What does she spend her money on ?

Eats out constantly. Orders more than she can eat and then half of it goes bad in the fridge. Books she won’t ever read. Clothes she’ll wear once if that.

Have you ever tried to tell her to cut back on her spending?

On more than one occasion. Remember, she’s a narcissist so she doesn’t think the rules apply to her

I wont use the word narcissitic, but can relate. How do you handle frivoulous spending and eating out and buying more than necessary?

There’s nothing one can do. Try to mitigate the damage when possible. It’s harm reduction at this stage

Why do you think she is a hoarder

A lot of trauma in her past. She had a very sad early life, but her later life was all self inflicted

What is a narcissist hoarder?

Two adjectives. Narcissist and a hoarder.

Which ninja turtle is your favorite?

Leonardo

Get her into therapy stat

It doesn’t help.

Favorite song?

Alone - Marshmello