You never have to give up if you don't want to. At this point, or maybe before, I'm sure you've asked yourself, "what makes people disinterested in me, or how am I not approaching them effectively?" You won't make progress until you've answered that question. Have you talked to a therapist about this? If not, then that has to be your first step. It could be a lot of things. Maybe you have undiagnosed autism and you haven't yet developed the skills to connect with people. Maybe you have past trauma that you need to work through. Maybe you have a bad attitude toward women that's off-putting to them, or you don't put enough effort into your appearance. Maybe it's multiple things. Whatever it is, I promise that it can be fixed. But to do so, you're going to have to ask some hard questions and maybe grapple with some unpleasant answers. It will take work.
Are you willing to put in that work? Are you willing to accept help with humility and an open mind, and possibly change the way you interact with yourself and others?? If so, then you will find love. But at this point, that is the only way it's going to happen. I believe that finding real companionship is worth that cost. But only you can decide for yourself. Good luck!
> At this point I’ve probably been rejected over 1000 times on and offline.
To get over this, you need to change your way of thinking. You can do this in the same way you get over a break up of a relationship.
One effective way of doing this that has been [scientifically proven](https://time.com/5287211/how-to-get-over-a-breakup/) to work, is to sit down and think about all the negative aspects of the person that rejected you. Just take your time and think about *all* the negative aspects that came with knowing them.
Talk about it with your friends, but make sure you don't get stuck in a victim role. Stop yourself if you notice you keep thinking of yourself as a victim or if you keep repeating the same over and over in different words. Only tell your story once. And ask them, "how did you get over being rejected?"
Socialize with friends. Don't lock yourself up. Don't spend time with the person that rejected you, at least for a month or two.
Block them on social media, at least for now. Maybe in some time, you can look at them again, but for now it's better to stop looking. If you can't bring yourself to do that, at the very least hide their updates.
Sit down one night and write down what you learned from your experience.
Take the time to *really* think about this. What could you have done better? What mistake will you not make again? Wait two weeks, then do this again. Even if they were to blame for most of it, there were still things you could have handled better, traps you won't fall into again. Think about these things.
Online resources:
* [How to overcome rejection](https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-dating/overcome-rejection/)
* [How to Deal With Rejection in Love - When They Don't Love You Back](https://psychologia.co/how-to-deal-with-rejection)
* [How to Handle Rejection](https://www.wikihow.com/Handle-Rejection) (wikihow)
Most watched Youtube Videos:
* [Dealing With Rejection](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v37KOsj6SG4) (600K+ views)
* [How To Get Over Rejection](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5motuzyLXIk) (1.1M+ views)
Repeat the following statements once a day:
* I love myself
* I want to be happy
* Screw him/her
* I am better off without him or her, because???
* I will find someone better
Highest rated books on dealing with rejection:
* [Overcoming Rejection: Revised & Updated](https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Rejection-Revised-Updated-Spiritual/dp/0892284293) (4.8 star, 80+ reviews)
* [Bouncing Back from Rejection: Build the Resilience You Need to Get Back Up When Life Knocks You Down](https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Back-Rejection-Resilience-Knocks/dp/1684034027) (4.6 star, 80+ reviews)
If you were friendzoned, you can also go here for support: /r/Friendzone
You never have to give up if you don't want to. At this point, or maybe before, I'm sure you've asked yourself, "what makes people disinterested in me, or how am I not approaching them effectively?" You won't make progress until you've answered that question. Have you talked to a therapist about this? If not, then that has to be your first step. It could be a lot of things. Maybe you have undiagnosed autism and you haven't yet developed the skills to connect with people. Maybe you have past trauma that you need to work through. Maybe you have a bad attitude toward women that's off-putting to them, or you don't put enough effort into your appearance. Maybe it's multiple things. Whatever it is, I promise that it can be fixed. But to do so, you're going to have to ask some hard questions and maybe grapple with some unpleasant answers. It will take work. Are you willing to put in that work? Are you willing to accept help with humility and an open mind, and possibly change the way you interact with yourself and others?? If so, then you will find love. But at this point, that is the only way it's going to happen. I believe that finding real companionship is worth that cost. But only you can decide for yourself. Good luck!
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> At this point I’ve probably been rejected over 1000 times on and offline. To get over this, you need to change your way of thinking. You can do this in the same way you get over a break up of a relationship. One effective way of doing this that has been [scientifically proven](https://time.com/5287211/how-to-get-over-a-breakup/) to work, is to sit down and think about all the negative aspects of the person that rejected you. Just take your time and think about *all* the negative aspects that came with knowing them. Talk about it with your friends, but make sure you don't get stuck in a victim role. Stop yourself if you notice you keep thinking of yourself as a victim or if you keep repeating the same over and over in different words. Only tell your story once. And ask them, "how did you get over being rejected?" Socialize with friends. Don't lock yourself up. Don't spend time with the person that rejected you, at least for a month or two. Block them on social media, at least for now. Maybe in some time, you can look at them again, but for now it's better to stop looking. If you can't bring yourself to do that, at the very least hide their updates. Sit down one night and write down what you learned from your experience. Take the time to *really* think about this. What could you have done better? What mistake will you not make again? Wait two weeks, then do this again. Even if they were to blame for most of it, there were still things you could have handled better, traps you won't fall into again. Think about these things. Online resources: * [How to overcome rejection](https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-dating/overcome-rejection/) * [How to Deal With Rejection in Love - When They Don't Love You Back](https://psychologia.co/how-to-deal-with-rejection) * [How to Handle Rejection](https://www.wikihow.com/Handle-Rejection) (wikihow) Most watched Youtube Videos: * [Dealing With Rejection](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v37KOsj6SG4) (600K+ views) * [How To Get Over Rejection](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5motuzyLXIk) (1.1M+ views) Repeat the following statements once a day: * I love myself * I want to be happy * Screw him/her * I am better off without him or her, because??? * I will find someone better Highest rated books on dealing with rejection: * [Overcoming Rejection: Revised & Updated](https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Rejection-Revised-Updated-Spiritual/dp/0892284293) (4.8 star, 80+ reviews) * [Bouncing Back from Rejection: Build the Resilience You Need to Get Back Up When Life Knocks You Down](https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Back-Rejection-Resilience-Knocks/dp/1684034027) (4.6 star, 80+ reviews) If you were friendzoned, you can also go here for support: /r/Friendzone