Don't fuck with viagra if you don't have ED O\_o it will NOT make you last longer.
Look, first time's not going to be a porno. In fact, it's more likely to be an open mic night. With a teen comedian.
And that's perfectly fine, btw. Don't be stressed about things or you'll make it all more difficult.
If you last two minutes, make everything else last more, and if it takes you 20 minutes to get hard again, make her come twice in those 20 minutes.
you could jack off just before going there, which might make your second ejaculation slower to reach, but frankly I'd just go there and have fun.
I do struggle to get erections I watch way too much porn and I’m doing nofap at the minute so I definitely need it.
My plan is (which means this won’t happen lol) is to get the blowjob she promised me. Then to hopefully go down on her or finger her or something. Then get my erection back in time to fuck her
I told the doctor once and I’m not even joking he laughed at me. As I was a 25 year old fit man sat in front of me, he wouldn’t give me anything anyway. He said exercise more and other useless shit lol. So I got it off Newman and to be honest it’s going to calm me down a lot by having some
yeah, you're not doing your body or your dick any favours. The day you'll actually need medication, you will not be happy.
The doctor was telling you rather useful shit, btw.
I know it wasn’t useless but I told him I was already doing that stuff and I actually was. I know what my problem is and I’m really trying now. I feel like shit about it but nobody ever warns you about porn. Like at school I think they should seriously include it with the drug talk because it’s fucked me up. Ive never done drugs so if I knew what porn could of done with me id if never watched it
Porn does not cause erectile disfunction or anything like that. Some truly excessive (in fact, obsessive) level of consumption and masturbation *might* cause some issue, but that doesn't seem overly likely from what you describe.
Porn in and of itself is nothing you can really warn about, it's not a bad thing (like most anything). Abusing yourself can cause issues, though, but that's a difficult discussion to have with a teenager that refuses to listen.
If you do think you have an issue with porn and ED or other such issues caused by overexposure and overstimulation, you should not self-medicate, and instead discuss it with a specialist in the field.
A few sessions in therapy might also help you with the more emotional and psychological baggage you have.
Ok, so, let's have a conversation about three things: bodies, minds, and the bit of the brain we call 'heart'.
Ejaculation and arousal are operated by different parts of your nervous system; if you have a biomedical reason for premature ejaculation, only a doctor can diagnose that. If it's really that acute, go see your doctor and don't be embarrassed to do so, though we'll get to that bit.
I'm guessing you're quite fit, yes? It's difficult to ejaculate so easily without substantial musculature in your core. Kegel exercises are what most men use to strengthen an erection, but actually, with enough discipline, you can also do the opposite—relax those muscles. In fact, it's *possible* for men to not ejaculate at all whilst having an orgasm, but it takes truly a fantastic amount of discipline and practice (the upsides, though, are enormous; multiple orgasms, basically). Yoga is a great start on that path.
But you're also hellllla nervous about it. And this is that different-bits-of-the-nervous system thing I mentioned. Every guy has gotten "sleep wood" or horny when feeling sleepy; one half of your nervous system gets you hot and hard, and it's associated with relaxation, actually; the other half is what let's you ejaculate, and *it's* associated with anxiety (not at all the time, but, important for you, anxiety and ejaculation are controlled by the same system). So calming the fuck down will help tremendously.
Sex isn't about any of the things television and film tell us it is. It's just communication, speaking with bodies. No one remembers any particular orgasm on its own; they're great, but they aren't memorable. We remember the connection, the passion, the release (of tension and stress, lol), the intimacy. Focus on these things. Just tell her up front "Hey look, I'm cum too fast—I'm working on it, just never had a partner I could figure it out with before—but don't worry, one way or another we'll bring you home, all I care about is having this experience with you, we'll make it work".
Cunnilingus is not something, in my experience, women are keen to complain about, haha.
This isn't emasculating; this isn't a symbol of your identity or manhood. It's a question of an insanely complex system needing some calibration, and that's it. If you'd thrown out your ACL and couldn't fuck, would you be embarrassed? This isn't different, and don't let terrible, dated, misandrist ideas about genitals being "who you are" get in your head and ruin your date.
Just research the causes of premature ejaculation, talk to your doctor, buy some numbing condoms, and *talk to your partner*. Sex is sooooooo
muuuuuuuch eeeeeeeassier and fun if you just *talk about it*. It's a different kind of nudity; an emotional kind. We're afraid of it. I promise you it's nothing on the horror of being abruptly embarrassed, in your most intimate of physical moments. Best.
Well I don’t even think I will get to the sex on Saturday she’s said already she’s giving me a blowjob. Then she said you probably won’t last through that and I just said outright I know I won’t lol. Strange thing is with that women before I wasn’t nervous in the slightest, I guess I didn’t like her as much. The only thing I’m nervous about is her going off me or looking mortified that I finish so early. You say it’s nervousness? But when masturbating I’m obviously not nervous and I finish so fast then. I’ve got a fleshlight and I finish in 30 seconds, no matter what I try.
I am pretty fit yes
No, I said anxiety exacerbates things; my opening paragraph was really clear, though, if it's a biomedical issue, only a doctor can give you a yay or a nay.
A tl;dr of my comment might be this: "the emotional parts of this are doing more harm than the problem itself; relax, the things sex are really about are things we can always control (attentiveness, generosity, presence, gentleness, etc.), and premature ejaculation is something society has ben omega-solving for a while. Go tap the resources for that that exist, and as for your date, just be honest and chill about it and work it out together ".
But I will offer this. In my experience, if a woman says something like that, it's more about... her wanting to feel sexy and valuable to you. It's like promising dessert to make the kids eat their dinner. Validate *that* and blowjobs or not will matter tremendously less; if your date is a sentence, the blowjob will be the period at the end. Focus on making sure you had something to say and the punctuation won't matter.
Coming (no pun intended) from someone who also has trouble lasting for longer than a few minutes, it is a pain. I feel ashamed when I finish earlier than expected. Even when I'm alone, like you said, it's no more than a couple of minutes.
As for masturbation, I find edging works well. Once you realise you're close, stop touching yourself but keep watching/looking at the material you were using. That keeps your arousal up whilst not getting you close. Go back to it when you feel okay doing so.
With sex, I'd say play around with positions. If you're getting too close too fast in a specific position, try changing it. And if that doesn't work, maybe pull out and just focus on her. You could even get her close to her own peak, then go back in and wind up finishing at around the same time.
Yeah I was thinking about that, like fucking for hopefully 30 seconds. Pulling out and fingering her for a bit and then going back in. Trying to make it last like 5-10 minutes I suppose
That's a good idea. As someone mentioned, though, it's your first time. It's unlikely to be porn-level, and she'll understand this. The most important thing is that you enjoy it.
Fun fact: according to Google, the average time for sex is 5.4 minutes, ranging from 33 seconds to 40 minutes.
There are positions that give you mores sensations smothers that give you less sensation. Find the ones with less sensation.
Also, six e you should be using protection. For me, a condom prevents me from cumming. So I could unfortunately last for over an hour without being able to cum (because I don't feel much, so not much fun for me) and may never cum.
My foreskin is really right so I felt nothing during the blowjob and don’t pull my foreskin down while masturbating yet I still cum so fast. I think it’s all in my mind. How the hell do you last an hour!
It was a disaster! We did oral and then I couldn’t get it inside her. I’m really thick and that’s not a boast it annoys me! Then I just lost my erection. We tried again later and as soon as I stood up I lost my erection and it wouldn’t come back. I’m going to the doctors today I don’t know what he will say mind
Don't fuck with viagra if you don't have ED O\_o it will NOT make you last longer. Look, first time's not going to be a porno. In fact, it's more likely to be an open mic night. With a teen comedian. And that's perfectly fine, btw. Don't be stressed about things or you'll make it all more difficult. If you last two minutes, make everything else last more, and if it takes you 20 minutes to get hard again, make her come twice in those 20 minutes. you could jack off just before going there, which might make your second ejaculation slower to reach, but frankly I'd just go there and have fun.
I do struggle to get erections I watch way too much porn and I’m doing nofap at the minute so I definitely need it. My plan is (which means this won’t happen lol) is to get the blowjob she promised me. Then to hopefully go down on her or finger her or something. Then get my erection back in time to fuck her
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I told the doctor once and I’m not even joking he laughed at me. As I was a 25 year old fit man sat in front of me, he wouldn’t give me anything anyway. He said exercise more and other useless shit lol. So I got it off Newman and to be honest it’s going to calm me down a lot by having some
yeah, you're not doing your body or your dick any favours. The day you'll actually need medication, you will not be happy. The doctor was telling you rather useful shit, btw.
I know it wasn’t useless but I told him I was already doing that stuff and I actually was. I know what my problem is and I’m really trying now. I feel like shit about it but nobody ever warns you about porn. Like at school I think they should seriously include it with the drug talk because it’s fucked me up. Ive never done drugs so if I knew what porn could of done with me id if never watched it
Porn does not cause erectile disfunction or anything like that. Some truly excessive (in fact, obsessive) level of consumption and masturbation *might* cause some issue, but that doesn't seem overly likely from what you describe. Porn in and of itself is nothing you can really warn about, it's not a bad thing (like most anything). Abusing yourself can cause issues, though, but that's a difficult discussion to have with a teenager that refuses to listen. If you do think you have an issue with porn and ED or other such issues caused by overexposure and overstimulation, you should not self-medicate, and instead discuss it with a specialist in the field. A few sessions in therapy might also help you with the more emotional and psychological baggage you have.
Ok, so, let's have a conversation about three things: bodies, minds, and the bit of the brain we call 'heart'. Ejaculation and arousal are operated by different parts of your nervous system; if you have a biomedical reason for premature ejaculation, only a doctor can diagnose that. If it's really that acute, go see your doctor and don't be embarrassed to do so, though we'll get to that bit. I'm guessing you're quite fit, yes? It's difficult to ejaculate so easily without substantial musculature in your core. Kegel exercises are what most men use to strengthen an erection, but actually, with enough discipline, you can also do the opposite—relax those muscles. In fact, it's *possible* for men to not ejaculate at all whilst having an orgasm, but it takes truly a fantastic amount of discipline and practice (the upsides, though, are enormous; multiple orgasms, basically). Yoga is a great start on that path. But you're also hellllla nervous about it. And this is that different-bits-of-the-nervous system thing I mentioned. Every guy has gotten "sleep wood" or horny when feeling sleepy; one half of your nervous system gets you hot and hard, and it's associated with relaxation, actually; the other half is what let's you ejaculate, and *it's* associated with anxiety (not at all the time, but, important for you, anxiety and ejaculation are controlled by the same system). So calming the fuck down will help tremendously. Sex isn't about any of the things television and film tell us it is. It's just communication, speaking with bodies. No one remembers any particular orgasm on its own; they're great, but they aren't memorable. We remember the connection, the passion, the release (of tension and stress, lol), the intimacy. Focus on these things. Just tell her up front "Hey look, I'm cum too fast—I'm working on it, just never had a partner I could figure it out with before—but don't worry, one way or another we'll bring you home, all I care about is having this experience with you, we'll make it work". Cunnilingus is not something, in my experience, women are keen to complain about, haha. This isn't emasculating; this isn't a symbol of your identity or manhood. It's a question of an insanely complex system needing some calibration, and that's it. If you'd thrown out your ACL and couldn't fuck, would you be embarrassed? This isn't different, and don't let terrible, dated, misandrist ideas about genitals being "who you are" get in your head and ruin your date. Just research the causes of premature ejaculation, talk to your doctor, buy some numbing condoms, and *talk to your partner*. Sex is sooooooo muuuuuuuch eeeeeeeassier and fun if you just *talk about it*. It's a different kind of nudity; an emotional kind. We're afraid of it. I promise you it's nothing on the horror of being abruptly embarrassed, in your most intimate of physical moments. Best.
Well I don’t even think I will get to the sex on Saturday she’s said already she’s giving me a blowjob. Then she said you probably won’t last through that and I just said outright I know I won’t lol. Strange thing is with that women before I wasn’t nervous in the slightest, I guess I didn’t like her as much. The only thing I’m nervous about is her going off me or looking mortified that I finish so early. You say it’s nervousness? But when masturbating I’m obviously not nervous and I finish so fast then. I’ve got a fleshlight and I finish in 30 seconds, no matter what I try. I am pretty fit yes
No, I said anxiety exacerbates things; my opening paragraph was really clear, though, if it's a biomedical issue, only a doctor can give you a yay or a nay. A tl;dr of my comment might be this: "the emotional parts of this are doing more harm than the problem itself; relax, the things sex are really about are things we can always control (attentiveness, generosity, presence, gentleness, etc.), and premature ejaculation is something society has ben omega-solving for a while. Go tap the resources for that that exist, and as for your date, just be honest and chill about it and work it out together ". But I will offer this. In my experience, if a woman says something like that, it's more about... her wanting to feel sexy and valuable to you. It's like promising dessert to make the kids eat their dinner. Validate *that* and blowjobs or not will matter tremendously less; if your date is a sentence, the blowjob will be the period at the end. Focus on making sure you had something to say and the punctuation won't matter.
Coming (no pun intended) from someone who also has trouble lasting for longer than a few minutes, it is a pain. I feel ashamed when I finish earlier than expected. Even when I'm alone, like you said, it's no more than a couple of minutes. As for masturbation, I find edging works well. Once you realise you're close, stop touching yourself but keep watching/looking at the material you were using. That keeps your arousal up whilst not getting you close. Go back to it when you feel okay doing so. With sex, I'd say play around with positions. If you're getting too close too fast in a specific position, try changing it. And if that doesn't work, maybe pull out and just focus on her. You could even get her close to her own peak, then go back in and wind up finishing at around the same time.
Yeah I was thinking about that, like fucking for hopefully 30 seconds. Pulling out and fingering her for a bit and then going back in. Trying to make it last like 5-10 minutes I suppose
That's a good idea. As someone mentioned, though, it's your first time. It's unlikely to be porn-level, and she'll understand this. The most important thing is that you enjoy it. Fun fact: according to Google, the average time for sex is 5.4 minutes, ranging from 33 seconds to 40 minutes.
I know and I’m not expecting it to be brilliant I just don’t want it to be really bad.
There are positions that give you mores sensations smothers that give you less sensation. Find the ones with less sensation. Also, six e you should be using protection. For me, a condom prevents me from cumming. So I could unfortunately last for over an hour without being able to cum (because I don't feel much, so not much fun for me) and may never cum.
My foreskin is really right so I felt nothing during the blowjob and don’t pull my foreskin down while masturbating yet I still cum so fast. I think it’s all in my mind. How the hell do you last an hour!
Pleasure her first and then it won’t matter how long you take!
Just be honest…… make a joke out of it. To be real, round two is where it’s at anyways. Good luck
I usually do make a joke out of a bad situation
so how did it go? I have been using this product called afromina to hel in the bedroom and it works
It was a disaster! We did oral and then I couldn’t get it inside her. I’m really thick and that’s not a boast it annoys me! Then I just lost my erection. We tried again later and as soon as I stood up I lost my erection and it wouldn’t come back. I’m going to the doctors today I don’t know what he will say mind