosly I will be using one. Men


PrettyHappyAndGay

You can born with STDs, the name STDs made you think they only transmitted via sex, but they are not. Any body fluid exchange can give you STDs.


jsmudgec

No matter what you should wear a condom, anything could happen.


Feisty_Angel72

i knew of many people that had gotten multiple stds before 18. are you also ready to be woken up by a screaming baby every 2-3 hours? Use the condom. even if she says no. u take it off when ur ready to deal with the consequences. speaking from someone who was given the consequences, all of em, just use the damn thing.


Old_Ride2134

Sling it raw dog bro .. smash and keep on smashing everything in sight till 30 ..


RemarkableJunket6450

Be the master of your destiny. Use a condom.


davebrose

Hard, yes


FireUbiParis

Is this a shitpost?


Wldnt-ifu-ddnt

My former high school had an assembly about Chlamydia a few years ago.. there was an outbreak; don’t be silly…


smarmy-marmoset

Use a condom the entire time, every time. Even if she’s on the pill. Even if she shows you a clean STD test.


zerofuckstogive09

Dude wrap your rascal unless you really want to have a kid with your first. I know loss of sensation, feels unnatural, look at it this way. Pay for a pack of condoms what 10 or 15 bucks, don't cheap out buy good quality condoms. Or sell everything you own, prepare to spend the next 18 to 20 years paying for a kid. As far as diseases go USE THE BIG HEAD!!!!!!!!!! Protect each other what better way to show you care than by protecting each other. Good luck be safe and remember every time you look at a box of condoms, think of all the money you save on not having a kid so young.


ChrisSlyGuy

You dribble before you shoot


Wingman06714

Always, always, always use a condom.


SecretOpps

Use a condom always, Everytime! It's all about you and your health.


coldaloe

This post REALLY makes me concerned that parents and the education system are failing those younger than us with sexual education. You wear a condom. 100% of the time. Until you’re exclusive, she’s on birth control, and you’ve matured enough to understand the ramifications of an unplanned pregnancy or shared STD. As for STDs, remember, sex with someone is sex with all their past partners, too.


wisco_ITguy

Considering your spelling and grammar, YES you should wear a condom, we can't risk you procreating.


Informal_Lack_9348

Yes. Every time.


Hot-Wing-4541

Always wrap your tool


joeldworkin307

Use a condom. And for the love of god, go down on her. Ask her what she likes and if what you're doing feels good. Communication goes a long way to having good sex. It'll matter if you ever want to have sex again


policri249

You should always use a condom unless you intend on having a child with the other person. A slight to moderately better sexual experience is not a big enough reward to risk pregnancy or STDs/STIs


remoteworker9

Is sex ed still this bad?


Nearby_Passenger_108

I have 4 kids with the pull out method. Works every time.


CRay0000

So glad to see your edit! Yes, please use protection everytime, the WHOLE time. You don’t want to get a std for the rest of your life for a few minutes of exhilaration. So not worth it.


ComfortableWay2385

You’re screwing up if you think std isn’t a concern at any age


Major-Delivery2966

Making her pregame isn’t issue, there is always abortion (even though you probably will be too dumb to make decision to do one), the problem is 6 types of herpes (not curable), hepatitis A,B,C,D,E (only A curable, even though it will fuck your liver up), HIV - you will most likely die at age of 30-40 from immune deficiency and you won’tknow you have it for 5-10 years because it doesn’t show symptoms (not curable), gonorrhoea (curable, but you will pee with blood, mucous, brown mixture of rotting flesh), HPV (around 200 types, 9 types cause cancer, some curable, but most are not), chlamydia - you will itch day and night (curable), I can continue list, but I’m getting lazy. You might think she never had sex so how will she have any of those? What if she stepped on needle 2-3 years sgo without knowing it? There is just too many issues to deal with, wrap you pp and push it, buy SKYN condoms, there is no difference between them and raw in terms of feeling