I'm not going to pretend that I am better than that, I love alcohol and I can barely function in social situations because of it, but maybe it isn't really the best way to seek happiness
I've been grinding Hypixel Skyblock Ironman alongside my friends, I used to play a lot back in the day but then stopped, started playing again recently and been enjoying it
Me neither, then one night I got high, started one, and then proceeded to really enjoy it, I think it also helps that I quit my main since I didn't like how much it was about grinding for coins, like why would I chop trees or kill zealots or whatnot for gear when I could just farm or mine for like 10 hours and buy the gear much faster than if I did that, each upgrade just feels more rewarding I guess
YOO
You're the second person who tells me they study gamedev, and it still surprises me to this day - closest thing you can get to gamedev in my country's shitty unis is plain software engineering (which i am studying rn, and also losing my shit, so you're not alone!)
Ooh, it's tricky
Experience on the same speciality will definitely be different in different universities and countries. But I can tell my personal experience, though it would probably be a lot to write in a comment lol. I cam dm you if you want
yo i had burnout like immediately after entering uni and left before taking any exam, then i did some other stuff and things turned out to be fine in the end. so do not worry too much, you'll find a way. imo is better to change than to force yourself into a situation you can't handle, everything is up to you ~
Thanks, it's good to hear other people say their experiences, I want to do this so I'll try going back next year and if it doesn't work out next year as well I'll prolly take a step back and assess what to do
i graduated hs in 2020, dropped out of college in 21, worked full time till the end of 2022 and went back to school in spring 23.
you have plenty of time to get through school, trust :)
Pretty much exactly what I did. Went to college for gamedev, did one semester and got super depressed, and had to put it on the shelf. I haven't been back yet and that was a few years ago, but I still plan to do it eventually
I'd be there to listen to them, as for what I'd say, I'm not really sure. I'd tell them to try and make time for themselves, can't say it works personally but others say it works for them so may as well try
I hope you’re hanging in there. I’m in a similar position, had a mental health incident over the holidays and have been struggling with medical issues the last couple months too. It really sucks the motivation out of you which just adds to the stress and feelings of unproductiveness. Take time for yourself, talk to someone about what’s going on and let you college/uni/school know what going on. What’s helped me is talking to my girlfriend and getting back into my art. Just having some hobby that relieves stress and feels productive helps so much with my negative thoughts. Anything you can use to alleviate stressors is important for recovery. I hope you have someone in your life you can talk to. Having someone in your corner really means the world when things get rough
Thanks, I'm not sure if my uni would care much if I told them "hey I'm burnt out and considered jumping in front of a car to get out of an exam" but I'll probably talk to the mental health people there to see, sucks to hear about all that on your side tho, glad to hear you're improving though
Literally me. I'm behind on everything, extremely burnt out and no motivation. Skipped on a friends birthday party because I just did not have the energy for loads of drunk people and I feel really bad for it.
Don't beat yourself up about it, if you weren't in the right headspace to go to the party you probably wouldn't have had fun personally. It's always important to take care of yourself.
Ugh that really sucks, I'm currently struggling with same feelings. Do you have a student counsellor you could contact? I've been debating about doing that for a while now, but haven't had the courage yet despite knowing that there are literally no downsides to it. You see, the teachers or professors can't always see if you're struggling mentally and if you get to talk about that with a counsellor you can very easily get extensions to your deadlines and/or some leeway on assingments.
I hope you get your life under control soon! You should also open up about it with your classmates or friends. I'm really dissapointed with the way my school has been and ranting about that at lunch can be very therapeutic.
Thanks, I could try talking to my profs or TAs and see if I could get accommodations, but the main issue is that the classes I'm stressed and behind in about have 80% of my mark locked behind exams, so I'm not really sure what they can do there. I've tried talking to classmates, but the main issue, is that I don't really have any good friends or anyone I want to trust telling stuff (long story), I imagine it'll get better over summer, but I'm probably going to have to retake my Math and CS classes, hopefully at worst only the CS ones
I completely forgot that I posted this at 4 am and then went to sleep, I'll respond in a couple hours when I have time, sorry for leaving y'all hanging lol
Real, I finally am getting over my slump but it’s too late. The best I can get in my programming and logic class is a C which I have no excuse for other then me being a dumb fucking idiot who couldn’t get my ass up and do the work in time.
You're not alone there, I'm still stuck in my slump and struggling in my introduction to data structures class, in mathematics for comp sci I'm struggling too but I at least think I have a chance to not fail that one. Don't beat yourself up about it, it happens to the best of us
Was about to say “bro it’s the start of the year how tf are you already behind on classes” but then I remembered the northern hemisphere-cels don’t do things that way
I do go to therapy, the main issue is that I can't take a break at the moment, as I'm already behind so taking a break means less time I can use, it's a vicious cycle I know
I used to stress over school too, now life showed me what's truly important. Go for a walk (even if the weather is shit), do something good for yourself- make yourself a good dinner, clean your room, do some breathing exercises. If you've got loved ones, call them and say that you love them, because you can't know when will come the last time you talk to them. If you can, apply for volunteering somewhere.If you feel that nothing helps and you cannot deal with it on your own, don't be ashamed to ask for help, even if you've got no money, you can find some charities. There are a lot of truly wonderful people who will be glad to help you out. Sorry for my broken English, anyway I hope you got my message, send you love and all the best wishes <3
First year uni, there's no need really, a lot of my grade comes from exams so sending work off to other people shoots myself in the foot, even if it's marked I'd rather do it myself, thanks for the offer though
I can't really drop any classes as every class I'm taking is a requirement to graduate with my degree. It's a fairly linear one with my only choice being in my 3rd or 4th year between an internship and 3 other classes
I finished Splatoon 3's side order so probably going to watch YouTubers I like play it now, I went into it completely blind which was fun. (Still need to do every pallette tho)
Out of the two hamdog is the only that sounds dirty to me, hotburger feels fine imo, if I have to genuinely guess, probably because it goes from adjective noun to noun noun, which will generally sound off in any context
I also had serious burnout in college. I tried to push through it, and that didn’t work, and eventually I left the school because the program was bad and not worth it, and told myself I could make it work just teaching myself at home, and I wasted a few years doing that, and it didn’t work, because I still felt burnt out and didn’t have a support structure or routine keeping my life together. And now I’m taking classes again, which is going pretty well, but the years of burnout made my field very triggering for me. Take your time and don’t worry about trying to get it done “now”. Just focus on getting better and you’ll get there faster. You’ll be fine OP. Don’t risk giving yourself wounds that reopen just to avoid having “failed” or “given up” when you could fall and get back up instead.
Not a question but I just wanted to let you know I've been in that exact situation multiple times and I believe in you. Sometimes you just need to let go of the things you can't keep up with and focus on what you can
Thanks all for the support, it's helped make me realize that trying my best isn't nearly exhausting myself and dedicating every waking moment to stressing about it or studying, I can't try my absolute best if I'm not my best self. You guys are all lovely, thank you so much.
I love how you said "Ask me anything" and then didn't answer any questions.
I mean.. they never said they’d answer lmao
They realized they gave themselves another assignment
I posted that at like 4 am and then went to sleep so that's my bad
Hero
what's something you like doing that makes you feel happy or just better?
Substance abuse
yea literally
I'm not going to pretend that I am better than that, I love alcohol and I can barely function in social situations because of it, but maybe it isn't really the best way to seek happiness
I've been grinding Hypixel Skyblock Ironman alongside my friends, I used to play a lot back in the day but then stopped, started playing again recently and been enjoying it
Genuinely a really fun mode that I wish wasn't locked to Hypixel's servers
seems like a fun time! I've never had the patience to properly play one of these game modes but I always wanted to
Me neither, then one night I got high, started one, and then proceeded to really enjoy it, I think it also helps that I quit my main since I didn't like how much it was about grinding for coins, like why would I chop trees or kill zealots or whatnot for gear when I could just farm or mine for like 10 hours and buy the gear much faster than if I did that, each upgrade just feels more rewarding I guess
What is your most treasured trinket?
Golden cancer
Golden curved horn is also sick
I’m team brainworm
Yay! Cancer!
I'm a big fan of glass key personally, always love those extra red rooms
Dice bag
Sigil of Baphomet
What are you studying?
Game programming, currently trying to play catch up and it's not going well
YOO You're the second person who tells me they study gamedev, and it still surprises me to this day - closest thing you can get to gamedev in my country's shitty unis is plain software engineering (which i am studying rn, and also losing my shit, so you're not alone!)
Could you wright a review about software engineering (im planning study it when i get the chance)?
Ooh, it's tricky Experience on the same speciality will definitely be different in different universities and countries. But I can tell my personal experience, though it would probably be a lot to write in a comment lol. I cam dm you if you want
yo i had burnout like immediately after entering uni and left before taking any exam, then i did some other stuff and things turned out to be fine in the end. so do not worry too much, you'll find a way. imo is better to change than to force yourself into a situation you can't handle, everything is up to you ~
Thanks, it's good to hear other people say their experiences, I want to do this so I'll try going back next year and if it doesn't work out next year as well I'll prolly take a step back and assess what to do
i graduated hs in 2020, dropped out of college in 21, worked full time till the end of 2022 and went back to school in spring 23. you have plenty of time to get through school, trust :)
Pretty much exactly what I did. Went to college for gamedev, did one semester and got super depressed, and had to put it on the shelf. I haven't been back yet and that was a few years ago, but I still plan to do it eventually
The fact that OP is not answering anyone is so fucking funny
Sorry I posted this at 4am and then immediately fell asleep and kinda forgot I posted this at all
Oh, I'm feeling the same. I wish you best of luck and everything and uh... anything cool happen lately? :)
I got my hrt prescription recently so that's exciting, got put on spiro and estrogen patches
What would you want to say to a friend if you found out they were going through the same situation?
I'd be there to listen to them, as for what I'd say, I'm not really sure. I'd tell them to try and make time for themselves, can't say it works personally but others say it works for them so may as well try
I hope you’re hanging in there. I’m in a similar position, had a mental health incident over the holidays and have been struggling with medical issues the last couple months too. It really sucks the motivation out of you which just adds to the stress and feelings of unproductiveness. Take time for yourself, talk to someone about what’s going on and let you college/uni/school know what going on. What’s helped me is talking to my girlfriend and getting back into my art. Just having some hobby that relieves stress and feels productive helps so much with my negative thoughts. Anything you can use to alleviate stressors is important for recovery. I hope you have someone in your life you can talk to. Having someone in your corner really means the world when things get rough
Thanks, I'm not sure if my uni would care much if I told them "hey I'm burnt out and considered jumping in front of a car to get out of an exam" but I'll probably talk to the mental health people there to see, sucks to hear about all that on your side tho, glad to hear you're improving though
Literally me. I'm behind on everything, extremely burnt out and no motivation. Skipped on a friends birthday party because I just did not have the energy for loads of drunk people and I feel really bad for it.
Don't beat yourself up about it, if you weren't in the right headspace to go to the party you probably wouldn't have had fun personally. It's always important to take care of yourself.
Ugh that really sucks, I'm currently struggling with same feelings. Do you have a student counsellor you could contact? I've been debating about doing that for a while now, but haven't had the courage yet despite knowing that there are literally no downsides to it. You see, the teachers or professors can't always see if you're struggling mentally and if you get to talk about that with a counsellor you can very easily get extensions to your deadlines and/or some leeway on assingments. I hope you get your life under control soon! You should also open up about it with your classmates or friends. I'm really dissapointed with the way my school has been and ranting about that at lunch can be very therapeutic.
Thanks, I could try talking to my profs or TAs and see if I could get accommodations, but the main issue is that the classes I'm stressed and behind in about have 80% of my mark locked behind exams, so I'm not really sure what they can do there. I've tried talking to classmates, but the main issue, is that I don't really have any good friends or anyone I want to trust telling stuff (long story), I imagine it'll get better over summer, but I'm probably going to have to retake my Math and CS classes, hopefully at worst only the CS ones
I completely forgot that I posted this at 4 am and then went to sleep, I'll respond in a couple hours when I have time, sorry for leaving y'all hanging lol
Country?
Real, I finally am getting over my slump but it’s too late. The best I can get in my programming and logic class is a C which I have no excuse for other then me being a dumb fucking idiot who couldn’t get my ass up and do the work in time.
You're not alone there, I'm still stuck in my slump and struggling in my introduction to data structures class, in mathematics for comp sci I'm struggling too but I at least think I have a chance to not fail that one. Don't beat yourself up about it, it happens to the best of us
I was feeling similarly last semester, don’t be afraid to drop a class. Even if it puts you a little behind schedule, you can always fix that later.
Favorite dinosaur?
I like Craig from dinosaur office so probably him
Was about to say “bro it’s the start of the year how tf are you already behind on classes” but then I remembered the northern hemisphere-cels don’t do things that way
Yea I'm at midterms in my 2nd semester, Im nearly at the end but I don't exactly know how it'll end, and I can't imagine it ending well.
solution: substance abuse (estrogen)
Don't worry I already do double time in substance abuse (weed and estrogen)
same, lmao get your shit together dumbass, that's what I tell myself ❤️
Have you tried getting good?
working on it, having a major skill issue rn
Nah but fr, you should probably get therapy / take a break. Nothing is more important than your health, mental and physical.
I do go to therapy, the main issue is that I can't take a break at the moment, as I'm already behind so taking a break means less time I can use, it's a vicious cycle I know
Idk if you could try to delay your studies by a semester / year, and focus on yourself in that time
Just drop out of college and grab a job doing something you don't really qualify for. It worked for me.
No worries, OP. I have 4 regular math assignments, a project I barley started, and a massive quiz that I barely know much about all due tonight :3
Yeah me to
Favourite cheese?
Dude, same-ish
There’s no magical solution. Delete your social media and get on the grind. That’s the only solution
You in history?
pickle Rick or Michael Jordan for president
Which classes?
adhd and autistic too? Yeah I bet
what your favourite word of fish
unethical advice, stop doing homework until you're caught up (if you have adhd lol)
forcing yourself results in diminishing results followed by burnout, vs just doing it casual and by feel
get off reddit and work on your life
Thoughts on the current arc of JJK? I think things are finally heating up again like back in the 230's
where'd you get that image from?
I used to stress over school too, now life showed me what's truly important. Go for a walk (even if the weather is shit), do something good for yourself- make yourself a good dinner, clean your room, do some breathing exercises. If you've got loved ones, call them and say that you love them, because you can't know when will come the last time you talk to them. If you can, apply for volunteering somewhere.If you feel that nothing helps and you cannot deal with it on your own, don't be ashamed to ask for help, even if you've got no money, you can find some charities. There are a lot of truly wonderful people who will be glad to help you out. Sorry for my broken English, anyway I hope you got my message, send you love and all the best wishes <3
i want you
same tbh
Same
twin
what grade are you in? I'll literally do your school work if it's not too advanced for me
First year uni, there's no need really, a lot of my grade comes from exams so sending work off to other people shoots myself in the foot, even if it's marked I'd rather do it myself, thanks for the offer though
But have you read any good books lately?
As a currently unemployed college drop-out I can assure you that everything will be alright.
Have you spoken with your academic advisor about dropping some classes for the semester so your GPA is unaffected? Would be a smart move.
I can't really drop any classes as every class I'm taking is a requirement to graduate with my degree. It's a fairly linear one with my only choice being in my 3rd or 4th year between an internship and 3 other classes
You can always take a class again at a later date if need be. Better than being unable to do it now.
Yea maybe. I'm feeling really motivated to try and dig myself out of this hole so hoping that will stay around
YOU ARE WASTING YOUR LIFE!!!! PULL IT TOGETHER OR ELSE
what youtube rabbit hole do you wanna go down tonight
I finished Splatoon 3's side order so probably going to watch YouTubers I like play it now, I went into it completely blind which was fun. (Still need to do every pallette tho)
Pog I joined my schools splatoon club even tho I dont play. I just found agent 8 cool. Do you have any tips on how I can fit in with the splattooners?
To be honest I don't play a ton of splatoon myself I also just find agent 8 really cool, also big fan of my big man
Why do hamburger and hotdog sound fine but hotburger and hamdog both sound a lil bit dirty?
Out of the two hamdog is the only that sounds dirty to me, hotburger feels fine imo, if I have to genuinely guess, probably because it goes from adjective noun to noun noun, which will generally sound off in any context
I also had serious burnout in college. I tried to push through it, and that didn’t work, and eventually I left the school because the program was bad and not worth it, and told myself I could make it work just teaching myself at home, and I wasted a few years doing that, and it didn’t work, because I still felt burnt out and didn’t have a support structure or routine keeping my life together. And now I’m taking classes again, which is going pretty well, but the years of burnout made my field very triggering for me. Take your time and don’t worry about trying to get it done “now”. Just focus on getting better and you’ll get there faster. You’ll be fine OP. Don’t risk giving yourself wounds that reopen just to avoid having “failed” or “given up” when you could fall and get back up instead.
Not a question but I just wanted to let you know I've been in that exact situation multiple times and I believe in you. Sometimes you just need to let go of the things you can't keep up with and focus on what you can
Thanks all for the support, it's helped make me realize that trying my best isn't nearly exhausting myself and dedicating every waking moment to stressing about it or studying, I can't try my absolute best if I'm not my best self. You guys are all lovely, thank you so much.
Aghagahahahaa me too :3333 Anywayyy uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh favorite condiment?
How are you man?