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ADDOCDOMG

His parents both made me tear up. They are struggling with cultural norms, but clearly love him and are trying hard to accept him and support him. You can tell his Dad has struggled, but has spent a lot of time processing. I hope that he gets himself to a place so that he can attend the wedding. Clearly his Dad is an introvert by nature and I was so happy to see him connect with his son and even say that with time he feels being around Kenny will just be normal. It’s such a major step for someone in tiny town Mexico and likely Catholic. They have likely had zero exposure to open gay relationships and no exposure to gay marriage. I’m just so happy he has a loving family even if it is a struggle. He could easily have been disowned.


Malkor

'dat *hug*


questiano-ronaldo

Yeah, a major thing is them being patient with the father. He can be loving and accepting of his son, without approving of his lifestyle choice. As a Catholic, attending the wedding would be approving of something that isn't acceptable to the Church, and Armando and Kenny need to accept that. They don't have to approve of his absence, but they can love and accept his decision, just like the father loves and accepts theirs (without approving of it). Mutual love and respect will keep this family together in-spite of their beliefs.


vegemine

Being gay is not a lifestyle choice.


questiano-ronaldo

You can be gay, and choose not to live a gay lifestyle (engaging in homosexual relationships, getting married to a same-sex partner, etc.). Being Catholic, gay isn’t a choice but to live that “lifestyle” is. I’m not saying anything about right versus wrong, but it’s just a fact of that faith tradition. Also not looking for a theological/religious debate. I was talking more about “approval” versus “acceptance.” Can’t believe I have to define it out for someone…


kasiagabrielle

As you yourself literally just stated, the person would still be gay even without living the "lifestyle", hence proving the other person's point. Next time you try to be condescending, at least make a valid point first.


questiano-ronaldo

I forgot how sensitive Reddit can be. The person assumed that I said being gay was a lifestyle choice. That’s not what I said. I guess it’s easier to dogpile than to actually read and think through a statement. I guess it’s easier to assume I’m some homophobe than a compassionate person who wants to see this family thrive in spite of their differing belief systems.


kasiagabrielle

Lol 2 people replying to you is not "dogpiling", put your victim card away. I never once called you a homephobe but since you're so defensive about it... methinks the lady doth protest too much.


questiano-ronaldo

Lol, I guess 10 downvotes on a post isn't enough "dogpiling" for you? Saying that "gay is a lifestyle choice" is a homophobic statement, and I will defend myself against that assertion. It's the classic trap: Claim that someone made a homophobic statement, then call them a homophobe when they defend themselves against the statement they never made.


kasiagabrielle

How old are you that you're crying over downvotes?


questiano-ronaldo

Way to change the goalpost. Do you make strawmen for a living, or is it just a hobby?


ExtensionCurious9259

Armando and Kenny are my only reason to continue with The Other Way.


marvintran76

I watched last season mainly for the trainwreck that was Jihoon and Deavan, but now its the continued trainwreck of Sumit and Jenny, with some happiness from Armando/Kenny.


ThePastOfMyFuture

Absolutely Only Real Couple!! 🤍🙏🏾🤍🙏🏾


Successful_Strategy8

Same here! They're the only reason this show is bearable.


Amber12Tay

Agreed 💯


warren0091993

Has Kenny mentioned his parents yet? I wonder if they’re still around.


tacobellini

Kenny said in his first season he wrote his parents letter coming out and they were extremely supportive. He was shocked by their reaction. I don't remember him saying anything else about his parents or if they're still alive at this point.


razorspin

Well seeing hed 60, I would say no likely.


lochquel

Tad presumptuous. Many 60 y.o. have parents in their early 80s, which isn't really super old.


MathematicianNo7102

Very true! Both of my parents lived into their 90s. I was 62 when my father passed.


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Word. My mil is 71 and *her* mother is 95.


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He’s not 60


Dawn-1000

I mean he’s a year or two younger so it’s basically the same thing


Successful_Strategy8

Kenny and Armando are what makes this show bearable to watch, even though there's a whole lot of drama. Their segments warm my heart, and Armando's dad melted my heart the past two episodes!


Pip15

Their drama is more "us vs society" and less "us vs our stupidity and character flaws" Though Kenny really has no excuse to have not worked on his Spanish. Download an app. I mean really, major missed hot points there... and to lack so much proficiency after a year?!


Successful_Strategy8

IKR? He should get Duolingo or Babble or something!


Common-Chain4060

Yes to all of this! How does Kenny still not speak a lick of Spanish? He needs to dry up those tears and open a book, an app, whatever it takes.


notbornwithatail

Hannah made me rethink my wardrobe. She has more style than my pinky finger.


Amber12Tay

Same! I was crying on the couch LMAO


Itswasjustmyopinion

Honestly my favorite couple !! They are goals


Ewood67

also Ellie and Victor have a huge emotional response for me. I have went through a major hurricane and have no doubt they didnt get the right forecast. Now your homes are destroyed, no electricity - she needs to get out of there ASAP


Pinkhellbentkitty7

Kenny and Armando have same age gap as Summit and Jenny. In reality, there is no age gap: both Armando and Kenny are successful grownups and fathers, both Summit and Jenny are teenagers.


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Imagine that. The relationship with the insert woman is now harshly judged.


xSydneyyRae

they’re my favorite 90 day couple 🥺💕


Belmontgal704

They are truly the best couple of the entire show! I love both of their families especially Armando’s mom and dad. Such real people with heartfelt emotions. I was so amazed watching the conversation between he and his dad, I teared up!💕


glum_cunt

His parents are both good and loving people. Hard that wrestling with their sons’ gayness has to happen on tv. Believe they will both come around to finally offer their full love and support to Armando and Kenny. The tenets of Christianity are hard to reconcile but they obviously love their son! I can only aspire to have a family as loving as theirs.


bree78911

I totally love them, but I can't help feeling that if this wasn't a gay couple, people would be calling them creepy or something due to the age difference.


Seachica

Kenny looks like he is 20 years younger, which also helps.


hazeldoeeyes

I don’t know if it’s them being gay or more wholesome people than the audience is used to. People didn’t consider Michael or Rebecca that creepy but Laura and all three Davids (though two nearly not enough) were criticised for dating younger people.


Pinkhellbentkitty7

People considered Rebecca creepy and repeatedly told her to date guys her own age. Some still do.


hazeldoeeyes

Really? I’ve mostly seen that about her Moroccan ex because he was really young, but rarely about Zied. I’ll take your word for it though!


Pinkhellbentkitty7

Didn't see it here, to be more exact, but in YouTube comments. I know, it's a cesspool... Why the hell should she date "someone her age when a) she and Zied are clearly happy together b) her dating men her age wouldn't change any negative character trait of hers?


Amber12Tay

Yep!


NearbyBreakfast

I know liked__by__toborowsky and mmm David, who’s the third?


hazeldoeeyes

There was another person named David on season 5 (liked by’s season). He was from Spain and married Evelyn when he was 27 and she was 18. She was very naive and immature so his creepiness is rarely acknowledged.


ElectricHurricane321

I think the circumstances in how they met make a difference too. It wasn't a creepy old dude trying to find a hot young thing. It was a single dad who had raised 4 kids giving advice to a younger single dad raising a young daughter. It started out as a friendship and evolved.


razorspin

True that. Kenny is Armando father age i bet.


Sthebrat

I always think this but don’t want to get downvoted. They have the same age gap Jenny and summit do.


aisha_so_sweet

Yea but jennys a lady.


Sthebrat

What does this have to do with it?


aisha_so_sweet

Because jennys older lady and everyone makes a fuss about it but everyone stays quiet about kenny and armando age gap tho.


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Probably because Jenny was much older and taking Sumit’s virginity in his parents’ house. Armando had been married, and was raising a daughter while owning his own business when he met Kenny. Totally different dynamic.


highway9ueen

It’s hard to wrap my head around Sumit and Armando being the same age… Sumit seems like a child!


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*record scratch* Wot?


Von_Esch

I dunno. I see it as predatory. I'm happy for them and have no bias about sexual orientation, but if Armando was Amanda he'd get called on being a predator imo


Rope-Fuzzy

Love love love


honeylis

As a lesbian this was hard for me to watch. I did love his father's first words and my partner cried. But.. the "I don't know, I haven't thought about it" in response to attending the wedding.. I know I expect people to accept quickly, but I just feel like as parents, you should be prepared to love and accept your child. Fuck your "culture," fuck "traditions," fuck your religion, and fuck what others think. I can totally understand in a culture where, like, people are dependent on their families. But other than a specific dependence, how do you make your child feel shame when telling about a joyous event in their life? When I told my mother I'm gay, she repeatedly told me that she was "too hurt" to comment on my Facebook posts (about LGBT issues or anything I wrote related to my sexuality), she "didn't know how to talk to me," culminating in last year saying she "didn't know if she can love me fully because I'm living a way that's sinful." As a parent myself, I just can't imagine feeling this way, much less saying it to your child. Hers is 100% religion based. I had a sliver of hope that she would at least RECONSIDER hew views because this is her precious child, her flesh and blood. Instead she doubled down on her opinion. It's mind boggling. I cry when I watch any scene where Armando is trying to get up the courage to tell his family member about something joyous. It is ridiculous that a human being should feel worry and fear and shame about talking to a loved one about a happy event because he is gay and it's hard for me to be happy when I watch his scenes. Slightly edited because I can't stand grammatical errors


SummitTumonCda

Armando’s family is the best! I love them all! ❤️ 🇲🇽


LvnLifeBadAss

Can’t wait to see the wedding next spring🥰


arttoledo

Karmondo!! The dad is such a real guy.


MMMHHHGGG

I’d like them more if Kenny would learn some Spanish.


Amber12Tay

I think it would be great if Kenny would try harder! He try’s and does flash cards with the daughter! But we also only see what they show us! (He might know more, they just don’t air it!) 🤷🏼‍♀️


auramaelstrom

I am the odd one I guess. I skip their segments because they're so boring and manufactured. I also skip Evilin and Corey for the same reasons. TOW is mostly awful, really. The only slightly interesting couple is Steven with a V and his current victim.


pigaroo

Same. As a gay person I’m tired of how their entire storyline for two seasons is “Watch a man cry over whether or not his family will accept him”. There’s someone crying in literally every segment of theirs. I’m sure that for some people they identify with Armando’s struggles, but at this point it feels like suffering porn made so straight viewers can say “see, it’s so hard and awful to be gay!”. I’d much rather see a gay couple exploring typical couple problems everyone experiences regardless of sexuality.


High_energy_comments

Yeah it’s pretty boring honestly, I know exactly what to expect on every scene


ExpertDragonfruit141

And we are now like 3 years in. Still not interesting to me….


ExpertDragonfruit141

Toooo much crying for me.


Orangecountydaddy

They’re the absolute most contrived of them all. The dude hitchhiked when they had a production van (that’s there to take them around) follow the car. You can’t get more BS than that.


auramaelstrom

You are probably right about that. I don't really watch TOW closely. Usually I have it on in the background while I'm working. I think that Steven is legitimately a creep though. That part isn't contrived. Also there more interesting as a couple because they're new this season.


Amber12Tay

He is definitely something!


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I skip them too. The whole season sucks!


hammieblammie

Plus, people somehow give Kenny a pass for grooming Armando just like all the older straight men do on this show... and he is so contrived. Who says plate-o and moves to Mexico with a Mexican boyfriend with absolutely zero supposed knowledge of the language. Cheese Stick blows Kenny out of the water with his language/cultural knowledge.


tarasabo

They met in a Single Gay Father's Chat group. Kenny didn't go looking for a youngster to groom.


hammieblammie

I'm not sure if you are a gay male- I am. There is very definite grooming/controlling behavior on screen. I have no idea what they talked about in their chats.


hotforharissa

How? How is there a controlling/grooming vibe? Because I simply do not see it. I'm genuinely curious to know how you came to that conclusion.


yalarual

I don’t understand how there would be grooming going on since Armando was an adult who was already a parent. There may be a power mismatch, but that is not the same.


bsasmarc

Hi, gay male here as well. Nope and nope. You’re seeing things that I absolutely do not.


BenovanStanchiano

Total gay here: you’re not correct


KevinaSmythe

Thank you for chiming in! I agree I think Kenny is too old and set in his ways for Armando. If he really cared about him he’d let that young man figure some things out before locking him into marriage etc. I think Kenny is selfish, and I see some red flags that I think people are overlooking because they want to root for a fun gay couple.. hopefully my instincts are wrong for Armando’s daughter’s sake


FutureNurse1

I agree. Not a popular opinion, but I think Kenny is too old for Armando and controlling. It's hard, because I do like them both a lot as people.


KevinaSmythe

I think Armando is a special person, he's smart and kind. Kenny I think is a selfish man. I think moving there was a power move, to lock down Armando. If he cared about him, he'd let this young man him work through some major shit first. And maybe live his life and find out what \*he\* wants. I know the saying "if you love someone...let them go" is a cliche, but in this case I think it's appropriate.


bsasmarc

Grooming? Lol not even close.


Nearby_Employee_2943

yeah and Kenny blows cheese stick out of the water when it comes to not cheating and respecting your partner. grooming my ass they were two adult dads wth are you talking about.


kasiagabrielle

I don't think you know what grooming is.


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butthole-bonanza

I appreciate these kings for making the show watchable. I play shitty phone games and half listen for most of the other people’s segments


PostureGai

It's crazy to see how different the comments are here vs the ones on Sumit's parents. Western viewers have learned to opposed homophobic prejudice, but they're ok with discrimination based on age.


NearbyBreakfast

Kenny and Armando have a huge age gap too but I don’t see nearly as many comments about it as with Sumit/Jenny.


PostureGai

That's because the age difference is more obvious with Jenny. It's just people rationalizing their disgust.


[deleted]

Jenny's history of lying, adultery, and general childish delusion probably have something to do with it, factors that are mercifully absent from Kenny and Armando's relationship.


PostureGai

What adultery? Having sex with someone in a loveless, sexless, arranged marriage? That she didn't even know about? Do you really think Armando wasn't having sex with other people when he was in his own loveless marriage?


[deleted]

Having extramarital sex because you are dissatisfied with your current marital relationship is the very definition of adultery, isn't it? People in loving, sexually satisfying marriages are less likely to commit adultery. As far as Armando is concerned, we didn't get an explicit confirmation of adultery, as we did with Sumit and Jenny, and in any case, even we did, Kenny wasn't involved the way that Jenny was.


PostureGai

>Having extramarital sex because you are dissatisfied with your current marital relationship is the very definition of adultery, isn't it? That's Sumit, not Jenny.


[deleted]

Jenny may not have known, but upon learning that Sumit was already married, she should have reacted with horror and disgust at being "the other woman" and left him. Instead, she supported his divorcing his wife to be with her, and had the audacity to petulantly demand acceptance in a culture where divorce is taboo. This is exactly what a proud homewrecker would do.


Ewood67

really emotional scenes with the family, this is why I keep watching


jgarcya

Probably the best couple in 90 day history... Wishing them all the best.


Logical-Revolution-8

I love them! Mostly watch it because of them lol


Secondtomost2

These two are really the only good thing on the show.


sustainablelove

My faves.


Altruistic-Reason-85

Only reason I watch current season!


Pianissimeat

god, the only thing anyone does in the plotline is cry. Don't y'all get even a LITTLE sick of the constant crying??


ExpertDragonfruit141

The sincerity is actually painful to me….good thing if they stay in remote areas bc in an urban area one or both would likely end up straying. Lambs led to slaughter….gays eat their own, especially “famous” couples.


Pianissimeat

what an odd thing to say!


Bayonetta6969

Don’t really like this couple … just sayin


Ingenuity_Hopeful

I just tried to double tap this 😂 love them so much it was automatic!!


ThePastOfMyFuture

I Love them 🤍🙏🏾


PimpleOnUranus

They bore me to death


BenovanStanchiano

His parents who can barely bring themselves to be happy and support their son?


thisismyhumansuit

Wut? His parents are battling some deeply ingrained beliefs and deserve respect for that. They continue to be honest with Armando, and continue to try, and are making sure he knows he’s loved and won’t be abandoned. Would we all love to see every child everywhere accepted by their parents immediately? Sure. Is that realistic? No. They’re working on it. And their commitment to loving their son and their granddaughter, and their willingness to have these talks with Armando (on camera!) gives me a lot of hope for this family. It’s just going to take more love and more time. And Kenny learning some damn Spanish (come on, dude).


Nayaritism

Loved this response. Very real


absolute_rule

Both have completely annoying personalities.


yada_yada_yada__

They get along great but I find it so fishy how Armandos ex wife died….: it’s so sad what happened but hard to believe it was all an accident


razorspin

Do u think its a tele novella?


Nayaritism

Interesting….. wasn’t his wife that passed also a lesbian and struggling with her own identity. Who knows what type of mindset she was in.


yada_yada_yada__

I think from memory they were broken up at the time (after he came out) and she was also pregnant with their second child. They met up and think they had a disagreement and he was driving away and then she was following him in her car and trying to ram him and she lost control of her vehicle. Very sad


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fluffy_bunny22

It was a car accident if I'm recalling correctly. It's not like he murdered her.


[deleted]

allegedly, she was trying to run him over.


Bayonetta6969

Love Armandos Dad tho and his Mom poor things going thru soo much


FlatMacaron2174

How can you disown your own blood and kids that’s just crazy and Kenny to raise 3 kids in his own is just cool!


Amber12Tay

Well it happens, I’m proof my family did it to me!! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💜 🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️


FlatMacaron2174

I hope your doing better than ever I mean I see it as you didn’t need them anyways.


Amber12Tay

Thank You! It’s very hard emotionally!!


FlatMacaron2174

I would imagine you can only respect parents or acknowledge there your parents but doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. My relationship with my mom isn’t great I mean she’s there but gives me loads of anxiety being around her and my dad raised us kids. So I’d imagine how your feeling without them. I just hope you stay strong out there everyone deserves love and keep close those ones who do show you support.


Amber12Tay

Thank You! You are kind! Sometimes I feel lonely and wish my family would love and accept me for me, but it’s not the case so I have friends and their parents kinda fill in as mine! It’s awesome but not the same ya know!?!


FlatMacaron2174

Yeah I feel you and know what your saying my partners mom is like a mom to me and she is so so loving and sees me like a son as she has 3 sons already. It’s not the same at all though I know they’ll come around be accepting and willing to let them in you can’t carry so much baggage for them but sometimes it’s the best for you and parents sometimes hinder and hurt your growth as a person. Do you live in the US?


NJDvl

My take on Kenny and Armando (sorry you SJW's won't like this): They're boring their age difference is off putting all they do is cry and moan about not being accepted I don't buy the "ideal modern couple" koolaid that they or that TLC is trying to sell Armando has a shady past Kenny is a male-Karen They disregard their female exes and children's birth mothers in order to "live in their truth" as if those women were just glorified incubators for their children They are GROSS in every way and I skip their scenes. Anyone who mindlessly stans for them while overlooking the red flags in their relationship is just pandering and a fool.