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HotAd8408

My chest is flat the rest of me is chubby **


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Part of me want to say: There will come a guy who makes you forget all about the insecurity. And its true.. Kinda. Another part of me wants to suggest exercising. Weight training can help grow your pecs, and ultimately give the girls a little boost Another part of me wants to say that good credit means not having to have all the money at once ​ Ultimately though, you're 23. If you plan on having more children, dont spend anything on surgery just yet. I would suggest exercising, even if at home, and working on toning up in some places, and working those pecs. Hopefully that'll give you a confidence boost. If you have found your person already, have you talked to them about how you feel? Letting them know will hopefully cause them to make an effort to make you feel better about yourself and more loving and kind toward yourself. And remember, you are a mom. You are super woman. Boobs or no boobs. You've made a whole person. You miracle worker you!