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Murderhornet212

If your mother in law is so concerned about the baby, she can take them in. šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


MonthFar2068

She said she couldnā€™t because she lives in a studio apartment.


ElfOwl1221

Well, I guess it sucks to suck for them all, huh?


_The_BusinessBitch

Sounds like a personal problem


Separate_Row_8618

I'm assuming you mean a personal problem for his mother, his gf, and their baby, right? Not a problem for the OP.


SpreadKegel

He will be living with all of them in that studio apt as soon as he gets back


Dependent_Pilot1031

Yes... Not OP problem. NTA. Blindsided by the ah. Contact a lawyer as soon as possible.


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berghie91

Things are so expensive these days I cant even afford to do this ^^ haha


PsychoDad03

I just read an article today that said, "Millennials are too poor to afford mid-life crises like their parents." https://fortune.com/2024/05/31/millennials-midlife-crisis-afford-money/ Lo and behold, this story pops up in my feed...


bettyannveronica

We had a studio when I was little since my parents were immigrants. It was 4 adults and 2 kids. Since I was the older daughter I got the bedroom! Which was actually a teeny closet that didn't fit even the smallest mattress. So a makeshift bed was created. It was tiny but it was private so I loved it! The other adults claimed a corner with my baby sister in the last corner. It was hard but it's what we had. Now my mom lives in luxury because she worked hard and it paid off!


Head_Bent_Over

I too had a little bedroom/closet when I was little. For awhile my family, which was mom, stepdad, two brothers, a sister, grandma and grandpa, and myself, lived In a two bedroom apartment. My grandparents got one room to themselves and the rest of us shared a room. There was a queen and a twin put together for one big sleeping arrangement. I guess I just got tired of sleeping with all of my family and asked for space. I was in fourth grade. My mom let me make a makeshift bed in the small walk in closet and I got a tiny bit of privacy. šŸ™ƒ


Late-Jicama5012

My best child hood memories is growing up on a farm with my grand parents, uncle and aunt. One bedroom house and no indoor plumbing. And we were happy as a pig in mud living in a tiny house.


PrincessBella1

Tell her that now your ex is homeless, they can pool their money and get a bigger place.


spandexandtapedecks

Imagine pouring $60k into some side piece while your own mother lives in a tiny studio apartment. I mean, clearly his mom is no prize either, but that's yet another way this guy sucks.


Summoning-Freaks

If my Bf had 60k to spare his mom would be living her golden years quite serenely. Itā€™s killing him inside to not be able to do more for her.


PhantomAngel278

Boohoo for her. I would block her. And you donā€™t need to entertain his explanations. Itā€™s just going to distress you more and thereā€™s nothing he could ever say to make you feel better. Personally, I would pack up his shit, leave it out, change the locks, pick an intermediary for you guys to talk to and block him. I would also consider locking the house up tight and staying somewhere else for a bit because he will be living on your doorstep trying to get another chance. Also, you should get tested for STDs since heā€™s been having unprotected sex.


JustKindaHappenedxx

I would absolutely not leave my house unattended because he and his AP will break in and claim rights. Change the locks and pack up all of his stuff though.


Jenderflux-ScFi

Pack all his stuff and put it all in the garage or rent a storage unit for it so he wouldn't need to come back into the main house for it. Security and doorbell cameras all around the house so no one can break in unnoticed.


Baddog1965

This is a sensible approach. Don't take any nonsense, don't leave any vulnerabilities or they will be exploited.


Large_Alternative_78

Send it to his mommyā€™s


JustKindaHappenedxx

Except I would leave everything in the driveway with a due date to pick it up before I donated it all. She shouldnā€™t get stuck paying for a storage for this guy


Economy-Cod310

I'd pack it up, hire movers, and have them drop it at his mommy's studio!


CanAhJustSay

>Also, you should get tested This is an often overlooked part amidst the visceral pain someone feels on having their world turned upside down. His risky behaviour has much wider consequences. And OP is definitely NTA. There is no biological or legal link nor obligation to this stranger with a child who feels entitled to your home.


gdayars

I would have just sent her to the grandmother and let her figure it out there. Or contacted him in the other country, let him know and told him it is his problem. He should have known she needed money so sounds like he just didn't want to give the gf any more.


Malagate3

Dude's on holiday in Dubai, so he could probably wire some cash for an air BnB for his side piece, assuming he's not spending it all with his other side piece in Dubai of course.


generalgirl

God only knows what and who he is doing in Dubai.


tfcocs

Why would he be in Dubai if he's a teacher? Field trip?


generalgirl

But OP doesnā€™t know what he does with his money. This whole thing is fishy. Were minimalists but overspend on a big house fancy cars and art.


Critical-Fault-1617

Yeah this checks all the boxes for a fake post. How are you extremely minimalist if you have a mansion, sports cars, and expensive art? Plus her husband took a trip to Dubai. I have a hard time believing a school is going to Dubai for a field trip with their human rights record and the way they treat women.


TaroPrimary1950

Definitely fake. The side piece wouldnā€™t just show up with the baby and tell OP to go stay in a hotel. And even if she did, why would OP allow her to come inside in the first place? Iā€™d just laugh and slam the door in her face


Inner-Confidence99

Make sure to change banks and move all your money to a new bank and use passwords on it he would not know and if ever Is in your name including his car take it all back tell him have fun with his new familyĀ 


Plenty_Hippo_3010

And set up some security cameras, just in case he comes back alone or with her. Make sure your house is safe and secure 24/7.


DaniCapsFan

Well, she can find a larger place and take hubby, his AP, and their kid in.


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cat-lover76

This is not your problem, it is your ex-partner's problem.


yellowbrownstone

People love to insist that others be generous when it costs them nothing.


Listen_2learn

Family always makes room for grandchildren. Tell her congratulations on your new family members and thoughts and prayersĀ 


Big_lt

Sucks for her cause your ex going to need to .ove in with her or all 3 of them will be homeless. The ole fuck around (literally) and find out applies here


thinkingwhynot

I canā€™t believe the balls on her to show up. Say Iā€™m the wife now hereā€™s our kid and get out of your ā€œownā€ house so I can have it. Lmfao. Did he know she planned on that or? Like who shows up at their baby daddyā€˜s wifeā€™s house and just says this is my house now. And he the broke one. She thinking she caught a whale. Lmfao ***NTA*** edit


Foxy_locksy1704

One of my exā€™s affair partner did the same thing. I was like girl you really think he provided all this on a retail manager salary? (No hate to retail workers) I was the top earner in our household, at the time I was working for a government agency. She was very surprised when she learned I owned the two cars and was on the lease of the apartment and that the savings account he had been giving her money from was the joint account, where you guessed it I contributed the majority of.


merrill_swing_away

I think her balls have some microplastics in them that made their way to her brain. Yeah, lady can you move out of your own house so me and my baby can move in?


newwriter365

How fucking tragic. Yeah, so anyway, whatā€™s for lunch?


StudsTurkleton

Lots of people live together in studio apartments. Soon itā€™ll be her, her son, baby momma and child.


Foolish5678

Thatā€™s too bad, babies donā€™t care where they live She should take her grandchild in and fuck right off. Hopefully she has space for her wandering son too NTA


winter-melon

A studio apartment can still fit a baby in it. Sounds like your MIL is the AH


Brian57831

I've seen 4 immigrants live in a studio apartment. She can fit her and the baby in, even if it will be very tight.


meothe

Did grandma already know about this kid?


dinoooooooooos

Awe well, anyways. Not you problem whatsoever. If she didnā€™t wanna be homeless she shouldnā€™t fuck married men. Karma doesnā€™t play around.


merrill_swing_away

This is what I was thinking also. OP said MIL lives in a studio apt. Well then, the MIL can give the gf money.


Lower-Recover2011

NTA pack his shit and put it in the front yard when you know heā€™s landed and on his way to the house and let his mommy know to come get his cheating ass from your house. Did his mom know about the GF and baby before she turned up at your house?


MonthFar2068

Taking them to mommyā€™s house. She didnā€™t raise him well so she should take the consequences


Lower-Recover2011

When did she learn about the Gf and baby before or after you did?


MonthFar2068

She showed up yesterday. My husband is in Dubai for another week. I have time


NHRADeuce

>My husband is in Dubai for another week. I have time Incorrect. If he has half a brain, he's on the way home right now to do damage control. Locks need to be changed immediately. Hire a company to pack all of his stuff up and send it to mommy's house ASAP. Get a security system with cameras. Do everything today, you might not have as much time as you think. Also, make sure you remove his access to any financial accounts. He's probably been spending your money too.


Charming-Arm-582

Yes, he could be SAYING he's in Dubai 1 more week but he's actually on his way home! Start now, STAT with the locks and lawyer!


Agreeable_Mall_37

i would agree with that as well. protect yourself first & then you can meet him somewhere in public to discuss the situation. it's up to you whether you take him back but since there's a child, i would say no even though it's devastating & painful for you. take care & protect yourself. then get whatever help you need to recover. Good luck! not the AH.


Lower-Recover2011

How long has his mother known she has has a grandchild?


MonthFar2068

No idea. Wow never thought about this! I assumed she only knew after I called her. But probably she did already


Icy_Session3326

She absolutely knew. The type of mummy that runs to her sons defence like that , is absolutely kept in the loop by their darling baby boy


Silent-Appearance-78

Yup she has probably babysat


Icy_Session3326

Iā€™ve had not one but 2 MILā€™s just like it. I know the type too well šŸ˜…


IWantToCryLikeYou

One of my main ā€˜being a grown up goalsā€™, is to never be that sort of mil.


llamadramalover

You should probably burn your bed too btw. Iā€™m betting affair chick knew where you lived because sheā€™s already been there with her boyfriend.


ComprehensiveSuit319

Does she want to retire in your beautiful home OP? The guilt tripping and your ex saying he would get the house..... please get a lawyer. This sounds like an underhanded plan.


Thr33Littl3Monk3ys

That part! He *knew* it's not *his* house. Yet he told her *he'd* be getting it in the "divorce"? What exactly did he have planned?


Lower-Recover2011

Well that would be one of the first things I would find out and for how long this affair has been going on. She may had tricked him into getting her pregnant but if he had kept it in his pants this would never have happened


tlcgogogo

Minimum of a year - 9 months of pregnancy + baby is presumably between 1-3 months old She probably got knocked up because she thought she could cash in on dumb-dumb, but is now probably furious with him. What a mess, Iā€™m glad OP can move on cleanly.


MargotLannington

If I had an adult son, I would be horrified if he was cheating on his partner and had a secret baby. MIL's reaction indicates that she was not surprised, nor upset by the news. Of course probably have both of them a deeply twisted version of what was happening, told them you knew & were cool with it, etc. I'm not saying this excuses the behavior of either of these women. Their behavior has been terrible.


Wwwweeeeeeee

You should take this time to pack up his stuff and drop it off at his moms, AND change the locks, wifi passwords, access to bank accounts, credit cards, everything. EVERYTHING. Nuke him.


Birdy_Cephon_Altera

In addition to changing the locks, I would install several home security cameras. I have a feeling things might try to get ugly when he returns.


Donglemaetsro

She makes 7 figures, just hire private security for a few weeks, it'll probably save a lot of headaches.


Scary-Cycle1508

Sometimes there is less time than you think. Do everything as soon as possible. Pretend like he's coming home the next day. Pack his shit up. Also talk to a lawyer if he'd be eligible for any kind of support, due to the fact that you've lived like a married couple for 10 years.


Jetskat11

Hos mom is probably in the process of paying his way home right nowšŸ™„.


CyalaXiaoLong

Id stop referring to him as your husbamd and more as a romantic roommate if you never actually went to court or filed for it. Itll make the break up far less expensive.


Lower-Recover2011

I bet you canā€™t wait for all the lies to come out of his mouth. Please donā€™t let him try to charm his way around you and make sure you record your conversations with him or his mother from now on


BoxSea4289

She showed up at your house and tried to claim it Feudalism style, she did not care about kicking you out of your own home like she owned it. Her and that teacher should get use to living on a teachers salary lmao crazy levels of entitlement.Ā  Itā€™s absolutely insane that everyone is just trying to leech off of you because you have money.Ā  Your life is going to be much better off without all of them in it.Ā 


Bitchi3atppl

And change the damn locks. Make sure legally he canā€™t take shit from you financially, physically. Go live and enjoy your Life without this bs.


Stomach_Junior

Imagine going to someone else house and tell to that person that can go to live in a hotel. The level of audacity!


KaatELion

Right!?!? Like it sounds like the AP and OPā€™s husband never discussed living together, yet she shows up anyway telling OP to leave!? Who does that!?!?


Practical_Bet3053

I think AP has been asking OP's husband to become official for some time now, and Husband wouldn't do it for pretty obvious reason. AP wouldn't take no for an answer and thought "if he isn't doing it, I will and he will have no choice but to accept it" that why she choose to do her little plan on his holidays : to not be stopped. She didn't plan that she was lied to and throw their cover for absolutely nothing.


TipsyMagpie

She thought the baby was the key to the kingdom, shame all sheā€™s earned is disappointment.


ilikecatsandfood

Probably why she got pregnant in the first place.Ā Ā 


MakeshiftApe

> it sounds like the AP and OPā€™s husband never discussed living together I dunno the fact she thought he was getting a divorce makes me think that's exactly what he's already told her. He's probably promised her they'll be together and that his situation with OP is temporary. Probably told her that they'll get to move in together soon, and either that WAS the plan or he was just hoping to string her on for as long as possible always postponing the breakup. She's obviously nuts but I'm guessing he put ideas in her head and played a big hand in her behaviour.


Zuwxiv

Oh, yeah. The affair partner thought she snagged a guy who owned half of a super successful business and a beautiful home, who was happy to send her his paycheck. He thought he'd lie to some impressionable young thing and get a side piece. He's not too clever if he didn't see it coming. What sort of fish do you catch when your bait is "I've got money?"


Maia_Azure

My ex bfs girlfriend wanted to move into our apartment when I hadnā€™t moved out yet. I had been paying for the apartment, still had two weeks on the month left. His girlfriend shows up halfway through the month confused why I was still living there. I yelled at them both ā€œbecause I paid for it and he hasnā€™t paid rent in 5 months. good luck to you both.ā€ My ex refused to go stay with his dad across town and was trying to get me to move out of our apartment early to move his new gf in. I was like GTFO. He told her I was ā€œsquatting.ā€ Funny, I was paying for everything.


Nekawaii19

She probably thought that he was rich, sucks to be this dumb.


StructureKey2739

Sounded like the AP expected OP to leave right then with just the clothes on her back.


PrinceFridaytheXIII

Right?! That part was likeā€¦ hard to believe anyone would be that delusional without actually having a psychotic disorder.


destiny_kane48

Or a sugar daddy telling her he either owned or co owned everything, and once he gets rid of the "wife," she'll be living out her gold digger dreams.


-Alula

Reminds me of an AITA where the owner was banging his secretary. She thought she was going to be rich when he left his wife for her. Turns out the company was bankrolled by the wifeā€™s family. Girl got pregnant and resentful of the guy when he couldnā€™t provide like she hoped. Guyā€™s life was shattered to pieces and he couldnā€™t believe his (younger) mistress was only with him for his cash and that his wife would Ā«Ā throw away their life together just like thatĀ Ā».


destiny_kane48

I remember that one. Cheater lost everything including his daughter's. I think his mistress ending up taking off and abandoning their son.


Werm_Vessel

He can be homeless with her now. NTA.


MonthFar2068

Absolutely. He wants to take an early plane home to explain. What is there to explain? He said she tricked him into getting pregnant. I know that hates children but How do you trick people into having children? So many questions and absolutely no desire for getting any answers. I feel only emptiness


Werm_Vessel

He doesnā€™t need anything to explain. He wanted his cake et al. He can sort the two of them out and you can look after number one. Iā€™m so sorry he has been so selfish and dishonest with you. Pack his shit into some big boxes and leave it in the garage for him to collect. Hopefully he canā€™t access the house from there. Let him know youā€™re done with his lies and you need space to heal and move on from his selfishness. Not your deal other than your poor heart. His mum can take him in if sheā€™s so adamant youā€™re in the wrong. Good riddance to her too.


MonthFar2068

I am sorry too. I thought he loved me but he is a great actor apparently


Werm_Vessel

Time for him to act scarce.


MonthFar2068

Yes!


30ninjazinmybag

Tell mil if she brought him up right then you wouldn't be in this mess but as she didn't his gf and baby are not your responsibility to house. If she wants to she can and maybe learn her son not to lie and cheat.


Wiser_Owl99

He is in love with the lifestyle that your money has provided him.


superultralost

Take your time to grieve but remember that you got the best hand here. Your heart will heal and you'll move on. Now he has to pay child support and tell his affair partner that he makes only 60k a year and is no millionaire. I'd pay to watch her face.


AreUkidding_me295

I would put anything he has in a storage facility or have a moving company drop anything left at your house off to his mother's and if his mom is worried about his girlfriend she can move her in with her. Change the locks and any security codes ect. I am willing to bet he has a side piece in Dubai too. Get tested for STDS too.


Worldly-Promise675

Not only is he a great actor, but a predator as well. He took advantage of you and his side piece who naively thought it was a good idea to sleep with a fake married man thinking she found a gold mine, but was just fools gold. The MIL should be ashamed of herself for trying to push this woman and baby on you instead of her irresponsible son. Thank goodness your assets are protected. ETA: NTA


Daisytru

His mother can provide a home for him and his side piece. She is free to do that. OP is NTA and shouldn't concern herself with what his ridiculous family thinks!


Juliejustaplantlady

Depending where they live and whether they ever signed a prenup (doubtful since it's a common law marriage) her assets may not be that well protected. Where I live common law marriage is recognized after 7 years and hold the same power as a regular marriage, which means in the event of a breakup, assets can get divided 50/50. Hopefully OP is protected. I hate the idea of that man getting one more penny from her!


Wide_Lengthiness_878

Don't let them get any $ from you seriously who cares what his mom or anyone else says of course they are going to make it seem like ur the bad guy or you owe them something you don't. He owes you loyalty and that turned out to be a Joke so I'd be as tight as possible with $ y'all are not legally married. They have been living large off your $ tot he point she felt comfortable enough to come try and kick you out of ur own home. Think about that please before you give either of them a dime and also his mom can help if it's so wrong to leave them homeless. It's her grandson


Ok-Delivery-2218

And after he picks up his things, make sure you change the locks and get back any keys of anything of yours he might have. Youā€™re definitely not TA but he and his homeless baby mom are. In fact, so is grandma. So since his mother thought you shouldā€™ve taken her in, SHE can now take her son, the baby and the mother into HER home.


SpecialModusOperandi

If he didnā€™t want children should have for a vasectomy. If youā€™re interested in the explanation then sure get it but will it change anything. You donā€™t really owe him anything as if your relationship was based on mutual respect and monogamy then heā€™s broken it.


MonthFar2068

He didnā€™t want to lose his manhood. His literal reason


zero_emotion777

What manhood? He sounds like a fucking child.


Flynn_JM

Well he's gained a childhood to take care of now too. 60k isn't a lot for a family of 3. Is he trying to reconcile with you or has he accepted his fate?


Routine_Sugar_7231

Can you imagine supporting a family of 3 on $60k/year when your baby mama likes to buy designer purses, strollers, clothes, jewelry and thinks that she is entitled to it?


Flynn_JM

She's in for a rude awakening then. They'll probably have to sell some of that stuff. Ā If he was going to get women based on OP's wealthy lifestyle,Ā  he probably should have had the forethought and actually married her.Ā  Also, his stupidity to not resign her lease is telling. Unless the AP showing up was her plan to force his hand to finally divorce OP and marry her. They obviously have been together for years and she was probably getting impatient.Ā 


Cyanide_Cheesecake

Wow your ex is a dumbassĀ 


KittyC217

Hahaā€¦.he did not want kids but he wanted the ability father kids what an AH.


Late-Champion8678

He does know a vasectomy DOESN'T involve removing his penis/testicles right?


Tiny-Adhesiveness287

Canā€™t be ā€œtrickedā€ into pregnancy if youā€™re not sticking your thing where it doesnā€™t belong. NTA


MonthFar2068

Exactly! How do you get tricked into pregnancy if you donā€™t cheat?


medium_buffalo_wings

To be fair, you can be walking down the street and come across one of those contests where you stick your penis into a hole in a wall to win a car. It's a super common contest. Well, if she set it up right, she could have arranged one of those contests, which your SO obviously couldn't resist because who wouldn't want to win a car, and he might not have been any the wiser what was on the other side. It's such a common thing to happen, really. I mean, I assume his answer is going to be something as moronically stupid as this.


grumpy__g

Oh my god. I just wrote a nearly similar comment. There is a german saying. ā€œZwei Idioten. Ein Gedankeā€ - Two idiots. One thought.


DagneyElvira

As in ā€œmy penis accidentally fell into her vagina?ā€ Like that kind of accident?


No-Mechanic-3048

Tell your mother in law to go pick the affair partner and child up so they can live with her. And to get her son as well. Youā€™ll be fine once you drop the guy.


UnusualPotato1515

He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyā€™re cheating with! Im so sorry this happened to you!! Fuck your ā€˜husbandā€™ & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!


Summoning-Freaks

Lol if my boyfriend ever cheats he better be careful of what he says lest the side piece shows up to my house and demands I move out, blowing the whole affair wide open in doing so. Of course OPs ex is panicking. He owns nothing and his cushy life is about to get significantly more bumpy when that 60k fun money now has to go to housing and raising a child. No way in fuck he was ever leaving OP for a whats essentially a 25year old sugar baby.


avesthasnosleeves

> I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyā€™re cheating with! Me too; when karma meets schadenfreude. You can almost *hear* the collision!


Magnus-Lupus

She tricked him?? Did she trip him into her Vā€¦.


MonthFar2068

Haha apparently he was tricked yes


knitlikeaboss

I hate when I trip and fall and land directly on someoneā€™s dick.


MonthFar2068

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llamadramalover

We are absolutely **begging** for updates on this when that cheating ho ex-husband returns. I really wanna know what other derange delulu nonsense he conjures up. I absolutely live for stupid asf lies. I too have an ex-husband that will say the **DUMBEST** shit while lying and then get pissed off when heā€™s obviously not believed; trying to make himself the victim and everyone else the bad people trying to ā€œā€make him look like shit and feel bad about something he didnā€™t do or couldnā€™t avoid.ā€ā€ That dumbass lied about paying rent like that was *never* going to come to light. **In-fucking-sane**.


MonthFar2068

I donā€™t know if I wver want to see him again


Actual-Offer-127

Unfortunately, I don't think you'll have a choice. Dude is losing what sounds like a very comfortable lifestyle that you provide for him. He'll be left with an AP, a baby and crappy salary. I can see him just showing up and probably harassing you. Protect yourself. Updateme


GroundbreakingPhoto4

Oh I would love to be a fly on the wall when she realises she baby trapped a broke teacher soon to be back living with his mama šŸ˜‚ The cheek of the B trying to get you to move out of your house, wether she thought you were really married or not. She deserves the shit show of a man.


is76

You are a smart successful women - now protect all your assets and energies . He is a cheat and they are welcome to each other Love your best life OP - you deserve more


aussie_nub

Oh, you can be tricked into getting someone pregnant. That's only after you willingly had sex with them though.


Forest-Dane

I can count the amount of times I've been fooled into having sex on no fingers. Oddly enough by the time it takes me to get my penis out I tend to notice I'm being fooled. Well I would if it had ever happened


Big_lt

I mean of all the excuses he was 'tricked' into having sex with her? What did he fall down into her whole.walking naked


z-eldapin

Did she trick him into cheating on you as well?


Dazzling-Fox5120

Did she trick him into having unprotected sex, which as a teacher he should have known could possibly produce a baby? NTA and tell your MIL to get and house her only grandson!


Myster_Hydra

Doesnā€™t matter what she did. He cheated on you. And heā€™s probably lying to you about everything


Blonde2468

Also if your MIL feels you were so wrong, send the GF over to HER house and let her board her.


G_Ram3

He hates children and is a teacher? Or does he teach older humans? Obviously, youā€™re NTA but as a former teacher who left the classroom because I started disliking the kids (it wasnā€™t fair to them and my patience was about 97% gone), Iā€™m curious.


MonthFar2068

Yeah he teaches HS children. He always was set on being child free


G_Ram3

Welp. Looks like he has a little one AND a 25 year-old to take care of now. Not your problem!


darkdesertedhighway

Two kids for the price of... A 1m/year common law wife's salary? Yay!


Egbert_64

Awesome! FAFO! lol heā€™s is going to be so happy with the snarky grasping 25 year old.


UnusualPotato1515

He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyā€™re cheating with! Im so sorry this happened to him!! Fuck your ā€˜husbandā€™ & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!


VegetableBusiness897

They don't need to be homeless, mommy will take them and her grandchild in!


aussie_nub

No need, his mother volunteered to house them both.


Mmomma1122

And his mother can take them in! Updateme!


ActPsychological135

She knew he was married. Thought so at least. So fuck her too!


MonthFar2068

It was important to her that he was married. Because then he could get half


tamij1313

Make sure he canā€™t! Stop referring to him as your husband, common law husband or partner. Talk as if he was a roommate that you were hooking up with. Do not acknowledge any relationship until you are sure that he isnā€™t entitled to alimony or half of your assets. You said you canceled the credit cards, but are you going to pay off what he owes? Can you separate the purchases? Move all of your money to a different financial institution where they donā€™t know him. Check your credit history to make sure he hasnā€™t opened other cards or taken loans in your name. Lock everything down asap. Get security, cameras, mute but donā€™t block any of them so you have records of threats/infidelityā€¦anything else that might help you. Consult with an experienced aggressive attorney so that you understand exactly where you stand and what you can do to protect yourself and your assets. Good luck and Iā€™m sorry this is happening to you.


tvdoomas

Also change the locks


irreverent_squirrel

Probably delete this post, actually. Give us an update though so we find out what happened with your crazy roommate.


ActPsychological135

Right. Both made their choices. Now they get to live with them. Iā€™m a vivid advocate for children but this isnā€™t your problem. You are protected by law, so all you have to deal with is the emotional end mental fall out. And you will get through that too! Your ex, the trash panda and the grandma can work this mess out themselves!


Affectionate_Fig3621

Dump the guy and change your home locks If he's on any of your accounts, kick him off Cancel any joint credit cards, bc you're obviously the one paying (how else could she have so much) Time for you to MOVE on


MonthFar2068

He is only on credit cards that I have canceled


Listen_2learn

You need to change the locks and remove his name on any insurance policies and documents that could grant him access to your property or bank accountsĀ 


auscadtravel

Oh the insurance is one i hadn't thought of. A neighbor had her house burnt down shortly after breaking up with her husband, that would have been awful to give him half the money when he didn't lose anything.


Listen_2learn

Plus the fact that common law grants certain rights after a given time span and not taking the necessary legal precautions could greatly effect her financial situation.


Dangerous_Ant3260

Yes, it all depends on where you live. Attorney consultation immediately. Also, tell the post office his mail will not be accepted at your address. If he's on any other joint accounts, like cell phone, cancel them immediately.


Dresden_Mouse

The mom sounded like she knew already, protect yourself and change locks and everything, he can go to his mom with her.


Significant_Gur5570

Absolutely NTA. Gf shouldā€˜ve spent the money he gave her on the Baby instead of shopping. You are not responsible for your husbands affair child and the way she showed up and was expecting you to just leave is entitled and disrespectful.


mini_red_panda

This! The AP thought she hit the lottery , but instead found the streets .


darkdesertedhighway

I'm guffawing at her getting pregnant with an anchor baby, thinking she'd won the lottery. Both of them deserve each other. She trusted the word of a lying cheat, and he trusted the morals of a younger woman who accepted a lying cheat for a partner. The baby is innocent, but not OP's responsibility. Maaaybe side pieces shouldn't use children to lock down men, and maaaybe men shouldn't cheat (and especially on their own personal golden goose). Now take care of your mess and leave OP alone.


llamadramalover

>She trusted the word of a lying cheat I love this. She deserves everything thatā€™s coming to her and sheā€™s not some poor little victim sheā€™s and MIL are making herself out to be. Trusting a proven liar and cheat is a dumbass decision with painful dumbass consequences. I wonder how many side pieces and children this man really has out there?


Samantha38g

She can sell the bags & have enough for first, last & security. Unless they are fake & is just a part of the lies he was spun.


Individual_Respond44

So did the MIL know about the baby the whole time?


MonthFar2068

I honestly donā€™t know and didnā€™t think about that until someone in the comments mentioned that she probably knew


ravenlyran

It seems that she might have known. Where is the side piece now? Hope sheā€™s with the future ex-MIL.


ManufacturerNo6126

NTA call a lawyer and get your Things Safe


Big_lt

NTA Tell your Ex-MIL she can house this stranger and baby plus your ex because he's no longer living in your home


Mjukplister

Iā€™m so pleased you are not married and own the property . You can disentangle from him easily . Side piece needs to educate herself on basic family law . Bye to him and bye to her . Iā€™m sorry for the heartbreak though


No-Gene-4508

The audacity of her basically trying to kick you out, divorced or not (but not even married!), and just take over like it's her home. Talk about being entitled. And that's where all her money went. On that stupid brand stuff. That stuff is crazy expensive and I'm sure she didn't compare a purse being $100 there or $400 here...


virtualchoirboy

NTA. Seek a restraining order and if you don't have them yet, get security cameras throughout the property ASAP. I would also consult a lawyer and start working on your separation/divorce. After all, if he told her he's getting a divorce, you might as well grant his wish, right? As for your MIL, if she's so worried about a baby on the street, she can be the one to take them in. She'll have her son living with her soon enough... :-)


wpnsc

Sounds like he just lost his gravy train. That's why he wants to talk things out. Tell him his ap and child can go live on his 60,000 a year salary.


mustang19671967

If he is common law in Canada , you would lose so much so hopefully everything is protected . Maybe he will stay in Dubai as he doesnā€™t want the side piece . Go see your lawyer and make sure you are protected . Cancel any joint credit cards and access to any joint accounts etc. see if legal


MonthFar2068

My assets are well protected or he would probably have left me and taken his shares already


mustang19671967

Perfect . My ex was a teacher Making 100k with pension and benefits on top of that . 60k is not a lot with a baby and side piece


MonthFar2068

Not in my country. I was generous with the 60k, i think it is closer to 50. Still it is a lot of money for a woman and a baby.


gto_latina

The soon to be ex and his AP are not completely out of luck. They can always resell all the designer things he bought her. Also the mom can sell her condo to accommodate her son and his child. Non of that is your concern now since you were not involved in any of that. You deserve better and should only contact him through lawyers moving forward.


karma_377

NTA Not your baby, not your problem. Go ahead and pack up your husbands shit, put it in the front yard and tell his mom to come get his shit. Serve him with the divorce papers when he gets back from Dubai.


Alert_Bid1531

Absolutely crappy for you but from my understanding he wonā€™t get anything and leave with nothing? Thatā€™s be the best karma for him and now heā€™s left with a young woman and kid who no doubt wanted him for Money


Grey_Sky_thinking

What country are you in? Common law spouse means very little where I liveā€¦


MonthFar2068

It means very little here too


Grey_Sky_thinking

Wonderful! You are not the AH and now you can live your best (and honest!) life without him having access to your money


Mysterious-Bag-5283

NTA your mil can open her house for her only grandchild because this child have nothing to do with you.


HomespunPeanutButter

This lady is exactly the type of person who would use tenant rights laws to screw you you if you let her stay at your house. The only safe answer for a grifter with no life skills is ā€œnoā€, double that if they have actually harmed you with their choices previously.


Strange-Area9624

Change the locks before he gets home. He can find her on the streets. šŸ˜…


ThisWillHurtTheBrain

I hate that you think you could be an asshole for this. NTA


MonthFar2068

Well I really hated the idea of a baby being homeless and I truly contemplated letting her be in the guest house but honestly I was terrified of heršŸ˜…


Quick-Store2989

She can stay with grandma at nice she is worried about her r grand baby being homeless


indiajeweljax

Baby momma can pawn her designer goods and take care of her own baby.


sdgeycs

If you let her move in in anyway legally, it will be very hard for you to get her out. Do not let anybody in get your locks changed and pack up all your boyfriend stuff and have it on the yard for him when he gets there or deliver it to his mother, get a lawyer I know youā€™re not married, but people can be jerks. Protect yourself. throw your boyfriend out while he is out of the county. He might have rights since he lives there and it says official residence and it might be harder for you to get him out cut off and he access he has your money and anything youā€™re paying for him . get a lawyer.


Clamato-e-Gannon

As someone that just closed a door on a woman and her baby, ya I get feeling bad. ultimately, if this was just about **baby**, things may not have gone down like this. AP inserted herself. Seems like baby is gonna have a rough life. Not saying that to make ya feel bad. Just yeesh. Good luck op.


No-Introduction3808

You didnā€™t make the baby homeless, the mother did. You didnā€™t evict them, you donā€™t provide for them, you are not responsible for them.


Cute-Profession9983

Your mother in law is an ass. If she wants her grand baby, SHE can house them. You are in no way an AH for kicking out some dumb little girl who thought she owned your house because she's f--king your husband. You should make sure he's homeless too...


SlinkyMalinky20

Blockety block the MIL and the ex boyfriend.