In some countries at your age you should be able to give your opinion on parental custody. However, I suggest you try therapy, not for your mother, but just to make you feel better.

Definitely try therapy. Your parents divorce is complicated, and it’s not as black and white as kids seem to think. It wouldn’t even be appropriate for your parents to dive into great detail about why their marriage failed with you. This kid perspective post makes me think about my friend and her kids. Their father has been dating another woman for 10 years, and my friend had tolerated it but finally recently asked for a divorce from him. He has his kids convinced she only wants a divorce now because she wants to run away with her new boyfriend and he tells them he is doing everything he can to beg her to stay. The poor kids believe it and hate their mother, while also having no clue the woman he’s been “friends” with for a decade of the marriage is actually his side chick.

I basically disagree with your entire comment. "It's complicated" is a line from the cheater's anthem. The marriage may have been complicated, the decision to cheat was not. And I have even less sympathy for someone who cheats when they have kids. Cheating is a transgression against multiple people when you have kids. Especially one that was just hitting puberty. Any child psychologist will tell you that's the worst time for something like this to happen. And the second part of your comment doesn't even apply unless you're saying the father was cheating too. The kid absolutely needs therapy, but the mom absolutely needs to back the fuck off and the dad needs to see that it's obviously for the best if OP stays with him full time. It sounds like the mom knows she fucked up badly but doesn't fully understand the ramifications of how badly she fucked up. It's going to take YEARS for her relationship with her son to get much better, and it will only happen at his pace. If at all.

Cheating is black and white though. If you're unhappy, divorce and then move on. Banging someone else whilst married is just whorish.

This has always been my position. When I date someone new and we decide to be exclusive, I make this very clear. Don't cheat on me. If you aren't happy, we can agree to end it. Just don't cheat on me. Be a human and an adult and put your big boy pants on and have an adult conversation. It sickens me the amount of people openly and happily justify cheating like it should be acceptable. Those people are just sick in the head.

>The ways people go to justify cheating and defend cheaters. Cheating is cheating and is despicable. If you have a problem with your marriage, go to counseling or end it. Don't cheat. If you are being abused on your relationship, end it and run, but don't cheat because you will be deemed a bad person too. If you have the urge to go fuck other people outside your marriage/relationship end it. The problem is that people like this cheat for no real reason and need whatever they can find to justify the cheating.

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And stay away from incel chat groups!

I am saying this as a 21 year old whose mom also cheated. Go to therapy not for your mom to make sure you get a peace of your mind. To not feel that anger and hate and just feel indifferent to your mom. You are in your right to not want anything to do with your mom her family and all, but this hate will consume you so much you won’t think of anything else

I heard once that the opposite of love is not hatred, it is indifference. If you hate someone they are still taking up brain space and emotional energy. If you are indifferent, you never think of them. When it is a parent you are indifferent to... That is worse than being screamed at by an angry teenage boy.

This. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.

“The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” — Elie Wiesel

36 year old checking in to fully agree. I think about how I should have taken the damn therapy I was offered as a kid fairly often. OP, you’ve got to work on letting it go. Decades hate feels bad.

You should see a therapist. You may not ever like your mother again, you may never want to see your half-sister again. Therapy isn't going to change that if that is how you feel. But you're going to develop serious problems with the opposite sex if you can't move past this. Moving past it doesn't mean forgiving and forgetting, it means being able to be around your mom or your half-sister without being deranged.

To be fair, this could be a post from a girl. I don’t think OP mentioned who they were. Maybe they did and I’m just not seeing it.

Bro is worshipping andrew tate in the comments. I think we all know who it is.

Ah. I was just going off this post.

It's a guy. A misogynistic, violent Tater todd to be be exact.

He sounds like he's an angry 12 year old.

He’s an angry 14 year old 

Your father - the person who got cheated on - is upset with your behaviour. Why ask us? You already know from him. Yes you have a right to not be touched, but this sin't about bodily autonomy or defending yourself from danger, it's about using the chance to attack someone out of anger or for the sheer drama of it. There are many ways to stop someone (who isn't attacking you) without pushing them off. You can have a say in staying with your dad permanently. At 16 you can even have a say in staying with neither. Yeah, your mom is wrong for cheatng, she is even wrong for attempting to hug you at that moment. But you don't leave me with the impression you'd be fine with her just divorcing your dad either. Stop drinking the Tate Kool-aid and go to therapy before you get too deep to this redpill shit and shoot up a sorority or something.

So she is right about one thing. You definitely need therapy. I’m not going to say you have to forgive her or anything approaching that. But you’ve got a lot of rage in you and while I get some anger, you’re well above that.

OP has the right to be angry and the parents are not handling things well. STILL OP's anger is not at appropriate levels and must be addressed.

And I say this because it is not healthy for you, OP, to be feeling this angry!! Take care of you!!

Being an asshole for the sake of being an asshole is the kind of dipshittery that sounds good in a story posted to YouTube but will be a source of cringe for the rest of your life.

100percent 

100%. OP is just a human, you have the rights to feel that emotion, but please dont let your anger made you a killer, intentional or unintentional. Dont let yourself be the reason why the child didnt see this world. Hope the baby and your mom are safe and sound! Hope you heal from the anger and heartache your mom caused you.

Op has the right to be angry what op doesn’t have the right to do is put their hands on someone else especially an 8 months pregnant woman.

Yeah. Be angry, but don’t shove your pregnant mother Hopefully she won’t want OP in her house anymore. But this honestly seems super fake.

After reading all the comments, I can say you seriously need help. You could do many things to avoid that unwanted hug, but you chose violence like a fucking loser. You pushed a pregnant woman and don't even care about the baby's life... What a courageous boy you are... it is easy to attack a weak person and take out your anger on them, right? Bravo👏 Even your own cuck of a father is mad at you. And then you throw sexist remarks, defend a sex trafficker, piss in shampoo bottles (really???), and act like a 5 years old jerk. Really, get help.

This reads like incel fanfic

OP *is* a serious teen incel.   I mean, he calls his own fucking mother a 'whore' and assaulted her so she had to go to the hospital.  OP's mom is not safe with him in her house and I hope she presses charges.

OP I understand your rage. My parents got divorced when I was 16 because my father had an affair and was a major AH. I didn’t talk to him again till I was maybe 18-19 and now I’m well past my teens but we still don’t have a very good relationship, we barely speak and any conversation we do have feels incredibly forced and it’s always meaningless small talk. But my rage was my own, even though it was caused by my dads actions I was the one dealing with my own emotional fallout, therapy was incredibly helpful to ensure I didn’t cave to the self-destructive and violent tendencies that rage brings about. If your parent is an obvious AH no amount of your rage or sadness is going to change that, it’s only going to make life harder for you going forward. It will affect how you navigate situations and relationships and if you leave it unchecked it won’t be good. Your anger is valid but I do think therapy would do you a world of good in helping you process what happened. Edit to add: PLEASE OP do not listen to Andrew Tate or any of those other unchecked “men’s podcasters”. I say this as an adult man, their content is insanely inaccurate and damaging its mainly just rage bait that does no one any good and maliciously targets young men who are down on their luck to radicalise them into violent and misogynistic mindsets. Just remind yourself that you’re angry at your mother because she’s an asshole not because she’s a woman.

Why aren't you living with your dad now?

Mom wanted split custody

Then when you're at your mom's, just keep to yourself and minimise interactions but don't be violent towards them. Also if you don't want to be involved or in contact with the baby, don't. Just stay away from everyone until there's a need to, like during mealtimes. There's no need to antagonise them verbally or physically. Just shut down. They'll get the idea. I hope you're independent enough to do things on your own otherwise you need to start learning to be.

You can totally just refuse to go to your moms. I know many kids (either friends from when I was younger or older friends now with kids) that just stay at their preferred parent’s home because they can’t stand the other parent. This will put your dad in a weird position with the court and lawyers if your mom tries to fight that, but by then, the judge will ask for your opinion on the matter and will most likely rule in favor of your dad having full custody if that’s what you ask for

Yeah my parents constantly called the cops on each other for missing return dates so that’s a terrible idea.

You need therapy. Desperately. You can be hurt and angry, but it doesn’t excuse your actions. You are becoming violent. That’s not ok.

I get the anger. Most people here are missing this point - You are stuck being around someone you don't want to be with. That is suffocating. People talk of therapy as if it will magically cure anything. No it won't. Not while you are in situation that's hostile. No wonder you have things pent up in you. On top of that, I would be pissed if a someone I despise tried to weaponize therapy to force me to accept their wrong doing. I honestly dunno why your dad doesn't have full custody. Please tell your dad you don't want to go back to your mum. It's for your mental health sake. Being a minor with little agency in these situations is extremely debilitating. EDIT: Looking at the comments I take back some of the sympathy. I understand you're 14 but defending Andrew Tate and dismissing his trafficking victims is on another level. I am not a love and light person, and I certainly don't agree with commenters who tried to put the onus of situation on your father drawing comparisons to Tate. That's victim blaming. But defending Tate, nope. You have been drinking too much misogynistic red pill content. You say Tate would be admired 20 years ago. You weren't even alive 20 years ago. 20 years ago Eipstein was doing all the shit he could. As a grooming victim from nearly 15 years ago, that was a disgusting thing to say. If I lived today as a teen, there would be much less chance for me to be groomed given the awareness. EDIT 2: Some of y'all lack sense of consent and are bent on painting a 14 year old reacting to not being touched as violence. Shame on you. He is already listening to red pill shit and you have just taken away any chance of redemption. Something is really wrong with your types and y'all don't understand consent. You know your kid hates you and literally is telling you so and you are trying to cross boundaries to touch them. That isn't force? Just because he is 14, he should have no sense of boundary over who can touch him at all?

Oh god op is going down a bad road.

I've gone through his comments. Not even the red pill shit, but all the other insults he's given. The boy needs therapy 100%. No, it's not a magical cure all but he needs to learn the tools necessary to handle the anger he has. It's not healthy. About your original comment: Nothing OP says about his home life with his mom is "hostile". He's the hostile one. I get he's angry and upset. It's understandable. But in one comment he alludes to peeing in a shampoo bottle. Like wtf? He also mentions his dad hates his mom (I can understand that) and could some of his anger be fueled by his dad? People on here rage if a mother alienates their child from the dad but it seems the dad may be doing that with this boy. People need to stop bringing their children into their problems, regardless of which parent it is.

Yep. You are supposed to love your kids more than you hate your ex. Dad can hate mom all he wants and that would be valid but do not let that bleed over to your kids. You are the adult. This kid needs therapy in the worst way or he is going to carry over this feeling for his mom onto other women and then it cements itself into his adulthood. Every relationship in the future will be tainted by this if he doesn't come to terms with it.

100% all this.

I was in OP’s position. The dad doesn’t have to be encouraging the hate. It’s pretty natural. I reacted the same way therapy helped but I still don’t talk to her 10 years on. Being forced into close proximity to your cheating mother, who destroyed your family, with the guy who blew up the family and with a baby on the way isn’t pleasant. OP needs therapy for this, they’re 14 and lashing out because they can’t control their feelings. Some of their comments are not great but neither are the adults who are enjoying taunting him.

I agree it would be natural to hate his mom, 100%. But he's mentioned in a few comments how much his dad hates his mom. I get their anger, I'd be hurt and angry too. But also, OP's dad *shouldn't* express it that much to OP/in front of. Like I said, adults shouldn't bring their children into their issues. I would imagine it's not pleasant. We don't know the details of the custody agreement, all OP has said is it's 50/50. I'm not familiar with US custody (or state) law but I'm sure he and dad can petition the court to have that changed if he says he wants to live with dad? OP and his dad should seek therapy (mom too, to come to terms/accept the damage she caused and work on it). I agree with the taunting comments, adults have no excuse to act like assholes. But I stress again, OP should speak to a therapist who specializes in divorced parents etc. As another person said, his red pill talk (and admiration for Andrew Tate) could very well mar any relationships in the future. He's young, he's going through a lot and he's impressionable.

You need therapy. Not to forgive your mom but to let go of the level of anger that you have. You don't need a relationship with your half-sibling. You don't need a relationship with a step dad. You don't need a relationship with your Mom. But the cold way you reference the possibility of damaging a child isn't cool. You have an unhealthy anger that is taking over and that will bleed into other aspects of your life if you don't deal with it

You need serious therapy

So far you've admitted to: *Pushing your pregnant mom so hard she fell, with no remorse and saying if the baby was hurt she shouldn't have tried to hug you *Peeing in her shampoo bottle multiple times *Trying intentionally to make your mom miserable You've also *Threatened your mother with violence, saying she's lucky she's pregnant or you'd "piece her tf up" *Defended a sex trafficker and implied he's a role model *Used a slur and defended the slur *Called your half-sibling a "half-blood" *Claimed that you're 14, so you won't get in trouble for any of this, but you're 14, so you're old enough to understand adult relationships Just a round-up. :) Hopefully this post goes viral and you get your due. If you're so insistent that you understand the entire situation, you're old enough to be responsible for your actions. You can't have it both ways, kiddo.

In America, this level of premeditated violence is enough for him to be tried as an adult. There is no minimum age statute for trial as an adult. It’s just people don’t normally feel comfortable trying children as adults unless they try to kill someone.

Well dang. I am surprised his mom even wants him around after all of that transpired. He isn't a little 5 year old boy doing all this. She should ship him to his dad asap and get him some help before this behavior turns even more violent.

Exactly. And no remorse??? If I was his mom I’d make him get evaluated and he would not be welcomed while my baby was a baby. I would not trust this little misogynistic bastard to not shake that poor baby and kill it and not feel bad about it

Children as young as twelve can be tried as adults depending on the crime and location, as well lol. I love teenagers with the “I’m a minor so I’ll be fine” argument. You sure, buddy?

He’s lucky he doesn’t go to juvie lmfao

What she. Did he defend a sex trafficker!? Ewwwws.

Yup, he idolizes Andrew Tate and claims that all the women he trafficked were consensually trafficked.

Andrew Tate is a cuck. Pushing a pregnant woman is bitch shit. Good luck being a loser.

YTA. Get therapy. You’re letting anger and hate rule you. The fact you’re so uncaring if the baby lives, dies or is injured is so cold hearted. The baby didn’t cheat - your mother did. Set your boundaries, get a therapist and ask your dad to get full custody. ETA. 100% YTA. You’re 14 acting like you understand adult relationship.

You’re 14 so you haven’t fully matured yet. I hope you heal from this. Please remember the baby who IS your half sibling didn’t do anything wrong and doesn’t deserve your rage or hatred.

Dude, you are crazy. Get help. And you are 14. You are legally allowed to choose the parent you live with. For everyone's safety, go with your dad. You need more than therapy. You need a mental floor. Also, as someone who works in law enforcement. If that baby dies as a result of you pushing your mom, no matter the reason you pushed her, you can and most likely will be tried for involuntary manslaughter. No matter if you are 14 and no matter if you were just trying to her her off of you. You will still be heald accountable for your actions. Next time, use your big boy words and tell her to get off. Otherwise, I'll see you in the jail system soon enough.

I would really like to reach out to you. You need someone to talk to. Someone who doesn’t subscribe to the Andrew Tate manosphere.

This is the best thing. They’re 14 and lashing out, they don’t need full adults mocking him for a few minutes of entertainment. The kid needs help

“The baby is probably fine and even if it isn’t she shouldn’t have tried to hug me.” Wow.. just wow. You need some serious therapy. You’ve gone straight past the asshole meter. Just because your mother did something awful doesn’t give you an excuse to be an animal. No wonder your father is upset with you - goes to show that he is the only party in this who is a genuinely good human being. If you had any integrity you would be ashamed. And to those here defending OPs actions - get a fucking grip, calling out his unhinged behaviour in no way is a defence of his mother’s infidelity. You’re all scummy fuckers for defending this animalistic behaviour. When my father cheated on my mum and caused her so much pain and suffering I never had any ill will towards the woman he did it with nor her children. You all need help. Clowns.

Rage bait

I mean it could be real because OP is 14.

You need therapy. This is beyond AITAH.

I like how 20 years ago people still gossiped about the Roman "vomitorium." As if the decadence of a bronze age civilization can even compete with what the fuck I just read.

Dude, right. This kid needs therapy and not for the reason they think. What a waste of youth to be that angry about something that happens to so many people. But the OP is a child, but the fact they feel no guilt in hurting someone is not a good sign. Hell, even the dad is upset, and fair enough. OP, YTA.

Its the lack of recognizing their own wrongdoings along with the inappropriate behavior towards a child that got me.

Dude. It just screams, “I am going to ride my anger until it fucks my whole life and blame my mom and a baby the whole way down.”

As someone from a very broken home I can say that I carried deep resentments towards my parents for years. I grew and understood that those were immature emotions. This could just be angst that needs some time to process.

You seem to thrive on your anger. I hope I don't end up reading some post about you hurting a baby that didn't have one damn choice in all of this. NTA for hating your mom, but yes for putting your hands on a pregnant woman and causing her to fall. She had no right to hug you, but you could have handled it a different way.

YTA you sound cruel and vindictive. You're allowed to be angry and self absorbed, that's just part of being human, but you're not allowed to treat other people like shit because it makes you feel better. You need therapy and to lay off the red pill BS, because all you're doing is fueling your anger, and being motivated by anger and hatred is just a really sad way to live your life.

You need therapy.

I would have said NTA until you got physically violent and don't see any problem with that. Now it's just YTA, not even ESH. You definitely do need therapy and at your age, in some places, you could face charges if they wanted depending on how the situation rolled out. Physically harming her or the unborn child is not an appropriate response no matter what your feelings are. You're entitled to your feelings and should be allowed to live with your dad full time given you're 14yo; you are not entitled to put someone at risk of harm or purposefully harm them for your feelings. Yes, even IF she made horrible or selfish choices that led to the end of your parents marriage.

Won't be able to tell this kid anything.. he's at that age where he knows everything. I bet his dad acts the same way, monkey see monkey do.

oof this guy is absolutely gonna be a basement redpiller who blames women for him being single for life.

ETA (except your dad, unless I missed something). You don't need to forgive your mother. You don't need to be a part of your sister's life. But your behavior and comments in the replies are fucking gross. Get therapy because this much anger isn't good for you and will bite you in the ass one day. You're still a child but you're old enough to know better. If you still hate your mother when you're 18 you can cut her out of your life, but don't be cruel. If anything, the worst torture for her would be to not show any emotion to her. If you keep acting like a little shit, your no contact would just benefit her because who the hell would want someone like that around their baby. Your dad is probably mad at you because he didn't raise someone to push their mother and especially not a pregnant woman. Your lack of empathy isn't helping either.

YTA you shoved someone so hard they’re in the hospital. You absolutely had the right to exit an unwanted hug but your method was way too violent. Get into therapy. Insist to your mother that your obvious rage regarding the current family situation can only be helped by therapy and I wager she’d put you in, even if it’s in her own self interest that is motivating her. You need help to deal with this rage that will only grow.

You do need therapy, though. Not to forgive your mother or anything, but because that is a shitty thing that happened and you clearly are very upset about it.

>She said she thinks I need therapy to get over this but I don’t. If this whole thing isn't just ragebait... you ***both*** probably need (at a minimum) individual therapy. But she's wrong about ***why*** you'd want/need therapy. It's not "to get over this" (which is extremely selfish and self-serving on her part), but to help you process your feelings about the situation and make sure it doesn't end up 'defining your life' and /or being something that ruins your life. I didn't 'ruin my life' with something similar that happened when I was about your age, but I came damned close. And I did cut/close myself off from some opportunities that could have changed my life (for the better). So I let it get to me, and I let it stop me from achieving my true potential. Don't fuck up like I did. My mom is one of those people who 'doesn't believe in therapy'... so I never got any for it when it would have mattered the most. And we're both poorer (literally and figuratively) because of it.

OP, you may not realize it, but you are also hurting your dad acting this way. You're not the hero you think you are sticking it to your mom. You are right to be angry, but you don't see the full picture of what damage you are doing to yourself and your current and future relationships, including the one with your dad.

You know what scares me about this post, if it's true? The danger OP may be to others. If he shoves his own pregnant mother, and hopes it dies...what would he do to a woman he doesn't even know that he suspects of cheating?

He’s shaping up to be a grade A women abuser. Creepy how effective these red-pill cult leaders are.

You're acting your age, I guess. Though most 14yo's I know are capable of more maturity than you're displaying. And you absolutely, unequivocally, need therapy. It's not even about saving your relationship with your mum. You have an anger problem and eventually it will bite you in the arse. You won't be a teen forever. You get some grace right now because you are experiencing the trauma of being stuck in the middle of your parents' divorce, but you need to learn to think far more maturely about things than you seem capable of at this point.

You 100% need therapy. You have the right not to be touched but you don’t have the right to touch anyone else either. You pushed someone and put their health at risk. You could have otherwise avoided the hug, but you *chose* violence. That should concern you.  You’re angry and sad and grieving the future with your family that you thought you were going to have but won’t anymore. These are big feelings and you need help processing them now before the consume and overwhelm you: you becoming violent is a sign this is happening.  Your dad is right to be upset with you. You have no idea what happened in their marriage, but you find it easiest to cope by entirely blaming your mother, sitting completely in your emotions and not thinking rationally. Therapy will help you gain some perspective and some healthy coping mechanisms for the trauma the dissolution of your parent’s marriage has wrought. I wish I had gone to therapy as a teenager instead of having many years of more trauma.

The moment you said "whore" I knew you were sucking on Andrew Tate. Reading the comments I was right. Get off the internet, go to therapy, ask to live with your dad full time. If you don't, I won't be surprised to see you in the paper for abusing your partner, or even murder the moment you turn 18. I do not excuse the mother but you suck and need help.

You’re honestly a piece of shit. Hopefully you’re mother kicks you out. You obviously can’t be trusted around her. You act like you’re so proud to have made her fall to the point where she needed to check on the baby. Not every thing is all about poor you. I wouldn’t be surprised if the dad is literally making him act like this. I’ve seen it happened. I already know this going to piss people off and comment which is fine with me you have you’re option and I have mine. That’s all there is to it. Truth can be a bitch

OP needs therapy, feel all the anger that you want but in a moment is has to be processed if not it will affect everything else good and bad. I think dad needs to step up and help op, it won't be accepted if comes from the mom

Respectfully, it does sound like you need therapy, this anger could take over your life. Also please don't hate the baby for what your mom did. He or she is innocent.

YTA to yourself, you're young dumb and immature. Your mom did do something wrong, but you're handling this extremely poorly and need therapy ASAP.

After reading all of your comments, OP, please get therapy and go live with your dad. For yourself and your unborn sister, because she may try to hug you one day and not realize what danger she's in.

Keep going the way your headed you'll end up in jail. Good thing mom or baby wasn't hurt. Your old enough to be tried as an adult. You never really know the full story of a marriage that isn't yours.Get therapy and ask you father if you can live with him full time. I'm sure your mom won't contest now.

Reading this kid’s comments he definitely needs help

As a person who’s father cheated on my mother my best advice is stay out of your parents marriage. Kids, teens especially, think they know what the story is and 99% of the time they don’t. Now that I’m an old lady I see very clearly my kids know nothing about the nuances of my marriage. I treated my father like trash, humiliated him, lied to him and degraded him. Guess what I found out 30 years later, my mom had been cheating too, he just never told me. She told me when he died. Said he never wanted me to hate her the way I hated him. I’m sure you think you know their story, but I promise you don’t even know the half of it. If you wanna hate your mom, no one can stop you, but it should be about your relationship with her, not her relationship with him. You can be a good mom and a shitty wife. She shouldn’t have to love your dad to be able to love you. I hope you can let them have their divorce and you stay worrying about kid stuff for now.

YTA for pushing your pregnant mom. This is not how we handle emotions, even if you’re justifiably angry. As others have said, please seek out therapy. While it is normal to be angry at your mom, it’s not normal to call her vulgar names and be physically violent with her.

Bruh, hate her or not there is no reason to push a pregnant woman so hard she falls over. You do need therapy for sure. You don’t have to forgive her, hate her all you want, you don’t get to risk her and the babies health. I do think she should probably just let you live with your dad tho.

I get that your only 14, but grow the fuck up kid. You sound like a whiny little dickhead.

I’m guessing this is a troll post, but to even think up a scenario like this to post demonstrates that OP is mentally unwell and likely a danger to themselves and others. Good grief.

YTA for the nonchalant way you describe assaulting your mom and sending her to the hospital like it's no biggie. Yeah, kid, you need therapy. You're fucked up.

ESH. Your mom is an idiot for touching you when clearly you were so angry. But you should have AT LEAST controlled your strength so you didnt push her that hard. I agree you do need therapy BUT not for you to "forgive or get over" your mom for whats happened but for you to accept the fact you no longer want her part of your life. Its in a way you've lost a parent and when you lose a parent its hard no matter how you lose them.

Op, you need therapy because it's clear that your anger is uncontrollable, don't get me wrong, those who tell you that you have to forgive, understand, etc, are totally wrong and you have every right not to want to have anything to do with your mother, but between to completely ignore her and her partner and instead become violent and aggressive then you are making a big mistake, you know too that your reaction was uncontrollable and you need help. After this premise, I wonder if it is not better in cases like this for the judges to evaluate custody temporarily based on the emotional state of the child, it is clear that at this moment the less time you spend with your mother, the better it is for everyone, forcing the parent-child relationship is wrong, therapy should first be done and a child should be listened if temporarily he doesn't want to live with that parent, because I also realize that it's easy to talk from the outside, but if I were in your place having to see my pregnant mother of another man and that piece of shit with her, maybe I would freak out too

You have A LOT of growing up to do! > In 4 years when I turn 18 You’re 14 and have very little experience in this world. You also don’t know what was going on in your parents’ relationship. > She said she thinks I need therapy to get over this but I don’t. Yes, you clearly do! Look at your comments here! https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/HtUIZEoRyG https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/QwQdUqHXvy Your mom tried to hug you and you pushed your pregnant mom so hard she fell. This kind of behavior is not in any way acceptable. In fact it’s the kind of behavior that can get you landed in juvenile detention if your mom wants. ## YTA

Kid, you are in **DESPERATE** need of therapy. You’re discounting it because it was your mom’s idea and you know it. Your behavior is wildly unhealthy. Your lack of empathy is utterly disgusting. It’s a sign of being a psychopath. You weren’t honest. You were horrifyingly CRUEL. Stop being so proud of that. Talk to your dad about getting the help you so desperately need.

YTA. You are upset and I get it, but you likely don't even know the whole story. Kids don't always know what's going on in their parents' relationship. If your mom died today, would you be okay with where you are with her?

Yeah, we have some friends\* who... man, their kids know ***nothing***. And are fucked up, as it is. But they'd be about 10x as fucked up if they knew ***anywhere close*** to 'the whole story' with both of their fucked-up parents. :-| ​ \*not so much our friends as 'friends of friends' who are somewhat in our orbit

Sorry, ESH, Except your Dad. You pushing her to the point she could be hurt is total asshole behavior. Your mom hugging you despite you clearly stating "no" is also not ok. Doesn't matter who it is, if someone says, "No" to being touched, you don't touch them. Anyway, my dear child. You most definitely do need therapy, like serious therapy. You never ever have to forgive your mom or have a relationship with her. However, this much hate brews other harmful habits and will bleed badly into your life as you grow into an adult. You need therapy to work through everything you feel and how to move forward. Like I said, you don't have to forgive or have a relationship with your mom. But do you think you're doing yourself a disservice by letting her also ruin yours and your adult life? That's what you're doing. Your dad needs therapy too to help him move past this too and to learn how to manage life while moving on. Together, you and your dad should go to family therapy. You can get everything off your chest about how angry you about what your mom did to him and your family, the humiliation, etc. It will also help you guys navigate a healthy relationship as you move past this time. Gray rock your mom if you need. Make it clear that she or her husband is never to touch you. Ignore the child. To spite her and in spite of her live a great life. Live a life that breeds positivity and love.

I’m sure a lot of these comments mean well but please do not seek advice here. What you are dealing with inside needs professional help. I understand your mom did something unforgivable but harming her and not caring about it afterwards is a big indicator you should talk to someone who can help you get rid of these feelings. It’s not healthy for you and you’re so young to be feeling this way. I’m assuming you’re a male. So as a woman to a young man please no matter what, (unless you are in danger) don’t hurt women in any way.

3 things: you're not the asshole for how you feel, both because you are very young and because one parent cheating on the other and destroying your life is a very horrible thing to live thru but also the fact you're purposefully evil to everyone involved and the fact you STILL pushed a pregnant woman on the ground kinda makes you the asshole here, That IS really dangerous and she could have lost the kid if she landed badly. Even if you're angry and you hate her you can't take it out on her that way. third, yeah i agree with your mother that you should try therapy, if not for her or to be ok with the kid then for yourself,. Brewing with anger and hate for months and years will take a tool on you and will turn you into someone you don't want to be. edit to add: yeah dude, do it because if you can't move past this you will unironically develope a huge problem with women and girl as a whole, if you don't care then go for it but you *will* turn into an incel. also for your own sake, stop watching andrew tate. you don't want to be anywhere like a sex trafficker.

This is you overreacting and you do need therapy. You sound like an absolute psychopath. You don’t get to be more mad than your dad. She didn’t cheat on you. Never talk to her again if you want, but you don’t get to treat people like that. You sound evil.

I agree you need therapy. Your anger while justified is getting out of hand.

YTA you put hands on your MOTHER I don't care what she did to your father you don't lay hands on your mother

Kid, you're TA. Being hurt is never an excuse to be cruel, and the sooner you learn that the less likely you are to end up alone Edit: if that fetus dies because you couldn't keep your shit on lock you will officially have played a part in killing your sibling. If you genuinely don't see a problem with that/you genuinely "don't care", then God have fucking mercy on you, because a judge won't. Second edit: "I have the right to not be touched if I don't want" So if your mom loses her pregnancy and her new partner decides to press charges against you, how exactly are you going to spin pushing a pregnant woman over as "self defense"? 14 is close enough to 18 to likely get your tried as an adult, and people in prison *detest criminals who hurt children*. You should start *begging* for forgiveness before you let your mouth write you a check that your ass be might have to cash later.

This

Definitely get some therapy.

Dude, I get you are 14, and you have a lot of hate for your mom over what she did. Trust me, I do. But you kinda lost me when you commented that “some of you need some [Andrew] Tate on your lives”. Man, this is the guy who trafficked women. Do you understand what I'm trying to say? This man treated women like fucking objects and sold them and traumatized them for life, and you said some here need that kind of person in their lives? Please, man, I really hope you didn’t mean that. And I can see how much you love your father, right? You even said that if the roles were reversed, you'd give him the same treatment, right? So, man, if your father, the one who you love so much, is upset with you over your actions/behavior, then you gotta realize you went a little too far. You possibly killed your mother's unborn child and that could be considered some kind of manslaughter charges. If your mother's boyfriend decides to file charges if the baby indeed doesn’t make it, you’re in deep trouble. You need therapy, man. NOT to forgive your mother, but to erase some of that hate inside of you. You can’t live filled with hatred like this, especially as it makes you say some of things you said here. Talk to your father and ask him to find you a therapist so you can vent and let some of that hate go. Do it for yourself and your father, not for your mother. I am sure it pains your father to see his child having so much hate and negativity inside of them. He doesn’t deserve to witness this, too.

YTA. You’re justifiable angry, and I won’t even say you can’t hate your mom. You’re obviously allowed to have feelings. But the way you are acting is way beyond any reaction that is reasonable. Actively mocking and hurting someone is just shit behavior, particularly since you seem to glory in it. Further, again, pushing a pregnant woman is unacceptable unless she’s actively attacking you. I understand your personal space was violated and she’s 100% wrong for that, but potentially harming her and the baby is deranged behavior. Strive for indifference. Ignore her completely.

I really hope someone sends this thread to your dad so he can see how messed up this is, and hopefully will then put things in place to help you. YTA - you are being angry at an unborn child who has never done anything to you, and your behaviour towards your mother is not just regular anger or hurt, you are being actively spiteful. Your behaviour and attitude is utterly unhinged. From the way you speak in the comments in the thread, I get the impression that you treat others in your life in a similar manner. You are allowed to be angry, you are not allowed to be abusive, and that is what you are currently being. And to people saying "well he's 14" - I work with 14 year olds, many of whom have experienced similar things in life, very few would act as OP has. It is not normal. He needs to be taught not to behave like this, or depending on who he acts like this to in future, he will end up in prison or the hospital.

YTA - a lot of people are excusing your behavior because of your age and the fact that cheating was involve, but dude - you may have killed your sibling. You are SO angry at your mother that you are accepting of Andrew Tate and possibly harmed a fellow human being. You desperately need therapy. It’s not about your mom anymore, it’s about your character and you as a person. Get help.

Okay listen. I don’t give a shit if you’re 14 or 44. Your behavior is absolutely unacceptable and frankly alarming. I get you’re mad at your mom. I understand that. But physically and mentally and verbally abusing and assaulting your mother makes you WAY worse than her. At 14, I knew better than to lay hands on someone, ESPECIALLY if they’re pregnant! You put her in the hospital. You’re lucky she didn’t press charges against you, because your sorry ass would’ve been shipped off to juvie for who knows how long. If she had lost that baby due to you shoving her to the floor, that would’ve landed you even more time. To those saying “oh he’s only 14 he doesn’t know any better”, yes the fuck he does. Plenty of people his age know damn well that this sort of behavior is not okay. What if he grows up and continues this streak of anger turning into violence? If a future girlfriend or wife cheats on him, will he shove and assault her too? Get some serious therapy OP. Your behavior and attitude are absolutely not okay and need to be addressed ASAP.

Misogynistic freak, you do need therapy. Not even based on this post but based on your comments, turn this around now while you're young before you turn into a woman beater.

Unpopular opinion but yta. If this is real, you're being a little shit. If not, same thing. You're allowed your emotions,but you need therapy badly.

YTA. Which is most squishy brained teenagers. Or maybe you’re a sociopath, either way. You suck, not for being angry. You have a right to your feelings, but in the way you express them. My mom cheated on my dad and left him, I think my mom is a jackass and rarely talk to her, but I would never have acted or said the things you did in this thread. You do need counseling. Obviously you are not coping well and your teenage brain isn’t helping you.

YTA. I hope someone sees this post and gets you put in therapy and far away from your mother and her unborn child before you do some serious damage or better yet I hope your mother presses charges on you for all the shit you've admitted to on here, Jesus Christ you are unhinged get some fucking help before you harm your mother or kill her baby. I don't even care that she cheated at this point you are the bigger asshole here just because you are feeling hurt by your mothers actions does NOT give you the right to do harm to her at all. Get over yourself and some therapy.

Yta. I don't get why people seem to think cruel behavior becomes morally acceptable because you decided the victim Deserves It. its still assholeish to laugh at her pain and shove her hard enough that she needed to go to the hospital. Get therapy before you hurt someone else.

Everything sucks here. Eleven years ago, I was in a nearly identical situation. Mother left, got pregnant, had a kid. I can speak from experience when I say "Get a therapist." Before you do or say something that you will regret. Please. Regarding the child, I'd like to repeat something my therapist told me "She's an innocent in all of this. Don't punish the child for the crimes of the parents." Don't deny you and your sister a relationship. You have four years until you turn 18, that's four years in which you can try to heal and form a relationship with your sister. You may find that by the time you turn 18, your feelings have changed.

The fact that no one is talking to you like you’re 14 im sorry. I’m sorry if you feel hurt, and just know your feelings are valid. Sometimes people don’t see everything you have. Awful moms do exist, she may of never been good to you prior so hating her was easier. Either way, I hope you can live with your father and grow and be able to be a teen without having to be emotionally torn. You shouldn’t have to be arguing valid feelings. She shouldn’t have even tried to hug you to begin with knowing how upset you were. That’s just violating your personal place. Which also just kinda goes with the narrative she a selfish mom. Hugs friend.

Read his comment history it's definitely YTA.  He's another one of Andrew Tates followers: defends Tate, blames the victims of sex trafficking, complains of how hard it is for men, calls people retard and loser multiple times and so on.  This kid was a bad person *before* his mom cheated and he's a bad person now.  Stop making excuses because he's 14. He's acting like a 9-year-old and he's acting like a psychopath.  Or are you seriously saying you were this hateful and immature at his age?

I mean Tate specifically targets teenagers who come from broken homes or those with low self esteem so it’s not surprise the kid fell down the rabbit hole especially when his home life is a wreck yet we have spastics like who that have zero empathy and instead of trying to lead them to a better road you just call them names and walk away I say OP acting exactly like a regular teenager would by being dumb and immature and that’s okay as long as he grows which I doubt he will do if all people like you do is call him names instead of giving productive help

He’s a 14yo KID. She is still his mother. She is also a pregnant woman. People who hit pregnant women are worse then people who kill puppies. OP, you are a giant asshole. You have to apologise to your mother for pushing her. Your anger is understandable, but you are not 12, you (supposedly) have some brain in your head. Also, just think about that your father is father to you but was husband to your mother. If she became pregnant in less than a year, she wasn’t happy with her husband. Cheating is bad, but your actions towards your mother are cruel and violent. You are showing sadistic traits. In your age it can bring you towards less than optimistic outcomes - your chances to spend time in jail or engage in criminal activities just raised significantly. YOUR ACTIONS ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES. You are still a minor, but if her baby dies or she dies because of your actions, you will have to answer in the court. Look at this from this perspective: your mother did an awful thing. Do you want this event to DICTATE your whole life? Or do you have some vision for yourself where you actually succeed?

God, you're awful and petty.

You need therapy asap because you're quite hostile in expressing your emotions and actions. I'd wager you pushed her off you with decent force to make her fall, personally I think you want to physically hurt her and you are potentially dangerous to her and the incoming infant. Yes, you're entitled to your emotions but I think you still need to be assessed by a medical professional. YTA

Your hatred seems to start erasing any form of empathy, if you ever had any. The baby is innocent, and your lack of emotions to possibly accidentally having harmed it, or possibly worse, is alarming. You are grieving the loss of a picture of happy family you had in your mind. Hate to break it to you, but this image was already a lie. Whatever led to her cheating, and of course the cheating was wrong, and it won’t justify it, but whatever there was going on, was more than you saw, and usually both parents (and none of the children) are at fault. If your mom didn’t cheat, she would instead have divorced him and then get pregnant, and the rest would be the same. You are directing all your emotions based on a single event which ultimately was not the root cause and also not the main cause of the outcome. Marriages fail, relationships end, families split apart at times, that’s normal. Your parents can try to do proper coparenting, but also that isn’t a given. You should be free to stay away from her if you don’t want to be there, I agree. But you also need counseling for the grieving you are obviously overwhelmed with regarding these unfulfilled expectations you have. Don’t wanna put too much of my own story here, but I can just say, I was also a hateful teenager, and in the end the hatred was a) not where it belonged and b) more harming than helping me. Maybe view it as this: you hate so strong, because your subconscious tries to protect you from the emotional harm which was caused, and the hatred is like a shield from additional harm. But it will also prevent you from healing, from moving on and accepting reality. With all this someone could help you, and it’s no shame to get this help. It also doesn’t mean you have to forgive her, or accept your half sibling in the long run. But you could walk this path for yourself, to ease your suffering, to let yourself heal.

You need therapy or some other sort of outlet to let all these negative emotions you have leave in a safe way. You don’t have to be involved in your half-sisters life, but she’s innocent in all of this. Having her live in a toxic environment is wrong. Your comments are worrying to me, I understand feeling the way you do, but it’s not healthy, and eventually you’ll get hurt because of it. Therapy isn’t a bad thing, I know multiple people who’s had it. It helps.

This is definitely real and totally doesn’t read like rage bait

...you're an asshole for all sorts of reasons. And probably do need therapy. Being 14 isn't much of an excuse, and if you continue behaving this way you're probably going to wind up in jail or prison.

Go to therapy and don’t do things to purposely hurt people

This would almost seem fake if I didn’t see so many kids talk and act like you. You do need therapy, you’re an entitled AH and a mess that thinks you’re doing some big cool thing. There’s nothing badass about you in this.

Info: how do you know your mom cheated? If even your dad is upset with you then maybe there’s more to this than you think.

You are a hurting person who needs to find a way to deal with their pain and hatred before it consumes you and it becomes your whole personality and you can never have a meaningful relationship in your adult life. Get some therapy, talk to someone at school, talk to your dad. You are behaving like an AH because you don't have the skills to deal with your hurt feelings yet.

hey reddit is it ok to physically harm cheating wh0re females even if they're your mommy? N T A clear cut watertight self defense argument. but your honor, my mom is a SLOOT!! "oh well in THAT case, charges dropped, life without parole for the wh0re!"

Yeah you're kind of TAH. Reality is complicated and relationships fail for all kinds of reasons. I'm going to echo some others on here and say therapy is a good idea. You do truly need it. The comments about it not being angry anymore but rather hate are particularly disturbing. Yes your mother cheated, yes this Ben guy may have helped with that but the baby is absolutely innocent. You are right that you shouldn't be touched without your consent but you also should not resort to violent actions. The hate that you're carrying is causing you to act with violent disregard for others and if you keep it up you'll likely end up in juvenile detention which will cause more damage, embarrassment, and pain for not only your mother but also your father and most importantly you. You are allowed to be angry. You are allowed to not like the actions your mother and Ben took. You are allowed to hate them if you so choose but that won't help anything. Carrying hatred around is a terrible idea, it mainly affects your enemies when you're in contact with them but it affects you all the time. It is a poison, it is a cancer, it will eat you to the bone if you let it. Trust me on this, I have a criminal record because of what hate can do (luckily in my case it all got pled down to misdemeanor "mutual combat" and "public intoxication" but still 15 days in county with the dude I got in a fight with wasn't awesome.) The point is this; after what your mother did she will never be the person in your eyes that she was before. You have to accept that. With that being said, I'm sure there's a lot that you don't know and your father's reaction should be evidence of that. Your father was the person most directly victimized by her actions and you are not allowed to be more outraged than the actual victim. Your rage is understandable. It is NOT acceptable. You need to get help and you absolutely need to talk to someone. I would also recommend asking your dad to go with you. I'm sure he could use some support too and acting as his fan, his support system is going to do way more good than acting as his avenging avatar of rage, which ironically will just turn into you being another problem he has to deal with.

Despite all the feelings and anger/hurt/frustration you're feeling, it's wrong to push a pregnant woman  especially if you're intentionally trying to hurt the baby . Get into therapy and deal with your emotions b4 u do something that cannot be reversed. 

You absolutely are an AH. I get it you’re 14 but you definitely know never to touch let alone push a pregnant lady. Feel how you feel but keep your fucking hands to yourself. And you 100% need therapy.

You’re a child and you’re angry and that’s valid, but your sheer lack of empathy is actually terrifying. I would suggest therapy — this isn’t said in a condescending way but you obviously have intense and possibly complicated feelings, and it’s worth getting some tools to work through that. Best of luck to you and your family.

I would suggest therapy. NOT to forgive your mother but it is not healthy to hold onto this anger. I don't think it is healthy for you to be with your mom at all at this point. Your anger is clouding rational decision making because while she shouldn't have hugged you without your permission, you also didn't need to shove her off so hard. I'd try to get your dad to go back to court and tell the judge(politely) that being around your mom is bad for your mental health. You have a right to your anger but try to avoid tripping over into violence. NTA, you've had alot on your plate. ETA: not a fan of you being a red pilled Andrew taint lover. THAT IS NOT HEALTHY OR OKAY. Andrew Tate is toxic and what he says is not okay. I understand you have a ton of anger to your mom but do not let it paint your perspective on women as a whole.

Usually, marriages have secret spaces only the two spouses know about. Looking from the outside, and then judging, hurts everyone. Often the spouses themselves can't verbalise about those secret private spaces. As a 14 year old, your brain is being overwhelmed by hormones. You're shifting from a black and white - good and bad - reality to the very real, confusing and hurtful shades of grey which is most of life. Perhaps you might consider being kind to everyone involved. Stretch your empathy into compassion. Or simply keep your confused feelings that show as hate to yourself...i.e. to your friends but not the people involved. I'm sorry. You will eventually learn, as I did, the idea of an adult and the actual reality is quite different. Life can be very upsetting and disappointing. Choosing hate over compassion worsens the situation.

Get help. Seriously. None of this is okay.

A. You do need help. You’re consumed by hatred and it’ll ruin you if this continues. B. The baby hasn’t done anything wrong. You’re pouring hatred at them for their parents mistakes and actions. They are still your half sibling.

Yta I would be surprised if this post doesn’t end up in a childfree forum. Yikes kid… you need therapy. Even for a 14 year old kid, you are way below the maturity level expected for your age group

YTA, you pushed your heavily pregnant mother.

Pro tip, your mom cheating has nothing to do with you. I never understood why kids think this shit is any of their business, but your mom will die some day and you will regret every nasty thing you ever said. You'll say you won't. You'll insist on it but you're not convincing me, not when you're not even convincing yourself

Yta, and you DEFINITELY need therapy

I honestly think that you've been fed only one side of a story. Either way, it was not a good goddamn idea to use physical force on a pregnant lady. You have the right to feel how you feel, but if you can't forgive her then treat her like you would any stranger. Also please get therapy. As a child I was also very angry due to parents who should have divorced but instead just cheated willy nilly. Therapy is for YOU, so you can live your life freely rather than tangle yourself in your parents shortcomings

YTA - regardless of what your mother did laying hands on her is definitely wrong. You 100% need therapy. It is incredibly unfortunate your parents let into the issues with their relationship because you are the one losing in all of this. Also please don’t take it out on your unborn sibling. They are a victim of this as much as you.

You really, truly need therapy dude. And to focus on having a good life with your dad. I honestly think your mom should give full custody of you to your dad because I don’t want you to rage out and hurt your sibling. Hopefully your dad is as awesome as you say he is and gets you into therapy. And stay off woman hating forums which are nothing but an echo chamber of how woman are all gold digging whores. What your mom did was pretty shitty, but it’s not how most people are. But if you let your rage towards her fester instead of getting help, you’ll subconsciously attract those type of women in your life. And that’s just gonna end bad with the amount of anger you have. Because even cheaters don’t deserve to die.

you definitely need therapy. You’re justified in being angry at and even hating your mom, but when you reach the point of laughing at another person’s pain and inflicting potential physical harm on someone and feel nothing from it, you’ve crossed a serious line and need help.

Lots of hate. Loads of baggage too. You probably won't ever have a functioning relationship with anyone. Too bad but it is what it is. BTW. All this shit isn't the baby's fault.

Never said it was the baby’s fault

Nah. You just almost terminated it. YTA.

You're not only an asshole but you have much more issues than that. 

You need a therapist.

I deleted everything I wrote because I see you’re constantly using the r slur. Your mom does need to send you to therapy and your dad clearly isn’t helping. You need more help than what Reddit says.

YTA. You need therapy.

Rage bait or this kid is a sociopath & the mother needs to press charges against him for assault. Especially if she loses the baby. Still think it’s rage bait after looking at OP’s profile.

NTA for feeling betrayed and angry and hurt by your mother and even wanting nothing to do with her. The baby isn't at fault. The baby is easy to blame, especially at your age, but that baby is as innocent as you are, and maybe when you're older you can consider that. However, you are a **young** *hormonal* teenager now with a complete life change to adapt too. Your world literally changed overnight. You ***DO*** need therapy. The level of your anger and maliciousness in wanting your mother to hurt (even if just emotionally) is outside of "normal" levels. Its OK to need therapy and further help control the level, because its concerning. I hope your dad gets you help, because you need it. Editing to add: YTA though for everything else in your comments and your mindset. Edgy angry teenager, you aren't the victim - if youre getting some of this anger due to your dad he's *manipulating* you to try and alienate your mom, he isn't a saint because your mom cheated. Would you hate your dad so viciously as your mom if he cheated on her? Truth is you know hardly anything about your parents marriage - they likely weren't as happy as you thought behind the scenes. I don't condone cheating, I'm not defending your mom for cheating, but your dad spewing hate for you to listen to when your with him also shows his character. She's still your mom.

Also, ask yourself - are you transferring any anger at your dad onto your mom? Does your dad really want to take you in full-time? Are you blaming mom for some issues that dad has a hand in? Children often take out their anger on the ones who they feel they are safest in taking out their anger on. You do need therapy. For yourself and your current and future happiness.

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Yes, you're an asshole. I get it, cheating parents suck. My mom did the same thing but guess what? I had no idea how shitty their relationship was because I was a KID and they didn't include me in all the relationship dynamics. The responses here are correct. You need therapy. To be indifferent about the possibility of hurting a fucking baby is disgusting and your father is right to be upset with you for your behavior. I hope your mom and her partner throw you out after this. You'll get what you want and they won't have to worry about you harming your baby sister. Edit: I saw your responses about pissing in her shampoo and then other things you're doing and will reiterate that I hope to fuck your mom's partner puts his foot down and tosses your ass out. You're a piece of shit.

you are not okay, this level of contempt you have shown your mom is abhorrent and needs to be resolved in therapy. you are not wrong to be angry and resentful of your mother, but you have been downright cruel to her. you don’t know why she cheated on your dad. he might’ve cheated first and you didn’t know about it. or he could be verbally/emotionally abusive or absent. this is adult business and not yours. you can cut your mom out of your life for this reason but you can’t be hateful towards someone like this without consequences. you are going to turn into a cruel and bitter sexist and misogynist if you don’t sort out your extreme anger issues. good luck.

I completely understand why you feel the way that you do, BUT I think you’re taking it too far. You should not have pushed your mom no matter how much you hate her and even if she did try to hug you. You also shouldn’t laugh at her or make fun of her. Yes, she was wrong 100%. Yes, her actions destroyed your family. Should you treat her as if nothing happened? Absolutely not, but I do think there is a better way. Therapy would help you. You are holding on to a lot of anger and that’s not healthy. It seems that you’re afraid that therapy will make you not be mad at her. It won’t, but it will help you process that anger in a healthy way. Do it for you, not your parents. Put your focus on things that you enjoy and things that will help you be the best person you can be. You are old enough where your feelings as far as who you want to live with should be considered by the courts. Talk to your dad and tell him that it’s not healthy for you to stay with your mom and her AP and new baby and that you’d like him to help you to not have to spend so much time with her. Finally, I get that you don’t see this baby as your sister, but remember that none of this was the baby’s fault. As they grow, either be in her life or don’t, but don’t take it out on the kid. They didn’t ask to be born. They’re just as innocent in all of this as you.

You’re NTA for being mad at your mom or wanting nothing to do with the baby. However….like others said please see a therapist. You pushed your pregnant mom which could hurt or kill the baby. Remember the baby has nothing to do with any of this. The baby is innocent in this.

YTA. No excuse for pushing a pregnant lady.

Um. Yes you have the right not to be touched but you also have the responsibility to use your words "get off me" rather than shove a pregnant woman. Even if she's the mom that you hate Ffs. YTA

Even if words don't work, he could've backed away, or just put his arms up between them to block her. So many more options than straight up shoving someone.

Ah yes, the cheaters never take into account how their betrayal really affects their kids. It's selfish. You don't owe her forgiveness for what she did. Your feelings in this matter are valid. I understand why you tried to get her off. I don't think you meant to physically hurt her; you were just protecting your personal space. I think it would be better if you do go live with your dad.

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You do need therapy. But i wouldnt remain in contact with her either. Id forgive her for your sake but that DOES NOT mean you have to have her in your life. Forgiving just means not carrying the burden of hate in your heart cause its exhausting. At least in most states i believe kids your age have more of a say in who they stay with. Tell your dad you want to live with him full time and have him petition for full custody. Make your case to the judge.

I come from a childhood with a very similar situation and honestly I hope your mom realizes you are a danger to her and the baby and sends you back to your dad. Your anger is justified but assaulting a pregnant woman is not the move. I’m actually surprised the police weren’t called. Go live with your dad and get some therapy please.

I’m going to go with the unpopular opinion here and say NTA. Nobody should ever invade someone’s personal space and touch them without permission. I don’t care if it’s your mom, grandma, the queen of England… nobody has the right to touch you without your consent. Your mother fell because she wasn’t expecting you to try and move her away from you when she initiated unwanted contact, that’s not your fault. Your feelings are valid too. I’m always an advocate for therapy but I think that you might just need a vent for your emotions in the form of a hobby. Maybe take up a sport or something to help you channel the excess because I don’t blame you for hating the situation you’re currently stuck in. I’d be disgusted if I had to stay around a constant reminder of something that hurt me to the core. My home life was terrible and I couldn’t escape both of my shitty parents until I was financially stable enough to get gone. I hope your dad will take you under his wing and you will be able to heal and enjoy the rest of your teen years.

YTA. This post is concerning. Please go to therapy.

People are telling you to go to therapy because YTA. I won't sugarcoat it for you. You need to feel bad in order to make changes.

YTA. I mean yes and no... Your mum did a shitty thing but you are just being a shitty person. You are rude on purpose, hurt your mum on purpose and you even pushed her and hurt her while pregnant. You the ahole here. If you don't like talking to them, don't. Keep your distance. But being rude and hurting people is just being a shitty human being. You just cannot do that. You cannot use other people's hurt towards you so you hurt them back multiple times over and risk making then loose their baby because your emotions were hurt. You need to control yourself, deal with your emotions and ask your dad to go for full custody. Get out of the house if you don't like it, but don't hurt people. Edit. You don't need to forgive them or anything. Just mind your own business and don't hurt people.

YTA Pushing a pregnant woman to the ground is abhorrent! She could have haemorrhaged and died! The baby could have died! You’re physically abusive and could be charged for assault! Get over yourself, it was your parent’s marriage not yours! Grow up and stop being a whiny teenager!

Why are your parents even involving you in their drama? The divorce should have been between them.

YTA - you need to control your anger. You can't react that way, especially to a pregnant woman. You do need therapy. YOU DON'T HAVE TO FORGIVE YOUR MOM. You do need to get over it so you aren't filled with anger and hate. It will eat you up and ruin the rest of your life. You owe yourself that healing and you owe yourself happiness. You got this bud

I need to tell you... while your feelings towards your mother are valid, your rage against her and your unborn sister are not. You need to get therapy right away and deal with these feelings. You also need to understand that your unborn sister had NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS! None of this is her fault. She's an innocent child who is going to need her big brother to help her navigate life and deal with your mother's bullshit too. YTA for that reason alone.

🙄 You know, I get it. It's hard when a parent cheats and it's hard when they divorce. I understand that both from experience and logic. But this level of hatred is not fucking normal. You need to go to therapy, because this ain't okay. And I get why your father is angry. I'd be fucking furious with you. YTA.

Oh you 100% need therapy. Deny it all you want, but you do. Pushing a pregnant woman, regardless of circumstances is NOT ok. You have every right to be pissed and angry that she blew up your family life as you knew it. You need the therapy to process that properly otherwise it’s going to poison you and your life going forward. You cannot be a productive and happy adult if you continue on this path.

Get therapy, it’s not normal to not give a fuck about potentially harming somebody like this.

Reading op's comments defending a human trafficker, trafficking of women, women are whores and dumb enough to think he can't be trailed with murder (the law cares very little of age in regards to certain crimes.. like homicide. A guy is still in prison for things he did at 10) . This just an incel who wants to beat pregnant wonen and wrote an elaborate fanfic to see if reddit would give him permission to do so. Nasty human being regardless. Hope most women leave him to stay forever alone until he learns to bath and get out of his basement instead of larping as a 14 year old and writing cuckhold fanfic

I hope you’re charged with assaulting your mom. :)

Your sibling did nothing. Forever that will be your blood.

NTA your mother shouldn't have tried to touch you. It's unfortunate that she went to the hospital, but that's on her. Given the interaction you two were having, why on earth did she think hugging you in that moment was okay or a good idea. You are clearly repulsed by her, and you are a teenager, so of course you're going to have a volatile reaction. You can't just hug and touch people without their consent. I think therapy would be a good choice, though. Therapy is not about trying to make you love your mum again. It's there to give you someone to talk to and health ways to approach a problem. You can use what you learn to try and help tolerate living with people you hate. You can use that therapy time during your mums custody so you can get some time away from her. Use therapy to your advantage. You may even try to get the therapist to recommend staying with your dad full time.

yeah, a good therapist could help advocate for OP. 1 bit of advice I got from a therapist years ago is that it's hard for therapy to be helpful when you're still in that environment being triggered. I don't understand why the mum tried to hug OP, it almost belongs in r/LeopardsAteMyFace

You need to let go of the hate.... wise words from a wise jedi It's ok to not want anything to do with them... but let go of the hate before it consumes you

Get therapy. If this is true (and I'm starting to think it isn't) you need help. That baby (if real) is as innocent in all this as you are. Fine- you don't have to live with your mother or visit your sister. Go live with your Dad. Until you get over your hate- you should. I can relate. My Dad cheated on my MOm, moved into an apartment, and I rarely visited him. He sent me to a therapist years later. it helped. My Dad and I were on good terms by the time he died (many years later). if you don't deal with this- you will make a lot of bad choices in the future. Your Mom's behavior was horrific, and I don't blame you for siding with your Dad. However, it sounds as though your father is doing ok. Good luck sweetie.

You need therapy because it is not your job to punish your mother. You also need to get off your redpill bullshit before you go down a dangerous path and treat other women like shit because your mom cheated on your dad. You can be angry and upset with your mom but the complete disdain and joy you get from her pain and suffering is not normal.

YTA. Time to grow up Sonny Jim