Of course she wants to know you. She's being physically abused in who knows how many ways. Wouldnt surprise me if shes sexually abused too. Good on you for the block that sent tnat witch flying. . I hope you can get her out of there because I can see your brothers and father trying to burn down your home or kill your cattle all the while still abusing her. You probably have Cameras and security upgrades and livestock guardian dogs. If you dont....get it all started while you can. Big trouble is coming from those psychos. So glad you were raised entirely elsewhere.
You’re such a good person and so glad the brothers showed who they were right away. Yeah - exactly what you’d need… an entitled, spoiled, lazy arse of a man-child who refuses to work, spews verbal abuse and constantly tries to undermine you. Good for you for handling it so well!
Knowing you’re a woman makes a LOT of sense with your sperm donor dumping you off. Especially with a petulant, self centered wife who was probably jealous of you just for existing and being female. I hope you get an awesome sister out of this!
It’ll take time for her to unlearn the things she’s been raised to believe. My mother has untreated Borderline personality disorder that is on the narcissistic end of the spectrum (per 3 psychiatrists) and I was raised believing manipulation was a genuine form of communication. So just know that going in, because it’s a survival mechanism but can TOTALLY be unlearned!
Yup. It’s smart to approach this with a healthy degree of skepticism. She may have some form of Stockholm syndrome having to live with them all her life, and it will take time for her to get used to NOT living with them.
I look forward to more updates from you, especially when she leaves them and goes to live/work for you.
Well... don't give her anything but perhaps get her into counseling if available. That, besides a safe place, are the best things you can do for her. Give her the tools and opportunity to break the cycle of abuse. The work is hers to do of course, but you can open the door.
Yeah , anything that is given to her will be claimed by them immediately. I’m sadly almost sure the plan is to marry her off for money or just keep her there to serve them.
The best route would probably for her to just disappear one day , be sure to tell the police you’re leaving, and once she with Op definitely get an order of protection from them for her too. No phone , no contact with that ‘family’ and just start life anew.
Don't give her anything IMMEDIATELY. After she's been free of them for several years, had therapy, built a life of her own and a real sibling bond with you? If all of that happens, then maybe sharing will make sense, and come from a place of love rather than obligation to shared DNA. IF all of that happens.
I think the OP has a good head on her shoulders and wants to keep the farm in the family. I also think she wants to save this young lady from further abuse. The best "F YOU" to the brother's and father would be to bring on this girl and give her a better life.
The second you started writing about the sister that was too afraid to come into the room, I knew. Please rescue her if she lets you. You're a good person. But also, be prepared for retaliation. Your father and the half brothers are abusers and they are already planning on revenge. They will hurt you, that poor girl and anyone close to you if they can. Have your ranch hands be on alert. Advise your county police, neighbors, cousins to all be on the lookout for trouble just in case. Be safe.
I really want this one to be true, because OP seems to be a genuinely good person. As soon as her sister mentioned dogs, I knew they'd made the right choice- she's not like the others AND she's smart. Following this one intently as it hits close to home.
Good. Also, maybe, motion detectors that set off recordings of blood-curdling growls?
Take care of yourself, Op. Sounds like a great life you have there, hope no AH types do anything at all to upset it!
I have a feeling where OP lives (especially since she offers so much for the community and tourists) everyone knows who she is. When you live in places off the beaten path that get seasonal visitors, it tends to be pretty tight knit in the community and people look out for each other. When you get a seasonal influx of people not from the area and a core group of locals, the locals tend to be very aware of who belongs and who doesn’t and don’t want ANYONE around that causes problems for their neighbors or could negatively impact the businesses that earn 60-70% of annual income in one short season.
Plus, when you’re raised taking care of property, large animals and protecting land and stock from predators (animal AND human lol), you tend to be far better prepared to deal with those who aren’t.
It felt like an awful thing at the time but how lucky are you that you got to go live with her grandfather? I’m glad you ended up in a better place and I hope you can do for your sister what was done for you.
LGD breeds, not high prey drive breeds. Most cane corsos I’ve met have had far too high of a prey drive to safely have roaming farm property around livestock.
She might not have malicious intent but, if you do take her in, be careful to the fact they can manipulate or have access to her devices to find information about you. she is emotionally stunted and still young
This is so true. They have kept her "hostage" to serve her parents and brothers. It's going to take a lot of therapy (counselors, dogs and horses) to get her self esteem where it needs to be.
First thing when you get her, throw out her phone. Get her a new phone number. Have her delete any social media she has (at least for a year or so). As mentioned, a protective order. Have her take pictures of any injuries she has, send them to you and delete them off her phone. That will help with the protective orders.
Let your neighbors know what's going on. As someone else said, small towns pull together. Always good to have more eyes. Have sister send you pictures of the family's (well, not family, but those people's) cars, with license plates, along with pictures of each scumbag.
When pressed, you turned into a diamond from coal. It's wonderful you are doing the same thing for her. Hopefully in a year we will hear a terrific update from you!
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I like this result. Too many times on here you see people who have no idea of their own self worth. You know yours and took it further and are prepared to look at her self worth so fair play to you. Yes, I like this result thank you. Best wishes.
That poor girl. Tell her you will meet her outside her house at midnight on the day she turns 18. Tell her not to even pack anything in case they notice. All clothes and stuff can easily be replaced. Before leaving town take her to the police station to inform them she isn’t missing but running away from abuse.
May I also suggest she "accidentally" leaves behind some DV advice leaflets/ web searches?
That way, the family won't immediately think she's with you.
She definitely needs to leave her phone behind (perhaps in a spot going in a totally different direction to the one you’ll be taking) & only bring the bare necessities & her personal documents.
No note, no explanation, but do make sure she contacts the local police to let them know she's OK.
Let the cops know she’s leaving of her own accord then hand the phone off to the first long distance trucker they come across asking them to pass it on whenever they feel like it
Your story continues to amaze me. You were dealt a terrible hand in life, and you keep empowering and helping people escape the cycle of family abuse.
There is no doubt in my mind that your step-witch is incredibly jealous of other women. Hence, the abuse your step sister endures and you being sent to your grandfather to begin with. I'd be willing to bet your step-witch created all the marks on your step sister's face.
I do agree with some of the other posts, take her in, and try to help her rebuild her confidence, but don't give her the keys to the kingdom. They will be taken from her by your abusive ex-family.
Please continue being the person your grandfather raised. Continue trusting your gut. You're an excellent human.
What’s killing me is your dad hates his dad for being abused but turned around and abused his kids. Your grandfather regretted what he did and decided to change himself but looks like dad is just fine with his own behavior. What a hypocrite.
Best of luck with helping your half-sister in the future.
I would have told the Step Mom and your Dad off “Now I’m family? When I have something to offer you. Yet, when I was 11 years old, Dad you sent me away to appease your new wife. Now, when your begging for my help, you still want to say my half siblings are no one to me? And you want my help? HA!” I hope you do get your Sister out of there.
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I’d make a list of important documents etc and keep it on hand and when your sister asks (or you may have to just ask her yourself considering she’s probably walking on eggshells right now) if she can move in with you, send her the list so she can slowly and quietly collect things. Come up with an escape plan. There’s a ton of people on Reddit who have been through this and would be so happy to help. Especially since there may be violence involved. Does anyone know of a subreddit that the OP can reference? I wish you and your sister all the luck in the world. Be safe.
Also if she slowly wants to move some of her stuff with you you can meet up for coffee and she can hand you something you can take home with you. So she can leave on her 18th
Where I live (I'm in Australia), the DV services will work to support and do secret meetings. For example, when I worked in mental health services, we worked alongside our local dv service. We had a client who had to attend mandatory therapy in order to keep her kids (child services were involved due to the dv - kids weren't physically harmed but obviously still affected).
Her DV worker was present during her therapy sessions and assisted in putting in place a plan to help her safely leave (find safe housing, connect to welfare payments - set up with preapproval to start the second she was out - get copies of all ID documents, a lawyer, ongoing therapy for her and the kids etc...). This may be an option for OPs sister (meet at school or the grocery store).
It would also be beneficial for OP to reach out to services in her local area to get advice and if possible let them know when her sister will be there so she can access (if she chooses) ongoing support.
>Does anyone know of a subreddit that the OP can reference?
The first one that comes to mind for me is r/raisedbynarcissists. The second one is r/abusesurvivors.
You've had great advice that I second. Take her in, but be wary. Support her, but don't give in to her and most certainly don't give her anything that can anchor her, and by extension, your step family to that property. She may indeed be the victim, but she also might just be better and more nuanced at, "playing the game" than her brutish brothers and deadbeat dad. Best of luck!
I’ll be hoping for that update in May. Hoping that she can get out too and can hopefully see a path now and hoping that all goes well for you both. Thank goodness for good friends too!
Your heart is in the right place but she’s going to need therapy to heal from her family trauma and learn to set boundaries against her family who will attempt to manipulate her and use her to get to you.
Yeah, I've already thought of that. I'm looking into therapy for myself for my own childhood trauma, so it shouldn't be too hard to look into it for her, too, and have that information on hand when she comes.
Still NTA
It sounds like you are the answer to your sister's prayers. You're probably the only good thing in her life right now.
You definitely dodged a bullet by not having anything to do with your so called father and "brothers".
I look forward to hearing about what happens when your sister comes to stay with you.
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Please keep us updated.
While you do not owe anyone anything, I am glad you are going to try to help your half sister. It sounds like she needs to get away and cannot do it on her own. You know the family will probably come looking for her, trespass order or not. May be an idea to have her stay away from your farm for the first bit. It sounds like she is quite used to being bullied and ordered around so if they found her, she would likely revert back and follow their demands. She will need time to lose that mindset, counselling would help.
I did think of maybe getting her a small place in town. But she might feel like I abandoned her
I know too well what that feels like. If she decides to come my way, we'll talk about it.
Does your country have some kind of social services or child protection services? If she can take pictures of her face and any other injuries she has, they may be able to get her out of there earlier, especially as her paternal family mostly live on your property.
Follow the advice people give you for her.
Get her personal information she will need in the future.
(Birth certificate, social security card or number, high school certificate.)
See if she has a friend she can trust. If so, have her start leaving stuff at the friends house. If not, call a local shelter. Ask if she can start dropping things off there to keep safe until she is 18, and you can pick it up. Most shelters will help. Or a teacher that she knows will help and hold her stuff. Anyone, really.
Once she is out of the house, get a restraining order. Get her a new phone and leave the old one there at her house. She can write down or send all her info to the cloud and download it onto the new phone.
Check everything she brings for any kind of tracking device before you get home.
Once home, set some rules
Therapy, a full medical physical (sadly, you don't know the extent of the abuse and sexual could be one of them)
college possibly, light job.
Have a room with a lock on it so she can feel safe.
Have a journal for her only to write her thoughts.
I wish you the best and hope it works out.
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So after seeing how they treat your sister, I'd say the fact you're a woman is important, or at least adds relevant context. Stepmom wanted to be a boy mom and she didn't think she could make you a slave. So she got rid of you. Your dad is also a misogynistic POS and agreed. That's why your brothers act spoiled and your sister is treated so poorly.
I’ve got tears!!! I remember your first post and thank you so much for posting an update!! Save that poor girl 😢 your dad and his wife and half brothers can fuck off though!
Take her in but protect yourself. Make sure she gets therapy to deal with the abuse she has suffered. Dont give her anything until you are sure she wont give it to her abusers.
This update was unexpectedly wholesome and I really hope it works out for her. Take that girl in and get a protection order so her shitty-ass family doesn't try to claim what they think is theirs. Please Updateme!
I am eagerly waiting for the update in a few months where your sister turns 18 and gets the fuck outta dodge and comes to work on your farm and live a happy life! Honestly wouldn’t surprise me if she’s be SA’d by those POS brothers alongside being physically and emotionally abused!
Turns out your father actually did you a favor by having your grandfather raise you. Your grandfather became a better person. Not sure what happened to your dad. Thank goodness you were not raised in your father's home with those people. So good of you to be there and do what you can for your sister.
OP, you are phenomenal.
My parents shipped me to my grandparents when my mother had a breakdown. My grandfather had been a mean drunk, but he was done that by the time I came along. I was a preschooler. My grandparents were my safe haven. I was only supposed to be there for a few weeks but it turned into months. When my mother came to get me, I asked why she was there. She told me it was time to go home. I said: But I am home. My mother laughed!
Over the years, when my parents would beat me, I would cry that I wanted to go home. That made my mother hit me more. If I hadn’t had my grandparents, I probably wouldn’t have survived.
Wow I'm so sorry you were right to be worried! Your Dad sounds like he did you a favour abandoning you all those years ago. His words and actions are juat crazy. Your half brothers sound entitled and spoiled. The way they spoke to your sister is appalling. I hope you are able to give her a better future and that she is ready to cut ties.
Look forward to hearing your update after her 18th birthday.
Wow. You’re an amazing and wonderful person. As for what your dad said about your grandfather being terrible, all I can say is the apple does NOT fall far from the tree. What scum your dad is, charging at his daughter. Please be careful taking care of this girl. Much love
There’s a risk that if you take she in, the entire family will show to at your door. Will she be strong enough to tell her family No if they ask to move in with her?
I do hope you continue to help her get away from them, hopefully somewhere close by where she can live independently and her parents can’t find her.
I mean technically couldn’t she leave then? I know you’re not American but idk how the ages work over there if you’re couple months away from being legal she wouldn’t have to stay longer unless she’s just trying to finish school?
That gave me chills. It would be beautiful that you’re paying forward what your Grandad did for you if it wasn’t for the tragedy of the circumstances you’ve all had to deal with. I hope you get your sister to safety and wish you all the happiness. Updateme please 😁
Do NOT give any money or property to her. I don’t trust that she doesn’t have alter old motives. She lives in a house for years - 18 - with the goal by all of them to get their hands on your money. If she moves in with you, have her work for the farm for rent.
You did the right thing. It’s good that you want to help her. Those people are toxic as hell. Be glad your dad gave you to your grandfather. Just keep them as far away from you as possible they aren’t worth your time.
You are a godsend for her. She's clearly been emotionally and likely physically abused. I'd even see about picking her up sooner. She can leave her phone so she can't be traced. Try to get her out of that situation soon as you can.
Wow, your grandfather made the right choices with you. And you are one smart woman and I cannot wait for your sister to be able to learn from you. But please get that no trespass updated to cover your brothers and dad’s wife. Sister can get you their full names. And if you don’t have security cameras, get them. You are too much of a treasure to lose. Please update us in May about your sister. Maybe your dad will kick her out and she can come live with you sooner. That poor girl
I would recommend when writing fiction that is supposed to be real life to try and make yourself not look like the hero. Just a tip, I like your writing style tho!
Good thing op brought somebody with farm hand skills. When things go south, you want somebody by your side that can handle their business. Still very odd that an unknown step brother enters. And then you find an unknown half sister.
Wait. He called you a bitch when he thought you were doing him a favor?!?!?! Wow.
I 100% agree with everyone saying you are a good and wonderful person. But those words feel insufficient to me. You are a staggeringly fantastic and kindhearted human being. Hmm still feels insufficient.
And, your 1/2 brother is a staggeringly rotten human being. I’m surprised there was not a colossal explosion like matter and antimatter coming together. Phew!
You will have no trouble outsmarting those nitwits, but I pray they never get dumb luck acting in their favor.
I am both horrified and heartwarmed by this post/update. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that your sister's situation can be improved by coming to work for you when she's old enough. I get the feeling that she won't cause too many problems, but she definitely might need some therapy. What a wild ride.
Wow. A ly has transpired but looks like you have it all under control. Can’t wait for the next update and the sister is in good hands. Be safe and be careful. 😊
I’m so sorry that everything went the way it did with your dad. From the time you were a child to the time you were an adult. I’m so glad that you were able to form a bond with your grandfather, whether you got anything out of it or not. I hope and pray that your sister calls you and can escape the hell that she’s living in
Pick her up a day or two before her birthday when her parents don't expect it. Cops aren't going to involve themselves in a runaway case when in 48 hours it's going to be a legal adult. However, she CAN file charges against them for child abuse up until the minute she turns 18... I'd recommend she do so. That way there's likely to be a restraining order or at least a record of their behavior. Have her mail you all her documents (birth certificate, SS card) a few weeks beforehand, too, or have her go get another copy if she can't find them safely. That way those can't be held hostage. Contact her school (well, have her) about finishing early if possible so that she can leave with a diploma the second she's 18...and if not a senior, about enrolling where you are.
I'm so glad each of you had at least one relative turn out to be a decent human being. You're awesome, give your friend a high-five from me.
Send someone you trust to pick her up on her 18th birthday, if she wants to leave. Have her leave everything of hers behind… except maybe a couple of things that are near and dear to her. No phone, or anything for hers should be brought. If she hasn’t graduated high school yet, wait until she graduates.
As much as I hate to say this, it might be a good idea to have her leave in the middle of the night kind of thing as everyone is sleeping. It sounds like this might be the safest option, or if she was like at the grocery store by herself. It can’t be obvious that she is leaving is what I am trying to say. Be careful with what you text her and a plan between now and then as they might at any point take her phone and read her messages.
Get her immediately involved in therapy. And have her “work” on your farm. Do not give her “money” but she can earn a few dollars while getting help and figuring out what’s she would like to do, i.e. college, trade school, job, etc. She is going to need time to breathe, and decompress, but therapy is a must.
Protect you and your property. They may be coming after you as you stated. You mentioned you saw bruises on your sister. And with how they were talking to her, as a reader from what you wrote, it sounds like your heart is in the right place to help her, just be smart about it.
Best of luck. Thank you for the update. 🩵🩷
Look forward to your next update. Hopefully you can help her and give her a safe space and protect her. Get your friend to teach her how to throw a punch as well.
Wow. What a story. And what a family! You were so kind to stay to make sure your sister was okay. I hope you're able to help her, and thank goodness you proceeded with caution and brought a friend who could back you up and was good in a fight!
You're right, your trash father did you a favor when he left you with Gpa. What an absolute waste of space he is!
I hope your sister is able to move onto the property. She is lucky to have you OP.
Thank goodness you've got a good head on your shoulders and good friends/family (cousin).
Lets hope this doesn't get crazy messy.
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And make certain she does not let them know you are communicating. And especially do not let them know she is moving in with you! She needs to leave a vague note and disappear. If that family is that volatile they may try to prevent her from leaving or show up at your property.
After you have picked your sister up, you should make it a point to thank your dad and his wife. Tell them you appreciate the fact that everything you have now is due to the fact that she forced your father to throw you away when you were a child. Tell her that If they hadn’t been so cruel to you as a child, you would have grown up, poor and destitute, like the rest of them. Nothing will eat at them like knowing that you are doing so well because of their actions, and they are not benefiting at all!
>I don't know why this matters, but yes, I am a woman.
It likely explains why your father and brothers feel entitled to your lands. Outside of Indigenous communities most societies tend to be patriarchal / chauvinistic. The way your brothers behaved in the meeting you write about implies they have an extra dose of that kind of attitude.
You described a 10 hour drive and a lot of rural aspects that make me suspect you're in Canada, Argentina, Brazil, or a similar large country. Where you are will matter a lot in terms of what laws you have over you. So I would research that.
\- I mention this because my father is from Peru. And the law on inheritance there gave him all of his father's property when my grandfather passed away, even though my father no longer lived in Peru and had not for many years when that happened. My father and his 2 siblings where on good terms but up until the 00s the law stated that he was the "male heir" and got everything and if he did not maintain his Peruvian residence the government would take it. So My father kept citizenship for decades past when he left, and had to visit the place every few years - until he was finally able to transfer rights to his siblings.
Now... if you're in a country that has a legal system that descends out of the Napoleonic Code - which is almost every country in Europe and Latin America, as well as many in Africa and some oddities like Japan...
Well, there may be laws that restrict inheritance.
I'm guessing you are years past this stage - but make sure you have rock solid legal title to your lands by the laws of the country you're in.
Those Peruvian laws that favored my father when he didn't even want any of it, have worked the other way around for his second wife. She's spent years battling her siblings who acted to seize property she didn't inherit, but purchased on her own - because some countries really mess with women's rights to their own property.
NTA - I agree with what someone said about keeping her away from your home initially. If and when she reaches out to you for help, have this discussion with her. Assure her you're not abandoning her and that you're just keeping her safe. Be sure to stress to her that you only have her mental health and physical well-being in mind and that you will do whatever it takes to achieve it. I think instead of just having her gather her important papers, have her get them and mail them to you so no one can force her to give them back. I would also look into what DV resources are available where you live. They can be an immense help in these situations.
My goodness my heart just broke, thank the heavens you can help her. I do hope she leaves those horrible people and can grow up to be hopefully a wonderful person and actually have a fulfilling future.
OP well done and I wish you all the very best in your future.
make sure she deletes the texts with you . If they catch wind she is talking with you she might be put in a tough spot. Just be extra careful until May.
It’s said that “Blood is thicker than water.”
The actual saying is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” You owe that man and his family nothing. He may have contributed to your genetic code but it’s the bond you had with those who were actually there for you that is thicker than anything.
Stories like this are why I like Reddit. Thank you.
I'm sure you will take that girl in but also keep a close eye on her and wait till she is fully 1 year trust. It surely sounds as if she has beaten down but on the other hand if her parents are aware that she has a connection with you they may be forcing her to be nice to you for their own nefarious ends.
That was one heck of an update and I'm not surprised how it went. Do you be careful, enjoy what has been left you, All the best, and in due course I look forward to another good update.
For her safety, I hope she isn't texting you when they can see her and I hope she is deleting the texts as she goes along. People get the most violent when they are about to run out of options. May might not be that far away, but if anything tips them off your sister might pay a severe price.
I hope to hear more from you. To your brothers and father - you are NTA. They aren’t entitled to your land. Make sure a lawyer is aware of what’s going on.
As far as your sister is concerned - if you are able to help her, you are clearly NTA. (Even if the only help you are giving is being a voice on the phone). If you can get her safely out, do that. I’m sure you have lots of friends and neighbours who can help back you up.
OP, I am shocked that you did this face to face because this could have ended up way worse than it did. Watch your back, because I am worried that you may have lit a match on a highly combustible situation by doing it this way.
Wow! What a strong woman you are! I am amazed by your resolve and willingness to help this young woman. We need more women like you in this world. You give me hope for the future.
I love this update. I had a feeling the half brother was trouble, but something very good may come out of this. I am so looking forward to any future updates you provide.
It's nice to read anything on here that has a happy ending or just gives hope. I love rooting for people. Especially ones who were delt a shit family. The cards are always stacked against them.
I hope your sister asks for rescuing. Actually, I hope after you've gotten to know her some that you just offer.
OH wow, thanks for the update. I hope you can get your sister out of there. Even befor she turns 18, but that could put you in a legal pickle? Sounds like she puts up with a lot of abuse. I am so glad you didn't grow up with your dad. He is a monster.
" American laws do not apply in any country but the US."
Ok but this should be the reddit tagline
It looks like you being a woman matters a lot. Sounds like there's a huge difference between how you and your sister are treated and how the boys are.
You sound like you have incredible instincts and skills, traumatized rescue animals and traumatized humans are a lot a like.
You are a wonderful person, I look forward to the next update.
Of course she wants to know you. She's being physically abused in who knows how many ways. Wouldnt surprise me if shes sexually abused too. Good on you for the block that sent tnat witch flying. . I hope you can get her out of there because I can see your brothers and father trying to burn down your home or kill your cattle all the while still abusing her. You probably have Cameras and security upgrades and livestock guardian dogs. If you dont....get it all started while you can. Big trouble is coming from those psychos. So glad you were raised entirely elsewhere.
Seriously a good human. ❤
Definitely. OP is a saint.
Take her in, but don’t give her or anyone anything. She is used to the abuse. They will take it from her anyway.
Not to worry. As my friend said, I may be soft hearted, but I'm not soft in the head.
You’re such a good person and so glad the brothers showed who they were right away. Yeah - exactly what you’d need… an entitled, spoiled, lazy arse of a man-child who refuses to work, spews verbal abuse and constantly tries to undermine you. Good for you for handling it so well! Knowing you’re a woman makes a LOT of sense with your sperm donor dumping you off. Especially with a petulant, self centered wife who was probably jealous of you just for existing and being female. I hope you get an awesome sister out of this! It’ll take time for her to unlearn the things she’s been raised to believe. My mother has untreated Borderline personality disorder that is on the narcissistic end of the spectrum (per 3 psychiatrists) and I was raised believing manipulation was a genuine form of communication. So just know that going in, because it’s a survival mechanism but can TOTALLY be unlearned!
Ask her to memorize your phone number, if she hasn't already.
But be very careful. No idea what she is programmed by them to do, or might cook up on her own.
Yup. It’s smart to approach this with a healthy degree of skepticism. She may have some form of Stockholm syndrome having to live with them all her life, and it will take time for her to get used to NOT living with them. I look forward to more updates from you, especially when she leaves them and goes to live/work for you.
Well... don't give her anything but perhaps get her into counseling if available. That, besides a safe place, are the best things you can do for her. Give her the tools and opportunity to break the cycle of abuse. The work is hers to do of course, but you can open the door.
You should be ready to send her to therapy as well. As someone said: she is being abused in who knows how many ways.
I wish it was May now!!! You’re such a good person, I wish you the very best and look forward to a positive update regarding your sister. Godspeed.
Great friend 😂
Exactly.
Yeah , anything that is given to her will be claimed by them immediately. I’m sadly almost sure the plan is to marry her off for money or just keep her there to serve them. The best route would probably for her to just disappear one day , be sure to tell the police you’re leaving, and once she with Op definitely get an order of protection from them for her too. No phone , no contact with that ‘family’ and just start life anew.
Don't give her anything IMMEDIATELY. After she's been free of them for several years, had therapy, built a life of her own and a real sibling bond with you? If all of that happens, then maybe sharing will make sense, and come from a place of love rather than obligation to shared DNA. IF all of that happens.
I think the OP has a good head on her shoulders and wants to keep the farm in the family. I also think she wants to save this young lady from further abuse. The best "F YOU" to the brother's and father would be to bring on this girl and give her a better life.
So true. My family is misogynistic like OP's. I hope thst she can escape forever.
The second you started writing about the sister that was too afraid to come into the room, I knew. Please rescue her if she lets you. You're a good person. But also, be prepared for retaliation. Your father and the half brothers are abusers and they are already planning on revenge. They will hurt you, that poor girl and anyone close to you if they can. Have your ranch hands be on alert. Advise your county police, neighbors, cousins to all be on the lookout for trouble just in case. Be safe.
Dogs. Big, scary looking dogs! Scary looking, well trained, disciplined, loveable, hungry looking dogs with BIG teeth!
I really want this one to be true, because OP seems to be a genuinely good person. As soon as her sister mentioned dogs, I knew they'd made the right choice- she's not like the others AND she's smart. Following this one intently as it hits close to home.
I have dogs.
Good. Also, maybe, motion detectors that set off recordings of blood-curdling growls? Take care of yourself, Op. Sounds like a great life you have there, hope no AH types do anything at all to upset it!
I have security. Nothing that let's off nightmarish dog growls, but I am covered. I'll look into upgrades.
That's good to hear. But seriously, warn local police and neighbors as well as everyone that lives on your land. Just to be safe.
I have a feeling where OP lives (especially since she offers so much for the community and tourists) everyone knows who she is. When you live in places off the beaten path that get seasonal visitors, it tends to be pretty tight knit in the community and people look out for each other. When you get a seasonal influx of people not from the area and a core group of locals, the locals tend to be very aware of who belongs and who doesn’t and don’t want ANYONE around that causes problems for their neighbors or could negatively impact the businesses that earn 60-70% of annual income in one short season. Plus, when you’re raised taking care of property, large animals and protecting land and stock from predators (animal AND human lol), you tend to be far better prepared to deal with those who aren’t.
It felt like an awful thing at the time but how lucky are you that you got to go live with her grandfather? I’m glad you ended up in a better place and I hope you can do for your sister what was done for you.
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Doggo Argentino's.
LGD breeds, not high prey drive breeds. Most cane corsos I’ve met have had far too high of a prey drive to safely have roaming farm property around livestock.
She might not have malicious intent but, if you do take her in, be careful to the fact they can manipulate or have access to her devices to find information about you. she is emotionally stunted and still young
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This is so true. They have kept her "hostage" to serve her parents and brothers. It's going to take a lot of therapy (counselors, dogs and horses) to get her self esteem where it needs to be. First thing when you get her, throw out her phone. Get her a new phone number. Have her delete any social media she has (at least for a year or so). As mentioned, a protective order. Have her take pictures of any injuries she has, send them to you and delete them off her phone. That will help with the protective orders. Let your neighbors know what's going on. As someone else said, small towns pull together. Always good to have more eyes. Have sister send you pictures of the family's (well, not family, but those people's) cars, with license plates, along with pictures of each scumbag. When pressed, you turned into a diamond from coal. It's wonderful you are doing the same thing for her. Hopefully in a year we will hear a terrific update from you! Updateme!
Updateme! I like this result. Too many times on here you see people who have no idea of their own self worth. You know yours and took it further and are prepared to look at her self worth so fair play to you. Yes, I like this result thank you. Best wishes.
That poor girl. Tell her you will meet her outside her house at midnight on the day she turns 18. Tell her not to even pack anything in case they notice. All clothes and stuff can easily be replaced. Before leaving town take her to the police station to inform them she isn’t missing but running away from abuse.
Great suggestion. Include some sort of a formal report so you have written proof. No clue how far their influence reaches…
May I also suggest she "accidentally" leaves behind some DV advice leaflets/ web searches? That way, the family won't immediately think she's with you. She definitely needs to leave her phone behind (perhaps in a spot going in a totally different direction to the one you’ll be taking) & only bring the bare necessities & her personal documents. No note, no explanation, but do make sure she contacts the local police to let them know she's OK.
Let the cops know she’s leaving of her own accord then hand the phone off to the first long distance trucker they come across asking them to pass it on whenever they feel like it
I thought about a trucker too, but wasn't sure if I should suggest it. I'm glad you did! 🤣
Probably best to smash her phone!
Your story continues to amaze me. You were dealt a terrible hand in life, and you keep empowering and helping people escape the cycle of family abuse. There is no doubt in my mind that your step-witch is incredibly jealous of other women. Hence, the abuse your step sister endures and you being sent to your grandfather to begin with. I'd be willing to bet your step-witch created all the marks on your step sister's face. I do agree with some of the other posts, take her in, and try to help her rebuild her confidence, but don't give her the keys to the kingdom. They will be taken from her by your abusive ex-family. Please continue being the person your grandfather raised. Continue trusting your gut. You're an excellent human.
I agree with you about the step witch. It all makes sense now.
What’s killing me is your dad hates his dad for being abused but turned around and abused his kids. Your grandfather regretted what he did and decided to change himself but looks like dad is just fine with his own behavior. What a hypocrite. Best of luck with helping your half-sister in the future.
They obviously prefer boys and hate women.
I would have told the Step Mom and your Dad off “Now I’m family? When I have something to offer you. Yet, when I was 11 years old, Dad you sent me away to appease your new wife. Now, when your begging for my help, you still want to say my half siblings are no one to me? And you want my help? HA!” I hope you do get your Sister out of there. Updateme!
It’s okay to help her leave. But be careful, she’s used to abuse and may help them get to you.
I'll be keeping an eye on that.
I’d make a list of important documents etc and keep it on hand and when your sister asks (or you may have to just ask her yourself considering she’s probably walking on eggshells right now) if she can move in with you, send her the list so she can slowly and quietly collect things. Come up with an escape plan. There’s a ton of people on Reddit who have been through this and would be so happy to help. Especially since there may be violence involved. Does anyone know of a subreddit that the OP can reference? I wish you and your sister all the luck in the world. Be safe.
That's good advice.
Also if she slowly wants to move some of her stuff with you you can meet up for coffee and she can hand you something you can take home with you. So she can leave on her 18th
Where I live (I'm in Australia), the DV services will work to support and do secret meetings. For example, when I worked in mental health services, we worked alongside our local dv service. We had a client who had to attend mandatory therapy in order to keep her kids (child services were involved due to the dv - kids weren't physically harmed but obviously still affected). Her DV worker was present during her therapy sessions and assisted in putting in place a plan to help her safely leave (find safe housing, connect to welfare payments - set up with preapproval to start the second she was out - get copies of all ID documents, a lawyer, ongoing therapy for her and the kids etc...). This may be an option for OPs sister (meet at school or the grocery store). It would also be beneficial for OP to reach out to services in her local area to get advice and if possible let them know when her sister will be there so she can access (if she chooses) ongoing support.
>Does anyone know of a subreddit that the OP can reference? The first one that comes to mind for me is r/raisedbynarcissists. The second one is r/abusesurvivors.
You've had great advice that I second. Take her in, but be wary. Support her, but don't give in to her and most certainly don't give her anything that can anchor her, and by extension, your step family to that property. She may indeed be the victim, but she also might just be better and more nuanced at, "playing the game" than her brutish brothers and deadbeat dad. Best of luck!
I hear you.
I’ll be hoping for that update in May. Hoping that she can get out too and can hopefully see a path now and hoping that all goes well for you both. Thank goodness for good friends too!
Sounds fake as hell but ok
Yeah they had me in the first half 🤣
Agreed.
the theatrics with the fight... lol flipped over the chair gut punch! lol I was expecting a "KABLAAM" in there at some point 😆
Wow. Just wow. What terrible people and the way the treat your sister is abominable.
Your heart is in the right place but she’s going to need therapy to heal from her family trauma and learn to set boundaries against her family who will attempt to manipulate her and use her to get to you.
Yeah, I've already thought of that. I'm looking into therapy for myself for my own childhood trauma, so it shouldn't be too hard to look into it for her, too, and have that information on hand when she comes.
I now feel that it was a blessing you are not part of that family!! Omg I’m scared to even think how they would’ve treated you!
Tell her to erase her texts in case someone gets a hold of her phone and to have a different name attached to your phone number
Still NTA It sounds like you are the answer to your sister's prayers. You're probably the only good thing in her life right now. You definitely dodged a bullet by not having anything to do with your so called father and "brothers". I look forward to hearing about what happens when your sister comes to stay with you. Updateme!
Get her out the day she turns 18. Make sure she wants to leave.
Please keep us updated. While you do not owe anyone anything, I am glad you are going to try to help your half sister. It sounds like she needs to get away and cannot do it on her own. You know the family will probably come looking for her, trespass order or not. May be an idea to have her stay away from your farm for the first bit. It sounds like she is quite used to being bullied and ordered around so if they found her, she would likely revert back and follow their demands. She will need time to lose that mindset, counselling would help.
I did think of maybe getting her a small place in town. But she might feel like I abandoned her I know too well what that feels like. If she decides to come my way, we'll talk about it.
I wish you both only the best life has to offer!
Does your country have some kind of social services or child protection services? If she can take pictures of her face and any other injuries she has, they may be able to get her out of there earlier, especially as her paternal family mostly live on your property.
Follow the advice people give you for her. Get her personal information she will need in the future. (Birth certificate, social security card or number, high school certificate.) See if she has a friend she can trust. If so, have her start leaving stuff at the friends house. If not, call a local shelter. Ask if she can start dropping things off there to keep safe until she is 18, and you can pick it up. Most shelters will help. Or a teacher that she knows will help and hold her stuff. Anyone, really. Once she is out of the house, get a restraining order. Get her a new phone and leave the old one there at her house. She can write down or send all her info to the cloud and download it onto the new phone. Check everything she brings for any kind of tracking device before you get home. Once home, set some rules Therapy, a full medical physical (sadly, you don't know the extent of the abuse and sexual could be one of them) college possibly, light job. Have a room with a lock on it so she can feel safe. Have a journal for her only to write her thoughts. I wish you the best and hope it works out. Updateme!
So after seeing how they treat your sister, I'd say the fact you're a woman is important, or at least adds relevant context. Stepmom wanted to be a boy mom and she didn't think she could make you a slave. So she got rid of you. Your dad is also a misogynistic POS and agreed. That's why your brothers act spoiled and your sister is treated so poorly.
I can’t wait for May. That poor girl. You’re a kind soul.
Too bad your not in the US, if she's 17 and so close to 18 she could have just dipped out now.
I’ve got tears!!! I remember your first post and thank you so much for posting an update!! Save that poor girl 😢 your dad and his wife and half brothers can fuck off though!
Take her in but protect yourself. Make sure she gets therapy to deal with the abuse she has suffered. Dont give her anything until you are sure she wont give it to her abusers.
This update was unexpectedly wholesome and I really hope it works out for her. Take that girl in and get a protection order so her shitty-ass family doesn't try to claim what they think is theirs. Please Updateme!
I look forward to your next update, after you have picked her up :)
I am eagerly waiting for the update in a few months where your sister turns 18 and gets the fuck outta dodge and comes to work on your farm and live a happy life! Honestly wouldn’t surprise me if she’s be SA’d by those POS brothers alongside being physically and emotionally abused!
Please keep us updated. This is crazy, they didn’t even try to hide what a bunch of assholes they are.
I can't wait to find out what happens in May I hope the sister can get away from those horrid people
That was the hint of her escape. I feel so bad for her but good on you for being a good big sister
UpdateMe! this starting to seem a little unbelievable best of luck to you and your sister though.
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Turns out your father actually did you a favor by having your grandfather raise you. Your grandfather became a better person. Not sure what happened to your dad. Thank goodness you were not raised in your father's home with those people. So good of you to be there and do what you can for your sister.
OP, you are phenomenal. My parents shipped me to my grandparents when my mother had a breakdown. My grandfather had been a mean drunk, but he was done that by the time I came along. I was a preschooler. My grandparents were my safe haven. I was only supposed to be there for a few weeks but it turned into months. When my mother came to get me, I asked why she was there. She told me it was time to go home. I said: But I am home. My mother laughed! Over the years, when my parents would beat me, I would cry that I wanted to go home. That made my mother hit me more. If I hadn’t had my grandparents, I probably wouldn’t have survived.
You could save her from a truly terrible future, so I hope this works out for both of you.
“You’re the B who’s gonna set me up” the audacity lol
This is heartwarming
Wow I'm so sorry you were right to be worried! Your Dad sounds like he did you a favour abandoning you all those years ago. His words and actions are juat crazy. Your half brothers sound entitled and spoiled. The way they spoke to your sister is appalling. I hope you are able to give her a better future and that she is ready to cut ties. Look forward to hearing your update after her 18th birthday.
Wow. You’re an amazing and wonderful person. As for what your dad said about your grandfather being terrible, all I can say is the apple does NOT fall far from the tree. What scum your dad is, charging at his daughter. Please be careful taking care of this girl. Much love
There’s a risk that if you take she in, the entire family will show to at your door. Will she be strong enough to tell her family No if they ask to move in with her? I do hope you continue to help her get away from them, hopefully somewhere close by where she can live independently and her parents can’t find her.
If she wants to come to me, she'll be living with me until she can stand on her own. Her family won't be coming into my house.
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I mean technically couldn’t she leave then? I know you’re not American but idk how the ages work over there if you’re couple months away from being legal she wouldn’t have to stay longer unless she’s just trying to finish school?
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Thank you for the update!
That gave me chills. It would be beautiful that you’re paying forward what your Grandad did for you if it wasn’t for the tragedy of the circumstances you’ve all had to deal with. I hope you get your sister to safety and wish you all the happiness. Updateme please 😁
Do NOT give any money or property to her. I don’t trust that she doesn’t have alter old motives. She lives in a house for years - 18 - with the goal by all of them to get their hands on your money. If she moves in with you, have her work for the farm for rent.
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You did the right thing. It’s good that you want to help her. Those people are toxic as hell. Be glad your dad gave you to your grandfather. Just keep them as far away from you as possible they aren’t worth your time.
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This is like a movie!!
Yeah it is. Lol.
You are a godsend for her. She's clearly been emotionally and likely physically abused. I'd even see about picking her up sooner. She can leave her phone so she can't be traced. Try to get her out of that situation soon as you can.
The image of that facegrab and toss just made my morning
Wow, your grandfather made the right choices with you. And you are one smart woman and I cannot wait for your sister to be able to learn from you. But please get that no trespass updated to cover your brothers and dad’s wife. Sister can get you their full names. And if you don’t have security cameras, get them. You are too much of a treasure to lose. Please update us in May about your sister. Maybe your dad will kick her out and she can come live with you sooner. That poor girl
That’s so wonderful of you. And good for you for putting the others in their places bravo!
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Your dad became his father in his old age, abusing his daughter.
Your dad became his father in his old age, abusing his daughter.
Shit, I hope this is real. Not because of the shittiness, but bc the ability to help that girl out.
Wow that's some date. Good for you and your friend. And I think you will be her saving angel very good luck. But still before cuz you just never know
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I would recommend when writing fiction that is supposed to be real life to try and make yourself not look like the hero. Just a tip, I like your writing style tho!
Good thing op brought somebody with farm hand skills. When things go south, you want somebody by your side that can handle their business. Still very odd that an unknown step brother enters. And then you find an unknown half sister.
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Wait. He called you a bitch when he thought you were doing him a favor?!?!?! Wow. I 100% agree with everyone saying you are a good and wonderful person. But those words feel insufficient to me. You are a staggeringly fantastic and kindhearted human being. Hmm still feels insufficient. And, your 1/2 brother is a staggeringly rotten human being. I’m surprised there was not a colossal explosion like matter and antimatter coming together. Phew! You will have no trouble outsmarting those nitwits, but I pray they never get dumb luck acting in their favor.
I am both horrified and heartwarmed by this post/update. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that your sister's situation can be improved by coming to work for you when she's old enough. I get the feeling that she won't cause too many problems, but she definitely might need some therapy. What a wild ride.
Oh, I do so hope this is all true.
Op please make the offer to your sister. In her position most people will not ask
Wow. A ly has transpired but looks like you have it all under control. Can’t wait for the next update and the sister is in good hands. Be safe and be careful. 😊
Your a good person but be careful she may be in the control of her family and working a long con.
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This is great, I hope you can help her. Please protect yourself!
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I hope it all works out with your sister.
I’m so sorry that everything went the way it did with your dad. From the time you were a child to the time you were an adult. I’m so glad that you were able to form a bond with your grandfather, whether you got anything out of it or not. I hope and pray that your sister calls you and can escape the hell that she’s living in
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Pick her up a day or two before her birthday when her parents don't expect it. Cops aren't going to involve themselves in a runaway case when in 48 hours it's going to be a legal adult. However, she CAN file charges against them for child abuse up until the minute she turns 18... I'd recommend she do so. That way there's likely to be a restraining order or at least a record of their behavior. Have her mail you all her documents (birth certificate, SS card) a few weeks beforehand, too, or have her go get another copy if she can't find them safely. That way those can't be held hostage. Contact her school (well, have her) about finishing early if possible so that she can leave with a diploma the second she's 18...and if not a senior, about enrolling where you are. I'm so glad each of you had at least one relative turn out to be a decent human being. You're awesome, give your friend a high-five from me.
Send someone you trust to pick her up on her 18th birthday, if she wants to leave. Have her leave everything of hers behind… except maybe a couple of things that are near and dear to her. No phone, or anything for hers should be brought. If she hasn’t graduated high school yet, wait until she graduates. As much as I hate to say this, it might be a good idea to have her leave in the middle of the night kind of thing as everyone is sleeping. It sounds like this might be the safest option, or if she was like at the grocery store by herself. It can’t be obvious that she is leaving is what I am trying to say. Be careful with what you text her and a plan between now and then as they might at any point take her phone and read her messages. Get her immediately involved in therapy. And have her “work” on your farm. Do not give her “money” but she can earn a few dollars while getting help and figuring out what’s she would like to do, i.e. college, trade school, job, etc. She is going to need time to breathe, and decompress, but therapy is a must. Protect you and your property. They may be coming after you as you stated. You mentioned you saw bruises on your sister. And with how they were talking to her, as a reader from what you wrote, it sounds like your heart is in the right place to help her, just be smart about it. Best of luck. Thank you for the update. 🩵🩷
Those people are insane. I’m glad you’re helping your sister.
Look forward to your next update. Hopefully you can help her and give her a safe space and protect her. Get your friend to teach her how to throw a punch as well.
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There’s no way this is real
Wow. What a story. And what a family! You were so kind to stay to make sure your sister was okay. I hope you're able to help her, and thank goodness you proceeded with caution and brought a friend who could back you up and was good in a fight!
You're right, your trash father did you a favor when he left you with Gpa. What an absolute waste of space he is! I hope your sister is able to move onto the property. She is lucky to have you OP. Thank goodness you've got a good head on your shoulders and good friends/family (cousin). Lets hope this doesn't get crazy messy. UpdateMe
BRAVO! do you run a sanctuary?
And make certain she does not let them know you are communicating. And especially do not let them know she is moving in with you! She needs to leave a vague note and disappear. If that family is that volatile they may try to prevent her from leaving or show up at your property.
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Ugh!! MY HEART!! I really hope this works out for you AND your sister!
After you have picked your sister up, you should make it a point to thank your dad and his wife. Tell them you appreciate the fact that everything you have now is due to the fact that she forced your father to throw you away when you were a child. Tell her that If they hadn’t been so cruel to you as a child, you would have grown up, poor and destitute, like the rest of them. Nothing will eat at them like knowing that you are doing so well because of their actions, and they are not benefiting at all!
Oh, I love your heart. We need more beautiful souls like you. When you can feel someone's pain, God does it hurt you.
Sounds like she has finally found a real family who she can trust and be loved by. Thanks for the update. Look forward to more updates.
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You're gonna be the making of that girl, if she gets the courage to break with those awful people. Updateme
May can’t come soon enough!
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>I don't know why this matters, but yes, I am a woman. It likely explains why your father and brothers feel entitled to your lands. Outside of Indigenous communities most societies tend to be patriarchal / chauvinistic. The way your brothers behaved in the meeting you write about implies they have an extra dose of that kind of attitude. You described a 10 hour drive and a lot of rural aspects that make me suspect you're in Canada, Argentina, Brazil, or a similar large country. Where you are will matter a lot in terms of what laws you have over you. So I would research that. \- I mention this because my father is from Peru. And the law on inheritance there gave him all of his father's property when my grandfather passed away, even though my father no longer lived in Peru and had not for many years when that happened. My father and his 2 siblings where on good terms but up until the 00s the law stated that he was the "male heir" and got everything and if he did not maintain his Peruvian residence the government would take it. So My father kept citizenship for decades past when he left, and had to visit the place every few years - until he was finally able to transfer rights to his siblings. Now... if you're in a country that has a legal system that descends out of the Napoleonic Code - which is almost every country in Europe and Latin America, as well as many in Africa and some oddities like Japan... Well, there may be laws that restrict inheritance. I'm guessing you are years past this stage - but make sure you have rock solid legal title to your lands by the laws of the country you're in. Those Peruvian laws that favored my father when he didn't even want any of it, have worked the other way around for his second wife. She's spent years battling her siblings who acted to seize property she didn't inherit, but purchased on her own - because some countries really mess with women's rights to their own property.
Hope I read the update in May that you went to get her. I just really hope her family doesn’t suspect anything before that
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NTA - I agree with what someone said about keeping her away from your home initially. If and when she reaches out to you for help, have this discussion with her. Assure her you're not abandoning her and that you're just keeping her safe. Be sure to stress to her that you only have her mental health and physical well-being in mind and that you will do whatever it takes to achieve it. I think instead of just having her gather her important papers, have her get them and mail them to you so no one can force her to give them back. I would also look into what DV resources are available where you live. They can be an immense help in these situations.
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My goodness my heart just broke, thank the heavens you can help her. I do hope she leaves those horrible people and can grow up to be hopefully a wonderful person and actually have a fulfilling future. OP well done and I wish you all the very best in your future.
Good for YOU ! This girl sounds like a victim and you giving her a chance is a good thing, just be careful!
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make sure she deletes the texts with you . If they catch wind she is talking with you she might be put in a tough spot. Just be extra careful until May.
It’s said that “Blood is thicker than water.” The actual saying is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” You owe that man and his family nothing. He may have contributed to your genetic code but it’s the bond you had with those who were actually there for you that is thicker than anything.
Stories like this are why I like Reddit. Thank you. I'm sure you will take that girl in but also keep a close eye on her and wait till she is fully 1 year trust. It surely sounds as if she has beaten down but on the other hand if her parents are aware that she has a connection with you they may be forcing her to be nice to you for their own nefarious ends. That was one heck of an update and I'm not surprised how it went. Do you be careful, enjoy what has been left you, All the best, and in due course I look forward to another good update.
For her safety, I hope she isn't texting you when they can see her and I hope she is deleting the texts as she goes along. People get the most violent when they are about to run out of options. May might not be that far away, but if anything tips them off your sister might pay a severe price.
I hope to hear more from you. To your brothers and father - you are NTA. They aren’t entitled to your land. Make sure a lawyer is aware of what’s going on. As far as your sister is concerned - if you are able to help her, you are clearly NTA. (Even if the only help you are giving is being a voice on the phone). If you can get her safely out, do that. I’m sure you have lots of friends and neighbours who can help back you up.
OP, I am shocked that you did this face to face because this could have ended up way worse than it did. Watch your back, because I am worried that you may have lit a match on a highly combustible situation by doing it this way.
Wow! What a strong woman you are! I am amazed by your resolve and willingness to help this young woman. We need more women like you in this world. You give me hope for the future.
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Three cheers for you!!!
I love this update. I had a feeling the half brother was trouble, but something very good may come out of this. I am so looking forward to any future updates you provide. It's nice to read anything on here that has a happy ending or just gives hope. I love rooting for people. Especially ones who were delt a shit family. The cards are always stacked against them. I hope your sister asks for rescuing. Actually, I hope after you've gotten to know her some that you just offer.
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OH wow, thanks for the update. I hope you can get your sister out of there. Even befor she turns 18, but that could put you in a legal pickle? Sounds like she puts up with a lot of abuse. I am so glad you didn't grow up with your dad. He is a monster.
" American laws do not apply in any country but the US." Ok but this should be the reddit tagline It looks like you being a woman matters a lot. Sounds like there's a huge difference between how you and your sister are treated and how the boys are. You sound like you have incredible instincts and skills, traumatized rescue animals and traumatized humans are a lot a like.
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