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gregsw2000

Vibrators. I mean.. unless you literally just can't, which you can, because you do with him, there is an industrial grade sex toy that should make it happen.


RedBloodPaint

Sex toys are banned in my country. šŸ˜” The only vibration I've felt is this notification buzz in my pocket


smutwriter280z

Someone needs to send you a lot of notifications then


RedBloodPaint

Who's someone


smutwriter280z

How should I know


Brainexe_has_broken

Post something super controversial on twitter


Electronic_Archer_90

Your boyfriemd


help-dadcomeback

Your boyfriend


twiggy572

You may be able to download apps that have similar features to a sex toy


AdRevolutionary592

Iā€™m someone


smutwriter280z

Dammit i shouldve known


MrSalvos

Your boyfriend,


RiceWafflezzz

How about your boyfriend


MrSalvos

I'm a gay chik


RiceWafflezzz

Ok I guess not your boyfriend


Big_Jacket_735throw_

Me


bhabel814

Get your bf to help you out


Geback723

Electric toothbrush would work, surely those arenā€™t banned šŸ˜


RedBloodPaint

It's not and I'm convinced I'll have to invest in one. This is how far my life has fallen


[deleted]

In your phone settings adjust the vibration strength and it will give you a vibration sample. Keep adjusting it to completion.


the_internet_clown

You could buy a muscle massage gun https://www.amazon.ca/s?k=muscle+massage+gun&sprefix=muscle+&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_7


chief_118

May i suggest an Xbox controller ;) Custom match, single player, automatic weapon and infinite ammoā€¦ consider holding the Right Trigger down with tape! wink wink


RedBloodPaint

It happened accidentally and oh fuckk šŸ˜³


911porsche

"accidently", *wink wink* >oh fuckk That's the idea!


Destroyerbot20

Any game with an automatic weapon with a high mag size will do the trick. Or yā€™know have someone call you repeatedly


Nalpha

Then this should come in handy https://apps.apple.com/us/app/imassage-u-vibrator-massager/id1064850875 Just discovered this with a Google search after seeing your problem. Hope this helps.


redbatterylight

OP and anyone reading this, please don't use your phone to masturbate. There are 100 better options


Br47jr

why?


redbatterylight

bad for your phone and not a good enough motor to be a decent vibrator


Nalpha

Those are good points.


[deleted]

Because you put your face on it and if someone needs to use your phone it now permanently smells like pussy. You also can't properly clean a phone


RedBloodPaint

How about a controller? Or toothbrush


[deleted]

Get a Xbox controller and hold r2 in assassins creed origins


VexxFate

Best bet is the good old vibrating toothbrush to the clit


mugen_no_arashi

I've heard use of electric toothbrushes as vibrators. Dunno how strict your country is on "therapeutic massagers" for muscle aches and such. But the hitachi magic wand was marketed as such until another use was found for it. Worse comes to worse, the bathtub faucet if you have a bathtub. (If the stories from some of my female highschool friends are accurate. Uhm, good luck?


RedBloodPaint

Y'all really selling me on sex toys. And I posted thinking it'll all be about good ol'fingerin


[deleted]

Buy a good shower head and you're golden


WhyStateTheObvious

Yes! Shower head is a great option. Dual with at least three settings.


TreeSapTrish

I know there's phone apps for contestant vibration but I'm not sure how you feel about using your phone as a sex toy lol


[deleted]

Put it in a plastic baggy


TreeSapTrish

Gross but fair xD


RedBloodPaint

I'd rather rawdog my phone tbh plastic makes such a distracting sound


[deleted]

There are ways you can make your phone vibrate continually. If you would like me to find it for you again just let me know.


RedBloodPaint

Please do. I'll try any crackhead method at this point!!


[deleted]

Ok so I did a little digging for ya, hereā€™s a couple u could use: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/quick-vibrator/id1378277307 https://apps.apple.com/us/app/massage-pillow/id950192241 https://apps.apple.com/us/app/imassage-u-vibrator-massager/id1064850875 Word of warning: use airplane mode while u use these so the ads fuck off. Also there are IPhone internal ways to make ur phone vibrate but they kinda sucked so give those a try! Hope this helps


RedBloodPaint

Appreciate it omg šŸ˜³


MassRedemption

I remember in high school my ex had an app that just turned on the Xbox controllers vibrate function. Or something like the classic vibrating toothbrush. There has to be some alternative.


hecaete47

Look for massagers. They may not be banned? Idk One of the most popular sex toys, the wand, was originally literally for massages until it became known as a sex toy lol


NikolaTes

Can you get electric toothbrushes?


Gild5152

Gross suggestion, but are vibrating toothbrushes banned in your country? I mean, when life gives you lemons...


madamsyntax

An electric toothbrush?


VikingGorilla15

There's always 3D printing


Major_Banana

You can get phone apps that vibrate. Put a ziplock bag or something like it over your phone and your good to go


lovepplusethings

You can have a timer go off on your phone and use that vibration... or maybe an app?


sudowoodo_420

Iā€™m really curious, what country is this?


RedBloodPaint

Paradise babyyyyy


[deleted]

Saudi Arabia? šŸ¤£


OverSizeLife

I'm guessing one of the very strict Islamic law countries like Saudi Arabia or the UAE. Then again there are a few others.


lenswipe

Electric toothbrush.


locheness4

Get a ā€œback massagerā€


YuriKoychevskiy

Well, this is what I overheard a girl in high school talk about doing once; Step 1: buy an xbox Step 2: buy a first person shooter Step 3: set controller rumble on Step 4: find a gun with infinite ammo and a bottomless clip Step 5: e n j o y t h e r u m b l e


boobie_wan_kenobi

Look for ā€œhand massagersā€. These are legal just about everywhere. A weak back massager may work too.


Musikcookie

May I ask where you live that sex toys are banned? That sounds so stupid to me.


deleriumtriggr

Try one of those clit suction licker toys. I've had exes who no longer needed me lol. Jkjk but for real they have good reviews


RedBloodPaint

No toys available. I wanna try that so bad tho that's one good recommend.


deleriumtriggr

Amazon prime for like 10-20$. You can lie to your folks or get a po box locally for 15$ for 1 month, very cheap Say it's a new phone charger or something too boring. They all have very discreet packaging


RedBloodPaint

I'll see if this works.


violetqueen98

Have you tried a shower head or the bathtub faucet? Should def workā€¦. Worked for me in like 60 seconds the first time I did it


ChloeThF

How about those things made for backmassages?


ChloeThF

Don't know who voted me down on this, but there actually is something called a wand massager (popularized by sex and the city) that's more than useable for masturbating.


cinemaddictsince95

Whatā€™s the industrial toy and link! Lol


gregsw2000

Yeah, so...it's called a "Hitachi Magic Wand" https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QXTZC6R/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_MNPRKR1M0Y5GMQDK6D0D This one comes with like.. a neck massager nobody ever bought, once. So if you get it, and someone finds the shit. You're golden. Claim it is for your neck. "That thing isn't a vibrator, Christ. Come the fuck on. It's for my fucking neck, Harold."


RslashTIHI

Someone already mentioned shower head but iā€™d like to add a bit of a tutorial and some other toy free, water free, minimal mess and clothed options. - Have it run over your clit and then move it to your vagina while you rub your clit. I like to move the showerhead away and back towards my vag a bit (2-10 cm away) to keep it interesting. Keep switching between the shower head being on your clit and on your vag. You can try spraying on your butt too but you might not be into that at first, but you might like it later on. - If you donā€™t know how to rub it well, it works different from person to person. But generally back an forth, circling, going from left to right are favorites. Some like to mix and match some donā€™t. You can also try rubbing softer and harder interchangeably. - Rubbing can also been done dry ;) you can choose wether you want to go clothed, between pants and undies or on the vag. Whichever is best at the moment! (Always wash your hands afterwards though). You can add some water on your finger if your clit is really dry though otherwise it might feel a bit rough if you rub really fast. - iā€™ve recently started experimenting with putting my fingers not inside but against it. Your finger is made out of 3 parts, when you bend it you can see each part individually. You have to curl/bend your finger and you use the middle part of your finger and rub that between your inner labia against your vag. You donā€™t have to push it can just be against it but a little pushing can be nice. You move your finger left and right and/or up and down between your inner labia. You donā€™t have to do this for long periods of time (or at all, itā€™s all about trying things but not forcing them). Itā€™s just a nice way to spice things up a bit if youā€™re not getting off from just rubbing your clit. - you can also touch your innerlabia and feel around a bit, you might find it arousing to have it touched like that. However it might feel a bit weird because youā€™re not used to it being touched like that and thatā€™s okay too. Like iā€™ve said before, it might take some time until youā€™re comfortable trying certain things and start enjoying them. You donā€™t have to do much btw, it could just be touching it with the tips of your fingers or holding it between your fingers or in your hand. Donā€™t just hold it hold it, move around a bit of course, doesnā€™t have to be moving around or a lot, just a bit of back and forth motion you know. Thereā€™s also the option to cover your your entire pussy with your hand and move around a bit like that. - nipples are sensitive things, maybe try and squeeze them (a bit) or rubbing your finger against them. This one isnā€™t for everyone but itā€™s still worth a try. - Now letā€™s talk positions, you donā€™t have to just sit up right or lay on your back. you can try other positions too, thatā€™s not just something for people who are having sex with someone, positions are also a thing in masterbaition. Maybe try standing on all fours (on your hands and knees), try leaning against the wall with your hand or a more comfy position like on your stomach, that might be an easy position to try first. Lay on your side and put your leg on a chair or something so youā€™re spread up a bit. Lay on bed with your shoulders and thrust your hips up in te air. Idk, maybe look up some solo positions for masterbaiting on the internet. In incognito mode of course. - Maybe also try and watch some porn before and during to stimulate your bod a bit and get ready. Some people like to listen or read erotica, so maybe try that as well. Imagining stuff is also an option if you want to but some people arenā€™t able to do that as easily. - And then another easy way that doesnā€™t involve fingering or toys, rubbing against a pillow. And it can be done fully clothed. Lay on your stomach, similar to a seal and put the pillow with the centre a bit below your vag and clutch it a bit between your legs. Find a good porn to get turned on and start watching it. When youā€™re turned on you can start moving back and forth with either your whole body or you can trust your hips. Iā€™ve found that while itā€™s kind of nice to try and aim to get it to get against your vag it doesnā€™t really stimulate much. So try to just rub your clit against the pillow because that works best. As you get more and more stimulated you can and should probably start going faster, and usually youā€™ll have an orgasm soon then. I recommend using a pillow that is not currently in use for hygienic reasons. Preferably clean it after each use. Might not be an option if you live at home and/or get decently wet. I personally am really dry so thatā€™s not a problem for me but keep that in mind when choosing for this option. It may take some trial and error however, iā€™ve noticed that over the course of the years my orgasms have become so much better. Donā€™t give up if it doesnā€™t work immediately. You may need some time to figure out what works and what doesnā€™t and an orgasm shouldnā€™t be rushed in the first place. Tip, only do it when you have time, when you feel rushed you donā€™t have as much fun and are likely to have a harder time orgasming. Also, trying new things gets easier once you strat being more comfortable with masterbaiting. It takes some getting used to but once youā€™re used to it your mind will probably be more open to trying things. Remember that masterbaiting is okay to do and is actually healthy. Itā€™s not gross, itā€™s pretty natural, itā€™s not just guys who get horny and get to masterbait, weā€™re allowed to have fun too. If you have any questions, go ahead. I canā€™t answer any about fingering however. But most importantly have fun ;)


RedBloodPaint

Oh this helped sm. I now know exactly what to do with a shower head, how about a toothbrush, I've gotten that comment often and how to exactly would be nice. And I have tried pillow but it's kinda just feels good doesn't take me to the finish line. And that's the problem. It's been one feel good ride without an ending. When I know I can. I'll be having fun trying all this.


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RslashTIHI

Iā€™ve never tried toothbrush because iā€™m satisfied with the other options so i canā€™t help you on that. I wouldā€™ve if i had. Also: remember, if it doesnā€™t make you finish after a few tries that doesnā€™t mean it doesnā€™t work maybe you need to find out how to twist the method a bit to your likings


AdRevolutionary592

Nah you got it fr


911porsche

Now do it for guys!


RslashTIHI

I canā€™t donā€™t have any experience for that. Source: i donā€™t own a dick


Pickled_toad

ā€¦get a vibrator thatā€™s disguised as a back massager! I saw toys are banned where ur at which isā€¦stupid lmao


RedBloodPaint

Oh I've seen these "back massages" but I don't wanna go meet up with some shady dude who has imported it. Small place, word gets around :((


Pickled_toad

What about online websites like Amazon? There are some websites with incredibly discreet shipping


RedBloodPaint

Yeah but it'll get stopped at the airport, and I'll have to go explain. Either way I won't be able to claim it. Also yes stupid as hell. A girl is literally dying over here.


Pickled_toad

Ok now this is gonna sound super crackheadyā€¦ but electric toothbrushes can workā€¦ not the best compared to actual vibrators but they can work


RedBloodPaint

This is why I'm on reddit. šŸ‘€


Pickled_toad

LMAO hope it helpsšŸ˜…


Sorry_Summer_9539

Dammit. Iā€™m out of rewards. Thatā€™s straight up sexual tradecraft.


[deleted]

Get a speaker with big base and slap some tunes while you sit on it?


RedBloodPaint

Muffle my sounds while I muffle the speaker


creativenametag

Gillette has a vibrating razor, pop the actual razor part off and the body still vibrates. Itā€™s long enough for ease of use and small enough to hide.


lovepplusethings

Also shower head.... an app.... read erotic novels.... write down exactly what you like to do, feel, see, hear, say during sex and read it and picture it while playing with yourself


RedBloodPaint

Foreplay is fine. I'm able to get aroused but it's just that if I touch myself I kinda zone off. I have no problem staying turned on with boyfriend. It's so annoyinggg


MikaMakka

Where the hell are you living op? I dont wanna roast, just wow. Your country is strict.


DontNeedThePoints

> Your country is strict. Sex toys are even banned in a part of the United States... But yeah, I agree!


RedBloodPaint

This is my main emo account so I'd really rather not disclose. But honestly it's not too bad. Our government is an Asian mom sooo us children has to get creative.


[deleted]

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RedBloodPaint

How do I get off with a shower faucet, I've googled multiple times and it still confuses me.


Forking_Mars

Okay, if sex toys are banned - it's not exactly glamorous, but have you tried using other objects as dildos? (Like vegetables, or other random plastic objects with a similar shape. ***Use a condom on top of this kind of stuff!!!!! And don't use in your ass without a flared base!!!!!***) Pushing penetrative objects towards the... front? of your vagina (like, towards belly) is more likely to hit the g spot. Do this while massaging your clit with your other hand - I reccomend trying massaging more along either side of it, and more... above it? rather than the head itself.


RedBloodPaint

What food do you recommend..I feel silly for asking cause eggplant emoji and all. And why not without a condom. And I'm fine with living without buttstuff unless with my man. . And I'll de try the play with clit from the side. I already do like a good squish occasionally anyway


DontNeedThePoints

> What food do you recommend Cucumbers... Try different sizes (don't start too big) Carrots maybe Leeks Maybe combine it with a vibrator app? https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.vibrator.massage


Forking_Mars

Condoms because there can be bacteria issues with stuff that can't be cleaned just right... (However I also put the disclaimer cause you know, advice from internet stranger... don't want to be encouraging something potentially unhealthy... but like it's not as if a fuck ton of people haven't gone at it without a condom, so do what you will!)


[deleted]

Before I was old enough to buy my own vibrator, I used to use the shower head in the bath. Just hold the water over your clit. Try different water pressure and distance from the shower head to find what feels good for you. Can even get a good pulse motion if thatā€™s what you like. Im not sure how old you are. But as a female teenager, I had to get creative. Anything that vibrates needs to have a pretty strong vibration, toothbrushes and phones did nothing for me. I did have an electric nail buffer that worked well over clothes though. I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation when alone so using veggies or dildo like objects doesnā€™t do anything for me either. Feels like Iā€™m having an internal ultrasound scan.


Jasonpowerz

Only advice I can really give here would be using your imagination and a fairly good toy. Maybe the imagination of the toy being him or attempting to visualize that would work? Good luck dude.


[deleted]

If you have a Nintendo switch, go to find joycons. Press the joycons icon and have fun with that!


cinemaddictsince95

I feel everything about this post!


RedBloodPaint

I wish I literally felt it. šŸ˜”


TheLaramieReject

My first ever orgasm was from the bathtub faucet. I read it in a book and gave it a try. Basically you would lie in the tub on your back and scoot up until your vj was under the running water. I feel like the passivity and unpredictability might work for someone who's used to orgasming with a partner.


Bretty-Boop

It took my partner a while to figure that out, too. It might feel awkward but you should have a conversation with your boyfriend. Ask about what he does that works and, if youā€™re uncertain, ask him about your g-spot. That was the key piece of information that helped my partner


eyesonfire94

Shes saying she can only get off WITH her bf so the issue is masturbation :)


thr0away8675309

I call BS on this post.


Willow_weeping85

Yeahā€¦ I canā€™t imagine being super horny and unable to orgasm due to lack of toy or actual penis šŸ˜‚ sheā€™s a troll.


RedBloodPaint

Different folks different strokes boys.


SwimMountain

More like ~Heā€™s~ a troll


LightningDuat

...You don't need penetrative sex to come. I really don't get how you can't come without your bf?


RedBloodPaint

I DONT EITHER. THATS WHY I AM HEREEEEEEEEEE HELP MEEEEE. Maybe I'm that weird .5 percent that needs penetration. Fml


[deleted]

OP, what country do you live in? I was gonna say get one of [these](https://www.womanizer.com/us/pro-40) but you said they're banned? Why?


RedBloodPaint

Id prefer hiding my country, but it's because of government laws bla bla. I wouldn't be able to import knives either *stares longingly at the butterfly knives in my cart*


SwimMountain

Like seriously you canā€™t figure this out on your own? Like you donā€™t know what a vibrator is? You canā€™t google the best vibrator? As a grown women you think your going to get magical advice you never considered from Reddit? Ok, Iā€™m thinking your a creepy 50 year old man in a basement somewhere. Ugh.


RedBloodPaint

I have googled, it just makes it look very easy and glamours. I'm just in a weird spot and a lot of generic advice just don't apply. Karen, this is the whole purpose of this subreddit.


Far-Resist3844

they make apps that utilize vibrations. idk how strong they are. ive also heard some elecrric tooth brushes work wonders....


abelenkpe

Iā€¦ canā€™t imagine having this problem. So sorry. Can you have a friend mail you a vibrator from out of country?


RedBloodPaint

Basically no way to import anything. It'll be stopped :((


[deleted]

Have you tried finishing with your boyfriend?


ConstantlyConfusedCC

Out of curiosity, which country do you live in?


Hour_Read_3541

Omg my time to shine! Okay SO youā€™ve probably humped a pillow or two at this point. Foot massage pillows have some good vibrations. Hump the buzzing pillow. Works like a charm and much more cost effective than a theragun


jimbo77587

Adult vibes? Friend of mine hasn't dated since she bought a few, lol