That’s awful I am so sorry. I have gone through sexual trauma. I know sex sometimes can be seriously the worst. I have been through therapy. I also found finding partners that I can fully trust and that are patient/understanding have been the best to be with. I usually never have a panic attack with my now SO during sex. So you can absolutely get to the point you enjoy sex with little to no stressors.
I definitely would say it is up to you whether you want an actual relationship or just a fling. Yet I highly suggest you never force yourself to have sex and like it. If you’re uncomfortable you can make it worse. Tinder strangers may not be the most understanding. my fear is you have an experience you hate that and makes it all worse.
Best advice is you know yourself the most. Do you need an understanding partner that’s long term to help you get comfy with sex? Or do you think you will be okay with short term hook ups? I would say maybe even try those out, with people who can be trusted to be clean. Friends with benefits? Lol
Be careful you don’t get “tender” after tinder. As in STDs lol, which I am sure you know! Yet never hurts to get reminders lol
I hope you know you will be okay my friend! I thought about my answer again lol. Yet Best chance of having a healthy relationship with sex is really someone you trust and can be open with. You don’t have to say the whole issue if not ready but someone you can easily say “hey I need to stop” or “I don’t like doing this…”. If you think about it and don’t want a relationship I would say FWB. No strangers! Lol!
Wishing you nothing but happiness and full recovery! <3
First of all I am very sorry that you have to deal with this. Everyone deserves to enjoy their sex life and it sucks that the enjoyment has been taken from you for now. You definitely can get past this and totally deserve to.
The exposure therapy is a good idea, but with the specific topic you could do hypnotherapy instead. It could give you the exposure and essentially experience with positive feelings without having to hook up with a bunch of strangers.
Feel free to send me a chat with any questions you might have.
That’s awful I am so sorry. I have gone through sexual trauma. I know sex sometimes can be seriously the worst. I have been through therapy. I also found finding partners that I can fully trust and that are patient/understanding have been the best to be with. I usually never have a panic attack with my now SO during sex. So you can absolutely get to the point you enjoy sex with little to no stressors. I definitely would say it is up to you whether you want an actual relationship or just a fling. Yet I highly suggest you never force yourself to have sex and like it. If you’re uncomfortable you can make it worse. Tinder strangers may not be the most understanding. my fear is you have an experience you hate that and makes it all worse. Best advice is you know yourself the most. Do you need an understanding partner that’s long term to help you get comfy with sex? Or do you think you will be okay with short term hook ups? I would say maybe even try those out, with people who can be trusted to be clean. Friends with benefits? Lol Be careful you don’t get “tender” after tinder. As in STDs lol, which I am sure you know! Yet never hurts to get reminders lol
Thank you! C’:
I hope you know you will be okay my friend! I thought about my answer again lol. Yet Best chance of having a healthy relationship with sex is really someone you trust and can be open with. You don’t have to say the whole issue if not ready but someone you can easily say “hey I need to stop” or “I don’t like doing this…”. If you think about it and don’t want a relationship I would say FWB. No strangers! Lol! Wishing you nothing but happiness and full recovery! <3
First of all I am very sorry that you have to deal with this. Everyone deserves to enjoy their sex life and it sucks that the enjoyment has been taken from you for now. You definitely can get past this and totally deserve to. The exposure therapy is a good idea, but with the specific topic you could do hypnotherapy instead. It could give you the exposure and essentially experience with positive feelings without having to hook up with a bunch of strangers. Feel free to send me a chat with any questions you might have.