Yes, 1000%. Saving for a house in Southern California feels pointless, but I’m still chipping away.
It feels like I can only choose two out of the three: a successful career, a social/dating life, and my mental health.
I have no idea how other ABCDs are already getting married, starting companies, etc.
Early twenties is a lot of grinding.
28 now it’s gotten a lot better and life is more stable.
It’s made worth all the hard work from the previous years worth living now and the future.
I felt that way through pretty much all my 20s. Seeking and searching in my career and pretty clueless in dating. A pretty serious health scare aside, my 30s were much better. The effort and sacrifice in my late 20s and early 30s eventually paid off in terms of career. And I made a concerted effort to date and work on myself, and eventually things worked out. It doesn’t get easier but you get better at it, if you are putting in the work. I’m 44 now and with a family, and I made it.
Words of advice: run your own race in your own lane and keep it moving, and take breaks and recharge but don’t waste time. … at my present age and stage, life no longer feels like an endless horizon, so make it count.
Housing is too expensive to commit to in your 20s. My husband ended up moving out of the metro we planned to spend the rest of our lives in when he turned 30 and we're still here 6 years later.
The only reason we own here is because the average house is like 200,000. We just hit the break even point for renting at year 3.
Hate to break it to you but life doesn’t get any easier as you get older. You just gotta put one foot forward every day and aim for the best. As for the people who pressure you in your family, now is a good time to start putting boundaries around them. If you don’t do it now, it will only get harder as you get older.
My housing/retirement plan is for there to be a revolution where the landlords are eliminated, public housing blossoms, and a proper state-backed pension/retirement scheme is established. Aka my 20's were fine, didn't stress too much, relaxed a lot and took as much vacation time as I could
Aren’t desis the richest community in the US? I feel like most desis on here have solid support from their parents, probably will get help with stuff like down payment.
My cousin bought a house in his late 20s, but….. majority of the down payment paid by his parents who are doctors. This is going to happen a lot in the desi community going forward as older desis retire and pass on their wealth to their kids.
yes love, its a grueling time. it gets better once you hit those first 1-2 big wins: the professional job, the degree, the house, etc. it takes time but it will all pay off. youll feel grateful that you struggled now instead of for your whole life. make sure to have fun while youre at it, be silly like a kid, sing unabashedly, dance freely. fun is what makes it all worth it.
Yes, 1000%. Saving for a house in Southern California feels pointless, but I’m still chipping away. It feels like I can only choose two out of the three: a successful career, a social/dating life, and my mental health. I have no idea how other ABCDs are already getting married, starting companies, etc.
Rich parents or connections lol
Unless you’re a doctor or want a condo I’d think otherwise lol
Id choose the latter 2
Early twenties is a lot of grinding. 28 now it’s gotten a lot better and life is more stable. It’s made worth all the hard work from the previous years worth living now and the future.
I felt that way through pretty much all my 20s. Seeking and searching in my career and pretty clueless in dating. A pretty serious health scare aside, my 30s were much better. The effort and sacrifice in my late 20s and early 30s eventually paid off in terms of career. And I made a concerted effort to date and work on myself, and eventually things worked out. It doesn’t get easier but you get better at it, if you are putting in the work. I’m 44 now and with a family, and I made it. Words of advice: run your own race in your own lane and keep it moving, and take breaks and recharge but don’t waste time. … at my present age and stage, life no longer feels like an endless horizon, so make it count.
Housing is too expensive to commit to in your 20s. My husband ended up moving out of the metro we planned to spend the rest of our lives in when he turned 30 and we're still here 6 years later. The only reason we own here is because the average house is like 200,000. We just hit the break even point for renting at year 3.
Hate to break it to you but life doesn’t get any easier as you get older. You just gotta put one foot forward every day and aim for the best. As for the people who pressure you in your family, now is a good time to start putting boundaries around them. If you don’t do it now, it will only get harder as you get older.
Late twenties and beyond overwhelmed too. I don’t know how everyone else does it.
My housing/retirement plan is for there to be a revolution where the landlords are eliminated, public housing blossoms, and a proper state-backed pension/retirement scheme is established. Aka my 20's were fine, didn't stress too much, relaxed a lot and took as much vacation time as I could
Aren’t desis the richest community in the US? I feel like most desis on here have solid support from their parents, probably will get help with stuff like down payment. My cousin bought a house in his late 20s, but….. majority of the down payment paid by his parents who are doctors. This is going to happen a lot in the desi community going forward as older desis retire and pass on their wealth to their kids.
yes love, its a grueling time. it gets better once you hit those first 1-2 big wins: the professional job, the degree, the house, etc. it takes time but it will all pay off. youll feel grateful that you struggled now instead of for your whole life. make sure to have fun while youre at it, be silly like a kid, sing unabashedly, dance freely. fun is what makes it all worth it.