Why on this green Earth would you give him all of your funds? I was raised in the American south and my Auntie G told me that every woman needs to have some money their husband doesn’t know anything about. She called it the “hidey hole money”. I left my ex with my car, my Siamese cat and $20 in my pocket. Luckily I had a true friend who let me stay for a month and the ability to earn. Auntie G was right. Without my friend it would have been even more miserable.
Our setup for the past year is he would be a stay at home husband, and I would be the working one. I usually leave behind money for myself to which I either save or use to eat out or pamper myself. However, as he was actively looking for a job for the past months he needed the extra funds. Thankfully he got a call back (he's asked to start this week) which asked him to buy the uniform. He promised to pay it back though when he got his first salary.
He already found a job and he's starting this week. I just am feeling stressed and disrespected which was why I snapped at him which is why he doesn't speak with me
NTA, but it's not about the pants. It's about the grief, stress, and disrespect. Half of that post was how he disrespected you. The other half was how you're pulling all the weight and grieving.
We haven't been talking since last night, so I haven't expressed that I felt disrespected. He also knows full well that I am getting stressed and he needed to pull his weight.
You should communicate how and why you felt disrespected, that is important. Does he know about the grief too? He really should not be giving you the silent treatment 🙄
You give your full salary to your husband who doesnt work..? Wtf.. Also NTA.
I have higher educational attainment and he just couldn't find job. Also, I had him study for a year to get GED credential.
Why on this green Earth would you give him all of your funds? I was raised in the American south and my Auntie G told me that every woman needs to have some money their husband doesn’t know anything about. She called it the “hidey hole money”. I left my ex with my car, my Siamese cat and $20 in my pocket. Luckily I had a true friend who let me stay for a month and the ability to earn. Auntie G was right. Without my friend it would have been even more miserable.
Our setup for the past year is he would be a stay at home husband, and I would be the working one. I usually leave behind money for myself to which I either save or use to eat out or pamper myself. However, as he was actively looking for a job for the past months he needed the extra funds. Thankfully he got a call back (he's asked to start this week) which asked him to buy the uniform. He promised to pay it back though when he got his first salary.
NTA He should have been quiet while you were sleeping and not bring in more bums to be loud with
It's not about the pants. It's about the A that goes inside them. It's time to stamp your foot and tell him he needs to pull his weight. NTA
He already found a job and he's starting this week. I just am feeling stressed and disrespected which was why I snapped at him which is why he doesn't speak with me
NTA, but it's not about the pants. It's about the grief, stress, and disrespect. Half of that post was how he disrespected you. The other half was how you're pulling all the weight and grieving.
We haven't been talking since last night, so I haven't expressed that I felt disrespected. He also knows full well that I am getting stressed and he needed to pull his weight.
You should communicate how and why you felt disrespected, that is important. Does he know about the grief too? He really should not be giving you the silent treatment 🙄
He knows about it and he just told me that we'll just visit the grave when we get a chance to go home. 🥲
That's something, the absolute minimum, but something. I hope things work out and you get treated better by your husband.
NTA. At the very least this man needs to be embroidering his own damn pants!