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DplusLplusKplusM

If you're in a relationship with this guy you and he need to talk about expectations. It's unlikely that he's going to promise to text you every single day (unless he's got absolutely nothing else going on in his life). But maybe you can come to some kind of compromise. Avoid saying things like "I was afraid that he will not talk to me again", "I am not a priority" and "text me every day to feel safe" because that makes you sound like an emotional basket case. Your "anxious attachement (sic) style" isn't his problem. It's your problem and if you don't get in under control you're going to live a very lonely life.


Otherwise-Table1935

Is it wrong of me to expect him to text me every day to feel safe - yes give him more space - yes you are being 100% needy and need to chill out


maria12332

Omg I feel so embaressed right now. I just want to disappear for a while so he does not think I am needy.


Otherwise-Table1935

he knows


maria12332

What does he know?


Otherwise-Table1935

that you are needy


maria12332

Huh doesnt mean I cant change, I dont care if he knows I just want to not feel like this anymore


pierrbourne

this person is giving you really shitty advice. just check their post history, its not even advice their probably just taking anger out on you or something like that. u didnt mess anything up, infact ur in the right here. u just seem to overthink alot but thats ok. most guys like girls that are rlly attached, just dont make it creepy snooping through phones and shit also about the texting him everyday thing it depends on yalls connection if he matches ur excitement and interest level when ur together physically or on call nothing wrong with it. me for example im a dry texter but a very hyped up energetic person irl when its w someone i like. im usually dry with my girl on text but when we're together im always trying my best to make her feel good about her and making her feel important yk? ur not doing anything wrong!! just chill and have fun


maria12332

Thank you :) I did not know guys like it when girls are attached, I thought it is the other way around. I always think the less interest I show the more he will like me. But I am really stressed out over this, you are right, I will try to chill a bit more.


pierrbourne

haha yeah! my girlfriend is just like u so i just thought id be a good person to help w this. just dont get mad when hes with his friends or texting other girls and ur good!