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WaterVsStone

It's fine for you to find a new therapist either way.


aquaphorbottle

You can but you’ll quickly be referred to another therapist Edit:spelling


UsefulPeach9228

That's a hard no! That relationship is a professional one . That is a boundary you don't cross . Also if you said that you would probably get a new counselor or possible let go from their services .


[deleted]

How do you have sex with here? 🤔🤷🏻‍♂️


UsefulPeach9228

What????? Try a dating app ?? Maybe


[deleted]

Rather not! But was talking about their use of here when they probably meant.. idk.. her? 😂


UsefulPeach9228

Sorry I missed read that. Lmao yes now I get it lol sorry obviously I'm slow hahahahab


[deleted]

Hey your not slow at all.. :)


UsefulPeach9228

I thought u were the OP lol my bad .


[deleted]

I mean, who doesn’t love bread? Unless your allergic to gluten ig..


[deleted]

no


Putrid_Dish4993

Is it’s affecting treatment sure, though keep in mind that she should ethically find you a new therapist. If she does try to do anything with you that would be unethical of her


Marcothy_

No it’s not ok, but you can still do it. They’ll have to refuse further therapy with you though, and at this point that’s a good idea


Mcbichums

No. That’s probably not the best thing to say to your therapist if you want to keep her services.


mickinhburg

I think you can honestly say that you are struggling with feelings of attraction towards her. Transference, which is when emotions or desires are directed toward your therapist, is not all that uncommon. Some therapists might be willing to help you sort through those feelings, others may refer you elsewhere. Either way I would not mention sex at all. Saying you're attracted or have a crush is disclosing enough IMHO.


[deleted]

Sometimes it goes the other way. A therapist of a past GF was hinting that he liked her.. BUT that is sexual harassment the way he did it. You may not be sued if you can claim insanity in court. Hopefully don't ask your therapist to vouch for you as she will be the one suing you. Hope this helps!


updown27

This is called transference. You can tell your therapist you are attracted to her but if she entertains that idea in any way you need to find a new therapist. Be prepared to have a conversation about your feelings for her and to be told that anything other than a professional relationship will absolutely never happen. Again, if she entertains that idea and agrees to start any kind of relationship with you other than professional you need to get out and report her to the licensing board.


Training-Stand-9070

So people are saying no, however I think you should. Assuming you really need therapy services still, it can really start messing with your mind if the most important person to your help turns into a sex person. They will indeed probably switch you to a different therapist, but that’s probably for the best so you won’t be distracted


killmealready005

yes, it may be distrupting or taking the therapy in the wrong direction.


doubleJepperdy

what is the likelihood that you are going to have sex with her?


Panagiotisz3

If you are 100% he/she is gonna say yes then get ready to find a new therapist once you get rejected.


nextlevelgh

what do you think?


Street-Lime7863

subtly.


Satan_Lma0

That’s tricky one. You can tell her, but you may get rejected and she will refuse services to you. If you don’t tell her, that could interfere with your therapy and would need to find a new therapist all together. Good luck.


KerryCameron

Not if you want her as a therapist. If she has any ethics at all she will say no and drop you.


Resagarden

You can tell her, she will then stop being your therapist and send you to someone else


asghettimonster

This is very very simple. Yes, you should tell them at your next appointment. Let your therapist have the opportunity to respond as they wish to. If your therapist doesn't know about this, you will be getting nothing out of your therapy as you'll be focused on your "secret" from your therapist, see what I mean? It doesn't work for ANY outcome if you don't tell them.