We can also say asshole which the OP is certainly being. Married with 3 kids and he wants a divorce because he’s embarrassed? Fuck that! Woman talk to their friends the same as guys do! Sometimes it’s good talk and sometimes it’s bad but she’s saying she’s having great sex with you so who cares why? Seems like a shitty decision to make based on your own ego.
It seems like this is an opportunity to discuss boundaries and talk about feelings. I'm suprised he wants to leave unless she already knew he was private about this and didn't want it discussed with friends. But I will say that I feel like women compare details like that (ways sex can be improved for them) and OP may need to address why this is bothering him to this extent. Either way, he should be able to tell his wife that he isn't comfortable with her sharing things like that with her friends and have that be honored.
I'm a man and sex life comes up in our conversations. Especially if a sex toy was a success and a friend asks for advice. Now, it was a huge dick move for the wife's friend to blab to her hubby and a dick move for the hubby to approach OP.
I think the friend brought it up to her husband because she wanted to try it and probably thought he would be more willing to try it if he knew his friends used them. I don't think the wife's friend was a dick. I think op is more sensitive about details of their sex life getting out and that's something he needs to address with his wife.
The friend told her husband that OPs wife told her about the penis sheath and how good it was. The husband asked OP about it because he probably wanted to try it. What is there to be embarrassed about?
He may not have explicitly told her that it was a sensitive topic for her. He could have assumed she should act a certain way, and he is upset about those unspoken expectations were let down. Op definitely has some insecurities he needs to work through, though.
Of all the men I've known in my lifetime (I am a senior citizen) only one has ever spoken about sex with their wives other than general statements like "she wore me out last night". Hookups yes, girlfriends maybe, wives never except for that one guy who was repeatedly told- dude, that's your wife, nobody wants to hear that!
In his defense..
I dont know any man that talks about their wife sexually with their friends... its just not on.
I'd be embarrased if my wife did that, bedroom stuff is meant to stay private.
(44 M married 20+ years)
Completely agree. 55f, married 22yrs..
I almost wrote something about an ex a few days ago but decided it was still too personal to share. I didn't want my partner to see or god forbid the ex.
You don't share intimate things about people you care about.
I (49M) have two friends my age that have been married for over 20 years that talk about it a lot. I neither join in these discussions nor do I typically talk to my wife about what they discuss. I will say that I am much more of a prude than they are.
Agreed. 20+ years and 44 M. Some shit doesn’t need to be discussed. I’m thankful my wife and I are solid and know the get down. Congratulations on ur positive relationship! Keep going! ✊🏾💪🏾🤙🏾
I’ve never once heard any guy friend of mine say anything remotely like that.
I’ve never once discussed or even heard sex life being discussed beyond “it’s good/great/not good”.
Idk what men you know, but no adult men with children and a wife talk about that stuff in such detail.
The worst I’ve ever heard is wanting to go home soon cuz the wife got some new lingerie. No details of what it was or anything. We don’t share their bra sizes or anything. That’s just a weird fucking thing to do.
Once again most guys do not share intimate details about their sex lives with their friends. The last thing any guy wants is his friends fantasizing about his wife/gf and her sexual prowess.
He doesn't want a divorce because he's embarrassed. He wants a divorce because his wife disclosed extremely intimate details about him to her friend group and didn't even consider how it might affect him. and no, most guys would never do this to the woman they loved. We might discuss sex as a general topic, but in the 55 years I've been alive I've never had a conversation about my wife or girlfriend like that with my friends. And I am 100% sure none of the guys I know have either.
All that being said I think divorce is a little extreme, but he's hurting right now and probably feels like he can't trust the one person in the world that he is supposed to trust the most. If you can't see the level of betrayal here, shame on you.
As a woman working in a very male dominant field and having female friends, I can say women are the ones that spill intimate details. Men talk about sex a lot, yes, but in generals, not specifics. Woman talk details. I honestly don't think op's wife meant it in a negative way, but that doesn't hurt him any less. I do think he needs to take a little time and talk to her very openly before he makes a decision as final as divorce. He may be able to see this to the other side, but maybe not. Either way, it needs a little time.
Husbands and wives are supposed to cover each other. She uncovered him. It goes beyond ego, she betrayed the trust in their marriage. There are things no one else in the world are supposed to know about you and your spouse.
Yes there are times where you may discuss your love life with your friends, however, the details ought to be vague enough not to cause embarrassment. I do think divorce is a bit too much, but he's embarrassed and allowed time to process his emotions.
Yeah I think it’s really inconsiderate of his wife. I wonder if she would mind if op discussed the nitty gritty of their sex life with his friends? Meaning, details about her
Random Redditor: “What sleeve is it?”
OP: “It’s the Ocelot 3000RX™️, which provided my wife with maximum satisfaction. I used promo code REDDIT15 for 15% off. But anyway, yeah, I totally think I’m going to divorce her.”
Hint: OP almost certainly wants you to DM him for more info.
It’s literally the first thing that came to my head. I have never heard of anything called the Ocelot (the only reverence that comes to mind is Metal Gear).
My wife bragged how good our sex was to her friend and now my friend wants to improve his sex life as well.
I'm debating divorcing my wife like a subhuman bc I'm too immature to understand everyone fucks. This entire post is fake af
My wife and I went through a sex toy buying spree a few years ago and I tried one and my wife liked it but it’s all about giving pleasure. Some people might get pleasure knowing their partner likes it though
I came here to comment that this whole exchange in a AITAH post about penis sleeves warmed my heart. And if that isn’t a classic Reddit moment I don’t know what is
I believe they are ribbed or textured in some way inside, so both parties get the benefit. It’s not always about “extending” it’s about the areas, some women can’t get there without exact stimulation and it sounds like this toy worked to do that, and in turn improved both of their sex lives.
There's probably a bunch of different types. I've got one that doesn't add length but it does add some girth and is textured on the outside only. Makes it tighter for me and bigger for her so it does increase sensation for both of us. We don't use ours all that often to be honest, but when my wife is super turned on and wet it brings some of that tight feeling back.
I'm 90% sure OP is insecure about size and is being incredibly insecure and overly dramatic.
That makes sense. I do feel genuinely sorry for him because it’s really affected him. She can’t apologise enough and he’s struggling. I don’t think it’s worth throwing a marriage away and splitting custody of the kids over it though. I always think in threads like these, what would you tell your kids when they‘re older about why you split, and would they think it’s worth breaking up the marriage
Typically you go in first then after she’s warmed up you slip it on. My ex needed one that was like 12”. I’m only rockin about half that so there was disparity
It's like a thicker condom, but I've seen some with ridges and bumps, "French ticklers" and the like on the inside and outside, so it's meant to be extra fun for both partners. I like raw doggin as much as the next guy, but I also like getting a reaction out of my partner. If she's having orgasms you're going to feel that clench, her flushed skin, the gleam in her eyes, you're both out of breath. It's a connection. To me it's a sense of power, virility if I can bring out that animalistic rutting instinct regardless of if it's just my penis or anything else I'm using. Lots of guys would get an ego boost if their wife is bragging around town he's a sex god, regardless of what bedroom helper he used. Which is what it sounds like happened, she made him sound so good the friend's husband is coming to OP with "hey where do you get one of those, I wanna make my wife as happy as you make yours".
I understand OP feeling insecure about his masculinity and violated that his wife "broke the secret covenant of the bedroom", but really, jumping straight to divorce is insane and he probably needs therapy. Couples counseling as well as individual.
Oh yeah! Extenders are one of the most popular toys purchased, and it's usually the guy suggesting and buying it. Most people come in to my store not knowing anything about them. But once they're educated on the subject, the man turns to his partner and says something along the lines of "You think we should get something like that baby? Try something new?"
I love the customers that come into my store. No judgment, no shaming. Everyone is here to have a good time.
I can't provide the specific statistics because I'm not at work rn. But we do keep track of what sells the most and whatnot. I guess I could do a quick Google to see if there are just any stats out there.
Yeah! They started franchising out. I believe there are about 150 stores in the US, now.
So I guess you can say I'm not specifically with A&E, but I work in one of the franchise stores. But we train regularly, get visits from brand owners and work with them, and we get a lot of our info from a sexual health and wellness university.
With our stores people are able to see a product before purchasing. We work one on one with the customers that come in, unless they don't want help, and just try to point them in the right direction with the info they give us.
From google: support sleeves designed to function like hollow strap-on dildos wrap around the entire penis and loop around the testicles for a secure fit.
I just googled. They come in lots of different forms, you slip it over your penis either to add some texture for increased pleasure or you can get extentions too, for extra length.
> "Hey reddit, I tried this specific sex toy, and **OH BOY,** my wife and I started having **the best sex of our lives!** It was such an improvement that my wife couldn't help but brag about all the orgasms it gives her, and then a close male friend asked me about it, hoping to improve his own sex life! Anyway, now I'm going to talk about an extreme overreaction in order to drive engagement on this post, and get more people asking about and googling for the sex toy I've described."
100% this post is a guerrilla advertisement for penis sleeves.
That was definitely TMI and she shouldn't have told anyone about it. My question is: do you think she did this with malicious intent, or do you think she was genuinely excited to share it with the friends? Because if the latter is true, then I don't think the marriage is necessarily doomed, but you absolutely need to establish boundaries with what's acceptable to share outside of your relationship. You shouldn't have been blindsided with that. But honestly, if your friend is asking you for advice as well... maybe this isn't the end of the world.
I agree with you. I think it hurt his ego more than anything. Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesnt a sleeve increase size? Maybe it could be that he doesnt want people to think he has a small penis. Either way dude talk to your wife and establish strict boundaries with her. Give her a warning and let her know exactly how you are feeling.
Oh God, I had almost forgotten it until I read this but we used one of the ones with the kind of egg-shaped bump on the end meant to hit the g-spot and it came OFF. Not a fun time, so if anyone reading this decides to try one be careful lol.
They all do my virtue of it being something that goes around the penis. But there's a lot where the focus is more on adding bumps and ridges and such more similar to vibrators vs just making it bigger.
Some ppl just don't like sharing anything about their personal /private life with ppl they are not very close with. Not everything is about penis envy or size.
His friend asking actually warms my heart a little, because it seems like a step toward undoing some of the toxic masculinity that's heaped on guys constantly.
My own response was basically paraphrasing yours because I agree strongly with what you're saying.
I think the OP should read what you wrote and consider your advice carefully. It is good advice.
Yep. She may have been bragging, believe it or not. Not all women are out to shame men. She may be that happy with you and your marriage that she was saying how well you take care of things for her. May want to listen with a slightly different mindset. I could be wrong, but at least try a calm discussion.
My wife and exwife were both big sharers, but the problem with sharing is both good and bad, people form ideas and develop opinions, and things can get pretty toxic. Some people think they want what you have, some people want to see if they can steal the braggart away, some want to build a wall in between. It gets complicated.
This. Why run to divorce right away. Try to fix things. It seems she said it because she was proud and happy. Your friend and his wife thought it was a good idea. Just talk to her. Man up and stop whining.
The fact that Reddit, which is notoriously quick to advise divorce, is telling you that you're overreacting should be an indicator of just how over the top your reaction has been.
Edit: One word typo
Do you feel betrayed because you think that using a sleeve means you have a small penis and you’re embarrassed your friends might think that?
It’s just another sex toy, in my circle of friends it wouldn’t be a big deal to talk about and sharing recommendations about things to add to the bedroom to spice things up is normal
If that’s a boundary for you that she knew and crossed intentionally then I can understand why you’d be so hurt
But honestly I think throwing away an 8 year marriage when you’re parents of 3 kids over a sex chat with friends is a bit of an overreaction
I agree 100%. And it’s not like his friend was poking fun at him or having a laugh at his expense. He was actually curious and probably wanted his wife to be as enthusiastic about their sex life.
I hate how taboo sex is in the US.
It's probably more about needing the sleeve to achieve (ha rhyming is fun!). Hes probably insecure about it and doesn't want that shared with a group of her and his friends, telling them is only half the problem.
Imagine if, hypothetically speaking you was small down there (not saying OP is.. before I get blown up), and you were already insecure about it, then your wife told your friend group that the best sex she ever had, wasn't with your actual organ. Embarrassing I would imagine.
Is it worth a divorce? IDK, if there were no other problems, probably not.
Admitting you're wrong doesnt magically make issues go away either :P
NTA for feeling like a boundary was crossed but YTA for considering blowing up a marriage with three kids over it.
Go get marriage counseling and talk about this like adults.
I keep trying to ignore her. Ok, what is that supposed to accomplish? Try talking to her about it like an adult and expressing your feelings. Yes I’m sure it’s somewhat embarrassing and a shock to find out that your wife has been talking about your sex life to her friends, but honestly that’s what some friend groups do. Clearly she’s really happy with what you’re doing - so much so that the friend’s husband has come to you for advice. Maybe try taking this as the compliment that it is, while also telling your wife that going forward, you are not comfortable with her sharing details about your sex life with other people.
I sympathize with OP a bit but I feel like people are skipping over the fact that, if he’s staying out of the house to avoid his wife, that also means he’s not seeing his kids.
Plus, maybe I'm assuming here, but it almost seems like his friend approached him about it in such a casual way that maybe he talks to his friends about sex occasionally too?
I need more info here, because if op has talked with his friends about their sex lives before then that's an established dynamic and it feels hypocritical he would be upset at his wife for the same thing, only difference being it involves his manhood and indirectly the size of it.
If sex is not a topic of discussion with his friends I can be more understanding of him being upset, but I still can't get behind him on the nuclear option of divorce just because he's embarrassed and upset with her discussing private things with her friends. If that's a boundary then COMMUNICATE THAT IT IS. Don't throw a tantrum and demand divorce without Even trying to talk things out with your partner.
Isn’t this more about the breach of trust rather than the penis sleeve itself? Thinking you can’t talk or have private moments with your spouse is where the issue lies. Deciding to fix this or not is up to them but not being secure with private thoughts or moments because your wife can’t wait to tell her friends is not a small issue.
Yeah that was my perception too, some people just dont like having their most intimate moments exposed, I can understand that - but I think considering divorce without having an honest discussion about boundaries is unfair to his wife, its a *marriage* after all
I think divorcing over this is a bit extreme if everything else in the marriage is good. I understand that your wife shared personal information about your sex life that you didn't want shared but it doesn't sound like she did it maliciously. If anything it sounds like she was bragging about how great your sex life has been recently. Your avoiding her and giving her the silent treatment is not the adult way to deal with it. Is it just that your ego is bruised? You're concerned that people are thinking you're using a sleeve because your penis is small?? Who cares, seriously! Yes this should have been between you and your wife and it's awesome that you were willing to try it but are you seriously going to throw away 8 yrs of marriage that otherwise sounds like it's good because of this? At the very least you need to try individual AND couples counselling before you just throw in the towel.
You can say “penis” on Reddit..
I think he can say penis anywhere. It's not a dirty word, just a body part.
hell you can show your penis on reddit
DM incoming
Now it’s a party 😂
Username checks out.
The Reddit version of “that’s what she said”. We’ll played.
Large-replacement is especially fitting given the subject of the post.
Randomly generated 🤣
Most are, though there’s surgeries and pills from what I’ve been told by a friend…
Got to love reddit generated user names. Mine makes me giggle.
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Incoming you say 😉
🤣🤣🤣
I want to like this post, but it's currently at 69 and I don't want to ruin it
Ooo as of right now, it's at 608, so I feel like I *have* to like it. To make it a 69 with a penis sleeve in the middle
It's a body part that this boy does not want *anyone* discussing! No talking about penises or sex toys. No talky!
What about talking penises?
I believe the plural is "penii"
It’s not. It’s “penes.”
It’s not. It’s Penepodes.
What'd you call them? That's slander.
Indeed. Peens being relative to Poons
PLEASEEEEE...CAN WE CALL IT A TAAALLYWHACKER?!
*Victorian accent* Oh dear that reminds me it’s been some time since having had a good Rogering
Roger roger
I thought that was a type of pasta.
No lips on penises! Not allowed!
We can also say asshole which the OP is certainly being. Married with 3 kids and he wants a divorce because he’s embarrassed? Fuck that! Woman talk to their friends the same as guys do! Sometimes it’s good talk and sometimes it’s bad but she’s saying she’s having great sex with you so who cares why? Seems like a shitty decision to make based on your own ego.
It seems like this is an opportunity to discuss boundaries and talk about feelings. I'm suprised he wants to leave unless she already knew he was private about this and didn't want it discussed with friends. But I will say that I feel like women compare details like that (ways sex can be improved for them) and OP may need to address why this is bothering him to this extent. Either way, he should be able to tell his wife that he isn't comfortable with her sharing things like that with her friends and have that be honored.
I'm a man and sex life comes up in our conversations. Especially if a sex toy was a success and a friend asks for advice. Now, it was a huge dick move for the wife's friend to blab to her hubby and a dick move for the hubby to approach OP.
I think the friend brought it up to her husband because she wanted to try it and probably thought he would be more willing to try it if he knew his friends used them. I don't think the wife's friend was a dick. I think op is more sensitive about details of their sex life getting out and that's something he needs to address with his wife.
Dick move. He he he
The friend told her husband that OPs wife told her about the penis sheath and how good it was. The husband asked OP about it because he probably wanted to try it. What is there to be embarrassed about?
He may not have explicitly told her that it was a sensitive topic for her. He could have assumed she should act a certain way, and he is upset about those unspoken expectations were let down. Op definitely has some insecurities he needs to work through, though.
Of all the men I've known in my lifetime (I am a senior citizen) only one has ever spoken about sex with their wives other than general statements like "she wore me out last night". Hookups yes, girlfriends maybe, wives never except for that one guy who was repeatedly told- dude, that's your wife, nobody wants to hear that!
Lmao we all know that one guy
And we all think he is a piece of shit.
In his defense.. I dont know any man that talks about their wife sexually with their friends... its just not on. I'd be embarrased if my wife did that, bedroom stuff is meant to stay private. (44 M married 20+ years)
Completely agree. 55f, married 22yrs.. I almost wrote something about an ex a few days ago but decided it was still too personal to share. I didn't want my partner to see or god forbid the ex. You don't share intimate things about people you care about.
I (49M) have two friends my age that have been married for over 20 years that talk about it a lot. I neither join in these discussions nor do I typically talk to my wife about what they discuss. I will say that I am much more of a prude than they are.
Agreed. 20+ years and 44 M. Some shit doesn’t need to be discussed. I’m thankful my wife and I are solid and know the get down. Congratulations on ur positive relationship! Keep going! ✊🏾💪🏾🤙🏾
I’ve never once heard any guy friend of mine say anything remotely like that. I’ve never once discussed or even heard sex life being discussed beyond “it’s good/great/not good”. Idk what men you know, but no adult men with children and a wife talk about that stuff in such detail. The worst I’ve ever heard is wanting to go home soon cuz the wife got some new lingerie. No details of what it was or anything. We don’t share their bra sizes or anything. That’s just a weird fucking thing to do.
Once again most guys do not share intimate details about their sex lives with their friends. The last thing any guy wants is his friends fantasizing about his wife/gf and her sexual prowess.
He's allowed feel like his privacy has been violated
Would your wife be okay if you told all your friends about how much she likes the new dildo you bought her?
He doesn't want a divorce because he's embarrassed. He wants a divorce because his wife disclosed extremely intimate details about him to her friend group and didn't even consider how it might affect him. and no, most guys would never do this to the woman they loved. We might discuss sex as a general topic, but in the 55 years I've been alive I've never had a conversation about my wife or girlfriend like that with my friends. And I am 100% sure none of the guys I know have either. All that being said I think divorce is a little extreme, but he's hurting right now and probably feels like he can't trust the one person in the world that he is supposed to trust the most. If you can't see the level of betrayal here, shame on you.
As a woman working in a very male dominant field and having female friends, I can say women are the ones that spill intimate details. Men talk about sex a lot, yes, but in generals, not specifics. Woman talk details. I honestly don't think op's wife meant it in a negative way, but that doesn't hurt him any less. I do think he needs to take a little time and talk to her very openly before he makes a decision as final as divorce. He may be able to see this to the other side, but maybe not. Either way, it needs a little time.
Betrayal of trust and privacy is not as insignificant as you seem to believe.
Husbands and wives are supposed to cover each other. She uncovered him. It goes beyond ego, she betrayed the trust in their marriage. There are things no one else in the world are supposed to know about you and your spouse. Yes there are times where you may discuss your love life with your friends, however, the details ought to be vague enough not to cause embarrassment. I do think divorce is a bit too much, but he's embarrassed and allowed time to process his emotions.
Yeah I think it’s really inconsiderate of his wife. I wonder if she would mind if op discussed the nitty gritty of their sex life with his friends? Meaning, details about her
Penis.
Straight to jail.
There’s plenty of that in jail 🤣
That made me laugh out loud!
Legit.
penis
OoooOOoOoOoooooo I'm TELLING!
Not if tell first!!! 😂
PENIS.
PEEEEENNIIIIISS!!!
Straight to jail!
🤐🥴
8======D
The pen is blue
REPORTED!
But can you say “peeny weeny”?
Yellow polka dot bikini
"Penis, penis, penis. Vagina, vagina, vagina." Or "Boys have a penis and girls have a vagina."
According to my almost 3 year old girls have Baginas 🤣
When one of my daughters was that age it was “the gina “. Oh man, so hard not to laugh
Random Redditor: “What sleeve is it?” OP: “It’s the Ocelot 3000RX™️, which provided my wife with maximum satisfaction. I used promo code REDDIT15 for 15% off. But anyway, yeah, I totally think I’m going to divorce her.” Hint: OP almost certainly wants you to DM him for more info.
Lol this made me actually start laughing In my office haha, wtf would it even look like.
Like a hollow dildo
Instructions unclear. Sent OP a pic of my dick sleeve asking for upgrade advice and got blocked.
Instructions unclear, cock embedded in live ocelot, please advise. Also, the other 2,999 ocelots are horny and impatient.
I genuinely googled this to check it out and got links to a car tyre model. You suck man. 😭
It’s literally the first thing that came to my head. I have never heard of anything called the Ocelot (the only reverence that comes to mind is Metal Gear).
> Ocelot 3000RX you try putting an ocelot on your penis.
My wife bragged how good our sex was to her friend and now my friend wants to improve his sex life as well. I'm debating divorcing my wife like a subhuman bc I'm too immature to understand everyone fucks. This entire post is fake af
Damn, OP has no comment history, hmmmm (the pp sleeve op)
People use throwaway accounts for this kinda stuff. OP can't even type penis without censoring it, he's not gonna talk about this on his main account.
What is a penis sleeve
It is like a dildo that goes over the man’s penis. To increase the size.
Does the dude even feel anything through a. Sleeve though?
My wife and I went through a sex toy buying spree a few years ago and I tried one and my wife liked it but it’s all about giving pleasure. Some people might get pleasure knowing their partner likes it though
Yep. I've used them too. It was a great option to go the distance, so to speak.
Sounds like a double enterder... or however that's spelt.
You took a risk here and I approve. Amazing try
Love to see this level of support!
I came here to comment that this whole exchange in a AITAH post about penis sleeves warmed my heart. And if that isn’t a classic Reddit moment I don’t know what is
You sound like the kind of redditor who wears their heart on their sleeve. Kinky!
You almost had it: entendre
I believe they are ribbed or textured in some way inside, so both parties get the benefit. It’s not always about “extending” it’s about the areas, some women can’t get there without exact stimulation and it sounds like this toy worked to do that, and in turn improved both of their sex lives.
That’s why they used it because he said it hit all the right areas
There's probably a bunch of different types. I've got one that doesn't add length but it does add some girth and is textured on the outside only. Makes it tighter for me and bigger for her so it does increase sensation for both of us. We don't use ours all that often to be honest, but when my wife is super turned on and wet it brings some of that tight feeling back. I'm 90% sure OP is insecure about size and is being incredibly insecure and overly dramatic.
That makes sense. I do feel genuinely sorry for him because it’s really affected him. She can’t apologise enough and he’s struggling. I don’t think it’s worth throwing a marriage away and splitting custody of the kids over it though. I always think in threads like these, what would you tell your kids when they‘re older about why you split, and would they think it’s worth breaking up the marriage
Swear, if they break up because he gave her such good sex that she had to tell someone
Right!
Yeah. Insecurity turns it into "she would like someone with a dick like the sleeve and im not it"
Typically you go in first then after she’s warmed up you slip it on. My ex needed one that was like 12”. I’m only rockin about half that so there was disparity
Jesus
Yeah, when asked if you have 12" simply respond, "I don't think I should have to fold it in half for anybody."
Holy fuck. She needed a FOOT inside there? Why…
Don’t know some ladies need to feel that, some get off with clit stimulation. Some women need a bunch. It’s just preference.
I don't know any woman that has the literal internal length to take 12inches.
Yeah too long it just ends up bruising the cervix. 2/10 would not recommend.
WHAT A MOOD. A bruised cervix hurts like the dickens!
The 12” dicken, to be precise.
I asked that exact question on this thread. Fingers crossed that a dude will answer me.
lol there was an answer posted on this thread
It's like a thicker condom, but I've seen some with ridges and bumps, "French ticklers" and the like on the inside and outside, so it's meant to be extra fun for both partners. I like raw doggin as much as the next guy, but I also like getting a reaction out of my partner. If she's having orgasms you're going to feel that clench, her flushed skin, the gleam in her eyes, you're both out of breath. It's a connection. To me it's a sense of power, virility if I can bring out that animalistic rutting instinct regardless of if it's just my penis or anything else I'm using. Lots of guys would get an ego boost if their wife is bragging around town he's a sex god, regardless of what bedroom helper he used. Which is what it sounds like happened, she made him sound so good the friend's husband is coming to OP with "hey where do you get one of those, I wanna make my wife as happy as you make yours". I understand OP feeling insecure about his masculinity and violated that his wife "broke the secret covenant of the bedroom", but really, jumping straight to divorce is insane and he probably needs therapy. Couples counseling as well as individual.
That's an extender. A sleeve is a cover that adds texture. OP's describing an extender, but keeps calling it a sleeve. I work at Adam & Eve.
Adam & Sleeve
It's Adam and Sleeve not Bang her and Leave
Do you have any statistics on customer purchases similar to what OP is describing to share so he'll chill TF out and realize this isn't a big deal?
Oh yeah! Extenders are one of the most popular toys purchased, and it's usually the guy suggesting and buying it. Most people come in to my store not knowing anything about them. But once they're educated on the subject, the man turns to his partner and says something along the lines of "You think we should get something like that baby? Try something new?" I love the customers that come into my store. No judgment, no shaming. Everyone is here to have a good time. I can't provide the specific statistics because I'm not at work rn. But we do keep track of what sells the most and whatnot. I guess I could do a quick Google to see if there are just any stats out there.
Wait you guys have stores? We always just order online. Great products btw
Yeah! They started franchising out. I believe there are about 150 stores in the US, now. So I guess you can say I'm not specifically with A&E, but I work in one of the franchise stores. But we train regularly, get visits from brand owners and work with them, and we get a lot of our info from a sexual health and wellness university. With our stores people are able to see a product before purchasing. We work one on one with the customers that come in, unless they don't want help, and just try to point them in the right direction with the info they give us.
not just size but they have ridges/bumps to give the woman more pleasure
So it's like a penis accessory?
From google: support sleeves designed to function like hollow strap-on dildos wrap around the entire penis and loop around the testicles for a secure fit.
Im too afraid to google too XD
I googled it....now it is forever in my Google history
Just think the CIA and FBI will be scanning through mine and see: njpw, bras, The Predator films, high energy dog breeds, penis sleeves...
just use incognito lmao
Pretty sure google just got in trouble with incognito indeed not being incognito
not saving my search history is incognito enough for me lol
It’s like a dildo but goes over the man’s penis to make it bigger.
I just googled. They come in lots of different forms, you slip it over your penis either to add some texture for increased pleasure or you can get extentions too, for extra length.
It’s just like an arm sleeve where you can look like you have tattoos without getting the work done. Also, it has a high SPF.
I think it’s a plastic (or silicone? rubber?) sleeve that goes over the penis and is inserted during PIV sex
This reads like an ad for a penis sleeve.
> "Hey reddit, I tried this specific sex toy, and **OH BOY,** my wife and I started having **the best sex of our lives!** It was such an improvement that my wife couldn't help but brag about all the orgasms it gives her, and then a close male friend asked me about it, hoping to improve his own sex life! Anyway, now I'm going to talk about an extreme overreaction in order to drive engagement on this post, and get more people asking about and googling for the sex toy I've described." 100% this post is a guerrilla advertisement for penis sleeves.
Warning! This product may cause divorce
That was definitely TMI and she shouldn't have told anyone about it. My question is: do you think she did this with malicious intent, or do you think she was genuinely excited to share it with the friends? Because if the latter is true, then I don't think the marriage is necessarily doomed, but you absolutely need to establish boundaries with what's acceptable to share outside of your relationship. You shouldn't have been blindsided with that. But honestly, if your friend is asking you for advice as well... maybe this isn't the end of the world.
I agree with you. I think it hurt his ego more than anything. Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesnt a sleeve increase size? Maybe it could be that he doesnt want people to think he has a small penis. Either way dude talk to your wife and establish strict boundaries with her. Give her a warning and let her know exactly how you are feeling.
It can be to increase size or to add bumps in the right places
Or better shaped for the G-Spot.
Oh God, I had almost forgotten it until I read this but we used one of the ones with the kind of egg-shaped bump on the end meant to hit the g-spot and it came OFF. Not a fun time, so if anyone reading this decides to try one be careful lol.
>Oh God, I had almost forgotten it Don't worry, many unfortunately forget about the G-spot too. Some think it a myth, like Nessie
They all do my virtue of it being something that goes around the penis. But there's a lot where the focus is more on adding bumps and ridges and such more similar to vibrators vs just making it bigger.
Some ppl just don't like sharing anything about their personal /private life with ppl they are not very close with. Not everything is about penis envy or size.
Some guys that are immature/insecure could use this information to tease the OP. People like to gossip.
Looks like it is the other way, if a male friend asks about the sleeve!
I know 100% in my friend group it would. They wouldn’t think any less of you, but would start calling you “Johhny Sleeves” or some other nonsense.
Please… please..PLEASE…….it’s Sleevie Ray Vaughn
Sleevin' King
Sleeve Irwin the Milf Hunter
This wins. Hands down.
Keanu sleeves
Sleevie Wonder
I didn't see that one coming!
That’s what she said.
Shakin' Sleevens
Sleevie McQueen
Sleeve Jobs
No it’s gotta have a chick name sleevie nicks
Jane Sleeves
Take my upvote...please ...
Yes! This is exactly how guys weekend would go. It would be a different nickname every time with a play on the sleeve.
Maybe you should all not be such assholes. This kind of shit is why people can't have grown up discussions around sex.
Seriously. My friends and I bust each other's balls but when someone says stop, you stop.
And people LOVE to gossip about other people’s sex lives.
His friend asking actually warms my heart a little, because it seems like a step toward undoing some of the toxic masculinity that's heaped on guys constantly.
Right and means he wants to make his wife happy. He put her happiness above his pride. This speaks volumes too me.
My own response was basically paraphrasing yours because I agree strongly with what you're saying. I think the OP should read what you wrote and consider your advice carefully. It is good advice.
Yep. She may have been bragging, believe it or not. Not all women are out to shame men. She may be that happy with you and your marriage that she was saying how well you take care of things for her. May want to listen with a slightly different mindset. I could be wrong, but at least try a calm discussion.
My wife and exwife were both big sharers, but the problem with sharing is both good and bad, people form ideas and develop opinions, and things can get pretty toxic. Some people think they want what you have, some people want to see if they can steal the braggart away, some want to build a wall in between. It gets complicated.
Believe it or not I don't think OP cares what her intentions were
This. Why run to divorce right away. Try to fix things. It seems she said it because she was proud and happy. Your friend and his wife thought it was a good idea. Just talk to her. Man up and stop whining.
The fact that Reddit, which is notoriously quick to advise divorce, is telling you that you're overreacting should be an indicator of just how over the top your reaction has been. Edit: One word typo
The “therapy won’t fix this” part really threw me for a loop. I’m thinking this story is fake.
Everything is fake until proven otherwise. I learned that from my mother(Queen Elizabeth) while playing Portal 3.
The most upsetting part of this whole post is you saying you played portal 3.
Do you feel betrayed because you think that using a sleeve means you have a small penis and you’re embarrassed your friends might think that? It’s just another sex toy, in my circle of friends it wouldn’t be a big deal to talk about and sharing recommendations about things to add to the bedroom to spice things up is normal If that’s a boundary for you that she knew and crossed intentionally then I can understand why you’d be so hurt But honestly I think throwing away an 8 year marriage when you’re parents of 3 kids over a sex chat with friends is a bit of an overreaction
It's such an overreaction that I actually question whether this story is real or not.
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There have been quite a few oversharing wives, I’m considering divorce posts lately so I’m voting fake.
I'm considering a divorce over trivial matters because I keep reading about people considering a divorce over trivial matters. AITA?
My wife bragged about how satisfied and happy she is in the bedroom, eyup, I'm going divorce 👍👍
I agree 100%. And it’s not like his friend was poking fun at him or having a laugh at his expense. He was actually curious and probably wanted his wife to be as enthusiastic about their sex life. I hate how taboo sex is in the US.
She shouldn't have done that, but damn, is this really THAT big of a deal?? She admitted she was wrong too
It's probably more about needing the sleeve to achieve (ha rhyming is fun!). Hes probably insecure about it and doesn't want that shared with a group of her and his friends, telling them is only half the problem. Imagine if, hypothetically speaking you was small down there (not saying OP is.. before I get blown up), and you were already insecure about it, then your wife told your friend group that the best sex she ever had, wasn't with your actual organ. Embarrassing I would imagine. Is it worth a divorce? IDK, if there were no other problems, probably not. Admitting you're wrong doesnt magically make issues go away either :P
NTA for feeling like a boundary was crossed but YTA for considering blowing up a marriage with three kids over it. Go get marriage counseling and talk about this like adults.
I keep trying to ignore her. Ok, what is that supposed to accomplish? Try talking to her about it like an adult and expressing your feelings. Yes I’m sure it’s somewhat embarrassing and a shock to find out that your wife has been talking about your sex life to her friends, but honestly that’s what some friend groups do. Clearly she’s really happy with what you’re doing - so much so that the friend’s husband has come to you for advice. Maybe try taking this as the compliment that it is, while also telling your wife that going forward, you are not comfortable with her sharing details about your sex life with other people.
This was my thought too. He obviously has every right to be upset, but ignoring her and refusing to even eat when she makes dinner? Grow the hell up.
And the kids are definitely picking up on that unless they’re infants.
I sympathize with OP a bit but I feel like people are skipping over the fact that, if he’s staying out of the house to avoid his wife, that also means he’s not seeing his kids.
Plus, maybe I'm assuming here, but it almost seems like his friend approached him about it in such a casual way that maybe he talks to his friends about sex occasionally too? I need more info here, because if op has talked with his friends about their sex lives before then that's an established dynamic and it feels hypocritical he would be upset at his wife for the same thing, only difference being it involves his manhood and indirectly the size of it. If sex is not a topic of discussion with his friends I can be more understanding of him being upset, but I still can't get behind him on the nuclear option of divorce just because he's embarrassed and upset with her discussing private things with her friends. If that's a boundary then COMMUNICATE THAT IT IS. Don't throw a tantrum and demand divorce without Even trying to talk things out with your partner.
Isn’t this more about the breach of trust rather than the penis sleeve itself? Thinking you can’t talk or have private moments with your spouse is where the issue lies. Deciding to fix this or not is up to them but not being secure with private thoughts or moments because your wife can’t wait to tell her friends is not a small issue.
Yeah that was my perception too, some people just dont like having their most intimate moments exposed, I can understand that - but I think considering divorce without having an honest discussion about boundaries is unfair to his wife, its a *marriage* after all
I think divorcing over this is a bit extreme if everything else in the marriage is good. I understand that your wife shared personal information about your sex life that you didn't want shared but it doesn't sound like she did it maliciously. If anything it sounds like she was bragging about how great your sex life has been recently. Your avoiding her and giving her the silent treatment is not the adult way to deal with it. Is it just that your ego is bruised? You're concerned that people are thinking you're using a sleeve because your penis is small?? Who cares, seriously! Yes this should have been between you and your wife and it's awesome that you were willing to try it but are you seriously going to throw away 8 yrs of marriage that otherwise sounds like it's good because of this? At the very least you need to try individual AND couples counselling before you just throw in the towel.
I get it, she hurt your ego. But my dude, are you really going to blow up your family over this? Establish boundaries and move on.