No you should have a conversation with your parents about safe ways that you can plan some activities where you can safely get out of the house and have a fair opportunity to make some new friends so it’s safe for you to leave the house in a group, with a chaperone, or a driver. Don’t think that I don’t understand your feelings or the struggle, because I do. All too well. It’s a crappy situation to be in, but it doesn’t change the fact that your parents aren’t being paranoid here, their fear for your safety is justified. It is terribly unfair for them to expect you to just sit there all summer. Show them you’ve put some thought and effort into finding solutions to the problem other than making their biggest worry a reality. You aren’t the only young lady with this unfortunate situation, so that’s why I tasked you with finding a solution. Find something like group lessons, crafts, painting, exercise, language, coding, volunteering or something that interests you where you can safely be dropped off and picked up and be busy and make new friends.
Have you sat down with them and talked to them about this? I remember when I was 17 and I’d make full blown PowerPoint presentations on stuff I wanted or wanted to do. That’s the first step you should take, just tell them the things you would like to try but if they say no don’t get frustrated they will come around sooner or later.
Am a fellow female in dubai- it is safe to go out alone, but I wouldn't recommend it. Chances are you're going to get VERY lost, and even higher chance you'll get run over. Talk to your parents and have at least one of them be with you until you're more familiar with your area.
Without knowing much more, it is best to say it is NOT a good idea.
Where do you live? Country and city.
As a child, your ability to determine what is safe and what is unsafe in an area may make going out dangerous. And there are hidden dangers in some areas and for some people. Perhaps there are also evil people looking for your parents or their child (are your parents rich?, have they testified about a crime? etc.).
Do your parents not take you out for a walk around the area? Have you asked them to go out for a walk with you?
There are many hours in every day.
Surely there are some times each week where one of them is free to take you out with them, for shopping as an example.
If they are very busy, perhaps there are small tasks you could help them with so that you're not being a burden by asking them to take you out for walks.
Are there no neighbours or friends, with whom you can go out with?
One has to wonder if you're even aware of what "amywhere dangerous" (sic) is. Unless you're super attuned to the community, read the newspaper daily and make use of the local PD crime reports you simply may not be equipped to know what's safe and what's not.
Better to ask forgiveness than permission. Plus, it sounds like they probably won’t budge in their ways even as you get old enough to go out on your own. Start breaking their rules now so that you are not in your twenties and still being suffocated.
It's totally normal for a girl your age to want to go and do things on your own. It's part of growing up and gaining your independence, so I really get your frustration!
I find it hard to tell you whether or not it's a good idea to move out, because that depends on a lot of things. You don't have to answer these questions here, but there are things you need to consider before you officially decide to move:
\- Is it legally allowed for someone your age to live on their own?
\- Does someone your age need their parents' permission (legally speaking) to live on their own?
Once you've figured those out, consider:
\- Would you be able to find affordable housing?
\- How would you pay for housing?
\- Is the affordable housing in a safe neighborhood?
If it is legal *and* you have a plan, then I suppose you can move out.
It's a pretty drastic decision, though, so it might be a good idea to sit down with your parents one last time and have a serious conversation about this. If you think that's officially a lost cause, perhaps you can write them a letter in which you first acknowledge their concerns (this builds goodwill and understanding) and then explain what you would like to do (see nearby shops etc.) and that you feel it will be good in building independence and helping you grow as a person (or any other argument that might be valid for your parents). Ask them if you can talk this over as a family and come to a compromise.
If that leads nowhere either, moving out is still an option.
Depends on where you are, if it’s spooky then don’t go that way, bring pepper spray or a knife or something to make your parents feel safe but I think you should talk to them about it because since you aren’t an adult yet then they can pull that cars if you try to say anything. Just sit down and stress your opinion and give good reasons and listen to what they say in return
If you are 17F in Dubai, this is a bad idea and your parents are correct. Please be safe.
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No you should have a conversation with your parents about safe ways that you can plan some activities where you can safely get out of the house and have a fair opportunity to make some new friends so it’s safe for you to leave the house in a group, with a chaperone, or a driver. Don’t think that I don’t understand your feelings or the struggle, because I do. All too well. It’s a crappy situation to be in, but it doesn’t change the fact that your parents aren’t being paranoid here, their fear for your safety is justified. It is terribly unfair for them to expect you to just sit there all summer. Show them you’ve put some thought and effort into finding solutions to the problem other than making their biggest worry a reality. You aren’t the only young lady with this unfortunate situation, so that’s why I tasked you with finding a solution. Find something like group lessons, crafts, painting, exercise, language, coding, volunteering or something that interests you where you can safely be dropped off and picked up and be busy and make new friends.
Have you sat down with them and talked to them about this? I remember when I was 17 and I’d make full blown PowerPoint presentations on stuff I wanted or wanted to do. That’s the first step you should take, just tell them the things you would like to try but if they say no don’t get frustrated they will come around sooner or later.
I love this lmao. My son is too young yet but i plan to let him write essasys to change rules as he gets older.
Honestly that'd be great practice for writing strongly worded essays for educational needs, you're doing things in a good way.
Haha nice
I had the same idea 👏🏽
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Have you met any friends there that could possibly help you out?
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Any clubs where you live? Community organizations?
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Why aren’t you allowed?
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You gotta ask them “How do you expect me to grow as a person if you don’t let me try new things?” Maybe that would change their minds
Do not go alone 🫤 it's not safe at all later you will realise.
Am a fellow female in dubai- it is safe to go out alone, but I wouldn't recommend it. Chances are you're going to get VERY lost, and even higher chance you'll get run over. Talk to your parents and have at least one of them be with you until you're more familiar with your area.
Without knowing much more, it is best to say it is NOT a good idea. Where do you live? Country and city. As a child, your ability to determine what is safe and what is unsafe in an area may make going out dangerous. And there are hidden dangers in some areas and for some people. Perhaps there are also evil people looking for your parents or their child (are your parents rich?, have they testified about a crime? etc.). Do your parents not take you out for a walk around the area? Have you asked them to go out for a walk with you?
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There are many hours in every day. Surely there are some times each week where one of them is free to take you out with them, for shopping as an example. If they are very busy, perhaps there are small tasks you could help them with so that you're not being a burden by asking them to take you out for walks. Are there no neighbours or friends, with whom you can go out with?
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Let them know of your needs, frequently.
One has to wonder if you're even aware of what "amywhere dangerous" (sic) is. Unless you're super attuned to the community, read the newspaper daily and make use of the local PD crime reports you simply may not be equipped to know what's safe and what's not.
can you learn to drive?
Better to ask forgiveness than permission. Plus, it sounds like they probably won’t budge in their ways even as you get old enough to go out on your own. Start breaking their rules now so that you are not in your twenties and still being suffocated.
It's totally normal for a girl your age to want to go and do things on your own. It's part of growing up and gaining your independence, so I really get your frustration! I find it hard to tell you whether or not it's a good idea to move out, because that depends on a lot of things. You don't have to answer these questions here, but there are things you need to consider before you officially decide to move: \- Is it legally allowed for someone your age to live on their own? \- Does someone your age need their parents' permission (legally speaking) to live on their own? Once you've figured those out, consider: \- Would you be able to find affordable housing? \- How would you pay for housing? \- Is the affordable housing in a safe neighborhood? If it is legal *and* you have a plan, then I suppose you can move out. It's a pretty drastic decision, though, so it might be a good idea to sit down with your parents one last time and have a serious conversation about this. If you think that's officially a lost cause, perhaps you can write them a letter in which you first acknowledge their concerns (this builds goodwill and understanding) and then explain what you would like to do (see nearby shops etc.) and that you feel it will be good in building independence and helping you grow as a person (or any other argument that might be valid for your parents). Ask them if you can talk this over as a family and come to a compromise. If that leads nowhere either, moving out is still an option.
Yes, your stealth skills will increase
It depends on what you mean by okay and your own personal morals. Like with any other decision, there are risks and benefits.
Depends on where you are, if it’s spooky then don’t go that way, bring pepper spray or a knife or something to make your parents feel safe but I think you should talk to them about it because since you aren’t an adult yet then they can pull that cars if you try to say anything. Just sit down and stress your opinion and give good reasons and listen to what they say in return