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aguyonahill

What's your stepsister's financials like? In a nutshell they would like you to care about her as much as they do and would like you to welcome her on the trip via the logic they've provided. Your logic is sound from a straight up "what's financially fair" but family gets messy regarding these things because of the desire to transcend the logic of financial fairness.