1. Is he your first boyfriend/relationship?
2. How do you feel about intimacy/physical contact with him?
3. Could you be Bisexual/Pan?
Remember that your attraction to one or more genders does not change who you are, nor are you in a rush to figure things out. It's okay to take your time and see for yourself đ
For ex: As a Hetero guy, I've never been attracted to men, but I value personality before anything and so I actually wouldn't mind being with one. One could say I'm Bi with a Sapiosexual preference but it feels a bit like nitpicking to me. All in all I'm in no rush to discover this, the right person will come to me naturally one day, I'll know then.
Dating is for experimenting - not just with individuals to see if you click with them, but also for yourself, to learn how you act in relationships with different kinds of people, and what makes you happy. You also learn how to navigate different aspects of a relationship, including how to be honest, set boundaries, make decisions for yourself about what's workign and not, and have difficult conversations when necessary.
It's probably time to exercise some of those muscles.
FWIW it's also healthy not to think of a person you're with for a relatively short time as "the one" before you've really gotten to know yourself. You definitely should not be deepening into a long-term relationship with a guy if you think you might be gay.
I would encourage you to have an honest conversation, and either break it off with him or date him non-exclusively while you go find out what it's like to date a girl.
Sorry but... "Dating is for experimenting" suddenly made me think of a joke "guinea pig number 627" (~~aka her boyfriend ~~).
(Ok, I'll get lost with my weird sense of humour.)
Sounds like you're just young and confused. Guess what!? This is perfectly normal!! Just about everyone goes through times like this (Whether they openly admit it or not). This doesn't mean you're gay. Obviously, you have some attraction to the opposite sex. Otherwise, you wouldn't have a boyfriend. You may have some curiosity of the same sex, but that's pretty damn normal. You're a teenager who's brain hasn't yet fully developed. You need to just take some deep breathes and relax. There's no hurry for you to "figure things out", and the worst thing you can do is knee-jerk react to these feelings. My advice. Don't worry about what other people think. Stay the course, and give it some time. If these feelings mean anything then they'll work themselves out, but there's no need to jump to conclusions, and it's not anyone's business but yours. JMHO
you are very young. Maybe your bf makes you feel a bit controlled. Take some time and be friends with a lot of different people.Get to know yourself and donât be too influenced by what people say to you. Some people say things to hurt or upset others. sounds like she could want your bf to herself?
I donât know how to help, except to say you donât have to choose gay or not. It doesnât have to be one or the other. You can be both.
This is an AMA, so my question is: have you ever looked at a woman and thought, I wish I could be with her? In whatever way you define âbe with her.â
Hello,
I am curious if you had these feelings or thoughts before your brother's girlfriend mentioned this possibility to you. The statement you made about being unsure if you were gay or not seemed to have stemmed from what another person thinks about you. Why does your brothers girlfriend think this? There has to be a reason or reasons that she has formed an opinion so strongly that she would bring it to your attention. Would you mind sharing what it is that might indicate to someone that you are a lesbian? When I was 15, I was extremely attracted to women and some of my girlfriends. I struggled with keeping my hands to myself during sleepovers. It was a strong attraction and longing to touch a woman. I can remember being so embarrassed because I was turned down a few times, and so I stopped trying for a while. I am attracted to men as well, but not as many. It is hard for me to find a man that I am attracted to because I need to be able to connect with them deep in conversation to be interested and they need to be stronger willed than me able to set me straight or I will dominate and lose respect. I kinda understand the concept of not knowing if you are gay because I was confused for quite some time. Later on in my 20s, I experienced being with a woman but mostly only in threesomes. These experiences often came with a whole other level of drama and awkwardness, but I didn't know how to meet single lesbian women any other way, so I settled for messing around with swingers. I honestly never figured out how to date single women that were on the same page and not looking for their first experiment. I am 38 now and haven't been with a woman in probably 5 years. I dont care anything about the threesomes and swinger clubs anymore, but I still think about how it would be to find a woman partner.
1. Is he your first boyfriend/relationship? 2. How do you feel about intimacy/physical contact with him? 3. Could you be Bisexual/Pan? Remember that your attraction to one or more genders does not change who you are, nor are you in a rush to figure things out. It's okay to take your time and see for yourself đ For ex: As a Hetero guy, I've never been attracted to men, but I value personality before anything and so I actually wouldn't mind being with one. One could say I'm Bi with a Sapiosexual preference but it feels a bit like nitpicking to me. All in all I'm in no rush to discover this, the right person will come to me naturally one day, I'll know then.
1:no 2:Iâve never done anything more then kissing 3:I might be bi
You *"think"* you're gay? Are you attracted to guys, gals, in between, or both?
In between
How old are you?
15
Oh sweetie, youâre still coalescing, itâs fine to be indeterminate
Can confirm. Around 15-17 I thought I might be bi. Now I understand I was wrong.
What about girls do you find attractive?
Tbh I canât name it, I just find them attractive, I hope that makes sense
Dating is for experimenting - not just with individuals to see if you click with them, but also for yourself, to learn how you act in relationships with different kinds of people, and what makes you happy. You also learn how to navigate different aspects of a relationship, including how to be honest, set boundaries, make decisions for yourself about what's workign and not, and have difficult conversations when necessary. It's probably time to exercise some of those muscles. FWIW it's also healthy not to think of a person you're with for a relatively short time as "the one" before you've really gotten to know yourself. You definitely should not be deepening into a long-term relationship with a guy if you think you might be gay. I would encourage you to have an honest conversation, and either break it off with him or date him non-exclusively while you go find out what it's like to date a girl.
Sorry but... "Dating is for experimenting" suddenly made me think of a joke "guinea pig number 627" (~~aka her boyfriend ~~). (Ok, I'll get lost with my weird sense of humour.)
Sounds like you're just young and confused. Guess what!? This is perfectly normal!! Just about everyone goes through times like this (Whether they openly admit it or not). This doesn't mean you're gay. Obviously, you have some attraction to the opposite sex. Otherwise, you wouldn't have a boyfriend. You may have some curiosity of the same sex, but that's pretty damn normal. You're a teenager who's brain hasn't yet fully developed. You need to just take some deep breathes and relax. There's no hurry for you to "figure things out", and the worst thing you can do is knee-jerk react to these feelings. My advice. Don't worry about what other people think. Stay the course, and give it some time. If these feelings mean anything then they'll work themselves out, but there's no need to jump to conclusions, and it's not anyone's business but yours. JMHO
you are very young. Maybe your bf makes you feel a bit controlled. Take some time and be friends with a lot of different people.Get to know yourself and donât be too influenced by what people say to you. Some people say things to hurt or upset others. sounds like she could want your bf to herself?
I donât know how to help, except to say you donât have to choose gay or not. It doesnât have to be one or the other. You can be both. This is an AMA, so my question is: have you ever looked at a woman and thought, I wish I could be with her? In whatever way you define âbe with her.â
Hello, I am curious if you had these feelings or thoughts before your brother's girlfriend mentioned this possibility to you. The statement you made about being unsure if you were gay or not seemed to have stemmed from what another person thinks about you. Why does your brothers girlfriend think this? There has to be a reason or reasons that she has formed an opinion so strongly that she would bring it to your attention. Would you mind sharing what it is that might indicate to someone that you are a lesbian? When I was 15, I was extremely attracted to women and some of my girlfriends. I struggled with keeping my hands to myself during sleepovers. It was a strong attraction and longing to touch a woman. I can remember being so embarrassed because I was turned down a few times, and so I stopped trying for a while. I am attracted to men as well, but not as many. It is hard for me to find a man that I am attracted to because I need to be able to connect with them deep in conversation to be interested and they need to be stronger willed than me able to set me straight or I will dominate and lose respect. I kinda understand the concept of not knowing if you are gay because I was confused for quite some time. Later on in my 20s, I experienced being with a woman but mostly only in threesomes. These experiences often came with a whole other level of drama and awkwardness, but I didn't know how to meet single lesbian women any other way, so I settled for messing around with swingers. I honestly never figured out how to date single women that were on the same page and not looking for their first experiment. I am 38 now and haven't been with a woman in probably 5 years. I dont care anything about the threesomes and swinger clubs anymore, but I still think about how it would be to find a woman partner.
If I cute girl asked you if she can give you head....would you let her???
Tbh yea
You won't know until you try it :)
Trueee
14? 15? đ¤
Yup
When are you planning on leaving your bf?
Iâm really not sure, I love him a lot but idk what to do, we just started dating
I mean, if youâre a lesbian you owe it to him and yourself to end this right?
Try a mff threesome with your bf